Tea Time with Elsa

Teatime With Elsa Episode 247 May 19, 2026 1313 Chatting about: Don’t Fight Reality… In this episode we talk about how working without tools is a great time to accept the reality of the horse’s state of mind. In each moment the horse will either have: a good idea, a bad idea, or no idea at all. If they have no ideas at all, the door is open for you to have an idea for them, if they are having a bad idea (pushing against you or pulling away from

Teatime With Elsa Episode 246 May 19, 2026 2039 Chatting about: The Luxury Of Appreciation… In this episode we talk about how the greatest quality of life comes from a habit of appreciating whatever is naturally occurring. This however is a luxury we may or may not have depending on our situation. When a situation becomes time pressured around change, focusing on what is wrong and what must change becomes the priority. Seeing these options on a

Teatime With Elsa Episode 245 May 19, 2026 1662 Chatting about: If you can do it better, do it again… Originally Recorded 26_04_21 In this episode we talk about how training is always a guess. Any action we take has a result. Once we see the result we have to take a guess and ask ourselves “If I repeated the same action, or an adjusted version of the action, would the result be better?” I think I should always repeat actions I think I can do be

Teatime With Elsa Episode 244 May 19, 2026 1338 Chatting about: Don’t Change, Appreciate… In this episode we talk about the natural pressures of life that push us to train change faster than a horse might choose, and what the side effects of that might be. If reasonable, I always prefer to train at the speed the horse would choose, appreciating things so that we can build on things the horse already knows and practices. If that is unreasonable

Teatime With Elsa Episode 243 May 19, 2026 1460 Chatting about: What Does Pressure Mean? In this episode we talk about the challenge horses have in learning what pressure means in relationship to humans. At a base level pressure should mean to change something. That change might be physical, mental, or sensory. What change is needed is a puzzle horses must figure out and for that reason I like starting with "pressure means change the use of the

Teatime With Elsa Episode 242 May 19, 2026 1094 Chatting about: Reward Systems In this episode we talk about the different types of reward systems horses find themselves utilizing. Reward systems in general are sensory based, either seeking a sensory experience that feels good, or avoiding a sensory experience that feels bad. Obviously I prefer to lean toward the seeking of something that feels good. Then I want to take it a step further, how d

Teatime with Elsa - Episode 241 May 19, 2026 1638 Chatting about: The Kinds of Connection In this episode, we talk about how connection between two beings requires one to initiate and the other to join. Another way to say the same thing is, one needs to take attention while the other one gives attention. When we see patterns and preferences in our horses to be either a giver or a taker that gives us insight in how best to build a solid foundation

Teatime with Elsa - Episode 240 Mar 23, 2026 1196 Chatting about: Being Present or Future Minded… In this episode we talk about the value of thinking ahead a few steps for the benefit of relationships. This is in contrast with the popular idea of being fully present. I believe being fully present is a good default mode to fall into when our systems are tired and need rest, however, being future minded allows us to consider the needs of others abo

Teatime with Elsa - Episode 239 Mar 13, 2026 1084 Chatting about: Exploring A Third Option… In this episode we talk about how polarized training horses tends to be. Between giving the horse no direction, and the need to establish consequences if the horse does not follow human direction. A third option can feel impossible unless you truly take time. This is what Freedom Based Training® is aimed at. Can we know the horses well enough to shape thei

Teatime with Elsa - Episode 238 Mar 13, 2026 1320 Chatting about: Noticing the Absence… In this episode we talk about how easy it is for the brain to lock onto the presence of threats or difficulties and the absence of well being. When we challenge ourselves to look for the absence of difficulty instead it can be a slippery idea to grasp. This ability to notice the absence of difficulty and the presence of well being is the greatest predictor of

Teatime With Elsa - Episode 237 Feb 10, 2026 820 Chatting about: Endings and Beginnings… In this episode we talk about Atlas. We talk about saying goodbye to horses in the most graceful way possible. We talk about change and how to prepare for moments of change we may feel less than ready for. Originally aired on: February 10th, 2026

