Reignite: Love, Sex & Truth for Conscious Couples
Reignite: Love, Sex & Truth for Conscious Couples is a podcast hosted by intimacy and relationship teacher Kim Coffin-Phoenix and her partner Roberto. The show explores sacred sexuality, conscious communication, emotional safety, and the alchemy of modern relationships through both feminine and masculine perspectives. It blends trauma healing, nervous-system wisdom, and Tantra practices to help couples deepen their connection and passion. The podcast aims to guide couples from functional relationships to phenomenal ones.
Episodes
Our Wedding, Part 3: Why We Still Fight & How We Find Our Way Back To Each Other
Yes, we're relationship and intimacy coaches. Yes, we just got married. And yes, we still fight.In Part 3 of our wedding series, we're taking you behind the beautiful ceremony and celebration to talk about the relationship we were actually celebrating that weekend.Because that relationship wasn't created on our wedding day. It was built through the beautiful moments and the messy ones. The trigger
Inside Our Tantric Wedding: Love, Ritual, and Doing Marriage Our Way (Part 2)
What does it really mean to consciously choose each other, not just on your wedding day, but throughout your relationship?In Part 2 of our Tantric wedding story, we take you deeper inside the rituals, emotions, laughter, tears, and unexpected moments that made the weekend so meaningful to us.But this episode is about much more than our wedding. We explore what it means to be truly witnessed in you
Inside Our Tantric Wedding: Love, Ritual, and Doing Marriage Our Way (Part 1)
What happens when you stop asking what marriage is supposed to look like and start asking what you actually want it to feel like?A few weeks ago, we got married at our home and private lakeside sanctuary, Phoenix Rising Retreats. But this wasn't a traditional wedding. We created a deeply personal weaving of vows rooted in Tantra, ritual, nature, community, and consciously choosing one another.In P
What Nobody Tells You About Sex After 50
What if your best sex isn’t behind you, but still ahead of you?In this episode, Kimberly and Roberto challenge the idea that sex inevitably declines with age and share how their own experiences of intimacy have transformed at 50. They get candid about menopause, sexual and body shame, performance, pleasure, past experiences, and the conditioning that can keep us disconnected from our bodies and ea
Why Date Nights Aren't Fixing Your Relationship
One of the most common pieces of relationship advice is, “You just need more date nights.”
But what if you’re already spending plenty of time together and still feel disconnected?
Dinner, vacations, concerts, movies, and weekends away can all be fun, but simply being in the same place doesn’t automatically create connection.
In this episode, Kimberly and Roberto explore the difference between spen
Why Midlife Is So Hard On Relationships
Midlife can be one of the biggest relationship stress tests couples will ever face.
Your body changes. Your children grow up. Parents age. Careers shift. Health and retirement become more important. And somewhere along the way, you may realize you’ve spent years surviving, achieving, and taking care of everyone else without truly connecting with yourself or your partner.
In this episode, we get pe
The Real Reason You're Not Having Sex Anymore
When sex starts disappearing from a relationship, most couples assume sex is the problem.
But what if the lack of sex is actually the messenger?
Stress, resentment, pressure, shame, emotional disconnection, and feeling unseen or unheard can all show up in the bedroom. And simply trying to have more sex doesn’t address what’s happening underneath.
In this episode, Kimberly and Roberto explore why d
Thinking About a Couples Retreat?
Have you ever been curious about a couples retreat but wondered what actually happens once you get there?
Are we going to have to share everything in front of strangers? Do we have to get naked? Is there s*x happening in the group room?
What if we’ve never done Tantra before? What if our relationship isn’t actually that bad?
And what if one of us is way more interested than the other?
These are so
Can You Fall Back in Love With Your Partner
“I still care about my partner… but I don’t know if I’m in love anymore.”
It’s a question many couples quietly carry.
Not because the relationship is over…
but because something feels different.
Heavier.
More distant.
Less connected.
So the question becomes:
Can we actually get back to where we were?
In This Episode, We Cover:
why love doesn’t just disappear… it gets neglected
what really
How to Escape Roommate Mode and Feel Like Lovers Again
“We feel more like roommates than partners.”
