Sex Love & Soul
Sex, Love & Soul is a podcast hosted by Mary Knight, a former escort and madame turned men's coach. The show offers unfiltered guidance on sex, desire, intimacy, and power, aiming to help men embody grounded masculine presence. It avoids shame and sugarcoating, providing real talk for personal growth and confidence.
Episodes
51. Low Sex - No Sex Marriage
What really kills sex in a marriage? Is it menopause—or is it something deeper? In this episode of Sex, Love & Soul, I (Mary Knight) answer the question so many men are quietly asking: Why doesn’t my wife want me anymore?We go far beyond hormones and into the hidden dynamics of masculine and feminine energy, emotional leadership, and the ways “nice guy” conditioning sabotages intimacy. I break
50. How to Avoid Low Sex Women
Captain Save-A-Ho: Why Nice Guys End Up with Low-Sex WomenAre you constantly drawn to women who seem sweet, wounded, and low on desire—and telling yourself she just needs the right man? In this episode of Sex, Love & Soul, I unpack the hidden dynamic that keeps nice guys stuck in sexless relationships. We’ll talk people-pleasing, birth control, bad boundaries, and the seductive trap of trying
49. Ghosted By an Escort?
You thought it meant something. She said all the right things. Then—she vanished.If you’ve ever been ghosted by an escort—or anyone—you know the pain is real. You’re left confused, rejected, and obsessing over what went wrong. In this episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on why this happens, what’s really going on behind her silence, and how you can stop investing your time and energy in pain.I’m
48. Fantasy v/s Reality: The Shocking Truth About Dating an Escort!
Are you a man who’s ever fallen for an escort—or wondered why so many men do? This video is for you.I’m Mary Knight, a top dating coach for men who struggle with “nice guy” syndrome, confidence, and relationships. And today, I’m pulling back the curtain on one of the most complex, misunderstood dynamics in modern dating: men falling in love with sex workers.🚨 Here’s the truth: Seeing an escort isn
47. Nice Doesn't Get You Laid
Nice doesn’t get you laid. Leadership does.In this episode of Sex, Love & Soul, I’m breaking down the real reason “nice guys” get stuck in friend zones, sexless marriages, and fantasy-fueled frustration. You’ve been told to be polite, patient, respectful. But if you’re shape-shifting to earn approval, you’re not attracting anyone—you’re disappearing.I’m Mary Knight, and I’ll show you exactly w
46. Sex Work: Why I Gave It Up
What happens when the lines blur between professional and personal relationships? In this deeply personal episode, I share the story of my time as an escort and the unexpected proposal from a longtime client that made me confront my boundaries, my values, and my future. From the allure of financial security to the stark realization of what I truly needed in a relationship, I reflect on the emotion
45. Nice Guys: Stand Your Ground!
Welcome back to Sex, Love & Soul—I’m Mary Knight, your relationship coach and guide for men ready to break free from the “nice guy” trap and discover genuine confidence, healthy boundaries, and fulfilling romantic connections. Today’s conversation, recorded on a chilly Texas morning as I head to the gym, dives straight into a core issue I see in so many coaching sessions: the struggle to set a
44. My Strip Club Initiation
At 34, stepping into a strip club for the first time to work as a waitress, I was catapulted into a world where the lines between safety, shame, and empowerment were blurred. Transitioning from waitressing to stripping, and eventually to private escorting, I found myself navigating through layers of personal and societal judgments.Welcome to Sex, Love, and Soul, where we delve into the less-travel
43. Nice Guys & Mommy Issues
Welcome to Sex, Love, and Soul! In this episode, I explore the complex and heartfelt stories behind the “nice guy” persona, as shared by viewers through personal emails. We’ll dive into the different ways upbringing, particularly dynamics with mothers, has shaped the lives of many men—sometimes leading to lifelong patterns of self-sacrifice, suppressed desires, and unfulfilled relationships.I refl
42. Dating Myths: How You're Being Brainwashed
Are you tired of being told you need to drop a fortune on a first date just to prove you’re “serious”? In this episode of Sex, Love, and Soul, I—Mary Knight—unpack the new dating pressures created by social media “experts” and debunk the myth that an expensive steakhouse is the only way to impress a woman. We’ll explore why you don’t have to break the bank to show genuine interest, how true confid
41. My Escort Past: Money & Shame
Welcome to Sex, Love & Soul, hosted by me, Mary Knight! I'm thrilled you've joined me for another episode where I go a little deeper into my past life as an escort. Today, I'll continue from where we left off in our last discussion about cam girls, responding to an insightful email that raised questions about the digital transformation of intimacy.
