The Love Movement
In a world that has complicated how to navigate relationships, this podcast talks about how to get married while sticking to your values, how to become the version of you that attracts the marriage you've been praying for. It covers all things love, relationships and what it takes to create a beautiful relationship with yourself, to have the marriage you want.
Episodes
How to be mentally stronger in relationships
The people who handle relationships the best aren't the ones with no flaws — they're the ones who've stopped running from theirs.In this episode, Lama breaks down what it actually means to be mentally strong, why facing the parts of yourself you're most afraid of is what makes you unshakeable, and how accepting that you're both good and bad at the same time sets you free.Ready
How to fully stop stressing about marriage
Stressing about your future spouse won't make it come any sooner — just like watching brownies bake doesn't make them cook faster.In this episode, Lama uses a simple analogy to break down what detachment actually means, why focusing on the lack of what you don't have is robbing you of the blessings in front of you right now, and how trusting that your dua is already "in the oven&q
How to prevent infatuation
When you're not happy with your life, anyone who shows up and says the right things feels like the one. That's not love — that's infatuation.In this episode, Lama breaks down why infatuation hits so hard when your self-worth is low, how to stop your brain from making someone into something they're not, and the practical guardrails that keep you clear-headed while getting to know so
How to heal your loneliness
Getting married won't fix your loneliness — and if you go into marriage trying to fix it, it'll only get worse.In this episode,Lama breaks down where loneliness actually comes from, why it's not the problem you think it is, and how befriending it instead of running from it is what actually opens you up to love.Ready to go deeper? Visit https://www.lamaaboubakr.com/ for 1-on-1 coaching and everythi
how attachment theory impacts your relationships
Understanding why you show up the way you do in relationships is one of the most powerful things you can do for yourself.In this episode,Lama breaks down the three attachment styles — anxious, avoidant, and secure — what each one looks like in real life, and how identifying where you fall on the spectrum is the first step to getting yourself to a healthier place.Ready to go deeper? Visit https://w
How dating culture impacts your marriage outcomes
If you've been in the talking stage for months with nothing to show for it, this episode is for you.In this episode, Lama breaks down how dating culture has quietly crept into the way Muslims approach getting to know someone, why becoming someone's unofficial girlfriend is costing you time and clarity, and how to show up as an observer looking for a fit rather than someone trying to make it work.R
Deserving a healthy marriage
You don't need to earn love. You never did.In this episode, Lama breaks down why the thought "I don't deserve this" is quietly blocking you from receiving what Allah is trying to give you — and how practicing gratitude for the small things is what opens you up to the big ones.Ready to go deeper? Visit https://www.lamaaboubakr.com/ for 1-on-1 coaching and everything you need to find the spouse you'
How to access joy before marriage
You don't have to wait for a spouse to start feeling happy. The joy you're looking for is already available to you right now.In this episode,Lama breaks down why gratitude and happiness are actually the same thing, what's quietly blocking you from feeling it, and how to start accessing it today — before anything in your life changes.Ready to go deeper? Visit https://www.lamaaboubakr.com/ for 1-on-
What healthy intimacy actually looks like
A healthy marriage isn't two perfect people — it's two messy humans who choose each other anyway.In this episode, Lama breaks down what healthy intimacy actually looks like, why the idea that you need to be fully healed before getting married is keeping you stuck, and how real love is built not in the perfect moments but in how you come back after the hard ones.Ready to go deeper? Visit https://ww
The marriage dynamic you want
Marriage isn’t a one-size-fits-all experience—it’s shaped by the values and agreement of the two people involved.In this episode, Lama explores different marriage dynamics, from traditional roles to equal partnerships and companionship-focused marriages, and why none of them are universally right or wrong. She explains why clarity on your own expectations is key when choosing a partner, and how fe
How you catch feelings for the wrong person
The reason you keep catching feelings for the wrong person may have less to do with them—and more to do with the beliefs you're carrying about yourself.In this episode, Lama explores why we become attached to people who aren't right for us, how situationships begin, and how the need for validation can quietly influence who we choose and what we find attractive.Ready to go deeper? Visit htt
Physical attraction is hard but they're a good person?
