Terri Cole, a licensed psychotherapist and transformation coach, hosts a show focused on helping people overcome fear, break free from the past, and live more fulfilling lives. The podcast covers practical psychology, self-improvement, meditation, mindfulness, and personal transformation strategies. Episodes include expert interviews, listener Q&A, and actionable advice for creating freedom in all areas of life.
Episodes
879 - Secondary Suffering and Father Wounds: When You Make Your Pain Worse
When something painful happens, do you also turn on yourself for feeling hurt? In this solo episode, I talk about secondary suffering, the extra pain we pile on through shame and harsh self-judgment, and how it often traces back to father wounds. I also share two steps you can use to start interrupting it. Get the full show notes at terricole.com/879
878 A Case for Magic with Psychiatrist Dr. Ellen Vora
What if the knowing you feel in your body is a kind of wisdom you were taught to ignore? Board-certified psychiatrist Dr. Ellen Vora joins me to talk about her new book, Season of the Witch, why women's intuition has been suppressed for centuries, and how we can reclaim it. We also talk about how staying connected to loved ones after death can change the way we grieve. Get the full show notes at t
877 Coercive Control and Father Wounds: Why You Tolerate What You Tolerate
Have you ever been told you're overreacting when you were actually scared? In this episode, I'm talking about coercive control, the often psychological pattern of intimidation and manipulation that slowly chips away at your freedom. I also look at how unhealed father wounds can make this kind of control feel normal, and what healthy love looks like instead. Get the full show notes at terricole.com
876 A Path Through Grief with Dr. Laura Berman
How do we find our way forward after an unimaginable loss? In this deeply moving episode, I sit down with Dr. Laura Berman to explore her personal journey through grief, the healing practices that helped her navigate the loss of her son, and how we can honor our loved ones while finding meaning and hope again. Get the full show notes at terricole.com/876
875 Father Wound Day
What if the patterns you struggle with today are rooted in the relationship you had with your father? In this special episode, I'm celebrating Father Wound Day by sharing an exclusive reading of the introduction and first chapter of my new book, exploring how unseen childhood wounds shape our self-worth, relationships, and the way we show up in the world. Get the full show notes at terricole.com/8
874 Creating a Calm Life in a Chaotic World with Cory Allen
Feeling overwhelmed by the constant noise and demands of everyday life? In this episode, I sit down with mindfulness expert and author Cory Allen to explore how we can break free from urgency culture, set healthier boundaries with technology, and rediscover a sense of calm in an increasingly overstimulated world. Get the full show notes at terricole.com/874
873 The Invisible Father Wound: The Lasting Impact of Emotional Neglect
Did you grow up with a father who was physically present but emotionally unavailable? In this episode, I explore how paternal emotional neglect can leave lasting wounds that shape our self-worth, relationships, and emotional well-being, and what we can do to begin healing. Get the full show notes at terricole.com/873
872 Break Your Relationship Patterns with Sabrina Zohar
Why do we keep repeating the same relationship patterns, even when we know better? In this episode, bestselling author Sabrina Zohar joins me to unpack why we confuse chemistry with compatibility, how childhood wounds shape our relationships, and what it really takes to break the cycle. Get the full show notes at terricole.com/872
871 Why Children of Narcissistic Parents Struggle With Romantic Love
In this episode, I explore why growing up with a narcissistic parent can lead to repeated relationships with narcissistic partners, how childhood conditioning can cause us to mistake familiarity for compatibility, and what we can do to break the cycle. Get the full show notes at terricole.com/871
870 Creating a Life of Meaning with John Miles
I sit down with John R. Miles, host of the Passion Struck podcast and author of The Mattering Effect: Creating a Life of Meaning and Worth, to explore what it truly means to feel valued and know that we matter. We discuss how the science of mattering can help us find greater meaning, create more balance, build reciprocal relationships, and develop a deeper sense of belonging and connection in both
869 Understanding the Good Girl Syndrome
In this episode, we explore the hidden costs of "good girl syndrome"—the people-pleasing, conflict-avoiding patterns that leave so many women overextended and underappreciated. Learn how these childhood survival strategies become adult liabilities, and practical affirmations and boundary-setting tools to help you reclaim your authentic self without apology. Get the full show notes at terricole.com
868 The Father Wound: Authority & Money
The relationship you had with your father may be influencing your career, earning potential, and financial confidence in ways you have never considered. In this episode, I explore the connection between father wounds, authority figures, and money, helping you recognize how early family dynamics can continue to shape your relationship with success and financial security. Uncover the patterns operat
867 Stop Self-Sabotage with Jessica Anne Pressler