In today's episode, I'll share why, despite
40. Revealing My Escort Past
Welcome to Sex, Love & Soul! I’m Mary Knight, and in today’s episode, I’m diving deeper into my past as both an escort and a Madam—an experience many of you have been curious about.
While I don’t often share these stories and never for pure shock value, I believe there’s so much to learn from what men revealed to me about why they chose to see me rather than be at home with their wives. It’s
39. Nice Guys Turn to Sex Workers - Why?
Are you the nice guy stuck in relationships that feel more like friendships? Are you convincing yourself it's enough—when deep down, you know it's not? Today, we’re diving into why this happens and how to break free.
Hi, I’m Mary Knight, a relationship coach with a unique background and over 15 years of experience helping men transform their lives and relationships. My journey began as a retired
38. Men, Please Stop Apologizing For Being Men
In this episode of Sex, Love & Soul, I, Mary Knight, get into why some "nice guys" struggle with owning their sexuality. Many men arrive on a date with good intentions but often hold back, treating the woman like a fragile victim of male sexuality. This mindset keeps them from truly connecting, both emotionally and physically. I’m not saying men's actions don't sometimes harm women, but most w
37. Nice Guy Trap: How it Hurts Your Sex Life
Sex Love and Soul is a place where we cut through the myths around relationships and intimacy, especially for the "nice guys" who struggle to connect deeply with women. I’m Mary Knight, your host, and today, we’re going to explore why being a nice guy doesn’t always get the results you want in your love life and how to shift from being stuck in your head to truly being present in your body.
Women
36. Respect Doesn't Fuel Female Desire: Female Sex Drive Pt 3
Why She Put You in the Friendzone: What You're Missing About Female Attraction
In this episode of Sex, Love, and Soul, I, Mary Knight, dive deep into a crucial topic for men—what female sex drive isn't. Many men unknowingly focus on the wrong things in dating, which can land them squarely in the friendzone.
Do you think being respectful or walking on eggshells will make her see you as a romantic p
35. What Does It Mean When She Needs Space Female Sex Drive Pt 2
Feeling confused when a woman suddenly needs space, stops responding to your texts, or seems less available? You're not alone. In this video, we'll get into what's really going on when a woman pulls away during the first few weeks of dating. Is it something you did? Or is it just part of how women rekindle their attraction? We’ll explore why even after an amazing date or great sex, a woman might i
35. Demystifying Female Sex Drive Part 1
Understanding Female Sex Drive: A Guide for Men
Welcome to the first video in a special series designed specifically for men, inspired by the questions I’ve received from my community. While my coaching, courses, and podcast primarily focus on women, I’ve noticed an increasing number of queries from men seeking to understand the fundamentals of female sex drive. This series aims to demystify this
33. Self Sabotage is Bullsh*t
What if I told you there’s no such thing as self-sabotage? Would you believe me? There is no dark part of your psyche trying to mess up your life!
This podcast explores the truth behind seemingly unproductive behaviors and what that critical voice inside your head is really trying to tell you.
Your inner critic isn't trying to punish you - it's trying to keep you safe. Our brain’s primar
32. Stop Being Triggered & Take Control
I’ll share actionable techniques you can use in the moment to quickly and effectively resolve triggers.
I’ll guide you through practical steps to move through your emotions and manage triggers with grace and a sense of control. These steps aren’t just theoretical; they’re based on my journey and the methods I’ve honed over the past 20 years.
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31. Women Who Cheat
How women use cheating as a relationship strategy...you read that right! If you're one of 'em you're not alone. Listen in for a more empowered way to cope with relationship b.s.
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30. Once a Cheater Always a Cheater?
In today's episode, we're diving deep into a topic that's as complex as it is common: infidelity. Drawing from my personal experiences, we're going to explore cheating from both perspectives—being cheated on and being the cheater.
My journey with infidelity started early, back when I was 19 and engaged to a man who was unfaithful throughout our relationship. But what shaped my unde
29. Sex & Drugs
Let's talk about sex and drugs! Today, I'm talking about the intricate relationship between dating, sex, and past experiences with drugs and alcohol. For many of us, the association between dating and intoxicants runs deep, stemming from our youth and popular culture. Even as mature, experienced women in our 50s, these associations can resurface unexpectedly, triggering feelings of anxiety
28. You Wanna Be Right or Happy?
Power struggle, anyone? Join me, Mary Knight, on a profound exploration of your personal journey towards freedom and connection. In this episode, we get into the transformative power of shedding the need to always be right. Through relatable anecdotes and introspective questions, discover how releasing the grip of righteousness can unlock authenticity and deeper relationships in your life. Whether
27. Secrets That You Keep
Manipulating men with sex and other lies
You are invited to confront your fears, desires, and vulnerabilities. Through candid conversations and soul-stirring revelations, Mary illuminates the transformative power of honesty, openness, and self-acceptance. This journey towards understanding and acceptance promises to inspire hope and empower you to foster meaningful connections.