It’s one of the most common things couples say…
Not because they’re unhappy.
Not because they’re fighting.
But because they’re disconnected.
Living side by side.
Managing life.
Getting through the week.
Hoping connection will somehow come back on its own.
But it rarely does.
In This Episode, We Cover:
how couples gradually drift into roommate mod
The 15 Ways We Secretly Sabotage Our Own Relationships
Why do relationships break down… even when there’s still love?
It’s usually not one big moment.
It’s the small, repeated patterns… the ones we don’t even realize we’re doing.
In this episode, we unpack the 15 most common ways couples secretly sabotage their relationships… not because they don’t care, but because they’re trying to protect themselves.
And often, those protection patterns create the
Why Women Stop Wanting Sex In Long-Term Relationships
Why does desire fade in long-term relationships?
And why does it feel so confusing, painful, and personal when it does?
In this episode, we’re unpacking one of the most misunderstood dynamics in relationships… when a woman stops wanting sex.
Because it’s rarely about attraction.
It’s about what’s happening underneath.
In This Episode, We Cover:
why female desire is deeply connected to emotiona
Why Men Shut Down…And What Women Often Misunderstand About It
Why do men shut down in relationships?
And why does it feel so personal when they do?
In this episode, we’re unpacking one of the most common (and misunderstood) dynamics in relationships… the shutdown.
Because when one partner is trying to connect, and the other pulls away, it can quickly turn into a painful cycle of pursuit and withdrawal.
But what’s really happening underneath might not be what
How to Feel Wanted Again in Your Relationship
What does it really mean to feel wanted in a relationship?
For many couples, this is where disconnection quietly begins.
You can be spending every day together… living life side by side… and still feel unseen, undesired, or emotionally distant.
In this episode, we’re opening up an honest conversation about what it actually takes to feel wanted again… and why so many couples miss each other in th
How Couples Slowly Drift Apart Without Realizing It
Most couples don't wake up one morning and decide to disconnect. There isn't usually a huge betrayal.
No dramatic ending. No single moment where everything falls apart.
Instead, it happens quietly.
Through busy schedules. Work. Parenting. Phones. Responsibilities. Stress.
Life simply takes over.
And little by little, connection gets pushed to the bottom of the list until one day couples find thems
Why You Keep Feeling Rejected in the Bedroom (And How to Reconnect)
Feeling rejected in the bedroom hurts.
Whether you're the one initiating or the one saying no… it can quickly become one of the most painful dynamics in a relationship.
The person reaching for connection may be wondering:
"Do they even want me anymore?""What's wrong with me?""Am I not attractive enough?"
Meanwhile, the person saying no may be thinking:
"I'm exhausted.""I don't feel connected.""I'm
From Pressure to Pleasure - Rewriting Your Sexual Dynamic
For many couples, sex becomes loaded.
Pressure.
Expectation.
Avoidance.
Performance.
Resentment.
And once that dynamic sets in, even love can start to feel tense.
In this episode of Reignite: Love, Sex & Truth for Conscious Couples, we explore how sexual dynamics become shaped by pursuer-withdrawer patterns, obligation, performance anxiety, shame, and unspoken needs… and what it actually takes
Why Emotional Intimacy Alone Won’t Sustain Passion
You love each other.
You communicate.
You trust each other.
You’re best friends.
So why does the spark feel different?
Why can a relationship feel safe, connected, and stable… yet still feel flat, predictable, or disconnected sexually?
In this episode of Reignite: Love, Sex & Truth for Conscious Couples, Kim & Roberto explore one of the biggest misconceptions about long-term relationships:
Emoti
Desire Is Built Outside the Bedroom…Not Inside It
Most couples think desire starts in the bedroom.
That if intimacy feels flat, the fix must be:
A date night.
A new toy.
A different position.
A quick spark strategy.
But here’s the truth…
By the time you get to the bedroom, desire has already been built… or eroded.
In this episode of Reignite: Love, Sex & Truth for Conscious Couples, we unpack what actually creates lasting desire in long-term r
You’re Not Fighting About the Dishes…Here’s What’s Really Happening
Most couples think they’re fighting about chores.
