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Sensitive & Self-Assured | Confidence | Set Boundaries | Self-acceptance | Find Your Purpose | Self-esteem
This podcast is for highly sensitive women who want to stop feeling overwhelmed and start building self-assurance. Host Allyssya Gossett shares insights on setting boundaries, self-acceptance, and finding purpose. Each episode offers practical guidance on managing sensitivity without dimming it. The goal is to help listeners trust themselves and live confidently.
Episodes
83 | Your Inner Dialogue Deserves an Audience
What if the most fascinating thing about you is something you've been hiding in plain sight?
Many of us spend so much energy managing our inner critic and how we're perceived that we completely miss it: our own brains, and all the thoughts, insight, and fascination we bring to the table. As highly sensitive women, we're processing more, noticing more, feeling more. There's so much value in that. B
82 | What If Your Tears Aren't the Enemy?
What if the tears you've spent years apologizing for aren't a problem to fix, but information to listen to?
Many highly sensitive women cry easily, and most of us don't like that about ourselves. We've learned to treat tears as a verdict: proof we're too much, too fragile, too sensitive to keep it together. So we measure our reactions, brace against the next wave, and feel a flicker of shame every
81 | You're Allowed to Be Silly
What if the most freeing thing you do this week looks a little ridiculous?
Many of us “keep it together” by keeping it controlled. We measure our laughs. We shrink our dance moves. We edit the silly thought before it leaves our mouths.
Most of us learned this early. We noticed which parts of us got a warm response and which parts got a raised eyebrow. So we adjusted. We got quieter, tidier, more a
80 | I Don't Have It All Together
Welcome back, friend. After weeks of fan favorite reruns, I'm back in the recording chair, and I wanted this episode to feel like it does when I sit on the balcony with my friends and catch up on real life.
A client recently told me, "You seem like you always have it all together." I don't. I never have.
So I'm pulling back the curtain on the last several weeks, three things I've been navigating b
79 | Revisit - Simple Isn’t Easy: When Awareness Meets Real Life
We’re often told that once we know better, we’ll do better.
But real life doesn’t work that way.
In this episode, I’m sharing an honest reflection on how even with awareness, tools, and experience, I overextended myself. Not because I didn’t know my limits, but because knowing something doesn’t automatically make it easy to live.
I explore:
🩵 Why awareness doesn’t instantly translate into ch
78 | Revisit - Four Ways to Stop Blocking Your Purpose and Start Living It
Have you done everything "right"? The journaling, the retreats, the personality tests, the conversations with mentors, and still feel like your purpose is just out of reach? You are not alone, and it is absolutely not a failure of effort.
In this episode, we explore why the traditional tools for finding purpose often fall short, and what might be getting in the way. The truth is, purpose isn't som
77 | Revisit - The Power of Regulation: How Managing Your Energy Expands Your Life
There was a time when even leaving the house felt like too much. Fast forward to now, I can attend a social event, connect with people, and come home still feeling calm and energized.
In this episode, I’m sharing what changed: the power of regulation. We’ll explore how learning to manage your energy and senses doesn’t just help you cope, it expands your ability to live, connect, and enjoy more o
76 | Revisit - Confidence Boosters for When You Feel Not Good Enough - Part 1
Do you ever feel like you aren’t good enough? We all have those moments, sometimes because something happened and sometimes there’s no explanation for it, but it’s what we do next that determines if we continue down the low-confidence spiral or shift in the other direction with confidence boosters. In Part 1, I’m sharing 5 tactics you can do today to invigorate you and foster a sense of self-assur
75 | Revisit - Overstimulated? 6 Tactical Ways to Calm Your Senses
Have you ever been in a space where everything suddenly feels like too much? The lights. The noise. The energy. As a highly sensitive woman, sensory overload might not be occasional. It might be part of your daily life.
In this episode, I’m sharing six nervous system-friendly tools you can use in the moment to soothe your senses and bring yourself back into regulation without needing to push throu
74 | Revisit - How Stepping Outside My Comfort Zone Became My Favorite Strategy to Build Confidence
Do you lack or have limited self-confidence? Have fear of trying something new? Tell yourself “I could never do _____”?
For years, I tried to change how I am wired, and ended up depressed and a shell of myself. I became fearful of almost everything. I rarely left the house, and wasn’t honest with those closest to me about my thoughts and feelings. I had no confidence to be myself.
