Adult Child
Adult Child is a raw and honest podcast that explores the lasting impact of growing up in a dysfunctional family. Host Andrea Ashley, a recovering shitshow with 17 years of sobriety, delves into complex trauma, codependency, and inner child healing with unapologetic authenticity and zero BS.
Episodes
252 - Toxic Guilt: Why You Feel Like You’re in Trouble When You Didn’t Do Anything Wrong
If you feel guilty for shit you didn’t even do, this one’s for you. Toxic guilt isn’t feedback on what you did. It’s a verdict on who you are, and you can’t apologize your way out of a verdict. And today we’re unpacking all the ways it shows up in your life, the childhood experiences that wired it into you, and how to actually heal it through Internal Family Systems (IFS) and polyvagal theory.✨ Wh
SHITSHOW SATURDAY #225 – Attachment Blindness
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251 - Attachment Blindness: Why You Miss Real Betrayal & See Harm That Isn't There
Your childhood decided who people are before they ever opened their mouths. Sometimes that means missing the person who is hurting you. Sometimes it means creating the harm you were braced for.There are two different ways your trauma keeps you from seeing a relationship for what it actually is. Betrayal blindness is not seeing the ways people are treating you like shit. Attachment blindness is not
SHITSHOW SATURDAY #224 – When You Just Want a Parent
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250 - What a Real Amends From a Parent Requires: Naming the Impact & What Happens If You Never Get It w/ Dr. Ken Adams & Leilani Sinclair
✨SAFE WITHIN: A 7-week live somatic journey to get out of your head and into your body. Starts Wed. Oct 7th. 👉 adultchildpodcast.com/safewithin--An apology is the parent telling you they feel bad. An amends is the parent telling you exactly what they did and what it cost you.Dr. Ken Adams and Leilani Sinclair are certified sex addiction therapists and the co-authors of the upcoming book Unburdenin
249 - Why You Don't Let Yourself Feel Good: Guilt, Grief & Finding Joy When You're Struggling w/ Dr. MC McDonald
✨SAFE WITHIN: A 7-week live somatic journey to get out of your head and into your body. Starts Wed. Oct 7th. 👉 adultchildpodcast.com/safewithin--Sometimes the hardest part of healing isn't sitting in the pain. It's letting yourself actually feel something good.Dr. MaryCatherine McDonald is a research professor and life coach who specializes in the psychology and philosophy of trauma, and t
SHITSHOW SATURDAY #223 – Jeremy
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248 - When Your Body Has the Memory and You Don't: Repressed Memories & Somatic Healing w/ Dr. Deniz Ahmadinia
✨SAFE WITHIN: A 7-week live somatic journey to get out of your head and into your body. Starts Wed. Oct 7th. 👉 adultchildpodcast.com/safewithin-Your body will not hand you a memory until it is convinced you can survive it.Dr. Deniz Ahmadinia is a licensed clinical psychologist and trauma survivor who believes healing happens when we listen to the wisdom of the body. In her last appearance on the p
SHITSHOW SATURDAY #222 – What You Hide Hardest
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247 - What Happens When Only One of You Does the Work: Family Role Dynamics and What Repair Actually Takes w/ Dr. Angelica Shiels
✨SAFE WITHIN: A 7-week live somatic journey to get out of your head and into your body. Starts Wed. Oct 7th. Early bird pricing through 9/17 👉 adultchildpodcast.com/safewithin----All the healing work in the world won't make someone else willing to do their own.Dr. Angelica Shiels is a clinical psychologist a licensed clinical psychologist who works with couples and families using Emotionally F
SHITSHOW SATURDAY #221 – Getting the Support You Need
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246 - Finding a Trauma Therapist Who Won't Harm You: Red Flags, Self-Disclosure & What to Ask w/ Amber Trejo & Megan Walsh
✨SAFE WITHIN: A 7-week live somatic journey to get out of your head and into your body. Starts Wed. Oct 7th. Early bird pricing through 9/17 👉 adultchildpodcast.com/safewithin--Trauma-informed is a phrase any practitioner can put on their website. But some of the people using it have never sat in a client chair themselves.Amber Trejo and Megan Walsh are licensed trauma therapists from the Midwest
SHITSHOW SATURDAY #220 – 5 Kinds of Fears
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245 - The Other Side of Fear: Life After the Wound Stops Being Your Identity w/ Bethany Webster
✨SAFE WITHIN: A 7-week live somatic journey to get out of your head and into your body. Starts Wed. Oct 7th. Early bird pricing through 9/17 👉 adultchildpodcast.com/safewithin--You've spent your whole life waiting for the other shoe to drop. Nobody tells you what happens when it finally stops dropping.Bethany Webster is an expert on healing the mother wound, coach, and the author of "Disco
SHITSHOW SATURDAY #219 – Nicole F.
