Breaking the Silence
Breaking the Silence hosts honest conversations about grief, faith, healing, and becoming whole again. Raynea Wallace and cohost Kelli talk with women navigating loss, covering motherhood in hard seasons, midlife changes, relationships, unanswered prayers, and learning to live again. The podcast offers real stories and deep conversations, emphasizing that healing doesn't happen alone and welcoming listeners into a supportive community.
Episodes
The Things We Never Thought We’d Miss
Some of the things we once could not wait to be done with become the things we miss most.The toys on the floor. Cartoons playing in the background. Children calling “Mom” all day. The packed calendar and noise of a full house.In this warm and nostalgic conversation, Kelli and I talk about motherhood, children growing up, changing roles, and the ordinary family moments we never expected to miss.We
When the Life You Knew No Longer Fits
Have you ever looked at your life and thought, “I know this is my life, but I don’t quite recognize it anymore?”Children grow up. Roles change. Your health, energy, or capacity shifts. The rhythm that once worked no longer fits, and you begin to question who you are in this new season.In this conversation, Kelli and I talk about changing roles, adult children, accepting help, adjusting our expecta
Why Do I Keep Confusing Chemistry with Compatibility?
Have you ever felt an instant connection with someone, only to find yourself confused about where you stood? 💜Chemistry can feel powerful, but it cannot tell you whether someone is honest, emotionally available, or ready to build the same kind of relationship you want.In this episode, Raynea and Kelli discuss:💜 Why intensity can feel like love💜 The difference between chemistry and compatibility💜 W
Are You in Love… or Are You Triggered?
What if the relationship you cannot stop thinking about is not proof that you found the love of your life? What if part of that intensity comes from uncertainty, an old wound, or the fear of losing them?In this episode, Raynea and Kelli talk about how to recognize the difference between genuine love and an activated nervous system. They discuss why inconsistency can make feelings stronger, why rec
Why Inconsistency Makes You More Attached | Intermittent Reinforcement
Why does someone’s inconsistency make you feel more attached instead of helping you walk away?One day they are loving, attentive, and connected. Then they pull away without warning. When they finally return, the relief feels so intense that it can be mistaken for deeper love.In this episode, we explain intermittent reinforcement and how unpredictable attention affects your mind, body, and nervous
Why You Keep Chasing Someone Who Keeps Leaving | Anxious Attachment
Why does someone pulling away make you want them even more?In this episode of Breaking the Silence, Raynea and Kelli explore why distance can activate your attachment system and leave you feeling desperate to restore connection, even when you know the relationship is hurting you.We talk about the anxious-avoidant cycle, abandonment wounds, intermittent reinforcement, protest behaviors, and why som
Do You Push People Away? Why It Happens and How to Stop
Do you want love, but find yourself pulling away when someone gets too close?Maybe you shut down during conflict, avoid difficult conversations, or create distance when a relationship starts to feel serious. You may not understand why you do it, especially when part of you wants connection.In this episode, we talk about why avoidant attachment can cause you to push people away, how old protection
Can Avoidants Have Healthy Relationships? What Healing Actually Looks Like
Can someone with an avoidant attachment style have a healthy relationship?Yes, but healing takes more than finding the right person or being loved enough. It requires willingness, self-awareness, ownership, and consistent action.In this episode, Raynea and Kelli talk about why closeness can feel unsafe for an avoidant, what healing actually feels like, and the difference between someone who is imp
Why Are Avoidants and Anxious People So Drawn to Each Other?
Why do anxious and avoidant people feel so drawn to each other? And why do these relationships often feel so intense, confusing, and difficult to let go of?In this episode of Breaking the Silence, we explore the anxious-avoidant relationship dynamic through the lens of attachment theory. We discuss why these two attachment styles are often attracted to one another, how the pursue-withdraw cycle de
Do Avoidants Miss You After a Breakup? The Truth About Attachment
Do avoidants really miss you after a breakup?If you've ever found yourself wondering whether your avoidant ex thinks about you, misses you, or ever wanted to reach back out, you're not alone. It's one of the most common questions we hear.In this episode of Breaking the Silence, we're unpacking what attachment theory actually says about avoidant attachment. We talk about why someone
Why Do Dismissive Avoidants Pull Away?
