Not As We Planned
Not As We Planned is an honest podcast about relationships, dating, marriage, divorce, and motherhood. Hosts Tash Gershfield and Carly Harris share their personal experiences, including navigating divorce as a single mum and dating again in your 30s. The show offers open conversations and shared stories about the messy and unexpected sides of life. New episodes are released every Thursday, with bonus episodes on Patreon.
Episodes
My Boyfriend Faked Cancer While My Mum Was Dying
Imagine watching your mum die from cancer while the man you trust tells you his cancer has come back too… only to discover he made the whole thing up.This week we hear from a listener whose boyfriend lied about having cancer while her mum was terminally ill, before she discovered he had been cheating all along. We also hear from a woman who spent years trying to save her marriage through debt, lie
I Married The Wrong Person… But It Led Me To The Love Of My Life
What if your biggest heartbreak is actually the beginning of your happiest chapter?This week, we share some of the most uplifting listener stories we’ve ever received. From a woman whose husband left her for her friend before she unexpectedly found the love of her life, to a listener whose husband walked out just weeks after their wedding and during pregnancy, only for her to build the blended fam
Hollie Dowding: Surviving Domestic Violence... How I Finally Sent My Abuser To Prison
When Hollie Dowding finally walked away from her abusive relationship, she never imagined the journey that would follow.In this powerful and emotional conversation, Hollie shares how coercive control, trauma bonding and domestic abuse slowly took over her life, why leaving wasn't as simple as "just walking away", and how she found the strength to fight for justice, ultimately seeing her abuser sen
My Husband Is The Perfect Dad… So Why Do I Think He’s Cheating?
A listener tells us about the growing feeling she can’t ignore… her husband seems like the perfect dad, but she’s convinced something isn’t right. Is she overthinking it, or are the signs pointing to something more?We unpack the story, share our honest advice, and discuss whether trust your instincts or give your partner the benefit of the doubt. Plus, we help a listener improve their dating profi
I Finally Left My Toxic Relationship… So Why Do I Miss Him?
You finally leave the relationship everyone told you was toxic… so why do you still miss it?This week, we unpack a listener’s confession about leaving a toxic partner only to find herself missing the chaos she fought so hard to escape. We discuss why healthy relationships can sometimes feel “boring,” the psychology behind toxic attraction, and whether it’s possible to break the cycle for good.We a
Why So Many Boys Are Struggling Today & What Parents Can Do with Raising Boys 2 Men
Boys today are facing challenges that previous generations never had to navigate, but are we raising them in the right way?This week, we’re joined by Raising Boys 2 Men for an honest conversation about why so many boys are struggling, the impact of modern parenting, social media, positive male role models, and what parents can do to raise confident, emotionally resilient young men. We also discuss
My Best Friend Lied To Me For 10 Years…
What would you do if you found out your best friend had been lying to you for over a decade?In this episode, we unpack one listener’s shocking story, review another dating profile, help a man navigating struggles in his marriage, and talk about the common mistake people make by confusing emotional unavailability with chemistry.If you’ve ever questioned your relationships or your dating choices, th
He Faked Cancer While I Was Pregnant
She thought she’d finally found her happy ending.After blending their families and welcoming a new baby together, everything seemed perfect… until she discovered the man she loved had been living a shocking double life.This week, we read one of the most unbelievable stories we’ve ever received, hear from a listener trapped in a controlling relationship after 12 years together, and discuss why your
He Ghosted Me For 5 Weeks… Then Came Back Like Nothing Happened
He disappeared without a word for five weeks… then came back expecting another chance.This week, Carly opens up about the emotional reality of co-parenting, we help a listener decide whether she’s holding on to someone’s potential instead of who they really are, hear from a woman who discovered her partner’s affair while she was eight months pregnant, and ask one very satisfying question… what hap
My Husband’s Entire Life Was A Lie
A listener discovers that her husband’s entire life was a lie.After 14 years together, two children and what seemed like the perfect marriage, one tiny clue unravels everything.We also hear about a disastrous date involving a murder trial, review another Hinge profile, and help a listener decide whether to break no contact with the woman he can’t stop thinking about.Get tickets for our tour: https
He Didn’t Forget My Birthday, He Ignored It
Tash opens up about her kids being around her boyfriend, the Snapchat message that wasn’t meant to be sent, when a break can help your relationship and the breadcrumbs that keep you there for too longGet tickets for our tour: https://www.aegpresents.co.uk/event/not-as-we-planned/Watch the podcast on YouTubeGet a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon:Join Our CommunityInstagramTikTok Hosted on Acast. See
He Left Me For a Man
Carly opens up about her grief, a story that will remind you that kids really do absorb the environment they are in and after 20 years together he left his wife for a man.Watch the podcast on YouTubeGet a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon:Join Our CommunityInstagramTikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Omg That’s NEW Information…I’m Terrified!!
