Every Man’s Battle Podcast
New Life has been helping thousands of men with their sexual integrity for over 3 decades. Every Man's Battle podcast discusses the topics that will help men understand their challenges, the pathway to Christlike character, and hope for recovery. Becoming a man of sexual integrity is an ongoing process, and we can help you on the journey. New Life's EVERY MAN’S BATTLE PODCAST can assist you on the pathway to becoming the man you hope to be. As all things sexual integrity, EVERY MAN’S BATTLE PODCAST is for EVERY MAN!
Episodes
Eric's Story: From Trauma and Resentment to Grace and Recovery
These Summer messages are re-broadcasts from our most popular, relevant, and helpful messages that are worth listening to again to stay focused and strong over the Summer as you continue fighting Every Man’s Battle.📻 𝙀𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮 𝙈𝙖𝙣'𝙨 𝘽𝙖𝙩𝙩𝙡𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩 – 𝐄𝐩𝐢𝐬𝐨𝐝𝐞 𝟖 Show NotesLicensed counselors JJ West and Doug Barnes kick off a Season 3 mini‑series introducing Every Man's Battle facilitators by sitting dow
Leaving Hiding Behind: How to Stop Acting In and Start Living Connected
These Summer messages are re-broadcasts from our most popular, relevant, and helpful messages that are worth listening to again to stay focused and strong over the Summer as you continue fighting Every Man’s Battle.📻 START YOUR WEEK WITH HOPE ON 𝙀𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮 𝙈𝙖𝙣’𝙨 𝘽𝙖𝙩𝙩𝙡𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩Recording from the Intimacy in Marriage Workshop, licensed counselors JJ West and Doug Barnes continue their conversation on act
Overcoming Acting In: How Hidden Withdrawal Sabotages Sexual Integrity
These Summer messages are re-broadcasts from our most popular, relevant, and helpful messages that are worth listening to again to stay focused and strong over the Summer as you continue fighting Every Man’s Battle.📻 𝙀𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮 𝙈𝙖𝙣’𝙨 𝘽𝙖𝙩𝙩𝙡𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩 – 𝐄𝐩𝐢𝐬𝐨𝐝𝐞 𝟔 Show NotesLicensed counselors JJ West and Doug Barnes unpack acting in—the often‑ignored twin of acting out. Instead of running to porn or affai
Sex, Attachment, and Sanctification: Becoming a Secure Connector in Recovery
These Summer messages are re-broadcasts from our most popular, relevant, and helpful messages that are worth listening to again to stay focused and strong over the Summer as you continue fighting Every Man’s Battle.📻 START YOUR WEEK WITH HOPE ON 𝙀𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮 𝙈𝙖𝙣’𝙨 𝘽𝙖𝙩𝙩𝙡𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩Licensed counselors JJ West and Doug Barnes welcome back Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Marc Cameron, New Life LIVE pane
Attachment Styles and Sex: How Avoiders and Pleasers Act Out
These Summer messages are re-broadcasts from our most popular, relevant, and helpful messages that are worth listening to again to stay focused and strong over the Summer as you continue fighting Every Man’s Battle.📻 START YOUR WEEK WITH HOPE ON 𝙀𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮 𝙈𝙖𝙣’𝙨 𝘽𝙖𝙩𝙩𝙡𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩Licensed counselors JJ West and Doug Barnes welcome back Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Marc Cameron, New Life LIVE co‑h
Empathy, Betrayal, and Healing: A Christian Man’s Guide to Sexual Integrity
These Summer messages are re-broadcasts from our most popular, relevant, and helpful messages that are worth listening to again to stay focused and strong over the Summer as you continue fighting Every Man’s Battle.START YOUR WEEK WITH HOPE ON 𝙀𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮 𝙈𝙖𝙣’𝙨 𝘽𝙖𝙩𝙩𝙡𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩Licensed counselors JJ West and Doug Barnes continue their deep dive into the role of empathy in sexual integrity recovery. Buildi
How Empathy Heals Porn and Sexual Addiction for Christian Men
These Summer messages are re-broadcasts from our most popular, relevant, and helpful messages that are worth listening to again to stay focused and strong over the Summer as you continue fighting Every Man’s Battle.📻 START YOUR WEEK WITH HOPE ON 𝙀𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮 𝙈𝙖𝙣’𝙨 𝘽𝙖𝙩𝙩𝙡𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩Licensed Marriage Family Therapist JJ West and Licensed Professional Counselor Doug Barnes continue Season 3 with a crucial con
Using Ancient Paths, Core Tools, and Key Books to Fuel Your Recovery
These Summer messages are re-broadcasts from our most popular, relevant, and helpful messages that are worth listening to again to stay focused and strong over the Summer as you continue fighting Every Man’s Battle.📻 START YOUR WEEK WITH HOPE ON 𝙀𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮 𝙈𝙖𝙣’𝙨 𝘽𝙖𝙩𝙩𝙡𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩Licensed counselors JJ West and Doug Barnes kick off Season 3 with a powerful conversation on what really works in sexual integr
When She’s Triggered, Don’t Make It Worse: 12 Ways Men Accidentally Re‑Trigger Their Wives and How to Respond
