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Speak Honest Podcast: Real Talk on Relationships, Attachment Styles & the Work of Healing Childhood Trauma
This podcast explores attachment styles, emotional healing, and communication strategies for building secure relationships. Hosted by a relationship coach and TEDx speaker, it offers insights into trauma recovery and creating deeper connections. Each episode provides practical advice for breaking free from unhealthy patterns and fostering fulfilling partnerships.
Episodes
141. Shutting Down, Saying "I'm Fine," and Needing Space | The Avoidant Attachment Communication Pattern
Why does "I'm fine" slip out right when someone you love is trying to get close?In this episode of the Speak Honest Podcast, Jenn Noble continues her October series on how each attachment stance shows up in communication, and this week she turns the spotlight on avoidant attachment. She walks through the three ways an avoidant nervous system protects itself in conversation, starting
140. Over-Apologizing, People Pleasing, and Swallowing Your Needs | The Anxious Attachment Communication Pattern
Have you ever sent "ok cool" when nothing about it felt cool?In this episode of the Speak Honest Podcast, Jenn Noble kicks off a special October series covering all four attachment stances and how each one shows up in the way we communicate, starting with anxious attachment. She draws on John Bowlby's idea of attachment as an alarm system and Sue Johnson's pursue and withdraw d
139. Why Do I Keep Sabotaging My Relationships? Anxious Attachment and the Trauma We Never Named | My Conversation with Stacey Uhrig
Ever watched your partner chat with someone else at a party and felt your whole body scream "he's going to leave me"?In this episode of the Speak Honest Podcast, Jenn Noble sits down with Stacey Uhrig, certified trauma care practitioner and founder of Flip Your Mindset, to get to the roots of the relationship patterns that leave smart women asking "why did I do that again?"
138. How to Talk to an Avoidant Partner Who Closes Off (What Warmth Might Do)
What if the way you show up in the room shapes how open your avoidant partner can be?In this episode of the Speak Honest Podcast, Jenn Noble breaks down a 2020 study on how verbal and nonverbal affection land with partners who score higher in attachment avoidance. Jenn walks through what the researchers watched for, including eye contact, smiles, and the glow of someone who loves telling a love st
137. The Traitor Within: How Childhood Wounds Keep You Stuck in Toxic Relationships | My Conversation with Jessica Anne Pressler, LCSW
Why do smart, self-aware women keep going back to relationships that hurt them?In this episode of the Speak Honest Podcast, Jenn Noble sits down with Jessica Anne Pressler, a Columbia-trained psychotherapist, licensed clinical social worker, and grief counselor with over four decades of experience helping people heal from trauma and destructive relationship patterns. Jessica introduces her concept
136. The Trash Pizza Effect: How Your Attachment Style Makes You Accept Less Than You Deserve in Relationships
Why do you keep accepting behavior you know you don't deserve?In this episode of the Speak Honest Podcast, Jenn Noble breaks down the concept of "trash pizza," the idea that when we aren't meeting our own needs, we will accept almost anything from a partner just to avoid feeling that emptiness. Jenn explains how childhood experiences teach us that our needs are too much or not
135. Is It Okay for Him to Be Friends With His Ex? | Anxious Attachment Coaching Call with Kaitlin
Is it okay for your partner to be friends with an ex — or is anxious attachment the one really asking the question?In this episode of the Speak Honest Podcast, Jenn Noble sits down for a live, unscripted coaching call with her client Kaitlin, who came in wondering whether her partner should be allowed to stay friends with his ex. As the conversation unfolds, it becomes clear the real issue has lit
134. Dance of Attachment: Secure Attachment and the Smooth Waltz
What if the secret to a calm, steady relationship has nothing to do with never struggling at all?In this episode of the Speak Honest Podcast, Jenn Noble closes out her month long series on the four Attachment Stances by finally landing on the one every other stance has been quietly pointing toward: Secure Attachment, which she calls the Smooth Waltz. Jenn breaks down why security isn't the ab
133. Dance of Attachment: Disorganized Attachment and the Pendulum Swing Dance
Ever felt like you're two completely different people in love, desperately chasing someone one day and drafting the goodbye text the next?In this episode of the Speak Honest Podcast, Jenn Noble breaks down Disorganized Attachment, the third stance in the August series on the four Attachment Stances. She calls it the Pendulum Swing Dance because it holds both the fear of abandonment and the fe