Teatime with Elsa - Episode 236 Feb 10, 2026 1274 Chatting about: Different Kinds Of Difficult…… In this episode we talk about the importance of contrast in training. In order for horses to choose something, it must be in comparison better than some other option. How do we include the idea of something difficult in our training, in a way that feels reasonable to the horse we are working with? Originally aired on: February 3rd, 2026

Teatime with Elsa - Episode 235 Jan 31, 2026 1485 Chatting about: When to slow training down… In this episode we talk about when we might slow training down and when we might speed training up. There is a benefit to every option, when applied at the right time. Originally aired on: January 26th, 2026

Teatime with Elsa - Episode 234 Jan 26, 2026 770 Chatting about: Giving To The Relationship Or Extracting From The Relationship …… In this episode we talk about the difference in training styles when we think about giving to the relationship in ways and at times that the horse might choose. There are certainly times when it is most appropriate to extract desired behaviors from the relationship for the benefit of everyone involved, and the good h

Teatime with Elsa - Episode 233 Jan 26, 2026 1584 Chatting about: Why do we train the Sensory System?… In this episode we talk about the reasons why I train the way I do. There are both benefits and difficulties associated with every training pattern. I believe a sensory first approach has the benefits I look for in a relationship with horses. Originally aired on: January 13th, 2026

Teatime with Elsa - Episode 232 Jan 26, 2026 1342 Chatting about: Retained Juvenile Behaviors… In this episode we talk about a way to look at behavior in our horses that may seem inappropriate. When we look at it as a maturity level issue, it gives us so much grace to help our horses and work with them. Both of us on the same team working toward a better quality of life for everyone involved. Originally aired on: January 6th, 2026

Teatime with Elsa - Episode 231 Jan 26, 2026 852 Chatting about: Pressure and Release in the Real World… In this episode we talk about how inevitable pressure and release are in life and how we might use the cycles of internal pressure and release a horse naturally feels to shape their habits and patterns. While we can artificially apply pressure and release, the most important part is being able to read what it is the horse is feeling from mome

Teatime with Elsa - Episode 230 Jan 26, 2026 1346 Chatting about: Fireworks… In this episode we talk about how we might prepare horses for extreme events such as the Fireworks that often come along with New Year’s celebrations. Freedom Based Training is not about solving problems that are currently occurring, but instead preparing the horse from a sensory strength view point. When their sensory system is strong and adaptive, horses are amazingly

Teatime with Elsa - Episode 229 Jan 26, 2026 817 Chatting about: Rest and Freeze… In this episode we talk about how to see rest and freeze on a spectrum. Rest being essential for horses to process the information they have taken in through their sensory systems. Freeze as a type of rest where they are trying to process information taken in, but ultimately struggle to make sense of it. The only way we know for sure which it is, is by noticing if

Teatime with Elsa - Episode 228 Dec 16, 2025 701 Chatting about: Arcs, turns, and intersecting lines… In this episode we talk about the social strategies of horses working together in herds. What do they want from each other when they approach in a direct line? Why do some get corrected all the time and others don’t? How do we use this information to walk into a herd with the awareness that can replace pressure. How do we share that awareness wi

Teatime with Elsa - Episode 227 Dec 9, 2025 1187 Chatting about: Stacking the Wins! In this episode we talk about noticing the quality of each interaction we have with our horse. When we adjust the level of difficulty correctly for the horse on that day, in that environment, then the horse is able to feel like their wins stack up from moment to moment. Once we have stacked enough wins we can start asking the horse to stretch a bit more or try to

Teatime with Elsa - Episode 226 Dec 9, 2025 898 Chatting about: Training Obedience versus Training Interest… In this episode we talk about how we might look at training on a spectrum between obedience and interest in the horse. While we can train to have both in the horse, we probably have to prioritize one or the other in each moment of practice. Each side of the spectrum comes with different benefits and challenges. Originally aired on: Nove

