Dads And Daddies
Dads and Daddies features frank, unrehearsed conversations between one Gen X Dad of two and one Millennial self-identified ‘Daddy,’ with a focus on their personal stories of sex, love and marriage, plus topics spanning parenthood, Daddyhood, family, friendship, identity, money, addiction & recovery, and so many more that reveal the deeply intimate details of what it means to live life as adult gay men today.
Episodes
Brian and Judson hookup with ‘Blue Film’ writer and director Elliot Tuttle and talk adolescent sexuality, slippery morality, what overindexing on queer joy does to taste levels, and Daddying vs fathering
Judson celebrates one of his top five gay experiences ever in New York City: previous Dads and Daddies guest DJ James Anthony’s afternoon dance party, Unspeakable Joy. Brian considers his week to be quintessential Dads and Daddies, after it turns out to be heavy on both parenting and sexcapades. The Hookup of the Week finds a listener lovingly recounting his first sexual experience with a trans ma
Brian and Judson celebrate the launch of Season Three with a Go Ask Your Dad Extravaganza and talk open relationship rules, self-care routines, sex party connections, unpredictable libidos, and more
Judson and Brian celebrate the second anniversary of the podcast, the launch of Season Three, and the start of Pride Month! Judson spots two gay people at his new place of work and strategizes to befriend them both. Brian provides two theatre recommendations for Pride Month. Judson struggles with sleep issues. Brian shares an Instagram post sent his way that examines the question “Why are gay men
Brian and Judson hookup with Kevin Aviance and talk the pressures of being an icon, making Beyoncé c*nty, ballroom history, what it means to be a Black Queen today, and more
Judson and Brian lead opposite lives for a weekend, when Judson attends a Broadway musical Brian hasn’t seen, and Brian has sex twice. The Hookup of the Week finds a listener reuniting with a hookup from a year prior and learning how their original encounter changed the hookup’s life. The two are then joined by recording artist, DJ, and performance legend whose influence has shaped generations of
Brian and Judson hookup with Zachary Zane and talk Bisexual Audibility, the joys of bottoming, being brave about sex when sober, the value of anger, whether top shortages are a myth, and more
Judson finds himself enjoying a highly-elevated season of self-pleasure due to the improving weather, amongst other reasons. Brian brings a text conversation with Judson to the podcast and the two discuss Judson’s concerns that Brian may be trying to exploit a loophole in the rules of his open marriage. Brian shares an update about a website that provides an important service to him and the podcas
Brian and Judson hookup with Nick Wolny and talk generating wealth as queer people, whether poppers are an essential expense, accepting our social inheritances, preparing emotionally and financially for gay events, and more
Brian reports on a hookup that was lightning quick to plan, but double the usual time to execute. Judson enjoys what he rates as one of his top ten hookups ever. The Hookup of the Week discovers Facebook’s utility as a hookup app. The two are then joined by personal finance educator and advocate Nick Wolny. Nick, the finance columnist for Out Magazine and author of the book Money Proud: The Queer
Brian and Judson hookup with The Disappointments creator and star Rich Burns and talk regrets after 50, the path from connection to kink, who decides who’s a Daddy, scheduling sex and more
Judson unlocks a new marital kink. Brian provides an update on his solo afternoon at the hotel where the two recorded the previous episode. Judson sees Cats: The Jellicle Ball for his first time. Brian undergoes cataract surgery. The Hookup of the Week tells the story of a non-binary femme listener who meets someone on the apps and Daddies him until it’s time for the roles to reverse. Brian and Ju
Brian and Judson celebrate 100 episodes with Cats: The Jellicle Ball’s Sydney James Harcourt and talk sex with straight men, preferring faceless Grindr profiles, his affair with Andy Cohen, recognizing realness as a trauma response, and more
It’s Dads and Daddies 100th episode! Judson and Brian reminisce about the days before they were open to the idea of non-monogamy. They attend the LGBTQ Community Center of New York’s annual fundraising gala. The Hookup of the Week comes from a listener who shares the details of a recent session with a regular of more than a decade that he describes as being one of his best hookups ever. Brian and
Brian and Judson hookup with Claybourne Elder and talk growing up Mormon and gay, wanting to be evil, aging in the public eye, and gay wedding planning
Brian returns from a complicated week celebrating Passover in Hawaii. Judson’s libido surges with the change in the weather and guides him to a pair of pleasurable parties. The Hookup of the Week finds the submitter reclaiming his sexuality after abstaining for 15 years, and entering into an intricate roleplay scenario. Brian and Judson ponder whether or not the tagline of the show needs to evolve
Brian and Judson hookup with John Paul Brammer and talk about giving advice to the international LGBTQ community, choosing between religions, hookup etiquette, managing queer-specific anxieties, and more