They're a good person, their values align, everything checks out — but you're just not physically attracted. Sound familiar?In this episode, Lama breaks down why instant attraction isn't the standard, how social media has completely warped what we think we should find attractive, and why learning to stay curious instead of dismissing someone too quickly might be the shift that changes everything.R
The final step to getting married - part 15
After everything, the mindset work, the values, the talking stages, it all comes down to this.In this episode, Lama closes out the series with the most important reminder of all: none of the practical work matters without conviction in Allah's power. Your dua, your submission, your trust — that is the final step.Ready to go deeper?Visit https://www.lamaaboubakr.com/ for 1-on-1 coaching and eve
How to love someone - part 14
What if the problem isn't that no one checks the boxes — but that you don't know how to open up once they do?In this episode, Lama breaks down the skill of actually learning to love another human being, why the "boring" consistent ones are often the right ones, and how getting curious instead of dismissive is what creates a real bond.Ready to go deeper? Visit https://www.lamaabou
how you self sabotage your marriage opportunities - part 13
You might be getting in your own way without even realising it.In this episode, Lama breaks down the most common self-sabotaging patterns — from anxious people chasing the wrong ones to avoidants running from the right ones — and how to catch yourself in the moment before you ruin something good.Ready to go deeper? Visit https://www.lamaaboubakr.com/ for 1-on-1 coaching and everything you need to
The Sweet Spot to navigating relationships - part 12
There's a big difference between needing marriage and wanting it — and that difference changes everything about how you show up.In this episode, Lama breaks down what it actually looks like to come from a place of desire instead of desperation, and why getting to that sweet spot is what makes the whole process feel lighter and leads to better decisions.Ready to go deeper? Visit https://www.lam
Where to meet potentials for marriage - part 11
You can't find your person if you're not putting yourself out there — but how you show up matters just as much as where.In this episode, Lama breaks down how to use the apps the right way, how building a genuine community creates the conditions for Allah to send your person, and why showing up as your best self is the most powerful thing you can do.Ready to go deeper? Visit https://www.lam
The highs and lows of navigating relationships - part 10
This journey is going to have high moments and really low ones — and knowing how to navigate both is what keeps you from giving up before you get there.In this episode, Lama talks about how to grieve the expectations that didn't come true, why letting yourself feel the lows is actually what opens you up to the highs, and how to keep making dua with conviction even when nothing seems to be movi
Understanding Attachment styles - Part 9
Why are you attracted to the ones who barely text back — and bored by the ones who actually show up? That's not chemistry. That's your attachment style running the show.In this episode, Lama breaks down anxious and avoidant attachment, how each one shows up when you're getting to know someone, and why understanding your patterns is what finally helps you stop sabotaging the good ones.R
Ego vs Authentic Self in Relationships - Part 8
There are two ways you can show up when getting to know someone — from your authentic self or from your ego. And the difference determines everything.In this episode, Lama breaks down how to tell which one is driving you, why the ego makes the whole process harder than it needs to be, and how to get back to your most grounded self so you can actually see clearly whether someone is right for you or
How to make the decision to marry them - Part 7
You've spent 90 days getting to know someone — now comes the hardest part. Do you say yes or no?In this episode, Lama breaks down how to make the decision to move forward with someone without the fear of getting it wrong, what settling actually looks like versus normal human imperfection, and how to say no quickly and respectfully when you know it's not right.Ready to go deeper? Visit http
How to talk to a potential, the plan for marriage - Part 6
You've matched with someone — now what?Most people either rush in emotionally or drag things out indefinitely. This episode gives you the actual plan.In this episode, Lama breaks down how to approach the talking stage with intention, why the 90-day process works, and how to stay focused on finding your person instead of getting lost in whether they like you.Ready to go deeper? Visit https://ww
Your Want Match and building your network - Part 5
