deeper with dani
time to dig deep, because everything is that serious. formerly known as therapy for takeout. for inquiries and suggestions related to the pod: dearjusdani@gmail.com for invites and collaborations: heyjusdani@gmail.com
Episodes
dear dani, how do I adult?!
This week’s episode is a dear dani special, where we relaunch my advice column! Three of our listeners share their growing pains about young adulthood, from trying to fit in at work both socially and professionally, to figuring out what to do now that college has ended.Submit an entry here: tinyurl.com/dearjusdanijusdani.substack.com@deeperwithdani
when care work and violence shape womanhood
Happy to have spent Women’s Month well, as I got to join many different events and activities where I learned from fellow women. On the pod, I share a certain theme that I have observed from these experiences: how care work and violence shape womanhood. I reflect on the anger that I feel as a woman, and share what we can possibly do about it.If you or someone you know is in need of support: Violen
motherhood was never a dream
I’ve heard it all: I shouldn’t speak so soon. Maybe I just haven’t found the right guy to have kids with. I can never be sure of my own future. There are so many other responses that resist the idea of a young woman being so certain about not wanting to have children of her own, as if admitting this makes her an anomaly, because isn’t this a role women are supposed to enact eventually?Here, I try
does singlehood make me less of a woman?
Last semester, I attended a lecture in graduate school that explored the lived experiences of single Filipino women in their 30s. I came out of the lecture realizing that while these participants did not expect to be single at that age, I never seemed to have had that aspiration. With people my age moving in together and settling down, I can’t help but wonder if there is anything strange about not
exploring r/MyBoyfriendIsAI: engineering romance or deception?
You look lonely… can AI fix that? On this episode, we explore the ever-contentious r/MyBoyfriendIsAI subreddit, where users share their motivations for pursuing romantic connections with bots that are nowhere close to human, but are able to mimic qualities that one would consider to be ideal in a partner. Users claim that such a unique relationship has its benefits that surpass human connection, b
there is no intimacy in car-centric cities
In one of my classes this semester, we were asked to introduce ourselves, and I found it interesting how one of my professors worded it toward the end: tell us about yourself, what you do, and outside of school and work, what preoccupies most of your time. I realized that besides the activities I engage in from place to place—school, gym, work, the movies—I spend most of my time in public transpor
your analog bag requires your attention
Have you packed your analog bags yet? How many journals have you inserted in your leather folio? Should we invite Bella Hadid?Look, I understand the growing resistance toward the internet. It used to be a window to see the world, but right now I’m not so sure what it is that we’re seeing. In many frustrating ways, I understand this shift to the tangible, to analog, at an attempt to cure the brain
some life updates before we dig deep
Let me start with a confession: I was supposed to put this out last December but I underestimated the multiple responsibilities I had on my plate that I had to set this aside. I was even scared of pursuing this with more gusto. But I did promise myself that this would be the year I stop feeling so afraid of changing.So here are some life updates that explain why I went MIA (again) and where I see
why filipino women don’t leave their abusive relationships
Happy Women’s Month! This episode shares statistics on Violence Against Women (VAW) and Intimate Partner Violence (IPV) in the Philippines, as well as reasons why victims find it hard to leave.References:Estrellado, A. F., & Loh, J. (2013). Factors associated with battered Filipino women’s decision to stay in or leave an abusive relationship. Journal of Interpersonal Violence, 29(4), 575–592.
social media is the third party of today’s romantic relationships
Andi Eigenmann’s recent crash out left me thinking about how much more weight social media has on relationships these days. how did it come to this? and what can be done to lessen the impact of social media on relationship satisfaction? these are questions I try to answer on this episode.References:Arikewuyo AO, Lasisi TT, Abdulbaqi SS, Omoloso AI, Arikewuyo HO MD.. Evaluating the use of social me
invisible disabilities and the real problem about PWD IDs
Today’s episode unpacks the now-deleted post from Low Brow Casual Restaurant, who should probably change their name to Low Blow. Besides this issue, I share how you can obtain a PWD ID, who qualifies, and what bigger concerns face us in this mandated system that’s supposed to look out for people living differently.
