Restoring Resilience with Chelsey Brooke Cole
This podcast offers a compassionate, clinical approach to recovering from narcissistic abuse. Hosted by psychotherapist and author Chelsey Brooke Cole, it focuses on practical tools like setting authentic boundaries and shifting your mindset about past trauma. Each episode addresses the confusion, guilt, and self-doubt that survivors often feel, replacing clichés with real strategies for becoming emotionally unshakeable. The show emphasizes that worth is inherent and that healing can lead to a meaningful life beyond trauma.
Episodes
Why Covert Narcissists Are So Much Harder to See with Dr. Les Carter
Covert narcissists don't announce themselves. They're pleasant, humble, sometimes the wounded one in the room — and that's exactly why you don't see the abuse coming. Dr. Les Carter — psychotherapist, bestselling author, and creator of the Surviving Narcissism YouTube channel — joins me to break down the covert presentation of narcissism and the mind games that come with it. They cover why covert
Is Narcissism Genetic? A Psychologist Reveals the Shocking Truth
Do narcissists know what they're doing? Are they born that way — and if so, can we still hold them accountable? Dr. Peter Salerno, licensed psychotherapist and expert in personality disorders and pathological relationship dynamics, joins the show to explain what the research actually says. Heritability estimates for narcissistic traits now range from 40% to over 70%, drawn from fifty years of twin
The Female Narcissist Plays A Different Game with Jared Mello
Most narcissistic abuse content assumes the victim is a woman. Jared Mello's isn't — he survived a covert female narcissist, and he now coaches men and women who are living it. He's blunt about the parts that go unspoken. That a man disclosing abuse by a woman has to think carefully about where he says it, because plenty of rooms will tell him to shut up. That the damage is often emasculation — be
She Married Him for 27 Years — He Was Poisoning Her Kids the Whole Time
She spent 27 years married to a man who was quietly turning her own children against her — and she's one of the world's leading experts on coercive control. Dr. Christine Cocchiola (TEDx speaker with 1.5M+ views, trained under Dr. Evan Stark) joins me to expose what's really happening when your child comes home from your ex's house saying words that cut the deepest. Coercive control isn't "hidden
What Betrayal Trauma Does to Your Body That Doctors Completely Miss
Your body is exhausted. Your nervous system is on high alert. And no matter what you try, something still feels off. The gut problems, the anxiety, the brain fog, the walls you can't seem to lower… survivors are often told it's stress, or aging, or that they should be "over it by now." Betrayal trauma expert Dr. Debi Silber is here to tell you it's none of those things — it's Post Betrayal Syndro
Words Disappearing Mid-Sentence? Here's What's Actually Happening
Have you ever been mid-sentence and completely lost your words? In this episode, author Ellen Tift — creator of the There's a Word for That book series — explains the science behind why your body responds the way it does to narcissistic abuse and complex trauma, and why "just calm down" is never the answer. In this episode: The garden metaphor for the traumatized body: why the roots of who you
Why You Don't Know Who You Are Anymore After Narcissistic Abuse with Bill Eddy
You were kind, agreeable, willing to compromise — and somewhere along the way, you stopped recognizing yourself. If you've left a narcissistic relationship unsure what you like, what you want, or whether you can trust your own memory, this episode gives you the language for why. Chelsey talks with Bill Eddy — attorney, therapist, mediator, and author of 20+ books including Splitting — about how
The 3-Stage System Narcissists Use to Pick Their Target
Have you ever looked back and thought, "He saw exactly what I needed... and used it against me"? That gut feeling isn't paranoia — it's accurate. In this episode, psychotherapist Chelsey Brooke Cole breaks down the dark psychology behind how narcissists and predators actually choose their targets, and the answer might surprise you: predators don't go after the weak, they go after the warm. Chels
He Designed the Abuse Specifically for You — with Kate Anthony