You've been putting the pressure of every single want and need onto one person — and that's part of why the search feels so impossible.In this episode, Lama breaks down what a "want match" actually is, how to get clear on what your spouse genuinely needs to have versus what you can build into your life another way, and why spreading out your needs is what makes you actually ready
Values and Priorities for marriage - Part 4
You can't find the right person if you don't know what you actually value — and most people are searching based on surface-level checklists that have nothing to do with what actually makes a marriage work.In this episode, Lama breaks down how to identify your core values, why living those values is the best screening tool you have, and how to look past how things show up to find what actua
The Story that blocks you from getting married - Part 3
The reason you keep showing up the same way in relationships isn't bad luck — it's the story you've been telling yourself without even realising it.In this episode, Lama breaks down the three categories of beliefs that are quietly running the show — what you think of yourself, what you think of the opposite gender, and what you believe Allah can do for you — and how identifying and cha
The mindset you need to get married - Part 2
Every person you meet is either your spouse or someone else's — and when you truly understand that, the whole process changes.In this episode, Lama breaks down the exact mindset you need to keep going through rejections and disappointments without giving up, why the people who get married are simply the ones who don't stop, and how to make your dua from a place of conviction instead of fear.Ready
The WHY and your purpose for marriage - Part 1
Before you can find the right person, you need to get honest about why you actually want to get married — because if your reason is off, everything else will be too.In this episode, Lama breaks down why the subconscious reasons most people are chasing marriage are quietly sabotaging them, and what a grounded, intentional why actually looks like, so you can go through this process without falling a
[Intro] Decoding the Marriage Process Series
This is the beginning of something different.In this intro episode, Lama launches the Decoding the Marriage Process series — a structured, A to Z guide on how to actually go about finding your spouse with intention, clarity, and the inner work that makes it all stick. If you've been watching and feeling inspired but not knowing where to start, this is your starting point.Ready to go deeper? Visit
the fear of settling keeps you single
The fear of settling is keeping more people single than almost anything else — and most people don't even have the right definition of what settling actually is.In this episode, Lama breaks down what settling really means, why the obsession with finding the perfect person is actually a fear of being seen as inadequate, and how learning to accept human imperfection is what actually leads to a healt
Trying to be perfect to be loved
Perfectionism in the search for marriage doesn’t always look obvious — sometimes it looks like “working on yourself” while secretly believing you have to earn love first.In this episode, Lama talks about the painful cycle of trying to become perfect to feel worthy of love, the difference between growth and shame, and why Allah never asked you to be flawless to deserve love.Ready to go deeper? Visi
Shaitan's tricks to block you from getting married
The negative thoughts that keep you stuck in the search for a spouse aren't just random — there's an agenda behind them.In this episode, Lama breaks down Shaytan's most common tricks that keep people single, from "I'm not good enough" to "there are no good ones left," and how to recognise them for what they are so they stop running your life.Ready to go deeper? Visit https://www.lamaaboubakr.com/
The focus it takes to get married
Getting motivated, talking to someone, it doesn't work out, and then you're back to square one. Sound familiar? That's not a bad luck problem — that's a focus problem.In this episode,Lama breaks down why staying mentally locked in on your goal is just as important as putting yourself out there, what distractions are quietly pulling you off track, and how to stay focused on the one person you're lo
The pain of not getting what you want
How you react when things don't go your way in the search for a spouse says everything about where you are mentally — and it's affecting your results more than you think.In this episode,Lama breaks down why being too attached to the outcome is quietly making the process harder, what it actually means to detach without giving up, and how getting okay with not getting what you want is ironically wha
The hidden mother wound that impacts your relationships