In this episode, psychotherapist and debut novelist Jessica Ann Pressler joins me to explore the concept of the "Traitor Within," the part of us formed in childhood that self-sabotages our adult relationships and emotional wellbeing. Drawing on nearly four decades of clinical experience, Jessica unpacks narcissistic abuse, trauma bonding, and why intelligent, self-aware people still stay in toxic
866 Childhood Adaptations + The Father Wound
The coping strategies you developed as a child were brilliant and necessary at the time, but they may now be quietly controlling your adult life in ways you have never examined. In this episode, I walk you through six powerful childhood adaptation archetypes, helping you identify which patterns are keeping you isolated, exhausted, or disconnected from what you truly want. This is an invitation to
865 Raising Conscious Kids with Dr. Shefali
In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Shefali, a clinical psychologist, founder of the Conscious Parenting Movement, and New York Times bestselling author, to discuss her two newly released books: Raising Conscious Daughters and Raising Conscious Sons. Dr. Shefali shares her origin story, growing up in India under a rigid patriarchy before arriving in America at 21 with $300 and one year to build a
864 Father Wound & HFC
Are you the one who handles everything for all the people? Are you the fixer? The one who rarely needs or asks for help? Are you the one who does all the things for all the people? Be honest with yourself. If so, you may have a father wound that is hiding in plain sight — because the very capability you have keeps this unhealed wound hidden. That is exactly what this episode is about: why the fath
863 Build an Empowered Blended Family with Cameron Normand
Build an Empowered Blended Family with Cameron Normand In this episode of The Terri Cole Show, I sit down with nationally recognized stepfamily expert Cameron Normand to explore the unique challenges stepmoms face and why traditional parenting advice often doesn't work for blended families. Cameron shares practical guidance on building relationships with stepchildren, navigating parenting and disc
862 How the Father Wound Impacts Emotional Safety in Relationships
Having an unhealed father wound impacts your ability to create emotional safety in your relationships. If you grew up in a house where emotional safety was not part of your relationship with your father, calm can feel weird or unfamiliar, and vulnerability can feel risky. Trusting another person to be there for you, if that wasn't your experience, may feel counterintuitive. In this episode, we're
861 Feel Hot, Healthy, and Unbothered With Liz Tenuto
What if the key to better sleep and less stress wasn't doing more, but moving less? In this episode, I sit down with Liz Tenuto, aka The Workout Witch, to talk about somatic exercises, nervous system regulation, and why so many of us can't sleep or relax. Liz teaches tiny, lazy movements that release stored tension from the body, and she demonstrates three of them during our conversation. We also
860 The Father Wound–Boundary Connection
If setting a boundary feels like you're risking the whole relationship, your unhealed father wound might be why. When the person who was supposed to protect you didn't, you can grow up without the sense that you're even allowed to say no. In this episode, I'm walking through how the father wound shapes your boundaries, the different father archetypes and the specific boundary struggles each one cr
859 On Our Knees with Regena (Mama Gena) Thomashauer
What if surrender could help you reconnect with pleasure, heal emotionally, and feel fully alive again? In this powerful conversation, I sit down with Regena Thomashauer to explore surrender, pleasure, self-healing, and emotional healing. We talk about why high-functioning women can become exhausted from trying to control everything, how surrender is different from submission, and what happens whe
858 The Art of Self-Soothing (396 Re-Run)
Let's say you have a rough interaction with someone, a disappointing outcome, or you get bad news–what do you do to help yourself feel better? Do you have a couple of drinks? Maybe smoke a little weed? Or eat a tub of ice cream? No judgment here, but I want to invite you to think about it because many of us confuse self-numbing with self-soothing. In this episode, you'll learn my favorite self-so
857 The Power of 'Moving Art' for Mental Health with Louie Schwartzberg
What if beauty could change the way you experience life? In this conversation, I sit down with visionary filmmaker Louie Schwartzberg to talk about gratitude, nature, beauty, wonder, and mental health—and why paying attention to the natural world can help us become more present and connected. Louis shares the story behind his breathtaking films Fantastic Fungi, Gratitude Revealed, and Moving Art,
856 Signs of Abandonment Issues (374 Rerun)
Do you find that you attach unusually quickly to people, whether in friendships or romantic relationships? Do you stay in relationships that you know are bad for you because the thought of being alone scares you more than staying in a bad relationship? Or do you repeatedly find yourself in relationships with unavailable people? If you answered yes to any of these questions, you might have abandonm
855 Being Nice to Avoid Conflict Isn't Nice, It's Controlling - Here's Why (714 Rerun)