Why do dismissive avoidants pull away, even when the relationship seems to be going well?If you've ever been left wondering why someone went from loving and attentive to distant and emotionally unavailable, you're not alone. In this episode, we explore what happens beneath the surface when a dismissive avoidant begins to pull away.We talk about why intimacy can feel overwhelming, how attac
Why Does Healthy Love Feel Boring?
Have you ever met someone who was kind, consistent, emotionally available... and wondered why you didn't feel the same spark?Or maybe you've spent years chasing emotionally unavailable people and now healthy love feels unfamiliar.You're not alone.In this episode of Breaking the Silence, we're talking about why secure love can feel "boring" at first, what emotional safety
Why Do I Still Miss Someone Who Hurt Me?
Why do you still miss someone who hurt you?Maybe they lied.Maybe they pulled away.Maybe they left you feeling anxious, confused, or emotionally unsafe.Logically, you know the relationship wasn't healthy. So why does part of you still miss them?In this episode of Breaking the Silence, we're having an honest conversation about why healing can feel so confusing after a painful relationship. W
Why Do Avoidants Come Back After a Breakup?
Have you ever found yourself staring at your phone wondering if they're ever going to reach out?Maybe weeks have passed.Maybe months.Maybe even years.And somewhere along the way, you've found yourself asking:Why do avoidants come back after a breakup?In this episode of Breaking the Silence, Raynea and Kelli have an honest conversation about what may be happening beneath the surface when an
Why Avoidants Leave Good Relationships Instead of Communicating
Have you ever been left wondering, "Why didn't they just tell me?"In this episode of Breaking the Silence, we're exploring one of the most painful dynamics in relationships: when someone leaves without ever communicating what was happening beneath the surface.Many people assume relationships end because there were no solutions. But sometimes relationships end because the conversa
Why Do Avoidants Go Cold After Being So Loving? | Understanding Avoidant Attachment & Deactivation
Have you ever felt like someone went from loving and connected to distant and cold almost overnight?In this episode, Raynea and Kelli explore why avoidant attachment can create this painful shift, what deactivation actually is, and why so many people feel blindsided when an avoidant partner suddenly pulls away.Together, they discuss the nervous system, fear of intimacy, emotional withdrawal, the a
Why Your Body Reacts Before Your Mind Understands (Especially in Love)
What if your body reacts before your mind even understands what’s happening?You meet someone you care about…and suddenly you feel anxious, overwhelmed, emotionally shut down, or like you need to pull away.Nothing looks wrong on the outside.But inside, your nervous system is sounding alarms.In this episode, Raynea and Kelli talk about why your body responds so quickly in relationships, how attachme
Why You Don’t Feel Safe — Even When Nothing Is Wrong
Do you love God and still struggle with anxiety, emotional triggers, or feeling unsafe in relationships?You’re not broken.And your faith isn’t weak.Sometimes your spirit trusts God…while your nervous system is still responding to grief, trauma, abandonment, or relationship wounds.In this episode, Raynea and Kelli talk about why your body may not feel safe even when there’s no immediate danger, how
Not All Avoidants Leave for the Same Reason
Why do some people shut down and walk away… while others leave, come back, and repeat the same cycle?If you’ve ever felt confused by avoidant behavior in relationships, this episode will help you make sense of what’s actually happening underneath.Not all avoidant attachment patterns are the same.In this bonus episode, Raynea breaks down the difference between dismissive avoidant and fearful avoida
Why You’re Not Overreacting… You’re Dysregulated
If you’ve ever asked yourself…“Why do I overthink everything in relationships?”“Why do I panic when someone pulls away?”“Why do I shut down when things feel too close?”“Why do I feel triggered by things that seem small?”This episode is for you.In this week’s episode of Breaking the Silence, Raynea and Kelli are unpacking the connection between attachment styles and nervous system regulation and wh
The Guilt Mothers Carry (That No One Talks About)
Motherhood comes with a kind of guilt that most women never say out loud.The quiet kind.The guilt when you feel overwhelmed.The guilt when you need space.The guilt when your kids are struggling.The guilt when you want something for yourself.In this episode, Raynea and Kelli talk honestly about why so many mothers feel responsible for everyone’s emotional world.They walk through:• How attachment sh
Who Am I Outside of Who Everyone Needs Me to Be?