📻 𝙀𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮 𝙈𝙖𝙣’𝙨 𝘽𝙖𝙩𝙩𝙡𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩 – 𝐄𝐩𝐢𝐬𝐨𝐝𝐞 𝟐𝟔 𝐒𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐍𝐨𝐓𝐄𝐒In Episode 26, JJ West and Doug Barnes welcome betrayal‑trauma specialist Laura Mangin‑MacDonald to continue unpacking what to do—and what not to do—when your wife is triggered by past sexual betrayal. Laura shares 12 things men commonly do that accidentally re‑trigger their wives, including explaining too fast, logic‑fixing, harsh tone, defensiv
She’s Not Punishing You—She’s in Pain: Triggers, Shame, and the 3 Ps of Responding Well
📻 𝙀𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮 𝙈𝙖𝙣’𝙨 𝘽𝙖𝙩𝙩𝙡𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩 – 𝐄𝐩𝐢𝐬𝐨𝐝𝐞 𝟐𝟓 𝐒𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐍𝐨𝐓𝐄𝐒In Episode 25, JJ West and Doug Barnes welcome betrayal‑trauma specialist Laura Mangin‑MacDonald to tackle one of the toughest questions husbands ask: “When she’s triggered, how do I respond—and not make it worse?” Laura explains what a trigger really is (a God‑designed nervous‑system alarm after betrayal), why wives can’t just “get over it,” and
Can Porn Cause Erectile Dysfunction? Neuroscience, Neuroplasticity, and a 90‑Day Reset for Recovery
📻 𝙀𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮 𝙈𝙖𝙣’𝙨 𝘽𝙖𝙩𝙩𝙡𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩 – 𝐄𝐩𝐢𝐬𝐨𝐝𝐞 𝟐𝟒 𝐒𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐍𝐨𝐓𝐄𝐒In this QA episode, JJ West and Doug Barnes tackle two big recovery questions: Can years of porn and voyeurism cause erectile dysfunction, and can your brain really be rewired? And is there any evidence that a 90‑day abstention from sex with your wife actually helps recovery?You’ll learn:How porn and compulsive sexual behavior train your brain to
When You Feel Numb, Broken and Out of Options: Emotional Shutdown, Affairs and Where to Start
📻 𝙀𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮 𝙈𝙖𝙣’𝙨 𝘽𝙖𝙩𝙩𝙡𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩 – 𝐄𝐩𝐢𝐬𝐨𝐝𝐞 𝟐𝟑 𝐒𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐍𝐨𝐓𝐄𝐒In this QA episode, JJ West and Doug Barnes respond to two deeply honest letters. “Terry” has been sober for five and a half years after porn and betrayal but feels emotionally numb, unable to cry over major losses or show his wife the empathy she deserves. Another listener shares that after an affair and a recent “almost slip,” his partner is do
You Can’t Do This Alone: Bob Sklar on Good Accountability, Story Work, and Becoming Safe
📻 𝙀𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮 𝙈𝙖𝙣’𝙨 𝘽𝙖𝙩𝙩𝙡𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩 – 𝐄𝐩𝐢𝐬𝐨𝐝𝐞 𝟐𝟐 𝐒𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐍𝐨𝐓𝐄𝐒In this episode, JJ West, Doug Barnes, and facilitator Bob Sklar explain why Sustained Victory—New Life’s aftercare program for Every Man’s Battle alumni—is essential for moving from short‑term sobriety to long‑term recovery. They describe how weekly, counselor‑led groups become a laboratory for connection, where men learn real accountability, pr
“My Addiction Was a Terrorist”: How Bob Sklar Found Real Recovery, Not Just Sobriety
📻 𝙀𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮 𝙈𝙖𝙣’𝙨 𝘽𝙖𝙩𝙩𝙡𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩 – 𝐄𝐩𝐢𝐬𝐨𝐝𝐞 𝟐𝟏 𝐒𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐍𝐨𝐓𝐄𝐒In this powerful facilitator spotlight, JJ West and Doug Barnes sit down with Bob Sklar, one of the original Every Man’s Battle facilitators. Bob shares a 36‑year recovery journey that includes childhood sexual abuse, early pornography exposure, a porn‑shaped view of sex, coming to Christ at 18, harmful church advice, multiple relapses, and final
Beyond Guardrails: Healing Desire and Using Tech for Connection, Not Escape
📻 𝙀𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮 𝙈𝙖𝙣’𝙨 𝘽𝙖𝙩𝙩𝙡𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩 – 𝐄𝐩𝐢𝐬𝐨𝐝𝐞 𝟐𝟎 𝐒𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐍𝐨𝐓𝐄𝐒 (Short)In Part 3 of their “Using Tech Safely in Recovery” series, licensed counselors JJ West and Doug Barnes move beyond filters and guardrails to the heart beneath your screen habits. They explain why the real battle is about desire, story, and community, not just discipline, and how authentic brotherhood helps heal the wounds that drive you t
Safely Using Technology in Recovery, Part 2: Guardrails, Habits, and Handheld Sabbaths
📻 𝙀𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮 𝙈𝙖𝙣’𝙨 𝘽𝙖𝙩𝙩𝙡𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩 – 𝐄𝐩𝐢𝐬𝐨𝐝𝐞 𝟏𝟗 𝐒𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐍𝐨tesIn Part 2 of their series on safely using technology in recovery, licensed counselors JJ West and Doug Barnes move from big‑picture concepts to practical guardrails for your phones, computers, and apps. They show how to combine device transparency, filters, access‑point removal, screen‑time limits, and handheld Sabbaths with deeper heart work so
Safely Using Technology in Recovery, Part 1: Why Filters Aren’t Enough