You share the sluttiest things you’ve ever done, we give feedback on the first Hinge profile you’ve sent in, the separation after 20 years and the long-term emotional affair found out on Snapchat!Get tickets for our tour: https://www.aegpresents.co.uk/event/not-as-we-planned/Watch the podcast on YouTubeGet a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon:Join Our CommunityInstagramTikTok Hosted on Acast. See aca
I'm Always The One That's Left
We hear about a relationship where HE never wants to have sex, how drugs and alchohol ruined a relationship and wondering why you're always the one who's dumped.Watch the podcast on YouTubeGet a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon:Join Our CommunityInstagramTikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
I Trusted Him 100% Until I Checked His Phone
We discuss our most toxic traits in a relationship, when you get warned about your partner on your wedding day and when we discuss that two happy homes is better than one unhappy home!Watch the podcast on YouTubeGet a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon:Join Our CommunityInstagramTikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
How Many Red Flags Did I Ignore?
We discuss your pettiest reasons you stopped seeing someone, we hear about the suspicions of someone who thinks her partner may be sleeping with her former best friend and ignoring TOO many red flags.Watch the podcast on YouTubeGet a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon:Join Our CommunityInstagramTikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
I Was Ghosted 5 Years Into Our Relationship | Not As We Planned Podcast
We go down memory lane with all our previous relationships, you share the BRUTAL ways you were dumped, changing the way we date with the 3 men dating approach and when your partner decides he no longer wants a baby… but you’re now pregnantWatch the podcast on YouTubeGet a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon:Join Our CommunityInstagramTikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
I Found Out He's Been In Prison | Not As We Planned Podcast
This week, we discuss feeling like you have hit rock bottom, we have a look at the calibre of the dating pool and hear a story about a man whose little lies were just the tip of the iceberg.Watch the podcast on YouTubeGet a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon:Join Our CommunityInstagramTikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Turning Pain Into Power | Not As We Planned Podcast
When you think you need the concrete evidence but what you know is enough, when the man you thought was perfect turned out to be your biggest lesson, and questioning whether to continue the relationship or end it before you commit for life.Watch the podcast on YouTubeGet a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon:Join Our CommunityInstagramTikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
I Can't Stop Comparing Myself to His Ex | Not As We Planned Podcast
This episode discusses worrying about your boyfriend’s ex moving back into town, feeling on edge around a suspicious colleague who's just disappeared into thin air, and dealing with fears about your partner’s connection with his children’s mum. We also hear a powerful story of a woman who’s been through hell and come out stronger.Watch the podcast on YouTubeGet a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon:Jo
My Ex is my Guilty Pleasure | Not As We Planned Podcast
Tash shares her news which is life changing, when you have an affair with your ex and you’re not sure what to do, when going no contact is the only way, and when your boyfriend has been hiding a whole other life for over 2 years!Watch the podcast on YouTubeGet a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon:Join Our CommunityInstagramTikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Should I Have an Affair? | Not As We Planned Podcast
Carly shares a deeply emotional update while trying to hold everything together.We hear from a woman in a sexless marriage considering an affair with her boss, a chaotic dating story involving a back-door escape, and a shocking discovery that points to a partner cheating.Plus, a powerful anonymous confession from a mum who admits she’s been gaslighting her own son.Please vote for us as Podcast of
Colin @loudsingledad: Our First Male Guest! A Man’s Perspective on Separation, Coparenting & Dating! | Not As We Planned Podcast
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When Hope Ends Up Costing You A Lot | Not As We Planned Podcast
Tash shares the hurdles she’s had to face during her break-up, when you stick by your partner through his addiction, a man shares an extremely moving explanation of his addiction, and needing the courage to walk away from a man who has allowed you to carry him through your whole relationship.Watch the podcast on YouTubeGet a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon:Join Our CommunityInstagramTikTok Hosted
Sabrina Zohar: Everything You Need to Know About Dating & Relationships | Not As We Planned Podcast
Dating can feel confusing, frustrating and at times completely overwhelming. In this episode, renowned dating and relationship expert Sabrina Zohar joins us to answer your most pressing questions - from navigating no contact and mixed signals to building healthy, secure relationships that actually last.Watch the podcast on YouTubeGet a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon:Join Our CommunityInstagramTik
I Can’t Stop Sleeping With My Daughters Boyfriend | Not As We Planned Podcast
