Codependency Alchemy: The Podcast
Codependency Alchemy is a space for healing codependency through shadow work and inner child healing. Join Alyssa for the vulnerable conversations, personal stories, and hard truths that help you reclaim your voice, set soul-aligned boundaries, and create relationships rooted in self-trust and authenticity.
Episodes
Why you feel the need to fill the space in relationships
Why does silence feel so uncomfortable in relationships?In this episode of Codependency Alchemy, I explore the hidden reason many of us rush to fill the space when our partner gets quiet, withdrawn, or dysregulated.In this episode, we explore:- Why silence feels triggering- The urge to seek reassurance- External vs. internal processors- How space creates deeper connection- Emotional regulation in
The “loving” relationship pattern that’s actually hurting you
Have you ever done something “nice” for someone… but secretly felt exhausted, resentful, or unseen afterward? This episode is about the hidden relationship dynamic underneath that pattern.After a conversation with my grandma about boundaries, family dynamics, and generational relationship patterns, I realized how many of us confuse self-sacrifice with love.In this episode, we explore the subtle wa
Why it’s so hard to receive support (even when you need it)
Have you ever pushed away support… even when you really needed it? This episode is about why receiving can feel so hard and what changes when we allow it.This episode is a little different. I’m showing up in real time, without a script, in the middle of a season that has completely shifted me.After losing a close friend and navigating multiple family health scares and loss, I found myself face to
The trust-breaking pattern you don’t realize you’re doing in relationships
Have you ever wanted something from your partner but didn’t actually say it? This episode is about why we do that and how it slowly breaks trust in our relationships.This weekend, I caught myself in a pattern I’ve done many times before, and didn’t even realize I was doing it in the moment.I was trying to get a need met without actually saying what I needed.I was hinting, sweetening the deal, leav
3 questions that turn conflict into connection
Have you ever caught yourself thinking, “If they would just do this differently, everything would be fine”?This episode is about why that pattern keeps us stuck and the three questions that can shift the entire dynamic- and how it's completely changed the way I move through conflict in my relationship.In this episode we explore:* Why we hyperfixate on our partner during conflict* The hidden attach
Why you pick fights when things are going well
Why do we create conflict when life is actually going well?In this episode of Codependency Alchemy, I unpack the “upper limit problem” — the unconscious pattern of sabotaging joy, abundance, and peace when they start to feel unfamiliar.I share a real story of catching myself mid-spiral after an expansive workshop and the simple question that stopped me from creating unnecessary conflict.In this ep
Knowing what you want but still not getting it? This might be why
You’re clear on what you want, so why aren’t you getting it?There’s a painful in-between many of us find ourselves in: knowing what we want, and still not receiving it.In this episode of Codependency Alchemy, I revisit a simple but powerful analogy (we’re going to the ice cream shop) to explore why clarity alone isn’t always enough, and how settling for what doesn’t truly align can keep us stuck i
When your partner says no (but you really wanted them to say yes)
There’s a moment many of us know well: your partner says no, and you really wanted them to say yes.In this episode of Codependency Alchemy, I walk through a real-life moment from my relationship with Justin where his “no” triggered old patterns of control, guilt, and self-abandonment. I share more about what I wish I had done differently.This isn’t about forcing agreement or suppressing your needs
Should you get back together with your ex? 3 questions to ask yourself first
Should you get back together with your ex, or is this just familiarity pulling you back in? Before you say yes, there are a few questions worth slowing down and asking.This episode is for anyone who’s considering getting back together with an ex and wants to do it differently this time.As someone who did get back together with her ex and rebuilt a relationship rooted in repair, accountability, and
Holding Polarity: How to stay grounded when two opposing truths exist
What if nothing is wrong with you, you’re just being asked to hold two truths at the same time?In this episode of Codependency Alchemy, I explore polarity: the embodied experience of holding joy and grief, love and loss, fulfillment and longing—without collapsing, numbing, or forcing resolution.Through a deeply personal story involving my great-grandmother, my fertility journey, and stepping onto
My go-to life changing book list for winter
Check out full book list post on Substack here: My go-to healing book list for winterThank you so much, everyone, for letting me walk alongside you this season.I have a quick favor to ask as we close out this season: If the podcast has supported you in any way it would mean the world to me if you would take just a moment to leave an honest rating or review on the podcast, wherever you listen. To m