Judson shares a fashion sensibility with Brian’s ten year-old daughter and celebrates a victory at work. Brian prioritizes scheduling a surgery over attending his favorite sex party and responds to some online hate about his parenting that he can’t ignore. The Hookup of the Week paints a detailed picture of a sub’s annual trip to New York to see his dom. Brian and Judson then launch the Dads and D
Brian and Judson hookup with Bright Light Bright Light and talk career building as an independent artist, befriending your heroes, hypocrisy within the queer community and whether sex is an interesting subject for music
Judson considers moving in with Brian. Brian and his family make a return visit to Cats: The Jellicle Ball now that it’s on Broadway. Judson sets out on an adventure to find his misdelivered phone. Brian and his husband participate in their neighborhood’s annual progressive dinner. The Hookup of the Week comes from a repeat submitter who takes some lessons from the podcast into his latest encounte
Brian and Judson hookup with Grey Henson and talk the sexual appeal of Bigfoot, the challenges of dating as an actor, Daddy physique vs energy, and moving past the fear of new connections
Judson and his husband escape to the warm weather getaway of Playa Del Carmen. Brian feels his age during back to back nights on the town, but the outings also inspire a night of youthful sex with his husband. The Hookup of the Week finds a listener trying out The Blowers after hearing about it on this podcast, and finding new joy in receiving oral sex. Brian and Judson are then joined by Broadway
Brian and Judson hookup with Eric Williams and talk being slut podcasters comparing coasts, making bad money, and sleeping with friends
Judson goes to San Francisco and reconnects with an old flame from fifteen years ago. Brian goes to DC and spends the weekend with friends of more than 25 years who he credits with making him the adult gay man he is today. They talk about how the conversations they have every week on the podcast have impacted their sex lives. The Hookup of the Week follows a listener’s birthday adventures at his f
Brian and Judson hookup with John-Andrew Morrison and talk being husband to Jane, Jinkx, Hannah and John Cameron, careers reclaimed through sobriety, afternoon nookie, and loving yourself enough to be late for your house
Judson prepares for one of the biggest moments of his professional career. Brian recounts a hookup that took him to the cleaners in more ways than one. The Hookup of the Week finds a listener living out the fantasy of hooking up with the hot nurse attending to him in the ER, and inspires Judson and Brian to share their own stories of doctor’s office hookups. The two are then joined by Broadway act
Brian and Judson hookup with Mike Fails and Gina Spears and talk queer friendships, surviving trauma, the quest to bottom and messy hookups
Judson revels in a moment of gratitude after reuniting with a sweater left behind at the studio. Brian reports on a frustrating afternoon on the apps and wonders if his dick pics are misleading. A unique Hookup of the Week tells its tale through text messages. The two are then joined by hosts of “The Big C*nty Couch” podcast, Mike Fails and drag queen Gina Spears! Mike and Gina reveal the bold cho
Friendly Fire with Brian and Judson, in which they talk hooking up on a family cruise, sex for the sake of the story, the treatment of women by gay men, and how deep the friendship with a friend-with-benefits should be
Our Dad and Daddy reunite after Judson’s week in San Francisco for work and Brian’s Disney Cruise in the Caribbean with his family, and they each provide a full report on their travels, including the hookup activity that happened for one and not the other. Judson sees “Pillion” a second time and takes his husband to see it for his first. Brian suggests that listeners read John Paul Brammer’s book,
Brian and Judson hookup with Honey Davenport and talk bridging the drag and leather communities, the importance of Dads, Daddies and Drag Mothers, starting activism young, and navigating the apps as a non-binary person
Judson looks forward to checking out the Gems and Minerals exhibit at the Natural History Museum for a Galentine’s afternoon. Brian shares his thoughts on watching both “Pillion” and “Heated Rivalry” a second time. A listener who’s a lawyer provides feedback on the advice given when a question about signing an NDA was posed during a recent Go Ask Your Dad segment. The Hookup of the Week is the sto
Brian and Judson hookup with Timothy Westbrook and talk Project Runway secrets, designing fashion from a place without shame, blindfolded hookups, and sex with a disability
Judson enjoys his first planned hookup of 2026 and realizes he may be becoming demisexual. Brian explores his newfound versatility and finds much personal satisfaction. The Hookup of the Week tells the story of an encounter that is both very hot and very wet, and leads to Judson teaching Brian a piece of sexual vocabulary. They are then joined by fashion designer and sometime Son to Judson’s Daddy
Brian and Judson hookup with Jason Veasey and talk Best Medicine, his secret to a successful long-term relationship, reclaiming sexuality after the HIV diagnosis, and advocating for queer Black-on-Black love on TV
It’s a party weekend! Judson prepares for a friend’s bachelor party in Chicago, and Brian prepares to celebrate his husband’s birthday on the Saturday, and his younger daughter’s on the Sunday. They attend screenings on consecutive nights of the new movie, Pillion, starring Alexander Skarsgård and Harry Melling, and compare notes with one another for the first time since. Together, Brian and Judso