Eventually, the
73 | Personal Power Isn't Control, It's Surrender - with Randi Halaway - Part 2
If you haven't listened to part one of this conversation yet, this half will hit so much deeper once you have.
In part two, Randi Halaway and I get personal in a different way. We talk about the meanings we attach to our own emotions, and how those meanings shape everything from a simple conversation to an entire relationship. I share a moment with my partner where I realized my strength and his s
72 | Personal Power Isn't Control, It's Surrender - with Randi Halaway - Part 1
You've been taught that power means control. That letting go means losing something. That if you stop holding on so tight, everything falls apart.
What if it's the opposite.
In this two part conversation, I sit down with coach Randi Halaway to talk about personal power, not as force, but as surrender. Randi shares what it looked like when she lost touch with her own power, the marriage that lasted
71 | Your Brain Isn't Reporting the Truth
You send a text. Hours pass. No reply.
Somewhere in that silence, your brain starts writing a story. “She’s upset with me. I did something wrong.”
You never asked it to. It just did.
In this episode, I explore the way our brains fill in gaps with information they don't actually have and present it to us as fact. From imagining what a stranger looks like before ever seeing a photo, to inventing wha
70 | 4 Costs of Staying Silent at Work
You're sitting in a meeting. You have a thought, a question, an idea worth sharing. Then the filter kicks in. What if it's a dumb question? What if I should already know this? What if I upset someone?
You say nothing. The meeting moves on. You leave feeling invisible, even though you had so much to offer.
This isn't a confidence problem you were born with. It's a learned pattern, often one that st
69 | Your Energy Is Sacred: Learning to Choose What You Carry - with Alexandra Goldwell
For decades, my guest couldn't stop absorbing the emotions of everyone around her - her clients, her students, and even strangers in a room - and it took her years to understand she wasn't broken. She was highly sensitive, and no one had ever taught her what to do with that.
In this conversation, somatic therapist and counselor educator Alexandra Goldwell shares what three decades of working with
68 | Falling Back Into Old Habits Doesn't Mean You're Failing
Lately, I’ve been having similar conversations with several of my clients. They find themselves back in old habits and old thought patterns they were sure they'd already worked through, and the frustration that follows can be brutal. There's this quiet shame that creeps in, like the work was supposed to be finished by now and certain challenges should have been resolved for good.
So today I'm revi
67 | Why Social Settings Leave You Completely Drained
You're in a room full of people you genuinely like. A topic comes up. You have something real to say. And then the internal checklist starts. Is this the right moment? Will that sound weird? What if they disagree? By the time you've run through all of it, the moment is gone. You say nothing. You leave early. And the next three days, you replay everything you wished you had said.
Today I’m talking
66 | How to Have Self-Compassion When It Feels Like Your Inner Critic Is Always Winning
There's a voice inside. You know the one. The one that shows up when your needs feel like too much, when you're convinced you're a burden, when you're replaying a moment everyone else has probably already forgotten. And instead of offering yourself any grace, you listen to it. You agree with it. You let it win.
In this episode, we're talking about what it means to have compassion for yourself, not
65 | A New Way to Think About Your Sensitive Mind - with Tricia Veldman - Part 2
In Part 2 of my conversation with Trisha Veldman, we pick up where we left off and move into some of the most thought-provoking territory of the entire conversation. We discuss being the movie star of your own life, what it truly means to be powerful and poised, and a perspective on creativity and overthinking that I genuinely have not been able to stop thinking about since we recorded.
In this ep
64 | A New Way to Think About Your Sensitive Mind - with Tricia Veldman - Part 1
Have you ever felt like your sensitivity was something to apologize for? Like you owed the world an explanation every time you needed to leave early, skip the late night out, or take fewer clients than your colleagues? If so, this episode is for you.
In Part 1, I sit down with Trisha Veldman, confidence coach, spoken word poet, TEDx speaker, and founder of Powerful and Poised, for an honest and de
63 | The Healing Power of Seeing Yourself: A Boudoir Journey to Self-Love - with Vanessa Isenbarger
What if the most radical thing you could do for yourself was simply allow yourself to be seen?
In this deeply personal and inspiring episode, I sit down with boudoir photographer Vanessa Isenbarger, a woman whose lens has transformed the way countless women see themselves. With over 15 years behind the camera, Vanessa has built more than a photography business. She has created a sacred space where
62 | The Other Side of Hard
Last week we talked about the discomfort of speaking up for what you want and need. This week, we're continuing that conversation because speaking up is a hard thing. And hard things? Sometimes we avoid them because we think it’s easier, but the truth is the easy route costs us more than we realize.
