Other Men Need Help

How to Build Deeper Male Friendships Dec 29, 2025 52:46 In this bonus episode, we share a special conversation between Mark and Anita Rao from the show Embodied. Together, they unpack how shame can limit male friendship, why many men funnel emotional needs into romantic relationships, and what it looks like to practice a different kind of closeness—one ritual, text thread, or brave conversation at a time.For more on Embodied: https://www.wunc.

The Gentle Giant: Author Jason Bailey on Gandolfini Dec 4, 2025 38:32 In this bonus episode, Mark talks with writer and critic Jason Bailey about his new book on James Gandolfini—a revealing look at the man behind Tony Soprano. They dig into masculinity on screen, Gandolfini’s quiet emotional power, and why his legacy still shapes how men see themselves today. Plus: a reminder to check out this year’s Other Men Holiday Gift Guide.Other Men is executive prod

Our Pandemic Dad Apr 17, 2025 08:11 In this mini episode, Mark revisits the strange emotional landscape of March 2020 and the onscreen embrace that so many of us were craving as we look ahead to our upcoming virtual event on April 23rd, featuring a conversation with Jason Bailey, author of Gandolfini: Jim, Tony, and the Life of a Legend.Join us as we talk action heroes, parasocial dads, the power of a good hug, and why Jame

Are there other men like me? Apr 3, 2025 08:56 While Other Men is under construction, Mark answers a listener’s question about navigating a workplace softball league—and the lingering anxieties of being picked last. From sweaty banyas in Coney Island to team dynamics on the field, this mini episode explores competition, camaraderie, and finding your own way in spaces that don’t always feel like home. Plus, we share a special invite to

Confessions in the Dressing Room Nov 13, 2024 24:01 This week, we're revisiting a classic episode in anticipation of the first, of many, virtual talks. Join us for a special virtual chat on November 19th at 7:30 pm ET with designer and journalist Natty Adams along with host Mark Pagán, live on Other Men Need Help’s Instagram! Don’t miss this chance to hear more behind-the-scenes stories and ask your own questions.In this fan favorite episo

The Future of "Other Men Need Help" Sep 26, 2024 06:06 This week, we've shared seven tropes in masculine discourse we’d like to see changed in the next seven years. In this special Other Men-I, host Mark Pagán shares one more topical term that's he's privately been ruminating on changing.We’re working on Other Men 2.0 and really, really need your input on how we can make this a series, digital platform, or service that work best for you. It’l

7 lessons in masculinity over 7 years Sep 19, 2024 18:34 Other Men is seven years old. We've learned some lessons on masculinity over that time and in today's special episode, we share those tenets.We’re working on Other Men 2.0 and really, really need your input on how we can make this a series, digital platform, or service that work best for you. It’ll take just a few minutes and all feedback is valuable. Thank you: https://forms.gle/U3MBcicc

Some of My Best Friends Are Groomsmen Jun 29, 2023 34:54 Mark is getting married. And in the final episode of the season, he investigates the one wedding tradition that he’s been having an issue with. Other Men Need Help is executive produced, hosted, and written by Mark Pagán. This episode was produced by Caitlin Mae Burke and Ben Goldberg. Caitlin Mae Burke, Ben Goldberg, and Rebecca Seidel are lead producers. Navani Otero is producer. Shane

A King of Wishful Thinking Jun 22, 2023 37:09 In his search for someone, anyone to talk to about his complicated road to becoming a father, hopeful dad Kirk enlists Other Men to help document the solitary, but optimistic journey many men face in infertility spaces. Other Men Need Help is executive produced, hosted, and written by Mark Pagán. This episode was produced by Ben Goldberg and Navani Otero, with production help from Cierra

A Dad's Bod Jun 15, 2023 29:12 He shot! He scored! And then…? What happens to an athlete’s identity when age and new responsibilities ask him to add “former” to his title? Other Men Need Help is executive produced, hosted, and written by Mark Pagán. This episode was produced by Navani Otero. Ben Goldberg, Caitlin Mae Burke, and Rebecca Seidel are lead producers. Navani Otero is producer. Shaneez Tyndall is associate

