Adult Child
Adult Child is a raw and honest podcast that explores the lasting impact of growing up in a dysfunctional family. Host Andrea Ashley, a recovering shitshow with 17 years of sobriety, delves into complex trauma, codependency, and inner child healing with unapologetic authenticity and zero BS.
Episodes
234 - Wired for Abandonment: How Somatic Work Heals What Talk Therapy Can't w/ Valerie Rubin
✨ NEW COURSE — Safe Within: 7-week live somatic healing journey to SELF energy. Starts July 1st.--Your childhood taught your body that love means waiting to be left. No amount of insight changes that.Val Rubin is a trauma-informed somatic coach and host of the Anxiety Recovery Podcast who specializes in healing the fear of abandonment through the nervous system rather than the mind — and she'
Shitshow Saturday #208 - Wanting to Be Chosen
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233 - The Gift of Grief: When Loss Becomes the Door You Couldn't Open On Your Own w/ Joe Ryan
✨ NEW COURSE — Safe Within: a 7-week live somatic healing journey to Self energy. Starts July 1st.Waiting to be chosen is the slowest way to abandon yourself.Joe Ryan is a trauma recovery coach and host of The Joe Ryan Podcast — and today, he's speaking from the other side of the most profound grief of his life. After losing his best friend to cancer and facing his own cancer scare six weeks l
Shitshow Saturday #207 - How Do I Know I'm Healing?
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232 - Healing Together: A Couple's Journey Through Repressed Trauma w/ Tarah & EJ Kerwin
What your partner does when you fall apart is what your relationship was actually built on.Tarah and EJ Kerwin are licensed therapists, co-founders of Relationship Renovation Counseling in Tucson, and hosts of the Relationship Renovation podcast who teach what they’ve lived inside their own marriage. They met as colleagues at a treatment center, got married, had twins on their honeymoon, and spent
Shitshow Saturday #206 - Impossible Self-Expectations
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231 - Why Your Relationships Keep Triggering You Even After You've Done the Work w/ Patrick Teahan
Doing the work means you start picking healthier people. It doesn't mean stuff stops coming up when you do.Patrick Teahan is a psychotherapist, childhood trauma educator, and YouTube creator. In today's conversation, he shares about how he kept trying to save his alcoholic mother through the women he dated, the relationship in his mid-twenties that surfaced wounds he thought he'd alrea
Shitshow Saturday #205 - The Return of Sam B.
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230 - The Shame Triangle: The Inner War That's Keeping You Stuck w/ Jessica Fern & David Cooley
The voice beating you up, the shame absorbing it, the part that doesn't want you to feel it — that's the triangle you're trapped in.Jessica Fern is a certified clinical trauma therapist, David Cooley is a restorative justice practitioner, and together they co-authored Polywise. In their most recent book, Transforming the Shame Triangle, they take Karpman's classic drama triangle an
Shitshow Saturday #204 - When Your Parent Shared Too Much or Not Enough
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229 - The Codependency Bottom: When Sobriety Cracks Open the Trauma Underneath w/ David Deane Haskel
The most painful rock bottoms don't come from a relationship with a substance. They come from a relationship with a person. David Deane Haskel is an author of several fiction books, with his most recent being the memoir Wounded Angels. After losing his mother to suicide at the age of four, he spent the rest of his childhood navigating chaos at home and at school, while never feel
Shitshow Saturday #203 - Why Can't I Just Let Myself Feel Good?