On May 2, 2026, I crossed the finish line of a half-marathon that has lived on my goal list for nea
From The Highly Sensitive Woman to Sensitive & Self-Assured: Why I Changed the Name of My Podcast
In this short but intentional episode, I'm walking you through the thought process behind changing the name of this podcast from The Highly Sensitive Woman to Sensitive & Self-Assured, and why this shift feels more honest about where we've always been headed.
The original name served its season. But over time, I found myself wanting to lead with a destination rather than a label. So many of us
61 | Choosing Discomfort That Sets You Free
Have you ever stayed quiet about something small only to watch it snowball into something much bigger in your mind? You're not alone, and this episode is for you.
I'm revisiting one of my favorite episodes from last May, but first I'm getting real about something that happened to me recently, because even after years of doing this work, I still fall into old patterns sometimes.
I stayed silent abo
60 | The Freedom of No Longer Trying to Fit In - with Sara Gilbert
What if the thing you spent years trying to hide is actually your greatest gift? In this episode, Allyssya sits down with award-winning business coach, speaker, and Forbes Coaches Council member Sara Gilbert to talk about what it really means to be a highly sensitive woman and why it might just be the most powerful thing about you.
Sara opens up about growing up feeling like her sensitivity was a
59 | Four Ways to Stop Blocking Your Purpose and Start Living It
Have you done everything "right"? The journaling, the retreats, the personality tests, the conversations with mentors, and still feel like your purpose is just out of reach? You are not alone, and it is absolutely not a failure of effort.
In this episode, we explore why the traditional tools for finding purpose often fall short, and what might be getting in the way. The truth is, purpose isn't som
58 | Why You Keep Comparing Yourself to Her (And What You’re Really Looking For)
You know her. The woman who seems calm in hard conversations. The one who doesn’t spiral, doesn’t overthink, doesn’t fall apart.
And somewhere inside, a quiet question rises: Why can’t I be more like that?
In this episode, we move beyond the usual advice to “just stop comparing yourself” and take a deeper, more honest look at what comparison is doing beneath the surface.
Because it’s not really ab
57 | Creating Emotional Safety in Relationships - with Diane McDowell
In this episode, I’m joined by someone who has shaped my personal journey, especially during a pivotal time in my life.
Diane McDowell is a therapist of 25+ years turned relationship coach, and she’s also the person who first introduced me to the concept of being a highly sensitive person. That moment gave me language for something I had felt my entire life, but never fully understood.
Togethe
56 | Creativity as Regulation: Using Art as a Tool for Healing - with Lexi Reid
If you’ve ever told yourself “I’m just not creative”, this episode is going to gently challenge that belief.
In this conversation, I’m joined by creative wellness coach Lexi Reid, who works with high-achieving women in STEM to ease stress and burnout through simple, accessible creative practices.
With a background in science and regulatory work, Lexi shares how she rediscovered creativity not as s
55 | How to Stop the Post-Decision Spiral
Have you ever made a decision… and then immediately started questioning it?
You send the text, set the boundary, make the choice, then your mind jumps in:
“Did I say the wrong thing?”
“Was that the right decision?”
“Should I have done something differently?”
If this feels familiar, you’re not alone.
In this episode, I’m continuing the conversation from last week on decision-making, and focusing on
54 | There Is No “Right” Decision: 4 Tools to Stop Overthinking and Start Moving Forward
For many highly sensitive women, decision-making can feel overwhelming. We want to be responsible. We don’t want to waste time. We don’t want to make the wrong choice or disappoint someone else. So we think…and think…and think some more.
But what if the idea that there is a single “right” decision is actually the thing keeping you stuck?
In this episode, I challenge the belief that decisions a
53 | The Power of Taking Action
This week’s episode is a special one. 🎉 The Highly Sensitive Woman is celebrating its one-year anniversary, and I’m reflecting on what this past year of podcasting has taught me about growth, courage, and the power of taking action.
When I launched this show on March 13, 2025, I had no idea what would come from it. But I knew one thing for sure: the process of creating it had already begun to chan
52 | Making Peace with Food and Your Feelings - with Nan Saysana - Part 2
What if calming your nervous system could be simple… and nearly invisible?
