Respect Me, Once The Dust Settles.
This podcast is a raw, unfiltered exploration of real life topics including self-doubt, love, confidence, and creative pressure. The host shares personal reflections on life, faith, music, and sports, inviting listeners to pause and be present. Early episodes have rough audio quality as the show improves. Listeners can connect via Instagram and Twitter.
Episodes
Free the bros.
Why Would I Say Free the Bros?People want to be liked and accepted so badly that they'll publicly stand behind a movement without even knowing what they're supporting. In this episode, I get into the social media culture of blind allegiance, performative loyalty, and the pressure to prove you're down for your people regardless of what they've done.When did being a good friend start
Know who you’re talking to.
Know Who You’re Talking ToSometimes the opportunity that comes at the right time comes with conditions you never saw coming. After landing what seemed like the perfect remote job, I quickly learned that being good at your job doesn't always mean you'll be respected for it. From questionable management and conflicting expectations to tripling my monthly goal with no real path for growth, I
Tatyana Ali .
I think I developed my type before I even knew I had one.From Tatyana Ali and Karyn Parsons to Janet Jackson, T-Boz, Nia Long, Lela Rochon, and the women who made the 90s feel like the 90s, this episode is a love letter to the women who helped shape my idea of beauty.Growing up, beauty came in different faces, different personalities, different styles, and different kinds of presence. Looking back
You're Weird.
What happened to the word “weird”?When I was a kid, weird actually meant weird. The kid eating loose-leaf paper, reminding the teacher about homework, or doing something that made absolutely no sense had earned the title.Now it feels like “weird” has become something else entirely. Having an opinion that doesn't match the crowd can get you labeled weird. Refusing to participate in a trend can
I believe I can fly .
After a long break, I’m back.This episode takes me all the way back to kindergarten graduation — the uncomfortable dress shoes, searching the auditorium for your parents, the camera flashes, the little friends beside you, and the moment an entire room of children came together to sing “I Believe I Can Fly.”At that age, we didn't understand everything we were singing. We simply believed it.Looking
I thought my podcast was missing a vibe. It wasn’t my life was.
I thought my podcast was missing something. The sound, the atmosphere, the vibe. Then I realized I wasn't trying to fix the podcast.I was trying to fix a feeling in my life.In this episode, I talk honestly about my growing disconnect with Dallas, what I miss about New York, why culture and environment matter more to me than I realized, and the kind of life I actually want to wake up to.This is
The love I need, the love I know.
Episode DescriptionI used to think I knew what love was.I thought love was intensity. Romance. Affection. Wanting somebody so badly that their presence could change the entire feeling of a room.But getting older has changed the question.I don't just want to be loved anymore. I want to be known.In this episode, I explore the difference between the love we imagine when we're young and the lo
Have I been ungrateful my entire life ?
HAVE I BEEN UNGRATEFUL MY ENTIRE LIFE?I took an edible, got deep in thought, and somehow ended up questioning my entire relationship with money, material things, ambition, and gratitude.Growing up, my parents made sure I had what I needed. I had good meals, new clothes, regular haircuts, money for school, and parents who consistently showed up for me. I didn't grow up with every designer brand
A mother is gonna mother regardless.
A MOTHER IS GONNA MOTHER REGARDLESSThe Raising Kanan finale left me thinking about something much bigger than Raq and Kanan.What happens when your child grows into an adult you can no longer protect, guide, or control?Raq spent years trying to shape the man Kanan would become. Eventually, she had to face the reality every parent eventually faces: your child becomes their own person.That doesn'
It’s not the dream I rejected , it’s the future with you.
IT'S NOT THE DREAM I REJECTED, IT'S THE FUTURE WITH YOUHave you ever met someone who was good to you...and still couldn't picture spending the rest of your life with them?No betrayal.No dramatic ending.No obvious reason you could point to and say, "That's why."You just couldn't see it.And that's where things get complicated.Because what do you tell somebody when t
Alcohol made you do it, but you shaved before going.
ALCOHOL MADE YOU DO IT, BUT YOU SHAVED BEFORE GOING"Alcohol made me do it."We've all heard it.But here's the problem...you shaved before going.This episode starts with a joke about cheating and alcohol, but it quickly becomes a deeper conversation about excuses, accountability, self-awareness, and the stories we tell ourselves when we don't like the person we became in a part
She calms my nervous system.
She Calms My Nervous System DownSometimes you don't understand the value of someone's presence until you're no longer in it.In this episode, I explore what it means to have someone in your life whose presence makes the weight of everything you're dealing with feel a little lighter. Not because they solve your problems, but because something about being around them gives you enough peace to see tho
How many of us have them … FRIENDS.