Are you a nice person? Do you think it's possible to be too nice? Or that wanting to be nice is an excuse some high-functioning codependents hide behind to avoid conflict? In my personal and professional experience, it is possible to be too nice, and it's not great for your relationships. In this episode, we'll explore what it means to be nice, what being too nice looks like, why it matters, and
854 Discover Your Anxiety Type with Noelle McWard Aquino
Anxiety doesn't always look like fear — sometimes it looks like control, perfectionism, people pleasing, and doing everything "right." In this episode of The Terri Cole Show, I explore the types of anxiety that often hide beneath high-functioning behaviors, codependency, and the struggle to set healthy boundaries. I sit down with anxiety expert Noelle McWard Akino to explain how anxiety can show u
853 5 Signs your emotional boundaries need work (341 Rerun)
Do you ever feel responsible for the feelings of others? Do you overgive and overfunction? Do you suffer from chronic indecision? If any of those things resonate, today's episode is for you. I am going to share with you five signs that your emotional boundaries need help. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/853
852 ADHD Regulation with Jenna Free
ADHD nervous system regulation may be the missing piece behind ADHD paralysis, overwhelm, and executive dysfunction. What if many ADHD symptoms aren't just ADHD—but signs of a nervous system stuck in fight or flight? In this episode, I sit down with therapist and ADHD expert Jenna Free to explore a different way of understanding adult ADHD. We discuss why ADHD nervous system regulation can be more
851 10 Signs You're Suppressing Your Anger (354 Rerun)
When you're upset with someone about something, do you: Say nothing, but silently keep score? Talk to other people about it? Ice the person out? Send them a passive-aggressive or sarcastic text? If any of those rang a bell, you are not alone which is why in this week's episode, I'm breaking down the top 10 indicators that you might be suppressing and/or unconsciously repressing your anger. Raisi
850 Fair Fighting with Kim Polinder
Conflict resolution isn't about avoiding arguments—it's about learning how to repair them. In this conversation, I explore why couples keep having the same fight, how attachment styles affect relationships, and why emotional regulation matters even more than communication when conflict arises. If you've ever wondered why arguments keep repeating or how to repair after an argument without feeling m
849 Spot Emotional Manipulation (313 Rerun)
Have you ever been in an argument with someone and before the end of the argument, even though they have done something quite egregious, you find yourself apologizing? Have you ever been in a heated exchange with someone and they straight up deny the thing you know they did? This could sound like, "What are you talking about?"; "I never said/did that."; or, "I'm worried about you." If you are nodd
848 Art Imitating Life with Filmmaker Tracie Laymon
What happens when the father you needed never showed up? In this episode, I sit down with filmmaker Tracie Laymon, creator of Bob Trevino Likes It, to explore how growing up with an emotionally unavailable father shaped her life, relationships, and sense of self. We talk about the father wound, people-pleasing, self-abandonment, healing through safe relationships, and why chosen family can become
847 Codependency: From Confusion to Clarity (349 Rerun)
Are you confused about what it means to be codependent? Do you ever wonder what codependency looks like in practice? If you're nodding your head yes, that's understandable. In my experience, there is often confusion around the topic of codependency, with a ton of misconceptions and a plethora of myths clouding up what it looks like in real life. In today's episode, I'm delivering rock-solid clari
846 Come Home to Yourself with Elena Brower
Are you exhausted from trying to "fix" everyone and everything in your life? In this episode, I sit down with my dear friend, yoga mentor, and author Elena Brower to discuss why letting go is the ultimate act of self-love. We've been conditioned to think that love means fixing, controlling, or "managing" the people around us. But what if the most powerful thing you could do is simply hold space? I
845 Disordered Boundaries + High-Functioning Codependency: What You Need to Know (716 Rerun)
"Is she entitled? Or have you just been serving yourself up on a platter?" My therapist asked me that years ago, while I was mid-rant about a friend who kept asking me for favors. It stopped me cold, and it changed how I understood my own patterns. If you're the one who says "I got it" before anyone finishes asking, who anticipates everyone's needs, who lies awake wondering if you came off as s
844 The Balanced Stepmom with Jamie Scrimgeour
Are you feeling like an outsider in your own home? Does the pressure to be the "perfect" stepmom have you constantly over-functioning, resentful, and burnt out? In this episode, I'm joined by Jamie Scrimger, the founder of the "Kick-Ass Stepmom" community. We dive deep into the messy, complicated, and often painful reality of navigating blended family dynamics. We aren't just talking about tips—we
843 Six Ways to Build Emotional Safety in Your Relationships (confirmed)
Last week, we talked about what emotional insecurity looks like, the patterns that tell you safety is missing in a relationship. This week is about what comes next: what actually creates emotional safety. Emotionally safe relationships do not just happen by accident. They are built through small, consistent behaviors over time. Trust, respect, honesty, and repair are skills, not lucky outcomes.