Dance Dance Evolution Jun 1, 2023 29:50 What lessons from childhood are you still trying to make sense of? Zak comes across a decades old photo that leads him to literally relive a middle school rite of passage. Other Men Need Help is executive produced, hosted, and written by Mark Pagán. This episode was produced by Zak Rosen, with production help from Caitlin Mae Burke and Shaneez Tyndall. Ben Goldberg, Caitlin Mae Burke, an

Coverboys May 25, 2023 32:49 Who gets to be on the cover of your romance novel? In the hunt for a greater range of culturally desirable body shapes and identities, Mark meets with Ronald, a recently single man who has decided to take the way the world sees him into his own hands. Other Men Need Help is executive produced, hosted, and written by Mark Pagán. This episode was produced by Rebecca Seidel and Shaneez Tynd

That's What I Look Like? May 18, 2023 29:07 Hello, it’s me… season 4 of OMNH! Danny confronts a bald truth while within feet of an iconic pop star - which sets off a chorus of responses from Mark and other men exploring the jarring gap that exists between how they picture themselves and the photographed reality. Other Men Need Help is executive produced, hosted, and written by Mark Pagán. Ben Goldberg, Caitlin Mae Burke, and Rebec

OMNH is Back! May 11, 2023 02:28 Other Men Need Help is back with season four: That’s What I Look Like?!. Join host Mark Pagán for a new season of Other Men Need Help where every episode tells the story of an image – the self-created cover of a romance novel, a concert photo revealing a surprise bald spot, or a staged groomsmen photo unveiling the longing for physical intimacy amongst some men. Six episodes about six men

Revisiting Manual Men Sep 28, 2022 38:30 We revisit an episode with one of our favorite guests and share some updates. Become part of the team and support us on Patreon. Subscribe to our newsletter for monthly secrets, Twitter to talk to us, and Instagram to look at pretty pics. For ALL your info go to othermenneedhelp.com. Episode illustration by Iga Ścibek.

Introducing More Than a Feeling May 10, 2022 55:56 Today we’re sharing an episode of a new show from Ten Percent Happier called More Than a Feeling. It dives into the confusing, exhilarating, and messy world of human emotions — and how to make sense of them. Why do we have emotions and how much should we pay attention to them on any given day? Can we learn to skillfully choose which emotions to listen to and which ones to just let move on

God Rest Ye Merry, Other Men Dec 8, 2021 32:26 Deck the halls, light the lights, unwrap the… whiskey stones? Prompted by uninspiring gift guides for all the men in his life, Mark and a chorus of voices explore how the holidays, gift giving, and masculinity collide. Other Men Need Help is executive produced, hosted, and written by Mark Pagán. Ben Goldberg, Caitlin Mae Burke, and Rebecca Seidel are our lead producers. Navani Otero is o

Bonus: City of Women Nov 3, 2021 24:24 In this month’s bonus episode, we hand the podcast reins over to our friends in Bangalore, City of Women — a show that looks at the calculated strategies, backdoor negotiations, and often absurd lengths women go to have fun and feel free in their city. City of Women is written and produced by Radhika Viswanathan and Samyuktha Varma. Associate Producer, Menaka Raman. Music, sound, mixing,

Bonus: Raised on Elm Street Oct 6, 2021 21:15 In this month’s bonus episode, Other Men Need Help celebrates Halloween with the help of a magical drive-in theater and Pumpkin Spice Podcast’s Rob Schulte to find out what happens to boys raised on a diet of mass murderers and VHS-era slashers. Be afraid? Other Men Need Help is executive produced, hosted, and written by Mark Pagán. Ben Goldberg, Caitlin Mae Burke, and Rebecca Seidel are