It’s a dating episode guys and we have delivered the goods! First up, the man that shat himself on a first date, the most shocking affair we have EVER come across, the romantic stroll along the dirty river and being the third wheel with the ‘platonic bestie’ Watch the podcast on YouTubeGet a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon:Join Our CommunityInstagramTikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/priva
Poor Excuse of a Man | Not As We Planned Podcast
We’ve had some shocking updates from our listeners. In one case, an affair turned out not to be just one, but two. Another story involved a man desperately trying to hide his whereabouts during a FaceTime call. One mum was excited for her family holiday, only to discover her partner had already been frolicking in the sea with another woman. Another man had an affair with someone 13 years younger a
You Need To Leave This Relationship NOW!! | Not As We Planned Podcast
Tash gives us an update on finally going no contact but what occurred beforehand, we share some dating stories just in time for valentines day… the man who wanted to drive into a brick wall, playing hide and seek when the date isn’t going well, being presented with a penis in the car, wanting to leave your marriage but guilt is stopping you and when you get caught in the lie!Watch the podcast on Y
The Worst Affair Story You've Ever Heard | Not As We Planned Podcast
When you realise you’re carrying your whole relationship, when your partner leaves you for someone else, when your baby daddy is mia for a year and then you find out the most shocking news as to why, and stopping the cohabiting with your ex!Watch the podcast on YouTubeGet a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon:Join Our CommunityInstagramTikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information
Me & My Boyfriend Broke Up | Not As We Planned Podcast
Tash shares the sad update that her and her boyfriend have broken up. When the man you’re with punishes you for keeping your baby, a random Facebook message that brings you the truth about your partner and the worst pocket dial confessionWatch the podcast on YouTubeGet a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon:Join Our CommunityInstagramTikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Nicole is this me: A Real & Raw Conversation About Her Husband's Affair | Not As We Planned Podcast
We unpack how she found out and how she felt with it only happening 2 weeks ago!Watch the podcast on YouTubeGet a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon:Join Our CommunityInstagramTikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
I've Been Sleeping With My Boss... Who's Married
This week, we hear a confession from someone sleeping with her married boss, a long-term boyfriend exposed on an Are We Dating the Same Guy page and our advice as to whether we think a listener's boyfriend might be cheating on her.Watch the podcast on YouTubeGet a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon:Join Our CommunityInstagramTikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Shelley J Whitehead: How to Heal Your Heartbreak, Set Boundaries and Gain Self Worth.
Divorce week has hit us, and this episode is not one you will want to miss if you’re struggling with healing.Watch the podcast on YouTubeGet a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon:Join Our CommunityInstagramTikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Don’t Be a Ho Ho Ho!! | Not As We Planned Podcast
We speak about the struggles we can face over xmas, being newly single or not having your children, when staying for the kids is not an option, an email that sets us off emotionally with a lovely thank you, and we hear from a male listener whose repeatedly being cheated on….Watch the podcast on YouTubeGet a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon:Join Our CommunityInstagramTikTok Hosted on Acast. See acas
The Neighbourhood Bicycle Where Everyone Had a Ride | Not As We Planned Podcast
Trigger warning: Domestic AbuseWhen your ex partner is using drugs and tries it on with your sister, a very abusive relationship that’s hard to get out of when you’re in it, and when your perfect life falls apart when he decides he wants to leave out of nowhere!Watch the podcast on YouTubeGet a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon:Join Our CommunityInstagramTikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy
Jessica Miller: The Truth Behind The Breakdown Of Her Marriage And All The In-Between | Not As We Planned Podcast
Jess shares the reasons behind the breakdown of her marriage, behind the camera of OnlyFans and where she sees her life moving forwardWatch the podcast on YouTubeGet a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon:Join Our CommunityInstagramTikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
The Truth Is They Never Change... | Not As We Planned Podcast
We unpack the lies we’ve told ourselves to stay in an unhappy relationship, when your husband blames your appearance for the reason he left and when all the lies get uncovered from the dreaded phone!!!Watch the podcast on YouTubeGet a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon:Join Our CommunityInstagramTikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
The Not So Magic Mike Show... | Not As We Planned Podcast
When your ex gives you an unintentional strip tease, the Christmas party affair that eventually comes out, when you’re chasing closure from the wrong person and questioning if you gave up too soon on your marriage due to motherhood.Watch the podcast on YouTubeGet a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon:Join Our CommunityInstagramTikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
The Messy Wife Swap | Not As We Planned Podcast