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228 - Bracing for Impact: Why Trauma Blocks Joy & Good-Feeling Emotions w/ Jeannine Rashidi
Your childhood taught you good things don't last. Your body still believes it.Jeannine Rashidi is a TEDx speaker and bestselling author of Abundance Beyond Trauma —and her work on why we can't feel joy after a hard childhood is built on a story she lived first. With an ACE score of 10 out of 10, three marriages, and decades of confusing chaos for love, she eventually realized her nervous s
Shitshow Saturday #201 - When Healing Dismantles "Truth"
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227 - Daughters of Narcissistic Fathers: The Golden Child's Grief w/ Taylor Pearl
The moment you finally see a parent clearly is the moment the grief begins.Taylor Pearl is a therapist specializing in complex trauma, Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, and survivors of narcissistic abuse. She grew up as the golden child to her brother's scapegoat in a controlling, image-obsessed home with a narcissistic father. This episode is about what the good daughter has to
Shitshow Saturday #200 - The Return of Jenny
Jenny's first appearance on the pod - Shitshow Saturday #129⚓JOIN THE SHITSHOW — The Adult Child Healing Community6 weekly Zoom support groups · Discussion boards · Peer connection👉 theshitshow.mn.co🗞️ SIGN UP FOR SHITSHOW NATIONGet the newsletter for community updates, healing insights & early access to workshops.➡️ Join here💁♀️ SUPPORT THE POD☕ Buy Me a Coffee – help Andrea (and her cat
226 - Losing Yourself in Love: Why You Become Whoever They Need You to Be w/ Tammy Sollenberger
Tammy Sollenberger is an IFS therapist and host of The One Inside podcast, and today she's not holding back. She shares about the sudden loss of her father and a devastating breakup — and how both pulled her back to a wound she's been carrying since before she was born: unwanted.✨ What this episode explores▪️Grieving a Parent You Had a Complicated Relationship With — What it's like to
Shitshow Saturday #199 - The 4 Alarms of Hypervigilance
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225 - The Deepest Wounds, the Darkest Shame: Covert Incest, Relapse & Radical Self-Compassion w/ Paul Gilmartin
The parts of you that carry the most shame are the parts that most need to be seen.Paul Gilmartin, host of the Mental Illness Happy Hour, is back on Adult Child for the third time, and this is the most vulnerable he's ever been. He shares the story of his recent relapse, how the covert incest he survived as a child shaped his sexuality in ways he's been ashamed of for most of his life, and
Shitshow Saturday #198 - The Return of Nate
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224 - Scared to Be Seen: Finding Authenticity Through Parts Work w/ Jesse Deal
The moment you finally see yourself is the moment you no longer fear being seen.Jesse Deal is a trauma recovery coach, parts work practitioner, and host of the podcast Trauma Unbound. After a lifetime of playing it small, he walked away from the life he'd been surviving in and started building the one he was actually meant for. This is a conversation about the fear of being seen, finding authe
Shitshow Saturday #197 - Wendy N.
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223 - Love That Looks Like Rescue: Trauma Bonds & Outgrowing Relationships w/ Marina Triner
When the person you're trying to save feels exactly like the parent you couldn't.Marina Triner is a somatic coach and host of the Deep Within podcast who helps people move through deep-rooted patterns of stress, emotional disconnection, and shutdown through nervous system regulation and body-based healing. In today's episode, she shares how outgrowing her marriage allowed her to access
Shitshow Saturday #196 - Sarah O.
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222 - Feeling What You've Been Thinking: Embodying Your Emotions w/ Cory Scott
Cory Scott is a therapist, somatic experiencing practitioner, EMDR specialist, and VITA sex, love, and relationship coach who's back for round two. As the scapegoat child in her family, she spent years channeling repressed anger from childhood into righteous blame, eating disorders, and a stress response she'd mistaken for her personality. She now helps people access the aliveness and free
Shitshow Saturday #195 - Katie M.
