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The Complex Trauma Podcast

The Complex Trauma Podcast

Sarah Herstich 135 Episodes Aug 19, 2026

A podcast for anyone healing from complex PTSD, childhood emotional neglect, and the patterns you've been carrying without knowing what to call them. Hosted by EMDR and somatic trauma therapist Sarah Herstich, each episode gets into nervous system healing, trauma responses, and what it actually takes to stop living in survival mode. If you've spent years people-pleasing, apologizing for existing, or holding it together on the outside while unraveling on the inside, this is for you. We talk about the fawn response, toxic shame, hypervigilance, and why your body still doesn't feel safe even when nothing bad is happening. New episodes every Wednesday.

Episodes

Why Trauma Memory Gaps Don't Mean You Made It Up
Why Trauma Memory Gaps Don't Mean You Made It Up Aug 19, 2026 1488 Maybe you barely remember your childhood. Maybe you've done years of trauma work, you're finally feeling better, and now you're wondering, was it really that bad? Did I make it all up?This episode is about trauma, memory, and self-trust. Why memory isn't a recording, why gaps and fragments don't prove or disprove anything, why healing itself can create distance from a memo
The Messy Middle of Nervous System Regulation
The Messy Middle of Nervous System Regulation Aug 12, 2026 898 This week's episode is  a little different. Instead of something super polished, I'm giving you the real time version of my own messy middle. What dysregulation actually feels like in my body right now, why regulation isn't the absence of activation, and what's actually helping me stay steady in a hard season of my life, from a walk around the block to finally asking for help.I
Why Relationships and Connection Feel So Hard After Complex Trauma
Why Relationships and Connection Feel So Hard After Complex Trauma Aug 5, 2026 2133 Why does connection feel so hard after complex trauma?You want closeness, but when someone gets too close, you pull away.You want support, but "I'm fine" comes out before you've even thought about it.You want to trust people, yet asking for help, receiving kindness, or staying present during conflict can feel surprisingly difficult.If you've ever wondered why relationships
The Impact of Emotionally Immature Parents with Lindsay Gibson
The Impact of Emotionally Immature Parents with Lindsay Gibson Jul 29, 2026 3904 What is the real impact of growing up with emotionally immature parents? Dr. Lindsay Gibson, author of the bestselling Adult Children of Emotionally Immature Parents, joins the show to explain what it costs a child over decades, and how to parent differently.In this conversation, we get into:What actually makes a parent emotionally immatureWhy the love can be real and the harm can be real at the s
Why You Don't Know Who You Are After Complex Trauma
Why You Don't Know Who You Are After Complex Trauma Jul 22, 2026 2108 If you've ever caught yourself wondering who you actually are underneath the anxiety, the people pleasing, or the version of you that shows up to keep everyone else comfortable, this episode is for you.I break down what a sense of self actually is, why complex trauma gets in the way of building one, and what it looks like to start forming it now, as an adult. That means looking at three capac
When Perfectionism Takes the Joy Out of the Things You Love
When Perfectionism Takes the Joy Out of the Things You Love Jul 15, 2026 1657 Sometimes a hobby amplifies whatever relationship your nervous system has with uncertainty.If you've ever found yourself staring at a blank page, putting off a creative project, or feeling tense doing something that's supposed to be relaxing, this episode is for you.Today we're exploring why perfectionism can turn creativity into a performance, how complex trauma changes our relatio
Somatic Therapy 101: The Nervous System Basics Behind Trauma Healing
Somatic Therapy 101: The Nervous System Basics Behind Trauma Healing Jul 8, 2026 1982 If you've ever wondered why insight alone hasn't been enough to heal your trauma, this episode is your answer. We're going all the way back to fundamentals with a real somatic therapy 101, covering what somatic therapy actually is, how the nervous system holds onto trauma, and why healing from CPTSD requires more than just understanding your story.In this episode, we cover:Why traum
Why Your Nervous System Craves Certainty (And Why It Looks Like Control)
Why Your Nervous System Craves Certainty (And Why It Looks Like Control) Jul 1, 2026 1133 Ever been called controlling? Too rigid? Too much? On today's episode I breaks down why it was maybe never about control. Your nervous system has maybe been trying to answer one question this whole time: am I safe?This episode covers the real reason behind reassurance seeking, perfectionism, hypervigilance, overthinking, and food rules, and why none of it is a character flaw. Using research o
Emotional Flashbacks in Complex Trauma Explained
Emotional Flashbacks in Complex Trauma Explained Jun 24, 2026 2193 Emotional flashbacks are one of the most common and most misunderstood experiences in complex trauma. Unlike visual flashbacks, they don't come with images or a clear memory. They arrive as intense feelings, shame, fear, loneliness, helplessness, often with no story attached and no warning.In this episode, Sarah breaks down what emotional flashbacks actually are. You'll learn why insight
Complex Trauma and the Belief That You're a Burden
Complex Trauma and the Belief That You're a Burden Jun 17, 2026 1257 Do you feel guilty every time you need something, even from people who love you? Do you find it easy to show up for everyone else but nearly impossible to let someone show up for you?If so, this episode is for you.In episode 135, I explore the belief that you are a burden. Not as a passing thought, but as a felt sense in the body that gets activated the moment you need something from another perso
Why Complex Trauma Survivors Struggle to Believe Themselves
Why Complex Trauma Survivors Struggle to Believe Themselves Jun 10, 2026 1750 Many complex trauma survivors struggle to trust their memories, emotions, perceptions, and reactions. In this episode, we're exploring why being disbelieved can feel so painful, how emotional neglect and attachment wounds can teach us to question ourselves, and why trauma often leaves us with fragments of memory instead of a clear narrative.We discuss: • Why not being believed can feel abando
Why Emotional Loneliness Runs So Deep in Complex Trauma
Why Emotional Loneliness Runs So Deep in Complex Trauma Jun 3, 2026 1875 Emotional loneliness is one of the most common and least talked about experiences in complex trauma recovery. It's not about the number of people in your life. It's about whether your nervous system has learned to let them in. And for a lot of survivors, it hasn't. Not because something is permanently wrong with you, but because your nervous system learned some very specific things

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