132. Dance of Attachment: Avoidant Attachment and the Solo Tango
Why does pulling away feel safer than staying close, even when the relationship is good?In this episode of the Speak Honest Podcast, Jenn Noble continues the August series on the four Attachment Stances by exploring Avoidant Attachment, what she calls the Solo Tango. Jenn breaks down the signature moves of this pattern, from strategic self sufficiency to the subtle boundary expansion that happens
131. Dance of Attachment: Anxious Attachment and the Salsa of Uncertainty
What if the person who "loves too much" is actually the one who learned to read a room better than anyone else in it?In this episode of the Speak Honest Podcast, Jenn Noble kicks off a four part series on the Attachment Stances with Anxious Attachment, the pattern she calls the Salsa of Uncertainty. Jenn breaks down why a cancelled plan can send your whole week spiraling, where the hyper
130. Why Knowing Your Attachment Style Isn't the Same as Healing It
Why does understanding your attachment style intellectually still leave you repeating the same relationship patterns?In this episode of the Speak Honest Podcast, Jenn Noble gets honest about a gap so many of us know intimately: you've read the books, you can name your attachment style without blinking, and you still find yourself in the exact same spiral you swore you'd outgrown. Jenn br
129. Why Summer Is Secretly Triggering Your Anxious Attachment (Vacation Panic, Golf Trips, and the Fix)
Have you ever picked a fight the night before a wedding, spiraled halfway through a vacation you were excited for, or checked his location three times during his golf weekend and hated yourself for it?In this episode of the Speak Honest Podcast, Jenn Noble unpacks why summer is quietly one of the most activating seasons for anyone with attachment wounds. Between vacations that remove every ounce o
128. Why Your Avoidant Partner Acts Like He Doesn't Care (He Does, His Body Just Shut Down)
Have you ever poured your heart out to your partner, only to watch his face go completely blank?In this episode of the Speak Honest Podcast, Jenn Noble answers the question so many women are typing into their search bars at 2 AM: why does my avoidant partner act like he doesn't care? Jenn breaks down what deactivation actually is, why his shutdown is a protection response rather than a reject
127. Is a Relationship Even Worth It? | Coaching Call with Courtney (Part 5)
Do You Ever Wonder If You Even Want a Relationship?In this episode of the Speak Honest Podcast, Jenn Noble sits down with Courtney for another live coaching call, and this one starts with a question so many women carry quietly: do I even want a relationship? What starts as a simple yes or no unravels into a real look at dating burnout, protective parts, and a belief that had been running underneat
126. Stop Calling Your Needs "Too Much" — Here's What They Really Are
What does it actually mean to have an attachment need, and why do so many women spend years mistaking theirs for a personality flaw?In this episode of the Speak Honest Podcast, Jenn Noble goes deeper on one of the most requested topics from her listeners: attachment needs. Building on the conversation from last week, Jenn pulls back the curtain on what your nervous system is genuinely craving unde
125. Why Being Wanted Doesn't Always Feel Safe | Coaching Call with Courtney (Part 4)
What does it mean to want connection and be terrified of it at the same time?In this episode of the Speak Honest Podcast, Jenn Noble is back with Courtney for Part 4 of their live coaching series, and this one touches something most women feel but rarely have words for. Courtney arrives with a question that hits deep: why do we want to be wanted, but then not feel safe when someone actually wants
124. The Difference Between Real Standards and Protective Ones | Coaching Call with Courtney (Part 3)
Are your standards protecting your heart or protecting you from ever actually having to open it?In this episode of the Speak Honest Podcast, Jenn Noble sits down with returning guest Courtney for their third live coaching session together, and this one goes deep. They explore the difference between real standards and protective ones. The kind that feel like discernment but are quietly keeping love
123. From Snake Venom to Shared Stories: The Journey Behind the Impact Tour | My Conversation With Hal Eisenberg
What does it actually take to stop surviving and start truly living?In this episode of the Speak Honest Podcast, Jenn Noble sits down with award-winning social worker, educator, author, and founder of Eisenberg Leadership Solutions, Hal Eisenberg, for one of the most raw, real, and genuinely moving conversations the show has ever had. Hal shares the story behind his bestselling book Whispers in th