Who are you… outside of everything and everyone that depends on you?In this episode, we’re having an honest conversation about what happens when your identity slowly becomes wrapped up in caring for everyone else. If you’ve spent years showing up as the one who holds it all together, you may find yourself wondering when you stopped asking what you need… or who you even are anymore.We talk about ho
Attachment in Blended Families: When Love Isn’t Instant
What if love… doesn’t come instantly?In blended families, we’re often told everything should just “fall into place.”But what happens when it doesn’t?In this episode of Breaking the Silence, Raynea and Kelli have an honest conversation about the reality of blending families — when connection is slow, emotions are layered, and attachment takes time.Raynea shares from her experience fostering for 8 y
Motherhood Without the Fairytale: When Your Story Didn’t Turn Out the Way You Imagined
Motherhood isn’t always the fairytale we were promised.In this episode of Breaking the Silence, Raynea and Kelli talk about what happens when motherhood includes grief, loss, divorce, betrayal, blended families, financial fear, or becoming the only stable parent overnight.You can love your children deeply…And still grieve the way your story unfolded.If you’ve ever thought:• “This wasn’t supposed t
When God Doesn’t Answer the Way We Prayed | Faith After Loss
What happens to your faith when God doesn’t answer the way you prayed?It’s a question many people carry… but few feel safe enough to say out loud.In this episode of Breaking the Silence, Raynea and Kelli have an honest conversation about what it looks like to wrestle with faith after loss. When prayers for healing, miracles, or more time don’t unfold the way we hoped, it can leave our hearts tryin
Attachment and Parenting After Loss
Parenting after loss is a layer of grief no one prepares you for.In this episode of Breaking the Silence, Raynea and Kelli talk about what it really looks like to raise children while navigating grief, widowhood, trauma, and nervous system overwhelm.If you’re a mom grieving the loss of a spouse, child, relationship, or dream — and secretly wondering,“Am I messing my kids up because I’m grieving?”t
Grief and Attachment: Why Healing Doesn’t Follow a Timeline
Why does grief still hurt — even years later?In this episode of Breaking the Silence, we’re unpacking how grief reshapes attachment — and why healing after loss doesn’t follow a timeline.If you’ve ever wondered:• “Why am I still grieving?”• “Why do I feel more anxious in relationships now?”• “Did losing them change my attachment style?”You are not alone.Grief doesn’t just affect your thoughts — it
Faith, Attachment & Fear of Abandonment - Why Consistency Matters More Than Perfection
If love has ever felt like anxiety, this conversation is for you.In this episode, we talk about why so many of us learned to chase perfection—not because we’re controlling or “too much,” but because somewhere along the way, love felt inconsistent. And when love feels unpredictable, our nervous systems do what they can to stay safe.We explore how fear of abandonment shows up in relationships and ev
What Secure Love Actually Feels Like (and Why It Might Feel Unfamiliar)
What if the problem was never that you were “too much”…What if your nervous system simply learned a different language of love?In this episode of Breaking the Silence, Raynea and Kelli gently explore what secure love actually feels like—not as a definition or diagnosis, but as a lived, embodied experience.Together, they get curious about the patterns many of us grew up with: love that felt intense
The Anxious–Avoidant Dance: Why We Keep Missing Each Other
Have you ever felt like the more you lean in, the more someone pulls away?Or the moment you take space, someone panics?In this episode of Breaking the Silence, Raynea and Kelli gently unpack what’s often called the anxious–avoidant dance....not to label or diagnose you, but to name a pattern so you can finally stop thinking you are the problem.Together, they talk honestly about:what anxious and av
What We’re Carrying Into 2026 (and What We’re Leaving Behind)
What are you carrying into 2026… and what are you finally ready to put down?In this episode, Raynea and Kelli sit down for an honest, faith-rooted conversation about the things so many women are holding right now—pressure, grief, emotional exhaustion, and the quiet fear of not being “okay” yet.Together, we talk about what we’re bringing with us into this new year (real healing, secure faith, hones