Teatime with Elsa - Episode 225 Dec 9, 2025 1091 Chatting about: The 13th Rabbit… In this episode we talk about the story of the thirteenth rabbit and how anxiety, or fear, or anger stacks if we don’t notice it and take the time to allow a horse to fully process it. Not everything needs to be fully processed as it happens, but it is good if we know our horses and how much stacking they can handle before we need to take time for processing. Origi

Teatime with Elsa - Episode 224 Dec 9, 2025 1111 Chatting about: Associations… In this episode we talk about building positive associations in horses. The tendency is to wait for something to go wrong, the horse to feel overwhelmed, and then ask how to solve the problem. This is of course something we can do, but it is so much better if we build positive associations with novelty and change before we put them in new situations. Studying what we

Teatime with Elsa - Episode 223 Dec 9, 2025 1153 Chatting about: Optimism and Pessimism… In this episode we talk about the factors that make a horse more optimistic or more pessimistic. Once we can see the ingredients that go into developing optimism we can improve a horse’s quality of life. Originally aired on: October 10th, 2025

Teatime with Elsa - Episode 222 Oct 28, 2025 1538 Chatting about: Sensitization, Desensitization, Flooding and Learned Helplessness… In this episode we look at the spectrum of possibilities we have when helping horses live well in a human world. Seeing possibilities as options with positive and negative aspects helps us to make the best decisions for each horse in each moment. While most of us will not choose the more extreme options of trainin

Teatime with Elsa - Episode 221 Oct 28, 2025 2083 Chatting about: Watching… In this episode I talk about the power of watching our horses, and what exactly it is that I am watching for. There is so much to learn before we attempt to interact well with horses. When we understand each one as an individual while also seeing them part of a bigger environment, we then can become the partner they need. Originally aired on: October 14th, 2025

Teatime with Elsa - Episode 220 Oct 15, 2025 1476 Chatting about: Escalating Pressure… In this episode I talk about the different ways we can see and understand escalating pressure. While I may personally choose the most gentle types of pressure I can find, I appreciate there are interesting pros and cons to every choice we make in our relationships with horses. Originally aired on: October 7th, 2025

Teatime with Elsa - Episode 219 Oct 15, 2025 1021 Chatting about: Less Is More… In this episode I share a very personal growth experience with my herd. I am often torn between satisfying the public expectation of proving I can teach horses to do many normal domestic horse tasks with less pressure than most, and my desire to do less in favor of learning more from the horses. We can replace dominance with awareness if we are willing to take the tim

Teatime with Elsa - Episode 218 Oct 15, 2025 1281 Chatting about: What Is A Challenge… In this episode we talk about an exercise I do with horses to figure out what may or may not feel like a challenge for them in the environment they are in. Then when we know where the edges of their comfort zone are, how we might stretch them in a way the horse is interested in developing. Originally aired on: September 23rd, 2025

Teatime with Elsa - Episode 217 Oct 15, 2025 707 Chatting about: The Pros and Cons of Distraction… In this episode we talk about why and when I why I teach distraction as a good choice in the relationships with horses. Trainers who have tools to keep a horse from leaving them will sometimes choose to wait through a cycle of concern in the horse, allowing it to pass naturally. Without tools we may, or may not, be able to do that successfully. Pra

Teatime with Elsa - Episode 216 Sep 12, 2025 1174 Chatting about: Chatting about: Timing, Technique and Pressure… In this episode we talk about the key factors horse trainers focus on and how we might think about it differently. Originally aired on: September 9th, 2025

Teatime with Elsa - Episode 215 Sep 12, 2025 1337 Chatting about: Do The Ends Justify The Means… In this episode we talk about the dilemma that all of us face when considering the amount of pressure it might, or might not, be reasonable to put on horses toward an end goal. Originally aired on: August 12th, 2025

Teatime with Elsa - Episode 214 Jul 23, 2025 870 Chatting about: Tell me how you feel… In this episode, we talk about different ways to measure progress with our horses. It is easy to measure progress by taking notice of the tasks that can be accomplished, it is more nuanced and more interesting to me to measure progress by asking horses how they feel in the pauses between activities. Originally aired on: June 17th, 2025