Brian and Judson hookup with Ben Zumsteg and talk Disco Fizz, leaving alcohol behind, second chapters and being the Good Boy when you look like a Daddy
Judson is reflective after a trip to visit his mom, and shares a piece of American history he’s recently realized made a huge impact on his life. Brian has a record-breaking week of sex, between hookups, a party and his husband. An exquisitely written and performed Hookup of the Week tells the tale of a top who steps out of his comfort zone and into a submissive role in a public space. Brian and J
Brian and Judson talk Deshaming Sluttiness, Heated Rivalry, Spontaneous Sex and Hooking Up with Celebrities
Brian and Judson discuss “Heated Rivalry” at long last. Judson makes a plan to meet up with a friend who he hasn’t seen or spoken with in over 15 years, and who is the last person to whom he has to make amends. Brian makes subtle changes in the bedroom that have significant payoff for his marital sex life, and offers an update to a controversial statement he made on an early episode of the podcast
Brian and Judson hookup with Aidan Wharton and talk the need to revive our connection skills, alternatives to monogamy, overcommunicating in open relationships and building community through the hookup apps
Judson celebrates his 43rd birthday. Brian shares a list of trans Girl Scouts from whom listeners can order cookies. Judson and Brian appear together on Brandon Kyle Goodman’s podcast, Tell Me Something Messy, and the conversation that ensues inspires them to consider a new business venture.The two receive an outrageously misguided pitch for a guest on the show. Brian struggles with how to label
Brian and Judson hookup with Daddy Kylex and talk creating adult content, coming out to family as a porn star, meeting men IRL and kink social etiquette
Brian celebrates a number of firsts when it comes to hooking up, and encourages listeners to lean into new experiences. Judson bemoans hooking up in winter but looks forward to a trip to Steamworks in Toronto. Dads and Daddies stirs up jealous feelings that inspire a listener to try cuckold play with his partner in the Hookup of the Week. Brian and Judson are then joined by Daddy Kylex, one of New
Brian and Judson hookup with Robert Horn and talk the importance of humor, sexual awakening, conquering Hollywood and aging as a gay man
Judson prepares to celebrate his birthday. Brian attends his daughter’s first fashion show as a designer. Judson clarifies what he means when he uses the term “Duck Toast” to describe a man’s physique. Brian provides an update on the effect Lexapro is having on his sexual performance. The Hookup of the Week follows the international adventures of a listener who has opened his marriage after more t
Brian and Judson hookup with Michael Foote and talk fighting ICE, defending monogamy, gay fame and leatherwear at work
Brian reflects on the past year and shares his wishes for the year ahead. Holiday brain leads Judson down a rabbit hole reminiscing about the tabloid news of the 1990s.The Hookup of the Week features a validating public massage experience that opens up conversation between the listener and his husband. Brian and Judson are then joined by TikTok’s favorite anti-ICE activist and immigration attorney
Brian and Judson hookup with Aaron Jackson and talk Messy White Gays, Josh Sharp, throuple challenges and keeping sex funny
Judson and his husband host an engagement/tree-trimming/Shabbat celebration with a Halloween theme. Brian and Judson’s husband have a clandestine meeting without them. Brian thinks he may have come out to his mother about his open marriage. A listener provides some important context around the use of SSRIs. The Hookup of the Week comes from a listener sharing a favorite memory of some public group
Brian and Judson hookup with Jimin Moon, repeat with Will Wikle, and talk chosen family, mentorship in the gay community, discovering polyamory, and loving outside of labels
Judson enjoys a hookup that goes past the typical twenty minutes and returns to his favorite gay event at his local bathhouse. Brian spends an evening with the Real Housewives of Salt Lake City and tries to entice Judson to check out the show. The Hookup of the Week is a twofer from a Daddy who enjoys public sex. The two are then joined by rising Broadway star Jimin Moon, and returning guest Will
Friendly Fire with Brian and Judson, in which they talk Thanksgiving recovery, sex ed vocabulary, switching between positions in bed, and communication in an open relationship
Judson attends the Christmas Spectacular starring the Radio City Rockettes for his first time. Brian is asked to define some key sexual vocabulary terms by his daughter. The two celebrate being named a 2025 Marathon Show, Talked About Show and Most Shared Show by Spotify. The Hookup of the Week comes from a listener who has found his role helping people explore their versatility. After the break,
Brian and Judson hookup with Dr. Evan Goldstein and talk all about butts–from gaining confidence as a bottom to protecting the prostate to anal botox, to the dos and don’ts of douching
Judson is riding high from a health rebound and a proud week at work. Brian’s daughters surprise him by saying and doing a number of things that speak both to their maturity and to their being raised by gay dads. The Hookup of the Week comes from a listener at the start of opening his marriage, who shares a fun night out with his husband and others during their anniversary trip to Puerto Vallarta.
