Growth Over Easy: Relationship Skills for Long-Term Love
Growth Over Easy is a relationship podcast for couples and individuals who want lasting, fulfilling love. Hosted by relationship coach Lilly Rachels, it explores the nervous system patterns, attachment styles, and childhood blueprints that influence how we love and conflict. The show offers practical skills for emotional regulation, intimacy, conflict repair, and staying present in difficult moments. Drawing on Relational Life Therapy and somatic work, each episode makes complex relationship concepts accessible and actionable. New episodes are released weekly.
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189: Uncovering Your Protective Self, Staying in Integrity, and Why Labels Let You Off the Hook
www.lillyrachels.com This week I’m sharing something that came up in a session: a client who kept casting her coworkers as “the parents” and herself as “the kid.”Underneath it was a protective mechanism: if she never took full ownership, she never had to risk being “not good enough.”We traced it back together, and it led somewhere deeper: a lack of self-trust. Not keeping promises to herself. Sayi
188: Stop Speaking Your Truth: Why It Is Damaging Your Relationship (And What to Do Instead)
“Speak your truth” sounds like the most honest thing you can do. But it’s not. Your truth is your perspective. It is what is real within your current awareness. And when you hold it like a fact, like the final word on what happened or who your partner is, there is nowhere left for the conversation to go.I heard a quote about ten years ago that I have never forgotten. Honesty changes with one’s awa
187: The Time Machine: Why You Keep Having the Same Fight (Part 5 of 5): The Nervous System Pattern Quietly Killing Connection
Subscribe to get the free guide: The 5 Relational Patterns That Are Quietly Killing Your ConnectionYou start arguing about something small. And then somehow, a few minutes in, you’re not talking about tonight anymore. You’re talking about something that happened three years ago.That’s the time machine. And if it keeps happening, it’s not because you’re petty or stuck. It’s because something real h
186: The Performance: Why Being Easy Is Slowly Starving Your Relationship (Part 4 of 5): The Nervous System Pattern Quietly Killing Connection
Being easy to be with feels like a gift you’re giving your relationship. But if you’re performing ease you don’t actually feel, it’s slowly starving you both.You say you’re fine. Your partner believes you. And somewhere underneath that, a quiet resentment starts to build, not toward anything specific, just toward never really being known.The performance keeps the surface smooth. But your needs don
185: The Scorecard: Why You Keep Score in Relationships (Part 3 of 5): The Nervous System Pattern Quietly Killing Connection
Subscribe to get the free guide: The 5 Relational Patterns That Are Quietly Killing Your ConnectionYou’re not trying to be difficult. You’re trying to feel seen.But somewhere along the way, the relationship started running on a ledger. Who apologized last. Who initiated last. Who gave more. And no matter what your partner does it never quite feels like enough.That’s the Scorecard. And it’s not a f
184: The Takeover: Why You Escalate During Arguments (Part 2 of 5): The Nervous System Pattern Quietly Killing Connection
Subscribe to get the free guide: The 5 Relational Patterns That Are Quietly Killing Your ConnectionYou’re not trying to fight. You’re trying to fix.But somewhere between feeling disconnected and trying to close that gap, something takes over. You get louder, faster, more urgent. You need this resolved right now.Work with Lilly: Complimentary ConsultThat’s the Takeover. And it’s not a character fla
183: Why You Shut Down During Arguments (Part 1 of 5): The Nervous System Pattern Quietly Killing Connection
This is the first of five episodes on the relational patterns that quietly kill connection.Book a free consult: https://calendar.app.google/RE8uiXs1oL9LrKZ67Your body doesn’t shut down because you stopped caring. It shuts down because it decided the threat was too big to stay present for.You go quiet. You give one-word answers. Maybe you leave the room entirely. And your partner reads it as indiff
182: Why You Think You Know What Your Partner Is Thinking (And Why You're Wrong)
Are You Picking It Up or Making It Up? How Assumptions Are Silently Destroying Your RelationshipYou think you know what your partner meant by that tone. You think you know why they’re quiet. But what if you’re not picking it up, you’re making it up? In this episode, Lilly shares a concept that stops assumption-based communication in its tracks.In this episode, you’ll learn:* The difference between
