Anxious Attachment Solution: Taking Back Her Brain with Love Life Coach Amber Lynn
Life Coach Amber Lynn helps women understand and manage their anxious attachment style using self-coaching and life coaching tools. She shares personal experiences and practical strategies to break the cycle of anxiety and regain control over life. The podcast aims to empower listeners to soothe their anxious attachment and build healthier relationships.
Episodes
Why is Self Sabotage so easy when you have anxious attachment?
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Not getting what you want & Anxious Attachment
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Parenting and Anxious Attachment
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“The Mean Girl in Your Mind Is Running Your Life” | Anxious Attachment
In this episode, I share one of the most transformative parts of my personal growth journey: learning how to quiet the harsh inner critic—the “mean girl” in my mind. For years, this voice convinced me that perfection was the only path to safety, constantly pushing me to overwork, people-please, and abandon my true feelings in the name of protection.I break down how our brains are wired to avoid pa
Learning How to Be Okay No Matter What! | Anxious Attachment
Wait list for the Anxious Attachment Boot CampIn this episode of The Anxious Attachment Solution, Amber Lynn introduces a powerful concept that can transform how you respond to anxious attachment triggers: having your own back.Before the episode begins, Amber invites listeners to join the Free Anxious Attachment Boot Camp happening April 6–8 at 10 AM PST. This live 3-day experience will teach you
How can Anxious Attachment be helpful? Let me tell you!
Welcome to The Anxious Attachment Solution. In today’s episode, we’re exploring how to extract wisdom from your anxious attachment triggers — and how doing so helps you take your power back.We often see anxious attachment as a curse. We label ourselves broken. We replay stories about how it’s ruined relationships or made us “too much.” But what if your anxious attachment isn’t pointless pain? What
Why you can’t stop spiraling out of control, No matter what you do?| Anxious Attachment
Welcome back to The Anxious Attachment Solution.Today we’re talking about one of the biggest obstacles that keeps you from calming down when you feel completely out of control.You know logically that your reaction isn’t aligned with who you want to be. You can see yourself over-texting, over-calling, getting defensive, blaming. You know it’s not helping — and yet you can’t stop. The feelings are o
Anxious Attachment Stories & How they are freaking you out | Anxious Attachment Solution
In today’s episode, we explore how anxious attachment pulls us out of the present moment and into powerful emotional stories rooted in the past. When something in our current relationship feels uncertain—like a delayed text, a shift in mood, or a moment of conflict—our nervous system can interpret it as danger. Instead of looking at the real facts in front of us, our brain searches for familiar, f
Why Is Rejection So Hard? | The Anxious Attachment Solution
Why does rejection hurt so deeply—and why does it seem to linger longer for those of us with anxious attachment?In today’s episode of The Anxious Attachment Solution, I’m diving into why rejection feels so devastating, how our brain and nervous system respond to it, and what actually keeps us stuck in pain long after the rejection happens.This year, rejection became deeply personal for me when my
The Girl Who Just Wanted to Be Loved: An Anxious Attachment Healing Story
This episode is about connection, trust, and sharing the heart behind The Anxious Attachment Solution. When you listen, share, or join coaching, you are trusting me with your deepest fears, heartbreaks, and hopes. So today, I share my story.Growing up, I never felt like I fit in. In high school I was the “good girl,” the old soul, the teacher’s pet, the one hiding in classrooms and libraries. I wa
The Need to Be Liked & Anxious Attachment
In this episode, we explore how the deep desire to be “liked” and “accepted” can keep anxiously attached people stuck in self-abandonment, people-pleasing, and low self-worth.Wanting to be liked often shows up as:Fear of disagreement, criticism, or doing something “wrong”Staying quiet instead of sharing opinions, needs, or truthAvoiding visibility and purpose out of fear of rejectionChoosing comfo
The Inner Child Behind the Anxiety: Meet Her, Give Her What She Needs
In today’s episode, we explore how unmet childhood needs shape the beliefs and nervous system patterns that still influence our adult relationships—especially for those with anxious attachment. I break down how these early experiences create hypervigilance, people-pleasing, emotional overwhelm, and a chronic sense of needing to earn love, and how we can begin to rewire these patterns with compassi