Brian and Judson hookup with Dr. Demetre Daskalakis and talk his fiery resignation from the CDC, his return to the front lines in NYC, the meaning of his pentagram tattoo, his thoughts on questions from our listeners, and much more
It is a momentous occasion when Judson wears an entirely black outfit. Brian takes his family to the fantastic new revival of The 25th Annual Putnam County Spelling Bee off-Broadway, where his daughter joins the cast for the afternoon. Judson crowdsources an internship for a new friend he met by chance over ramen. The Hookup of the Week comes from a sub who finds a deeper connection with one of hi
Brian and Judson hookup with James Nguyen and AC Gottlieb and talk sex between friends, couples therapy, racism in the queer community and designing for Chappell Roan
Brian celebrates his first successful afternoon on the apps in six weeks, applying a lesson from a recent episode and proving a point he's made in others. Judson shares recommendations for Anthony Amiewalan’s novel Eddie & Alan, Michael Finkel’s biography of Stéphane Breitwieser, The Art Thief, Kaveh Akbar’s novel, Martyr!, and Nicholas Colia’s film, Griffin in Summer. Both hosts are tickled b
Brian and Judson hookup with Jay Jurden and talk sex positivity, the importance of queer stand-up, being proudly bisexual and gay X-Men
Brian and Judson celebrate the victory of mayor-elect Zohran Mamdani and the fact that friend-of-the-podcast Brandon Kyle Goodman has extended their run in HEAUX CHURCH off-Broadway at Ars Nova through November 21. Brian raves about the Broadway play Liberation by Bess Wohl. Judson's trick is a treat on Halloween. Brian prepares for a sex party by listening back to his own advice on a previous epi
Brian and Judson hookup with Mike Albo and talk Hologram Boyfriends, Locktober, money struggles, condom use post-PrEP and the ubiquity of open relationships
It’s Dads and Daddies’ 75th episode! On it, Judson enjoys a repeat hookup with a neighbor and accompanies him to see comedian and artist Max Wittert perform. Brian looks forward to ending his hookup drought by attending his first sex party in months. Judson and Brian both reiterate their encouragement to all Dads and Daddies listeners to watch Netflix’s Boots, particularly after the Pentagon put o
Brian and Judson hookup with Brandon Kyle Goodman and talk destroying shame, redefining relationships, polyamory, and restoring kindness in the queer community
Judson and his husband celebrate their 10th wedding anniversary in Eureka Springs, Arkansas, while Brian and his family discover a free gallery show featuring original works by Basquiat, Haring, Koons, Mapplethorpe, Sherman, Warhol, and more. The two hosts each go without physical release for longer than usual and expound on the joys of refraining. Brian then experiences a moment of undeniable div
Brian and Judson present their third Go Ask Your Dad Extravaganza
Judson’s return from a trip to Southern California inspires a comparison of Los Angelenos and New Yorkers, and a conversation about how both Judson and Brian’s husband Toby are able to convince most who meet them that they are chill, when their husbands know otherwise. Brian observes Yom Kippur with Judson’s husband, and learns some words of wisdom that help him gain some perspective on how to exi
Brian and Judson talk Masculinity
Brian tests whether or not he can make a hookup happen in the limited time available to him while his daughter is at an appointment. Judson crosses state lines for a hookup and receives a cultural education. Brian’s family enjoys a week of the arts–a Chappell Roan concert, the Mamma Mia revival on Broadway, and the Gabby’s Dollhouse movie–and he provides his thoughts on each. Judson feels the “Hoo
Friendly Fire with Brian and Judson, Vol. 3
Judson recounts a weekend trip upstate and forgets an unforgettable hookup. Brian envies his husband’s incredibly successful week of hookups, one so plentiful it allowed him to forget one, too. The two then commiserate about the preparation required for bottoming. Brian discusses his tenth trip to see ”Oh, Mary!” and his fifth Mary, Jinkx Monsoon. Judson explains why he chose a trip to Arkansas to
Brian and Judson hookup with Bryan Bance
Judson accepts a job offer and feels deep appreciation for all the support he received over his past few weeks of unemployment. Brian has found a new love in a sandwich he’s discovered near his office. Brian and Judson express their love for the trans community and ask how they can be best of service in these times of incredible oppression. The super-hot Hookup of the Week comes from a listener wh
Brian and Judson hookup with Darrell Martin