122. When a Friend Says "We Need to Talk" | Coaching Call with Courtney (Part 2)
What do you do when a friend says "we need to talk" and every part of you wants to run?In this episode of the Speak Honest Podcast, Jenn Noble is back with Courtney for Part 2 of their live coaching series, and this one gets real. Courtney has a friendship confrontation on the horizon with someone who has historically made her feel like everything is her fault, and she is terrified. Jenn
121. Is There a Magic Word for Parts Work? | Coaching Call with Courtney (Part 1)
Is there a magic word that makes all your hidden parts just... show up?In this episode of the Speak Honest Podcast, Jenn Noble takes listeners inside a live, unscripted coaching session with Courtney, a woman who came in asking exactly that question. Together, they move through the real, non-linear process of parts work and Internal Family Systems (IFS), exploring what it looks like to find the pa
120. Listener Questions: The Attachment Questions Women Ask Me Most
Are you tired of trying to decode his behavior when the real answers might actually be about you?In this episode of Speak Honest, Jenn Noble answers the attachment questions women ask her most inside the Speak Honest Community. These are the real ones. The ones rooted in overthinking at 2am, emotional shutdown after a beautiful weekend, and that desperate need to just be understood by someone you
119. You Can See Your Pattern Coming... So Why Can't You Stop It? | Coaching Call with Cordelia (Part 6)
What if you could see your pattern coming from a mile away... and still couldn't stop it?In this episode of the Speak Honest Podcast, Jenn Noble wraps up the sixth and final recorded session with Cordelia, and it is one of the most powerful conversations in the series. Cordelia shows up on a hard week, feeling frustrated and heavy, and instead of skipping past it, Jenn takes her straight into
118. Secure Attachment: What No One Tells You About Feeling Secure in Love | Somatic Attachment Series Part 4
What if feeling secure in love doesn't mean you stop feeling anxious... it just means you stop letting anxiety make your decisions? In this episode of the Speak Honest Podcast, Jenn Noble wraps up the Somatic Attachment Series by taking you inside what a secure nervous system actually feels like in real life. Not the Pinterest version where everything is calm and easy, but the real, honest, i
117. Disorganized Attachment: Why Your Nervous System Makes You Push and Pull in Relationships | Somatic Attachment Series Part 3
Have you ever felt completely pulled toward someone, only to find yourself wanting to escape the moment they get close? In this episode of Speak Honest, Jenn Noble is diving into Part 3 of the Somatic Attachment Series and getting into the part that nobody talks about enough... disorganized attachment. Jenn walks you through what is actually happening in your body during that push and pull, why it
116. Avoidant Attachment: The Subtle Shutdown Your Nervous System Creates | Somatic Attachment Series Part 2
Have you ever met someone great, felt genuinely interested, and then suddenly... something just felt off? In this episode of Speak Honest, Jenn Noble takes you inside the somatic experience of avoidant attachment and what is actually happening in your body when you start to pull away. This is Part 2 of the Somatic Attachment Series, and Jenn slows everything down so you can finally understand why
115. Anxious Attachment: Why You Spiral Waiting for a Text Back | Somatic Attachment Series Part 1
Have you ever sent a text, felt good about it… and then spiraled after they didn’t respond? In this episode, I break down what’s actually happening in those moments and why it has nothing to do with you being “too much” or overthinking. We’re going deeper than your thoughts and into your nervous system, where anxious attachment really begins. I walk you through how to recognize what anxious attac
114. The Truth About Self-Sabotage (It’s Not What You Think)
Why do you keep doing the exact things you told yourself you wouldn’t… even when you know better?In this episode, we’re breaking down the truth about self-sabotage and why it’s not actually about discipline, willpower, or “being better.” I’m walking you through what’s really happening in those everyday moments… like when you say you’re going to go to the gym, start your routine, or get off your ph
113. You Know It’s Not About You… So Why Does It Still Hurt? | Coaching Call with Cordelia (Part 5)
Have you ever told yourself “I know this isn’t about me”… but still felt completely hurt, triggered, or thrown off by it anyway?In this fifth coaching session with Cordelia, we get into what it actually looks like to be in the middle of healing when real life hits. When something happens that brings up old feelings, unmet needs, and that familiar frustration of “why is this still affecting me?” We
