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Confidence After Narcissistic Abuse | Covert Narcissist, Discernment, Boundaries, Healing, Self Worth
Confidence After Narcissistic Abuse | Covert Narcissist, Discernment, Boundaries, Healing, Self Worth
This podcast helps survivors of narcissistic abuse rebuild their confidence and self-worth. Host Tekyia Nisheka shares her personal journey and offers practical tools rooted in faith to restore emotional stability. Listeners learn to discern covert narcissism, set boundaries, and heal from guilt and shame. The goal is to guide you toward peace, joy, and freedom from the effects of abuse.
Episodes
54 | Do You Love God But Feel Distant From Him After Narcissistic Abuse? Here's What To Do
Have you felt distant from God after narcissistic abuse, even though you still love Him?
Do you wonder if your faith is weak because you do not feel as close or connected to God as you think you should?
Are you trying to trust God while healing, but keep getting stuck in the thought that something must be wrong with you?
In this episode, I’m sharing what to do when God feels distant after narcissi
53 | Why Do I Feel So Guilty for Needing Rest After Narcissistic Abuse?
Do you feel guilty when you know you need rest?
Do you worry that slowing down means you are being selfish, disappointing people, or not pleasing God?
In this episode, I’m sharing why guilt feels so loud after narcissistic abuse, especially when your healing requires rest. If you’ve been exhausted mentally, emotionally, spiritually, or physically, this conversation will help you understand wh
52 | Simple Decisions Feel Hard After Narcissistic Abuse? Here's How To Begin Trusting Yourself Again
Have simple decisions started feeling harder to make after narcissistic abuse?
Do you second-guess yourself, replay choices or feel ashamed when a choice you made does not go the way you hoped?
In this episode, I’m sharing why decision-making can feel so heavy after narcissistic abuse and why it does not mean you are incapable of making good decisions. If you’ve been struggling with self-doub
51 | What If the Real You Isn’t Gone? Finding Yourself After Covert Narcissistic Abuse Starts Here
Have you ever looked at your life after covert narcissistic abuse and wondered, “Where did I go?”
Do you feel like you’re doing what needs to be done but deep down, you don’t really feel like yourself anymore?
Are you trying to rebuild confidence after narcissistic abuse, but it still feels impossible?
In this episode, I’m sharing why finding yourself after narcissistic abuse can feel so confusing
50 | This Is What Happens When You Stop Second Guessing Yourself After Narcissistic Abuse
Have you ever had a sense of what you were supposed to do — a nudge, a knowing — and just kept pushing it down because you did not trust it?
Do you have something sitting inside you that you have been too afraid to step into because someone else's voice convinced you it was pointless?
Learning to trust yourself again after covert narcissistic abuse does not always feel dramatic. Sometimes it looks
49 | Sick of Asking Yourself Why You Stayed? This Is What Covert Narcissistic Abuse Actually Does
Have you ever felt like something must be wrong with you for staying in a narcissistic relationship as long as you did?
Do you find yourself still feeling something for someone you know was hurting you and not understanding why?
Have you ever felt judged or judged yourself for going back to a narcissistic relationship after you knew better?
If you have been carrying shame about staying in narcissi
48 | The Real Cost of Narcissistic Abuse On Your Identity
Have you ever looked up and realised you had become someone you did not recognise and could not even pinpoint when it happened?
Did you spend years changing yourself, shrinking yourself, trying to be enough and it still was never enough?
Covert narcissistic abuse has a way of taking you from yourself so gradually you do not even notice until you look up one day and feel like a stranger to yourself
47 | The #1 Key to Restoring Your Confidence After Covert Narcissistic Abuse
Do you constantly question your judgment, your worth and your abilitieseven while you look like you have it all together on the outside?
Have you tried to feel confident after narcissistic abuse, or maybe never even known where to start?