How to get out of the thought spiral (in 3-steps)
Do you ever notice how one small trigger can send you into a full-blown spiral? Maybe your partner takes too long to text back, or a conflict makes you think the relationship is doomed and suddenly you’re catastrophizing, overthinking, or blaming yourself. In this episode of Codependency Alchemy, I walk you through my 3-step “Stop the Spiral” framework (Root, Regulate, Redirect) to help you come b
Why fixing their mood doesn’t fix you
Do you ever feel like it’s your job to make your partner (or kids, or parents) feel better when they’re upset? In this episode of Codependency Alchemy, we explore the codependent pattern of taking responsibility for someone else’s emotions and how it leaves you feeling resentful, anxious, and disconnected from yourself. I share how to shift from fixing their discomfort to creating safety within yo
The shadow side of comfort zones
Do you ever notice how even when you know something isn’t working — the job, the relationship, the habit — you still put off making the change? In this episode of Codependency Alchemy, I share what I’ve been navigating around stepping away from being the “fixer,” why we cling to what feels familiar even when it drains us, and how to use shadow work and inner child healing to move through the fear
The fear that almost ruined my relationship (and the lesson that saved it)
A year ago today, Justin and I got kicked off a flight, and what could have been a total meltdown moment turned into one of the biggest relationship lessons of my life. Over pints in the Amsterdam airport, I realized I’d been carrying the same fear in new clothing and it was quietly robbing me of experiencing the love I already had in my relationship.In this episode, I share the full story and the
When triggers show up in healthy relationships
Do you ever wonder why you still feel triggered, even in a healthy relationship? In this live episode of Codependency Alchemy, I share what I’ve been navigating with my partner around boundaries, conflict, and the uncomfortable truth that our partners can’t always meet us the way we want. We explore what to do when one person needs space and the other wants resolution now, why codependency pulls u
Learning to choose yourself after a breakup
Are you in the middle of heartbreak, doubting yourself, or terrified of being “too much” for others? In this intimate session episode of Codependency Alchemy, I guide a member through shadow work and inner child healing as she moves through fresh breakup grief, religious trauma, and the fear of disappointing others. Together, we uncover how old wounds show up in relationships, how to set boundarie
What to do when your partner won’t hear you
Are you tired of sharing your feelings only to be met with blame-shifting, minimization, or deflection? In this episode of Codependency Alchemy, I break down what’s really happening when your partner won’t hear you and how to stop silencing yourself just to keep the peace. We’ll explore why invalidation feels so triggering, the role of self-abandonment, and the four key steps to shift the dynamic:
Healing and repair after rupture with my dad
Please listen to this episode with care, and caution. It may be triggering for people who experienced sexual abuse and trauma. I trust and honor your autonomy.This is the final episode in my four-part Camino series— and it’s the one that scared me the most to record, not because of the conversation with my dad, but because a lot of people don’t understand our relationship. In this conversation wit
The hardest conversation I’ve ever had (with my mom)
This is part three of my four-part Camino series — and I’m not going to lie: this was the hardest conversation I’ve ever had in my life.In this episode, I sit down with my mom to talk about the moment on the Camino when I finally told her the truth— the truth about how her choices impacted me, how much I’d been holding in, and how often I’d protected her feelings instead of honoring my own. It was
Why I stopped trying to save my brother
This is part two of my four-part Camino series— where I’m sitting down with the people I love most to talk about the moments that changed everything.In this episode, I’m joined by my brother to talk about a pattern we didn’t even realize we were stuck in for years: me always trying to help, support, and take care of him… and how this codependent dynamic was negatively impacting our relationship. I
I thought I was helping… but I was actually holding us back
Nine years ago, I walked the Camino de Santiago— thinking I was just going on an adventure with my little brother. But what I found on that path was something I didn’t expect: the truth about the role I was playing in my family’s pain.This is the first episode in a special 4-part series where I’m sharing the moments that changed my life and my relationships forever. In this one, I talk about three
What to do when your partner says something really hurtful
What do you do when your partner says something in a fight that really hurts? In this episode, I respond to a Codependency Alchemy member who felt deeply disrespected during an argument with their partner and doesn’t know what to do next. They didn’t want to shut down, fight back, or threaten the relationship… but they also knew they deserved more care and respect.We talk about:* How to respond wh
Am I still loved if I say no?