Judson gets his first tattoo and shares his feelings about hooking up with dog owners. Brian experiences a near-perfect hookup minutes before enduring a far-from-perfect parenting moment. They listen to a short-and-sweet Hookup of the Week that, while quick, was a year in the making. The two are then joined by psychotherapist and musician Darrell Martin. Darrell’s journey takes him from New York’s
Brian and Judson's first repeat hookup! Chris Murphy is back!
Judson enjoys a restorative night to himself. Brian bemoans his recent difficulties making hookups happen. The two share thoughts about keeping sex with their husbands steamy after more than a decade of marriage. The Hookup of the Week finds a listener flying some particularly friendly skies. Brian and Judson are then joined by Vanity Fair culture writer Chris Murphy, making his return to the podc
Brian and Judson hookup with Boomer Banks
Judson meets a possible long-lost relative during his very own Hookup of the Week. Brian gushes over Morgan Bassichis’ one-man show, ”Can I Be Frank?” and finally scores his seventh review on The Blowers. The two learn that elementary age kids have caught onto the fact that ‘Daddy’ has sexual connotations. Both are turned on by the voice that delivers this week’s listener-submitted Hookup of the W
Brian and Judson hookup with Josh Sharp
Judson shares a significant life update with both pain and optimism while Brian goes on a perfect date. A listener submits a Hookup of the Week in which he experiences Judson’s definition of Daddyness. They are then joined by actor, writer, comedian and star of his own off-Broadway solo show, ‘Ta-Da!,’ Josh Sharp. Josh talks about how fun it can and should be to live outside the norm as queer peop
Brian and Judson hookup with @nycgaydad José Rolón
Judson and Brian celebrate the return of their husband and daughter (respectively) after three weeks apart. Judson feels his age taking in the fashions at a Bushwick dance party, while Brian feels his age due to the constant medical upkeep his body suddenly requires. The two are touched by a Hookup of the Week, submitted by a listener who credits the podcast for its inspiration. They are then join
Brian and Judson hookup with Rabbi Jason Klein
Brian gleefully becomes a Provincetown convert and extols the virtues of Family Week. Judson shares two recent learnings about language. Together they follow a listener’s incredible adventures while traveling on the ”Hookup of the Week.” The two are then joined by Rabbi Jason Klein, senior rabbi at the largest LGBTQ synagogue in the world, Congregation Beit Simchat Torah in New York City (not to m
Brian and Judson present their second Go Ask Your Dad Extravaganza
Judson and Brian beat the heat by hunkering down in the basement to answer another set of Go Ask Your Dad questions from our listeners! But first, Brian and Judson each negotiate rules with their husbands for running “sexy errands” during their respective trips to Provincetown. One listener educates Brian and Judson on gay car enthusiast culture, while another educates them on the proper terminolo
Friendly Fire with Brian and Judson, Vol. 2
Judson and Brian reunite after three weeks apart. Judson takes a page from our Gay Vacation Anxiety episode to put himself in the best mental and emotional place for two weeks in Provincetown. Brian is forced to admit that he may, in fact, be a Disney Gay. The listener-submitted “Hookup of the Week” inspires a conversation about gay community and joy. After the break, Brian shares a series of new
Brian and Judson hookup with DJ James Anthony
Judson is taken out by a stomach bug for a couple of days. Brian attends the sex party he expressed nerves about in last week’s episode. Together, they enjoy a listener-submitted “Hookup of the Week” with a twist. Brian and Judson are then joined by DJ James Anthony. Known as host of the weekly “Get Into The Groove” on SiriusXM’s Studio 54 channel, and for his monthly Saturday residency at the ic
Brian and Judson talk Spirituality
A gang of neighborhood kids accosts Judson. Brian struggles with parenting solo while his husband is away on business. Judson helps Brian through his anxious feelings about a sex party they both plan to attend. They get a huge laugh from a relatable listener-submitted “Hookup of the Week.” The two then enter into a deep discussion about spirituality. They talk about how they each define the term
Brian and Judson hookup with Derek Frazier
Judson shares movie, book, and live music recommendations for the summer. Brian provides an update to his story about his clash with the principal at his children’s school. They both have much to say about a listener-submitted “Hookup of the Week.” They then welcome out and proud bear Derek Frazier to the podcast. Known as “Big D,” runner-up on the historic 23rd season of “Big Brother,” Derek prov
