Having It A.L.L.
Having It A.L.L. is a personal development podcast hosted by Matthew Bivens that challenges conventional ideas about success and fulfillment. Each episode focuses on shifting confidence, self-worth, and clarity through honest conversations about relationships, health, money, family, and life purpose. Bivens shares actionable lessons and habits designed to help listeners make new decisions and create lasting change. The show also explores the vulnerable side of self-improvement, emphasizing that breakdowns often precede breakthroughs. It aims to guide listeners toward meaningful transformation, one choice at a time.
Episodes
Relationship Misconceptions That Are Making You Unhappy with Sarah Bivens
Are your relationship beliefs actually creating the connection you want—or quietly sabotaging it?
In this honest conversation, Sarah and I unpack the subtle, sneaky beliefs that shape how we show up in love—and often lead to frustration, resentment, and emotional burnout. These are the misconceptions we bought into for years, that quietly crept into our marriage, and that we had to challenge in o
The Top 5 Regrets of the Dying (And How to Make Sure They’re Not Yours)
What will you regret when your time is up?
In this confronting and thought-provoking episode, I explore the five most common regrets people share as they approach the end of their lives—insights captured by palliative care nurse Bronnie Ware after years of supporting individuals in their final days.
These reflections aren’t hypothetical or abstract. They are raw truths gathered from real people
Codependency and Unhealthy Attachments In Relationships
How healthy would you say your attachment is with your partner?
In today's episode I share an email from a listener who opens up on her relationship attachment. I appreciate her vulnerability and courage in this one because it gives us all a chance to heal and grow.
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Feeling Stressed or Anxious? This One Question Can Instantly Stop Your Stress and Overwhelm
How stressed out do you feel right now? Have you dealt with stress earlier today or this week?
We all experience stress, it's part of life. But not everybody relates to stress in the same way. You have your own go-to methods for dealing with your stress, and some are more effective than others.
Years ago it became a personal mission of mine to get on top of my stress and anxiety, and learn how t
Healing My Wounded Inner Child
What does it mean to heal your inner child?
The process of growing up into adulthood is filled with many impactful events, some empowering and others not. As children, we are experience life with little to no filter, leaving us open to experience hurts, fears, angers and traumas with an extreme level of intensity and realness. Those "wounds", when not addressed properly, carry into our adulthood
Avoiding Burnout, Business Planning and Content Creation: Answering Your Life Questions Part 3
Ever feel like the more you achieve, the emptier you feel?
You’re hitting goals, growing your business, and pushing hard—but the burnout is real. In this raw and real episode, I answer your powerful questions about how to avoid burnout, build a meaningful business, and create content that actually aligns with your energy and purpose.
We unpack:
The hidden costs of Type A success
How to
Fasting Isn’t About Food...It’s About Emotional Mastery
What if the reason you keep breaking your commitments isn’t about willpower, but emotions?
This episode dives into how emotions like stress, frustration, and apathy quietly hijack your habits, your follow-through, and your sense of integrity. I’m sharing how a simple weekly fasting practice helped me see where I was letting feelings lead, and how often that meant letting myself down.
This isn’t
The 6 Steps I Use to Get Unstuck When I Feel Lost, Unclear or Unmotivated
Ever feel like your life should feel amazing, but inside... you’re just stuck?
You’ve got the job, the family, the “success”—but confidence is shaky, motivation is MIA, and the truth is you’re scared you’re wasting your potential.
In this episode, I respond to a listener email from “Jim,” a man with a beautiful life on the outside and a gnawing feeling of being lost on the inside. If you’ve ever
Who’s Watching You Quit On Yourself (And Learning From Your Example)?
Who are you unconsciously giving permission to quit on themselves?
In this episode, I share a powerful story from a recent Play Camp where one small decision to avoid discomfort triggered a ripple effect of playing small. We unpack what it means to be a watcher—and how your fear (or your courage) directly impacts the greatness of others.