In part two of this rich conversation, I’m back with certified life and weight loss coach Nan Saysana to move from awareness into action. Nan shares the gentle sensory regulation techniques she teaches her clients - practical tools you can use anywhere to quiet the stress response and feel more steady in your body in real t
51 | Making Peace with Food and Your Feelings - with Nan Saysana - Part 1
What if your struggle with food isn’t actually about food at all?
In part one of this powerful conversation, I’m joined by certified life and weight loss coach Nan Saysana. She helps women who lift weights stop binge eating and feel proud of their bodies without deprivation, shame, or obsession. Together, we explore the emotional roots of overeating, what it really means to “people please with foo
50 | Why Clarity on Your Needs and Preferences Changes Every Relationship You Have
In this reflective post–Valentine’s Day episode, I explore how getting clear on your needs, preferences, and emotional desires can transform every relationship in your life - romantic, familial, and friendships alike.
Through personal stories and gentle self-inquiry, this conversation highlights the difference between vague traits and lived experiences, the power of identifying non-negotiable need
49 | From Chronic Stress & Survival Mode to Self-Trust & Subconscious Healing - with Ashlea Dillard - Part 2
In Part 2 of this conversation with Ashlea Dillard, firefighter-paramedic turned Licensed Professional Counselor and Certified Clinical & Transpersonal Hypnotherapist, we move from understanding stress and survival mode into what healing actually looks like.
Ashlea shares how people-pleasing often develops as a coping strategy, why so many women struggle to prioritize themselves without guil
48 | From Chronic Stress & Survival Mode to Self-Trust & Subconscious Healing - with Ashlea Dillard - Part 1
What happens when a highly sensitive woman builds a career in one of the most high-stress, male-dominated professions and begins to realize her body is paying the price?
In Part 1 of this two-part conversation, I’m joined by Ashlea Dillard, firefighter-paramedic turned Licensed Professional Counselor and Certified Clinical & Transpersonal Hypnotherapist. We explore what it was like for her to
47 | Letting Go of Goals That Aren’t Yours
Feeling frustrated with yourself for not wanting what you’re “supposed” to want leaves you feeling drained and unsure of yourself. Recently, I had a moment that stopped me in my tracks: realizing a fitness goal I was pushing myself toward wasn’t actually my goal, it was a suggestion from a fitness app that I quietly adopted and then judged myself for not meeting.
This pattern may feel familiar.
46 | Less Friction, More Flow: Listening to Your Intuition in Money and in Life - with Erin Gray
Many highly sensitive women carry an unspoken tension around money - feelings of overwhelm, guilt, or inner conflict that don’t seem to respond to traditional financial advice.
I’m joined by Erin Gray, host of the Your Money, Your Rules podcast, for a deep and compassionate conversation about sensitivity, intuition, and money. Erin shares her personal journey of reclaiming her sensitivity as a str
45 | Imperfect Still Counts: Escaping All-or-Nothing Thinking
If you’ve ever thought, "If I can’t do it the right way, I won’t do it at all," this episode is for you.
Today, I’m unpacking how all-or-nothing thinking quietly keeps us stuck — not because we don’t care, but because we care so much that anything less than ideal feels like failure.
I share a recent experience at the gym where my workout didn’t look impressive on paper (no sweat, barely elevated h
44 | Stuck, Overwhelmed, or Drained? Your Home May Be Part of the Story - with Lisa Morton
Your home is more than a place you return to at the end of the day. It’s an energetic partner in your well-being.
In this episode, I sit down with Lisa Morton to explore how our spaces impact our nervous systems, emotions, and ability to move forward in life.
Lisa shares her personal journey as a highly sensitive woman, how she intuitively used her bedroom to self-soothe as a child, and how those
43 | New Year, Same You: Choose Self-Acceptance and Let Change Follow
A new year often arrives with an unspoken message: be better, do more, change faster. For highly sensitive women, that pressure can feel especially heavy.
I am offering a different invitation.
Instead of trying to reinvent yourself, I explore what becomes possible when you choose self-acceptance and allow change to follow naturally.
Inspired by the French quote “I accept the great adventure of bei
42 | Simple Isn’t Easy: When Awareness Meets Real Life
We’re often told that once we know better, we’ll do better.
But real life doesn’t work that way.