How Many of Us Have Them… FRIENDSHow many of us have them?Friends.The older I get, the more complicated that word becomes. Friendship isn't just about how long you've known somebody. It's about who shows up, who tells you the truth, who can celebrate your growth without competing with it, and whether both people are willing to evolve.In this episode, I get into the expiration dates on
I did 100 episodes .
100100 episodes later, I finally understand what Respect Me Once The Dust Settles is actually about.When I started this podcast, I thought I wanted to enter the self-help and self-improvement space. But the more I lived, the harder it became to pretend I had the answers. I’m still figuring out love, relationships, faith, discipline, ambition, money, and what it means to become the person I want to
Sometimes I feel like quitting .
Sometimes I Feel Like QuittingEpisode 99 is a check-in on the journey.Sometimes you can want something badly and still get tired of trying to make it happen. In this episode, I talk about what it actually feels like to build something before you know what it's going to become—the uncertainty, consistency, faith, patience, personal sacrifices, and relationships that can change while you're
Maximilian.
Maximillian?Why does the modern world sometimes feel like a cartoon version of the future we were warned about?In this episode of Respect Me Once The Dust Settles, a simple question about the disappearing name “Maximillian” turns into a bigger conversation about individuality, technology, convenience, nostalgia, architecture, fashion, food, social media, and the strange sameness creeping into mode
Tasha St Patrick
What can Tasha St. Patrick from Power teach us about love, resentment, and growing apart?This episode uses Tasha as the doorway into a much bigger conversation about relationships, personal growth, emotional responsibility, compatibility, ambition, and peace.Sometimes relationships don't end because somebody is a bad person. Sometimes two good people simply grow in different directions.You can lov
Jamaicans CAN make Mac & Cheese
It starts with a joke about mac and cheese.It ends with a conversation about identity.In this episode, Brandon explores why we're so quick to reduce people to stereotypes, labels, and assumptions. From internet debates about who should cook what to the way we categorize entire cultures based on a single characteristic, this conversation challenges the idea that people can be understood through hea
Started with a barber, Now we're here.
Growing older isn't one big moment—it happens quietly.One conversation with your barber. A few gray hairs. A different group chat. Calling your parents just to make sure they're okay. Realizing the adults you looked up to were figuring life out one day at a time, just like you are now.In Started With a Barber, Now We're Here, Brandon reflects on the invisible transition into adulthood, the respons
Left Over Pizza .
Leftover Pizza isn't about pizza.It's about the people who walk away from your life, disappear when you need them most, and somehow return months or years later expecting everything to be exactly the way they left it.In this episode, Brandon explores why people assume they still have access to us after time has passed. Through conversations about nostalgia, loneliness, guilt, curiosity, success, a
100 things grown men have to stop doing PT 2
The list continues...In Part 2 of 100 Things Grown Men Gotta Stop Doing, we get back into the uncomfortable conversations, the jokes, and the moments where we have to look at ourselves and ask:"Bro... what are we doing?"From awkward workplace interactions, risking your life for Pokémon Go, hiding emotions from your woman, giving advice without supporting the journey, lying about your age and money
The City Is Smiling Again ( Summer 26’)
There are moments when it feels like everything is falling apart.Then there are seasons when everything starts falling into place.This episode is a celebration of one of those seasons.We talk about the New York Knicks bringing a championship back to the city, Jalen Brunson's rise as the new face of New York basketball, the New York Liberty continuing their championship standard with another Commis
Streamer University , changed the game .
What happens when a creator stops chasing moments and starts creating opportunities for other people?In this episode of Respect Me Once The Dust Settles, we talk about Kai Cenat's evolution from one of the biggest streamers in the world into something bigger: a creator building culture, community, and opportunities for the next generation.We break down Streamer University and why this moment repre
Lo life crew .
I recently had a debate about fashion with someone from atlanta. He said to me Atlanta’s “ white boy “ swag , or “preppy” boy swag should be credited for why Ralph Lauren is Ralph Lauren. I had to remind him of who Ralph Rueben Lifshitz was , and how he’s a Bronx legend. I then mentioned the lo life crew , and that same Friday night lo life crew was being depicted in Raising Kanan The pod episode
106th & Park.
Before algorithms decided what we watched, before every moment became a clip, before music became something we consumed in seconds...there was a time when culture had a destination.In this episode, I take a trip back to the era of 106th & Park, BET, MTV, music videos, and the moments that shaped a generation.We talk about a time when artists didn't just drop songs — they created experiences. W
The Food Is Killing Us .
We talk about food every day, but how often do we actually question what we're putting into our bodies?In this episode, I dive into America's complicated relationship with food: oversized portions, convenience culture, ultra-processed foods, changing food systems, and why so many of us have normalized feeling tired, sluggish, and disconnected from our health.This isn't about fear or pretending the
90s Fine Essentials .