181: You're Not Avoiding the Fight — You're Making It More Expensive Later
The Right Thing vs. The Real Thing: Why Agreeing Is Slowly Killing Your RelationshipAre you keeping the peace, or quietly losing yourself? In this episode, Lilly breaks down one of the most common and most overlooked patterns she sees in couples: saying the right thing instead of the real thing. It feels like a solution. It’s actually a slow leak.If you’ve ever found yourself saying “it’s fine, do
180: Why Playing the Victim Is Wrecking Your Relationship (And What to Do Instead)
In this episode, Lilly breaks down how victim mentality shows up in relationships and why it keeps couples stuck. She explains what happens when one or both people make change dependent on the other person apologizing first, changing first, or growing first, and why real change starts when you take ownership of what you actually control: you.In this episode, you’ll learn:* How victim mentality sho
179: What ChatGPT Said About Being Human, Presence, and Why You Need to Slow Down
What if ChatGPT gave you a better reminder about being human than most people do?Episode Description:In this episode, Lilly shares a prompt she gave ChatGPT — if you were human for a day, what would you do? — and the response became a reminder about presence, embodiment, and what actually matters. She breaks down why so many of us are missing our lives by moving too fast, thinking too far ahead, o
178: How to Stop Ruminating on the Past and Worrying About the Future (A Nervous System Approach)
In this episode, Lilly breaks down why so many of us get stuck in the woulda coulda shouldas of the past or the what ifs of the future. Using a quote from Peter Crone, she explores why the past could not have happened any other way, what regret and worry look like in the nervous system, and how to come back to the present moment using a simple orienting practice.In this episode, you’ll learn:* Why
177: The Simulation You're Living In, Why You Keep Misreading Your Spouse, and What Past Wounds Have to Do with It
You are not always seeing your partner as they are. A lot of the time, you’re seeing them through your wounds, your beliefs, and your fears.In this episode, Lilly breaks down how we each live in our own simulation when it comes to relationships. She explains how your beliefs about your partner can shape your perception more than reality, how Terry Real’s concept of the core negative image shows up
176: Why Everything Feels So Urgent in Your Life and Relationship (What Your Nervous System Is Really Doing)
In this episode, Lilly breaks down what urgency really is, what’s happening in the nervous system when everything feels like it has to be dealt with right now, and what to do instead. She explains the difference between passion and urgency, why urgency lives in activation, and gives you simple body-based tools to help you slow down and come back into your window of tolerance.In this episode, you’l
175: Core Values, Checking Your Energy, and Why ChatGPT Can't Save Your Relationship
In this episode, Lilly breaks down how to be strategic in your relationship—especially when it comes to disagreements and conflict. She walks through three things that will change the way you approach every hard conversation: knowing your core values, checking your energy, and being human.In this episode, you’ll learn:* Why getting clear on your desired outcome changes everything in conflict* How
174: Why You Keep Having the Same Fight (You're Treating the Symptom, Not the Cause)
In this episode, Lilly breaks down why treating the symptoms of your relationship problems will never fix what’s actually going on, and what to do instead. In this episode, you’ll learn:* Why where you feel the pain in your relationship is not where it originated* The difference between treating symptoms and treating the root cause* How unprocessed experiences become rocks in your backpack* Why re
173: Here's Why Your Wife Says Your Feedback Is Criticism (And How to Fix It)
In this episode, Lilly breaks down why your feedback feels like criticism to your partner—even when you’re genuinely trying to help—and what you can do to shift that.She explains the two reasons feedback lands like criticism: your conduct (the energy behind your words) and the absence of emotional safety in the relationship. She’ll walk you through the fear vs. love framework, redefine what “safet
172: Why You Can't Turn It Off at Home (Chronic Activation Explained for Men)
In this episode, Lilly breaks down what chronic activation is, how you get stuck in it, and what you can do about it. She’ll explain why you might feel like you’re always on alert, always in danger, always one step away from everything falling apart. And she’ll give you one simple resourcing tool that can help you access safety in your nervous system.In this episode, you’ll learn:* What chronic ac