I also reflect on a personal moment where I bailed on a co
How to Turn Stress Into Power (Using Nothing But Your Workout)
What if your next workout could help you stay calm in a fight, show up powerfully at work, or stop spiraling when life hits hard?
In this episode, I break down how to use exercise as a training ground for transforming your relationship with stress. I’m not talking about just getting abs or hitting a new PR, I’m talking about emotional mastery, breath control, and learning to flow when everything
Is Your Life Feeling Out Of Control? Here Are 2 Simple Ways To Get Your Sense Of Stability Back
Feeling like life’s got the upper hand?
When everything around you feels unpredictable—your relationships, your career, your body—it’s easy to spiral into anxiety, frustration, or helplessness. But here’s the truth: you’re never truly powerless.
In this episode, I take you into a personal season of chaos—infertility struggles, business breakdowns, and emotional overwhelm—and show you how two dece
The Life-Changing Magic of Just Going for It
When was the last time you stood at the edge of something, heart pounding and stomach knotted, knowing you could either stay safe… or jump?
In this episode, I share the story of an early morning hike with a friend that turned into one of those rare and real "f**k it!" moments. This story is more than a thrill-seeking stunt — it was a masterclass in recognizing the exact moment life invites you to
When Life Doesn’t Go Your Way, Listen Closer
Ever found yourself staring at a situation thinking, “This isn’t what I wanted”?
What if it’s exactly what you needed?
In this episode, I share a powerful and unexpected conversation with a stranger that turned into a divine download—and cracked open a deeper truth about fatherhood, faith, and surrendering control. Whether it’s relationships, parenting, or just navigating life when things don’t g
The Invisible Weight You’re Carrying Through Your Life
What happens to your body when your thoughts turn on you?
In today’s episode, I walk you through two real-life moments from the gym that illustrate just how powerful your inner dialogue truly is. One man dropped the weight the moment fear crept in. One woman nearly fainted from the emotional weight she carried into her workout. Both were physically capable—but their thoughts hijacked their perfor
The Game You’re Playing Is Working - Even If It’s Wrecking You
What game are you playing so well… it’s keeping you stuck?
If you feel like life isn’t working, pause before you call it failure. You’re winning. You’ve just been unconsciously training for the wrong game.
This episode isn’t here to fluff you up or give you a participation ribbon. It’s here to hold up the mirror and show you exactly where your energy, time, and identity are going—and what it's a
The Real Reason Your Breakthrough Keeps Dodging You
We all say we want change—more peace, better health, deeper connection, stronger boundaries. But the results we crave only show up when our effort matches our expectations.
In this episode, I explore the invisible gap between what we say we want and what we’re actually doing to create it. Inspired by those powerful before-and-after transformation stories, I draw the connection between physical we
The Real Test of Growth: Will You Choose Integrity Over Approval?
What do you do when your values get tested—and the cost of staying true is real?
This episode is about the moments that reveal who you actually are—not who you say you are. Not the version that shows up in your journal, on your vision board, or in your next coaching session. But the version that steps forward when life applies pressure.
Because the truth is, your growth isn’t proven by how many
7 Must Haves For Stellar Relationships (They Are Not What You Think)
Ever find yourself stuck in the same kind of relationship drama—even when you swore it’d be different this time?
In this episode, I’m breaking down seven relationship must-haves that go way deeper than communication skills or love languages. These are the tools I wish someone had handed me years ago—before I got tangled up in relationships that looked good on paper but left me feeling lost, drain
Why Self Love Feels Off (Even When You’re Doing All the “Right” Things)
You hit the gym, eat clean, take the solo date—but deep down, something still feels off. Why?
In this episode, I unpack a version of self love you don’t hear about often: the kind rooted in standards. Not surface-level habits or nice-sounding affirmations—but the real, gritty way you build self trust by keeping your word to yourself.
This one came to me mid-walk (literally—I recorded it while he
STOP Ignoring This Feedback, If You Want Your Life To Change
Are you filtering out the very thing that could break your patterns?