The dishes.
The garbage.
Laundry.
The forgotten text.
The missed appointment.
The thing that didn’t get done.
But most of the time?
That’s not the real fight.
In this episode of Reignite: Love, Sex & Truth for Conscious Couples, we unpack one of the most common relationship patterns they see… couples arguing about surface-level logistics
What It Felt Like to Be Interviewed by One of My Mentors
Some moments in life feel bigger than the moment itself.
Not because of what happened…But because of everything it represents.
In this deeply personal episode of Reignite: Love, Sex & Truth for Conscious Couples, we share the story behind a powerful full-circle moment… sitting down in Austin for a conversation with one of Kim’s longtime mentors, Layla Martin.
But this isn’t just a story about podc
The Moment You Stop Choosing Each Other
Most relationships don’t fall apart in one dramatic moment…
They slowly drift.
A little less presence.
A little more avoidance.
A little more autopilot.
Until one day…You realize you’re no longer truly choosing each other.
In this episode of Reignite: Love, Sex & Truth for Conscious Couples, we explore the subtle ways couples disconnect over time… and what it actually means to consciously choose
How to Rebuild Trust in Your Relationship (Without Starting Over)
Trust rarely disappears in one dramatic moment… More often, it fades slowly.
A little distance.
A hard conversation was avoided.
A promise not followed through on.
Unspoken resentment is quietly building.
Until one day…What once felt easy starts to feel fragile.
In this episode of Reignite: Love, Sex & Truth for Conscious Couples, we break down how trust is actually lost… and how it can be re
What Happens When You Finally Slow Down Together with Mike & Courtney from The Sacred We
Most couples don’t need more effort…
They need more space.
Space to breathe.
Space to feel.
Space to actually experience each other again.
In this episode of Reignite: Love, Sex & Truth for Conscious Couples, we, together with Mike and Courtney from The Sacred We podcast, explore how speed, stress, and constant doing quietly disconnect relationships… and why slowing down can restore intimacy,
Why You Feel More Like Roommates Than Lovers
Most couples don’t fall out of love… They slowly drift into disconnection.
Less touch.
Less presence.
More logistics.
Until one day…You realize you’re living together… but not truly connecting.
In this episode of Reignite: Love, Sex & Truth for Conscious Couples, we break down how couples move into “roommate energy”… and what it actually takes to shift back into connection, polarity, and int
Desire Mismatch in Relationships: How to Want More Without Feeling Rejected
Desire mismatch doesn’t just create frustration…
It creates distance, tension, and silent disconnection.
In this episode of Reignite: Love, Sex & Truth for Conscious Couples, we explore what’s really happening underneath mismatched desire… and why it’s not about libido, but the dynamic between you.
They share the patterns most couples get stuck in… and what actually allows connection, safety, and
Masculine & Feminine Energy Imbalance in Relationships: Why She Feels Disconnected And He Feels Shut Down
Disconnection doesn’t just happen…
It builds quietly… over time.
In this episode of Reignite: Love, Sex & Truth for Conscious Couples, we explore how masculine and feminine energy imbalances create emotional distance, shutdown, and the loss of polarity in relationships.
They break down the subtle patterns that lead to disconnection… why she starts to close… why he pulls away… and what it actua
Empty Nest, Second Marriage, or Final Straw - The Relationship Reckoning No One Prepares You For
There’s a moment in many relationships… and it’s not loud, dramatic, or explosive.
It’s quiet.
In this episode of Reignite: Love, Sex & Truth for Conscious Couples, we explore the relationship reckoning that happens when the distractions fade… the kids leave… the chaos settles… and you’re left facing each other again.
They break down the patterns couples fall into during these life transitions… an
Why Resentment Destroys Attraction (And How to Restore Respect & Polarity)
Resentment doesn’t just create distance… it quietly erodes attraction.
In this episode of Reignite: Love, Sex & Truth for Conscious Couples, we explore how unspoken hurt, unmet needs, and emotional disconnection slowly collapse polarity… and what it actually takes to rebuild respect, safety, and desire.
They share personal insights and real patterns they see in couples navigating resentment… and h
Communication That Creates Desire - Not Just Resolves Conflict
Most couples think better communication means fewer fights.