The Sacred Pause: What Happens When You Step Away to Hear God Again
A conversation about obedience, rest, and trusting God when the next step isn’t clear.Sometimes the most faithful thing we can do is pause.In this episode, I share what a season of quiet revealed, what I expected God to say, what surprised me, and how obedience in this season looked more like being than doing.If you’ve been feeling tired, overwhelmed, or unsure of your next step, this conversation
Breaking the Silence: A New Season
A new season of Breaking the Silence.A space for honest conversations about faith, healing, grief, relationships, and the quiet seasons that shape us.New episodes begin January 21.
The Bittersweet Season: Holding What Was and What’s to Come
As we close out this year, Kelli and I sat down for one last episode — a tender, honest conversation about what it means to navigate this season holding both grief and joy. With Raynea's son's wedding just around the corner, there’s so much excitement for what’s ahead — love, new beginnings, and celebration. But there’s also that quiet ache for who’s missing, for the moments we wish they c
"Mom, Are You Dating Someone?" - Navigating Love After Loss with Kids at Home
After loss, the thought of dating again can feel… complicated. There’s the guilt, the fear of getting hurt again, and the worry about how your kids will handle it — all tangled up with the quiet hope that maybe, just maybe, your heart could open again someday.In this episode, we're talking honestly about what it’s like to even consider dating after loss — especially when you still have kids at hom
Love, Laughter & Raynea's Unexpected Singing Debut
This week’s episode is packed with so many good things — from the upcoming wedding and all the joy and excitement surrounding it, to the sweet (and sometimes funny) ways we show love through our little “terms of endearment.” 💕I even make my singing debut in this one (you’ve been warned! 😂). Normally, this time of year can feel really heavy for me, but this season, there’s a sense of excitement and
From Giggles to God Moments
Grab your coffee and settle in, because Raynea and Kelli are pulling questions straight from the jar — and nothing’s off-limits! From hilarious childhood memories to the faith-filled moments that shaped them, this episode is a rollercoaster of laughter, vulnerability, and heart. It’s real, it’s raw, and it’s exactly what Breaking the Silence is all about — finding connection, healing, and a whole
Confession Time
It’s just me this week—and I’m spilling the tea from my younger years that I’ve never shared before. Let’s just say… if you’ve ever wondered how your attachment style might’ve shaped your love life, this one’s going to hit home.I’m diving into the ways I sabotaged a relationship without even realizing it—and the powerful lessons that surfaced once I understood why. 💭We’re wrapping up our deep dive
Mirror, Mirror: Reflections We Fear
When someone sees us up close, the mirror doesn’t lie. Relationships have a way of exposing the hurts we’ve hidden and the patterns we’d rather ignore. In this episode, we’ll step into those uncomfortable reflections—why they surface, what they’re trying to teach us, and how facing them can become the doorway to deeper healing and truer connection.Books on Attachment: Attached by Dr. Amir Levine T
When Asking for Help Becomes Holy
In this episode Kelli and I talk about the surgery I’m having today. We also share about the hard but beautiful truth that sometimes we simply can’t do it all on our own.I open up about those first days after Dave died, when I knew I couldn’t raise four kids without a village. Admitting I needed help was one of the most humbling moments of my life, but also where I saw God’s faithfulness the clear
Coffee, Chaos & Childhood Stories
This week’s episode took a surprise turn. Kelli and I had a different episode planned, but life had other ideas. Instead, we found ourselves talking through some of the really raw and challenging moments of being a mom—the ones that can feel heavy and lonely. 💛To every mom out there carrying so much: we see you, we get it, and you are not alone.And because sometimes the only way through the hard s
The Subtle (and Not-So-Subtle) Ways Avoidants Create Distance