The way you see yourself in relationships might have less to do with your past situationships and more to do with your first relationship — the one with your mother.In this episode,Lama breaks down what the mother wound actually is, how it quietly shapes your sense of worthiness, and what it takes to start healing it so it stops running the show in your relationships.Ready to go deeper? Visit http
How to not lose yourself in the relationship
Most people say they want a companion — but what they're actually picturing is someone who will finally make them feel whole. And that's where things go wrong.In this episode, Lama breaks down what healthy companionship actually looks like, why letting go of unrealistic expectations is what makes a marriage actually enjoyable, and how to stay yourself while building a life with someone else.Ready
Being Certain in Uncertainty
What if it doesn't work out? What if I choose wrong? What if I end up alone? In this episode,Lama breaks down why you're not actually afraid of uncertainty — you're afraid of what you think you'll feel if the worst happens, and how answering that fear is what finally sets you free.Ready to go deeper? Visit https://www.lamaaboubakr.com/ for 1-on-1 coaching and everything you need to find the spouse
What Secure Women look for in a Husband
Think a secure woman wants the tallest, richest, most religious man in the room? ..........Think again.In this episode, Lama breaks down what a genuinely secure woman is actually looking for in a husband — emotional safety, integrity, direction, and a good heart — and why none of it has anything to do with status or looks.Ready to go deeper? Visit https://www.lamaaboubakr.com/ for 1-on-1 coaching
What Secure Men Look for in a Wife
Forget everything the internet told you about what men want. This episode is about what a genuinely secure man is actually looking for.In this episode, Lama breaks down the real qualities that make a healthy man want to commit — emotional safety, respect, and a woman who has her own life — and why being too perfect, too pressuring, or too needy will push the right one away.Ready to go deeper? Visi
understanding muslim men before marriage
Why is he being so awkward? Why won't he just say something? This episode is going to make a lot of sense.In this episode,Lama breaks down what's actually going on in a Muslim man's head when he's interested but can't seem to say it — and how understanding that can save you from taking it personally and missing someone who's genuinely trying.Ready to go deeper? Visit https://www.lamaaboubakr.com/
Your age is not a problem to your person
Think your age is working against you? This episode is going to change how you see that.In this episode, Lama shares real stories of women in their 50s and 70s finding love, and breaks down why age was never actually the problem — your energy, your confidence, and how you carry yourself is what people are truly attracted to.Ready to go deeper? Visit https://www.lamaaboubakr.com/ for 1-on-1 coachin
How internal pressure impacts your marriage decisions
Feeling like you can't find anyone attractive? It might not be about them at all — it might be the pressure you're carrying.In this episode, Lama breaks down how internal and external pressure quietly shuts down your ability to connect and feel attracted to someone, and what it actually takes to show up relaxed, open, and ready to let someone in.Ready to go deeper? Visit https://www.lamaaboubakr.c
The void that keeps you chasing
A lot of people aren't actually looking for marriage — they're looking to feel chosen. And that one difference changes everything.In this episode, Lama gets honest about why the search feels so exhausting, what it means if you'd stop wanting marriage after a certain age, and how to figure out whether you're chasing a companion or chasing validation.Ready to go deeper? Visit https://www.lamaaboubak
The missing link to your dua for marriage
You've been making dua — but something still feels off. This episode is about why.In this episode, Lama breaks down the one thing most people are missing when they ask Allah for a spouse, and why your dua feels watered down when you're more focused on what seems impossible than on what Allah is actually capable of.Ready to go deeper?Visit https://www.lamaaboubakr.com/ for 1-on-1 coaching and every
The way God wraps your spouse
What if the way Allah sends your spouse looks completely different from what you imagined?In this episode, Lama talks about how rigid expectations around age, race, divorce, status, height, and “types” can block genuinely beautiful marriage opportunities. She breaks down the difference between core values that matter — like deen, character, and emotional safety — versus preferences that may be roo
How to trust your gut when making decisions
Should I keep going or let it go? If you're constantly second-guessing yourself, you might not have a decision problem — you might have a trust problem.In this episode, Lama breaks down the four types of decisions you'll face when getting to know someone, how to tell the difference between your gut and your fear, and how to finally trust yourself enough to move forward.Ready to go deeper? Visit ht