Anxious Attachment Sabotage: How Attachment Shapes the Way You Connect
Hello — I’m Amber Lynn, host of The Anxious Attachment Solution. I help women calm their nervous systems, rewire anxious patterns, stop overthinking, and build secure habits using my Secure Method. Today we’re unpacking how anxious attachment is shaped by the beliefs we hold about love — and how those beliefs keep us stuck.Beliefs form when we repeat thoughts until they feel true. If you grew up w
How to stop the “Anxiety Spiral” in Dating & Relationships
Stop the Spiral: Rewiring the Anxious Attachment Mind💬 Episode Notes:In this week’s episode of The Anxious Attachment Solution, I’m diving into how to stop your anxiety spiral—the loop of thoughts, panic, and reactivity that keeps you stuck in your anxious attachment cycle.If you’ve ever found yourself overthinking, spiraling after a text, or needing constant reassurance, this episode will help yo
How to Communicate when Triggered
Hello and welcome to The Anxious Attachment Solution — I’m Amber Lynn. In this episode I walk you through what happens inside your brain when anxious attachment is activated, how that creates reactive patterns, and (most importantly) a simple, repeatable framework to communicate clearly so you don’t add fuel to the fire.What we coverWhy triggers turn into survival mode (fight/flight/freeze/fawn) a
Your Partner doesn't have to get on the Rollercoaster, to love you
Welcome back to The Anxious Attachment Solution. I’m your host, Life Coach Amber Lynn.In this episode, I want to expand on something I said before—you don’t need your partner to ride the emotional roller coaster with you. I want to be clear: my work is for those in relationships with partners who care, show up, and want to build something healthy with you. Never use my podcast to justify staying i
Self Soothing 101: The Importance of Self Regulation: Do this BEFORE you Text them
When your anxious attachment is triggered, your body panics and your brain spins stories like, “They’re going to leave” or “I’m not enough.” It feels real, but it’s not a real threat — it’s your nervous system asking for regulation.Self-regulation means calming your body before reacting, before texting, before spiraling. When you pause, breathe, and comfort yourself first, your brain learns that e
Why You’re Not “Too Much”: The Truth About Anxious Attachment
If you’ve ever been told you’re “too much”—too needy, too emotional, too sensitive—this episode is for you. In today’s episode, I’m breaking down the real reason you feel too much and believe it, why this belief keeps you stuck in the anxious attachment cycle, and how you can finally change it.We’ll explore how this “too much” belief shows up in dating, relationships, and everyday life—often leadi
Do I have Anxious Attachment? 10 Signs to know Part 2
Welcome to the Anxious Attachment Solution Podcast with Life Coach Amber Lynn If you’ve ever wondered “Do I really have anxious attachment?”—this series is for you. Today I’m diving into part two of 10 signs you might have anxious attachment and what you can do to break free from these patterns.✨ In this episode you’ll learn:Why anxious attachment makes you feel like you can never rest (hypervigil
Do I Have Anxious Attachment? 10 Signs to Know For Sure Part 1
This is part one of a two-part series where I share 10 signs of anxious attachment and what you can do to start creating more secure relationships.✨ In this episode, we’ll cover:The fear of abandonment—why it feels so real and how to pause before panic takes overOverthinking—why replaying conversations and “what-ifs” keeps you stuck in anxietyConstant reassurance seeking—how it sabotages trust in
From Anxious to Aware: Welcome to Anxious Attachment Solution – Your Healing Starts Here
Hello and Welcome to Anxious Attachment Solution Your Healing Starts Here. I am your host Life Coach Amber Lynn. Today I am beginning a Series on Anxious to Aware. In this series my goal is to help you build awareness around your anxious attachment so that you can heal, repair, and move forward with a new mindset and new habits.For those of you who are new to the show, welcome. I am life coach Amb
Why Is This So Hard?! Things Anxiously Attached People Struggle With"
We have to learn to simultaneously talk back to our brain to tell it to hush and listen to what the other person is saying. Recognize the feelings that start to come up.If you need time to process what was said because your emotions are too high- ask for some time to think about what they said. Questions to ask yourself“Why is what they are saying making me feel ( judged, criticized, or not good e
Yes, You REALLY Can Rewire Your Anxious Attachment!