Do you feel guilty or afraid to say no—even when your body says you’re at capacity? In this episode I guide Hannah through healing the fear that setting boundaries might lead to rejection or losing the connections and community she’s built and grown for herself. Together we explore how people-pleasing patterns stem from the mother wound, and how to reconnect with the inner child who learned it was
3 questions to unblock the part of you that’s afraid to let go
Ever feel like no matter how much healing work you do, something still keeps you stuck? In this episode, we’re exploring the hidden blocks that sabotage your growth, steal your peace, and keep you spinning in old patterns—even when you’re trying so hard to move forward. I’ll walk you through 3 powerful questions that will help you identify what’s really in the way, where it came from, and how to g
Afraid of making the wrong choice in love?
Do you ever spiral over whether you’re making the “right” choice in your relationship? In this episode of Codependency Alchemy, I guide Julie—a brave member of our membership community—through a powerful healing session exploring the fear of choosing wrong in love. Together, we unpack the inner conflict between her craving for connection and her fear of repeating painful patterns. Through shadow w
8 lessons that changed my relationships forever
Are you tired of doing all the work in your relationship—or wondering why healing still feels so triggering, even with a good partner? In this raw and honest episode of Codependency Alchemy, I share the eight biggest lessons I’ve learned in my 30s that completely transformed how I show up in love. From fixating on my partner’s healing journey to weaponizing my love language, to learning how to hol
Why your nervous system craves unhealthy relationships
Do you feel physically pulled back into relationships you know aren’t healthy, even when you’re committed to healing? In today’s powerful episode, I guide Sarah—a member of the Codependency Alchemy community—through shadow work and inner child healing to uncover why her nervous system feels addicted to chaotic relationships. We explore the hidden reasons behind why we chase unhealthy connections,
Boundaries crossed? How to repair family conflict with grace
Do you struggle with setting boundaries in your family—or find yourself triggered when those boundaries get ignored? In this deeply personal episode, I share my own experience of setting and enforcing a boundary with my grandma, and the powerful process of repairing after a rupture. You'll learn why boundaries aren't about controlling others but taking responsibility for our own emotional safety,
Why healthy relationships still trigger you (& that's OK!)
Do you hold yourself and your partner to unrealistic expectations, believing healthy relationships should never feel triggering or difficult? In this intimate session, I guide a member of the Codependency Alchemy community, through shadow work and inner child healing to explore her anxieties around relationship triggers, unmet expectations, and fears of being alone. We uncover the root causes behi
Mastering Boundaries: How to set and actually enforce them
Do you struggle to set boundaries—or feel defeated when they're ignored? In this episode of Codependency Alchemy, I dive deep into the true meaning of setting boundaries, breaking common misconceptions, and offering a practical three-step framework you can start using immediately. Through relatable stories from my own life and our community, we'll explore how boundary-setting can initially feel un
The practice I use when codependency creeps in (and how you can try it too)
Have you ever wondered why you keep getting triggered by the same things — even after all the journaling and self-awareness? In this episode, I share the simple guided practice that’s helped me (and hundreds of clients) begin to truly heal codependency using shadow work, somatics, and inner child healing. You’ll learn how to meet core wounds with compassion, curiosity, and presence.We’ll walk thro
Breaking patterns of people-pleasing & self-abandonment
Do you carry guilt from past self-abandonment or struggle deeply to forgive yourself for not holding boundaries?In this heartfelt episode of Codependency Alchemy, I guide a member from our membership— who's been on her recovery journey for over two decades—through shadow work and inner child healing. Together, we explore her patterns of people-pleasing, self-harm, and difficulty setting boundaries
Compassionate parenting for raising confident children
Am you parenting from a place of punishment, or are you guiding your child toward autonomy, self-respect, and healthy emotional expression? In this episode, I share my insights as a M.Ed and Montessori educator on how to foster respect, emotional resilience, and healthy boundaries in children. I discuss practical strategies to prevent people-pleasing behaviors, handle challenging moments through p
Attracting unavailable partners? How to break unhealthy relationship patterns