You say you want to grow. You say you’re ready for the next level. But when feedback hits—do you lean in, or get defensive?
In this episode, we break down the three essential types of feedback that shape your evolution. I’m pulling back the curtain on why you're seeing the same results in your life—over and over—and how these fe
The "Be-Do-Have" Paradigm And The Simple Mindset Shift That Will Realign Your Life
Ever feel like you're doing all the right things but still not getting what you want?
That’s where the Be-Do-Have paradigm comes in. Most people have it backwards. They think once they have the success, time, love, or clarity—they’ll do the right things and finally be who they want to be.
But that’s not how it works.
If you want lasting results, alignment, and peace that doesn’t crack under press
Stop Drifting—The 5 W’s That Realign Your Life
Are you really living... or just reacting?
In this episode, I’m handing you a tool for deep, no-BS introspection: the 5 W’s of Radical Self Awareness.
This isn’t some surface-level journaling prompt. This is a mirror. A spotlight. A call-out and a call-forward—all in one.
You'll explore:
Who is influencing your thoughts, energy, and identity
What you’re truly committed to (and what y
The Truth About Balance: Why You’re Out of Alignment (And Don’t Know It)
What if the reason life feels so off... is because your wheels are out of balance?
In this episode, I introduce you to a powerful framework called The Body Vehicle—a tool I learned through the YourDay Balance Game that completely shifted how I understand (and live) life balance.
Here’s the idea:
If your life is a car, you’ve got five essential wheels—Spiritual, Mental, Emotional, Social, and Ph
8 Habits That Make You Unshakable In Life, Love and Leadership
Are you showing up like the person you say you want to be?
Or are you still stuck in habits that keep you in survival mode—burnt out, resentful, and playing small?
In this episode, I’m joined by my powerhouse wife Sarah—Balance Lifestyle Coach, Personal Trainer, and walking embodiment of what I call a Humble Badass. Together, we break down the 8 habits she uses (and teaches) to help high-performi
"You Have To Move Your Feet": A Story About Seeing The Beauty In All Of Life's Circumstances with Robert Monroe
Today’s guest is a father to three daughters, a husband to a beautiful wife, friend to myself and so many others, and an economist by profession.
His name is Robert Monroe, and if you met him in person, the first thing you’d probably notice is his smile.
He’s got one of those ear to ear smiles that tends to come with a hearty laugh and come from a place of joy.
But behind the smile is a man who
The Personal Development Trap: Why Chasing Growth Might Be Holding You Back
When’s the last time you stopped to actually see your growth?
Not the goal you're chasing. Not the next version of you that you think you should be. I'm talking about a real, honest pause—to look back and say, “Wow, I’ve come a long way.”
In this episode, I unpack a few powerful moments where I caught myself in the act of growth—one with my wife, one with myself—and what it taught me about self-m
The Quiet Habit That’s Killing Your Self Confidence And Self Trust
What if the real reason you’re stuck isn’t a lack of time or willpower—but a lack of trust in yourself?
Every broken promise to yourself chips away at your confidence—and you don’t even realize it’s happening. From missed workouts to late-night scrolling instead of journaling, it’s not about discipline—it’s about self-trust.
In this episode, I break down why the seemingly small commitments you
The 3 Mindsets That Have Transformed My Confidence, Relationships and Wealth
In today's episode I'm sharing with you three mindsets that have been the biggest catalysts for my personal transformation over the past 4 years. From my self confidence, to the quality of my relationships, to my ability to attract money and create wealth, these 3 things have been the spark for them all.
This episode was inspired by a question I was asked last week, "What would you attribute to
You’re In The Fire—Here's How You Don’t Lose Your Center
What do you lean on when life blindsides you, again and again—and you’re too tired to pretend you’ve got it all together?
When life throws you into the fire—when the hits keep coming and you’re running on fumes—it’s easy to spiral, snap, or shut down.
In this episode, I’m handing you two powerful beliefs to anchor you when everything feels like too much.