📻 𝙀𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮 𝙈𝙖𝙣’𝙨 𝘽𝙖𝙩𝙩𝙡𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩 – 𝐄𝐩𝐢𝐬𝐨𝐝𝐞 𝟏𝟖 𝐒𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐍𝐨tesIn Part 1 of a new series on safely using technology in recovery, licensed counselors JJ West and Doug Barnes tackle a hard truth: technology isn’t the real problem, and software alone won’t fix your heart. They show how phones, computers, and apps become fast, frictionless ways to soothe unhealed pain, shame, and loneliness, and why you can’t si
When a Pastor Says “Me Too”: How Confession, Community, and EMB Changed Jim Phillis’s Life
📻 𝙀𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮 𝙈𝙖𝙣’𝙨 𝘽𝙖𝙩𝙩𝙡𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩 – 𝐄𝐩𝐢𝐬𝐨𝐝𝐞 𝟏𝟕 𝐒𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐍𝐨tesIn this facilitator spotlight, JJ West interviews longtime Every Man’s Battle and Sustained Victory leader Jim Phillis, recorded live at an EMB intensive in Washington, DC. Jim shares his journey from early masturbation and pornography in Peoria, to a dramatic Good Friday conversion, to years of pastoral ministry shadowed by secret acting out, an
You Can’t Do This Alone: Community, Confrontation, and Heart Change vs. Behavior Change
📻 𝙀𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮 𝙈𝙖𝙣’𝙨 𝘽𝙖𝙩𝙩𝙡𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩 – 𝐄𝐩𝐢𝐬𝐨𝐝𝐞 𝟏𝟔 𝐒𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐍𝐨tesIn this final installment of the Key Elements of Transformation series, licensed counselors JJ West and Doug Barnes explain why you cannot do sexual integrity recovery alone and why behavior change without heart change eventually fails. Building on earlier episodes about grace, surrender, story work, and compassion, they now unpack how community,
From Beating Yourself Up to Befriending Your Younger Self: Practical Tools for Real Change
📻 𝙀𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮 𝙈𝙖𝙣’𝙨 𝘽𝙖𝙩𝙩𝙡𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩 – 𝐄𝐩𝐢𝐬𝐨𝐝𝐞 𝟏𝟓 𝐒𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐍𝐨𝐓𝐄𝐒In Part 2 of the Key Elements of Transformation series, licensed counselors JJ West and Doug Barnes draw on Gabor Maté’s insight that the real question is not “Why the addiction?” but “Why the pain?” They show how sexual acting out is a flawed attempt to soothe unaddressed childhood wounds, and they model a compassionate, curious way of revisitin
From White‑Knuckling to Grace: Surrender, Story, and Community in Recovery
📻 𝙀𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮 𝙈𝙖𝙣’𝙨 𝘽𝙖𝙩𝙩𝙡𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩 – 𝐄𝐩𝐢𝐬𝐨𝐝𝐞 𝟏𝟒 𝐒𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐍𝐨𝐓𝐄𝐒In Part 1 of a two‑episode series on the key elements of transformation, licensed counselors JJ West and Doug Barnes unpack why sexual integrity is about far more than “not looking at porn” or “trying harder.” They distinguish behavior modification from grace‑centered heart change, emphasizing that without surrender, story work, and community, me
When Fantasy Becomes a Master: How Joe Elliott Found Hope, Brotherhood, and Sustained Victory
📻 𝙀𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮 𝙈𝙖𝙣’𝙨 𝘽𝙖𝙩𝙩𝙡𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩 – 𝐄𝐩𝐢𝐬𝐨𝐝𝐞 𝟏𝟑 𝐒𝐡𝐨𝐰 𝐍𝐨tesIn this Season 3 “meet the facilitators” episode, licensed counselors JJ West and Doug Barnes interview Joe Elliott, an Every Man’s Battle breakout‑group and Sustained Victory facilitator whose story spans childhood exposure to sexualized media, decades of acting out across nearly all sexual boundaries, and a powerful turn toward freedom and serv
Finding What Matters, Part 2: Becoming the Man Who Attracts a Godly Woman
📻 𝙀𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮 𝙈𝙖𝙣’𝙨 𝘽𝙖𝙩𝙩𝙡𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩 – 𝐄𝐩𝐢𝐬𝐨𝐝𝐞 𝟏𝟐 Show NotesFrom Dallas during an Every Man’s Battle Intensive, licensed counselors JJ West and Doug Barnes continue their “Finding What Matters” series—shifting from what to look for in a woman to the deeper question, “What kind of man am I becoming?” They unpack why character, emotional health, and humility matter more than perfection or chemistry, and sha
Finding What Matters: Mentoring, Dating, and Discerning Real Compatibility
📻 𝙀𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮 𝙈𝙖𝙣’𝙨 𝘽𝙖𝙩𝙩𝙡𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩 – 𝐄𝐩𝐢𝐬𝐨𝐝𝐞 𝟏𝟏 Show NotesRecording on the road in Dallas before an Every Man’s Battle Intensive, licensed counselors JJ West and Doug Barnes explore something that shapes both sexual integrity and relationships: mentoring. This episode looks at why so many younger men lack mentors, how that leaves them confused about relationships and values, and why older men often unde
When a Brother Calls in Crisis: How to Respond without Shame or Fixing
Licensed counselors JJ West and Doug Barnes equip men for one of the most critical moments in recovery: answering a crisis call from a struggling brother. They show how to respond with a no‑shame posture, deep listening, and practical support instead of panic, lectures, or quick‑fix advice.You’ll learn:Why your first words should be, “Thank you for calling—you are loved and still part of the herd