Do you keep attracting emotionally unavailable partners, struggle with feeling abandoned, or constantly doubt your own judgment in relationships? In this episode, I guide Sierra, a member of our Codependency Alchemy community, through a powerful healing process after a painful breakup. Sierra openly shares her experience navigating feelings of abandonment, betrayal, and shame after a promising rel
Conscious Clearing: How to repair after conflict
Have you ever felt lingering tension in a relationship—like unspoken resentment, fear, or anxiety creating distance between you and your partner? In this episode, I dive into conscious clearing, a practice that helps clear unresolved conflict and deepen connection.Rather than seeing conflict as something to avoid, I reframe it as an opportunity for growth, intimacy, and repair. I break down the th
When you're unhappy but scared to leave
Have you ever felt stuck in a relationship, unsure if you should stay or walk away? In this week’s session episode, T, a member of the Codependency Alchemy community, comes to the call seeking clarity about whether her relationship is still aligned. But what emerges is something deeper—a lifelong pattern of feeling responsible for the care and well-being of others, rooted in childhood parentificat
When anxiety hits: Tending to the parts that need you
Do you ever feel anxious but can’t quite pinpoint why? In this podcast live episode I am sharing my personal experience of navigating discomfort and anxiety, walking you through my process of identifying triggers and reflecting on the frustration of revisiting the same wounds. We’ll talk about the importance of self-compassion in the healing journey, and practical ways to tend to intrusive thought
Healing the Fear of Being Seen
Do you ever feel afraid of being truly seen? In this episode, Amba, a member from our Codependency Alchemy membership shares her transformative journey from seeking external validation to embracing self-love and inner trust. After reconnecting with her ex following deep inner work, she reflects on how she is struggling with fears of judgment and being seen in her work. Through a shadow work and in
Navigating Tantrums: Emotional regulation for parents and children
Do you feel overwhelmed when your child has a tantrum? In this episode, we break down the natural cycle of tantrums—beginning, middle, and end—and explore why they are a healthy release of pent-up emotions. We discuss how children attune to parent’s nervous system, the importance of regulating your own emotions, and practical techniques to help children (and adults!) process their feelings. By doi
Shadow work for unlocking fears around your desires
Ever feel like your dreams are just out of reach, especially when the fear of failure or embarrassment keeps holding you back? In this episode, Assisi from our Codependency Alchemy membership shares how our recent Shadow Work Sunday Chat 💬 helped her start questioning her career path and the deeper desires she’s been suppressing. We dive into a shadow work and inner child healing to help her tend
Overcoming limiting beliefs and embracing your desires
Have you ever felt weird about being happy that you totally self-sabotage it with limiting beliefs that make you spiral in fear or doubt? In this live episode hosted on Substack, I share about a moment of joy that took a quick turn into self-doubt and fear of judgment. After celebrating a big win, I found myself spiraling with thoughts that completely knocked me off the joy high I was riding. Toge
Overcoming intrusive thoughts and self-sabotage
Do you struggle with intrusive thoughts about your partner's past or find yourself self-sabotaging when things feel too good? In this episode, a member from our Codependency Alchemy membership shares her journey of recognizing codependency after a self-sabotaging moment during the holidays. Together, we explore the fears of not being "enough," the challenges of embracing happiness, and the power o
Needs, wants, and desires: The missing piece in relationship communication
Have you ever felt like your partner just doesn’t get what you need? Maybe you’ve asked for something (more than once!) and felt crushed when they didn’t follow through. It’s frustrating, right? In this episode, we’re diving into the tricky—but super important—difference between needs, wants, and desires in relationships. I’ll share some hard-won lessons about what’s really hiding underneath those
Feeling invisible: Inner child healing for belonging and self-worth
In this episode I guide Jo, a member from our Codependency Alchemy membership, through a session of shadow work and inner child healing to address feelings of invisibility and unworthiness within her partner’s family. Together, we explore the emotional impact of being unseen, create a safe space for Jo's inner child, and discuss practical ways to integrate this work into daily life.This episode is
Navigating intimacy in relationships
In this live episode, I share my personal journey of rebuilding trust and navigating intimacy in relationships. We’ll explore the challenges of physical intimacy, the importance of self-validation, and how inner child work can transform triggers into opportunities for growth.This episode is for anyone who:* Struggles with vulnerability and fears rejection in relationships.* Finds physical intimacy