Teatime with Elsa - Episode 213 Jul 23, 2025 738 Chatting about: Solving for Better… In this episode, we talk about how we can see an issue that needs to be solved and cut it in half, and in half again until the part we are working on feels set up for success. I recently had some new revelations about how this applies to horses who struggle with the feeling of touch, as well as how it applies to horses who need greater development in either self

Teatime with Elsa - Episode 212 Jul 23, 2025 1484 Chatting about: “Emotional Cycles”… In this episode, we talk about seeing the emotional cycles of a horse from moment to moment and using that awareness to better time our active and passive moments. First we watch the horse and learn about their cycles. Then we use our active and passive moments to prove to the horse that we understand them. Then we start timing our active and passive moments bet

Teatime with Elsa - Episode 211 Jul 23, 2025 1380 Chatting about: Fear in Horses… In this episode, we talk about understanding a horse’s fear in a categorical way. Their responses will be in either Fight or Flight and they will tend to be in reaction to one of four elements: movement, touch, approach, or sound. Once we can see a horse’s tendencies categorically, we can more easily break down the fear into bite sized pieces that they can learn abo

Teatime with Elsa - Episode 210 Jul 23, 2025 1074 Chatting about: Non-Negotiables In this episode, we talk about the Non-Negotiable factor of space between partners if either one feels unsafe. If we cannot create space between partners in the moments that challenge safety we will need to consider using, more pressure, dominant training, or the presence of a fence between horse and human. Freedom of choice comes after we can trust the basic elemen

Teatime with Elsa - Episode 209 Jul 23, 2025 1073 Chatting about: “Balanced Gratitude”… In this episode, we talk about how powerful gratitude is in horse training when we use it in a balanced way. Is the glass half full? Half empty? Or Both. I believe that seeing both the good and the difficult aspects of training is profoundly important with our horses. Originally aired on: April 4th, 2025

Teatime with Elsa - Episode 208 Mar 31, 2025 823 Chatting about: Pressure, Priorities, and Habits... In this episode, we talk about the balance of priorities with horses and how the development of habits can help us manage the pressure that comes along with life and the juggling of priorities. Originally aired on: March 26th, 2025

Teatime with Elsa - Episode 207 Mar 31, 2025 789 Chatting about: Praise… In this episode, we talk about using praise with horses. Why we might choose to, why we might not. The mechanics of developing good associations with praise if you want to use it as part of your relationship and how it might work better for some horses than others. I don’t think there is an absolute for anything with horses, but there are always factors that can be understo

Teatime with Elsa - Episode 206 Feb 28, 2025 792 Chatting about: Enough and Not Enough… In this episode, we talk about a new herd integration with my horses and the timing needed between horses as they learn about each other’s likes and dislikes. Emotional training depends on the understanding of leaving everyone wanting more of the relationship, instead of less of it. I am fascinated by how the emotional training horses do with each other can a

Teatime with Elsa - Episode 205 Feb 17, 2025 1153 Chatting about: Environment Matters… In this episode, we talk about how much the environment we are in with our horses always impacts our training. There will always be factors in the environment that raise or lower the horse’s stress levels and we are going to do our most profound training at the mid levels of fully aware (instead of resting), but more curious instead of concerned. Originally air

Teatime with Elsa - Episode 204 Feb 17, 2025 833 Chatting about: Food Aggression… In this episode, we talk about a different perspective around food aggression in horses. Many people believe food aggression is about resource guarding, or trying to get the other horses to leave. These things may be true, but I have noticed a few different things about it that are far more helpful to me in understanding and supporting my horses in living their bes

Teatime with Elsa - Episode 203 Jan 24, 2025 472 Chatting about: Creativity… In this episode, we talk about creativity and anxiety being on a spectrum and how the two can not exist simultaneously. To be creative is to try things, assess, and try again. When you draw a picture, you draw a line, and then another line, and try one thing after another towards an end goal developed through experimentation. Horses can also learn this pattern of creati