842 Sustainable Healing with Koya Webb
Have you ever achieved your biggest goals only to end up feeling completely exhausted, lonely, and burnt out? In this episode, I'm sitting down with my soul-sister and nervous system regulation expert, Koya Webb, to unpack the hidden trap of high-functioning codependency and people-pleasing. Koya opens up about her raw "dark night of the soul" moment—crying in a bathtub after hosting a massively
841 5 Signs of Emotional Insecurity in Relationships
Last week, we talked about what emotional insecurity looks like, the patterns that tell you safety is missing in a relationship. This week is about what comes next: what actually creates emotional safety. Emotionally safe relationships do not just happen by accident. They are built through small, consistent behaviors over time. Trust, respect, honesty, and repair are skills, not lucky outcomes. He
840 Bless + Release with Danielle LaPorte
If you've been carrying anger, disappointment, guilt, or emotional baggage, this episode offers a powerful new perspective on healing, peace, and personal growth. In this conversation with Danielle LaPorte, we explore why emotional healing starts with compassion instead of control. We talk about resentment, rejection, gratitude, forgiveness, emotional resilience, and the surprising connection betw
839 You Can Raise Your EQ at Any Age. Here Is Where to Start.
I am obsessed with emotional intelligence. It is something I have always done naturally without knowing what it was called. Emotional intelligence, or EQ, measures your capacity to understand, perceive, and manage emotions, your own and other people's. While IQ measures cognitive and logical ability, EQ measures your capacity for interpersonal success. Higher emotional intelligence is linked to b
838 Love Hard on Purpose with John Kim (The Angry Therapist)
Stop falling into the anxious-avoidant attachment trap. In this episode, learn how to build a healthy relationship and experience corrective love. Today, I'm sitting down for a deeply personal, raw, and honest conversation with my longtime friend John Kim (aka The Angry Therapist) to discuss his brand new book, Love Hard on Purpose: Toss the Blueprints, Build Something Honest. We are stripping awa
837 5 Things That Sound Like Boundaries But Aren't
A lot of what gets called "setting a boundary" out on the internet and in real life isn't a boundary at all. Boundaries are not punishment. They are not a lever for controlling other people. They are not what you do when someone makes you mad. I wrote a whole book about this called Boundary Boss, and the definition is simple. Your boundaries are your preferences, your desires, your limits, and
836 The Art of 'Rewilding' with Jane Green
In this episode, I sit down with bestselling author Jane Green to talk about her rewilding memoir and her powerful journey of midlife reinvention. We explore what happens when a woman reclaims her identity after success, marriage, and emotional breakdown — and what it really means to rebuild a life rooted in authenticity, boundaries, and self-worth. We also dive into themes like the empty nester i
835 The 4 Phrases HFCs Say Without Realizing It
"It's fine." "I got it." "Don't worry about me." "I'll figure it out." If you say one of these without thinking, several times a day, this episode is for you. These are the phrases that keep us stuck in high-functioning codependent behavior, and they sound generous. But there is an invisibility to what we are doing, and a cost. These automatic behaviors are a nervous system response, habituated ov
834 Better Reproductive Healthcare with Nikki Sapiro Vinckier
Ever felt ignored, dismissed, or completely rushed by your doctor? In this episode, OB-GYN physician assistant and medical advocate Nikki Sapiro Vincier exposes the systemic flaws inside reproductive healthcare—and shares exactly how you can take control of your medical care today. I sat down with Nikki to unpack the disturbing reality of medical gaslighting, why it takes an average of 7 to 10 yea
833 Why High Functioning Women Don't Know What Their Needs Are, and How to Identify Them
Do you know what you need? Not what your kids need, or what your partner needs, or what your team at work needs. What you need. In my therapy practice, when I ask high-functioning women what they need for the coming week, many of them either freeze or hand me a list of responsibilities. Things they have to get done. These things are not the same thing. Read the show notes for today's episode at te
832 Master Uncertainty with Simone Stolzoff
Have you ever found yourself paralyzed by a major life decision, desperately wishing you just had the right answer? In this episode of the show, I sit down with author and journalist Simone Stolzoff to dive into a topic we all struggle with: our deep aversion to the unknown. Simone shares the inspiration behind his latest book, How to Not Know: The Value of Uncertainty in a World That Demands Answ
831 How to Manage Anxiety in Anxious Times (And What to Look at First)