Accountability That Works: How 5‑Minute Check‑In Calls Fuel Sexual Integrity Recovery
Licensed counselors JJ West and Doug Barnes get super practical in this episode, teaching men how to do 5‑minute check‑in calls that actually support sexual integrity instead of turning into 30‑minute gripe sessions or sports talk. They walk through a simple template—feelings, boundaries, triggers, helpful tools, upcoming risks, and a final honesty question—and demonstrate the difference between a
When the Temple Breaks: Eric Thomas's Journey from NFL Dreams to Sexual Integrity
📻 𝙀𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮 𝙈𝙖𝙣'𝙨 𝘽𝙖𝙩𝙩𝙡𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩 – 𝐄𝐩𝐢𝐬𝐨𝐝𝐞 𝟖 Show NotesLicensed counselors JJ West and Doug Barnes kick off a Season 3 mini‑series introducing Every Man's Battle facilitators by sitting down with Eric Thomas, LMFT. Eric shares his powerful story: early exposure to his father's porn stash, NFL dreams shattered by a shooting at 20, years of shame over his scarred body, transactional relationships, and d
When Withdrawal Feels Safer than Love: Finding Safe People and Community
📻 START YOUR WEEK WITH HOPE ON 𝙀𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮 𝙈𝙖𝙣’𝙨 𝘽𝙖𝙩𝙩𝙡𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩Recording from the Intimacy in Marriage Workshop, licensed counselors JJ West and Doug Barnes continue their conversation on acting in, the quieter counterpart to acting out. In Part 2, they move from definition to application—exploring why acting in matters even if a man has stopped acting out, how it often grows out of childhood trauma res
Acting Out vs. Acting In: Recognizing the Other Side of Your Sexual Struggle
📻 𝙀𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮 𝙈𝙖𝙣’𝙨 𝘽𝙖𝙩𝙩𝙡𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩 – 𝐄𝐩𝐢𝐬𝐨𝐝𝐞 𝟔 Show NotesLicensed counselors JJ West and Doug Barnes unpack acting in—the often‑ignored twin of acting out. Instead of running to porn or affairs, many men manage shame and fear by withdrawing, shutting down, stonewalling, or overworking to avoid real connection. This episode helps you recognize those patterns and see how acting in and acting out are two s
From Broken to Secure: How Attachment Styles Shape Sex, Love, and Addiction
📻 START YOUR WEEK WITH HOPE ON 𝙀𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮 𝙈𝙖𝙣’𝙨 𝘽𝙖𝙩𝙩𝙡𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩Licensed counselors JJ West and Doug Barnes welcome back Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Marc Cameron, New Life LIVE panelist and author of Understanding Your Attachment Style, for part two of their deep dive on attachment styles and sexual propensities. In this episode, they unpack the Vacillator and Chaotic/Disorganized (Controller–
Understanding Your Attachment Style & Sexual Brokenness with Marc Cameron
📻 START YOUR WEEK WITH HOPE ON 𝙀𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮 𝙈𝙖𝙣’𝙨 𝘽𝙖𝙩𝙩𝙡𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩Licensed counselors JJ West and Doug Barnes welcome back Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist Marc Cameron, New Life LIVE co‑host and author of Understanding Your Attachment Style, for a powerful episode on how attachment styles shape sexual behavior and acting out.In this first of a two‑part conversation, they focus on the Avoider and Pl
Practicing Empathy Toward Yourself and Your Spouse in Sexual Recovery
START YOUR WEEK WITH HOPE ON 𝙀𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮 𝙈𝙖𝙣’𝙨 𝘽𝙖𝙩𝙩𝙡𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩Licensed counselors JJ West and Doug Barnes continue their deep dive into the role of empathy in sexual integrity recovery. Building on last week’s episode, they explore how empathy creates safe spaces, how to practice self‑empathy, and how to sit with a betrayed spouse in her pain without becoming defensive or shutting down.In this honest co
The Role of Empathy in Sexual Integrity Recovery
📻 START YOUR WEEK WITH HOPE ON 𝙀𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮 𝙈𝙖𝙣’𝙨 𝘽𝙖𝙩𝙩𝙡𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩Licensed Marriage Family Therapist JJ West and Licensed Professional Counselor Doug Barnes continue Season 3 with a crucial conversation on the role of empathy in sexual integrity recovery.In this episode, they explore why empathy is not “soft” or optional, but central to healing—from how God empathizes with us, to how we learn to extend e
What Really Works in Sexual Integrity Recovery? Ancient Paths, Boundaries, and Brotherhood
📻 START YOUR WEEK WITH HOPE ON 𝙀𝙫𝙚𝙧𝙮 𝙈𝙖𝙣’𝙨 𝘽𝙖𝙩𝙩𝙡𝙚 𝙋𝙤𝙙𝙘𝙖𝙨𝙩Licensed counselors JJ West and Doug Barnes kick off Season 3 with a powerful conversation on what really works in sexual integrity recovery—ancient paths, clear boundaries, daily structure, brotherhood, and the “gift of getting caught.”In this episode, they:Unpack Jeremiah 6:16 and why recovery is a path, not a quick fix.Share real-life to
Things I Wish I Knew Sooner