What if rebuilding your confidence and self-worth after narcissistic abuse doesn't start with confidence at all but with reconnecting to the voice God placed in y
46 | Struggling To Feel God’s Love After Narcissistic Abuse? Here's How He Met Me
Are you healing from narcissistic abuse but struggling to feel God's love even though you intellectually know He loves you?
Have you been going through the motions — praying, reading, saying all the right things — and still feeling empty and unseen?
What if the gap between knowing God loves you and actually feeling it is not a failure of faith but something narcissistic abuse quietly took from you
45 | Recovering from Gaslighting? Here's Why You Still Feel Crazy After Narcissistic Abuse
Do you find yourself constantly second-guessing your own memory and perception after covert narcissistic abuse even when you know what actually happened?
Have you ever talked yourself out of your own reality, even after someone confirmed it was true?
What if the voice telling you that you are crazy is not your voice at all — and recovery from gaslighting starts with finally understanding where it
44 | Are You Relating to God Like He's a Narcissist? - What Covert Narcissistic Abuse Does to Your Faith
Do you ever feel like you have to keep it together before God — like the real version of what you feel is too risky to actually say?
After narcissistic abuse, do you find yourself bracing for God's disapproval punishment when things go wrong?
What if the way you relate to God has been quietly shaped by everything the narcissist taught you about how people with power behave?
This is an awareness ep
43 | Sick of Hiding Your Pain? Do This To Grieve and Heal After Narcissistic Abuse
Are you a narcissistic abuse survivor who knows you need to grieve but you have no idea where to actually start?
Have you been keeping it together before God — bringing the cleaned-up version of your pain — because the real version has felt like too much?
What if emotional healing after narcissistic abuse started with the most honest prayer you have ever prayed?
Today I am introducing you to lamen
42 | You're Not Broken - THIS Is The Missing Piece in Narcissistic Abuse Recovery
Are you healing from narcissistic abuse but still carrying a heaviness you cannot explain?
Have you been stuffing the pain and pushing through, only to find it keeps surfacing anyway?
Healing from narcissistic abuse takes more than awareness and setting boundaries; it requires grieving what was actually lost. In this episode, I get honest about something I am personally still sitting with: the g
41 | Trying Harder Will Not Heal Your Nervous System After Narcissistic Abuse — THIS Will
Are you healing from narcissistic abuse but your body still does not feel like it got the message?
Still braced, still hypervigilant, still exhausted in a way that rest does not seem to touch?
Still waiting for something to go wrong even when everything is actually okay?
Healing the nervous system after narcissistic abuse is not about deciding to calm down or pushing through the anxiety. It requ
40 | The Hidden Evidence That You Are Healing From Narcissistic Abuse Even When It Doesn't Feel Like It
Have you ever felt like you were going backwards in your healing even after everything you have been through to get out?
Have you ever been in a season so hard that you genuinely wondered if the healing was even working?
Have you ever looked around at your life and not been able to see any evidence of how far you have actually come?
In this episode I get really personal about one of the hardest
39 | Always Exhausted and On Edge After Covert Narcissistic Abuse? Here Is What Is Actually Happening in Your Body
Are you out of your abusive situation but your body still feels like it is in it?
Do you find yourself on edge, exhausted, hypervigilant, reacting to things before you even have a chance to think?
Have you ever wondered why leaving did not make the physical symptoms go away?
In this episode I am getting honest about something most healing conversations skip over — what narcissistic abuse actuall
38 | Is This Just Who I Am? Uncovering the Hidden Face of Low Self-Worth After Narcissistic Abuse
Do you give everything to everyone around you but struggle to give anything to yourself?
Have you ever stopped and honestly asked yourself how you actually treat yourself? Not how you show up for everyone else, but how you show up for yourself when nobody is watching?