In this episode, I’m sharing an honest reflection on how even with awareness, tools, and experience, I overextended myself. Not because I didn’t know my limits, but because knowing something doesn’t automatically make it easy to live.
I explore:
🩵 Why awareness doesn’t instantly translate into ch
41 | Beyond Labels: Thriving as a Sensitive Introvert, Ambivert, or Extrovert
Introvert. Extrovert. Ambivert.
We hear these words all the time, but if you’re a highly sensitive woman, those labels often feel too small to capture your lived experience.
In today’s episode, I explore how sensitivity and social energy intersect and why so many highly sensitive people assume they’re introverts when what they could really be navigating is nervous system overstimulation.
This conv
40 | Nervous System Healing & the Journey Back to Self
What does it mean to lose yourself… and then find your way home again?
In this deeply personal birthday episode, I’m celebrating turning 47 while honoring the layered emotions this milestone brings. My grandmother passed away at this same age, and reaching it has stirred a combination of grief, purpose, and a sense of arrival.
I also share the deeply personal reality that ten years ago, I spen
39 | I Almost Didn’t Become This Version of Me
In this special Thanksgiving episode, I’m slowing down and sharing a deeply personal reflection on gratitude - gratitude for the people who have supported me, for the hard seasons that shaped me, for the parts of myself that protected me, and for the body that carried me through years of struggle and transformation. I simply want to honor the journey and the people that helped me survive and grow
38 | Leading With Courage: Breaking Barriers, Boundaries & Becoming Alcohol-Free - with Toni Will
In this deeply empowering conversation, I sit down with trailblazing leader, author, speaker, and the first female general manager in the history of the ECHL’s Kalamazoo Wings, Toni Will. Toni has spent more than a decade leading in a male-dominated industry while simultaneously building a movement around empowered living, alcohol-free lifestyle choices, and intentional personal growth.
Together
37 | Stop Shaming Your Nervous System - with Sara Bybee Fisk
What happens when a lifetime of people-pleasing, perfectionism, and performance keeps you from honoring your sensitivity? In this episode, I sit down with Sara Bybee Fisk, a coach, mentor, and expert in helping women unlearn rampant people-pleasing, perfectionism, and codependency. Together, we unpack what it means to reclaim your sensitivity after years of being told to toughen up, give more, and
36 | From Resistance to Reverence: Embracing My Sensitive Nature
There was a time when I would’ve done anything not to be so sensitive, when every emotional reaction or physical discomfort felt like a flaw I needed to fix. But over time, something shifted. Today, I hold my sensitivity with reverence.
This episode is all about that transformation - the honest, often messy journey that took me from resistance and resentment to eventual acceptance, and what it rea
35 | Stretch, Don’t Shatter: 4 Ways to Bolster Self-Esteem
There’s a certain kind of discomfort that comes with growth, but for many highly sensitive women, that discomfort can feel like too much, too fast. When our confidence is low, we often convince ourselves that the only way forward is to change everything at once… to become someone louder, bolder, or less sensitive. But that approach often backfires, leaving us retreating into self-doubt, convinced
34 | The Power of Regulation: How Managing Your Energy Expands Your Life
There was a time when even leaving the house felt like too much. Fast forward to now, I can attend a social event, connect with people, and come home still feeling calm and energized.
In this episode, I’m sharing what changed: the power of regulation. We’ll explore how learning to manage your energy and senses doesn’t just help you cope, it expands your ability to live, connect, and enjoy more o
33 | When No One’s Asking But You’re Still Pleasing
Sometimes we don’t even realize we’re people-pleasing because it’s happening automatically. It’s not about trying to impress or gain approval anymore; it’s about the deeply wired instinct to anticipate and adjust for others before they even ask.
In this episode, I share a personal story that opened my eyes to just how quietly this habit can shape our choices. We’ll explore:
🩵 Why people-pleasing c
32 | Stop Saying Sorry: Reclaiming Your Words and Worth
How often do you catch yourself saying “I’m sorry”? Maybe it slips out when you miss a call, ask for something you need, or simply take up space. While “sorry” can be powerful when it’s sincere, over-apologizing can quietly chip away at your confidence and sense of worth.
In this episode, I uncover:
🩵 Why “sorry” has become a reflex for so many of us
🩵 Three common ways we misuse apologies
🩵 The
31 | Struggling to Know Who You’re Meant to Be? Practices to Help You Find Purpose
Ever wondered, Who am I really meant to be? For many highly sensitive women, societal “shoulds” and outside expectations drown out our inner voice, leaving us unsure of our true purpose.