The difference between therapy and life coaching to me is that Life Coaching helps you with your current thoughts and beliefs and helps you in a different way than therapy. Life Coaching is future focused and helps a lot with processing emotions while teaching in the moment strategy for what to do when your anxious attachment is triggered. I do believe Life Coaches who have experienced Anxious Att
Stop Seeking Validation from other People: Obstacle 4 of Anxious Attachment
Before we jump to the practicing new thoughts: We have to do phase 1 self awareness- you first have to know the thoughts that you have now about yourself and love, your self and reassurance, your thoughts about conditional love. So get a piece of paper write it downWhat are all the thoughts I think about me and my ability to be loved? What are all of my thoughts about love and my self worth? Why a
4 Obstacles of Anxious Attachment: Fear of Abandonment- Don't let fear control you
Hello and Welcome to Anxious Attachment Solution! On today's podcast I am going to be continuing a series on breaking down the 4 obstacles of Anxious Attachment with obstacle number 3, the Fear of AbandonmentIn the last episode, episode 40, I taught Obstacle 2 Uncomfortable Emotions. I taught about why learning how to feel hard emotions is the key to soothing our anxious attachment triggers, and h
The 4 Obstacles of Anxious Attachment: Uncomfortable Emotions
Hello and Welcome! On today's podcast I am going to be continuing a series on breaking down the 4 obstacles of Anxious Attachment: Overthinking, Feeling Uncomfortable Emotions, Fear of Abandonment and Seeking Validation Last episode 39 was about overthinking so if you didn’t get a chance to hear it go check it out.Today I want to talk about Uncomfortable emotions and why they trigger us with anxio
The 4 Obstacles of Anxious Attachment: Overthinking
On today's podcast I am going to be introducing a three week series on breaking down the 4 obstacles of Anxious Attachment. In these episodes I am going to talk about the 4 major obstacles I have noticed that people with anxious attachment have and how to overcome them using thoughtwork and learning how to develop the skill of feeling hard emotions. As I really reflect on my life with anxious att
Anxious Attachment Doing Things Differently
People ask me Amber what is life coaching? I think of it as mental and emotional maintenance, where you learn mental and emotional tools and strategies to transform your life. its learning and unlearning thought patterns that are keeping you stuck, so that you can get unstuck and get the life that you want. It’s learning how to feel and process uncomfortable emotions so that your emotions don’t co
Anxious Attachment Urgency to do Something Now.
During these situations - I believed my feelings were true, If I have this feeling it must be true, it must mean I have to reach out- I must have to connect with them- I must really really love them. I really won’t be able to live without them. The hard part about “trusting our gut or our feelings” as anxiously attached people- is that we have to clarify is this my gut, my intuition or is this fe
Anxious Attachment Game Changer
So to recapWhen you get triggered- when you start to have a big emotional reaction- because of someone’s thoughts or behavior write it outWhat happened?What am I making it mean- about me, about my relationship?How does that make me feel?Is it true? Is it reality?Other tools and strategies:A thought download- write all your unfiltered thoughts down for 2-3 minutes. What happened, write it all down.
Creating the Belief that You Are Lovable
To summarize- The thoughts we think often become beliefs. The thoughts we think also create our feelings. We have thoughts in our head that create our self concept and our belief of our lovability. Right now those thoughts could be telling us that we are not very lovable. So in order to stop believing that we have to create new thoughts on purpose and practice them in order to create new self beli
All Progress is not lost... combatting a mean brain
I realized today that my brain has been extra mean to me lately and I have been less proactive in thinking thoughts about myself on purpose to neutralize my mean brain. The volume of my negative self thoughts had been getting louder and coming more often, worse I could see myself start to believe them again. My insecurities started getting louder- and I started getting quieter- I let my brain talk
5 Simple Steps to Stopping your Anxious Attachment Cycle
5 Steps to stop this cycle You have to become an observer of your thoughts and feelings. What thoughts are you thinking, how do they make you feel?You have to grow your capacity to feel the intense emotions without taking action. This looks like naming the feeling in your body, where does it sit, how does it feel, while acknowledging how uncomfortable it is to sit with these feelings.You have
Success and Celebrations in turning 37
Do I still have goals and dreams I am working to achieve yes. Have a achieved them all-no, and to be honest I never will because I am a Life Long learner and doer, I will be forever making goals and accomplishing them, or changing paths- and I have come to love my rhythm. So I hope this podcast is a reminder to you that internal successes and celebrations ALSO Count. No one gets to decide what “Ma
The Cost of Dreams, Desires and Goals is FEAR...