Say it nicer.
Use the right words.
Resolve the conflict.
But what if resolving conflict isn’t enough to reignite attraction?
In this episode of Reignite: Love, Sex & Truth for Conscious Couples, we explore the difference between communication that stabilizes a relationship… and communication that actually creates desire.
This co
Why Therapy Wasn’t Enough (And What Finally Changed)
Therapy helped us understand what was happening.
It gave language to patterns.
It is named attachment styles.
It identified triggers.
But something still wasn’t changing.
In this episode of Reignite: Love, Sex & Truth for Conscious Couples, we share why insight alone didn’t create transformation in their relationship and what finally did.
This isn’t therapy-bashing.
It’s a deeper conversation a
It Wasn’t About the Sex… Until the Sex Became Incredible
For years, we thought better sex meant better techniques.
New positions.
More spark.
More effort.
More performance.
But what if incredible sex isn’t created by trying harder…what if it emerges when pressure disappears?
In this episode of Reignite: Love, Sex & Truth for Conscious Couples, we unpack why performance kills desire, how nervous system safety unlocks erotic depth, and why the sex on
The Intimacy You’ve Been Missing Was Never About Sex
So many couples say they want their sex life back.
But what they’re actually longing for isn’t more performance… It’s more presence.
In this episode of Reignite: Love, Sex & Truth for Conscious Couples, Kim & Roberto unpack why fading desire is rarely about libido — and almost always about emotional safety, nervous system regulation, and depth of connection.
They explore the difference between mec
You’re Not Bored… You’re Ready for Something Deeper
That quiet sense of flatness in a long-term relationship is often labelled as boredom… but what if it’s actually a signal of readiness?In this episode of Reignite: Love, Sex & Truth for Conscious Couples, we explore why so many couples feel numb, restless, or disconnected even when love is still present. They unpack how emotional and erotic hunger often gets misinterpreted as boredom, and why mid-
Why Mid-Life Is When Your Relationship Actually Begins
Midlife often gets labelled as a crisis… but for many couples, it’s actually an awakening.It’s the moment when old roles, surface-level connections, and autopilot living stop working, and something deeper starts asking for attention.In this episode of Reignite: Love, Sex & Truth for Conscious Couples, we explore why midlife is often when real intimacy finally becomes possible. Not because everythi
The New Year Reset Your Relationship Actually Needs
Every January, couples feel the pressure to do better… communicate better… fight less… have more sex… be more intentional.But most New Year resolutions don’t fail because couples don’t care — they fail because they’re built on pressure instead of capacity.In this episode of Reignite: Love, Sex & Truth for Conscious Couples, we unpack why real relationship change doesn’t come from trying harder and
Why This Work Works: Tantra as the Bridge Back to Each Other
When life hits hard, most couples disconnect - not because they don’t love each other, but because they don’t know how to stay present in the face of shock, stress, or rupture.In this episode of Reignite: Love, Sex & Truth for Conscious Couples, we share a raw, real-life moment where everything felt destabilized and how tantra became the bridge that brought them back together instead of pulling th
When Life Gets in the Way: Stress, Hormones, and the “Death” of Desire
So many couples quietly fear that desire is gone for good… that stress, aging, or hormones have somehow ruined intimacy. In this episode of Reignite: Love, Sex & Truth for Conscious Couples, we offer a powerful reframe: desire doesn’t die. It goes offline when the body is overwhelmed.They explore how chronic stress, survival mode, and hormonal shifts shut down pleasure… and how safety, slowing dow
Why You Keep Having the Same Fight and How to Finally Stop
If it feels like you and your partner are stuck in the same argument on repeat… you’re not failing at communication.You’re touching something deeper.In this episode of Reignite: Love, Sex & Truth for Conscious Couples, we unpack why certain fights keep resurfacing in long-term relationships even when the topic changes and what’s actually required to interrupt the cycle.They explore how nervous sys
End-of-Year Ritual for Couples - Reflect, Release & Reignite
As the year comes to a close, most couples rush straight into what’s next… without ever pausing to honour what they’ve lived through together.In this episode of Reignite: Love, Sex & Truth for Conscious Couples (formerly known as Get Your Sexy Back for Couples), we invite you into a simple, powerful end-of-year ritual designed to help you slow down, feel, and consciously close one chapter before o
The Hidden Work of Real Love: Choosing Each Other Again and Again
We’re taught that real love should feel effortless… but the truth is that long-term love isn’t something you fall into and stay in automatically. It’s something you choose, nurture, and return to — again and again.In this episode of Reignite: Love, Sex & Truth for Conscious Couples (formerly known as Get Your Sexy Back for Couples) , Kim & Roberto break down the fairytale myth of effortless love a
Does Trauma Mean We’re Damaged… or Just Human?