Do you feel like you have been healing from covert narcissistic abuse but something about the way you see yourself still feels off
37 | The Truth About Self-Worth Every Narcissistic Abuse Survivor Needs to Hear
You have been working on your confidence — praying, pushing through, doing the inner work. And some days you feel great. Other days...lower than ever. In this episode I'm talking about the difference between self-esteem and self-worth. Self-esteem is tied to what is happening around you and will always fluctuate. Self-worth is the God-given value you carry simply because of who made you...and no s
36 | Tired of Trying to Hold It All Together? Here's What Trusting God After Covert Narcissistic Abuse Really Looks Like
You would probably say you trust God. And you mean it. But if you are honest, there is a version of you that is also constantly trying to figure things out, manage outcomes, and hold everything together — and you are not always sure how those two things coexist. In this episode we get into one of the most honest conversations about what it actually means to trust God after covert narcissistic abus
35 | Still Stuck After Covert Narcissistic Abuse? Here's Why Fixing Your Feelings Will Never Be Enough
Have you been trying to heal from narcissistic abuse by managing your emotions, pushing through the anxiety or just trying to think more positively but you still feel stuck in the same emotionally exhausted cycle? You are not doing it wrong. You have just been working on the wrong thing. In this episode we are getting to the root of why healing from narcissistic abuse feels so hard and it starts w
34 | Is Healing After Narcissistic Abuse Taking Too Long? Here's What God Is Really Doing In The Wait
Are you healing from narcissistic abuse but wondering why it is taking so long? If you have been praying, doing the work and still feel like healing is moving at a pace that makes no sense, this episode is for you. Healing from narcissistic abuse is not slow because something is wrong with you. It is slow because what was done to you ran deep. The abuse rewired the way you think, the way you trust
33 | Why Covert Narcissists Hate Your Boundaries And What That Tells You
Tired of setting a boundary and then sitting there wondering if you just made everything worse?
Confused when they don’t explode but something still feels off?
Ever notice how the moment you hold your ground, the energy shifts… and you can’t quite explain why? 🤔
In this episode, I'm talking about what actually happens when you set boundaries with a covert narcissist so you can stay grounded in you
32 | 3 Guilt Tactics Covert Narcissists Use Against Your Boundaries
Have you ever set a boundary… and then immediately felt guilty for it?
Do you find yourself apologizing after protecting your time, energy, or peace?
Have you ever walked away from a conversation feeling like you were the problem even when you know something wasn’t right?
In this episode, I’m breaking down three specific guilt tactics narcissists use to make you question your boundaries and hand c
31 | Does Setting Boundaries After Narcissistic Abuse Feel Mean? Here's the Truth
Do you feel like you're being mean every time you set a boundary?
Do you second-guess yourself after saying no even when you know you needed to?
Do you feel guilty for protecting your peace, like you're the one doing something wrong?
In this episode, I’m sharing why setting boundaries feels “mean” after narcissistic abuse so you can understand what’s actually happening and stop letting guilt pull
30 | 2 Bible Verses That Give You Permission To Set Boundaries With A Covert Narcissist
Do you feel guilty every time you set a boundary?
Like maybe you’re not being a “good Christian”… not loving enough… not forgiving enough?
Do you second-guess yourself when you protect your peace or stop explaining yourself to a narcissist?
In this episode, I’m sharing two Bible verses that give you permission to set boundaries so you can stop questioning yourself and start protecting what God tol
29 | 3 Boundaries Every Christian Woman Needs When Healing From Narcissistic Abuse Part 2
Does your body feel like it’s constantly on edge—bracing for the next violation of your space?
Have you ever felt like your relationship with God was being interrupted, controlled, or quietly pulled away from you?
Are you trying to heal but something still feels off, unsafe, or unsettled?
In this episode, I’m finishing the conversation on the three boundaries every Christian woman needs when heali
28 | 3 Boundaries Every Christian Woman Needs When Healing From Narcissistic Abuse
Do you rush to fix everyone’s bad moods?
Do you feel responsible when someone gets upset, even when you did nothing wrong?
Are you exhausted from managing other people’s emotions while your own get pushed to the side?
In this episode, I’m starting a conversation about three boundaries every Christian woman needs when healing from narcissistic abuse.