For the past six months, people have been asking me to do an episode on managing anxiety. We are living in genuinely anxious times, and the real things to be anxious about are not in short supply. So here it is. For me, anxiety feels like unease. Like I am forgetting something. Like something is wrong, even when I cannot point to what it is. I have noticed a clear uptick in clients describing this
830 Optimize Your Mental Health with Dr. Paul Conti
This conversation with the incredible Dr. Paul Conti changed how I look at mental health. We've all been taught that we're driven by aggression or pleasure—but Paul reveals there is a third "Generative Drive" that is the actual key to our wellness. In this episode, we dive deep into his new book, What's Going Right. We talk about why we are so "lost" in negativity, how to move past the stigma of m
829 The Daughters Who Grew Up Taking Care of Their Mothers (And What It Costs Them as Adults)
Most little girls grow up being cared for by their mothers. Some little girls grow up caring for their mothers. This episode is for the second group. We are talking about parentified daughters. What it means, why it happens, and how it may still be impacting your life now. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/829
828 Choosing Friendships That Help Us Grow with Alex Elle
I've always said that our relationships are the mirrors of our internal world, but what happens when you realize a friendship has reached its expiration date? In this episode, I'm joined by the incredible Alex Elle (New York Times bestselling author of The Company We Keep) to dive deep into the "taboo" side of friendship. We're talking about why it's okay to outgrow people, how to handle that "vis
827 Why Women Don't Talk About Their Mothers (And What It Costs Them)
We talk about everything now. Trauma, therapy, childhood, the things that happened to us, and the things we are still working through. Almost everything is fair game. Except this one. When the relationship with your mother is a painful one, the cultural agreement is that you keep it to yourself. On today's episode, I'm sharing why that's a bad idea and what you can do to break the taboo. Read the
826 Stop Overthinking + Calm Your Body with Jessica Ortner
Struggling with anxiety or overthinking? Learn the science of EFT Tapping for instant stress relief and nervous system regulation. In this episode, I'm joined by New York Times bestselling author Jessica Ortner to dive into her brand-new book, Rewired. Jessica reveals the science behind EFT Tapping and how it can literally lower your cortisol by 43% in minutes. We explore why your brain gets "stuc
825 What a Mean Mother Leaves Behind (And How to Heal It)
If you had a mean or rejecting mother, you probably learned early not to talk about it. People don't want to believe it. They say things like "you only have one mother" or "she did her best," and suddenly you're defending your own experience to someone who can't imagine having it. That isolation is often the first wound. This episode continues the mother wound conversation from last week. While e
824 Boundaries for Family Drama with Ashley Oerman
Is it possible to heal when the person who raised you continues to cause chaos? In this episode, Terri sits down with journalist and editor Ashley Oerman to dismantle the stigma surrounding toxic family dynamics. Following the viral conversation sparked by recent national debates on family estrangement, they dive into the heart of a question many struggle with: Do you have to go "No Contact," or i
823 The Seven Mother Types and the Adults They Create
Have you ever wondered if your relationship with your mother was normal? Or noticed patterns in your adult relationships and traced them back to something that happened long before you had words for it? Mother-daughter relationships can be among the most complicated we ever have. Whether the dynamic between you was loving, painful, confusing, or somewhere in between, it impacted you. After almost
822 Become a Love Magnet with Dr. Morgan Anderson
Is the "Male Loneliness Epidemic" actually a human connection crisis? I'm sitting down with clinical psychologist Dr. Morgan Anderson to break down why avoidant attachment is skyrocketing and how we can rebel against a system that keeps us isolated. In this episode, Dr. Morgan shares her personal journey from "relational trauma" to becoming a secure attachment expert. We dive deep into the rising
821 The Three Lives You Could Be Living (And How to Design Them)
Vic and I were watching a Richard Feynman lecture on YouTube recently, one of those deep dives into time, space, and quantum physics that makes your brain hurt in the best way. What struck me wasn't the physics. It was something underneath it, about how much we love certainty, how hard our minds work to manufacture it even where it doesn't exist, and how that love of certainty quietly limits what
820 From Anxious to Secure Attachment with Trevor Hanson
Whether you struggle with the fear of abandonment or you tend to shut down when things get close, this conversation is for you. In this episode, I'm joined by psychotherapist Trevor Hansen to discuss why so many of us get stuck in the attachment style "research phase" and how to actually rewire your brain for secure attachment. We dive deep into the "origin stories" that drive our adult behavior
