The Emotionally Focused Therapy Podcast
The Emotionally Focused Therapy Podcast explores the art, heart, and science of EFT. Hosted by EFT trainers Michael Barnett and Silvina Irwin and EFT supervisor Michael Preston, each episode offers deep insights and real conversations for therapists learning and leaning into EFT.
Episodes
The Supervision Tapes Working with Trauma with Adrea Medaris
Andrea Medaris on pacing EFT with trauma, disorganized attachment, and keeping couples in the window of toleranceMichael Preston talks with Andrea Medaris of EFT Maine about working with couples where trauma is in the room, how to pace EFT without becoming too cautious, and how to stay present when both partners are getting activated at once. Andrea also shares how she supports newer EFT learners
Deliberate Practice and EFT with EFT Supervisor Kamila Kaminska
Deliberate Practice in EFT: Why Scripts, Repetition, and Micro-Skills Matter. Michael Preston is joined by Kamila Kaminska for a focused conversation on how therapists actually build EFT skill. They unpack what deliberate practice is, what it is not, and why small, repeated interventions can change both clinical competence and the therapist’s way of seeing clients. The conversation explores how th
The Supervision Tapes w/ EFT Trainer Sandra Taylor
EFT externships, LGBTQ+ therapy, and dementia: What therapists need to know!Michael Preston talks with Sandra Taylor of the British Emotionally Focused Therapy Center about what makes EFT externships powerful in person, how to prepare for a four-day training, and what therapists often miss when working with LGBTQ+ couples. Sandra also shares deeply personal, clinically rich reflections on working
The Supervision Tapes w/ Laurie Watson
Michael Preston talks with Laurie Watson about why sex belongs in couples therapy from the very first session, how sexual and emotional cycles intersect, and how attachment shapes desire, vulnerability, and repair. Laurie shares a practical EFT lens for understanding sexual pursuer-withdrawer patterns, coercion, shame, affair recovery, and how therapists can normalize sexual conversation without t
The Supervision Tapes w/Kelly Bourque!
EFT Intensives with Kelly BourqueMichael Preston talks with Kelly Bourque, resident EFT intensive specialist, about how to screen couples, structure EFT intensives, and decide whether this model is the right fit for a therapist or a couple. Kelly shares the practical systems she has refined over years of doing intensives full time, plus the pacing, safety, and follow-up work that make the model ef
The Supervision Tapes W/ Katharina Sandizell
In this episode of the Emotionally Focused Therapy Podcast, Michael Preston and Katarina Sandizell explore the nuances of integrating psychoeducation within EFT sessions while maintaining emotional engagement. They discuss strategies for therapists to stay authentic, avoid over-explaining, and foster client vulnerability—all while navigating their own personal and attachment patterns.LINKSTo Learn
The Supervision Tape W/ Matthew Harris
Navigating EFT with the LGBTQIA+ Community: Insights from Matthew HarrisIn this episode, Michael Preston is joined by Matthew Harris, an EFT supervisor with a rich background in working with LGBTQIA+ clients. They explore how EFT can be adapted to better serve sexual and gender minority populations, emphasizing authenticity, curiosity, and cultural humility. Whether you're new to this communit
The Supervision Tapes w/Dr. Lisa Blum
Breaking Down Barriers: Integrating Sexuality & EFT — An Expert Conversation.In this discussion, Lisa Blum shares her insights on how EFT therapists can confidently incorporate discussions of sex and intimacy into their practice. We explore practical strategies for normalizing conversations around sexuality, addressing desire discrepancies, and enhancing relational safety in therapy.LINKSTo Le
The Supervision Tapes w/ Sarah McConnell
Navigating Family Dynamics and Therapist Self-Care in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)In this insightful episode, Michael Preston and EFT trainer Sarah McConnell explore the nuances of working with family systems, shifting from couple to family therapy, and maintaining therapist resilience. This conversation offers practical frameworks and reflections for therapists seeking to deepen their unders
The Supervision Tapes w/ Rachel Chiu
Join Michael Preston and Rachel Chiu as they explore the impact of patriarchy and misogyny on emotional health, gender roles, and relationships. This conversation offers deep insights into how systemic oppression shapes personal experiences and therapeutic practices.keywords patriarchy, misogyny, gender roles, emotional health, systemic oppression, EFT, therapy, cultural narratives, gender equalit
The Supervision Tapes with Jena Irvin
Building Diversity and Addressing Complex Issues in EFT: Insights with Jenna Irvin. Join us as Jenna Irvin shares her journey in increasing diversity within the EFT community, her work with BIPOC therapists, and practical strategies for managing complex couples therapy cases. To Reach out for Supervision with Jena Irvin visit her website:https://www.smyrnacouplescounseling.com/supervisionTo Learn
The Supervision Tapes w/Grazel Garcia
Supporting Neurodiverse Couples and Therapists in EFT: Insights from Grazel GarciaIn this episode, we dive into neurodiversity with Grazel Garcia, author of Cross Signals, sharing strategies to adapt EFT for neurodiverse clients and honoring the therapist's own nervous system. Whether you're working with neurodiverse couples or navigating your own sensory sensitivities, this conversation offers pr
The Supervision Tapes w/ Annabelle Safinia
Michael Preston meets with EFT Supervisor, Annabel Safinia, for the first episode of The Supervision Tapes. In their discussion Michael presents Annabelle with questions submittied by the audience and the two discuss how they would approach them from an EFT Framework.Annabelle shares her insights on handling challenging moments with confidence. She discusses how to recognize and slow down escalati
S1 Ep 18: Breaking Down the Tango. Move 4 & 5 in Stage 2
In this episode, hosts Michael Preston, Silvina Irwin, and Michael Barnett reflect on the foundational elements of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), focusing on Stage Two, particularly the critical moments of mismatch and vulnerability. They share insights, real cases, and practical strategies for working with trauma, couples' risk-taking, and creating transformational experiences in therapy.