How to handle uncertainty in relationships
Afraid of what might happen if things don't work out? That fear isn't about the outcome — it's about what you're afraid it will mean about you.In this episode, Lama breaks down why uncertainty feels so scary in relationships, how to identify what you're actually afraid of, and how to build the kind of inner confidence that lets you show up fully no matter what happens.Ready to go deeper? Visit htt
The effort it takes to get married
Getting married isn't just about finding the right person — it's about becoming someone who can actually receive and give love without conditions.In this episode, Lama breaks down the real inner work that leads to a healthy marriage, why your capacity to love someone else is directly tied to how much you accept yourself, and what it truly means to show up ready.Ready to go deeper? Visit https://ww
Fearful avoidant and the ICK
You want to get married, but every time someone good comes along, you get the ick and run. Sound familiar?In this episode, Lama breaks down the fearful-avoidant attachment style — the push and pull, the self-sabotage, and why you keep attracting emotionally unavailable people. If you've ever felt torn between wanting love and being terrified of it, this one will finally make it make sense.Ready to
Over fixing yourself for marriage
If you've been telling yourself you'll be ready for marriage once you fix this one last thing — this episode is for you.In this episode, Lama breaks down why over-healing can actually be a form of avoidance, why you don't need to be perfect to deserve love, and why you are fully lovable right now — flaws and all.Ready to go deeper?Visit https://www.lamaaboubakr.com/ for 1-on-1 coaching and everyth
The Test of Conviction to get married
Every time you tell yourself it's probably not going to happen, you're failing a test you don't even know you're taking.In this episode, Lama breaks down how the search for a spouse is actually a spiritual test of conviction — and why believing in what Allah can do for you, over what your fears tell you, is the only thing that actually moves things forward.Ready to go deeper?Visit https://www.lama
How to be unshakably confident in relationships
Waiting for someone to text back so you can finally feel okay? That's not about them — that's about you.In this episode, Lama breaks down why you keep outsourcing your worth to other people's actions, how to identify the thoughts behind the anxiety, and how to shift into a confidence that no one can take from you.Ready to go deeper? Visit https://www.lamaaboubakr.com/ for 1-on-1 coaching and every
Having doubts about the person you want to marry
Having doubts about someone doesn't mean they're the wrong person — it means your brain is doing exactly what it's supposed to do.In this episode,Lama breaks down why doubt is a normal part of getting to know someone, what to do when the "what ifs" feel overwhelming, and how to tell the difference between real deal breakers and your brain just trying to keep you safe.Ready to go deeper? Visit http
How to detach without giving up on marriage
Detachment doesn't mean giving up — it means stop letting marriage determine your worth.In this episode, Lama breaks down what it actually means to detach from the outcome, why needing marriage so badly is the very thing pushing it away, and how to go after what you want from a place of peace instead of panic.Ready to go deeper? Visit https://www.lamaaboubakr.com/ for 1-on-1 coaching and everythin
When no one gets your pain
Everyone is carrying a secret pain that no one else will ever fully understand — even the people who look like they have it all together.In this episode, Lama talks about why that loneliness exists, why getting married won't make it go away, and how channeling that pain to Allah is the greatest gift you can give yourself.Ready to go deeper?Visit https://www.lamaaboubakr.com/ for 1-on-1 coaching an
The fear of being stuck in marriage
If you're constantly struggling to find someone attractive or connect with anyone, it might not be about them — it might be the fear of getting stuck.In this episode, Lama breaks down how the fear of settling is quietly blocking you from actually connecting with anyone, what settling really means, and why finding someone you want to struggle with is the whole point.Ready to go deeper? Visit https:
When it's hard to be physically attracted to them
Still struggling to feel physically attracted to someone who checks every other box? This episode picks up where part one left off.In this episode, Lama breaks down why nitpicking on someone's looks is usually about your own insecurities — and how learning to see yourself as worthy, flaws and all, is what actually opens you up to real attraction.Ready to go deeper? Visit https://www.lamaaboubakr.c
What if I'm not physically attracted enough?