171: Why High-Performing Men Snap at Home (And How to Stop the Explode Shutdown Cycle)
In this episode, Lilly breaks down the Explode Shutdown Cycle: chronic activation → trigger → explosion → guilt → shutdown → repeat.She’ll explain why willpower and communication skills can’t fix this, and what actually works: training your nervous system to expand capacity and move fluidly between activation and safety.In this episode, you’ll learn:* What the Explode Shutdown Cycle is and why it
170: Why You Keep Her at Arm's Length (Fear of Rejection Explained)
You’re keeping your partner at arm’s length.Waiting for the other shoe to drop. Looking for proof they’ll leave.It’s not them. It’s your fear of rejection putting a force field around you that love can’t get through.In this episode, Lilly breaks down the fear of rejection, why it shows up in relationships, and how it becomes a self-fulfilling prophecy. She walks you through the difference between
169: Vagal Authority: Why You Can't Relax at Home (And How to Build It)
FREE CLASS JAN 27: At Ease: Why You Can’t Relax At HomeSave Your SeatYou’re crushing it at work. Managing teams. Solving problems. Making decisions under pressure.But when you get home? You can’t turn it off.Your wife wants to talk and it feels like a chore. Your kids annoy you because you can’t focus. You get into bed and your mind races through tomorrow’s to-do list.There’s no exhale. No downshi
168: Why You Explode Over Small Things (And How to Stop)
FREE MASTERCLASS: Why You Can’t Relax At Home (Even When Nothing Is Wrong): JOIN FOR FREEIf you’ve tried talk therapy, read the books, and still find yourself exploding over small things or shutting down during conflict, this episode is for you.Today I’m sharing a client success story that shows exactly why nervous system work is more effective than traditional talk therapy, especially for men. Yo
167: What's In and Out for Relationships in 2026
New year, new relationship standards. In this episode, Lilly breaks down the five things that need to go and the five things that need to stay in your relationship for 2026. We’re ditching the defensive apologies, the unrealistic expectations, and the passive-aggressive pet names. And we’re leaning into repair as a one-way street, friction as your growth edge, and building a flexible nervous syste
166: Losing Strategy #5: Withdrawal (And Why It Slowly Kills Your Relationship)
You shut down. You go silent. You walk away.You think you’re protecting yourself. But you’re actually killing your connection.In this final episode of the 5-part series on losing strategies, Lilly breaks down withdrawal, the pattern she’s struggled with most. She explains the difference between withdrawal and taking a responsible timeout, why your nervous system goes into freeze or flight, and how
165: Losing Strategy #4: Retaliation (And Why It Creates a Cycle of Payback)
You got hurt. So you hurt them back.You think you’re standing up for yourself. You think you’re evening the score. But really? You’re just creating more pain.In this episode, Lilly breaks down the fourth of five losing strategies that keep you stuck in the same conflicts: retaliation. She explains what Terry Real calls “offending from the victim position,” why your nervous system wants payback, an
164: Losing Strategy #3: Unbridled Self-Expression (And Why Your Partner Can't Hear You)
You think you’re just being honest. You’re actually overwhelming your partner.You’ve been holding it in all day. All week. Then it explodes. You say everything. You let it all out. And your partner shuts down, gets defensive, or walks away.In this episode, Lilly breaks down the third of five losing strategies that keep you stuck in the same conflicts: unbridled self-expression. She explains what T
163: Losing Strategy #2: Controlling Your Partner (And How It's Destroying Your Relationship)
In this episode, Lilly breaks down the second of five losing strategies that keep you stuck in the same conflicts: controlling your partner. She explains the difference between direct and indirect control, how your nervous system thinks control equals safety, and what to do instead so you can collaborate instead of dictate.This is Part 2 of a 5-part series on the losing strategies that sabotage yo
162: Losing Strategy #1: Fighting to Be Right (And Why It's Wrecking Your Communication)
FREE EVENT: https://stan.store/lillyrachels/p/undefeatedIn this episode, Lilly kicks off a 5-part series on losing strategies in communication. She breaks down the first losing strategy: fighting to be right. You’ll learn how prioritizing being right over being connected turns conflict into competition, how your nervous system hijacks this pattern, and what to do instead.This episode is for you if