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making friends and maintaining them
happy new year! today’s episode is a collection of reflections on friendship, from making friends, to maintaining them, to even ending them.
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wrestling with desire
This is my year-ender essay where I reflect on the lack of trust toward my own taste and decisions, and how I’ve been trying to build the self-confidence needed to not rely on other people’s opinions on how I should live my life.
year end rituals to prepare for the new year
In this episode, I revisit my year-end essay from 2023 and share a few practices that allow me to conclude the year and prepare for the next.
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growing out of grief
Yet another audio recording of a blog post from my Substack. This month will be spent uploading audio recordings of my favorite posts this year.
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suicidality and what not to say to a suicidal person
September is Suicide Prevention Month, with September 10 being World Suicide Prevention Day as declared by the World Health Organization. On this episode, I share the types of suicidality and what you should not tell a suicidal person even if you think that you mean well.
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making the right choices
This episode is a voiceover of my blog post of the same name. Couldn’t help but draw similarities between BoJack Horseman’s inability to savor his happiness with my own feelings about where I’m currently at in life.
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life updates, adult friendships, and post-diagnosis blues
Sorry for being MIA! Hope this episode makes up for it as I share with you some life updates (as well as what you can expect from me here on out!) and I answer questions sent by listeners of the pod and/or readers of my blog.
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dealing with the big sad
This episode is a voiceover of my recent blog post of the same name, which you can read on Substack.
dear dani: the roles we play in our own suffering
Originally published on my Substack in April, this Dear Dani column features two listeners of the podcast whose current dilemmas revolve around the lack of trust in oneself, and how this has affected the way they show up in their relationships.
You can read and listen to earlier episodes of Dear Dani on Substack.
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my favorite birthday tradition
This week’s episode is a voiceover of my birthday essay for this year, along with an introduction to my creative process when I write and where I took inspiration from in writing this post. As I graduate from my early 20s, I talk about how much life gets better when you keep showing up.
the value of intrinsic motivation in dealing with fatphobia
I promise I tried my best not to sound angry lol but in this episode, I dissect Liezl Chu’s self-help advice directed at fat women (like herself) since it went viral and led to mixed opinions among different creators. I talk about which points ring true (such as how slim women are favored more than overweight ones) and which points spew utter BS that we need to collectively unlearn. I also discuss
questions to ask instead of ‘are my feelings valid?’
Online communities have become an avenue for people to seek emotional support, and the internet turns into a public jury that determines whether what we are feeling is valid or not. While this can be helpful, focusing on how valid our feelings are in the eyes of others can get in the way of trusting our own judgment. On this episode, I share some introspective questions you can ask yourself instea
therapy for dummies: getting medicated
What’s an occupational therapist for? How do I tell my therapist that I might be neurodivergent? And when exactly are we supposed to start medication? These are some questions that I answer on today’s episode :-)
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on the weaponization of therapy speak
Here are some of my thoughts on how using therapy speak becomes a problem, and what we could do to address the hyper-individualism that comes out of exploiting the language of mental that we learn from therapy and social media.
Is Therapy-Speak Making Us Selfish?
The Rise of Therapy Speak
some favorite studies on intimacy and relationships
Happy Valentine’s Day! In this week’s episode, I talk about three studies that aim to understand the whimsical dynamics of intimacy, closeness, and relationships among adults.
References:
Aron, A., Melinat, E., Aron, E., Vallone, R., & Bator, R. (1997). The Experimental Generation of Interpersonal Closeness: A Procedure and Some Preliminary Findings. Personality and Psychology Bulletin, 23(4).
navigating the loneliness of young adulthood
Today’s young adults face a loneliness epidemic. In this episode I talk about how it’s affecting us and what we can do to deal with it.