Our brain likes things that are familiar, that “Feel” safe- things that it already knows. So no matter what your goal, or dream is- if it is something “new” or “different” your brain is going to have a hard time adapting to it and it is NORMAL. Do not take this resistance as a signal to stop or that this is not for you- take this brain resistance as part of the process of doing and learning new th
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The Art of Emotional Freedom: Secure Self Worth
I teach my clients how their thoughts create their feelings and I teach them how to take back their power and control. Do you find that you take everything personally? With relationships? Friendships? Siblings? That text from a partner, from a friend, that conversation with that other human ? Do you find yourself comparing yourself to other women, comparing yourself to other mothers? Comparing you
The Art of Emotional Freedom
Hello Everyone thank you for joining me today on Episode 28 Taking Back Her Brain with Love: The Art of Emotional Freedom. I am Life Coach Amber Lynn, I teach women the Art of Emotional Freedom through taking back their brain from social constructs, from their harsh inner voice, from anything that is holding them back from living the life they want. Through The Art of Emotional Freedom my clients
The Power of Feeling Good Enough
Learning to accept all of you. Learning to recognize that your brain patterns (depression, anxious attachment are not your personality, they are a brain response)
Taking Back Her Brain from Mental Chaos
Rule # 1 for having a managed mindSo I had two rules tied for number one, and I still can’t figure out which comes first, so they are tiedAll Circumstances are neutral AND You have to Feel Your FeelingsRule # 2 Our thoughts create our emotionsRule # 3 Our Feelings Drive our actionsRule #4 Our thoughts create our resultsRule #5 Other people’s opinions/ thoughts of us don’t matterRule #6 Knowing you
Feeling Fear without Making it Mean Something
Episode 25Not making our feelings mean somethingHello There and Thank you for joining me today on Episode 25! Today we are going to be talking about the importance of feeling our emotions AND not making them mean something that just isn’t true. Oftentimes our brain has programmed us that if we feel fear, failure, or hesitation it is a “sign” that we are making the wrong decision.This could be anyt
Fake it til you make it
On the way to work and wanted to share some road thoughts!
Holding Space for our Kids
Learning to hold space for our kids. Learning that kids are allowed to feel their feelings, learning that their feelings are okay. Teaching our kids how to feel their emotions.When we learn to hold space for ourselves as parents, we soon learn how to hold space for our children to have emotions and feelings.The more our children learn to feel their emotions, the more their brain learns that these
Holding Space for Other People
In today's podcast we are learning what it means to hold space for other people. Lately a common theme I see with my clients is this sense of needing to make other people feel better. So often we take on the responsibility to make other people feel a certain way… Sometimes this comes from a place of love (we just want them to not feel the way they feel)Sometimes this comes from a place of control
Be and Example of What is Possible!
They said it is your turn to be an example of what is possible.So in order for me to become an example of what is possible “I had to trust myself, trust the process, and decide to have my own back NO Matter how my decision turned out. Within a week of being home from Mastermind, I had decided to request a shared contract for the year 2022-2023, where I will have the opportunity to continue teachin
LCS Mastermind 2022 Takeaways: Sisters
It is their love for me, their belief in me, that helps me talk back to my brain when it whispers all my self doubt. It is their support for me that allows me to have the determination to keep pushing through my brain's insecure chatter.Before thought work, finding self coaching, and hiring my own Life Coach. I knew my sisters "supported me" BUT I thought they were "judging" me way more than suppo
Taking Back Her Brain Insecure Attachment: What We think is happening vs What is really happening
What we think is happening versus what is actually happening. What we think we should do and what we actually need to do.We think we this is what is happening:Experience a circumstanceAttachment System TriggeredTake ActionWhat is actually happening:Experience a circumstanceWe have a thoughta. I'm not good enough/ they don't love me/ they are going to leave meAttachment System TriggeredWe have an u
Taking Back Her Brain From a Break Up
Full PDF of PodcastNow onto the confirmation basis- those internal beliefs that we have deep down that are normally triggered by circumstances that challenge our value or worthYou are going to be alone foreverWe both know you won’t be alone forever, if you put in the work to heal, to date again, and be open to the opportunity to find love and be open to the opportunity of someone loving you, you w
Taking Back Her Brain from the Feel Good Always Myth
This thought error leads us to indulging in false pleasures, taking action to feel better, to get out of the feeling which is only temporary. We stop going towards our dreams or our goals because it doesn’t always feel good, so if it doesn’t always feel good I am doing something wrong, which leads to us not taking the action that needs to be taken to reach our goal. When this feel good myth appea
Taking Back Her Brain from Self Criticism & Goals
hat if, instead of shaming ourselves for not following our diet plan, for missing that exercise appointment, for not painting with our children or for not doing that 'pinterest' thing we wanted to do with our kids, we got curious and asked ourselves why. We didn't follow our plan? Why didn't we follow our schedule? How could we show up for ourselves with love and compassion when we are NOT perfect