S1 Ep 17: Breaking Down the Tango. Move 3 in Stage 2
Discover how emotionally focused therapy (EFT) leverages deep, experiential work to create transformative change in relationships. In this episode, we explore the nuance of stage two enactments, how to recognize when clients are ready, and the vital role of daring to go into painful, disowned fears to foster healing.In this episode:The distinct focus of EFT stage two: enactments of attachment fear
S1 Ep 16: Breaking Down the Tango. Move 1-2 Stage 2
In this episode of the Emotionally Focused Therapy podcast, hosts Michael Preston, Michael Barnett, and Dr. Sylvina Irwin delve into the intricacies of transitioning from stage one to stage two of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). They discuss the importance of understanding the different goals of each stage, the role of the therapist, and the significance of heightening emotional experiences. Th
Special Episode: Externship Parking Lot Questions Pt 2
In this episode, EFT trainers and supervisors delve into critical aspects of practicing EFT, from handling client risks during stages two and three to maintaining self-care as a therapist. Discover practical strategies, the importance of supervision, and how to keep couples engaged and resilient post-therapy.Key TopicsNavigating client backslides and reactivity in stage two — importance of stabili
Special Episode: Externship Parking Lot Questions Pt 1
In this episode, Michael Preston, Dr. Silvina Irwin, and Michael Barnett tackle questions the came up at a recent Externship in Los Angeles. Whether you're grappling with attachment styles, client setbacks, or pivotal relational moments, this episode offers nuanced insights to deepen your understanding and clinical skills.To learn more about working with or training with Michael Barnett or Dr.
S1 Ep 15: Move 4 and 5 Challenges in Stage 1
In this episode, we explore the intricacies of 'move four' and its implications, delving into the strategic aims and potential outcomes. The conversation highlights the importance of creating safe spaces and the dynamics of partnership exposure, offering insights into the dance of professional relationships.To learn more about working with or training with Michael Barnett or Dr. Silvina Ir
S1 Ep 14: Move 3 Challenges in Stage 1
In this episode, we explore the intricacies of Tango Move 3 in Stage One, addressing audience questions and delving into the therapist's self-awareness. We discuss the challenges of enactments, the importance of understanding blocks, and the opportunities for growth in therapeutic settings. Takeaways: Understanding Tango Stage One is crucial for therapists.Audience questions provide valuable i
S1 Ep 13: Move 2 Challenges in Stage 1
In this episode, we explore community-driven questions, focusing on Move 2 of the Tango in Emotionally Focused Therapy.We discuss the importance of hightening emotion and addressing self of therapists tolerance levels. The discussion highlights the significance of developing new skill as well as therapists being able to accept where they are in their own emotional process. To learn more about work
S1 Ep 12: Move 1 Challenges in Stage 1
In this episode, we explore community-driven questions, focusing on Move 1 of the Tango in Emotionally Focused Therapy.We discuss the importance of understanding multiple perspectives in systemic issues. The discussion highlights the significance of integrating diverse viewpoints to move forward effectively.To learn more about working with or training with Michael Barnett or Dr. Silvina Irwin visi
S1 Ep 11: Breaking Down The Tango. Move 3-5 Stage 1
In this episode of the Emotionally Focused Therapy podcast, hosts Michael Preston, Michael Barnett, and Dr. Silvina Irwin delve into the intricacies of EFT, focusing on the 'Tango' moves in therapy. They explore how these moves help couples connect emotionally and create new relational experiences. The conversation highlights the importance of vulnerability, emotional engagement, and the s
Welcoming Dr. Silvina Irwin!