161: Why Your Apologies Aren't Working (And What to Do Instead)
In this episode, Lilly breaks down the repair process that actually works using Terry Real’s Feedback Wheel. She explains the two biggest mistakes we make when trying to repair after conflict.This episode is for you if you feel like you’re always apologizing but nothing ever gets resolved, if conflicts drag on for days instead of clearing in minutes, or if you’re tired of walking on eggshells in y
160: Why Traditional Therapy Fails Men (And What Actually Works)
In this episode of Relationship Growth, Lilly explains why your body reacts before your brain can catch up in arguments, why traditional talk therapy wasn’t built for how men process and heal, and how nervous system work helps you lead your relationship without endless therapy sessions. This is for men who want real results, not more talking.In this episode, you’ll learn:* Why small critiques feel
159: Why High-Performing Men Shut Down at Home (And How to Fix It)
In this episode of Relationship Growth, Lilly uncovers a pattern that’s quietly destroying connection in high-achieving relationships: high-functioning survival. You’re checking all the boxes at work and home, you’re dependable and productive, but emotionally you feel numb, disconnected, and unable to relax even when you’re safe. Lilly explains why your nervous system might be stuck in survival mo
158: Stop Acting Like You Don’t Care: The Truth About Emotional Detachment and Attraction
Feeling more like roommates than lovers? Download Lilly’s guide here, Get Out of the Roommate Rut or by commenting PUMPKIN on any of her Instagram posts. The first 50 people to download it get it completely free.In this episode of Relationship Growth, Lilly explores one of the most subtle but powerful shifts you can make in your relationships: the difference between being detached and being discon
157: The Three Silent Killers of Communication in Relationships
In this episode of Relationship Growth, Lilly breaks down the three silent killers that quietly destroy communication in relationships: unverbalized expectations, misunderstandings, and assumptions. These hidden patterns create resentment, disconnection, and distance between partners, but they are completely fixable when you know what to look for.Lilly teaches how to replace fantasy thinking with
156: The Relational Blueprint Method: A Framework for Long-Term Love
In this episode of Relationship Growth, Lilly walks you through the exact framework she uses with her clients to help them create deeper, healthier relationships. She breaks down each phase of her signature method, the Relational Blueprint Method, and shows how it helps you identify your patterns, expand your capacity to receive love, and learn to communicate from a grounded and loving place.You’l
155: Why Relationships Are the Ultimate Space for Growth
In this episode of Relationship Growth, Lilly shares the mission behind the podcast and the personal story that shaped her passion for helping others build healthy, lasting relationships. She opens up about getting married young, struggling with conflict, and how unhealed childhood patterns influenced her ability to receive love. Through her own healing journey, she discovered that relationships a
154: Welcome to Relationship Growth: How to Build and Keep a Healthy Relationship
Welcome to Relationship Growth, the podcast that teaches you the skills to not just find love but keep it alive. In this opening episode, host Lilly Rachels shares the heart behind the rebrand and why this show exists: to help you grow a relationship you don’t just stay in but thrive in.Lilly explains that healthy relationships don’t happen by luck. They are cultivated through consistent care, com
153: Why You’re Playing Two Different Games in Your Relationship
If your relationship feels harder than it should, you might be playing two different games without realizing it. In this episode, I share how mismatched expectations, childhood blueprints, and unspoken needs create friction and how my Me → You → We process helps couples get on the same page. You’ll learn how to rediscover yourself, relearn your partner, and recreate a relationship built on trust,
152: Why “Not Caring if You’re Cheated On” Isn’t Strength — It’s Avoidance
In today’s episode, I’m unpacking a reel I saw recently that really bothered me. It suggested that you should strive not to care if your partner cheats — that detachment will somehow make you more desirable.Here’s the thing: that’s not detachment. That’s avoidance.I get it, protecting yourself can feel safer than risking being hurt again. But building walls to avoid pain doesn’t make you stronger.