Season 3 of The Every Man’s Battle podcast launches in January! See what’s in store here. To make sure you are caught up on Season 2 and prepare you for the next season, we’re finishing the year with episodes you need to hear—or hear again.JJ West and Doug Barnes reflect on what they have learned through recovery and wish they could share with younger versions of themselves to spare themselves fro
The Fallout of Sexual Abuse
Season 3 of The Every Man’s Battle podcast launches in January! See what’s in store here. To make sure you are caught up on Season 2 and prepare you for the next season, we’re finishing the year with episodes you need to hear—or hear again.JJ West and Doug Barnes discuss how childhood sexual abuse impacts adult behavior, emphasizing the importance of therapy and the book "The Wounded Heart" by Dan
The Neuroscience of Sex Addiction - Part 2
Season 3 of The Every Man’s Battle podcast launches in January! See what’s in store here. To make sure you are caught up on Season 2 and prepare you for the next season, we’re finishing the year with episodes you need to hear—or hear again.JJ West and Doug Barnes continue discussing neurobiology and neurochemistry as it relates to sexual addiction. The explain the neurochemical processes in pornog
The Neuroscience of Sex Addiction - Part 1
Season 3 of The Every Man’s Battle podcast launches in January! See what’s in store here. To make sure you are caught up on Season 2 and prepare you for the next season, we’re finishing the year with episodes you need to hear—or hear again.JJ West and Doug Barnes discuss the impact neurobiology and neurochemistry have on sexual addiction, emphasizing the need to balance understanding of these proc
Optimism in a Partner's Inaction
Season 3 of The Every Man’s Battle podcast launches in January! See what’s in store here. To make sure you are caught up on Season 2 and prepare you for the next season, we’re finishing the year with episodes you need to hear—or hear again.JJ West and Doug Barnes discuss maintaining hope and progress in recovery when their partner feels stuck. They emphasize the importance of internalizing recover
Season 3 Launches in January 2026
Too many men suffer alone. The battle you fight is real, and the solution must be honest. Season 3 launches January, 2026. JJ West, Doug Barnes, and guest voices bring real stories, expert counsel, and the truth that sets men free. Whether you're battling addiction, shame, relational breakdown, or simply seeking perseverance. This podcast is your next step.Explore the Everyman's Battle podcast now
Willpower is not Enough
Season 3 of The Every Man’s Battle podcast launches in January! See what’s in store here. To make sure you are caught up on Season 2 and prepare you for the next season, we’re finishing the year with episodes you need to hear—or hear again.JJ West and Doug Barnes discuss why one's best thinking and efforts are not enough to overcome addiction, sharing that believing this lie can lead to isolation
Parenting Through Disclosure - Part 2
Season 3 of The Every Man’s Battle podcast launches in January! See what’s in store here. To make sure you are caught up on Season 2 and prepare you for the next season, we’re finishing the year with episodes you need to hear—or hear again.JJ West, Doug Barnes, and guest Dr. Jim Phillis continue their conversation about talking to your kids about your sexual addiction. They share guidelines for di
Parenting Through Disclosure - Part 1
Season 3 of The Every Man’s Battle podcast launches in January! See what’s in store here. To make sure you are caught up on Season 2 and prepare you for the next season, we’re finishing the year with episodes you need to hear—or hear again.JJ West, Doug Barnes, and guest Dr. Jim Phillis share a framework for talking to your kids about your sexual addiction.Have a topic you would like to hear? Emai
Tips for Clergy to Help Couples Recover
Season 3 of The Every Man’s Battle podcast launches in January! See what’s in store here. To make sure you are caught up on Season 2 and prepare you for the next season, we’re finishing the year with episodes you need to hear—or hear again.JJ West and Doug Barnes offer insight to help clergy be well-informed and equipped to support couples navigating the betrayal and recovery process, including wa
Power in Forgiveness
These October messages are re-broadcasts from our most popular, relevant, and helpful messages that are worth listening to again to stay focused and strong over the changing seasons as you continue fighting Every Man’s Battle.JJ West, Doug Barnes, and guest Bob Good examine forgiveness. Referencing the biblical definition, they discuss what forgiveness is and isn’t. They address misconceptions and
Abiding Through the Process
These October messages are re-broadcasts from our most popular, relevant, and helpful messages that are worth listening to again to stay focused and strong over the changing seasons as you continue fighting Every Man’s Battle.JJ West and Doug Barnes talk with a guest, Rick, who shares his journey from living a double life, to attending the Every Man's Battle workshop in 2012, to having a solid mar
Staying the Course in Recovery - Part 2