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221 - The Perfect Daughter Trap: Learning Who You Are Without Them w/ Vevian Vozmediano
You don't know who you are because you were too busy being who she needed you to be.Viviana Vozmediano is a trauma-informed coach who works with women who grew up with emotionally unavailable mothers - and she's speaking from experience. After spending her childhood as a Jehovah's Witness trying to be the perfect daughter to earn her mother's love, she was excommunicated and lost h
Shitshow Saturday #194 - Fear In All It's Forms
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220 - The Trauma You Didn't: Unconscious Wounds & Epigenetics w/ Mark Wolynn
What if the anxiety you feel didn’t start with you at all? This episode uncovers how inherited trauma and unconscious patterns shape our lives,Mark Wolynn is a leading expert in inherited family trauma and director of the Family Constellation Institute. , and author of the acclaimed ‘It Didn’t Start with You.He recently published a revised and updated edition of his international bestseller It Did
219 - Phone Addiction Through the Lens of Trauma: The Truth Behind Your Screen Time
This is an epidemic no one is talking about: adult phone addiction.Millions of people are struggling worldwide—and most don’t realize how much it’s impacting their focus, mood, relationships, and ability to be present.In this episode, I break down 8 manifestations of compulsive phone behavior, how to tell when you’re in it, and why “just stop” doesn’t work when your phone has become your nervous s
Shitshow Saturday #192 - Why You Can't Ask For Help
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218 - Finding Your Voice Through Intimacy: Beyond Freeze, Fear, and Fawning w/ Leah Carey
Leah Carey is a Sex and Relationship Coach and host of the Good Girls Talk About Sex podcast. She helps thoughtful, self-aware adults who grew up in fear-based environments to stop freezing, over-explaining, and second-guessing themselves in relationships. In other words: in a world filled with confusion and fear, Leah helps sex make sense. Drawing on her own healing journey from fear and repressi
Shitshow Saturday #191 - Courtney B.
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217 - Good Kid, Quiet Wreckage: Relational Shame, the Silent Treatment & The War You Waged on Yourself w/ Maggie Nick
Maggie Nick is a trauma therapist and author of the newly published book Good Kids: Why You Suffered in Silence and How to Break the Cycle. She grew up as the good kid in a home with a personality-disordered mother - performing, complying, and quietly falling apart while making sure nobody ever saw the real her. After years of working through what she thought was the "real" trauma, she dis
Shitshow Saturday #190 - The Betrayal Wound
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216 - How Trauma Becomes Sexual Compulsion: Shame, Betrayal & Technology Addiction w/ Duane Osterlind
Duane Osterlind is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and Certified Sex Addiction Therapist – and the host of The Addicted Mind. He specializes in helping individuals and couples impacted by sexual compulsion, porn addiction, and betrayal trauma. His Shame to Resilience group program helps men who've caused sexual betrayal learn to regulate their shame so they can finally show up with th
Shitshow Saturday #189 - The Many Faces of Dysfunction
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215 - Repeat or Recover w/ Dr. Tian Dayton: The Cost of Relational Trauma
Dr. Tian Dayton is a clinical psychologist, Senior Fellow at The Meadows, and author of 15 books, including the upcoming Growing Up With Addiction: How Adult Children of Addicts Can Heal Family Trauma, CPTSD, and Codependency. In this conversation, Tian draws on her 40+ years as a professional in trauma and addiction, alongside her own lived experience growing up with alcoholism, to paint a deeply
Shitshow Saturday #188 - Crystal
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214: Challenging the Narrative on Personality Disorders w/ Dr. Peter Salerno: Is It Always Trauma?