If you’ve been conditioned to believe someone el
27 | Protecting Your Boundaries: How To Stop Feeding The Narcissist
Do you feel like no matter what you say, they twist your words, start arguments, or create drama?
Are you forced to deal with them and need a way to protect your peace without getting pulled into their chaos?
In this episode, I’m talking about the grey rock method and how to use it to protect your emotional energy when you have to interact with a narcissist.
This episode will help you set boundari
26 | Setting Boundaries Without Guilt After Narcissistic Abuse
Do you feel guilty every time you try to set a boundary?
Do you find yourself managing other people’s emotions, thinking that’s what love requires?
In this episode, I’m sharing the difference between what’s yours and what’s theirs in relationships so you can stop carrying other people’s emotions and set boundaries without guilt.
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25 | Boundaries Aren't Walls, They're Foundations for Healing After Narcissistic Abuse
Do you keep finding yourself in the same exhausting dynamics with different people? Different faces, different situations—but the same resentment, over-functioning, and emotional burnout?
In this episode, I’m sharing why that pattern keeps repeating after narcissistic abuse and how boundaries aren’t about shutting people out—they’re the foundation you need to finally build something different. Th
24 | Boundaries - Why They Matter For Healing After Narcissistic Abuse
Do you feel guilty when you’re not always available?
Do you worry that setting boundaries means being cold, selfish, or unloving? Are you exhausted from carrying everyone else’s emotions, problems, and expectations while your own healing gets pushed to the side?
In this episode, I’m sharing what boundaries actually are and why they are essential for healing after narcissistic abuse, so you can st
23 | Nice Isn’t Always Holy — The Truth About Boundaries for Christian Women
Do you feel guilty every time you try to say no?
Do you find yourself saying yes out of fear—fear of being seen as unloving, difficult, or not “Christlike” enough?
Are you exhausted from being nice while your peace slowly disappears?
In this episode, I’m sharing why niceness and holiness are not the same thing so you can stop people-pleasing, release guilt around setting boundaries and begin ste
22 | Feeling Like God’s Gone Silent? 3 Healing Tips to Reconnect After Narcissistic Abuse
Have you ever prayed and felt like your words were just hitting the ceiling?
Does God feel distant lately even though you’re still reading, praying, and trying?
Do you secretly wonder if His silence means you did something wrong?
After narcissistic abuse, spiritual disconnection can feel deeply personal. You may start wondering if God is disappointed in you, if you did something wrong or if His si
21 | "Moving On" Isn't Healing — Do This Instead
Have you ever thought you were doing “better”… only to be blindsided by anger, grief, or resentment out of nowhere?
Do you feel confused or ashamed when something still hurts?
Have you ever wondered, “Why am I still affected by this if I’m healing?”
In this episode, I’m unpacking why “moving on” after narcissistic abuse isn’t really healing. I’ll talk about the pressure to get over it, why your b
20 | When “Waiting on God” Keeps You Stuck: How to Make Decisions God Trusts You to Make
Do you avoid making decisions because you’re afraid God hasn’t spoken clearly enough?
Do you call it “waiting on God,” but feel stuck and unsure how to move forward?
Do you worry that trusting your judgment means you’re not trusting God?
In this episode, I’m sharing how God actually designed decision-making to work—and why faith doesn’t require fear, paralysis, or perfect certainty. We’ll look at
19 | 3 Keys To Making Confident Decisions After Narcissistic Abuse Without Overthinking
Do you second-guess even simple decisions after narcissistic abuse?
Do you feel anxious or frozen when you have to choose—worried you’ll get it wrong again?
Do you know you’re capable, but don’t feel safe trusting yourself?
In this episode, I’m sharing why decision-making feels so hard after narcissistic abuse and how to rebuild self-trust without overthinking. You’ll learn the three internal anch
18 | 3 Ways To Strengthen Discernment After Narcissistic Abuse
Do you ever sense something but immediately question if you’re just making it up?