We’re continuing the conversation from last week about how fearful and dismissive avoidants use deactivating strategies when closeness starts to feel overwhelming. For avoidants, caring too much or fearing rejection often triggers the instinct to pull back—because distance feels safer than vulnerability.In this episode, Raynea and Kelli walk through 21 different ways avoidants create space in rela
The Disappearing Act: When Avoidants Deactivate in Relationships
Have you ever been in a relationship where everything feels amazing one day… and then suddenly, the other person goes quiet, distant, or even picks a fight out of nowhere? Yeah, that’s what we’re talking about today.In this episode, Kelli and I dive into the world of avoidant deactivation—what happens when fearful and dismissive avoidants start pulling back in relationships. We share:The real reas
What We Wish We Knew 10 Years Ago
If you could sit down with your younger self, what would you say? In this episode, Kelli and I each share some powerful pieces of wisdom we wish we had known 10 years ago. From lessons learned through pain to truths that set us free, we open up about the insights that shaped our journeys. We end with an invitation for you to reflect on your own “lesson learned” and how it might guide your path for
Making Your Dash Count: Living Each Day with Intention and Boldness
Kelli and I had such a real conversation today about that little dash between the day we’re born and the day we leave this earth. That dash is our one life—what are we doing with it? We talk about being intentional with our time and our words, treasuring the moments with the people we love, and making sure no one ever has to wonder how we feel. It’s about living full out, being bold, and not wasti
Let Them Think What They Want: Living Free in Your True Identity
Your identity isn’t up for debate — it’s already been spoken over you by God. But if we’re honest, the voices of others can feel louder than His sometimes. In today’s episode, we’ll dive into why we care so much about what people think, how to untangle our worth from approval, and how the Let Them mindset can help us walk in freedom. If you’re ready to stop shrinking to fit into other people’s box
When the Nest Starts to Empty: Two Perspectives on Motherhood in Transition
What do you do when the last child leaves the house—and the quiet sets in? And what if you're still raising kids, but you've already walked five out the door?In this heartfelt episode, Kelli shares what it’s been like watching her stepdaughter—the last to leave—step into adulthood, officially making her a new member of the empty nest club. I (Raynea) reflect on the journey of launching five grown
Safe, Seen, and Secure: What Healthy Attachment Really Looks Like
What does it actually look like to feel secure in love, in friendship, in parenting—even in your relationship with God? After talking through the different attachment wounds, today we’re shifting the focus to something so many of us are craving: secure attachment.In this episode, Kelli and I are unpacking:💡 What secure attachment is (and what it isn’t)🧠 The mindset and nervous system of someone wh
Come Close, Stay Back: Making Sense of Fearful Avoidant Attachment
Have you ever felt torn between craving closeness and wanting to run the moment someone gets too close? Or maybe you’ve loved someone who’s hot and cold—chasing connection one minute and pulling away the next? In this episode, Kelli and I are unpacking the fearful avoidant attachment style, where the need for connection and the fear of being hurt exist side by side.We’re diving into:⚡ How fearful
Chasing Connection: Understanding the Anxious Attachment Style
Do you ever feel like you're too much in relationships? Like you're constantly overthinking, needing reassurance, or afraid someone might leave—even if they haven’t said a word? If that sounds familiar, you might be navigating anxious attachment. In today’s episode, Kelli and I are pulling back the curtain on this deeply emotional and often misunderstood attachment style.We’re talking about:💔 Why
Walls Up, Hearts Guarded: Understanding the Dismissive Avoidant Attachment Style
Why do some people seem so emotionally distant—even in relationships they care deeply about?In this episode, Kelli and I are talking all about the dismissive avoidant attachment style—what it looks like, where it comes from, and how it quietly shapes our closest relationships. Whether you've been on the receiving end of someone's emotional walls, or you're realizing you might be the on
Let’s Get Real: Kelli Interviews Me!