Does narcissistic personality disorder always trace back to trauma? This episode explores what truly lies beneath personality disorders.Dr. Peter Salerno is a psychologist specializing in personality disorders and the author of “The Nature and Nurture of Narcissism” and “Cruelty by Nature.” His work challenges mainstream assumptions, arguing that personality disorders can develop independently of
Shitshow Saturday #187 - Same Family, Different Childhoods (Amy & Kristie)
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213: The Truth About Estrangement: Boundaries, No Contact & Grief w/ Dr. Sharon Martin
If you keep getting re-triggered by the people you’re trying to heal from, healing starts to feel impossible. This episode unpacks when taking space is the most loving thing you can do for yourself.Dr. Sharon Martin is a psychotherapist and author specializing in helping adult children recover from difficult childhoods. She's passionate about helping adults overcome the effects of narcissistic
SHITSHOW SATURDAY #186 - The Many Faces of the Inner Critic
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212: The Survive and Thrive Spiral: Combining IFS and Polyvagal Theory w/ Ruth Culver
True healing begins when we stop choosing between our nervous system and our inner narrative—and start listening to both.Ruth Culver is a certified IFS practitioner and IFS constellations facilitator who has brought her own innovative contributions to the field, including the Survive and Thrive Spiral and her Drawing into Self approach. Her own trauma healing journey began when serious health issu
SHITSHOW SATURDAY #185 - Trevor
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SHITSHOW SATURDAY #184 - Christmas Debrief
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211: Nate Postlethwait - Building a Life Your Nervous System Can Handle
If your life requires you to override your body to function… that’s not “success.” That’s survival. This episode is about creating a life that doesn’t require self-abandonment to keep up.Nate Postlethwait is a writer and teacher who shares trauma recovery and inner child work from a survivor’s perspective. In this conversation, he shares how burning out after 13 years in a demanding real estate ca
SHITSHOW SATURDAY #183 - Navigating Safety Inside & Out
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210: Dissociated & Disconnected - When Feeling Nothing Was How You Survived w/ Andy Carlson
When childhood trains you to make yourself invisible, your body learns to go numb. And your mind becomes the place you live — because it’s the only place you can. This episode explores how to rebuild safety from the inside out.Andy Carlson is a trauma coach, LIFT facilitator, and co-host of Time with Tim Fletcher. In this conversation, he opens up about growing up in a home where strict control an
SHITSHOW SATURDAY #182 - Healing Your Inner Teenager
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209: How "The Body Keeps the Score" - Making Sense of Stored Trauma, Survival Mode & Functional Freeze
Your childhood isn’t just a memory — it’s still quietly running the show inside your body. This episode unpacks how “The Body Keeps the Score” shows up in ways you might never have connected.Andrea joins us for a solo episode today, pulling back the curtain on how much of her childhood was still alive in her body long after she thought she’d “done the work.” She shares how a trauma-bonded relation
SHITSHOW SATURDAY #181 - Tabitha W.
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208: When Each Parent Leaves a Different Scar - From Attachment Wounds to Parenting Triggers, Rage & Repair w/ Amber Trejo
What happens when one parent shatters you by leaving and the other wounds you by staying? This episode unpacks how two very different kinds of unsafe love can live in your body at the same time.Amber Trejo is an integrative trauma therapist who helps parents with C-PTSD untangle how their own attachment wounds and nervous system triggers show up in the way they love and raise their kids. She grew
SHITSHOW SATURDAY #180 - Andrea A. (...but not me)
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207: The Messy Road of Long-Term Recovery — Codependency, Shame & Nervous System Triggers w/ Dr. Sarah Michaud
Long-term recovery doesn’t mean you stop getting triggered — it means you finally see how deep the wiring goes. This episode explores how to navigate those ongoing invitations for growth without turning every setback into proof that you’re failing.Dr. Sarah Michaud is a clinical psychologist, author of Co-Crazy: One Psychologist’s Recovery from Codependency and Addiction, with decades of personal
SHITSHOW SATURDAY #179 - Surviving the Season
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206: The Connection Wound - Healing Trauma-Driven Isolation & Emotional Loneliness w/ Crappy Childhood Fairy
You’re not antisocial — you’re someone who had to choose self-protection over belonging. This episode unpacks how complex trauma wires your nervous system to treat closeness like a threat and what it looks like to slowly become someone who can actually let people in.Anna Runkel is a trauma educator, YouTuber, best known as the Crappy Childhood Fairy and author of the new book Connectability: Heal