Bonus: Hug Me Like Uncle Phil Sep 1, 2021 18:58 Throughout the four years of making Other Men Need Help, we’ve only had one sobbing, physical moment during an interview. In today’s bonus episode, following an unexpected in-flight experience, Mark returns to a tender moment recorded in 2017 prompted by a TV patriarch that deserves canonization, and checks in to see if it still resonates. Hosted, written, and executive produced by Mark

Bonus: Boyish to Menish Aug 4, 2021 20:15 What did you give up to fit in as a boy? In this month's bonus episode, Mark chats with Rajat Mittal about abandoning Whitney Houston, what wheels have the most stud swagger, and the “period picture books” that led to the creation of Rajat's vibrant newsletter Boyish. Hosted, written, and executive produced by Mark Pagán. Lead producer is Caitlin Mae Burke. Produced by Ben Goldberg and R

Do I Ever Cross Your Mind? Nov 18, 2020 27:39 If you could freeze a favorite memory with your best friend in time — would you tell them what that memory is? Inspired by a moving chat with Paul about his childhood best friend Dave, Mark wraps up Season 3 by revisiting some of our OMNH besties and asking them to share their friendship’s most indelible memory with the podcast, and now — the world. Become part of the team and support us

We Need to Talk, Dude Nov 4, 2020 36:34 Do all friendships age well, like wine, or are some just corked? When Tim and Logan’s twenty year friendship starts to turn to vinegar, Mark hosts a friendtervention to see if the legacy is worth upholding. Become part of the team and support us on Patreon. Subscribe to our newsletter for weekly secrets and Instagram to look at pretty pics. For ALL your info go to othermenneedhelp.com.

Rollin' with the Holies Oct 21, 2020 30:45 Mark heads down South to spend a weekend with two faithful friends - Pastors Brian and Hugh. Over BBQ, sermon prep, and countless cups of coffee, these spiritual leaders unpack the isolation of being behind the pulpit and how they hold space for each other in a way no one else can. Become part of the team and support us on Patreon. Subscribe to our newsletter for monthly secrets and Inst

My Wife is My Best Friend Oct 7, 2020 27:07 Mark is Cleveland-bound to help an Ohioan named Seth avoid falling into an alarming trap that snares other men - declaring their romantic partner to be their best friend. With words of wisdom from women who’ve found themselves on the other side of this equation, Mark does his best to guide Seth toward a more suitable close pal that he doesn’t share a bed with. Become part of the team and

Airport Amigo Sep 23, 2020 22:15 When a breakup leaves Mark craving affection from an amigo, he takes to the sky, hoping for the famed operatic embrace from a friend upon landing in an international airport. Become part of the team and support us on Patreon. Subscribe to our newsletter for monthly secrets and Instagram to look at pretty pics. For ALL your info go to othermenneedhelp.com. Original music by Fulton Street

A Mid-season Musical Intermission Sep 9, 2020 02:05 Intermezzo? Intermission? Seventh inning stretch? Whatever you want to call it, we’ve got a brief message and musical treat for you as we stretch our legs and get ready for a wild second half to season 3. Enjoy the music that has inspired the show - your very own 3 HOUR OTHER MEN NEED HELP PLAYLIST! Become part of the team and support us on Patreon! Subscribe to our newsletter for month

I Owe You a Call Aug 26, 2020 32:16 While out west, Mark gets a surprise two-for-one reconnection with some pals from his comedy past, and overhears a phone call that sparks his curiosity about his own fear of picking up the phone. Do Other Men have the same phone phobia? Become part of the team and support us on Patreon. Subscribe to our newsletter for monthly secrets and Instagram to look at pretty pics. For ALL your inf

I Miss You. Period. Aug 12, 2020 31:09 What three little words have Mark tongue-tied around his friends? They're not the ones you think. Mark goes to long-term and long distance BFFs Darnell and Dimetrius to puzzle out his fear of a certain phrase (calling on perspective from a chorus of Other Men) and hear what's made their friendship work for fifteen years. Become part of the team and support us on Patreon! Subscribe to our