So many people carry the quiet fear that their trauma makes them flawed… broken… or unlovable.In this episode of Reignite: Love, Sex & Truth for Conscious Couples (formerly known as Get Your Sexy Back for Couples), we bring a grounded, compassionate truth: trauma doesn’t mean you’re damaged. It means you’re human. It means your nervous system adapted to survive.They share vulnerable stories, body-
Reclaiming Erotic Confidence: Finding Your Fire Again After 40 🔥
There’s a cultural myth that desire fades with age… but the truth is far more powerful than that.In this episode of Reignite: Love, Sex & Truth for Conscious Couples (formerly known as Get Your Sexy Back Podcast for Couples), we explore what really happens to erotic energy after 40… and why this stage of life can become your most sensual, confident, and pleasure-filled chapter yet.We share vulnera
Healing Old Hurts: Turning Conflict into Deeper Connection
Every couple argues…, but very few couples know how to turn conflict into closeness.In this episode of Reignite: Love, Sex & Truth for Conscious Couples (formerly known as Get Your Sexy Back Podcast for Couples), we explore why old hurts resurface, why the same arguments repeat, and how conscious repair brings your relationship into deeper emotional and erotic intimacy.They share vulnerable storie
Intimacy Beyond the Bedroom: Touch, Talk, and Truth
Most couples think intimacy happens in the bedroom… but the truth is, it starts in the tiny, everyday moments where you show up, soften, and let yourself be seen.In this episode of the Reignite Love, Sex, and Truth for Conscious Couples (formerly known as: "Get Your Sexy Back for Couples Podcast"), we explore how touch, truth, presence, and nervous-system attunement create the kind of intimacy tha
From Passion to Partnership: Why Long-Term Love Needs Both
Long-term relationships aren’t meant to choose between passion and partnership. They’re meant to hold both. In this episode of Reignite Love, Sex, and Truth for Conscious Couples (formerly known as Get Your Sexy Back Podcast for Couples), we explore how stability and spark work together to create a relationship that feels safe, alive, playful, and deeply connected.They share personal stories and p
Breaking the Silence - The Conversations You’re Afraid to Have
Silence feels safe… until it starts to disconnect you. In this episode of the Reignite Love, Sex, and Truth for Conscious Couples (formally known as: Get Your Sexy Back Podcast for Couples) , we dive into the truth about the conversations most couples avoid and how those silences slowly create distance, resentment, and disconnection in love, sex, and everyday intimacy. They share personal stories
Sacred Sex, Real Life: What Tantra Actually Looks Like in Long-Term Love 🔥
Let’s be honest… Tantra gets glamorized.People think it’s about rituals, candles, and hours-long sex, but in real life, Tantra isn’t about performance. It’s about presence.In this episode of the Get Your Sexy Back Podcast for Couples, we get real about what sacred sex actually looks like in long-term love... the raw, embodied, everyday version that deepens intimacy long after the honeymoon phase f
The Pleasure Gap: Why Women Crave More and Men Miss the Signs
You love each other. But somewhere between the chaos of life and the comfort of routine… something’s missing.She’s craving more. More depth, more presence, and more intimacy. He thinks everything’s fine.That space in between? That’s the pleasure gap.In this episode of the Get Your Sexy Back Podcast for Couples, we open a real, raw conversation about how to close the gap: emotionally, energetically
Midlife Bodies, Midlife Desire: Navigating Change Together
Midlife doesn’t mean the end of passion...it’s an invitation to rediscover yourself, your body, and your relationship in a whole new way.In this episode of the Get Your Sexy Back Podcast for Couples, we open an honest conversation about what really happens when bodies, hormones, and desires begin to shift and how to navigate those changes together with compassion, curiosity, and connection. What Y
Couples Retreat - The Movie vs. The Real Thing
If you’ve ever seen Couples Retreat, you probably laughed and maybe thought, “Please tell me real retreats aren’t like that.”You’re not alone. Hollywood’s version of “healing” is filled with forced sharing, public breakdowns, and humiliation disguised as therapy.In this episode of the Get Your Sexy Back Podcast for Couples, we share the truth about what real couples retreats are like and why they’