In this episode of The Highly Sensitive Woman, I share a gentle reframe to help you rediscover who you truly are and uncover the purpose that’s been waiting inside you all along. Together, we’ll explore why iden
30 | The Secret to Feeling Safe When the Tears Fall
How often has it felt risky to show up as your true self? For many highly sensitive women, all emotions spill out in tears. While that can feel vulnerable or even “too much,” your tears aren’t a weakness; they’re proof of your authenticity.
The three key practices that help highly sensitive women feel safe being their true selves:
🩵 Redefine what tears mean: they’re a release valve
🩵 Create in
29 | Constantly Feeling Overwhelmed? 3 Tips to Protect Your Energy and Limit Sensory Overload
If you’ve ever walked into a room and felt your senses go into overdrive - the noise, the chatter, the energy - it can feel like too much. Before long, your body is overwhelmed, your inner critic is loud, and you leave drained and disappointed.
In this episode of The Highly Sensitive Woman, I’m sharing a personal story from a women’s retreat and three practical tips to help you protect your ener
28 | How Self-Criticism Is Quietly Draining Your Confidence
Have you ever tried to use the wrong tool for the job? It might work for a while, but eventually things fall apart. The tool itself isn’t broken; it’s just being used in a way for which it wasn’t designed.
That’s exactly what happens for highly sensitive women when we try to operate like the other 80% of the population. Instead of honoring the way we’re wired, we push ourselves to fit in, and wh
27 | How Weak Boundaries Create Resentment in Relationships
Have you ever agreed to something you didn’t want to do, stayed quiet when something bothered you, or found yourself overexplaining your “no” just to soften the impact? These small moments might seem harmless, but over time they can lead to frustration, disconnection, and deep resentment in your relationships.
In this episode of The Highly Sensitive Woman, I’m exploring how weak boundaries quiet
26 | 4 Perspective Shifts to Calm Inner Conflict
Sometimes the smallest change in how we see things can make the biggest difference. What if someone’s sharp tone wasn’t about you at all? What if “different” didn’t mean “wrong”? Our perspective can either weigh us down or set us free.
In this episode, I’m sharing 4 gentle perspective shifts that will help you lighten your emotional load and bring more peace to your daily life.
I’m discussing:
25 | Becoming Who You’ve Always Been
Have you ever been complimented on something - an outfit, a choice, a way of being - and deep down thought, “This isn’t even me”?
As highly sensitive women, we’re often praised for the roles we play: the versions of ourselves carefully constructed to gain approval, keep the peace, or fit in. But what happens when the life you’re living doesn’t actually feel like yours?
In this episode, I’m pe
24 | Beyond Perfect: Stepping Out of Your Comfort Zone with Courage
Are you stuck in “just one more” podcast, book, or course, waiting until you feel perfectly ready? As highly sensitive women, we often love to be prepared, and we’re really good at it.
In this episode, I'm talking about how perfectionism keeps highly sensitive women playing small, and the gentle, doable steps you can take to grow… even when it feels messy.
You’ll walk away with tangible tools,
23 | Overstimulated? 6 Tactical Ways to Calm Your Senses
Have you ever been in a space where everything suddenly feels like too much? The lights. The noise. The energy. As a highly sensitive woman, sensory overload might not be occasional — it might be part of your daily life.
In this episode, I’m sharing six nervous system-friendly tools you can use in the moment to soothe your senses and bring yourself back into regulation without needing to push th
22 | Set Boundaries and Unlock Peace
Do you feel guilty saying “no”? Are you constantly putting other people’s needs ahead of your own? As a highly sensitive woman, you might be caught in the exhausting cycle of people-pleasing, unclear boundaries, and inner turmoil. But here’s the truth: setting healthy boundaries isn’t selfish—it’s the key to protecting your energy and creating the peace you’ve been craving.
In this episode, I’m br
21 | Why Being Highly Sensitive Is Actually a Gift
In this heartfelt and empowering episode, I’m getting real about what it means to be a highly sensitive woman. From personal experiences to powerful insights, I’m sharing why sensitivity is not something that needs to be fixed, but rather, something to be celebrated.