We hear about the constant betrayal throughout a marriage with some brutal advice given, a shocking story which left someone homeless, the reality of ignoring every red flag and the when love turns into survivalWatch the podcast on YouTubeGet a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon:Join Our CommunityInstagramTikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
When Your Situationship Even Lied About His Name!!! | Not As We Planned Podcast
We give our brutal opinion on what we believe is bare minimum rather than princess treatment, when the guy you’re dating even lied about his name and figuring out whether a second chance could work.Watch the podcast on YouTubeGet a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon:Join Our CommunityInstagramTikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
The Intentional Affair | Not As We Planned Podcast
We hear from a broken listener who we give some much needed advice to, when the trust is broken and if you can really move forward from the deceit, and we hear from an ‘imposter’ who shares a different story!Use code CARLY20 for 20% off anything site wide @ruci_ukWatch the podcast on YouTubeGet a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon:Join Our CommunityInstagramTikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/priva
Jessica May: the untold events of her partner's affair and the signs that she ignored | Not As We Planned Podcast
For the first time ever, Jessica reveals the detailed truths about her partner's affair, the way she found out, and what she did afterwards!!! Not one to miss!Watch the podcast on YouTubeGet a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon:Join Our CommunityInstagramTikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
It's Giving Desperate Housewives | Not As We Planned Podcast
We actually beg a listener to take our advice, or she will regret it, the lying boyfriend who made out he ended it to do her a favour, the shocking 9-year affair and watching history repeat itself!Watch the podcast on YouTubeGet a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon:Join Our CommunityInstagramTikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Legally Nik: Answering Your Questions About Coparenting, Dealing With Narcissist's & A 50/50 Split | Not As We Planned Podcast
A very eye-opening episode which will give you an insightful understanding into the coparenting world, how to manage the legal battle with your children’s parent and growing through the trauma.Watch the podcast on YouTubeGet a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon:Join Our CommunityInstagramTikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Sending A Nude Into The School Group Chat!!! | Not As We Planned Podcast
We share the most embarrassing moments when you text the wrong person, Tash shares a mortifying experience, finding out you're the home wrecker only after the relationship ends and when your husband leaves you for a manWatch the podcast on YouTubeGet a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon:Join Our CommunityInstagramTikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
I Got Eaten Alive!! The Dating Episode You Don't Want To Miss! | Not As We Planned Podcast
We get an update on Carly's dating drama after being ghosted, how she joined dating app Wisp https://wisp.global/ (ad) which bans ghosters, the most graphic sexual encounter by a male listener, the 5ft7 liar, and dating a criminal!Watch the podcast on YouTubeGet a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon:Join Our CommunityInstagramTikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Should You Date Multiple Men At The Same Time?? | Not As We Planned Podcast
We discuss whether it’s a good idea to date multiple men at once, swapping stories with the other woman, planning another baby with your ex and how to meet the love of your life and a lovely email to give is all hope!Watch the podcast on YouTubeGet a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon:Join Our CommunityInstagramTikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
The hack to find deleted messages on your phone!!! | Not As We Planned Podcast
Carly gives us a big life update, we have a little scroll on ‘are we dating the same guy’, realising you’ve outgrown your partner and don’t know if you should end it, and should you give your cheating partner one more chance?Watch the podcast on YouTubeGet a weekly BONUS episode on Patreon:Join Our CommunityInstagramTikTok Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
We’re Back in Our BRAND NEW Studio! Breakups, Divorce & Dating Real Talk | Not As We Planned Podcast
Welcome to a brand-new era of Not As We Planned - and our very first episode in the NEW studio! 💖 It’s a total pinch-me moment, and we’re so excited to share it with you. Same raw honesty and bestie vibes, but with a fresh new space and energy.In this opener, we dive deep into the realities of love, heartbreak, and fresh starts. You’ll hear the jaw-dropping story of a woman who stayed in a toxic r
100. Unfortunately Men Like This Exist…
We discuss the difficulties of splitting your time with the kids over the holidays, someone who needs some serious tough love from us, a clear comparison with how your life could look when leaving or staying and the man who was sleeping with 9 women!!!Link to our shop - www.notasweplanned.shopProducer: @TristanHehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMu
99. He Did Cheat.. But it Was My Fault
We have an honest conversation about the financial pressures of being a single mum, when you catfish your partner by pretending to be the other woman, and a hard story of emotional abuse whilst managing to break the trauma bondLink to our shop - www.notasweplanned.shopProducer: @TristanHehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://w