112. Why You Keep Choosing the Wrong Man (Even When You Know Better)
Ever wondered why you keep choosing the same kind of man… even when you know you deserve better?In this episode, I’m breaking down what’s really going on beneath the surface. Because this isn’t about a lack of awareness… it’s about the emotional patterns your nervous system learned a long time ago. We’ll talk about why attachment wounds can feel like facts, how they quietly shape who you’re attrac
111. What the Hell Is Attachment Theory? Sneak Peek from Dance of Attachment
What the hell is attachment theory anyway… and why does it explain so much about the way we love?In this special episode of Speak Honest, I’m giving you a sneak peek inside my bestselling book Dance of Attachment. Because I’m heading into the studio to record the audiobook, I wanted to share a piece of the book with you and walk you through the foundation of attachment theory. We explore how the e
110. The Luck You Make 🍀: How Secure Women Create Their Own Momentum
What if the “luck” you see in other people’s lives isn’t luck at all? In this episode of Speak Honest, I’m unpacking the belief that some people are just luckier than others. Whether it’s relationships, opportunities, or the way things seem to fall into place, it can be easy to feel like life keeps working for everyone else but you. But what if the real difference isn’t luck, it’s momentum? In thi
109. The Real Reason He Pulls Away After It Gets Good
Why does he pull away right when everything starts feeling good?In this episode, I’m breaking down what is actually happening underneath that sudden shift. When he goes from consistent and connected to distant and “busy,” it can feel confusing, personal, and intense. But what if the intensity you feel is not chemistry, and what if his pullback is not about your worth?I walk you through the nervous
108. Attachment in Friendships: Why It Hurts So Bad to Be the Friend Who Always Reaches Out | Coaching Call with Cordelia (Part 4)
Why do adult friendships feel so much harder than they used to… and why does it still sting when you’re the one who keeps reaching out?In this fourth live coaching session with Cordelia, we unpack the hidden attachment wound behind adult friendship struggles. We talk about the longing for a core group, the ache of feeling left out, and the subtle ways we dismiss our own strengths when connection d
107. Why You Overreact When He Breathes the Wrong Way
Why do the smallest things feel so big in your body?In this episode, I break down what is actually happening when he says “relax” and you feel your jaw tighten, when the dishes are still in the sink and your chest gets hot, or when you have to ask again and something inside you snaps. We’re not talking about betrayal or huge fights. We’re talking about the everyday moments that somehow turn into e
106. Love Me Better: Why Wanting More Feels Risky
Why does wanting more love feel so risky, even when connection is the thing you want most?In this episode of Speak Honest, I explore what happens inside us when desire, asking, and receiving love start to feel loaded, especially around Valentine’s Day. We slow things down and look at why love doesn’t always land, even when it’s offered, and what begins to shift when you stop overriding yourself in
105. When the World Feels Unsafe: How Collective Grief Shows Up in Your Body and Relationships
Have you been feeling heavier, more reactive, or emotionally exhausted lately, even though nothing specific seems “wrong”? In this episode of Speak Honest, I’m unpacking how collective grief, political unrest, and ongoing exposure to distressing news impact your nervous system and quietly spill into your closest relationships. We’ll talk about why your body might feel on edge before your mind catc
104. How to Get Clear on What You Want | Coaching Call with Cordelia (Part 3)
What if the reason you feel stuck isn’t because you don’t know what to do… but because you’re afraid of choosing the wrong thing? In this coaching call with Cordelia, we talk about what it really looks like to get clear on what you want when fear, uncertainty, and old patterns keep pulling you in different directions. We unpack job search anxiety, shiny object syndrome, and the very real fear of e
103. Should I Tell My Avoidant Partner About Attachment Theory?
Should you tell your avoidant partner about attachment theory, or is that actually making things harder?In this episode of Speak Honest, I unpack the very real urge to explain, teach, and hope that if your partner just understood attachment theory, everything would finally feel safer. We talk about why that urge so often comes from an activated nervous system, how timing and safety matter more tha