We’ll explore how the world has conditioned many of us to believe our deep emotions and big feelings are flaws, and I’ll offer a d
The Highly Sensitive Woman is taking a break
Because sometimes we all need a moment to catch our breath, The Highly Sensitive Woman podcast is taking a break. I'll be back on July 24th with new episodes.
Until then, listen to some of your favorites or get caught up on episodes you may have missed.
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20 | How People Pleasing Is Preventing Genuine Connection
How often do you let other people decide how your time together will unfold — what you’ll do, when you’ll do it, even what you’ll talk about? You show up, but you leave feeling empty, unfulfilled, and disconnected — like you can’t fully be yourself. Today, I’m pulling back the curtain on how this subtle form of people-pleasing keeps you from building the deep, meaningful connections you truly crav
19 | Confidence Boosters for When You Feel Not Good Enough - Part 2
We all experience those moments when self-doubt creeps in — sometimes it’s triggered by a specific event, and other times it shows up uninvited, with no clear reason at all. The important part is what happens next. Do we let that doubt take over, or do we make a conscious choice to shift toward confidence? In this episode, we’re diving into practical ways to help you do just that.
In this Part 2 e
18 | Confidence Boosters for When You Feel Not Good Enough - Part 1
Do you ever feel like you aren’t good enough? We all have those moments, sometimes because something happened and sometimes there’s no explanation for it, but it’s what we do next that determines if we continue down the low-confidence spiral or shift in the other direction with confidence boosters. In Part 1, I’m sharing 5 tactics you can do today to invigorate you and foster a sense of self-assur
17 | The Real Reason You Feel Resentment and How to Change It
I used to go through life with an undercurrent of irritation all of the time, and didn’t really understand why. Then I heard this quote from Neil Strauss: “Unspoken expectations are premeditated resentments.” The concept was enlightening, and I also wasn’t sure how to start saying what I wanted because I’d rarely done it.
In this episode, you’ll learn:
🩵 How to check in with yourself before sp
16 | Behind the Scenes of Being Human
When old thought patterns creep back in, try not to panic because it’s a totally normal part of life and you're just learning to dance to the new soundtrack you’re creating for yourself. In this episode, I’m going behind the scenes of being human and reminding you that you are not alone when it feels like you’ve stumbled backward. In truth, a stronger, more confident you is emerging.
Want to be
15 | Tired of Being Guarded? It’s Time to Take Risks to Create Relationship Trust.
Have you felt misunderstood your entire life, so you stay guarded when interacting with people, waiting until you feel safe to open up and show them the real you? Being rejected is painful, and so is going through life guarded, pretending to be a version of yourself that isn’t entirely authentic.
Letting your guard down is risky, and you might get rejected. There’s also the possibility that by sho
14 | Expand Your Capacity by Protecting Your Energy
Do you ever say No to an invitation because you fear you won’t have enough energy to do it, even though you would rather say Yes? What we do before and during an activity makes a huge difference in our enjoyment of the experience.
In this episode, I’m sharing how you can expand your capacity to do more by offering ways to protect your energy, because when you preserve your energy, you get to have
13 | Why Your Comfort Zone Is Actually Causing You Discomfort
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12 | 4 Reasons to Stop Ruminating Over Everything You Said
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Key takeaways:
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🩵 How resentment feels like you are angry at another person, but that anger is misdirected
🩵 The truth about the discomfort that you feel when you expres
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What we believe about ourselves determines the actions we take. Do you struggle with self-doubt and the belief that you are worthy of something more? Something better? Something different?
Today, I’m opening up about a time when I believed I was not worthy of different circumstances and the frustration we feel when we’re in a season of transition from who we used to be into who we are becoming.
I
9 | 3 Ways Perfectionism Is Preventing You From Keeping Promises to Yourself
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Key Takeaways:
The root of perfectionism
3 ways perfectionism prevents you from saying, doing, and producing what you want
A
8 | Feeling Low on Energy? Indecision Could Be the Culprit
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7 | Why You Can’t Find Inner Peace and How Setting Boundaries Will Change Everything
I used to believe I was destined to live a life void of inner peace because, as much as I tried to find it, I continued to experience constant inner turmoil. It wasn’t until I started setting boundaries that I got a glimpse of what was possible, and everything changed.
If inner peace is eluding you, don’t miss this week’s episode as I teach a practical exercise to begin the process of setting boun
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In this episode, I share the secret to self-acceptance as a Highly Sensitive Woman and offer an exercise to try over the next 30 days t
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