They were given to me in the middle of a
The Consequences Of Brutal Honesty
There can be a tremendous amount of fear and anxiety associated with honesty, despite the freeing impact that complete honesty can have on ourselves and in our relationships.
This episode was inspired by an article I read titled "The Pros And Cons Of Brutal Honesty".
The following quote from the article sets up this episode perfectly:
"People that stop growing are individuals who decide they ca
7 Gratitude Truths That’ll Rewire Your Mind (This Will Change How You See Everything)
What if gratitude isn’t what you think — and what you’ve been taught is keeping you stuck?
In this episode, I’m breaking down 7 powerful gratitude truths that will flip the way you think about appreciation, happiness, and abundance. This isn’t your typical gratitude list — we’re going deeper.
You’ll discover:
✅ How gratitude can instantly shift your mood
✅ The surprising link between gratitude
The Danger Of Seeking Work-Life Balance
In this episode I tear apart the concept of “work-life balance” and explain why it’s dangerous, leads to unhealthy living, and why we have to replace it with a healthy and sustainable construct.
We’re all familiar with the idea of work-life balance. It’s a phrase and concept we’ve been fed for years. But have you really thought about the implications? What the phrase implies? And have you been ab
How To Melt Your Fears Like Butter
I’ve talked about facing fears a number of times on this show.
Most people who have a "self help" type of show probably talk a lot of about fears. And for great reason: Fears keep us from experiencing LOVE in life.
You can boil your decisions down to a choice between fear and love, and that includes your decision on how and who to BE in life.
So yes, fear is worth talking about!
Today I’m shar
Do You Know Your Center? The Success Of Your Relationships Depends On It!
This episode was inspired by a conversation I had with my father. Like many topics I cover in this podcast, my own life is the testing ground where I attempt to choose LOVE over FEAR, and share with you the things I've learned.
Today I'm talking about the importance of knowing what your center is - the lens through which you see the world and relationship that shapes your values, thoughts and be
Who Are You When No One Is Watching?
The self improvement game is, many times, a public one. Spiritual, physical, mental and emotional self work can all be done in the open or with a group of people. And with group meditation and yoga and other similar things really taking off these days, one could buy into the idea that self improvement is a public act.
But there's something so much more important than the things we're DOING to im
Here's Why You Keep Getting Into Unhealthy Relationships
Today's podcast was inspired by an email I received from a listener.
Her situation is something that I think many of us can relate to, and it has to do with RELATIONSHIPS.
Situation: you're in a relationship, it ends for whatever reason, you feel hurt/betrayed/wronged, you do some soul searching, learn a few things about yourself, seek out and find a new relationship, get hurt/betrayed/wronged a
What The Birth Of My Child Has Taught Me About Faith (It's Not What You're Thinking)
This episode is all about FAITH, but not in the most widely used sense. I’m talking about having supreme confidence and trust in someone or something.
I look at faith like this: FAITH = TRUST + SURRENDER.
On Sunday September 11th, 2016 Sarah and I welcomed the birth of our daughter Maya. Through that experience I both witnessed and practiced the most humbling amount of trust and surrender that I
How To Expand The Great Things In Life Through Focus
You've probably heard sayings like"What you think you become." (Buddha) and "What you focus on expands." (T. Harv Eker).
They are great and make for awesome social media quotes and refrigerator magnets.
But I think the fact that they are used (perhaps overused today) so much has watered down the impact of the message.
The things that we choose to focus our time, energy, thoughts and resources o
Breaking Your Fear Patterns Once And For All
By now you might have heard of the Tony Robbins documentary “I am not your guru”. It’s been making its way around Netflix and the internet. If you haven’t seen it, I recommend you give it a watch!
Well, I checked it out the other day and can honestly say that few other documentaries have inspired me as much as this one.
It wasn’t Tony Robbins who inspired me. Instead, I was inspired by the peopl
Your Relationships Are Killing You
I truly believe that your relationships are the most important factor to your health (and I'm not talking about relationships in the way you might be thinking).
You don't want to miss this one because this episode will get you thinking!