819 Auto-Accommodating Is Costing You More Than You Think. Here's How to Stop.
Do you say yes before checking your calendar? Jump in to fix problems that aren't yours to solve? Adjust your plans without a second thought to keep the peace? If any of this sounds familiar, you might be an auto-accommodator. And trust me, it's costing you more than you realize. About two years ago, I shared a story about auto-accommodating that struck a nerve with so many of you. The response wa
818 Inside the Mind of a Master Storyteller with Tom Fontana
How does a 3-time Emmy winner create the most psychologically complex characters in TV history? Join me and the legendary Tom Fontana, showrunner of many series including "Oz" and "Homicide: Life on the Street" as we deconstruct the creative process, storytelling, and the human psyche. In this episode, we dive deep into the "Origin Story" of a master storyteller. Tom shares his unique 3-part frame
817 You Were Born Worthy. So Why Doesn't It Feel That Way?
Someone from our community recently sent me an email. She didn't understand why she had low self-worth, and she wanted to know if it was something she could change as an adult. The answer is a resounding YES. We're going to cover how low self-worth develops, what it looks like when it's running in the background of your life, and what you can do to build something more solid, because building mor
816 From Manuscript to Market: Writing a Book That Sells with my Editor Joelle Hann
Do you have a book in you, waiting to be written? Or are you just curious what a developmental editor actually does for an author? To answer those questions, I invited an extra-special guest on the Terri Cole Show: The editor I work with on my very own books, Joelle Hann. We chat about how Joelle has become such a precious part of my book-writing team, how she got her start as a developmental edi
815 How Self-Soothing and Coregulation Can Help When Things Don't Feel Okay
You've probably heard the terms emotional self-regulation and dysregulated nervous system. They're everywhere right now, and for good reason. But I want to make sure we're all on the same page about what dysregulation actually looks like when it's happening to you, in your body, on a Tuesday afternoon. That's what I'm getting into on this episode of The Terri Cole Show. How dysregulation presents
814 Be Your Own Bestie with Misha Brown
Are you your own worst critic? In this episode of The Terri Cole Show, Terri sits down with viral content creator and New York Times bestselling author Misha Brown (@YourBestieMisha) to discuss his new book, Be Your Own Bestie: A No-Nonsense Guide to Changing the Way You Treat Yourself. Misha shares his "Hero Origin Story"—moving from being bullied to becoming an empathic powerhouse for millions.