These October messages are re-broadcasts from our most popular, relevant, and helpful messages that are worth listening to again to stay focused and strong over the changing seasons as you continue fighting Every Man’s Battle.JJ West, Doug Barnes, and guest Dr. Sam Fraser discuss common mistakes in long-term recovery from sexual integrity issues. They highlight the importance of maintaining intern
Staying the Course in Recovery - Part 1
These October messages are re-broadcasts from our most popular, relevant, and helpful messages that are worth listening to again to stay focused and strong over the changing seasons as you continue fighting Every Man’s Battle.JJ West, Doug Barnes, and guest Dr. Sam Fraser discuss long-term recovery from sexual addiction. They emphasize the importance of relational growth and character change beyon
Sex: Men vs Women
These September messages are re-broadcasts from our most popular, relevant, and helpful messages that are worth listening to again to stay focused and strong over the changing seasons as you continue fighting Every Man’s Battle.JJ West, Doug Barnes, and guest Marc Cameron discuss the differences between men and women in sexuality, noting that these differences can lead to misunderstandings and rej
Her Next Steps When He's Stuck - Part 2
These September messages are re-broadcasts from our most popular, relevant, and helpful messages that are worth listening to again to stay focused and strong over the changing seasons as you continue fighting Every Man’s Battle.JJ West, Doug Barnes, and guest Laura Mangin McDonald continue discussing the challenges faced by partners of individuals not engaging in recovery work for sexual integrity
Her Next Steps When He's Stuck - Part 1
These September messages are re-broadcasts from our most popular, relevant, and helpful messages that are worth listening to again to stay focused and strong over the changing seasons as you continue fighting Every Man’s Battle.JJ West, Doug Barnes, and guest Laura Mangin McDonald discuss what a betrayed women should do if her man isn’t doing good recovery work. Drawing from her own betrayal exper
Revealing Everything - Part 2
These September messages are re-broadcasts from our most popular, relevant, and helpful messages that are worth listening to again to stay focused and strong over the changing seasons as you continue fighting Every Man’s Battle.JJ West and Doug Barnes are joined by guest Laura Mangin McDonald to continue the discussion on full disclosure in the context of betrayal trauma. They discuss the emotiona
Revealing Everything - Part 1
These September messages are re-broadcasts from our most popular, relevant, and helpful messages that are worth listening to again to stay focused and strong over the changing seasons as you continue fighting Every Man’s Battle.JJ West and Doug Barnes discuss the importance and components of full disclosure in addressing sexual integrity issues, stressing that full disclosure is a process, not an
Facing Temptation When You are Single
These Summer messages are re-broadcasts from our most popular, relevant, and helpful messages that are worth listening to again to stay focused and strong over the Summer as you continue fighting Every Man’s Battle.JJ West and Doug Barnes discuss the challenges of maintaining sexual integrity while single. The importance of developing an internal conscience and having a supportive community is exp
Facing Temptation in Full-Time Ministry
These Summer messages are re-broadcasts from our most popular, relevant, and helpful messages that are worth listening to again to stay focused and strong over the Summer as you continue fighting Every Man’s Battle.JJ West and Doug Barnes discuss the unique challenges of maintaining sexual integrity in full-time ministry. The increased scrutiny and higher standards placed on religious leaders can
God's Nature Requires Repentance
These Summer messages are re-broadcasts from our most popular, relevant, and helpful messages that are worth listening to again to stay focused and strong over the Summer as you continue fighting Every Man’s Battle.JJ West and Doug Barnes discuss the biblical concepts of kindness and godly sorrow as pathways to repentance. They assert that self-condemnation and shame do not lead to true repentance
Bonus Episode: Learning to have Intimate Conversations
In this bonus episode with a special offer, JJ West and Doug Barnes provide your next step for breaking through recurring arguments that lead nowhere. Identifying and repairing your injured communication style, slowing the conversation down, and feeling your emotions are methods taught at the Intimacy in Marriage workshop that lead to the authentic, healing, and intimate conversations that foster
Ways to Evaluate Your Recovery - Part 2
These Summer messages are re-broadcasts from our most popular, relevant, and helpful messages that are worth listening to again to stay focused and strong over the Summer as you continue fighting Every Man’s Battle.JJ West and Doug Barnes continue their discussion on measuring recovery success. The conversation underscores the integration of inner work with outward behaviors for effective recovery
Ways to Evaluate Your Recovery - Part 1