Brian and Judson talk Love
Brian comes to Judson with many questions after a recent threesome. Judson survives a frustrating hookup day. A Hookup of the Week makes it all the way from Germany. The two then enter into a discussion about love. They share how they each fell in love with their husbands, and what that love feels like now. They compare their love for the different members of their families. They talk about what l
Friendly Fire with Brian and Judson, Vol. 1
Judson is self-reflective after a week of anniversaries, experiences the highs and lows of a company-wide work event, and may have met the ultimate hookup partner. Brian also experiences an incredible hookup and reaches his 5th review on TheBlowers. Judson learns a new Daddy trick from this week’s listener-submitted Hookup of the Week. After the break, they resume their friendly fire, and Brian ge
Brian and Judson talk Pride
Judson recuperates from an intense period at work and enjoys a repeat hookup with a neighbor. Brian bemoans that it has been a frustrating week on the apps. The two debate the virtues of white chocolate and whether or not liking it is at all specific to the queer community. A listener shares a Hookup of the Week story about their first Daddy experience. Judson and Brian then chat all about Pride!
Brian and Judson hookup with Jeffrey Seller
Judson visits a childhood friend’s new home in upstate New York and exchanges feedback about their lives with one another. Brian hosts an event at his home to get fellow parents in his community thinking about how to talk about sex with their kids. Together, they enjoy a particularly daring Hookup of the Week submitted by a listener. They are then joined by multiple Tony Award-winning Broadway pr
Brian and Judson talk Playing in Public
Judson spends a glorious Memorial Day Weekend on his second annual trip to Naked Yoga Camp in Austin, this time with his husband. Brian is redeemed for the hookup gone wrong almost 18 months ago, which led to the birth of this podcast. He also explains the concept of semen to his nine-year-old daughter and receives a perfect review on TheBlowers. Judson and Brian then enjoy a listener-submitted Ho
Brian and Judson talk Code-Switching as Gay Men
It’s Dads and Daddies’ first anniversary! Judson and Brian reflect on the ups and downs of the past year, and reveal some of the ways they plan to evolve the podcast in what is now Season Two, including the introduction of the new “Hookup of the Week” episode premiering this episode! The two then enter into a conversation about code-switching as gay men, and how each balances the various personas
Brian and Judson hookup with Joel Someone
Judson reports back on the insanity taking place at work and on trying a new experience during a hookup. Brian reflects on the passing of his family’s pet. GayVN award-winning porn actor and adult model Joel Someone then joins them in Brian’s basement. Together, the three talk about Joel’s career and how it was born from his need to get out of his native New Mexico, his path from escort to porn s
Brian and Judson hookup with Nathan H. Lents
Comparing their week on the apps, Judson laments an aborted mission, and Brian comes up against ageism. Brian shares a glowing review for the Broadway play, “John Proctor is the Villain.” The two then welcome to the podcast Nathan H. Lents, author of The Sexual Evolution: How 500 million years of sex, gender, and mating shape modern relationships. Together, they discuss the difference between sexu
Brian and Judson present a Go Ask Your Dad Extravaganza
It’s Dads and Daddies’ 50th Episode! To celebrate, Judson and Brian dedicate this week’s episode to the listeners by responding to FIVE Go Ask Your Dad questions! Ranging from a listener struggling with a toxic friends-with-benefits situation to one who wants help being verbal in bed, to another who wants to ensure his partner’s first hookup outside of their relationship goes off without a hitch,
Brian and Judson talk Gay Vacation Anxiety
Judson shares a moment of pride felt as a Daddy for a Son. Brian reflects on four weeks without sex outside of his marriage. The two discuss feedback from a listener who feels that they prescribe open relationships as being right for everyone and doesn’t agree. They then begin preparations for summer by going deep into the anxiety brought on by vacationing in gay destinations. They explore the rea
Brian and Judson hookup with Court Vox
Judson tells Brian about his first week back at work, which wasn’t without its shocking moments. The two then recount their double date at the new Broadway musical they both loved, Just In Time, starring Jonathan Groff as Bobby Darin and co-authored by previous Dads and Daddies guest Isaac Oliver. Judson and Brian then welcome Sex & Intimacy Coach, Surrogate Partner, and Sacred Intimate Court