If you're new around here—welcome! In this episode, Kelli flips the script and asks me the questions, so you can get to know the heart behind Breaking the Silence. From the grief that shaped me, to how I found healing, to why I started this podcast and what drives my work today—we’re pulling back the curtain. This conversation is honest, fun, and full of little pieces of my story that I hope w
Unlovable? Unworthy? The Lies That Keep Us from Real Connection
In this honest, heart-to-heart conversation, Kelli and I open up about something so many of us wrestle with—the urge to run when relationships start to feel too close. We talk about the stories we’ve told ourselves for years… like “I’m too much,” “I’m not worthy,” or “I’'m unloveable.”From attachment styles to the beliefs that quietly shape how we show up (or shut down), we explore what’s undernea
We've Laughed, We've Cried, Now We Podcast
This week’s episode is a special one—it’s the beginning of a new chapter. I’m not doing this alone anymore. Today, I’m introducing you to someone who’s been behind the scenes in my story for years: my best friend, my safe space, and now… my co-host. Kelli and I have walked through deep grief, big transitions, healing, and lots of laughter—and now we’re bringing our friendship to the mic. We’re sha
Being Their Safe Place: Loving Others in Life’s Messy Moments
This one’s real and raw, friend. I sat down with tears in my eyes and a heart wide open, processing my deep desire to be a constant, steady, safe place for the people I love—just like God has been for me. What if we could be that anchor for others in the middle of their chaos… not trying to fix them, but simply being present? In this episode, I explore about what it looks like to love others —stea
I Never Thought I’d Be a Widow: Laura’s Story After 28 Years of Marriage
Today, I’m sitting with my sweet friend Laura, who’s walking through something no one is ever truly prepared for. Just three months ago, her husband went to heaven after some major life changes. After 28 years of marriage, she never expected to carry the title “widow.” In this honest and tender conversation, Laura shares what it’s been like to lose the love of her life—and how she’s learning to ta
Redefining Divorce: How Gina Nichols Helps Women Rise After Heartbreak
In today’s episode, I’m joined by Gina Nichols — certified life coach, dynamic speaker, and the visionary founder of Divorce: Redefined. After walking through the heartache of three divorces and raising a beautifully blended family, Gina made a powerful decision: her story wouldn’t end in pain. Instead, she transformed it into purpose. Now, she helps high-achieving women stop letting divorce defin
Strength In The Scars
What do you do when life shatters around you? When the very people who were supposed to love and protect you are the ones who cause the deepest wounds?In this powerful episode of Breaking the Silence, I sit down with Dana Hildebrand, a Licensed Professional Counselor and Transformational Faith-Based Life Coach, who knows firsthand what it means to feel abandoned, broken, and lost. After enduring t
You Are Right Where You’re Meant to Be: Your Light Matters
There were days I questioned why—why I had to walk through loss, why the road felt so heavy, why life had to change in ways I never wanted. Maybe you’ve felt that too. But here’s what I know now: God has placed me, and you, exactly where we’re meant to be. Even in the pain, even in the uncertainty, there is purpose. You are a light in someone’s darkness. Your story, your presence, your voice—it ma
Back from the Break: Finding Beauty in the Hard Seasons
After a few months away, I’m back—and I have so much to share. In this episode, I open up some about the hard season I’ve been walking through, the time I took to pray, and the unexpected beauty that has emerged even in the midst of it all. Sometimes, stepping back is exactly what we need to move forward. Join me as I share my heart, life updates, and the lessons I’ve learned along the way.