Overcoming relationship anxiety: navigating intimacy through shadow work
Do you ever feel anxious or inadequate in your relationship, especially when intimacy isn’t present? In this episode, I guide a member from our Codependency Alchemy membership through the shadow work and inner child healing to uncover the core wounds that are fueling her fear of failure in love (specifically around intimacy, or lack of). Together, we work to validate her inner child, release the n
When you feel dismissed in your relationship
Have you ever felt dismissed or unseen by your partner, especially during stressful times like the holidays? In this episode, I share real-life moments from my relationship with Justin, unpacking the triggers that surfaced during our trip home. Through shadow work and inner child healing, I reconnected with my younger self, gained clarity on my needs, and approached the conflict with more compassi
How shadow work and inner child healing changed her life
STAY CONNECTED! Click here to join the Codependency Alchemy MembershipListen to Luce's Soul Retrieval session here.In this episode:* How Luce discovered codependency work and what led her to it* What her initial thoughts and hesitations were around codependency and inner child work* How the work we do in the Codependency Alchemy membership has transformed her life, and the breakthroughs she has ha
When you need to have everything figured out before taking action
Updates: Next week’s podcast will be the last episode of the year as I take a break to focus on our community here on Substack. I’m excited to create deeper connections and introduce new, fun ways for us to connect. If you haven’t already, download the Substack app to join in!Also, a quick reminder—membership is still just $9/month for now, but the price will increase in the new year so if you’ve
What I wish I would have known before I started dating
In today’s post, I’m sharing a few things I wish I had known at the start of my relationship with Justin, and honestly, even before I started dating anyone. These realizations have been game-changers for me, and I hope they resonate with you too.Download my free Shadow Work and Inner Child Guide to get a printable worksheet that you can use again and again!Upcoming Events for Codependency Alchemy👉
Healing shame, fear, and the need for approval
This story is a powerful reminder that our healing comes from facing the uncomfortable emotions and beliefs we carry, even when they feel overwhelming. It’s through sitting with our pain and giving it space that we find freedom and peace.Download my free Shadow Work and Inner Child Guide to get a printable worksheet that you can use again and again!Upcoming Events for Codependency Alchemy👉🏾 GET 10
When you're stuck looping in the same pattern with your partner
I’m excited to share a personal story today—one that has layers beyond what it seems. You’re definitely going to want to grab a drink, get comfortable, and enjoy. We're talking about boundaries, cookies, and the uncomfy parts of learning our own dysfunction through our relationship dynamics.Only 5 days left to get HTMW Workbook for 50% off!Download my free Shadow Work and Inner Child Guide to get
What if I pass my codependency to my children?
This week I get to sit down with a member from our Codependency Alchemy membership, Nicole, who is exploring the challenges of parenting while navigating her own inner healing journey. In this session I guide Nicole through shadow work and an inner child healing, validate her unmet needs, and help release the burdens of feeling "broken" and "not good enough."This conversation offers a roadmap for
When your partner is depressed
In this episode, I take you back to 2018, when my relationship was taken over by darkness. My partner Justin was battling depression, and I was trapped in a cycle of trying to "fix" him, making his pain and discomfort my responsibility. It led us to a breaking point, where we both felt unseen and alone.Download my free Shadow Work and Inner Child Guide to get a printable worksheet that you can use
When you have anxiety and fear over making "the wrong decision"
On today's episode, I sit down with KaRonna, a working mom struggling with something I think many of us can relate to— the inability to prioritize herself and her own needs amidst the demands of career, parenthood, and life in general, fearing she'll make the wrong decision.Download my free Shadow Work and Inner Child Guide to get a printable worksheet that you can use again and again!Upcoming Eve
My recent depressive episode
In this raw and vulnerable episode (my first time actually crying on the podcast), I open up about my recent experience with depression and feeling discomfort with slowness and spaciousness in my life, which was triggering fears around losing my sense of purpose and self-worth if I'm "not doing anything.”Download my free Shadow Work and Inner Child Guide to get a printable worksheet that you can u
How can I determine whether my boundary is healthy or based on trauma?