102. Is This My Intuition or My Attachment Style Acting Up?
Is this your intuition… or is your anxious attachment getting activated?In this episode of Speak Honest, I answer a listener question that so many self-aware women struggle with. You’ve done the work. You usually feel secure. And yet, in a new connection, something feels unsettled. Not dramatic. Not chaotic. Just off. Together, we break down the difference between intuition and anxious attachment,
101. When Being Easygoing Gets You Taken Advantage Of | Coaching Call with Cordelia (Part 2)
Do you ever feel like being easygoing somehow turns into being overlooked, dismissed, or taken advantage of?In this episode, I sit down with Cordelia for our second coaching session and we unpack a pattern so many people live inside of without realizing it. When you’re flexible, capable, and willing to help, those traits can quietly become the reason you end up carrying more than your share, quest
100. How Speak Honest Became 100 Honest Conversations
Ever wonder how something meaningful actually gets built when you don’t rush it?In this special New Year’s Eve episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on the backstory of the Speak Honest Podcast and how it grew into 100 honest conversations about attachment, relationships, nervous system healing, and real change. From an accidental name in a college group project to a steady space for women who are
99. The Real Reason You Talk Too Much When You’re Nervous
Do you ever walk away from a conversation feeling exhausted because you said way more than you meant to?In this episode of Speak Honest, we unpack the real reason you talk too much when you’re nervous. This isn’t about learning to “say less” or fixing your communication. It’s about understanding the story underneath your urge to overexplain, the fear of being misunderstood, and the quiet self judg
98. How Secure Attachment Is Built in Early Childhood | My Conversation with Devon Kuntzman
What happens after you lose control as a parent… and why that moment matters more than you think? In this episode, I sit down with parenting expert and ICF-Certified coach Devon Kuntzman for an honest conversation about rupture, repair, and how secure attachment is actually built. We explore why losing control doesn’t damage attachment, how repair calms the nervous system, and what children truly
97. Why Trauma Dumping Happens And How To Stop It When You Really Like Someone
Have you ever walked away from a conversation thinking… why did I say all of that? In this episode we talk about why trauma dumping happens, why insecure attachment makes us overshare too fast, and what you can do to slow it down so you feel more grounded, confident, and connected in your relationships.You might want to listen if: • You overshare when you feel anxious or want someone to like you •
96. Why You Get Activated by “Small Things” | Coaching Call with Cordelia (Part 1)
Have you ever wondered why the tiniest thing can send your whole body into a spiral even when nothing big is actually happening? In this coaching call with Cordelia, we dig into what is really happening underneath those overwhelming somatic responses and why your nervous system reacts long before your logical mind can catch up. I walk Cordelia through understanding the deeper roots of activation,
95. Validate Before You Vent: The Holiday Survival Guide for Sensitive Souls (Part 2)
Ever find yourself replaying an argument and wishing you’d handled it differently? In this episode, I’m walking you through two of the most powerful steps in my communication framework, validation and collaboration, so you can turn conflict into connection this holiday season. We’ll talk about what validation actually means (hint: it’s not agreeing with someone), how to create repair after a ruptu
94. Raise Before You React: The Holiday Survival Guide for Sensitive Souls (Part 1)
Ever walk into a holiday gathering already bracing for impact? You know that moment when your stomach tightens, your jaw clenches, and you can feel yourself spiraling before the turkey’s even carved? In this episode, I’m walking you through my 5 step RAISE Method, the same one I teach in my Dance of Attachment book, to help you regulate your nervous system before you react. Think of it as your pre
93. Radical Acceptance and Chronic Pain: How to Stop Fighting Your Body
Have you ever felt like your body is working against you no matter how hard you try to heal?In this episode, I’m diving deep into what it really means to live with chronic pain. We’ll talk about what’s going on in your nervous system when your body refuses to relax, why the pain isn’t your fault, and how to start creating a sense of safety from the inside out. You’ll hear how radical acceptance ca
92. Tired of Being Tired? Here’s How to Feel Inspired Again | My Conversation with Dr. Deonne