Taking a Pause: See You in 2025
As we wrap up 2024, I’m taking a step back from the podcast for the remainder of the year. This break is a time to reflect, recharge, and prepare for what’s to come. I’ll be back in 2025, though I’m not quite sure of the exact date yet. Thank you for being part of this journey, and I can’t wait to connect with you again in the new year. Wishing you a Merry Christmas, a Happy New Year, and a season
Breaking Free from the Victim Story
Hey friend, if you’ve ever felt stuck in a cycle of victimhood, like life’s circumstances have defined who you are or what you’re capable of, this episode is for you. Today, we’re having an honest heart-to-heart about how easy it is to get caught up in that story—and how it’s not the end of the road. I want to remind you (and myself!) that we get to decide to choose something different. God isn’t
Unworthy to Unstoppable: Journey to Redemption
In this episode, I share my personal testimony of how God took me from a place of brokenness and unworthiness to a life of purpose and transformation. Drawing inspiration from other unlikely heroes such as Moses, David, Rahab, Peter & Paul that all seemed unworthy. I reflect on how God can use anyone—no matter their past—for His divine purposes. Join me as I explore the amazing grace that turn
The Thanksgiving I'll Never Forget: Navigating Grief and New Beginnings
In this heartfelt episode, I share the deeply personal experience of what Thankgiving looked like three years ago when Dave was in the hospital. It was a Thanksgiving I’ll never forget—a bittersweet mix of love, loss, and the kind of grief that makes you question everything. But through the pain, I’ve learning something powerful: it’s okay to create new traditions, to allow yourself to feel both j
When God Hears Every Word: Trusting in His Will Through Prayer
In this episode, I share my journey of prayer—how God hears every prayer we lift, even when the answers aren’t what we hoped for. Inspired by my pastor’s challenge to pray three times a day for 21 days, and then how God just met me in such a sweet way in regards to those prayers. From that challenge I’ve embraced a rhythm of prayer that continues to shape my faith. Together, we’ll explore the beau
Grief and Grace: Navigating Birthdays After Loss
In this emotional episode, I reflect on what it means to celebrate my birthday while grieving the loss of Dave. With our birthdays just one day apart, this time of year brings a mix of emotions—joy, sadness, and a lot of reflection. As I share my thoughts on how the passing of Dave & Bryant has changed this season for me, I also talk about how I've come to trust that God's perfect plan is stil
Unbreakable: A Journey Through Loss, Trauma, and Resilience with Mary Sprenger
In this powerful episode, I sit down with Mary Sprenger to unravel her deeply moving story of resilience and healing. Mary's journey began at just seven years old when her mother left, a life-altering loss soon followed by the death of her sister at nine and her father at 22. She’s also faced unspeakable physical, verbal & sexual abuse, alongside the painful experience of infertility. Despite
A Heavenly Birthday: Honoring Dave, Navigating Grief, and Finding Light
In this deeply personal episode, recorded a year ago on Dave's birthday, I open up about the overwhelming waves of grief that hit on that special day. As we approach three years without him, I reflect on how my grief has evolved, how I’ve learned to move through the pain, and what life looks like now. This episode is a raw and real tribute to love, loss, and the journey of healing. If you’ve ever
The Emotional Tug of War: Deactivation vs. Activation in Avoidant and Anxious Relationships
In this episode, we will chat about the intricate dance between deactivation and activation in relationships marked by anxious and avoidant attachment styles. Join us as we explore the emotional tug of war that often leaves partners feeling disconnected and confused. We'll unpack the triggers that can lead to emotional shutdowns and highlight the key moments that encourage vulnerability and conne
The Apology You’ve Been Waiting For: Healing Through Acknowledgment