When Conversations Turn Into Fights: Breaking the Cycle of Conflict and Shutdown
You know that feeling when a simple conversation spirals into the same fight you’ve had a hundred times before.It’s not about the dishes or the money. It’s about safety, disconnection, and your nervous system trying to protect you.In this episode of the Get Your Sexy Back Podcast for Couples, we open up about how to recognize when your nervous systems are running the show and how to repair and rec
The Erotic Reset: Why Pleasure and Play Are Medicine for Your Relationship
Life gets busy. Responsibilities pile up. Stress takes over. And without even noticing, intimacy fades, sex feels functional, and play disappears.In this episode of the Get Your Sexy Back Podcast for Couples, we unpack why pleasure and play aren’t indulgences and why they’re the medicine your relationship needs to thrive. What you’ll hear in this episode:✨ Why pleasure is not a luxury and how it’s
From Roommates to Lovers Again: Breaking Out of the Comfortable but Disconnected Phase
You love each other, share a life together, maybe even still laugh sometimes… but if you’re honest, the spark is gone. Intimacy feels flat, and you’re more like roommates than lovers.In this episode of the Get Your Sexy Back Podcast for Couples, we share why the “roommate phase” happens, what it really costs, and how to shift back into passion, play, and deep intimacy. What you’ll hear in this epi
Emotional Safety: The Real Key to Deeper Sex and Lasting Intimacy
If sex feels disconnected, mechanical, or just not happening, then the real block might not be desire… it might be safety.In this episode of the Get Your Sexy Back Podcast for Couples, we share why emotional safety is the foundation of intimacy and how it creates the conditions for passion, polarity, and lasting connection. What you’ll hear in this episode:What emotional safety really means and wh
Desire Mismatch: When One of You Wants More
Every couple knows the ache of mismatched desire — when one of you is longing for more intimacy, while the other feels pulled back or pressured.In this episode of the Get Your Sexy Back Podcast for Couples, we share how to reframe desire mismatch from a source of conflict into an opportunity for deeper connection, presence, and intimacy. What you’ll hear in this episode:Why mismatched desires don’
It’s Not Too Late- Reigniting Passion and Intimacy in Your 40s, 50s, and Beyond
So many of us were told that passion fades with age and that once you’re in your 40s, 50s, or beyond, intimacy is over.We’re here to call bullsh!t on that story. In this episode of the Get Your Sexy Back Podcast for Couples, we share why intimacy can actually deepen with age and how to reignite the spark in your relationship, no matter where you are on the journey. What you’ll hear in this episode
Why We Went on a Couples Retreat… Even as Retreat Leaders
You’d think retreat leaders wouldn’t “need” a retreat themselves… but the truth is, we’ll never be done learning, deepening, and choosing each other. In this episode of the Get Your Sexy Back Podcast for Couples, we share why we said yes to flying across the world for a couples mastermind and retreat — and what it gave us as partners, lovers, and leaders. What you’ll hear in this episode:Why we si
Reignite the Spark Without Starting Over
Do you ever feel like you and your partner have become more like roommates than lovers? The truth is… your spark isn’t gone. It’s waiting to be remembered. In this episode of the Get Your Sexy Back Podcast for Couples, we share how presence, polarity, and sacred intimacy can bring back desire—without starting from scratch. What you’ll hear in this episode:Why your spark isn’t gone and it’s buried
Sacred Intimacy for the Masculine and Feminine
In this episode of the Get Your Sexy Back Podcast for Couples, we share how the natural dance between the masculine and feminine can transform your intimacy, trust, and erotic connection. Whether you’re new to polarity or deep in your practice, this conversation offers insight, lived experience, and tangible steps to bring more presence and passion into your relationship. What you’ll hear in this
The Truth About Tantra for Couples (and Why It’s Not Just About Sex)
What if sacred sexuality started with eye contact, breath, and truth-telling? This is what Tantra really looks like, and for couples who are ready to feel more. In this episode of the Get Your Sexy Back Podcast for Couples, we debunk the biggest myths surrounding Tantra and explore how it can become a living, embodied practice that fosters presence, trust, and sacred connection. 💫 What you’ll hea