151: Why We Shut Down in Love: Inner Child Wounds, ChatGPT Therapy, and Repairing Ruptures
Ever felt yourself shut down after a tense moment with your partner, only to realize it wasn’t really about the moment at all?In this episode, I share a personal story of conflict, emotional shutdown, and repair. I walk you through how childhood wounds still echo in adult relationships and what it truly takes to navigate those moments with courage and connection.You’ll hear:* The childhood belief
150: Waiting for an Apology, Marvel Villains, and I Forgot My Swimsuit
Feeling stuck in your relationship?This episode is for you. I’m sharing what stalemate looks like, how to move through resentment, and why emotional courage (and a little play) might be the reset you need.💌 Connect with me:Email: lilly@growthovereasy.com⬇️ Join me for 31 days of emotional grounding + expressive courage Get full access to growth over easy at www.growthovereasy.com/subscribe
149: Crying in the Mountains, Talking to ChatGPT, and Remembering What Matters
In this unfiltered episode, I talk through grief, perfectionism, emotional armor, and my Friday night.Recorded from the mountains on the first day of summer — with dogs snoring nearby and tears still fresh — this is me, sharing honestly. About a client I lost. About why I do this work. And about how easy it is to isolate when what we really need is connection.If you’re tired of holding it all toge
148: Life Update & 3 Relationship Insights You Need to Hear
In this episode of Relearn Relationships, I share life updates, including an exciting new venture: Relational Somatics, a company focused on trauma training for practitioners. I also dive into recent reflections on relationships, boundaries, and people-pleasing, discussing how setting boundaries has transformed my personal and professional life.Follow Relational Somatics on Instagram:https://www.i
147: What Comes Out When Life Squeezes You? How I Dropped Complaining and Chose to Raise My Vibration
In this episode of Relearn Relationships, we explore the concept that " how you do anything is how you do everything." We examine how our internal patterns influence all areas of life, especially under pressure. I share a personal story of self-reflection, explaining how to identify the root of negative emotions and choose a more intentional experience in relationships and everyday life.Key Takeaw
146: Three Things I Do to Find Peace When I’m Stuck in Overthinking and Overwhelm
In this episode of Relearn Relationships, we explore how to navigate overwhelming situations that are out of our control. I share three key strategies that help me shift from rumination and frustration to acceptance and peaceGet my FREE guide and meditation FEEL TO HEAL.Key Takeaways:* Prayer – Praying for the person or situation helps shift your energy, release resentment, and bring a sense of pe
145: Rethinking Breakups: It’s Over, But That Doesn’t Mean It Was a Waste of Time
In today’s episode of Relearn Relationships, we discuss breakups and how to reframe the idea of "relationship failure." I share a personal story about my own divorce and the mindset shift that helped me see relationships—not through the lens of longevity but through growth.Key Takeaways:* A relationship doesn’t have to last forever to be successful.* Growth, self-discovery, and lessons learned are
144: 3 Simple Strategies I Use to Quiet My Mind and Listen More Deeply in Relationships
Free Guide + 5-Minute Grounding Meditation to Calm AnxietyIn this episode of Relearn Relationships, I share the three practical tools I use to quiet my mind to fully engage with my partner. These techniques have transformed how I show up in my relationships, and they can do the same for you.Key TakeawaysOverthinking and Listening:Overthinking doesn’t mean you’re a bad listener, but it can pull you
143: The Moment I Realized It Wasn't Him, It Was Me
Why Making Yourself the Problem Makes You the SolutionIn this episode of Relearn Relationships, we explore the transformative power of personal responsibility. Instead of blaming others for failed relationships, we discusses how identifying yourself as part of the problem opens the door to growth and lasting change. Through introspection, vulnerability, and actionable steps, you can let go of bagg
142: Why Can’t I Let Love In? How to Stop Pushing People Away When You Want Them Close
In this episode of Relearn Relationships, we explore the painful and confusing experience of wanting to be close to someone but finding yourself unintentionally pushing them away. This dynamic often stems from unhealed emotional wounds and protective patterns. Learn why grounded and healthy relationships can feel confusing and how to address the barriers preventing deep connection.Book a walk-and-
141: Is Your 'Venting' Ruining Your Relationship?