You can't catch a covert abuser with a checklist. They don't follow a script — they follow you. Divorce coach Kate Anthony spent years deciding the definition of emotional abuse didn't fit her marriage — because her ex was never overt. The harm was quieter: a slow, tailored erosion of her sense of self that no bullet list could capture. In this conversation, Kate explains why the checklist keeps s
They're Always in Control: A Therapist's 30-Year Study of Male Abusers
"He never lost his temper. He chose it." Don Hennessy spent more than three decades sitting across from male intimate abusers — and what they taught him upends nearly everything we assume about how abuse works. In this episode, Don Hennessy — former Clinical Director of Ireland's National Domestic Violence Intervention Project and author of Steps to Freedom: Escaping Intimate Control — explains
She Knew the Red Flags & Still Got Trapped: Dr. Kerry McAvoy's Narcissistic Abuse Story
Can a psychologist fall victim to a narcissist? Dr. Kerry McAvoy says yes — and she lived it. In this powerful episode, Kerry shares her personal journey of narcissistic abuse recovery after losing her husband to cancer and being targeted by a predatory partner who used coercive control to trap her. If you've ever doubted yourself in a toxic relationship or wondered how to spot a narcissist befor
How to Stop Feeling Powerless (Even After Years of Abuse)
Have you ever felt so beaten down that you stopped trying to change things — stopped fighting for your boundaries, stopped taking care of yourself — because it felt like nothing you did actually mattered? That's not a character flaw. That's what narcissistic abuse does. And in this episode, I'm talking about the one psychological concept that has to be rebuilt before anything else in your healing
5 Signs You've Experienced Abuse (Even If You Don't Realize It)
Do you second-guess yourself constantly — wondering if what happened to you even "counts" as abuse? In this episode, I'm sharing five statements I hear from survivors over and over again — phrases that immediately tell me someone has experienced relational trauma, even when they've never labeled it that way. These feel like random doubts, but they're not. They're patterns. And once you can see the
You Escaped One Narcissist… And Walked Straight Into Another
If you've ever escaped a narcissistic relationship only to find yourself in another one, this episode is for you. Not the "here are the red flags to watch for" version you've heard before — the real conversation. The one that goes all the way back to the emotional needs that didn't get met when you were young, and explains how those needs have been quietly choosing your partners ever since. I'm jo
Green Flags After Narcissistic Abuse: How to Know a Relationship Is Actually Healthy
After narcissistic abuse, most of us are so focused on what we don't want that we never learned what a healthy relationship actually looks like. In this episode — Part 2 of my series on creating healthy relationships after narcissistic abuse — I'm giving you the practical roadmap. I'm walking you through 4 green flags that will tell you more about a person's character than any red flag checklist e
Why Looking for Red Flags Is Keeping You Stuck (And What to Do Instead)
After surviving narcissistic abuse, most of us do one of two things: obsess over red flags — or give up on love entirely. In this episode, I'm breaking down why neither of those approaches will lead you to a healthy relationship, and what you actually need to do instead. If you've survived narcissistic abuse, betrayal trauma, or gaslighting and you're wondering whether you can ever trust yourself
Are You REALLY Codependent — Or Is It Something Deeper?
In this powerful episode, Chelsey sits down with renowned psychotherapist and bestselling author Ross Rosenberg to completely reframe what we think we know about codependency — and why the label itself may be doing more harm than good for narcissistic abuse survivors. Ross introduces his groundbreaking concept of Self Love Deficit Disorder (SLDD) — the deeper truth beneath codependency — and expl
Why Narcissists Always Blame You (and the AI tool helping you fight back)
In this episode of the Restoring Resilience Podcast, I sit down with Anne Wintemute, the co-founder and CEO of AimeeSays, to discuss a groundbreaking tool designed specifically for survivors of domestic and narcissistic abuse. Unlike standard AI models, AimeeSays is a trauma-informed system that understands the complexities of coercive control, gaslighting, and the systemic hurdles survivors face.