Physical attraction is important — but your mind might be blocking you from seeing it clearly.In this episode, Lama breaks down why your standards of attractiveness are often rooted in insecurity and outside noise, how to tell the difference between genuine incompatibility and self-sabotage, and when it's okay to simply let someone go.Ready to go deeper?Visit https://www.lamaaboubakr.com/ for 1-on
How to unblock the path to love
Before you can find the right person, you need to understand what's actually driving your search....and for most people, it's a wound, not a desire.In this episode, Lama breaks down the three things every human needs to feel — loved, safe, and significant — and why looking for a spouse to fill those voids is what's keeping you stuck in the first place.Ready to go deeper?Visit https://www.lamaaboub
The faith it takes to get married
There's a lot of noise out there about a "marriage crisis", and it's making things worse, not better.In this episode, Lama gets real about why fear and scarcity thinking are the biggest things blocking you from getting married, and why the only foundation that actually works is faith in Allah's power over your own logic.Ready to go deeper? Visit https://www.lamaaboubakr.com/ for 1-on-1 coaching an
How to look for what you want in a spouse
Most people think they know what they want in a spouse,But do they really?In this episode, Lama breaks down how to figure out what you're actually looking for, the difference between being picky and being intentional, and how to stop letting ego-driven standards block you from finding the right one.Ready to go deeper? Visit https://www.lamaaboubakr.com/ for 1-on-1 coaching and everything you need
Building your values as a screening tool
If you don't know what you value, you'll let anyone into your life, and wonder why it never works out.In this episode, Lama breaks down why understanding your values is the most powerful screening tool you have, and how building a life you actually love is what attracts the right person into it.Ready to go deeper? Visit https://www.lamaaboubakr.com/ for 1-on-1 coaching and everything you need to f
Decide to get married this year
The biggest difference between people who get married and people who don't isn't luck, looks, or circumstances It's a decision.In this episode, Lama breaks down what it actually means to decide you're getting married, why that one shift changes everything, and how to stop letting fear and self-doubt talk you out of something Allah already wants for you.Ready to go deeper? Visit https://www.lamaabo
How to determine compatibility
"We just weren't compatible." But what does that actually mean?In this episode, Lama breaks down what compatibility really is, why most people are focused on the wrong things, and how to figure out what actually matters in a marriage before you get there.Ready to go deeper? Visit https://www.lamaaboubakr.com/ for 1-on-1 coaching and everything you need to find the spouse you're looking for.Watch
How to actually manifest your spouse the Islamic way
Everyone's talking about manifesting, but most people are using it in a way that has nothing to do with Islam. So what does it actually mean to manifest your spouse the right way?In this episode, Lama breaks down the Islamic perspective on manifestation, why your dua loses power when you've mentally already given up, and how true submission to Allah is what actually moves things forward.Ready to g
How to make the marriage process easier
The marriage process is already a journey, but most people are making it so much harder than it needs to be without even realising it.In this episode, Lama breaks down the hidden thoughts and stories that are weighing you down and keeping you stuck, and how cleaning them up can make the whole process feel lighter, clearer, and a lot less painful.Ready to go deeper? Visit https://www.lamaaboubakr.c
Getting what you expect in relationships
Whatever you expect in relationships, your brain will find a way to make it your reality.......good or bad.In this episode, Lama breaks down how your expectations of the opposite gender are quietly shaping how you show up, who you attract, and why the same patterns keep repeating, and what to do to finally change it.Ready to go deeper?Visit https://www.lamaaboubakr.com/ for 1-on-1 coaching and eve
The identity of people who get married
Ever wonder why some people seem to find a spouse effortlessly, while others keep hitting the same wall? It's not luck.....it's identity.In this episode, Lama breaks down the real difference between people who get married and people who don't, and it has everything to do with how you see yourself, not how hard you're trying.Ready to go deeper? Visit https://www.lamaaboubakr.com/ for 1-on-1 coachin
your self-concept attracts the spouse you want
Every failed attempt at a relationship can quietly chip away at how you see yourself, and without realising it, that becomes the very thing keeping you stuck.In this episode, Lama breaks down why your self-concept is the foundation of everything when it comes to finding a spouse, and how the way you see yourself is exactly what you'll keep attracting.....until you change it.Ready to go deeper? Vis
The way to find the spouse you're looking for
Think of finding a spouse like going to the mall. If you walk in desperate and convinced you'll never find what you want, the whole experience feels exhausting. But if you walk in grounded, curious, and knowing you'll be okay either way… everything changes.In this episode,Lama breaks down why the process feels so draining for most people and how to approach it from a calm, logical place — so you s
How to know if it's written for you
If you've had a few failed experiences and started thinking "maybe marriage just isn't written for me," this episode is going to change how you see that. Because the moment you decide it's not written for you, you start making that your reality.Lama breaks down why that thought is keeping you stuck, what to replace it with, and how to actually show up on your search with conviction — because what
The truth about finding your spouse
If the search for a spouse feels exhausting and emotional, you're probably approaching it the wrong way.In this episode, Lama breaks down the one mindset shift that changes everything , every person you meet is either your person or they're not. Full stop.No more taking rejections personally, no more trying to force connections that aren't there. Just a clear, grounded approach to finding the righ