Taking Back Her Brain from Perfectionism
When our focus is being perfect, we no longer leave room for risk even “calculated risks” so we stop ourselves from reaching our potential. We may not even attempt to set goals, or we start goals but never see them through because they didn’t go quote as planned.Not only does it hold us back from setting, and reaching our goals, it also stops us from being able to have a genuine loving relationshi
Taking Back Her Brain from Defensive Listening
Remember when emotions are high, our intelligence is low. What that means is when emotions are high our primitive brain has been activated and our higher brain has LITERALLY been taken off line. So if we choose to immediately respond our response will not be using our higher brain and we may not show up the way we want to for ourselves or our partner. So I always believe in asking for processing t
Taking Back Her Brain from Insecure Attachment Part 6: Secure Base
Developing a secure base also comes with understanding that we CAN cope within ourselves, we can support and comfort ourselves, we do not have to seek it outside of ourselves. After we practice comforting ourselves it gets easier, but often you will find yourself running that negative narrative sound track that is comparing you to everyone one under the sun, and thats when you have to stop and rem
Taking Back Her Brain From Insecure Attachment Part 5 Emotional Childhood
When we are living in emotional childhood we are not owning our attachment wiring, we are not stepping into awareness of how our primal panic affects our reactions, or we don’t acknowledge how our selective feedback, selective memory and selective interpretation may be influencing how we are currently perceiving our partners words/actions. So what does this mean? This means we have to learn how to
Taking Back Her Brain From Insecure Attachment Part 4
So now that we know this is what we experience when we have the Thought “they are rejecting me” or the thought “ they are going to leave me” or “they don’t love me anymore” ect, all of which create the feeling of instant panic and anxiety, creating the actions of: texting, non stop, calling, ruminating on negative self perceived thoughts, and then we create the evidence that they are rejecting us
Taking Back Her Brain from Anxious Attachment Style Part 3
So if you are a person who identifies with these attributes of dismissing attachment style, what can you do to develop a more secure attachment?If you are a person who recognizes these traits in yourself and you want to experience the closeness of a relationship you first have to start recognizing when you are avoiding, resisting, or actioning over your emotions. You have to notice when your emoti
Taking Back Her Brain From Preoccupied Attachment Style (Anxious Attachment Part 2)
Taking back her brain from Insecure Attachment Part 2Hey there and thank you for joining me today for Taking back her brain from Insecure Attachment. This podcast was inspired by the book Insecure in Love by Lesile Becker-Phelps. If you don’t have it you should definitely get it. I recommend reading Insecure in Love and doing the exercises if you want to have a deeper understanding of your own att
Taking Back Her Brain From Anxious/ Insecure Attachment Style (Part 1)
Do you have anxious/insecure attachment style? Than this podcast is for you!
Taking Back Her Brain from Urges
On today's podcast I am going to be talking about my favorite topic… Feelings…This week I want to talk about how important it is to feel our feelings, but not only our feelings but urges. Learning to allow urges. What is an urge? a strong desire or IMPULSE to do something…I learned that in order for our brain to 1) increase pleasure, 2) decrease pain 3) conserve energy it provides us with - though
Taking Back Her Brain From Scarcity Mindset
Well if our thoughts create our feelings: what kind of feelings do these thoughts create ? If our feelings drive the actions that we take, what actions do you take when you feel inadequate, not enough, hopeless or defeated?I can bet that the actions you take from the feelings of inadequacy, defeat and hopelessness are way different than the actions you would take from a feeling of sufficiency, abu
Taking Back Her Brain From Thoughts
Welcome to Taking Back Her Brain with LoveOn todays podcast we talk about our thoughts, how they become our beliefs, and why its so important to be aware of our thoughts as they create our feelings and drive our actions, our thoughts create the results we have in our life.Podcast Script
Taking Back Her Brain from the Manual for Others
Taking back our brain from our expectations of others and what we make it mean.
Taking Back Her Brain from Emotions
Emotions are just sensations in our body! We need to relearn emotions and start labeling them as comfortable and uncomfortable, and we need to learn that we can feel them, and not have to react!
Taking Back Her Brain from Circumstances
Circumstances are neutral, it is our thoughts about them that make them anything other than neutral. Our thoughts create our emotions, not our circumstance, or thoughts not anyone else's create our emotions.
Taking Back Her Brian from the Primitive Brain
Learning about the brain is so important, understanding the primitive brain and the higher brain will change your life! www.takingbackherbrain.com Website
Your Partner Doesn't Have to be on the Roller Coaster with You to Love You
Welcome back to The Anxious Attachment Solution. I’m your host, Life Coach Amber Lynn.In this episode, I want to expand on something I said before—you don’t need your partner to ride the emotional roller coaster with you. I want to be clear: my work is for those in relationships with partners who care, show up, and want to build something healthy with you. Never use my podcast to justify staying i
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