What Happens at a Private Couples Retreat? A Behind-the-Scenes
In this episode of the Get Your Sexy Back Podcast for Couples, we guide you through the experience of a private couples retreat, revealing what happens behind the scenes — from intention-setting to integration. If you’ve ever wondered what it’s really like to do this work in a sacred, supported container… this one’s for you. What you’ll hear in this episode:What makes a private retreat different f
Masculine Presence & Feminine Surrender - Creating Safety for Sacred Union
In this episode of the Get Your Sexy Back Podcast for Couples, we unpack the dynamics of sacred polarity and share how presence, safety, and honest communication create the foundation for deep, lasting intimacy.💫 What you’ll hear in this episode:Why emotional safety is the foundation for feminine surrenderWhat grounded masculine leadership looks and feels likeHow to lead with presence instead of p
Leading with Love, Not Fixing... Inviting Your Man into Deeper Connection
From the sacred fire of Phoenix Rising Retreats… comes the Get Your Sexy Back Podcast. In this week’s episode, we open up about one of the most tender edges in a relationship: how to invite your partner into deeper intimacy, without nagging, pushing, or trying to fix him. We unpack real examples from our journey and offer grounded, heart-led tools you can start using today. ✨ Here’s what we cover:
Pleasure Is a Practice: Why Good Sex Doesn’t Just Happen
Even after years of tantra, pleasure work, and healing, you can still find yourself having disconnected sex, obligation sex, or even “Let’s just get it over with” sex. And you’re not broken for that. In this episode, Pleasure Is a Practice: Why Good Sex Doesn’t Just Happen, we pull back the curtain on our own sexual evolution, what we used to believe was “good sex” (think: drunk, performative, por
When Is the Right Time for a Retreat? (Spoiler - Probably Before You Think)
Real talk… Most couples wait until they’re hanging on by a thread before they even think about going to a retreat. We get it—we’ve been there. But what if we told you that waiting until things hit rock bottom is one of the biggest mistakes you can make for your relationship? In this episode, we dive into a raw and honest conversation about..Why do most couples wait too long before going on a retr
BJ’S: Finding the Pleasure vs. Being A Chore
Let’s talk about blowjobs.Not the performative, porn-scripted kind. And not the kind you give just to “get it over with.” We’re talking about the ones that are offered from genuine turn-on, deep connection, and sovereign choice.In this week’s episode, we open up about a very real part of our journey- how something that used to feel like a chore (for Kim) became a space of embodied pleasure, sacred
How to Feel Desired in Your Relationship
Desire isn’t something you chase. It’s something you create together. We used to think desire was about how we looked, the outfit, the hair, and the moment. But now, after everything we’ve navigated together, we know it’s so much deeper than that. In this episode, we share…What desire truly means to us now as a couple who’s done the healing, unlearning, and re-embodyingHow our ideas of desire ha
How to Increase Your Communication in Your Relationship
And we are back with another episode! This time, let’s talk about something that holds the key to deeper intimacy — communication. Because when you create a space of safety and presence, you not only open the door to better communication… you unlock the full potential of love, joy, and sexy connection in your relationship. In this week’s episode, we explored…How many of us (yes, both women and men
Launching Phoenix Rising Retreats
We’re Kim and Roberto, and we’re thrilled to be co-hosting this journey together, both on podcasts and in life ❤️We're excited to bring a fresh perspective on certain topics and offer a unique view on various aspects as a couple. In this episode, we will share about…How our relationship evolved from early “can’t-believe-this-is-happening” moments to launching Phoenix Rising Retreats up on our lak
Bliss Codes - Learning to Live in Balance with Danite Haller