Brian and Judson hookup with Carson McCalley and Jack Dodge
Judson comes to the end of his sabbatical and reflects on everything it has brought him, including a significant amount of sex over the past week. Brian recounts the night he took his family to Kylie Minogue’s first-ever concert at Madison Square Garden. The two are then joined by Carson McCalley and Jack Dodge, hosts of the YouTube series and podcast “Dweeb Wars,” and contestants on the currently
Brian and Judson hookup with JXXL’s Leo Wyatt and Jordan Holland LIVE at the Cockpit
Judson and Brian return to The Cockpit downstairs at Daniel Nardicio’s Redeye NY for their second live show! Having just reunited with Judson after three weeks apart, Brian regales him with stories he’s been waiting to share about his daughter hearing him and his husband having sex, his struggles using AI to help navigate a Grindr conversation, and having “the talk” with his kids. Judson responds
Brian and Judson hookup with Adam MacLean
Judson and Brian are reunited after Judson returns from three weeks of globetrotting with his husband. He recounts highlights of his restorative trip to Sri Lanka, plus a sexy 36-hour layover in Istanbul. Brian happily reports on his recent stress reduction, having survived a dreaded business trip and having come to the annual end of his seasonal blues. They share some listener feedback about inac
Brian and Judson talk Cruising
Recorded last September, Judson and Brian share some unusual propositions they’ve each received on the apps before delving into a discussion of the lost art of cruising. They delineate the steps to proper cruising, reminisce about cruising successes and fails they’ve experienced over the years, and make a case for bringing cruising back in the current landscape of hookup apps. They end with a Go A
Brian and Judson talk Fatherhood
Recorded last May, Judson and Brian share the details of their travel over Memorial Day Weekend ‘24 - Judson to Austin for a weekend of naked yoga, where he performed a stand-up set and met his spirit animal, and Brian to London for a celebration of his tenth wedding anniversary, where he and his husband saw a number of shows and enjoyed a playdate together with a ‘certified werewolf.’ Judson then
Brian and Judson talk Affection
Judson shares learnings from time spent with his 95 year-old father-in-law, and checks in on Brian’s stress-induced vision impairment to ensure he’s addressing it with the proper amount of self-care. The two then enter into a discussion about affection–what constitutes affection, how important it is to each, and how it manifests in their relationships with their husbands, their families, their fri
Judson and Brian hookup with Jeff Hiller
Judson helps Brian turn his frown upside down by making him reframe how he looks back on the past week, and challenges Brian to think about managing his stress with lessons about the mind-body connection Judson has taken from the works of Gabor Mate. The two then welcome the brilliant and hysterical actor and comedian Jeff Hiller, co-star of HBO’s “Somebody Somewhere” and author of the forthcoming
Judson and Brian talk Vanity
Judson puts a label on his relationship with Brian and reports on his experience Daddying a third alongside his husband. Brian recounts a magical night attending Jinkx Monsoon’s Carnegie Hall debut and shares the highlights of his family’s trip to Puerto Rico over the midwinter break. The two then examine how vanity manifests for so much of the gay male community, and what it will take to answer t
Judson and Brian talk Breakups
Judson and Brian compare Valentine’s Day plans and reflect on their first Valentine’s Day dinners with their now-husbands. They then share the news about their second live show and first Dads and Daddies party on Friday, March 28, at the Cockpit in Hell’s Kitchen, New York City. Judson recounts an emotional week at work, having survived a significant round of layoffs, and Brian describes his week
Judson and Brian talk Friends with Benefits
Judson and Brian compare how they are attempting to find balance and peace in unsteady times and provide updates about how they were each happily surprised this week by some unexpected playtime. Brian talks about time spent with his kids before getting on his soapbox about the unrealistic expectations for parents set by the cartoon show "Bluey." The two then explore the concept of "
Judson and Brian talk 'Playing Together'