What you’ll learn in this episode:
The types of relationships that take away from your health
How to reframe “stress” so you regain your power
A simple proces
The One Thing I Use to Get Back on Track to Achieving My Goals
This episode was inspired by an article titled “The one sentence that finally inspired me to lose 70 pounds”.
I read that and thought to myself, “I want to know that one thing!!!”
Not because I feel I need to lose 70 pounds, but because anytime someone claims to know the one thing/secret/habit I really want to hear it.
So I checked it out….and liked what I read!
But the point of the article ma
Who Will You Become In 2025? My Favorite Practice For Ensuring A Healthy, Wealthy and Amazing New Year
Who will you become in 2018? We're all used to setting new years resolutions and goals for what we want to DO in the upcoming year, but rarely do we make time for a much more important exercise -- being clear on who we want to become in the new year.
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The 6 F's - Having It A.L.L. Framework Part 3
This is part 3 in my series where I'm breaking down the meaning of A.L.L. - Abundant Loving Life, and where I'm sharing my framework for "having it all".
In the A.L.L. framework, I've chosen to focus on what I think are 6 key areas of life: Faith, Family, Friends, Fitness, Finance, and Fun.
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What is Your Love Conversation? - Having It A.L.L. Framework Part 2
Continuing our series on the Having It A.L.L. framework, today's episode is all about LOVE.
I have a special guest on this episode with me today, one perfectly suited to chat with me about love.
In this conversation you'll learn:
The difference between conditional and unconditional love
Where love falls in David R. Hawkin's "Scale Of Consciousness"
The distinction between attachment and conn
What is Abundance and How Do I Invite More Into My Life? - Having It A.L.L. Framework Part 1
I’ve always been inspired by the genius men and women who were able to take a concept such as love, or effectiveness or even personal finance, and find the patterns within them that can allow ordinary mortals like you and I to tap into and experience these things fully.
Well before I had a podcast called Having It A.L.L., I had an idea about what “having it all” meant to me, and I witnessed much
A Simple Framework for "Having It All" in Your Life
What does "having it all" mean to you?
It’s a question that I ask all of the guests I have on the show, and it’s a question to which I’ve never heard the exact same answer twice.
I started this podcast partly because of the polarizing nature of that question.
On one side you have people who believe that you can have it all, and who are quick to give their version of what it looks like. On the o
What To Do When Someone Challenges Your Beliefs
We have all been in a situation where another person has challenged a belief that we held.
Big or small, we know what it feels like to be questioned and to then feel like we need to defend our beliefs.
Well, I'm no stranger to this either, and I had an excellent opportunity to experience this very thing during a recent podcast interview!
The episode that you're about to listen to was recorded
A Story of Healing: Using Curiosity and Courage to Find Yourself with Monique Ruffin
Monique Ruffin is a celebration of living. She is one of those people that folks say has “A beautiful soul”.
And I completely understand why.
Monique grew up in the neighborhood of Watts in Los Angeles. Yes, that Watts. It's where Sanford And Sons was set, and was where Denzel Washington and Ethan Hawke duke it out in Training Day.
That neighborhood is not known for many empowering things, but
Why You're Failing to Tap Into Your Full Creative Potential and How to Actually Do Something About It!
“We are all creators. Whether or not we create is not up to us. We are human, and creating is what we do.” - Michael Gungor
You are a creator! Yes, you. Whether you not you believe it is irrelevant, because like Michael Gungor said, “We are human and creating is what we do.”
In every role we play in life -- parent, spouse, friend, lover, community member, coach -- we create experiences and meani
Why Personal Mission Statements Are the Most Powerful Way to Uncover Your Direction and Path
At the end of last week's episode I left you with a cliffhanger.
Last week I was talking about FEEDBACK and the power of feedback to ensure you stay on path in life. I introduced the question, "What's the point of being on path if you don't know where the path is leading you to?"