Ever feel like you’re doing everything right but still running on empty? In this episode, I sit down with transformational coach and author Dr. Deonne Johnson to talk about what happens when you’ve hit emotional burnout and how to find your spark again. We dig into her powerful “Bloomprint” framework, what it really means to take off the Wonder Woman cape, and how to reconnect with yourself (and y
91. Authentic Expression Over Perfection | My conversation with Ellie Laliberté
What if the only thing standing between you and your most authentic work is the pressure to sound perfect?In this heartfelt conversation with award-winning author and book coach Ellie Laliberté, we dive into what it really means to create from your truth. We talk about witness consciousness, dropping self-doubt, and letting your writing (or your healing) be messy, human, and alive. Ellie shares ho
90. The Ripple Effect of Owning Your Story | My Conversation with Samantha Moonsammy
Have you ever felt like there’s a story inside you that’s meant to change lives but you just don’t know where to start? In this episode, I sit down with my publisher, Samantha Moonsammy, co-founder of Lucky Book Publishing, to talk about what happens when you finally decide to own your story. We dive into how sharing your truth can create ripple effects far beyond what you can imagine, why so many
89. From Dancing on the TEDx Stage to a Bestseller: The Story of Dance of Attachment
What if your pain became your purpose? In this episode, I’m sharing the behind-the-scenes story of how Dance of Attachment came to life. From standing on the TEDx stage in 2024, heart pounding as I told the truth about love, to watching that same message turn into a #1 bestselling book, this is the journey that changed everything. I talk about the heartbreak that sparked it all, the healing that f
88. How to Thrive and Shine in Love and Life | My Conversation with Julee Sung
What if the thing you’re chasing finally shows up the moment you stop trying to control it? In this week’s episode, I sit down with bestselling author and coach Julee Sung, whose book Thrive and Shine tells the story of rebuilding your life and self-worth after burnout. We talk about what happens when you finally let go of the timeline, stop leading with ego, and start trusting that the universe k
87. Healing Relationships, One Poem at a Time | My Conversation with Navreet Pabla
Have you ever wished your heart could put words to the things you’ve never been able to say out loud?In this conversation with bestselling author Navreet Pabla, we explore her book If My Heart Could Talk—a stunning collection of poems that speaks to the places in us that long for healing, honesty, and coming home. From mother and father wounds to inner child repair, we talk about how poetry can op
86. The 3 Reasons You Need Community to Heal Your Attachment Style
Are you trying to heal your attachment style all on your own? In this episode, I’m breaking down why community is the missing piece so many women overlook when it comes to growing, healing, and building healthier relationships. I’ll share the three biggest reasons community matters, plus give you a peek into how our Speak Honest Membership helps women feel safe, supported, and seen every single we
85. What Secure Attachment Really Feels Like (It’s Not What You Think)
Think secure attachment means you're calm, confident, and unbothered all the time? Think again. In this powerful coaching call, I sit down with Steph (one of our Relationship Reboot members) to unpack one of the most misunderstood parts of the healing journey: what secure attachment actually feels like. Spoiler alert: it’s not always comfortable. In fact, sometimes it means saying no when yo
84. Breaking Toxic Dating Patterns | My Conversation with Coach Cass
Ever wondered why love feels so hard even though you’re smart, successful, and doing all the “right” things?In this episode, I sit down with the incredible Coach Cass to unpack the hidden patterns that keep women stuck in cycles of heartbreak, situationships, and almost-relationships. We talk chemistry vs. compatibility, why “casual equals casualties,” and how to create space for the love you actu
83. Stop Shoulding Your Grief | My Conversation with Teri Kingston
Have you ever felt like grief should have an expiration date? In this heartfelt conversation with grief educator and TEDx coach Teri Kingston, we explore the messy, tender, and very human journey of loss. From anticipatory grief to sudden loss, Teri opens up about her own story and shares practical insights on how to support yourself and others without falling into the trap of “shoulding.” Togethe
82. The Body Speaks: Healing Chronic Pain Through Emotional Release | My Conversation with Nyle Biondi
Have you ever wondered if your chronic pain could actually be your body trying to tell you something?In this episode, I sit down with licensed therapist Nyle Biondi to explore the powerful connection between trauma, attachment wounds, and chronic pain. We talk about how the nervous system stores stress, why pain isn’t always “just physical,” and what emotional release has to do with finding real r