In this 1:1 session I sit with a member from our Codependency Alchemy membership. Lena was struggling with codependency, insecurity, and fears around her partner leaving her or cheating which was triggering past traumas. Her goals were to build self-acceptance, heal from past hurts, and develop the ability to set compassionate boundaries in her relationship.👉🏾Join the Codependency Alchemy Mastermi
Identifying codependency (PART TWO)
Here’s the thing that we need to really start understanding: we have spent countless days, months, and years over-identifying and picking apart our mind’s stories, beliefs, and thoughts. In doing so, we have completely neglected our bodies stories which hold the keys to our deepest forms of healing and transformation.In today’s episode I guide the women on the call through a somatic practice where
Identifying codependency (PART ONE)
I recently did a free 3-day immersion where I walked those who signed up through a masterclass on Identifying Codependency, using shadow work and a somatic practice to explore in community.The next two episodes are from this masterclass, and I hope you enjoy the conversations we had as much as I did!What we cover in today’s episode:* What is the mother wound?* What is codependency?* Reflection on
When we self-sabotage and have fear around our partner finding someone better
In today’s episode Crystal asks for support on what to do when conflict comes up in her relationships, how self-sabotage has started to show up, and fears around her partner leaving and finding someone better.Resources:IT'S OFFICIAL! THE WAITLIST FOR THE MASTERMIND IS OPEN AGAIN!👉🏾https://stan.store/alyssaaazander/p/join-the-waitlist-ebph5👉🏾Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: $9/month (or $90/ye
How to build a healthy relationship with food (and yourself) when healing codependency
This week I share about my journey navigating food and meals in our home when we have different health/eating goals. Learn how to establish autonomy over food choices, practice self-trust, and support your partner's (and your own) individual journey.Resources:* Join the Codependency Alchemy Broadcast Channel on Instagram* Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: $9/month (or $90/year) Subscribe on Su
When you find yourself emotionally detached and avoid vulnerability
Many of us struggle with vulnerability and getting close to people, even though deep down it is what we deeply desire. In this episode I get to witness Aaron, who moved a lot in his childhood and felt like he learned to not get attached because everything was temporary.Resources:THE WAITLIST FOR THE MASTERMIND IS OPEN AGAIN!👉🏾https://stan.store/alyssaaazander/p/join-the-waitlist-ebph5👉🏾Join the Co
How to heal codependency and the mother wound
In this episode, we explore how choosing compassion and grace over self-criticism can help heal codependency and the mother wound.When we are hard on ourselves for our perceived flaws or mistakes, we perpetuate feelings of not being good enough. It is through showing ourselves compassion and accepting where we are in our journey that we actually create enough spaciousness to heal codependency and
When you're struggling with letting go of a relationship
In this episode I get to sit with Santia and explore the challenges that come from a relationship ending, and I know that many of us can relate!Shadow Work Prompt* “If I let go, then…” (what am I afraid it will mean about me?)* “If I let go, then…” (what am I afraid will happen?)Resources:IT'S OFFICIAL! THE WAITLIST FOR THE MASTERMIND IS OPEN AGAIN!👉🏾https://stan.store/alyssaaazander/p/join-the-wa
5 warning signs of a codependent relationship
Today we’re going to get into some of the most common codependency warnings signs that I’ve learned along the way.Resources:* Join the Codependency Alchemy Broadcast Channel on Instagram* Codependency Alchemy: The Membership: $9/month (or $90/year) Subscribe on Substack for shadow work prompts, private podcast episodes, and access to monthly masterclasses and group coaching calls. Take the next st
How we rebuilt trust in our relationship
I'm going to be doing a long-awaited podcast episode on something I promised you a long time ago— and to be quite honest, I forgot! This episode is going to be about the tool that Justin and I used to help rebuild the trust in our relationship when we got back together.Resources:IT'S OFFICIAL! THE WAITLIST FOR THE MASTERMIND IS OPEN AGAIN!👉🏾https://stan.store/alyssaaazander/p/join-the-waitlist-ebp
How can I be a thriving, successful partner in my current relationship?