Do you struggle to trust your inner knowing or spiritual discernment?
Feel like you can’t tell the difference between God’s voice and your own thoughts?
In this episode, I'm exploring why discernment feels so shaky after abuse and how God’s leading differs from manipulation. I'm also sharing three practical ways to s
17 | How to Stop Doubting and Start Trusting God Even When It Hurts
Ever feel like you believe God is good — but you’re afraid to depend on Him again?
Do you trust God in theory, but struggle to trust Him emotionally after betrayal?
Find yourself always bracing for disappointment instead of expecting faithfulness?
In this episode, I’m unpacking why trusting God after betrayal isn’t a faith issue and how real trust is rebuilt after emotional trauma and narcissis
16 | Stop People-Pleasing — Start Living From Your Identity in Christ
Have you ever known what the right thing to do was — but still felt afraid of how someone else would react?
Do you find yourself shrinking, explaining, or hesitating even after learning about boundaries?
Do you feel anxious when you think someone might be disappointed with you?
In this episode, I’m unpacking why people-pleasing continues for women healing from covert narcissistic abuse.
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15 | The #1 Lie Killing Your Self-Worth — And the Deeper Truth
Do you feel pressure to keep everything together just to feel okay about yourself?
Do you feel guilty when you rest, need help, or can’t hold it all together?
Do you notice your confidence drop the moment you feel like you’ve disappointed someone?
In this episode, I’m uncovering the quiet lie that slowly destroys self-worth, especially after covert narcissistic abuse.
This episode breaks down how
14 | Healing Shame: How Jesus Speaks to Wounded Women Without Shaming Them
Do you wonder if your past makes God keep His distance from you?
Do you assume God avoids your story because it’s complicated?
Have you been hiding parts of your life — even from God?
In this episode, I'm looking at the story of the Woman at the Well in a way that feels real and relatable especially if you’ve been carrying shame after abuse.
If you’ve ever felt like your past disqualifies you from
13 | Why You Still Can’t Hear God Clearly After Narcissistic Abuse (It’s Not Your Faith)
Feel like hearing God became harder after narcissistic abuse?
Ever wonder if God is silent because you did something wrong?
Do you question whether what you’re sensing is really God — or just you?
In this episode, we’re talking about one of the most overlooked reasons hearing God feels difficult after covert narcissistic abuse: shame.
I share how shame quietly forms through abuse, how it distorts
12 | A 5-Minute Reset to Calm Your Nervous System After Narcissistic Abuse
Do you ever have days where your body just will not calm down? Your heart is racing for no reason, you feel jumpy, your thoughts won't slow down, and your whole body feels tense and anxious?
In this episode, I’m walking you through a simple, five-minute nature-based reset designed to help calm your nervous system and signal safety to your body after narcissistic abuse. I talk about why your body c
11 | Feeling Like a Shell of Yourself? Healing After Narcissistic Abuse Starts Here
Do you feel like a shell of yourself — like you're there, but you're not really there?
Are you exhausted all the time, struggling with brain fog, or feeling emotionally numb?
Have you been wondering why simple decisions feel so impossible?
In this episode, I'm breaking down why narcissistic abuse leaves you feeling depleted — emotionally, physically, and spiritually. You'll learn how chronic str
10 | Leaving a Covert Narcissist Isn’t the End — It’s the Beginning of Finding Yourself Again
Do you look at where you are now and wonder if you'll ever feel joy, peace or have purpose again?
Are you afraid that what happened to you has somehow disqualified you from the life you were meant to live?
In this episode, I'm getting real about what the last six years have looked like since I got away from a covert narcissist. I'm talking about standing in the ruins-- the moments when I couldn't
09 | Ending the Year Without Answers — And Trusting God After Covert Narcissistic Abuse
Are you ending this year still waiting for things to make sense?
Do you feel like you should have more answers by now — like your healing should look more finished than it does?
Does the uncertainty of what’s next still make your heart race, even when you’re trying to trust God?