These Summer messages are re-broadcasts from our most popular, relevant, and helpful messages that are worth listening to again to stay focused and strong over the Summer as you continue fighting Every Man’s Battle.JJ West and Doug Barnes discuss ways of measuring success when in recovery for sexual integrity issues. They emphasize the importance of balancing tangible actions like step work, thera
Telling Your Friends and Families
These Summer messages are re-broadcasts from our most popular, relevant, and helpful messages that are worth listening to again to stay focused and strong over the Summer as you continue fighting Every Man’s Battle.Men who are acting out often think the worst thing possible would be for others to find out. J.J. West and Doug Barnes discuss why that is actually the best thing that could happen. The
Don't Give Up When You Struggle - Part 2
These Summer messages are re-broadcasts from our most popular, relevant, and helpful messages that are worth listening to again to stay focused and strong over the Summer as you continue fighting Every Man’s Battle.J.J. West and Doug Barnes continue the discussion on why it’s important to continue fighting for your sexual integrity, even when you are struggling, with the reminder that recovery is
Don't Give Up When You Struggle - Part 1
These Summer messages are re-broadcasts from our most popular, relevant, and helpful messages that are worth listening to again to stay focused and strong over the Summer as you continue fighting Every Man’s Battle.J.J. West and Doug Barnes discuss why it is important to continue fighting for your sexual integrity, even when you don’t feel like it and you’re struggling or failing. The struggle is
Advice to My Younger, Pre-Recovery Self
JJ West and Doug Barnes reflect on what they have learned through recovery and wish they could share with younger versions of themselves to spare themselves from mistakes and heartache.Have a topic you would like to hear? Email us at EMBPodcast@newlife.com and let us know. Use discount code EMBPOD to save $100 when you register for the Every Man's Battle Intensive. Learn more about integrity he
The Impact of Childhood Sexual Abuse on Adult Behavior
JJ West and Doug Barnes discuss how childhood sexual abuse impacts adult behavior, emphasizing the importance of therapy and the book "The Wounded Heart" by Dan Allender. They highlight three responses to abuse and three survival styles. They explain what healing involves and how faith and therapy can work together. Additionally, they discuss how shame and unresolved trauma can contribute to sexua
How Neurobiology and Brain Chemistry Relate to Sex Addiction - Part 2
JJ West and Doug Barnes continue discussing neurobiology and neurochemistry as it relates to sexual addiction. The explain the neurochemical processes in pornography use; the progression of addiction and tolerance; the impact of pornography on the brain; and how a 90-day reset can help re-train the brain.Have a topic you would like to hear? Email us at EMBPodcast@newlife.com and let us know. Use d
How Neurobiology and Brain Chemistry Relate to Sex Addiction - Part 1
JJ West and Doug Barnes discuss the impact neurobiology and neurochemistry have on sexual addiction, emphasizing the need to balance understanding of these processes with personal responsibility for choices and behavior.Have a topic you would like to hear? Email us at EMBPodcast@newlife.com and let us know. Use discount code EMBPOD to save $100 when you register for the Every Man's Battle Intensiv
Staying Hopeful When Your Partner is Stuck
JJ West and Doug Barnes discuss maintaining hope and progress in recovery when their partner feels stuck. They emphasize the importance of internalizing recovery work to address character issues rather than just completing tasks, as well as being present and empathetic to their partner’s unresolved pain. They highlight the need for a supportive community of healthy men to provide accountability an
Your Best Thinking Can’t Fix Your Addiction
JJ West and Doug Barnes discuss why one's best thinking and efforts are not enough to overcome addiction, sharing that believing this lie can lead to isolation and further complications in a person’s life. They emphasize the importance of honesty, confession, repentance, community, and reliance on God's strength over one's own efforts as key factors in the recovery process.Have a topic you would l
Talking to Your Kids about Your Sexual Addiction – Part 2
JJ West, Doug Barnes, and guest Dr. Jim Phillis continue their conversation about talking to your kids about your sexual addiction. They share guidelines for disclosure, taking into account the maturity and gender of the child and offer encouragement that while daunting, these conversations can foster respect and demystify the topic of sexuality.Have a topic you would like to hear? Email us at EMB
Talking to Your Kids about Your Sexual Addiction - Part 1
JJ West, Doug Barnes, and guest Dr. Jim Phillis share a framework for talking to your kids about your sexual addiction.Have a topic you would like to hear? Email us at EMBPodcast@newlife.com and let us know. Use discount code EMBPOD to save $100 when you register for the Every Man's Battle Intensive. Learn more about integrity here.