81. Why He Never Listens (and What to Do About It) | Coaching Call with Christine
Do you ever feel like no matter how much you talk, he just doesn’t hear you? In this episode of Speak Honest, I coach Christine through a struggle so many of us know too well: needing to feel heard in a relationship but ending up frustrated, blowing up, and then hating ourselves for it. Together, we unpack where those reactions really come from, why boundaries feel so hard to set in the moment, an
80. From Reactive to Proactive: The Boundary-Setting Revolution
Why do boundaries always seem to come after the meltdown? In this episode, we’re diving into what it really means to set boundaries before you're running on empty. We’ll explore the difference between reactive and proactive boundary-setting, how to recognize the early signs that you’re stretched too thin, and how to speak up without over-explaining or shutting people out. If you've ever
79. What to Do When Someone in Your Life Feels Beyond Difficult | My Conversation with Dr. Jessie Stern & Rachel Samson
Ever feel like no matter how calm you stay, certain people still push every button you have? In this episode, I’m joined by the brilliant co-authors of Beyond Difficult, Dr. Jessie Stern and Rachel Samson. Together, we unpack why some people feel so hard to deal with and what’s actually going on under the surface of their behavior. From the science of attachment and temperament to the misunderstoo
78. What Your Shame Spiral Is Trying to Tell You
Ever opened up to someone… and then immediately regretted it? You’re lying in bed, replaying everything you said, wondering if you were too much, said too much, or scared them off. That shame spiral? It’s not just in your head. In this episode, I’m breaking down exactly why we feel so gross after being vulnerable—and how to stop letting that shame run the show. We’ll talk nervous system reactions,
77. Parenting Through Divorce Without Losing Your Mind (or Your Identity) My Conversation with Vivian Meraki
Can you really be a great mom without losing yourself in the process? In this heart-opening episode, I sit down with parenting expert and somatic coach Vivian Meraki to talk about what it really means to parent through divorce. We unpack the pressure to be the “perfect mom,” the guilt that often follows us after a breakup, and how somatic awareness can help us show up for our kids and ourselves. W
76. Are You Settling or Just Scared? 5 Truth Bombs About Secure Relationships
Is it love... or are you just afraid to start over? In this episode of Speak Honest, I'm answering the big, messy questions so many women ask themselves late at night. Am I settling? Is he really the one? What does secure love even feel like? I’m breaking it all down in a way that’s honest, compassionate, and actually helpful. Whether you're dating someone new or deep into a long-term re
75. When Avoidant Attachment Gets in the Way of a Good Relationship | Coaching Call with Sheryl
Ever feel like you're finally healing... and then suddenly, you shut down or pull away from someone who’s actually good for you? In this vulnerable and eye-opening coaching call, I sit down with my client Sheryl to unpack what happens when avoidant attachment patterns sneak back in — especially in relationships that feel secure, healthy, or maybe even soulmate-level. We explore the push-pull
74. Why You Can’t Let Go: Listener Questions About Love & Attachment
Ever feel like your attraction to someone might be more pain than passion?In this Q&A episode, I’m answering listener-submitted questions that get to the heart of what so many of us struggle with in relationships. We’re diving into the difference between anxious attachment and intuition (spoiler alert: your intuition doesn’t panic-text six times in a row), unpacking what activating and deactiv
73. The Truth About Breakups No One Wants to Tell You... My Conversation with Lucy Price
Ever felt like you should be over your ex by now, but you can’t stop thinking about them? Wondered why you keep checking their stories, or worse, found yourself spiraling into a breakup rabbit hole of “what ifs” and “maybes”? In this honest and raw conversation, I sit down with breakup recovery coach Lucy Price to pull back the curtain on what really happens when we’re stuck in the heartbreak loop
72. When Pride Became Personal: My Story as a Mom and an Ally
What if exploring your identity wasn’t just allowed, it was celebrated? In this episode, I’m opening up about my own pride story, not as a coach, but as a mom. I share what it’s been like raising my trans son, from his first coming out moment at nine years old to the joy of watching him grow into who he is today. You’ll hear how learning about pronouns rewired my brain, why phases aren’t something