There’s a sacred shift that happens when a woman stops trying to do it all and starts asking, “What would it look like to actually live in balance?” Bliss isn’t a destination—it’s a frequency you can embody daily. In this episode, Danite and I go deep about...What happens when the life you built no longer fits the woman you’ve become?Could bliss be something you tune into, not chase after?Are you
Keeping the Spark Alive - The Art of Deep Intimacy with Jannine MacKinnon
Feeling more like roommates than lovers lately? Wondering how to reignite that spark without overhauling your whole life? You might be asking yourself as well, what it really takes to keep passion alive in long-term relationships—especially when life feels chaotic. In this heart-to-heart conversation I have with sensual embodiment coach Jannine MacKinnon, we go deep about...What if the spark never
Sexuality as a Gateway to True Feminine Embodiment with Willeke Baumgartner
What if the missing piece in your journey to wholeness wasn’t more hustle, more proving, or more striving—but a deeper connection to your own sensuality? Feminine embodiment doesn't begin in your mind—it starts in your body, in the soft, sacred remembering of your own desire. In this episode, Willeke and I converse about...What if your sensuality isn’t a luxury, but a lifeline?How have you been pe
Special Announcements and Updates
For this week’s episode, it will be slightly different as I will be doing it solo. It has been a while since I did a solo podcast, but I am very much excited to share with you a couple of things that have been going on in my life. Now, in this episode, I will be sharing some updates on the following: The Get Your Sexy Back podcastThe launch of the Phoenix Rising RetreatsPackages and other practice
How to Do Less & Receive More For You to Be in a True Partnership with Lindsay Gates
What if being deeply loved didn’t require you to do it all? What if the magic starts when you pause, soften, and let yourself be held? Many of us—especially women—were raised to override our needs, abandon our bodies, and prioritize others in exchange for love. But what if real partnership doesn’t require overgiving? What if true intimacy begins the moment we come home to ourselves? In this week’
Deep Er*tic Currents of Conscious Midlife with Luce Beaulieu
Let’s talk about the deep, juicy transformation that happens in midlife—the kind of shift that turns everything you thought you knew about yourself upside down. This conversation is all about reclaiming your body, your sensuality, and your inner wisdom as you transition through midlife and beyond. This stage of life isn’t about fading into the background—it’s about unlocking a whole new level of p
How to Get Through Uncoupling, Separation, & Divorce with Alicia Robertson
Have you ever looked at your life and thought, “Why does it seem perfect on the outside, but something still feels… off?” You tell yourself you should be happy—you have the relationship, the family, the life you worked so hard to build. But deep down, there’s this nagging feeling, a quiet knowing that something isn’t right. So, you push it down, stay busy, and keep going. Until one day, you can’t
How to Slow the F*ck Down Because the Slow Is Fast with Angela Rivero
Your body has been speaking to you—whispering, nudging, sometimes even screaming. But have you been listening?When we disconnect, whether due to trauma, societal pressures, or daily stress, we override the signals that guide us toward pleasure, safety, and alignment. This disconnection often manifests as chronic pain, anxiety, digestive issues, or even numbness.Healing doesn’t come from pushing ha
Healing Your Relationship After Heartbreak and Devastation w/ Kate Carson
Grief has a way of reshaping relationships, making intimacy and communication feel like uphill battles. When loss enters a partnership, it can create a disconnect—one person may need to talk while the other withdraws, leaving both feeling more alone than ever. So, how do you bridge that gap without pushing each other further away? In this week’s episode, Kate and I, talk about...Why traditional ad
What Being Not a “Nice Girl” Really Means w/ Alexa Lynn
Let go of the nice Girl & step into your power. Do you ever feel like you’re always giving but not receiving the same in return? Many women get stuck in the cycle of saying “yes” to avoid conflict, but standing in your truth doesn’t mean being unkind—it means being true to yourself. If you’re constantly running on empty, it might be time to take a closer look at where your energy is going. In this
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