In this episode of Relearn Relationships, we explore the power of words in shaping your relationship From shifting negative talk to fostering connection through positive communication, this episode highlights how small changes in language can lead to big transformations.Upcoming Event:Join The Three Silent Killers of Relationships Masterclass on January 9, 2025. Learn how to tackle common communic
140: New Year, Happier Us: Relearning Relationships in 2025
In this episode, we reflect on 2024 and set relationship goals for the new year. I share how I evaluate what worked and what didn’t in my relationships and how to do this with compassion and curiosity. I talk about three common challenges—unspoken expectations, assumptions, and miscommunication—which we will cover in-depth in a free virtual masterclass in January!FREE virtual masterclass: The Big
139: The Fear of Rejection: How to Overcome Hyper-Vigilance and Self-Protection in Relationships
In this episode of Relearn Relationships, we explore the fear of rejection and how it impacts your relationships. Lilly dives into the roots of this fear, stemming from childhood experiences, and examines how it manifests as self-sabotaging behaviors like keeping others at arm's length or constantly seeking validation. You'll learn to distinguish between real and imagined fears, break the cycle of
138: The TWO Things Ruining Your Relationships (and How to Stop Them)
Welcome back to Relearn Relationships! In this episode, we explore the two major barriers to effective communication in relationships: misunderstandings and assumptions. You'll get practical tools for fostering clarity and curiosity to strengthen your connections and keep relationships thriving.Go Deeper:Star HERE.Buy a Walk + Talk Session HERE.Key Takeaways:Communication as the Lifeblood of Relat
137: Gratitude in Action: Transform Your Relationships in 31 Days
Welcome back to Relearn Relationships! In this episode, we dive into the power of gratitude and how cultivating a daily gratitude practice can transform your relationships. Lilly introduces a 31-day gratitude and meditation challenge happening on her Substack this December and explains how both specific and nonspecific gratitude practices can shift your mindset and improve your connections with ot
136: THIS Is What It Takes to Experience Deeply Supportive Relationships
In this episode of Relearn Relationships, we explore the transformative power of vulnerability and its role in fostering deeper, more meaningful connections. From breaking down protective shields to rebuilding trust after being hurt, this conversation sheds light on how openness can strengthen relationships and create lasting bonds.Go Deeper:Subscribe to Relearn Relationships on Substack for weekl
135: Waiting for the Other Shoe to Drop? Stop Self-Sabotage in Relationships
In this episode of Relearn Relationships, we dive into the importance of openly communicating what's on your mind instead of letting unspoken assumptions or fears create destructive narratives in your relationship. By understanding how our past shapes these patterns, we can learn to break free from self-sabotaging thoughts and foster healthier, more secure connections.Go Deeper:Subscribe to Relear
134: Masculine and Feminine Energies in Relationships: What Beth and Rip Can Teach Us About Polarity
In this episode of Relearn Relationships, we dive into relationship polarity and what we can learn from the characters Beth and Rip in Yellowstone. Using this example, we explore how balancing masculine and feminine energies can bring harmony—or create disconnection—depending on how well partners honor each other's natural expression. We discuss why trying to change your partner’s emotional style
133: The Power of One Honest Conversation: How Assumptions Nearly Ended an 8-Year Friendship
In today's episode of Relearn Relationships, we explore why taking action and having that honest conversation matters so much more than getting lost in overthinking. Lilly shares a personal story about how assumptions, internal processing, and a lack of communication nearly ended a close friendship. Tune in to learn how vulnerability, emotional awareness, and intentional conversations can prevent
132: How to Face Conflict Without Running Away
This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit www.relearnrelationships.comWhat we cover in this workshop:Understanding Your Flight ResponseWe’ll explore why you tend to flee or avoid conflict, diving into the emotional and psychological reasons behind this instinct. You'll gain clarity on how your past experiences, particularly from childhood, influence your present behavior in rel
131: Escaping the Thought Spiral: Mastering Emotions and Easing Anxious Overthinking
WORKSHOP: How to Face Conflict Without Running AwayBecome a Paid subscriber to attend HERE.ORBuy a class pass HERE.In this episode of Relearn Relationships, we explore emotional reactivity in overthinkers who internalize emotions rather than express them. Through relatable stories and examples, we’ll look at how high emotional reactivity impacts our relationships and how it might show up different
130: Attachment Styles Aren’t Permanent (And How to Change Yours)