SHITSHOW SATURDAY #178 - The Pain of Not Belonging
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205: Addicted to Chaos - Boundaries, Triggers & Rebuilding Self-Trust w/ Amy Fiedler
You didn’t choose chaos; your nervous system learned to crave it. Learn to read your body, set real boundaries, and stop mistaking calm for danger.Amy Fiedler is a trauma specialist and coach known for practical, nervous-system-informed boundary work. She grew up around alcoholism and chronic shaming—an environment of denial, gaslighting, and volatility that wired her to over-tolerate. After years
SHITSHOW SATURDAY #177 - Fellow Travelers: ACA 12 Steps
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204: The Deeper Truth About Fawning - How Survival Turns Into Self-Abandonment w/ Ingrid Clayton
Fawning isn’t people-pleasing — it’s self-erasure in the name of survival. This episode dives into the hidden trauma response behind your need to stay small and what it takes to finally come home to yourself.Dr. Ingrid Clayton is a licensed clinical psychologist specializing in complex trauma and the author of Fawning: Why the Need to Please Makes Us Lose Ourselves — and How to Find Our Way Back,
SHITSHOW SATURDAY #176 - When Attachment Gets Complicated
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203: The Nervous System Side of Attachment - Understanding Anxiety, Avoidance & Safety Through the Body w/ Heidi Priebe
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202: When Relationships Become Battlefields - Tian Dayton on Relational Triggers, Inner Child Fights & Emotional Sobriety
Every argument has an audience you can’t see — the ghosts of the past. This episode unpacks how unhealed trauma sneaks into our relationships and how to finally stop fighting the wrong person.Dr. Tian Dayton is a clinical psychologist, Senior Fellow at The Meadows, and author of 15 books including The ACoA Trauma Syndrome and Emotional Sobriety. In this conversation, she revisits the moment that c
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201: Trauma-Bonded No More — My Journey Through Shame, Regression & Finding My Way Back
Ever wonder what happens when the host of a trauma podcast finds herself right back in the trenches?A story about what happens when healing collides with old survival patterns — and how the body can pull you back into the past, even when your mind knows better. This isn’t a “how-to.” It’s truth-telling about the gap between understanding your trauma and actually feeling safe inside your own skin.✨
SHITSHOW SATURDAY #173 - Melissa S.
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After an eleven-month hiatus, Adult Child is back... messier, deeper, and more honest than ever.Host Andrea Ashley returns to revisit what it really means to heal from a dysfunctional family, through brutal honesty, emotional truth, and humor (of course).This season kicks off with vulnerability and chaos — trauma bonds, repetition compulsion, and a story she’s never told before.Buckle the hell up.
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SHITSHOW SATURDAY #169 - Carole F.
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Abandonment Trauma Deep Dive: Shame, Relationship Triggers & 5 Stages of Healing w/ Susan Anderson
What if the pain you’re feeling today isn’t about the breakup, but about every wound that came before it? When abandonment gets triggered, it pulls you straight back into the shame and fear of childhood.Susan Anderson is a psychotherapist and author known as the leading expert on abandonment and healing attachment wounds. Her groundbreaking work comes not only from clinical expertise, but from liv
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When Breaking Your Silence Means Losing Your Family: Narcissistic Abuse, Gaslighting & Fawning w/ Dr. Ingrid Clayton
What happens when speaking your truth means losing the very people you’ve spent your whole life trying to please? For so many adult children, breaking the silence around abuse and dysfunction doesn’t bring closeness—it brings exile, denial, and the gut-punch of realizing love was always conditional.Dr. Ingrid Clayton is a clinical psychologist, trauma therapist, and the author of Believing Me: Hea
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SHITSHOW SATURDAY #167 - The Inner Critic: Us vs. "Normies"
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Still Hoping Your Parents Will Change? Perfectionism, Codependency & Enmeshment w/ Alana Carvalho
What if the apology, the change, the parent you always wanted… never comes? This episode dives into the painful hope that keeps so many adult children of dysfunctional families stuck.Alana Carvalho is a licensed mental health counselor, author, and speaker specializing in codependency, perfectionism, and relationships. Having grown up in a dysfunctional family herself, Alana knows firsthand the to
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