In this episode, I’m talking about something we don’t discuss enough — what it’s like to end the year without all the an
08 | Christmas After Covert Narcissistic Abuse: When Healing Feels Quiet
Does Christmas feel quieter than you expected after narcissistic abuse?
Are you confused by feeling emotionally neutral — not distressed, but not joyful either?
Do you worry that feeling “less” might mean something is wrong with your healing or faith?
In this episode, I’m unpacking what emotional quiet actually means after covert narcissistic abuse so you can stop misinterpreting neutrality as dis
07 | Why The Holidays Are Hard After Covert Narcissistic Abuse
Do the holidays feel heavier or more emotionally triggering than you expected — even though you're away from the covert narcissist?
Are you confused by feeling flat, overwhelmed, or unsettled instead of peaceful or joyful?
Do you find yourself wondering if these feelings mean your healing isn’t “working”?
In this episode, I’m explaining why the holidays can be emotionally difficult after covert
06 | Why Covert Narcissists Hate Boundaries And What That Reveals About Your Healing
Does every boundary you set turn into an argument, guilt trip, or emotional meltdown?
Do you feel unsafe or guilty the moment you say "no"?
Have you ever wondered why such small limits cause such big reactions?
In this episode, I'm breaking down why covert narcissists react so strongly to your boundaries and what their resistance reveals about your healing. You'll learn why boundaries threaten the
05 | Enough People Pleasing Already! 3 Tips to Set Healthy Boundaries In Relationships
Do you say “yes” when everything in you is begging to say “no”?
Do you feel guilty for having needs, limits, or preferences?
Do you feel responsible for keeping everyone comfortable even when it hurts you?
Do boundaries feel scary because you’re used to keeping the peace at your own expense?
In this episode, I’m breaking down why people pleasing is not your personality; it’s a trauma response. You
04 | Why Doubt Feels Safer Than Faith — and 3 Ways to Start Trusting God Again
Do you feel disconnected from God and unsure if you can trust Him again?
Does praying feel empty, scary, or like “what’s the point”?
Have you been carrying silent anger, disappointment, or confusion toward God?
In this episode, I'm sharing why doubt feels safer than faith after narcissistic abuse, and three gentle, practical ways to start trusting God again — even when it feels scary. You'll learn
03 | Tired of Second Guessing? How to Recover From Gaslighting
Do you replay conversations over and over, trying to figure out if you "heard it right"? Have you been told you're "too sensitive" or "imagining things" so many times that you've stopped trusting your own perception? Do you feel unsure if you’re hearing God or just “making things up”?
In this episode, I’m breaking down how gaslighting affects your spiritual discernment and why it becomes so hard t
02 | The Truth About Forgiving And Forgetting After Narcissistic Abuse
Does the idea of forgiving your abuser feel confusing, impossible, or even offensive? Do you worry that forgiveness means letting them off the hook?Have people pressured you to “just forgive” when you’re still hurting?
In this episode, I'm breaking down the misconceptions around forgiveness after narcissistic abuse. You'll learn why forgiveness isn't about excusing the abuse or reconciling with
01| You're Not Crazy! It's Narcissistic Abuse!
Do you ever catch yourself wondering, “Am I crazy?”
Have you spent years doubting your own memory, emotions, or instincts?
Do you feel confused, exhausted, or like you lost parts of yourself you can’t explain?
In this episode I'm talking about covert narcissistic abuse—what it is, why it's confusing, and how it affects your nervous system. You’ll learn how emotional manipulation affects your mind
Welcome To Confidence After Narcissistic Abuse
If narcissistic abuse has left you feeling broken, doubting yourself, and wondering if you'll ever feel whole again—you're in the right place. I'm Tekyia, a survivor who's walked this path. Join me weekly for faith-filled, practical strategies to rebuild your confidence, set guilt-free boundaries, and restore your self-worth through biblical truth and holistic healing. Deep wounds can experience d
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