I left you with the promise that the next episode would be about Mission Statements and would feature a special guest
Learning How to Be Awesome When Life Hits You With Circumstances with Faydra Koenig
I’m a firm believer that life is always going to throw circumstances your way, especially when you say (or think) you’re ready to handle them.
Circumstances can look like a fender bender, a letter from the IRS, a pet needing to go to the vet, and pretty much whatever other not-sought-after experience that you can think of.
Enter Faydra Koenig, a woman who has been through her fair share of circu
Moving Through Hell and Rising Above Circumstances with Colleen Crain
We’ve all been through situations that, at the time, felt never ending.
Time crawls by. Our bodies respond to the tension. Our minds race from present to future to past.
Going through hell feels like going through hell.
But if you’re reading this, if you’re here right now, then that means you made it through hell.You survived!
Because when you walk through hot coals, your feet get tougher and
How Do I Make Sure I’m “On Path” To My Greatest Self?
What is simultaneously the most significant factor and biggest barrier to becoming your greatest self?
Without this thing, airplanes would not make it to their final destination, corporate managers would have less work to do, and you would reach a ceiling with your potential.
It's something that confronts the ego so directly that many people shy away from it at any cost. Yet, it is a powerful to
A Story of Dreams, Perseverance, and Taking the Road Less Traveled with Mike Mills
This powerful conversation stemmed from a tip a friend gave me, “Matthew, you have got to interview this guy!”
The guy I was being encouraged to speak with was Mike Mills.
Mike is an exceptionally unique guy. He has what I call the Small “s” success and Big “S” Success. Mike is the owner and operator of the Buffalo Outdoor Center, a lodging and outfitting resort sitting on the historic Buffalo R
How Aware Are You of Your Influence on Others?
We are all influencers.
Everyday we influence, without fail, we influence three groups: our Selves, Others and Life.
However, many of us go through life unaware of just how much we influence these groups, and unconscious of the power of influence we really have.
Yet, despite this lack of awareness and intention, we are still wielding this power of influence in many ways, some more responsibly th
How to JUMP Into the Life You Truly Want to Live
Love and Fear.
It's what all decisions in our lives can be boiled down to.
Fear can be one heck of a beast!
We all know because we all can recall times when we let fear overpower our ability to make clear decisions.
I lived much of my life in fear and can vividly remember making choices from a place a fear since early on.
And I also remember the feeling after those choices. The feeling of hav
How to Create the Biggest Shifts in Your Wellbeing - Dr. Michelle Robin
How do you define "wellbeing"?
How about breaking down the word into it's two parts -- WELL and BEING -- what do those words mean to you?
My guest in today's conversation is clear on what those words mean to her, and is on a mission to spread her message of whole wellbeing.
Dr. Michelle Robin is a chiropractor by trade, but has expanded herself into an author, speaker, and podcaster.
STRUGGLI
The Massive Difference Between Big "S" Success and Small "s" Success
You have been lied to about success.
Like most of us, we've been told that success is determined by factors "out there".
Achievements, accolades, possessions, titles, certifications, promotions - you know the deal.
But you've also been told that success is simply a mindset. You are successful if you feel successful.
But I'm introducing a new concept to the mix. The concept of little "s" succe
Igniting Your “Guttural Brushfire”: The Impact of Mission Statements, Powerful Words, and Unconditional Love with Sandy Chambers
What would your life look like if you were fully engaged? If you were living your life to the max? If you were experiencing a "guttural brushfire"?
That’s the question that my guest today has been meditating on.
Sandy Chambers is very close persona friend of mine and one of the most consciously mature people I know. She devours books, videos, podcasts -- anything that she can get her hands on th
How to Use Discontent to Create Your Finest Moments with Dianne Crampton
Have you experienced true discontent in your life?
That’s totally a rhetorical question because if you’re alive then that means you’ve been in situations that you haven’t liked. The real question is, how did you handle those situations?
My guest in today’s conversation is Dianne Crampton, and she would guess that you did one of three things: blamed someone else, ignored it all together, or asked
The Secret Consequences of Being Authentic and Transparent with Paul Colaianni
Paul Colaianni has not always led an authentic life.