Teatime with Elsa - Episode 202 Jan 24, 2025 1367 Chatting about: Trusting Yourself… In this episode, we talk about trusting ourselves in horse training. Most everyone has instincts or ideas about what they might want to do next. Then the question comes up, is that a good idea or a bad idea? I suggest you try it and find out. Trust your idea, then verify if the trust was warranted and adjust. This perpetually hones your future instincts to be bet

Teatime with Elsa - Episode 201 Jan 10, 2025 621 Chatting about: Time Matters… In this episode, we talk about the time we spend “doing” with our horses versus “being” with our horses. There are so many practical things that need to be done with horses to keep them healthy and happy that sometimes we run out of time for the things that feed the soul. Even taking five minutes of BEING with horses in a way that values how they feel, and how we feel

Teatime with Elsa - Episode 200 Jan 3, 2025 657 Chatting about: The Eternal Student… In this episode, we talk about being a student of the horses and about studying patterns, habits, and cycles. When we come at learning from the position of learning with each other more than we are learning from each other the world opens up with possibilities. Originally aired on: January 1st, 2025

Teatime with Elsa - Episode 199 Dec 28, 2024 845 Chatting about: Finding Light, Playing With Darkness… In this episode, we talk about the good and the bad, the light and the dark, the awake and the resting times, and how everything exists on a spectrum. Where we place our attention perpetuates behaviors in our horses, and because of that, we are going to place our attention more on the good, the light, and the awake times. The bad, the dark, and

Teatime with Elsa - Episode 198 Dec 28, 2024 581 Chatting about: Using Your Powers For Good Or Evil… In this episode, we talk about the enormous amount of power we have in relationships due to the quantity of small responses we give in a million little moments. Horses tend to remember behaviors that trigger a feeling response in themselves and a change in behavior in others. Horses repeat what they remember. We have so much power to help them re

Teatime with Elsa - Episode 197 Dec 28, 2024 991 Chatting about: A Question Worth Asking… In this episode, we talk about how Relationships are made up of questions and answers. Sometimes, it can feel like life is just a series of problems to be solved, but when our patterns of stress come down to a reasonable level, those "problems" become simply questions worth answering. If we organize our questions to our horses in a way that focuses on thing

Teatime with Elsa - Episode 196 Dec 10, 2024 790 Chatting about: How Horses Ask For Connection… In this episode, we talk about how connection is made up of a series of actions showing how well a partner is known and understood. Horses ask for connection (ask to be known and understood better) by breaking harmony, either through push or pull. As humans we can choose to see that push or pull for the ask it is or we can punish the request for conne

Teatime With Elsa Episode 195 Nov 29, 2024 722 Chatting about: Ripples of Response... In this episode, we talk about how to see the ripples of response within a herd of horses and how we can become part of these ripples. When a horse changes focus from one thing to another, their herd instinct wants someone else to notice also. If there is no response, there may be an escalation in stress and more obvious push or pull behaviors. When stress go

Teatime With Elsa Episode 194 Nov 29, 2024 659 Chatting about: Attention Replaces Pressure… In this episode, we talk about a horse's need to be recognized as an individual can be used quite practically to replace needs for pressure in the relationship. While we will always use pressure to navigate safety situations, there are many many interactions with horses that do not have a safety component. When we find ways to physically show them we un

Teatime with Elsa - Episode 193 Nov 15, 2024 662 Chatting about: Interested in What Is, More Than What You Want… In this episode we talk about stress. What is too much stress, what is not enough stress and how being aware of what is currently being experienced may be more important for a time than trying to change it. Originally aired on: November 14th, 2024

Teatime with Elsa - Episode 192 Nov 15, 2024 546 Chatting about: Mental Learning Versus Emotional Learning…… In this episode, we talk about how mental learning and emotional learning are different in horse training. Many people are familiar with mental training which is puzzle solving or figuring out how to do one thing to get another thing. Emotional training is more important when it comes to regulation of the nervous system and developing str

Teatime with Elsa - Episode 191 Nov 1, 2024 1102 Chatting about: Building New Habits and Replacing Old Ones…… In this episode, we talk about how new habits become strong (or old habits become replaced) through the use of the nervous system and the resulting memories that become established. The vital key to this is the understanding of repetitions of experience and knowing when to play with another repetition, do something different, or take a r