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244 - What Lives in Your Shadow: A Jungian Approach to Complex Trauma w/ Hannah Fraser Moore
✨SAFE WITHIN: A 7-week live somatic journey to get out of your head and into your body. Starts Wed. Oct 7th. Early bird pricing through 9/17 👉 adultchildpodcast.com/safewithin--Whatever you refuse to look at inside yourself comes back at you disguised as your life.Hannah Fraser Moore is a Jungian-oriented psychotherapist and writer based in the UK. She works with complex trauma, addiction, and eat
SHITSHOW SATURDAY #218 – Turning Toward Self: Inside Safe Within
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243 - The Caregiving Trap: When the Parent You're Estranged From Becomes Your Responsibility w/ Katherine St. Claire
✨SAFE WITHIN: A 7-week live somatic journey to get out of your head and into your body. Starts Wed. Oct 7th. Early bird pricing through 9/17 👉 adultchildpodcast.com/safewithin--You finally go no contact after decades of abuse. Then one day the phone rings, and suddenly you're legally responsible for their entire life.Katherine St Claire is a writer, abuse survivor, and cycle breaker who grew u
SHITSHOW SATURDAY #217 – Imposter Syndrome
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242 - Imposter Syndrome Through the Lens of CPTSD: Confronting the Fraud Inside
✨SAFE WITHIN: A 7-week live somatic journey to get out of your head and into your body. Starts Wed. Oct 7th. Early bird pricing through 9/17 👉 adultchildpodcast.com/safewithin--You feel like a fraud bracing for the moment everyone finally figures you out. And no amount of accomplishment or evidence ever changes that feeling that you're not who you say you are.For those of us with complex traum
SHITSHOW SATURDAY #216 – The Return of Haley
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241 - Inside an Emotional Flashback: Recognizing One, Surviving One & What's Underneath
✨SAFE WITHIN: A 7-week live somatic journey to get out of your head and into your body. Starts Wed. Oct 7th. Early bird pricing through 9/17 👉 adultchildpodcast.com/safewithin--Somebody doesn't text you back and suddenly you feel like you're going to die. You're not being pathetic. You're in a flashback.Welcome to the living hell of emotional flashbacks. Your reaction never matches
SHITSHOW SATURDAY #215 – Things You Learned Were Normal That Never Were
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240 - Borderline or Abandoned? What Separates a Personality Disorder From Untreated Relational Trauma w/ Susan Anderson
The Abandonment Trauma Queen is back on the pod, and today we're heading into uncharted territory: borderline vs. abandonment trauma. What truly separates the two, and why the BPD label gets handed out way too easily.Susan Anderson is a psychotherapist and a pioneer in the field of abandonment trauma, and she's spent the last three decades helping people heal. She's the author of The A
SHITSHOW SATURDAY #214 – Lynda S.
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239 - Chronically Stuck in Your Head: How Trauma-Informed Mindfulness Quiets the Overthinking Mind w/ Joe Flanders
The voice in your head won't shut up because if it did, you'd have to feel what's in your body.Dr. Joe Flanders is a clinical psychologist based in Montreal who specializes in IFS, mindfulness, and psychedelic-assisted therapy. He's also the founder of Refuge, a community of practice built around experiential psychotherapy, and co-host of the podcast "Not Too Tight, Not Too Loo
SHITSHOW SATURDAY #213 – The Return of Moustache Mike
Mike's first Shitshow episode 👉 SHITSHOW SATURDAY #127 ⚓JOIN THE SHITSHOW — The Adult Child Healing Community6 weekly Zoom support groups · Discussion boards · Peer connection👉 theshitshow.mn.coShitshow Saturday #127 🗞️ SIGN UP FOR SHITSHOW NATIONGet the newsletter for community updates, healing insights & early access to workshops.➡️ Join here💁♀️ SUPPORT THE POD☕ Buy Me a Coffee – help A
238 - The Deathbed Reckoning: Facing Unhealed Trauma and Family Wounds at the End w/ Kat Courtney
A death doula shares what really happens between a toxic parent and their child in the parent's final moments.Kat Courtney is a death doula and plant medicine facilitator who has sat with dozens of people in their final moments. After a childhood spent people-pleasing a father who only wanted the happy version of her, a near-death experience in her early twenties, and years of using ayahuasca
Shitshow Saturday #212 - When Scarcity Fuses With Self-Worth
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237 - Stopping The War Within: Understanding Your Patterns Through Parts w/ Britt Frank
Everything you hate about yourself starts making sense the moment you realize you're not one person - you're a whole system trying to survive.Britt Frank is a licensed psychotherapist specializing in trauma, trained in Internal Family Systems and Somatic Experiencing. She's the author of The Science of Stuck and Align Your Mind, which translate complex trauma and parts work into langua