Tune in to "Se
26. Energy Flow & Podcast News
Hello and welcome! Today's episode is announcing a podcast name change. Stop Dating Losers will now be Sex, Love & Soul!
25. From Blame to Brilliance
Welcome to "Stop Dating Losers," where we reflect on our lives filled with proud accomplishments, beautiful children, and successful careers. Yet, when we delve into our romantic past, we're often met with regret.
We've all been there—the inner voice echoing, "Why did I marry that guy?" or "What was I thinking?" We're left feeling guilty and ashamed, pick
24. The Rules
Let's chat about self-trust vs. following strict rules in post-divorce dating. Of all things, I talk about "The Rules" and how sometimes we need to be rigid until we learn to trust ourselves. From setting strict guidelines to embracing flexibility, this episode offers practical advice for finding fulfilling connections in the dating world after divorce. Tune in and empower yourself t
23. From Helper to Healer BONUS for you!!!
Welcome to Stop Dating Losers! This is a bonus episode that is a sort of part 2 to episode 22, General Manager of the Universe. This topic hits close to home for many of you strong, independent women, over fifty who are reentering the dating scene after divorce.
Finding yourself in the role of giver helper fixer, is no longer giving you what you need and now you feel drained and unfulfilled? Wel
22. General Manager of the Universe
Embrace the profound shift from constantly helping and fixing to authentic connection. Yes, it's possible! Tune in for real insights that challenge conventional dating norms and pave the way for deeper emotional intimacy and satisfaction. If you're ready to break free from outdated patterns and embrace a more fulfilling approach to dating and relationships, this episode is for you! Don'
21. Church Lady
"Praise the Lord and pass the ammunition," this timeless phrase echos the essence of human experience, emphasizing the delicate balance between faith and self-preservation. In this podcast, Mary Landgraf gets into the intricate dance of love and spirituality, exploring how to honor both divine guidance and personal boundaries in the realm of relationships. Join us as she unravels the com
20. Undercover Man Hater?
Hey there, it's Mary Landgraf, and welcome back to "Stop Dating Losers!" Today's episode offers a dose of tough love, exploring how our past experiences and unexamined emotions influence our present relationships. Drawing insights from A Course in Miracles, I go through the subtle ways we project past hurts onto current situations, often thinking we're defending ourselves whe
19. Heal Your Relationship with Men: A Meditation
Join me, Mary Landgraf, on another empowering episode of "Stop Dating Losers," where we dive deep into transforming negative thoughts and healing the relationships women have with men after divorce. In this guided meditation, I guide you through the powerful process of revisiting a time when you felt disappointed by a man. Discover how these past experiences might be influencing your pre
18. Benefits of Resentment
Profound experiences with somatic healing...unraveling the layers of patterns that have lingered since childhood. As I reflect on past relationships and the impact of my fiercely independent nature, I explore the complexities of masculine and feminine energies. Don't miss this authentic and vulnerable exploration that promises healing, self-discovery, and the power to break free from ingrained
17. Pedestal or Prison?
This week, we're getting deeper into the mysteries behind 'Nice Guys' – exploring the fine line between niceness and kindness, the pitfalls of pedestals, and why women often find themselves exhausted in the pursuit of authentic connections. Join me for a candid discussion on objectification, boundaries, and the empowering journey of rediscovering what we truly desire in a partner. It&#
16. Matching Energy or Losing Yourself?
Listen in and learn how matching energy destroys you and the men you date! In this episode, we'll explore matching energy in relationships, especially in dating after divorce. I know for years, I was losing myself in an attempt to dazzle and impress the men I dated. Along the way, I learned there is a fine line between holding space for others and compromising our authenticity. Tune in now for
15. Good Girl Rebellion!
As someone raised in the New Age church, I share my experiences and how the emphasis on positivity had unintended consequences on my self-perception. The pressure to conform to the "good girl" narrative led to internal conflicts and stifled authentic expression.
We explore the impact of unexamined thoughts on our relationships and the tendency to avoid labeling our partners as dishonest.