Teatime with Elsa - Episode 190 Oct 26, 2024 1529 Chatting about: When to walk towards, when to walk away… In this episode we talk about some basic nuts and bolts of the physical relationship between horse and human and how the timing of these actions (walking towards or walking away) will make your horse feel more or less understood. Most training methods involve walking toward or walking away so the horse understands human desires. Working in f

Teatime with Elsa - Episode 189 Oct 18, 2024 1617 Chatting about: Why Persist?… In this episode we talk about the different ways we might share time and training with our horses. Persisting is an idea that is often difficult for students to understand and can be extremely beneficial when done well. A step up from Assertive leadership where everything you ask for is easy, and a step down from Dominant leadership where there is some need to control

Teatime with Elsa - Episode 188 Oct 12, 2024 980 Chatting about: Challenges… In this episode we talk about what a challenge is and why it is useful in your relationship with your horse. When we work with horses in freedom it becomes very clear when there is too much push or pull in the relationship and these moments of push or pull is what I categorize as a challenge. Being sensitive and proactive about practicing challenges in manageable ways b

Teatime with Elsa - Episode 187 Oct 12, 2024 1098 Chatting about: Supporting vs Affirming… In this episode we talk about the two different ways I interact with horses to encourage them to use their brain and sensory system. Supporting is generally going to refer to the actions we take around the horse that they cannot ignore, helping them use their senses better. Affirming is generally going to refer to the simple pauses we can take when accident

Teatime with Elsa - Episode 186 Oct 12, 2024 1401 Chatting about: Which is better, intrinsic or extrinsic motivation? In this episode we talk about the differences between extrinsic and intrinsic motivation; Where they touch on a spectrum and what the benefits might be of leaning more towards one or the other. Freedom Based Training® leans toward intrinsic motivation, but there are some things we do that range up the scale toward extrinsic motiva

Teatime with Elsa - Episode 185 Sep 21, 2024 780 Chatting about: Letting Things Be As They Are… In this episode we talk about our human desire to always be pushing for growth or change in our horses. When might it be appropriate to let them be as they are without trying to change them? Originally aired on: September 18th, 2024

Teatime with Elsa - Episode 184 Sep 16, 2024 1354 Chatting about: Who Can Teach Freedom Based Training®? In this episode we talk about what Freedom Based Training® means and while it is trademarked by me, it is coming up in conversations between more and more trainers around the world. This is a beautiful thing. In reality only the horses can teach us Freedom Based Training®, but I will encourage humans to talk about it and share ideas about it,

Teatime with Elsa - Episode 183 Sep 16, 2024 1181 Chatting about: The Beauty in The Boring… In this episode we talk about how the greatest power in training exists within the beauty of the boring moments. Specifically when it comes to herd integration and bonding. Every problem you ever have with a horse comes from a hyper-focus on a problem. If the horse can develop habits of changing focus out of hyper-focus, this solves problems before they oc

Teatime with Elsa - Episode 182 Sep 16, 2024 1172 Chatting about: Developing a Bond… In this episode we talk about what it looks like to develop a bond with a horse. Ari and I have been through a few challenges this week in our bond and this has helped me think about the parts of the puzzle that may need some attention in our relationship. Originally aired on: August 27th, 2024

Teatime with Elsa - Episode 181 Sep 16, 2024 1187 Chatting about: Action or Pressure… In this episode we talk about the spectrum between Action and Pressure. I believe we can replace pressure with action if we have enough time to take training slowly. If we want horses to develop more quickly we can choose what type of pressure might provide the best contrast for training. Originally aired on: August 20th, 2024

Teatime with Elsa - Episode 180 Sep 16, 2024 752 Chatting about: Stepping in Someone Else’s Footsteps… In this episode we talk about my adventures in Mongolia and Iceland and my take away learning points from my travels. Each year I take some time to step outside of my normal life patterns into someone else’s perspective. This generally leaves me more grateful than ever for the life I get to come home to. Originally aired on: August 13th, 2024