In this weeks podcast episode we explore shadow work and inner child healing with Marella, who has noticed her our anxious tendencies in her relationship and is curious about how to start exploring more healthy and supportive patterns for herself and her relationship.Listen to this full episode by subscribing to Codependency Alchemy: The Membership for $9/month (or less when you join annually)Reso
What to do when you and your partner are not on the same page
This week’s podcast episode is my personal share on what transpired over those few days where we were not on the same page, how I managed to stay aware that I was triggered by the things he was saying to me, and instead of getting defensive and fighting with him, how I was able to bring the conversation forward in a way that allowed for deep and meaningful connection and repairs in our relationshi
When you want to fix everything for everyone
If you feel like it'd your job to make everyone happy, or that it's always your fault when someone is upset, this definitely listen to today's episode. To learn more about why we do this, and practical solutions that you can implement in your life and relationships to help you navigate this pattern, you can check out the masterclass we did on this in the Codependency Alchemy Membership.Resources:*
What if I am still carrying shame from past sexual abuse?
I’ll never forget when I was in my situationship back in 2019 and all my sexual abuse trauma came bubbling up to the surface. I was completely confused because I felt like I had forgiven and put that past me, and I couldn’t understand why it so loud all of a sudden.I learned that I had really repressed some very real feelings and emotions that a very young part of me was still holding. And in toda
What to do when you emotionally attach too quickly
For those of us with codependent or anxious attachment patterns, it's super common to find ourselves making a new person or relationship mean something about us. We start dreaming up this whole future with them and attaching our sense of self-worth and belonging to how much they like us.Resources:* Join the Codependency Alchemy Broadcast Channel on Instagram* Codependency Alchemy: The Membership:
How can I learn to trust myself and others after being in abusive relationships?
When we have experienced abusive relationships, it can be challenging to trust ourselves and others. I remember feeling betrayed by myself, like how could I allow myself to be in something so toxic for so long? If I didn’t know better then, how could I trust myself to know better in the future?Here is the shadow work prompt we explored in this episode:“If I trust (this person/the good things that
What is a "situationship"?
Opening up about a past "situationship" was incredibly difficult (or should I say embarrassing), but I really wanted to share with you all how that experience illuminated my insecure attachment patterns and codependent behaviors that I was completely unaware of.What is a situationship? I would describe a situationship as a romantic connection, but nothing that suggests commitment. It’s perfect if
Healing Codependency in Community
I know I needed community and a brave place for me to navigate my unhealthy relationship patterns, so I created the places I needed. In this episode I talk about how Codependency Alchemy has grown, and thank you all for an amazing SEASON 2!This is just the beginning babes. Stay tuned.Resources:Join the Codependency Alchemy Broadcast Channel on InstagramCLICK HERE TO GET ON THE WAITLIST FOR THE MAS
Is there codependency in your parenting?
Many of the women I have the privilege of working with are mothers. Mothers who feel touched out and need space, but feel guilt when it comes for asking or taking it, or they struggle trusting the resilience of their child and their partner to figure out their own way. I share about my background with child development and things I've learned about cultivating a prepared environment that supp
What is Reasonable When it Comes to Seeking Support from Your Partner?
What is reasonable, or not reasonable when it comes to asking your partner for support. Additionally, what can you rely on your partner for? What are you afraid will happen or what are you afraid it might mean about you if you ask for what you need, or if you ask for support? This was a question submitted in the Codependency Alchemy Broadcast Channel on Instagram. If you want to drop your own top
When there is an imbalance in your relationship
When one partner consistently over-gives or seeks to create comfort for the other, a pattern emerges—one that often stems from deep-seated codependent tendencies rooted in fears of abandonment and rejection. In this episode we explore how these patterns manifest, the toll they take on both partners, and how to navigate towards healthier, more balanced relationships. Resources:CLICK HERE TO GET ON
The Breakup That Healed Me
I think we can all agree that breakups are hardly ever easy. In this episode I talk about the breakup that pushed me to my edges, and how I finally had to face myself (and my unresolved trauma) in the process. I talk about the pain, revelations, and healing that took place through some of the darkest moments of my life. Without this breakup, I wouldn't be who I am today.Resources:Codependency
Do I Self-Sabotage, or Choose Love?
I think this means I passed the test?! Join me as I tell you babes about a vivid dream that sent me tumbling down the rabbit hole of self-doubt and fear, threatening to sabotage my relationship, once again. I unravel the familiar patterns and confront the impulse to push away someone I love. Resources:Listen to Why People-Pleasing is Keeping You From Your Authenticity & JoyCodependency Alchemy
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