In this episode, Lilly explores how attachment styles—shape our relationships. Instead of labeling yourself as one specific style, she encourages seeing attachment as a continuum. The episode emphasizes that while attachment styles are formed in childhood, they can be changed through awareness and inner child work.Key Points:Attachment Styles as a Continuum: Avoidant, anxious, and secure are point
129: Resolving Conflict in Relationships: How Childhood Patterns Shape Your Reactions
Welcome back to the Relearn Relationships Podcast! In today’s episode, Lilly dives deep into the topic of conflict in relationships and how our early childhood experiences shape the way we navigate disagreements with our partners as adults.Lilly also introduces the concept of the Enneagram Triads and explains how understanding your Enneagram type, and your partner's, can help you identify your nat
128: Shift Your Mindset: How Gratitude Transforms Relationships
Lean into GratitudeIn this episode of Relearn Relationships, we explore the power of gratitude and its profound impact on relationships. You'll discover how cultivating gratitude can transform your perspective and enhance your connection with your partner.www.relearnrelationships.comTopics covered include:* Why gratitude is key to healthy, supportive relationships.* How our thoughts shape our real
127: Unpacking Your Definition of Love
In this episode of Relearn Relationships, we dive deep into the importance of understanding your personal definition of love and how your childhood experiences shape the way you show up in your adult relationships. Lilly shares her own journey with love, revealing how her realized experience of love clashed with her aspirational ideals, creating confusion and friction in her relationships.www.rele
126: Stop Hurtful Words: Change the Way You Speak in Your Relationship
In this episode of Growth Over Easy, I dive into communication in romantic relationships. Inspired by a concept from Jesse Itzler’s newsletter, I explore how intentionality in our interactions can transform the way we connect with our partners.We often give our romantic partners the worst version of ourselves—something we wouldn't do with strangers or colleagues. I challenge you to reflect on your
125: Don't Go To Couples Therapy! Do This Instead...
Are you thinking about couples therapy? In this Walk + Talk, I will make a case for skipping couples therapy and what you can do instead. Growth Over Easy is a reader-supported publication. To receive new posts and support my work, consider becoming a free or paid subscriber. Get full access to growth over easy at www.growthovereasy.com/subscribe
124: Strengthen Your Relationships with Healthy Boundaries
Do your relationships have healthy boundaries? Listen to today’s episode to better understand how boundaries help relationships thrive!Coming next week!Free Workshop: Stay in Love: Essential Boundary Skills for Healthy RelationshipsTuesday, June 5th, at 5:30 p.m. CT. The replay will be sent out to everyone registered.What You'll Learn:* What Healthy Boundaries Look Like* Discover the characteristi
123: Craft vs. Convenience in Relationships: Embracing the Journey
In our fast-paced world, convenience often takes priority over the process of crafting something meaningful. This trend has seeped into our relationships, where the quest for instant connection can overshadow the deeper, more rewarding work of building a solid foundation. The Joy of CraftRecently, while on holiday, I found joy in the simple act of making a matcha latte. It wasn't just about the dr
122: Ask Yourself This If You Want A Long-Term Relationship
Today we are talking about playing the tape forward and the importance of thinking long-term if you want your relationship to last.»Free Event: Master Relationship Communication«May 7th, 11 a.m. - 11:45 a.m. CTThe replay will be emailed to everyone registered. If you are listening to this on a podcast platform come join the Growth Over Easy party on Substack. Get full access to growth over easy at
121: My Biggest Frustration When Couples Break Up
Today I’m sharing my frustration regarding relationship conflict and couples breaking up. Get My 15-Minute Practices to Heal Your Relationship HERE.If you are listening to this on a podcast platform come join the Growth Over Easy community on Substack. Get full access to growth over easy at www.growthovereasy.com/subscribe
120: Peace: An Inside Job + New Program Launch
Let’s talk about cultivating inner peace and why it’s an inside job.New Program Alert! (early launch pricing)30-Day Anxiety Relief for Men* Do you struggle to unplug?* To sit still?* To be in the present moment?* Are you a high achiever with a racing mind? * Do you attach your value to your success?* Is this pattern leaving you with a sense of dread and restless nights?Join me for a 30-day Anxiety
Workshop: Growth Over Silence
In this workshop, we unpack the difference between masculine and feminine vulnerability and why suffering in silence harms your health and relationships. New Program Alert! (early launch pricing) 30-Day Anxiety Relief for Men* Do you struggle to unplug?* To sit still?* To be in the present moment?* Are you a high achiever with a racing mind? * Do you attach your value to your success?* Is this pat
119: Men, Are You Regulating Or Suppressing Your Emotions?