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dear dani: on conflict and comfort
Taken from the Substack archive, this is a voiceover of one of the earliest pieces I have for my advice column, Dear Dani. In this episode, I talk about dealing with conflict as an avoidant and wanting to be there for your friends when you don’t have the emotional energy for issues outside of your own.
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dear dani: navigating changes
The advice column is now on the pod! Occasionally I open my ask box on Instagram to have people send in their problems so that I can offer advice. On today's episode, I share what I think of new year’s resolutions (do they work?), shifting to a different program, and knowing your potential but not feeling motivated to realize it.
how to support friends who cannot easily leave unhealthy relationships
Why the saying “you deserve what you tolerate” is total bs, what we’re getting wrong about providing emotional support, and how we can be there for our stubborn friends without sacrificing our own mental health.
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SEASON 2: therapy for takeout
Happy new year! I have resurrected.
This is a trailer/reintroduction, because it has been so long since the last episode and so much has changed. I’ve found a better direction for this project and I have new goals that I want to achieve here. In this episode, I share reasons why I’m rebranding and what you can expect from the pod in the coming weeks.
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9: aldub nation and celebrity worship
This week’s podcast episode is an attempt to understand the psyche of certain Aldub fanatics who recently went viral for exhibiting odd, cultish behavior. We now ask the question: where do we draw the line between fan clubs and cults?
The journal I talk about in this podcast is called “FANatics: Systematic literature review of factors associated with celebrity worship, and suggested directions for
8: life as a recovering people pleaser
Is it really your villain era or are you just learning to stand up for yourself? In this episode, I talk about what people pleasing is, signs of people pleasing behaviors, and ways to overcome this longstanding desire of putting other people’s needs above your own.
7: therapy for dummies: an introduction
In celebration of being in therapy for over a year now, I talk about how you can prepare for your first therapy session, what my first session looked like, and other tips on how to make the most out of meeting your therapist for the first time.
6: relationship green flags
So much talk about red flags, so little about green ones! Here I discuss 12 green flags in relationships to make sure that the grass is always green in places you choose to pour your presence into. I also gush about Dr. John Gottman, a modern psychologist who specializes in marriage and relationships and founder of the Gottman Institute.
5: confessions of a former catholic schoolgirl
Forgive me, Mother, for I have sinned! In this episode, I talk about Catholic upbringing: how it has affected my mental health, why people use faith to cope in trying times, and what research has to say about religion and spirituality in regard to overall wellbeing.
4: signs of an abusive relationship
And we are back from the unannounced hiatus—I am back, rather! Sorry if that triggered anyone's abandonment issues.
Though the internet is saturated with information about abuse, this episode lists down common signs of abuse that people don’t immediately notice until later on. Justine Danielle talks about why people stay in these kinds of relationships as well as what we can do to help that one fr
3: how fandom culture fulfills our need for belongingness
In this episode, we talk about one of best things that bring people together: fandoms! We explore Jus and Shai's One Direction days as well as the world of K-Pop with Alex, and discuss how being part of a fandom gives us the serotonin boost we need.
2: attachment styles and the importance of vulnerability
TW: physical and psychological abuse
One of the most interesting and easiest concepts to understand in psychology is the attachment theory. The idea is simple: our relationship with our primary caregiver in childhood shapes the way we explore our relationships. Depending on how much of our needs were met, this leads to 4 outcomes in our attachment: secure, anxious, avoidant, and disorganized. In t
1: the descent into madness (thx to the pandemic)
Two years into this public health circus—crisis, rather—and we’re now in quarantine season 3! Here we talk about how all of us have coped in the different seasons of the pandemic, and what we’ve all learned about our mental health in the pursuit of trying to stay sane.
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pilot: get to know the pod!
Say psych right now! Get to know our three anxiety-ridden hosts, the entire ~creative process~ of coming up with our name, and what you can expect from this podcast.
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