The California Friend Jul 29, 2020 28:07 Go west, young men! Mark takes a trip out to Los Angeles to reconnect with a long lost high school classmate to see if he was "the friend who got away", while seven-year-olds Frankie and Indio share the tricks of maintaining a bi-coastal best friendship. Become part of the team and support us on Patreon! Subscribe to our newsletter for monthly secrets and Instagram to look at pretty pics

Secret Handshake Jul 15, 2020 19:54 Season three starts with a hello - or, in this case: a secret handshake. Childhood best friends Brian and Dimitri tell Mark what's kept their connection over three decades and across an ocean, which opens to a chorus of men exploring how greetings serve as the unique fingerprint of each best friendship. And did you think we’d start the new season off without some singing?! C’mon, you know

Other Men Need Help is Back for Season 3! Jul 8, 2020 02:03 We’re baaaaaack. This summer, join host Mark Pagán for a new season of your favorite award-winning deep dive into the whys, hows, and oh mys of masculine mythology. In the past, we’ve the untold stories about financial insecurities, the messages you foolishly send to get your ex’s attention, and finding love at any age. This season, we’re meeting your best friends. #OMNHS3

Boy Talk pt. 2 Apr 10, 2020 23:52 Take care of yourselves, and give your heart a little break with this very special episode of Other Men Need Help. In this follow up to Season 2's Boy Talk, Mark and the team catches up with one of our favorite people, Richard Cardillo. We find out what's transpired in Richard's love life since last we spoke, check in as he plans to take the plunge, and ask what compromises he'll make for

Boy Talk Redux Apr 6, 2020 25:18 We’ve got big news for all you listeners—Other Men Need Help has collaborated with WNYC’s Nancy on Richard Cardillo’s story from our Boy Talk episode. It’s beautiful and has some WONDERFUL updates. You can listen to the full episode here. We’re revisiting our Boy Talk episode and maybe share some of our own surprises with you this week. Keep those eyes on your podcast feed. Boy Talk: Ma

Bonus: En Vivo! Vol. III Nov 27, 2019 45:59 WE ARE LIVE AND SO ARE YOU in this month's bonus ep. Join us onstage as we listen to secrets from our friends Karolena Theresa, Henry Alford, and Thirst Aid Kit. Recorded live at Caveat in October 2019. Enjoy because we're now running off for the next few months to finish season 3 of OMNH! Become part of the team and support us on Patreon! Subscribe to our newsletter for weekly secrets

Bonus: I Have to Ask...Again Oct 24, 2019 24:57 For our two year anniversary, we're finishing up a two-part episode with yet another diner interview a buncha of talented, sensitive guys. In this month's bonus episode, Mark meets with Tim Manley and Naje Lataillade to talk about why their work helped launch Other Men Need Help and why a teenage audience might've been the early key to getting it all started. Become part of the team and

Bonus: Crazy 4 Swayze Sep 14, 2019 06:16 Guess what? We've got a surprise bite-size bonus episode for you! On the anniversary of the death of one of our favorite screen hunks, Mark talks to four Pagán women in an attempt to solve a long-standing family mystery. Become part of the team and support us on Patreon! Subscribe to our newsletter for weekly secrets and Instagram to look at pretty pics.