What does it actually mean when someone says, "She 90s fine"?This episode isn't about ranking women or comparing generations. It's about the qualities that made certain women feel timeless. I reflect on the quiet confidence, grace, intelligence, mystery, femininity, style, and presence that defined an era through women like Nia Long, Clair Huxtable, Regina King, Sanaa Lathan, Taraji P. Henson, and
100 things us men have to stop doing .
Fellas... relax.This episode is comedy.Welcome to Part 1 of 100 Things Us Men Have to Stop Doing, where I call out some of the funniest, most random, and most unnecessary habits we've somehow normalized as men. From showing up to the cookout with hot dogs, to arguing about Drake for an hour, to having purple LED lights in your apartment, nothing is safe.Some of these are jokes. Some have a little
We are in a sitcom drought.
This episode starts with a casual conversation about Power, character theories, and the depth of long-form storytelling—and ends with a bigger realization about what’s missing in modern television.I break down how we went from sitcoms that felt lived-in and familiar to a landscape where comedy feels less consistent, less character-driven, and more focused on speed than longevity. I talk about show
I’m done revisiting this version of you.
Some relationships don’t end loudly—they end in repetition.In this episode, I reflect on a long-standing connection from my past and what it means to finally accept that history doesn’t always equal alignment. I talk about emotional cycles, miscommunication patterns, forgiveness, boundaries, and the moment you realize peace requires distance.This isn’t about resentment. It’s about clarity. It’s ab
Unemployment built everything.
Nine months without a job changed more than my income—it changed my entire identity.In this episode, I reflect on being laid off twice, burnout I ignored while I was still working, and what it really meant to sit in silence with myself for the first time in years. What looked like loss on the surface became a forced reset I didn’t know I needed.I talk about routine, survival mode living, faith, di
Throwing Rocks & Hiding Hands, a Caitlin Clark story
Is Caitlin Clark the WNBA savior the media claims ? Today I’m direct about the flopping , the technicals, the turnovers and narratives vs the facts - including A’ja Wilson’s dominance and the fevers performance without Clark. Once the dust settles the truth is overly clear.
The Kobe disrespect has to stop.
The more time passes, the more it bothers me.We keep quoting Kobe Bryant and Nipsey Hussle… but are we actually honoring the full weight of who they were?In this episode I break down how legends like Kobe five time champion, Mamba Mentality personified and Nipsey Hussle The man who built real ownership in Crenshaw are slowly being reduced to quick clips, slogans, and debate fodder.From the media f
Not everyone’s feelings are valid.
We live in a time where feelings are often treated like facts, and disagreement is mistaken for disrespect. In this episode, I explore a simple but uncomfortable truth: just because something feels true doesn't automatically make it true.From relationships and friendships to accountability and personal growth, we talk about the difference between reacting to a situation and understanding it. H
Name 5 DDG songs.
Name 5 DDG Songs?That's the joke the internet can't seem to let go of. In this episode, I unpack why that question says more about us than it does about DDG.After watching his journey from the YouTube grind to music, business, fatherhood, Fashion Week appearances, Netflix opportunities, and life-changing success, I've never understood why people are so quick to dismiss what they've
Your job doesn’t go with you to heaven.
We’ve been conditioned to introduce ourselves by what we do for work, but what happens when the career ends? In this episode, I unpack identity, ambition, unemployment, purpose, and why the things we spend most of our lives chasing may not be the things that matter most in the end.Hit follow , Subcribe , Comment !
I’m cancelling Dash Pass.
Somewhere along the way, convenience stopped being a tool and became a lifestyle.What started as a simple thought about cancelling DashPass turned into a bigger conversation about comfort, discipline, and the hidden cost of avoiding inconvenience. In this episode, I unpack why the things that change our lives are usually the things we resist the most. From food delivery and instant gratification t
It’s me, I’m keeping Arby’s in business.
When did we stop forming our own opinions ? In this episode, I dive into something that started as a joke about Arby’s and turned into a much bigger conversation about social media, groupthink, and the modern habit of repeating opinions we never earned. From restaurants people claim to hate but never tried, to artists whose work gets dismissed without a fair listen, I explore why experience matter
Surviving Success .
The NEW YORK KNICKS finally won a championship, but this episode is t about basketball. It’s about waiting for the moment you’ve prayed for, worked for, and dreamed about. Asking the question nobody talks about What happens when it finally arrives ? Because everybody talks about surviving failure Nobody talks about surviving success Now what ?
I woke up and I was 32 .
One day you’re planning for the future. The next, you’re looking around wondering where the time went. In this episode, I reflection on growing older, watching the world around me change, and coming to terms with the reality that life doesn’t wait for anyone. From friendships and relationships to career goals , faith , family , and missed opportunity. This conversation happens when you’re no longe
Adios.
Season Finale
Açaí By The Pool .
Poolside Thinking. Shout out Tia Mowry
Before The Pod.
Unsure of when I recorded this . Enjoy
I’m not your dad .