Experiences as a child taught him that authenticity and self expression were detrimental to his health and the health of those around him, so he bottled them up. The result was a life rife with unsteady relationships, frustration, and disillusionment.
It wasn’t until facing the end of another relationship, that Paul reached an emotional, men
How to “Lead From Center” and Create More Powerful Results in Your Life with Amy Balog
What does it mean to “lead from center”?
It's a question that many high achievers ask themselves (or are asked of themselves), and it's a question that my guest today is going to help us answer.
To Amy Balog, leading from center means being so in-tune with yourself -- knowing who you are, and what makes you tick -- that you're able to create amazing results in your life and the life of others.
The Practice of Manifestation, Self Compassion, and Making a Difference with Colleen Patrick Goudreau
Colleen Patrick Goudreau lives a life of compassion.
She has compassion for animals, which influenced her to choose a vegan lifestyle (on which she is a leading authority). She has compassion for other people, which influenced the message she spreads to the world. And she has compassion for herself, which, through intentional practice, has allowed her to experience herself fully and manifest her
YES, You Can HAVE IT ALL! My Final Episode Of The Having It A.L.L. Podcast
Here we are, my friend. The final episode of Having It A.L.L.!
It has been an awesome 8 years, and in today’s episode I’m going to share my thoughts, memories and takeaways with you all.
Let’s do this!
RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE
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Mastering The Game of Emotional Regulation
What is emotional regulation and what part does it play in having it all?
In today’s episode I’m diving deep into the world of emotional regulation and emotional intelligence because these two concepts (and their related parts) are critical components of living a self fulfilled life.
Without a healthy level of emotional intelligence, it’s extremely hard to get from where you are now in your li
When You Understand THIS SIMPLE IDEA You Can IMPROVE ANY RELATIONSHIP! (HIA Classic)
Can every relationship be improved? And if so, how would you actually do it??
Today I'm sharing with you an incredibly effective way to improve any relationship in your life, from a marriage to a friendship to your relationship with your boss or neighbor.
This episode pulls from my own personal life and the relationship experiences that I have created. The conversation today will impact how you
From Victim to Victor: A Conversation About Overcoming Adversity, Redefining Privilege and Creating Change with Brian Thomas
Which of life’s circumstances do you feel a victim to?
There was a time in my guest's life when his answer to this question might have been very lengthy.
In today’s episode I’m bringing you a conversation I had with my friend, Brian Thomas. Brian is an author, husband, father, and a man who is boldly choosing to have it all in his life.
When Brian was 13 he underwent the first of several kidney
Treat Him Like A King, Treat Her Like A Queen: A Conversation About Fully Loving, Honoring and Supporting Your Partner (HIA Classic)
What does it really mean to treat your partner like a King or Queen?
As Sarah and I have grown in our marriage, the concept of treating one another as a King and Queen has grown as well. At first the idea brought up our own issues with self worth, love and relationship roles. But today, we both powerfully fill our roles of King and Queen respectively, and we make it priority to not only treat one
4 Myths and 3 Truths About This Thing Called “Balance”
Do you believe that balance is possible for you?
So many people seek out balance, yet they fall short again and again.
It’s been my experience as a BALANCE Lifestyle Coach, that the biggest reason why people fail at balance isn’t because of their lack of effort or plan, it’s because of their perspective on balance in the first place.
In today’s episode I’m debunking common myths around balance, a
Is Your Life Feeling Out Of Control? Here Are 2 Simple Ways To Get Your Sense Of Stability Back
What do you do when your life feels out of control?
Whether it’s a single area of your life, or everywhere all at once, when things feel out of control it can be debilitating.
I’ve been there and I know the feeling of helplessness and frustration that comes as a result.
However, you don’t have to stay there! There are simple things that you can do that are entirely effective at putting you back
All Great Leaders Make Time To Do This ONE THING In The Morning (Are You?)
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How comfortable are you saying "no" in your life?
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