Have you ever found yourself longing for an apology that never came? In this episode, we’re diving into the power of giving you the apology you've longed for—maybe even your whole life. It’s about more than just saying ‘I’m sorry.’ It’s about truly seeing your hurt, acknowledging the pain you've experienced, and offering a heartfelt apology that speaks to the wounds you've carried. Most importantl
Bridging the Gap with Tash Part 2: From Self Awareness to Connection
In part two of our deep dive into the anxious-avoidant relationship dynamic, Tash and I continue the conversation, focusing on how our relationships act as mirrors, reflecting back what we believe about ourselves. This episode goes beyond just bridging the gap—it’s about recognizing how our inner world shapes our outer connections. We’ll talk about how healing your attachment wounds and transformi
Bridging the Gap with Tash Part 1: From Self-Awareness to Connection
In this special episode, I sit down with Tash to dive into the heart of the anxious and avoidant dynamic in relationships. We’ll explore how we can truly bridge the gap between these attachment styles and show up more fully for others. It starts with transforming how we relate to ourselves—healing the wounds that hold us back and embracing the growth that can transform our connections. Tune in as
The Dance: Why We’re Drawn to the Love We Fear
Have you ever found yourself in a relationship where the closer you get, the further they pull away? Or maybe, the more you retreat, the harder they chase? Welcome to the intricate and intense dance of the anxious-avoidant dynamic. In this episode, we unravel the magnetic push-pull that keeps you both locked in a cycle of desire and distance. Why are we so irresistibly drawn to the very love that
Love Letters from the Past: Navigating Grief and Sweet Reminders After Loss
Have you ever found yourself in the quiet aftermath of losing someone you love, wondering, Who’s going to take care of me now? In this episode, I’m opening up about the raw, tender moments that come after loss—the aching uncertainty, the sudden waves of loneliness, and the surprising sweetness in finding reminders of the love you shared. I’ll share a deeply personal story about discovering a note
Caught in the Crossfire: Unraveling the Fearful-Avoidant Attachment
Ever feel like you’re trapped in a push-pull dance, where you crave deep connection but instinctively push it away when it gets too real? Welcome to the world of the Fearful-Avoidant attachment style. In this episode, we dive deep into the emotional rollercoaster of wanting closeness while being terrified of it. Discover why you might be caught in this confusing cycle and how to break free from th
Tangled in Love: Navigating the Emotional Highs and Lows of Anxious Attachment
In this episode, Tangled in Love: Navigating the Emotional Highs and Lows of Anxious Attachment, we’re diving deep into the world of anxious attachment—the rollercoaster of emotions, the constant need for reassurance, and the fear of abandonment that can leave you feeling overwhelmed. If you’ve ever found yourself overthinking every text, craving closeness, or fearing that you’re just too much for
Behind the Walls: Understanding the Heart of a Dismissive Avoidant
In this episode, Behind the Walls: Understanding the Heart of a Dismissive Avoidant, we’re peeling back the layers of what it means to love or be loved by someone with a dismissive avoidant attachment style. If you’ve ever felt like someone is pushing you away just when things start to feel close, this episode is for you. We'll dive into why people with this attachment style tend to keep their gua
Embracing Security: Understanding Secure Attachment
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Welcome to the first episode of our series on attachment theory! In this episode, we're getting to the heart of what makes our relationships tick. We'll chat about where attachment theory comes from, break down its main ideas, and see how it shapes the way we connect with others. Whether you've never heard of this or are just starting to learn about this, we've got something for you. We'll taIlk a
You Can Do HARD Things
One thing I have learned is the life will keep lifing, but in doing hard things you are becoming strong and resilient. You are becoming a person of incredible character. Believing in you!If you'd like to connect with me further you can find me on IG @coachngwithraynea.
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