Shitshow Saturday #211 - Why Asking For Help is Hard
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236 - The ADHD Nervous System: Rewiring What Your Body Needs to Actually Function w/ Kristen Carder
The thing you've been medicating is the same thing your parents shamed you for.Kristen Carder is the host of the I Have ADHD podcast and a dually certified coach who's back on the pod today to take the ADHD and complex PTSD connection deeper — through the lens of your nervous system and what it actually needs to function. She talks openly about how medication wasn't fixing her, it was
Shitshow Saturday #210 - Why We Struggle Socially
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235 - The Obligation Myth: What You Owe the Parent Who Hurt You w/ Lisa Stinson
When your inner child says don't be selfish, your inner teen says we don't owe them shit, and your true self asks what we can live with.Lisa D. Stinson, Ph.D. is a clinical psychologist, former Navy psychologist, and trauma specialist with over twenty years treating survivors of narcissistic family systems. She grew up the family scapegoat to a narcissistic mother and an enabling father, l
Shitshow Saturday #209 - Ana S.
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234 - Wired for Abandonment: How Somatic Work Heals What Talk Therapy Can't w/ Valerie Rubin
Your childhood taught your body that love means waiting to be left. No amount of insight changes that.Val Rubin is a trauma-informed somatic coach and host of the Anxiety Recovery Podcast who specializes in healing the fear of abandonment through the nervous system rather than the mind — and she's speaking from the inside out. For six years she lived with chronic pain that every doctor missed,
Shitshow Saturday #208 - Wanting to Be Chosen
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233 - The Gift of Grief: When Loss Becomes the Door You Couldn't Open On Your Own w/ Joe Ryan
Waiting to be chosen is the slowest way to abandon yourself.Joe Ryan is a trauma recovery coach and host of The Joe Ryan Podcast — and today, he's speaking from the other side of the most profound grief of his life. After losing his best friend to cancer and facing his own cancer scare six weeks later, he chose to sit in the pain for a year and a half instead of running from it — and what surf
Shitshow Saturday #207 - How Do I Know I'm Healing?
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232 - Healing Together: A Couple's Journey Through Repressed Trauma w/ Tarah & EJ Kerwin
What your partner does when you fall apart is what your relationship was actually built on.Tarah and EJ Kerwin are licensed therapists, co-founders of Relationship Renovation Counseling in Tucson, and hosts of the Relationship Renovation podcast who teach what they’ve lived inside their own marriage. They met as colleagues at a treatment center, got married, had twins on their honeymoon, and spent
Shitshow Saturday #206 - Impossible Self-Expectations
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231 - Why Your Relationships Keep Triggering You Even After You've Done the Work w/ Patrick Teahan
Doing the work means you start picking healthier people. It doesn't mean stuff stops coming up when you do.Patrick Teahan is a psychotherapist, childhood trauma educator, and YouTube creator. In today's conversation, he shares about how he kept trying to save his alcoholic mother through the women he dated, the relationship in his mid-twenties that surfaced wounds he thought he'd alrea
Shitshow Saturday #205 - The Return of Sam B.
SHITSHOW SATURDAY #118 - Sam B.⚓JOIN THE SHITSHOW — The Adult Child Healing Community6 weekly Zoom support groups · Discussion boards · Peer connection👉 theshitshow.mn.co🗞️ SIGN UP FOR SHITSHOW NATIONGet the newsletter for community updates, healing insights & early access to workshops.➡️ Join here💁♀️ SUPPORT THE POD☕ Buy Me a Coffee – help Andrea (and her cats) eat🛍️ Shop Shitshow Merch💬 CON
230 - The Shame Triangle: The Inner War That's Keeping You Stuck w/ Jessica Fern & David Cooley
The voice beating you up, the shame absorbing it, the part that doesn't want you to feel it — that's the triangle you're trapped in.Jessica Fern is a certified clinical trauma therapist, David Cooley is a restorative justice practitioner, and together they co-authored Polywise. In their most recent book, Transforming the Shame Triangle, they take Karpman's classic drama triangle an
Shitshow Saturday #204 - When Your Parent Shared Too Much or Not Enough
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229 - The Codependency Bottom: When Sobriety Cracks Open the Trauma Underneath w/ David Deane Haskel
The most painful rock bottoms don't come from a relationship with a substance. They come from a relationship with a person. David Deane Haskel is an author of several fiction books, with his most recent being the memoir Wounded Angels. After losing his mother to suicide at the age of four, he spent the rest of his childhood navigating chaos at home and at school, while never feel
Shitshow Saturday #203 - Why Can't I Just Let Myself Feel Good?