Today on Growth Over Easy Podcast we unpack the difference between emotional regulation + emotional suppression. Free Workshop March 27th at 5:00 p.m. CSTGrowth Over SilenceA Workshop for Men ready to break the stigma, communicate their struggles, and access the support they deserve.You matter. It’s time to prioritize your mental health.Subscribe to save your seat. (replay will be emailed out afte
118: Are You Using Sarcasm to Bypass Your Pain?
Let’s talk about the problem with using humor to bypass uncomfortable emotions and what you can do instead.Free Workshop March 27th at 5:00 p.m. CTGrowth Over SilenceA Workshop for Men ready to break the stigma, communicate their struggles, and access the support they deserve.You matter. It’s time to prioritize your mental health.This event will be a live Zoom (to get the Replay please Subscribe).
117: Communication Builds Community
Let’s talk about communication and why sharing the context of your struggles benefits your relationship. Curious about coaching? Let’s chat, book a Virtual Coffee with Lilly, or email Lilly at lilly@lillyrachels.com.If you are listening to this on a podcast platform come join the Growth Over Easy community on Substack. Get full access to growth over easy at www.growthovereasy.com/subscribe
Workshop: How to Calm Your Mind
Please enjoy the replay of How to Calm Your Mind: An Over-thinker's Guide to Peace.Are you stuck in your head? Do you often avoid uncomfortable conversations, criticize yourself, or find yourself ruminating on past situations? Perhaps words get stuck in your throat during stressful moments, leading you to isolate and struggle to express your needs in relationships. Do you feel lonely, and disconne
116: Let’s Talk About Anxiety
Let’s talk about anxiety and how you don’t have to keep living with it. Come join my next free workshop on February 27th: How to Calm Your Mind: an Overthinker’s Guide to Peace. Save your seat HERE.Curious about coaching? Let’s chat, book a Virtual Coffee with Lilly, or email Lilly at lilly@lillyrachels.com.If you are listening to this on a podcast platform come join the Growth Over Easy community
115: 4 Ways Overthinking is Keeping You Lonely
Let’s talk about overthinking and four ways it keeps you from connecting with others. Need support?Book a Virtual Coffee with Lilly HERE or email Lilly at lilly@lillyrachels.com.If you are listening to this on a podcast platform come join the Growth Over Easy community on Substack.If you know anyone who could benefit from this podcast please share it with them. Get full access to growth over easy
Workshop Replay: “I Can’t Believe This” - The Stages of Grief: Denial
In this workshop, we begin to unpack the stages of grief. Grief is not a linear journey. The Stages of Grief represent experiences, not a set map to follow. You may experience different stages more than once. Be patient with yourself. Grief can be complicated - you don’t have to go through it alone.Curious about what support would look like? Book a Virtual Coffee with me. Get full access to growt
114: How to Start Releasing Suppressed Grief
A simple practice to begin releasing suppressed emotions.Grief can be complicated - you don’t have to go through it alone.Need some support?Book a Virtual Coffee with Lilly HERE or email Lilly at lilly@lillyrachels.com.If you are listening to this on a podcast platform come join the Growth Over Easy community on Substack.SubscribedIf you know anyone who could benefit from this podcast please share
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