Bonus: I Have to Ask... Sep 11, 2019 21:00 It's our two year anniversary, so here's a two-parter! In this month's bonus episode, we're time traveling back to 2012, when a poorly recorded conversation with a personal hero in a diner, in a town with a confusing name, lit the fuse for Mark's exploration of men and connection. Become part of the team and support us on Patreon! Subscribe to our newsletter for weekly secrets and Instag

Bonus: Salon Boy Aug 7, 2019 18:24 August’s bonus episode is all about HAIR: Long beautiful hair Shining, gleaming Streaming, flaxen, waxen... you get the picture, as Mark tags along with Isaac to get a haircut, and waxes rhapsodic about his own days as a salon boy. Plus, Jiji Lee shares a hairy tale of her own. Special thanks to our friends at (le) poisson rouge. Become part of the team and support us on Patreon! Subs

Bonus: The Bottle Open Maneuver Jul 3, 2019 24:20 In this month's bonus episode, our very own Rebecca Seidel shares a cautionary tale that makes Mark reflect on an ill-advised pickup routine from the past. Plus, we have the DELIGHTFUL Alison Leiby telling her own cautionary tale LIVE. Special thanks to our friends at (le) poisson rouge. Become part of the team and support us on Patreon! Subscribe to our newsletter for weekly secrets and

Hermanos Feb 14, 2019 29:27 In this season two closer, Mark does the impossible - keeps his sanity while listening to all the hold muzak in the world, finding homes for 33 unclaimed vehicles, and answering a lifelong question of "are you my brother?" TAKE OUR SURVEY! Help us make this show better! It just takes a few minutes and you'll make us grin and jump around like House of Pain. Enjoy this bonus video as a th

Hermanito Jan 11, 2019 19:22 Mark asks if being the baby brother suuuucks by looking at his family where there were not one, but two little-wittle-baby-brothers-oh-you-so-cute-in-your-little-suit-with-your-little-girlfiend-stand-over-there-so-we-can-take-a-picture. Become part of the team and support us on Patreon! Subscribe to our newsletter for weekly secrets and Instagram to look at pretty pics.

Two Men & the Sea Dec 19, 2018 24:28 Mark goes on a quest along the beaches of Portland and Southern France to speak with two men and ask the question, "comment dites-vous 'a guy who still wants to be friend's with his ex's dad?'" Become part of the team and support us on Patreon! Subscribe to our newsletter for weekly secrets and Instagram to look at pretty pics.

Boy talk Nov 29, 2018 23:10 Mark creates a weekly hotline with his friend Richard, as they chat about showing up late to the dating scene, taking a chance on new love after loss, and the necessary grooming rituals in middle age. Become part of the team and support us on Patreon! Subscribe to our newsletter for weekly secrets and Instagram to look at pretty pics.

She Makes More Nov 7, 2018 29:52 Your partner makes more money than you. What do you do? Mark meets a few men to learn about their economic insecurities and looks for some answers, as he fights to keep his own series of numbers a mystery. SPOILER ALERT - it does not go well. Become part of the team and support us on Patreon! Subscribe to our newsletter for weekly secrets and Instagram to look at pretty pics.

Fancy Pants Oct 17, 2018 21:48 After years of hiding behind clothes, Mark seeks out one of the leading authorities on dandyism to ask for some pants and to share some secrets. Become part of the team and support us on Patreon! Subscribe to our newsletter for weekly secrets and Instagram to look at pretty pics.

Brown Bad Boys Oct 3, 2018 19:31 Based on his recent experiences, every old man in the world wants Mark to look like them. In this premiere episode of season two, Mark asks a group of fellow brown men to examine who they wanted to look like versus who they look like now. Warning - there will be singing. Become part of the team and support us on Patreon! Subscribe to our newsletter for weekly secrets and Instagram to loo

Help? Jun 6, 2018 04:30 Nas from The Gender Knot Podcast and Mark have some questions for you. Are you ready? Become part of the team and support us on Patreon! Subscribe to our newsletter for weekly secrets and Instagram to look at pretty pics.

Bonus: Poster Boy May 2, 2018 24:49 For this month's bonus episode, Other Men Need Help looks at the posters on your wall and asks what your mother has to say about them, featuring an EPIC story by Shalewa Sharpe. Special thanks to our friends at The Kraine Theater. Become part of the team and support us on Patreon! Subscribe to our newsletter for weekly secrets and Instagram to look at pretty pics.