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228 - Bracing for Impact: Why Trauma Blocks Joy & Good-Feeling Emotions w/ Jeannine Rashidi
Your childhood taught you good things don't last. Your body still believes it.Jeannine Rashidi is a TEDx speaker and bestselling author of Abundance Beyond Trauma —and her work on why we can't feel joy after a hard childhood is built on a story she lived first. With an ACE score of 10 out of 10, three marriages, and decades of confusing chaos for love, she eventually realized her nervous s
Shitshow Saturday #201 - When Healing Dismantles "Truth"
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227 - Daughters of Narcissistic Fathers: The Golden Child's Grief w/ Taylor Pearl
The moment you finally see a parent clearly is the moment the grief begins.Taylor Pearl is a therapist specializing in complex trauma, Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, and survivors of narcissistic abuse. She grew up as the golden child to her brother's scapegoat in a controlling, image-obsessed home with a narcissistic father. This episode is about what the good daughter has to
Shitshow Saturday #200 - The Return of Jenny
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226 - Losing Yourself in Love: Why You Become Whoever They Need You to Be w/ Tammy Sollenberger
Tammy Sollenberger is an IFS therapist and host of The One Inside podcast, and today she's not holding back. She shares about the sudden loss of her father and a devastating breakup — and how both pulled her back to a wound she's been carrying since before she was born: unwanted.✨ What this episode explores▪️Grieving a Parent You Had a Complicated Relationship With — What it's like to
Shitshow Saturday #199 - The 4 Alarms of Hypervigilance
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225 - The Deepest Wounds, the Darkest Shame: Covert Incest, Relapse & Radical Self-Compassion w/ Paul Gilmartin
The parts of you that carry the most shame are the parts that most need to be seen.Paul Gilmartin, host of the Mental Illness Happy Hour, is back on Adult Child for the third time, and this is the most vulnerable he's ever been. He shares the story of his recent relapse, how the covert incest he survived as a child shaped his sexuality in ways he's been ashamed of for most of his life, and
Shitshow Saturday #198 - The Return of Nate
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224 - Scared to Be Seen: Finding Authenticity Through Parts Work w/ Jesse Deal
The moment you finally see yourself is the moment you no longer fear being seen.Jesse Deal is a trauma recovery coach, parts work practitioner, and host of the podcast Trauma Unbound. After a lifetime of playing it small, he walked away from the life he'd been surviving in and started building the one he was actually meant for. This is a conversation about the fear of being seen, finding authe
Shitshow Saturday #197 - Wendy N.
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223 - Love That Looks Like Rescue: Trauma Bonds & Outgrowing Relationships w/ Marina Triner
When the person you're trying to save feels exactly like the parent you couldn't.Marina Triner is a somatic coach and host of the Deep Within podcast who helps people move through deep-rooted patterns of stress, emotional disconnection, and shutdown through nervous system regulation and body-based healing. In today's episode, she shares how outgrowing her marriage allowed her to access
Shitshow Saturday #196 - Sarah O.
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222 - Feeling What You've Been Thinking: Embodying Your Emotions w/ Cory Scott
Cory Scott is a therapist, somatic experiencing practitioner, EMDR specialist, and VITA sex, love, and relationship coach who's back for round two. As the scapegoat child in her family, she spent years channeling repressed anger from childhood into righteous blame, eating disorders, and a stress response she'd mistaken for her personality. She now helps people access the aliveness and free
Shitshow Saturday #195 - Katie M.