14. Our Bad Boy Fetish
Why are we attracted to wild, dangerous men who bring us nothing but chaos out of the bedroom? It's not about doing things right or wrong but understanding what truly sparks desire.
This is an interesting and weirdly personal episode. I discuss what I thought of as sexual arousal was more a mental construct than an authentic embodied experience.
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13. Why You Don't Wanna F@$k Nice Guys
Today, I discuss the ins and outs of why we don't want to f&^k nice guys!
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12. (Don't) Stop Looking at Me!
In this episode, I share a very personal story that gets into my unexpected foray into the world of sex work. I recount my initial shock and surprise entering the explicit environment of a strip club while applying for a waitressing job. I eventually transitioned from stripping to working as a private dancer for an escort service. Throughout the episode, I reflect on the impact of my upbringing, t
11. Romantic Realities
Welcome back to 'Stop Dating Losers,' where Mary Landgraf is your guide for navigating the world of dating after 50. In today's episode, we're delving into our perceptions' profound impact on shaping our romantic experiences. Join me as we explore the fascinating connection between mindset and the men and love we attract. Discover actionable insights and practical tips to break
10. Stop Friend Zone-ing Men
In this episode of Sex, Love & Soul, we’ll get into the expectations surrounding sex on the first date. I'll shed light on the fundamental differences in how men and women approach dating, highlighting the importance of understanding each other's intentions. For women, a date is about getting to know a person on a deeper level, while for men, it often involves the desire to seduce. We&
9. How I Got Into Sex Work and Found True Love
In this episode, we'll delve into my unusual background, exploring the experiences that shaped my understanding of intimacy, relationships, and the art of meaningful connections. From navigating the nuances of dating to unraveling the mysteries of desire, I share anecdotes, lessons, and practical advice drawn from my rich and diverse experiences.
Get ready to be inspired, entertained, and enli
8. What Are Words For?
Join me on a thought-provoking journey through the intricacies of dating, self-perception, and the significant impact of words in relationships. In this episode, we explore the dynamics of attraction, the discrepancies between words and actions, and the common tendency to doubt ourselves instead of questioning the sincerity of others. We get into the reasons behind this behavior, touching on the i
7. Upgrading Your Past Self: A Makeover for Memories
In my latest podcast episode, I get into my ongoing journey of upgrading the way I view my past self. This exploration began around earlier this year when I was deeply engrossed in drafting my memoir, which centers around my experiences entering the world of sex work. I reflect on a particular colleague, Camille, and how my initial description of her physical appearance was less than flattering. I
6. Messy Men and Lessons from My Madame Part 2
Hey there! We're continuing our chat about the intriguing Five Finger Rule in this episode. You won't believe how setting some basic standards can totally change your dating game. I'm sharing insights from my unique journey, where my experiences as an escort turned into valuable dating lessons. From weeding out control freaks to avoiding emotionally needy folks, we'll cover it all.
5. Messy Men and Lessons from My Madame part 1
In this episode, we're diving back into the five-finger rule, a simple but game-changing guide for dating. We'll break down each of the five criteria - dating doesn't have to be hard, y'all! You won't believe how this basic rule transformed my dating life and helped my friends too. Sometimes, it's the simple stuff that does the trick. I'll also share personal stories ab
4. Should Woulda Coulda
In this episode, I delve into my sex work past, reflecting on the decisions and patterns that shaped my dating history. With a mix of self-awareness and a touch of embarrassment, I share candidly about moments when I ignored red flags and engaged in relationships that didn't serve me. From navigating Austin's music scene to my quirky dating dynamic, I discuss the evolution of my understand
3. Confidence or Self Worth? Are they even the same?
In this episode, we explore distinguishing between self-confidence and self-worth. From early social successes masking underlying insecurities to tumultuous relationships, I share very personal experiences. The realization that I wasn't a victim but a creator of my reality emerged during my time in sex work. This distinction transformed my approach to choices, relationships, and self-worth. Jo
2. Broken Picker?
Welcome to this episode, where we dissect the intriguing concept of relationship red flags. I share insights into how our perceptions of these warning signs can be subjective and vary from person to person. Drawing from my experience as a relationship coach and wife, I discuss the importance of distinguishing between quirks and genuine concerns when evaluating a potential partner.
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Learn how to spot and date great guys!
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Sharing a personal story, I recount a relationship that seemed picture-perfect by the rule's standards, only to unravel due to unexpected complexities, revealing the intricacies of modern dating.
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