Teatime with Elsa - Episode 179 Sep 16, 2024 1052 Chatting about: The Illusion of Control… In this episode we talk about understanding control. “Stress is no more and no less than the inability to control and shape the forces that shape our lives” Teaching horses to control their own senses (where they look ,listen ,feel ,smell and taste) gives them a stress regulation system that they can always count on. Originally aired on: June 18th, 2024

Teatime with Elsa - Episode 178 Sep 16, 2024 826 Chatting about: The Wisdom of Timing… In this episode we talk about time and timing. Do you have the time to break each skill down to the smallest step, allowing horses to process the learning of a skill a little at a time? Or do you choose the right tool for teaching so the horse can be held in a situation long enough to adapt to their new skill faster? This is a choice worth considering. I prefe

Teatime with Elsa - Episode 177 Sep 16, 2024 1007 Chatting about: Learning With The Horse Versus Teaching The Horse… In this episode we talk about the difference between teaching horses skills and learning with your horse to be a better partner for them. Originally aired on: June 4th, 2024

Teatime with Elsa - Episode 176 Sep 16, 2024 625 Chatting about: “Relax and Trust Me”, or Not? In this episode we talk about two different methods of training: 1. Where we teach the horse to relax and trust the human and do what they are told without question. 2. Where we teach the horse to better use their own sensory system to gather sufficient information to feel safe and make their own good decisions. I prefer and teach the second option. I

Teatime with Elsa - Episode 175 Sep 16, 2024 1018 Chatting about: Walking the Walk, Talking the Talk... In this episode we talk about how we really only learn deeply when we practice the theories we talk about. Practicing our theories of relationship in all moods and all circumstance, doing the best we can, proves to our horse that we can show up and be a good partner adaptable to the reality of life, day by day. Originally aired on: May 21st, 20

Teatime with Elsa - Episode 174 Sep 16, 2024 837 Chatting about: The Gift Of Connection… In this episode we talk about Connection. Thinking about Connection as a two-way street where we can show them how connected we are to them, without expecting them to give it back to us. When we sufficiently give connection the horse will naturally want to give it back. I believe the connection is so much stronger when we give unconditionally and allow the

Teatime with Elsa - Episode 173 Sep 16, 2024 867 Chatting about: The Process of Relationship… In this episode we talk about goals. Either the horse has goals for the relationship, or the human has goals for the relationship. Working toward those goals is the process of relationship. If there are no goals you will find horse or human or both will become bored and then start focusing on problems that are too big and problematic. Finding the right

Teatime with Elsa - Episode 172 Sep 16, 2024 885 Chatting about: Quiet Moments to Solve Big Problems… In this episode we talk about how big problems are seldom solved in the moment they happen. The way we solve big problems is in the better preparation for the next time it comes up. Originally aired on: April 30th, 2024

Teatime with Elsa - Episode 171 Sep 16, 2024 949 Chatting about: Patterns of Trust… In this episode we talk about trust and how it is built from past experiences. So how do I build the kinds of habits that make the horse feel I am trustworthy and the kinds of habits that make me feel my horse is trustworthy? Originally aired on: April 23rd, 2024

Teatime with Elsa - Episode 170 Sep 16, 2024 1086 Chatting about: In With The New… In this episode we talk about replacing old or bad habits with new and good habits. It’s important we don’t take away old stabilizing habits before we have begun to introduce new and better habits to support the horse better. Showing the horse we understand their past identity so they can grow into their future identity. Originally aired on: April 16th, 2024

Teatime with Elsa - Episode 169 Sep 16, 2024 800 Chatting about: Social Pressure… In this episode we talk about social pressure in herds and what it takes for horses to make an effort to be like each other, herd cohesion. Originally aired on: April 9th, 2024

Teatime with Elsa - Episode 168 Sep 16, 2024 492 Chatting about: The Purpose of a Push… In this episode we talk about the reasons we might use pressure in the relationship with our horses. Are you trying to get something from your horse? Or are you using pressure in a way that actually causes them to feel better in their life? Originally aired on: April 2nd, 2024

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