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221 - The Perfect Daughter Trap: Learning Who You Are Without Them w/ Vevian Vozmediano
You don't know who you are because you were too busy being who she needed you to be.Viviana Vozmediano is a trauma-informed coach who works with women who grew up with emotionally unavailable mothers - and she's speaking from experience. After spending her childhood as a Jehovah's Witness trying to be the perfect daughter to earn her mother's love, she was excommunicated and lost h
Shitshow Saturday #194 - Fear In All It's Forms
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220 - The Trauma You Didn't: Unconscious Wounds & Epigenetics w/ Mark Wolynn
What if the anxiety you feel didn’t start with you at all? This episode uncovers how inherited trauma and unconscious patterns shape our lives,Mark Wolynn is a leading expert in inherited family trauma and director of the Family Constellation Institute. , and author of the acclaimed ‘It Didn’t Start with You.He recently published a revised and updated edition of his international bestseller It Did
219 - Phone Addiction Through the Lens of Trauma: The Truth Behind Your Screen Time
This is an epidemic no one is talking about: adult phone addiction.Millions of people are struggling worldwide—and most don’t realize how much it’s impacting their focus, mood, relationships, and ability to be present.In this episode, I break down 8 manifestations of compulsive phone behavior, how to tell when you’re in it, and why “just stop” doesn’t work when your phone has become your nervous s
Shitshow Saturday #192 - Why You Can't Ask For Help
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218 - Finding Your Voice Through Intimacy: Beyond Freeze, Fear, and Fawning w/ Leah Carey
Leah Carey is a Sex and Relationship Coach and host of the Good Girls Talk About Sex podcast. She helps thoughtful, self-aware adults who grew up in fear-based environments to stop freezing, over-explaining, and second-guessing themselves in relationships. In other words: in a world filled with confusion and fear, Leah helps sex make sense. Drawing on her own healing journey from fear and repressi
Shitshow Saturday #191 - Courtney B.
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217 - Good Kid, Quiet Wreckage: Relational Shame, the Silent Treatment & The War You Waged on Yourself w/ Maggie Nick
Maggie Nick is a trauma therapist and author of the newly published book Good Kids: Why You Suffered in Silence and How to Break the Cycle. She grew up as the good kid in a home with a personality-disordered mother - performing, complying, and quietly falling apart while making sure nobody ever saw the real her. After years of working through what she thought was the "real" trauma, she dis
Shitshow Saturday #190 - The Betrayal Wound
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216 - How Trauma Becomes Sexual Compulsion: Shame, Betrayal & Technology Addiction w/ Duane Osterlind
Duane Osterlind is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Certified Sex Addiction Therapist – and the host of The Addicted Mind. He specializes in helping individuals and couples impacted by sexual compulsion, porn addiction, and betrayal trauma. His Shame to Resilience group program helps men who've caused sexual betrayal learn to regulate their shame so they can finally show up with th
Shitshow Saturday #189 - The Many Faces of Dysfunction
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215 - Repeat or Recover w/ Dr. Tian Dayton: The Cost of Relational Trauma
Dr. Tian Dayton is a clinical psychologist, Senior Fellow at The Meadows, and author of 15 books, including the upcoming Growing Up With Addiction: How Adult Children of Addicts Can Heal Family Trauma, CPTSD, and Codependency. In this conversation, Tian draws on her 40+ years as a professional in trauma and addiction, alongside her own lived experience growing up with alcoholism, to paint a deeply
Shitshow Saturday #188 - Crystal
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214: Challenging the Narrative on Personality Disorders w/ Dr. Peter Salerno: Is It Always Trauma?
Does narcissistic personality disorder always trace back to trauma? This episode explores what truly lies beneath personality disorders.Dr. Peter Salerno is a psychologist specializing in personality disorders and the author of “The Nature and Nurture of Narcissism” and “Cruelty by Nature.” His work challenges mainstream assumptions, arguing that personality disorders can develop independently of
Shitshow Saturday #187 - Same Family, Different Childhoods (Amy & Kristie)
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213: The Truth About Estrangement: Boundaries, No Contact & Grief w/ Dr. Sharon Martin
If you keep getting re-triggered by the people you’re trying to heal from, healing starts to feel impossible. This episode unpacks when taking space is the most loving thing you can do for yourself.Dr. Sharon Martin is a psychotherapist and author specializing in helping adult children recover from difficult childhoods. She's passionate about helping adults overcome the effects of narcissistic
SHITSHOW SATURDAY #186 - The Many Faces of the Inner Critic
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212: The Survive and Thrive Spiral: Combining IFS and Polyvagal Theory w/ Ruth Culver
True healing begins when we stop choosing between our nervous system and our inner narrative—and start listening to both.Ruth Culver is a certified IFS practitioner and IFS constellations facilitator who has brought her own innovative contributions to the field, including the Survive and Thrive Spiral and her Drawing into Self approach. Her own trauma healing journey began when serious health issu
SHITSHOW SATURDAY #185 - Trevor
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