Brian and Judson compare notes: first, on masturbation–how frequently they do it, why they do it, and when–and, second, on how frustrating the logistics of hookups can be, particularly if they take place in New Jersey. Brian then looks to Judson for guidance on making hookups happen that include his husband, and what ‘playing together’ looks like in Judson’s marriage. They end with a Go Ask Your D
Judson and Brian hookup with Will Wikle
Judson recounts a perplexing dream, and Brian shares news of his renewed sexual activity. They gush over the return of "Severance" before welcoming "Big Brother" icon Will Wikle, whose diverse career spans mainstream entertainment, sex work, and now psychiatry, having opened his own practice, Peace Park Psychiatry. Will regales them with a series of incredible stories, includin
Judson and Brian talk Kissing
Brian recounts his first week of recovery from his lower eyelid surgery and hears Judson’s perspective on their trip to Sephora with Brian’s kids. Judson shares a lovely Daddy/Son experience and talks about how he navigates some of the challenges of a corporate job. The two then talk kissing–from their first kisses to practicing on their pillows to what makes a good kisser to how much more there i
Judson and Brian talk Intimacy
Brian’s nine year-old asks the big question. Judson spreads the word about the Instagram purchase that has changed his life. The two chat about some of the latest TV they’re obsessing over. Judson and Brian then dive deep into an exploration of intimacy–with their husbands, with their friends and with their hookups.This week’s episode ends with a Go Ask Your Dad question that asks our Dad and Dadd
Judson and Brian hookup with JIMBO
Brian celebrates his first rave review on The Blowers, and Judson details his experience of the “Solid Gold” exhibit at the Brooklyn Museum. The two then welcome to the podcast the inimitable JIMBO the Drag Clown, winner of RuPaul’s Drag Race All-Stars Season 8 and current star of Drag the Musical off-Broadway. JIMBO talks about his journey from behind-the-scenes artisan to realizing his dream of
Judson and Brian talk Holiday Hookups and 2025
Happy Birthday to Judson! After a mini birthday party for everyone’s favorite Daddy, Judson and Brian also celebrate the 13th anniversary of Brian’s first date with his now-husband and the first anniversary of the text exchange between Judson and Brian that resulted in this podcast. The two compare notes on their New Year’s Day polar plunge experiences and share their personal growth goals that th
Judson and Brian hookup with Guy Woof
Judson laments having missed an opportunity to have a chance encounter with Luigi Mangione. Brian reflects on the past year and how it has changed him and his relationship. The two are then joined by adult content creator Guy Woof. Guy talks to Judson and Brian about his crush on John Oliver, his transition from locksmith to porn performer, the business behind having sex on camera, and finding suc
Judson and Brian hookup with Jonah Wheeler
Judson tells Brian about the night he invited a hookup to stay for dinner, and how it evolved into a beautiful sharing of grief. Brian shares a story about a hookup that went against most of his own rules, in what he views as a culmination of a year of learnings from Judson. They are then joined by award-winning porn actor and social media star Jonah Wheeler. Jonah talks about the “enthusiastic an
Judson and Brian hookup with Sam Morrison
Recorded on December 13, it’s Brian’s birthday! Brian describes his plans to celebrate, which exhausts Judson just by hearing them listed out. Judson shares a glowing review for Ricardo Tavares’ bathhouse-based “Morning Glory” sex party, which led to one of Judson’s top 3 hookups of 2024. The two compare stories of “setting traps” on the apps. They then welcome comedian Sam Morrison to the podcast
Judson and Brian hookup with Ben Rimalower
Judson and Brian commiserate over sudden end-of-year demands at work and compare notes on the time they will spend with family over the holidays, including how they each set (or try to set) the necessary boundaries. Judson then educates Brian on the concept of “fraysexuality” before welcoming writer, performer, curator and creator/host of the podcast “Giants in the Sky,” Ben Rimalower, to the show
Judson and Brian talk Family - Biological and Logical
Judson and Brian catch up on the Thanksgiving preparations in Brian’s home, compare family rules to keep Sondheim out of Sundays and show tunes away from the dinner table, and recap their experiences recording their first live show. They then discuss the various iterations of family in their lives - the biological families they grew up with, their nuclear families now, and their chosen, or logica
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