Why You Saw the Red Flags… and Stayed Anyway (Betrayal Blindness Explained)
You saw the red flags. You felt like something was off. And part of you knew… but you stayed anyway. So many survivors of narcissistic abuse find themselves asking: "Why didn't I leave sooner?" "Why didn't I trust my gut?" In this episode, we're breaking down the psychology behind that question so you can finally understand why this happens—and start releasing the self-blame that comes with it. Yo
How to Help Your Child Think for Themselves (Even with a Narcissistic Co-Parent)
In this power-packed podcast episode of Restoring Resilience, join me as I sit down with Chris and Lisa, true experts in handling a high-conflict divorce and navigating the complexities of child custody cases. They offer invaluable insights for anyone divorcing a narcissist and strategies for overcoming parental alienation. This discussion is crucial for understanding the dynamics of narcissistic
Why You Keep Attracting Narcissists (And How to Finally Break the Cycle)
Have you ever asked yourself, "Why do I keep attracting narcissists?" If that question has been on your mind, this episode of Restoring Resilience with Chelsey Brooke Cole is going to give you a completely different answer than what you've probably been told. Because the truth is… You're not broken. You're not weak. And you're not the problem. In this episode, we break down: Why narcissists are dr
Deep Dive with the Ex-Wife to the Wolf of Wallstreet - Dr. Nadine Macaluso
In this powerful podcast episode of Restoring Resilience, Chelsey Brooke Cole sits down with Dr. Nadine Macaluso (Dr. Nae) — psychotherapist, trauma bond expert, and author of Run Like Hell — to break down the psychology behind trauma bonds, narcissistic abuse, and emotional attachment to toxic partners. Most people know Dr. Nae as the real-life inspiration behind The Wolf of Wall Street… But her
Trapped In A Toxic Relationship? Here's Why You Stay With the Narcissist
In this episode of Restoring Resilience, Chelsey Brooke Cole breaks down why it's so hard to leave a toxic relationship with a narcissist. We cover: ✔ What a trauma bond actually is (and why it feels like addiction) ✔ How your nervous system keeps pulling you back ✔ The role of intermittent reinforcement (why the "good moments" keep you stuck) ✔ What euphoric recall is and how it distorts your mem
How Do You Cope When a Narcissist Turns Your Kids Against You?
If you're co-parenting with a narcissist, you may eventually face one of the most painful challenges of narcissistic abuse: parental alienation. When a narcissistic parent feels a loss of control during divorce or separation, they often escalate their tactics. One of the most common strategies is turning the children against the other parent. In this episode of Restoring Resilience, therapist Chel
If You're Wondering "Is He a Narcissist?" Listen to This
In this episode of Restoring Resilience with Chelsey Brooke Cole, we explore the early psychological signs that you may be in a narcissistic or emotionally toxic relationship — especially when nothing looks obviously abusive on the surface. Often, the first red flag isn't their behavior. It's the change in you. Narcissistic abuse doesn't just hurt you in obvious ways. It slowly erodes your clarity
Why Narcissists Stay Close to Their Ex (And What It Really Means)
There is a psychological reason narcissists stay close to their ex, and it's not about love, closure, or friendship. Narcissists are not motivated by connection, closure, or emotional honesty the way healthy people are. They are motivated by access. Access to your attention. Access to your emotional energy. Access to knowing they still matter to you. What looks like friendliness is often regulatio
How Covert Narcissists Create Self Doubt
In this episode of Restoring Resilience with Chelsey Brooke Cole, we unpack how vulnerable narcissists (often called covert narcissists) slowly and strategically create self-doubt over time, without explosive arguments or obvious rage. Unlike grandiose narcissists, vulnerable narcissists don't appear arrogant or dominant. And that's exactly what makes the manipulation so confusing. If this episod
Healing After Narcissistic Abuse Starts Here | Restoring Resilience with Chelsey Brooke Cole
Narcissistic abuse has a way of making you doubt your reality. Gaslighting, manipulation, and chronic unpredictability can leave your nervous system stuck in survival mode, replaying conversations, second-guessing yourself, and feeling disconnected from who you used to be. This podcast is a safe place to begin healing. I'm Chelsey Brooke Cole, licensed psychotherapist, certified partner trauma the
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