Argue with your pops Ladies I love you , but enough is enough.
Higher Learning .
I took an edible and talked myself through my own procrastination.
The First Agreement .
I’ve been reading
My Inner Child NEEDs to die
For real , it does .
New York Vs Everybody.
Let’s get into it , let’s have the argument
Residuals.
Did we build it up ?
Love & Basketball.
In another world .
The Math Don’t Math Sometimes.
Make sense of it
Anxiety.
Been through the ringer .
Sins of a father.
What’s your relationship with your father like ?
X-MEN.
Exercising my childhood thoughts
Happy Meal Perspectives.
The world we live in is incredibly microwaveable. I hate to admit it ? But there’s a huge lack in integrity and quality. We’ve gone from quality to happy meals
Freedom is Expen$ive.
At what cost .
Bernie Mac.
The legend .
Grieving Grandma.
Grieving you still . Searching for you in every woman’s eyes
The Left Turn.
Final of the trilogy
The Middle.
Part 2
The Right Turn.
What if I went this way ?
Benjamin Button
What if you lived your life in reverse ?
I didnt see it then.
Perspective is everything
I’m a Hater.
We all be hatin’
1999
For Ms Leslie Ashe . And my brother
A Su Tiempo
pink drink, coconut milk, light ice, no strawberries, 3 pumps of vanillaYou told me this order just one time , years ago. One of my biggest regrets is not being able to trust chemistry organically built with you over time. We should have went to Paris , in fact I should have married you Because today you’re someone else’s wife … and I’m happy for you This episode is for everyone afraid to seize th
Access Has A Price.
What does it cost you to allow someone in ?
I Outgrew The Argument.
When is it ever worth the argument ?
I Myself & Me .
We’re back in the swing of things.
Taking The Stairs.
This episode I talk about strength that isn’t posted. Willpower that’s built in silence, and what it looks like to stop racing against a timeline. Discipline, faith and small wins that matter more than applause, and choosing clarity over shortcuts. If you’ve been feeling behind , unseen or unsure, I got you, this is for you.
Season’s End, New Beginning.
I’ll be back next year During my downtime I’ll be going back through the episodes that have terrible audio quality and re recording , re mastering. Expect spontaneous notifications when those episodes are re recorded and uploaded Hit follow , comment , let’s start adding onto our community. Encourage others to join the “members” Community is key 🔑 Thank you
GMO
This episode is about bullshit food, bullshit music, and noticing the drop-off in quality everywhere you look. Navigating a world where everything feels half-assed. I talk about the what ifs what if McDonald’s brought back Chicken Selects and got rid of those rubbery tenders? What if Domino’s went back to the old formula? Remembering a time when you didn’t have to question ingredients, read labels
God Is Good.
This episode is vulnerable as well. I talk about my prayers , my dreams , wrestling with guilt and realizing God understands. I open up about thinking that it was me that was going to die prior to my grandmothers passing , I speak on family , understanding and the prayers I carry for my parents.
Love Everyone, Trust Nobody.
Calm, clear, and grounded but carrying the quiet storms I’ve wrestled with for years. I love with a full heart, yet trust almost no one. I unravel the cycle of expecting the worst, whispering hopes for the best, and bracing for every fallout before it even arrives.I speak on the guilt of watching people struggle, the weight of the savior complex, and the way I’ve chased burnout just to outrun the
The Job Market is GARBAGE. Pt2
A continuation of the prior episode, further clarification of my perspective and a little hope.
The job market is GARBAGE Pt.1
The job market is GARBAGE. America is not playing fair and I’m done pretending that it is. In this episode I talk about how it feels to give your all, outperform expectation, and still get disrespected. •Being promised raises that never come •Being told you’re “valuable” while being treated like you’re disposable •Getting hit with third party recruiters •Fake Job Listings•”RockStar” job postsIf yo
I Messed Up , I was Wrong.
Publicly , I’d like to apologize to you. I’ve been through a lot, things we may never talk about, things we can discuss when the timing is right. Just know, i understand that I mishandled you but i was also living my truth. I needed peace and I got exactly what I asked for. This episode we discuss this, my goals shifting after a friend of mine challenged my thinking, family and where I am today. C
Inspired & Warned: Diddy’s Reckoning Pt.2
Continuation of my thoughts from last episode , a further breakdown. Be sure to comment , follow , share.
Inspired & Warned: Diddy’s Reckoning
After watching ‘The Diddy Reckoning,’ I found myself inspired by his ambition and hustle but I also saw the mistakes and flaws that made him human. In this episode, I reflect on identifying with the good within the monster, but dive even deeper into human error , faith and an ultimatum we all face.
Ohana Means Family .
I talk about how I’m feeling post Spotify recognition. I sort through an epiphany I had in realtime as well and a conversation with my pops that triggered another epiphany. Enjoy
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