Helping Clergy Understand the Betrayal and Recovery Process
JJ West and Doug Barnes offer insight to help clergy be well-informed and equipped to support couples navigating the betrayal and recovery process, including ways to avoid common mistakes made in counseling.Have a topic you would like to hear? Email us at EMBPodcast@newlife.com and let us know. Use discount code EMBPOD to save $100 when you register for the Every Man's Battle Intensive. Learn mo
Examining Forgiveness
JJ West, Doug Barnes, and guest Bob Good examine forgiveness. Referencing the biblical definition, they discuss what forgiveness is and isn’t. They address misconceptions and barriers to forgiveness, emphasizing that one cannot be pressured into forgiving. The explain why full disclosure is vital to the forgiveness process.Have a topic you would like to hear? Email us at EMBPodcast@newlife.com
13 Years of Redeemed Integrity
JJ West and Doug Barnes talk with a guest, Rick, who shares his journey from living a double life, to attending the Every Man's Battle workshop in 2012, to having a solid marriage today. Rick highlights the importance of community, accountability, sustained effort, and connection to maintaining long term recovery.
Have a topic you would like to hear? Email us at EMBPodcast@newlife.com and let u
Managing Long Term Recovery - Part 2
JJ West, Doug Barnes, and guest Dr. Sam Fraser discuss common mistakes in long-term recovery from sexual integrity issues. They highlight the importance of maintaining internal motivation, avoiding complacency, the need for humility, character development and continuous growth, as well as nurturing a spiritual life. The conversation underscores the value of continuous effort and community in achie
Managing Long Term Recovery - Part 1
JJ West, Doug Barnes, and guest Dr. Sam Fraser discuss long-term recovery from sexual addiction. They emphasize the importance of relational growth and character change beyond mere sobriety, highlighting the significance of actions over words, maintaining sobriety, and the role of accountability in recovery. The evolution from initial recovery to long-term recovery is discussed, noting the need fo
The Differences in Men and Women When it comes to Sex
JJ West, Doug Barnes, and guest Marc Cameron discuss the differences between men and women in sexuality, noting that these differences can lead to misunderstandings and rejection in relationships if not understood.
They emphasize the importance of having vulnerable conversations and working together to build a healthy sexual and emotional relationship and offer solutions for the challenges men oft
Her Response When He’s Not Working Recovery – Part 2
JJ West, Doug Barnes, and guest Laura Mangin McDonald continue discussing the challenges faced by partners of individuals not engaging in recovery work for sexual integrity issues. They touch on the importance of personal healing and support systems, the grieving process, therapeutic separation, boundaries and the role of community in the healing journey.
Have a topic you would like to hear? Email
Her Response When He’s Not Working Recovery
JJ West, Doug Barnes, and guest Laura Mangin McDonald discuss what a betrayed women should do if her man isn’t doing good recovery work. Drawing from her own betrayal experience, Laura highlights the need to set clear boundaries; to engage in a healing process independent of his; to have a support system and a trauma therapist; to know her identity in Christ; and to trust God.
Have a topic you wo
Full Disclosure, Part 2
JJ West and Doug Barnes are joined by guest Laura Mangin McDonald to continue the discussion on full disclosure in the context of betrayal trauma. They discuss the emotional impact of full disclosure, noting that a trauma-trained therapist can help both parties. Common mistakes made in the disclosure process are reviewed, and they emphasize the need for the betrayed woman to have the space and com
Full Disclosure, Part 1
JJ West and Doug Barnes discuss the importance and components of full disclosure in addressing sexual integrity issues, stressing that full disclosure is a process, not an event. The need for thoroughness, humility, and rigorous honesty in disclosing past behaviors and significant life events is explained. They share the significance of impact statements from the offended party as well as men's le
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