71. I Think I Want Out: How to Navigate a Marriage at the Breaking Point | My Conversation with Dr. Becky Whetstone
Ever felt like you can’t tell if you’re ready to leave or just desperate for something to change? In this raw and revealing conversation, I sit down with Dr. Becky Whetstone, also known as the “Marriage Crisis Manager,” to talk about what really happens when a relationship hits the point of "I think I want out." Whether you're in the middle of a marriage meltdown or quietly question
70. Heal in the Mess: My Dentist Chair Breakdown and What It Taught Me
Can a panic attack at the dentist actually teach you how far you've come in your healing journey? In this raw and deeply honest episode, I share the unexpected emotional storm that hit me during a routine dental appointment and why it left me feeling more empowered, not less. From childhood dental trauma to adult self-advocacy, this story isn't just about cavities... it's about how
69. Why Do I Always Feel Like It’s My Fault? | Coaching Call with Lisa
Ever feel like you’re always the one being blamed? Whether it’s your partner, a friend, or even your family, you keep ending up in situations where you’re walking on eggshells, questioning your every move, and wondering, “Am I the problem?”In this raw and emotional coaching call with my client Lisa, we dig into the sneaky patterns that keep women stuck in blame cycles. You’ll hear how childhood wo
68. Fixing the Fight Before It Starts: The SHIT Method That Actually Works
Ever walked away from a conversation thinking, “How did that go so wrong so fast?” In this episode, I’m breaking down my go-to tool for untangling communication breakdowns before they blow up into full-on fights. It’s called the SHIT Method—Said, Heard, Intention, Try Again—and no, it’s not just a cheeky name. This is the exact process I teach my clients to slow down the spiral, make sense of what
67. The Hidden Link Between People Pleasing and Attachment Styles | My Conversation with People Pleasing Expert Cora Rennie
***SIGN UP FOR THE PEOPLE PLEASING SUMMIT***Have you ever wondered why you say yes when you mean no or why setting boundaries feels downright terrifying, even with people you love?In this deeply honest and powerful episode, I sit down with Cora Rennie, a craniosacral therapist and recovering people pleaser, to unpack the fawning trauma response and how it shows up in our relationships. Cora opens
66. The Shadow of Shame: What Marvel's Thunderbolts Teaches About Healing
Ever feel like you’ve outgrown the pain but it still haunts you? In this unexpected (and totally unfiltered) breakdown of Marvel’s Thunderbolts, I explore how this action-packed antihero movie became a mirror for real-life healing. From scenes that had me sobbing in my seat to powerful metaphors about shame, shadow work, and inner child healing — this episode shows how even fictional superheroes c
65. This Scared Me… and I Did It Anyway (Now I’m Nominated!) My Chat with Women Podcasters Awards Founder Jennifer Henczel
**VOTE FOR SPEAK HONEST**Ever had a dream that felt way too big… and way too scary?In this episode, I sit down with Jennifer Henczel, the founder of the Women Podcasters Network and the Women Podcasters Awards, to talk about what it really means to take the leap... even when you're terrified. We talk about the accident that changed her life, how she built a global movement of women’s voices,
64. Spring Cleaning for Your Emotional Closet (and Why That Cringe Moment Still Haunts You)
Ever lay in bed replaying a moment that made you cringe… and suddenly you’re spiraling into shame? In this episode, we’re doing some serious spring cleaning — not of your closet, but of your emotional clutter. I’m walking you through the three key questions that help clear out all those small-but-heavy moments that keep piling up in your nervous system. You’ll hear a story from my own life (yes, i
63. Are You Confusing Chemistry with Chaos? With Relationship Expert Bob Grant
Do you keep falling for the same emotionally unavailable men — and calling it a “spark”? In this honest and empowering episode of Speak Honest, I sit down with relationship expert and bestselling author Bob Grant to unpack one of the most common traps women fall into: mistaking intensity for intimacy. We talk about why real love often feels unfamiliar, how to stop hiding your emotions to seem “low
62. You Said You Forgave Him... So Why Are You Still Hurting?
Ever caught yourself thinking, “Why doesn’t this feel better yet... even though we said we’re moving forward?” In this episode of Speak Honest, we’re diving deep into what it really takes to rebuild trust after a rupture and why it’s not as simple as saying “I forgive you.” I share the story of my client Maya, whose partner broke her trust financially, and how she moved from confusion and resentme
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