This EFT Podcast Mini episode introduces Dr. Silvina Irwin to the show.We are so excited to have Dr. Irwin lend her wisdom to the show. She will be joining us as a regular co-host to the show. She has been and EFT Trainer in Los Angels for nearly a decade and helped bring EFT trainings to the Spanish speaking community!Learn more about her in today's episode!Leave a comment to join us in welcome D
S1 Ep10: Breaking Down The Tango. Move 1-2 Stage 1
In this episode of the Emotionally Focused Therapy podcast, hosts Michael Preston and Michael Barnett discuss the intricacies of the EFT Tango, focusing on moves one and two. They explore the goals and processes involved in these stages, emphasising the importance of understanding the dynamics between partners and the emotional narratives that drive their interactions. The conversation highlights
S1 Ep9: Stage 2 Tango Overview
In this episode of the Emotionally Focused Therapy podcast, hosts Michael Preston and Michael Barnett discuss the intricacies of EFT and its impact on relationships. They explore various techniques and share personal insights to help listeners better understand and apply EFT in their own lives.LINKS:To join EFTLCA for their Externship in November check out EFTCLA's website or visit Dr. Silvina
S1 Ep8: Stage 1 Tango Overview
In this episode of the Emotionally Focused Therapy podcast, hosts Michael Preston and Michael Barnett delve into the intricacies of Stage 1 of the EFT Tango. We explore how EFT Therapists use the Tango in stage 1 to help couples identify core emotional processes that organize their negative interaction cycle. Out conversation highlights the profound impact of attachment theory in therapy and offer
S1 Ep7: How Does it Fit Together? Organizing the Stages, Steps, and The Tango.
In this episode of the Emotionally Focused Therapy Podcast, hosts Michael Preston and Michael Barnett explore the intricate process of EFT, focusing on the stages and steps involved in therapy. They discuss the importance of understanding the EFT process model, the role of the Tango, and how therapists can guide clients through emotional experiences to foster secure attachments.LINKS:To join EFTLC
S1 Ep6: Stage 3 Overview: Consolidating Change
In this episode, we delve into the transformative power of vulnerability and attachment in therapy. Join hosts Michael Barnett and Michael Preston as they explore how authentic connections and emotional fluency can lead to profound personal growth and relational healing. Discover how therapy helps individuals embrace their authentic selves, fostering deeper trust and emotional security in relation
S1 Ep5: "Stage Two Overview: Restructuring the Bond"
For More Information on joining Michael Barnett, Dr. Irwin, and Michael Preston at the EFTCLA Externship in November visit www.drsilvinairwin.com or www.eftcla.orgJoin hosts Michael Preston and Michael Barnett as they delve into the intricacies of Stage Two in Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT). This episode explores the profound impact of addressing attachment fears and needs, and how therapists c
S1 Ep4: "Markers Of De-Escalation"
SummaryIn this episode of the Emotionally Focused Therapy Podcast, hosts Michael Preston and Michael Barnett discuss the importance of de-escalation in relationships, the markers that indicate progress, and the significance of vulnerability and emotional availability between partners. The conversation emphasizes the transition to Stage Two of therapy, highlighting the need for stability and unders
S1 Ep3: Stage One Overview: Navigating Conflict in Emotionally Focused Therapy
Welcome to the Emotionally Focused Therapy Podcast! In this episode, hosts Michael Barnett and Michael Preston dive deep into the foundational elements of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), focusing specifically on Stage One of couples therapy.Join us as we explore: The unique challenges couples face when conflict disrupts their connection. The importance of understanding the emotional cycles that
S1 ep 2: Exploring Attachment in Emotionally Focused Therapy
In this episode of the Emotionally Focused Therapy Podcast, hosts Michael Preston and Michael Barnett delve into the foundational aspects of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) through the lens of attachment theory. They explore how attachment influences emotional connections in relationships, the importance of significant others in the therapeutic process, and the biological underpinnings of attach
S1: Ep1: The Arc of EFT Therapy
KEYWORDS: Emotionally Focused Therapy, EFT, couples therapy, emotional connection, therapy podcast, relationship dynamics, attachment theory, therapy community, emotional healing, psychotherapy SUMMARY: In the first episode of the Emotionally Focused Therapy Podcast, hosts Michael Preston and Michael Barnett introduce the concept of Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) and share their personal journe
The Emotionally Focused Intro! (video)
Welcome to the Emotionally Focused Podcast! Join EFT Trainer Michael Barnett and EFT Supervisor Michael Preston for the initial season of The EFT Podcast: Foundations. Together we will be exploring the Art, Heart, and Science of Emotionally Focused Therapy. Come Join us for the conversation.The Emotionally Focused Podcast Season 1 Foundations, will air on Tuesday July 1st @ 8:00am EST. New Episode
The Emotionally Focused Intro!
Welcome to the Emotionally Focused Podcast! Join EFT Trainer Michael Barnett and EFT Supervisor Michael Preston for the initial season of The EFT Podcast: Foundations. Together we will be exploring the Art, Heart, and Science of Emotionally Focused Therapy. Come Join us for the conversation.The Emotionally Focused Podcast Season 1 Foundations, will air on Tuesday July 1st @ 8:00am EST. New Episode
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