813 How to Make Friends as an Adult (and Keep the Good Ones)
We have lots of social science about the benefits of having good friends. But I hear from a lot of you that you're not sure how to find or make friends in this season of life. That is what we will be exploring in this episode. I just got back from Costa Rica with girlfriends that I've known since I was four. We're all turning 62 this year, which means we've been friends longer than most marriages
812 Collaborative Co-Parenting with Gabriella Pomare
Whether you're navigating a high-conflict divorce or trying to prevent everyday burnout in your marriage, award-winning family lawyer and co-parenting expert Gabriella Pomari has advice for you. In this episode, we're sitting down to explore why so many successful women fall into the trap of over-functioning. Plus, how to reclaim your power through cleaner boundaries. Read the show notes for today
811 Why Certain People and Places Leave You Completely Drained
Do you find yourself exhausted after interacting with certain people or in certain situations? With the state of the world, you might just be exhausted from listening to the news. But if you look at the patterns, you'll probably see there are certain situations and certain people that drain your energy more than others. I'm talking about empaths and highly sensitive people. I'm going to explain th
810 Life Beyond the Script with Joan Lunden
On today's episode, I'm sitting down with iconic journalist and former Good Morning America host Joan Lunden to discuss her brand-new memoir, Life Beyond the Script. She shares the accidentally radical moments that defined her career—from becoming Sacramento's first weather girl with zero experience to being the first woman to bring a baby on set and advocate for breastfeeding on national televisi
809 What to Say When Someone Crosses the Line
Has someone ever asked you a question that felt invasive, judgmental, or just plain rude? Maybe it was a parent, a family member, or someone who thinks they're "just being caring." Your response may have been to freeze. Or smile and explain. Maybe you answered a question and later regretted it. If that sounds familiar, you're not alone. So many of us have been in that situation and thought aft
808 Change Your Life for the Better With Light Watkins
What if real transformation doesn't require blowing up your life? In this episode, Terri sits down with meditation teacher and author Light Watkins to discuss his book The Year You Transform and the fastest, most accessible path to lasting change. They explore why success doesn't always lead to fulfillment, the myth of the "Eat, Pray, Love" transformation, and how small, intentional discomfort (li
807 Scripts for When Conflict Makes You Freeze, Defend, or Shut Down
Many people can communicate just fine until a conflict arises. Then the nervous system gets activated, and suddenly you're either shutting down, getting defensive, or saying things you don't mean. Sound familiar? Our nervous systems get activated during conflict. It's normal for communication to be more challenging when you're activated than when you're not. That's just biology. When you underst
806 Conquering Fear with Jill Schulman
Does fear feel like a stoplight in your head? Have you ever backed down from something important because it scared you? Today's guest, former U.S. Marine Corps Officer Jill Schulman, is here to help you rethink how you respond to fear. Listen to learn why fear is a part of bravery and you should "do it scared" instead of waiting to feel fearless. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricol
805 Overwhelmed by Everything? Here's Your Psychological Survival Kit
I've been hearing from so many of you that you're feeling overwhelmed by what's happening in the world right now. And if you are, you're normal. Because it is overwhelming. We were not designed to be in this hyper-aroused nervous system state for as long as we've been. Our bodies aren't meant for it. Our minds aren't meant for it. And yet here we are, living in a 24-hour bad news cycle that litera
804 Creating Healthy Connections with Nedra Tawwab
Are you struggling with codependency, hyper-independence, or feeling lonely in your relationships? In this episode of The Terry Cole Show, therapist and bestselling author Nedra Tawwab shares powerful insights from her new book The Balancing Act: Creating Healthy Dependency and Connection Without Losing Yourself. We explore attachment styles, boundaries, healthy dependency, and how to stop expecti
803 Take Care of YOU This Valentine's Day (Single or Partnered!)
Whether you are or partnered this Valentine's Day, you shouldn't wait for someone else's permission to feel loved. By now, it's a tradition: I'm sharing my annual Valentine's Day ritual to help you rest, relaxed, and love yourself this Valentine's Day, no matter what your other plans are. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/803
802 How to Stay Safe in an Unsafe World with Dannah Eve
Dannah had dreamed of a career in law enforcement since childhood, but her life was turned upside down right before college graduation, when a trusted mentor told her she was too empathetic for a career as a federal agent. How could she move forward when her true self and her true calling seemed to conflict? She found a way– as an author and expert who helps women navigate life with both confidenc
801 The Difference Between Love for and Obligation to Your Family
Does your chest ever tighten when your phone rings and you see it's someone in your family who you know needs something? Does your stomach drop when you get a text message that says, "We need to talk"? If you're already exhausted before you say yes to a whole plethora of things your family of origin may need from you, this post is for you. Family obligations are something I have had a complicated
800 You Don't Look Stuck, But Are You? 9 Signs of High-Functioning Codependency
Do you think you're codependent? Or are you unsure? In this post, I'm going to walk you through nine questions to help you understand, pretty conclusively, if you are a high-functioning codependent. I want you to walk away with a clear snapshot of your own codependent behaviors. And I want to be clear: this is a no-judgment zone. If we get really judgmental, we're not going to look at what we need
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