En Vivo! Vol. II Apr 4, 2018 33:59 For this month's bonus episode, Other Men Need Help goes live! AGAIN! This time we're looking at the blind spots of other men on first dates featuring stories by Aparna Nancherla, Richard Cardillo, and Isaac Oliver. Special thanks to our friends at The Kraine Theater and (le) Poisson Rouge. This episode hosted and produced by Mark Pagán. Associate producers are Ben Goldberg and Rebecca S

En Vivo! Mar 6, 2018 30:35 For this bonus episode, Other Men Need Help goes live! This time we're looking at the sometimes tragic ways other men make moves on and off stage with stories by some of our favorite women in radio including Mitra Kaboli, Jolenta Greenberg, and Joanna Solotaroff. Special thanks to our friends at The Kraine Theater and (le) Poisson Rouge. This episode hosted and produced by Mark Pagán. As

Handsome Gums Dec 27, 2017 11:24 Mark examines his outdated views on male stoicism and discovers a wonderful life in the line at a pharmacy chain. This episode hosted and produced by Mark Pagán. Associate producers are Ben Goldberg, Tanvir Mansur, Rebecca Seidel. Logo & episode illustration by Iga Ścibek. Become part of the team and support us on Patreon! Subscribe to our newsletter for weekly secrets and Instagram

Shirtless Studs & Southwest Salads Dec 13, 2017 19:32 Mark discovers the link between male torsos, bachelor chef mythology, public weeping, and the all-too-common phenomenon of "The Bluey." This episode hosted and produced by Mark Pagán. Associate producers are Ben Goldberg, Tanvir Mansur, Rebecca Seidel. Logo & episode illustration by Iga Ścibek. Additional music from Dav Abrams. Become part of the team and support us on Patreon! Subs

Manual Men Part 2 Nov 29, 2017 21:58 Mark looks back on a history of manual men in his life and talks to one of the old souls who saved him. This episode hosted and produced by Mark Pagán. Associate producers are Ben Goldberg, Tanvir Mansur, Rebecca Seidel. Logo & episode illustration by Iga Ścibek. Become part of the team and support us on Patreon! Subscribe to our newsletter for weekly secrets and Instagram to look a

Manual Men Nov 15, 2017 16:07 Mark goes on a date and attempts to declare "I'M SECURE" with an unexpected Reagan-era discovery. This episode hosted and produced by Mark Pagán. Associate producers are Ben Goldberg, Tanvir Mansur, Rebecca Seidel. Logo & episode illustration by Iga Ścibek. Become part of the team and support us on Patreon! Subscribe to our newsletter for weekly secrets and Instagram to look at pret

Taller Tales Nov 1, 2017 17:45 Mark looks up and asks a former imagined rival, "what's the view like from there?" This episode hosted and produced by Mark Pagán. Associate producers are Ben Goldberg, Tanvir Mansur, Rebecca Seidel. Logo & episode illustration by Iga Ścibek. Become part of the team and support us on Patreon! Subscribe to our newsletter for weekly secrets and Instagram to look at pretty pics.

I Looked Up Your Ex Oct 18, 2017 15:46 Mark reveals some issues he has with male rivals, specifically your ex. This episode hosted and produced by Mark Pagán. Associate producers are Ben Goldberg, Tanvir Mansur, Rebecca Seidel. Logo & episode illustration by Iga Ścibek. Become part of the team and support us on Patreon! Subscribe to our newsletter for weekly secrets and Instagram to look at pretty pics.

Why Other Men Need Help Sep 19, 2017 12:25 An introduction to why other men need help and how Richard Gere ruined everything. This episode hosted and produced by Mark Pagán. Associate producers are Ben Goldberg, Tanvir Mansur, Rebecca Seidel. Logo & episode illustration by Iga Ścibek. Become part of the team and support us on Patreon! Subscribe to our newsletter for weekly secrets and Instagram to look at pretty pics.

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