98. I Was The Other Woman But Didn’t Know!!!
Mr British airways by who took so many women for a ride, when the man you’ve been dating lied about EVERYTHING… even his name! And when you compare notes with the other woman to find that he shat on both your beds!!Link to our shop - www.notasweplanned.shopProducer: @TristanHehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stoc
97. He Told Me He Was a Vampire
You guys share your most embarrassing date scenarios, when your partner informs you that he wants to watch you sleep with other men, when his memory of you is taken away and a thanks for the podcast making you not feel alone through your divorce.Link to our shop - www.notasweplanned.shopProducer: @TristanHehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic pr
96. An Unexpected Turn of Events
We hear from an absolute queen showing just how to handle being cheated on, when you think you’re over your husband but don’t want to leave because of the kids and an unexpected turn of events when we get told off by a listener….Link to our shop - www.notasweplanned.shopProducer: @TristanHehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https:/
95. The Signs Of An Affair
When you hear from the other woman who tells you all about the affair, a man who needs our help, and yet another affair with you guessed it… ANOTHER ONELink to our shop - www.notasweplanned.shopProducer: @TristanHehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported
94. A Massive Orange Dildo
When your boyfriend has an issue with your baby daddy, an update from a man whose wife cheated, the massive orange dildo, and proof that no consequences means no changesLink to our shop - www.notasweplanned.shopProducer: @TristanHehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDe
93. I Thought He Would Change For Me
When a short situationship does a lot of damage, your partner tells you it’s you or the dog, and when your ex has moved on but you weren’t ready for this changeLink to our shop - www.notasweplanned.shopProducer: @TristanHehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0
92. Describe Your Ex As a Brand
We share the hilarious comparisons of brands that remind you of your ex, if it’s too early to date an old flame straight after a separation, and watching your partner VANISH out of nowhere!!!Link to our shop - www.notasweplanned.shopProducer: @TristanHehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Comm
91. She’d Flirt With a Pint Of Milk
We hear from a woman who’s tried everything to make her marriage work, a man who’s wife cheated on him with her best female friend and an update from the woman who was comparing herself to the girl her partner cheated on her with.Link to our shop - www.notasweplanned.shopProducer: @TristanHehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https:
90. You Hooked Up With a Murderer
It’s time for an overdue dating episode and you’ve delivered the goods!!The 15 minute date with a drunk, when your situationship prioritises spiders over you, having sex in his single bed and we share some weird prompts on the dating appsLink to our shop - www.notasweplanned.shopProducer: @TristanHehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted b
89. It’s Giving… Love Bomb
We share a story from a girl who tash met, when you realise you are with a serial cheater and the confessions of a micro penisLink to our shop - www.notasweplanned.shopProducer: @TristanHehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://cre
88. I Tried To Tame a F*** Boy
We speak about being married to an addict and how that can impact your life, when blaming the other woman won’t make your problems go away and realising he’s not going to change!!Link to our shop - www.notasweplanned.shopProducer: @TristanHehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attrib
87. Comparing Myself To The 'Other Woman'
We both share our realisations from our previous relationships, we give some rare advice and suggest a reconciliation, and the dangers of comparing yourself to the other womanLink to our shop - www.notasweplanned.shopProducer: @TristanHehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attributio
86. Catfish and Chlamydia
We discuss how Staying for the kids and for financial stability doesn’t need to be a thing, finally getting that lightbulb moment and filling for divorce, and how a cheeky bit of milk can go a long way!Link to our shop - www.notasweplanned.shopProducer: @TristanHehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCr
85. Things Just Got Juicy
Finally getting confirmation that your cheating suspicions were correct, being the new partner and having to deal with an uncomfortable coparenting relationship, and being torn whether to leave my partner although there’s been no pinnacle event!Link to our shop - www.notasweplanned.shopProducer: @TristanHehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic pro
84. How To Text a Guy
We discuss how it’s sometimes better raising a child on your own than allowing a toxic parent to be a part of their life, realising you’re not yet ready to date yet and never settling for someone who isn’t willing to put in the work!Link to our shop - www.notasweplanned.shopProducer: @TristanHehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by htt
83. He Had a Whole Other Family
We talk about how you shouldn’t blame yourself for him cheating, finding out he had a whole other family, we see the definition of bread crumbing and for the first time we feel uncomfortable to give advice…..Link to our shop - www.notasweplanned.shopProducer: @TristanHehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music
82. My Gut Told Me To Look At His Phone
We discuss the danger of staying in a relationship just because there’s no infidelity, when you catch your husband cheating on you, and wanting some reassurance from us about making that decision to leave!Link to our shop - www.notasweplanned.shopProducer: @TristanHehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.co
81. Men Are From Mars, Women Are From Venus
We talk about the difference between mums and dads and how men get praised for doing the bare minimum, getting told your marriage is over with a letter left in the kitchen and we give advice about that first break up after divorceLink to our shop - www.notasweplanned.shopProducer: @TristanHehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https:
80. Are They Swingers?
We discuss the clues of trying to spot a swinger, finding out your friend was having an affair with your husband and realising it’s time to call it a day with your cheating partner!Link to our shop - www.notasweplanned.shopProducer: @TristanHehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attr
79. Something Is Wrong With Me
We both deeply reflect on our previous relationships after divorce and how we came to accept they weren’t right for us, and we also discuss why it’s important to know as single mums what we offer to the table, knowing our kids are not bagge but a privilege!Link to our shop - www.notasweplanned.shopProducer: @TristanHehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-offic
78. His Accountant Sent Him Vagina Pictures
Finding out your husband is having a fling with his accountant! Having to come clean to your ex about your secret new partner and learning to finally DO THE WORK!Link to our shop - www.notasweplanned.shopProducer: @TristanHehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.
77. Me and My Boyfriend Broke Up
Carly opens up about her break up, we explain how to move forward and let go of feeling attached to your ex, and managing someone with an addiction.Link to our shop - www.notasweplanned.shopProducer: @TristanHehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC
76. Are We Dating The Same Guy?
Carly shares an emotional update, we hear from the woman who cheated, we get a lovely update from a listener and the dreading question of are we dating the same guy?Producer: @TristanHehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://creati
75. Get the F*ck Out
Would you go back to a relationship where there’s no trust? Learning to set boundaries when coparenting, how to help your children handle big emotions about your divorce and finding pills for herpes.Producer: @TristanHehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Un
74. He Was Messaging Other Girls On OnlyFans
We talk about managing your kids emotions and feelings after a break up, having to watch an affair unfold in front of your eyes and catching your partner on ONLY FANS!Producer: @TristanHehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0)https://crea
73. He Has 6 Girlfriends
Trigger Warning: RapeWhen a man gets caught with 6 girlfriends, hitting rock bottom after finding out about your husbands infidelity and trying to work out if you’re the toxic one!Producer: @TristanHehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic promoted by https://www.free-stock-music.comCreative Commons / Attribution-NoDerivs 3.0 Unported (CC BY-ND 3.0
72. He Cheated On Me With My Midwife
We dive into the daily mundane life with young kids and how that can impact your relationship with your partner negatively, but how it can be improved. When you take him back time and time again, and you want our advice if he deserves one more chance?? And finding out your partner cheated on you with your midwife!Producer: @TristanHehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/g
71. We May Be The Villain But They Are The Clowns
Tash shares a big update in her relationship, we are hit with a dilemma when you find out your partner cheated on you 2 years ago at the beginning of your relationship, a thank you from a grateful follower for repairing her marriage and realising you chose the wrong man to have a baby with!Producer: @TristanHehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.com/ghostrifter-officialMusic
70. If She Asks, Say I Was With You!
Happy new year you to all our amazing listeners! We kick off our first episode of 2025 seeing cracks beginning to show in a new relationship and if someone can really put on a front for a year? Going through a breakup after divorce and wondering how to trust again and it’s time to write down that one goal for 2025!!Producer: @TristanHehirCity Lights by Ghostrifter Official | https://soundcloud.co
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