Healing Our Relationships: From Codependency to Authenticity
Healing Our Relationships is a transformational podcast about relational healing, self-trust, and spiritual awakening. Host Marisa La Fata, an Insight Timer meditation teacher, intuitive, and transformation guide, blends psychology, codependency recovery, addiction healing, Toltec wisdom, trauma-awareness, and spiritual practice. Each episode looks beneath codependent behaviors to the fear, survival strategies, inherited agreements, and inner narratives that once provided safety but now limit growth. Marisa explores patterns such as people-pleasing, avoidance, projection, control, hypervigilance, and self-abandonment, offering grounded, compassionate guidance for returning to oneself.
Episodes
June 28th Meet & Greet & Healing Our Relationships Book Release
Join author, spiritual coach, Insight Timer meditation teacher, and host of the Healing Our Relationships podcast, Marisa La Fata, for an evening of teaching, reflection, conversation, and celebration as she shares the release of her new workbook, Healing Our Relationships: From Codependency to Authenticity. A student of the Toltec Path and a woman in recovery since 2008, Marisa is devoted to help
Healing Self-Hatred, Low Self-Esteem & The Abusive Relationship to Self
In this episode, I explore the voices of self-hatred as a symptom of codependency. Drawing from the wisdom of The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz, I talk about how these cruel inner voices are often learned and invite you to have the courage to question them and consider that they are not the truth of who you are. They may have originated in someone else's words, in the way we were treated, in
Why We Leave Our Bodies: Moving from Burnout, Overwhelm & Fear Toward Safety & Presence With Laura Wolf
Today on the podcast, I'm joined by Laura Wolf, a feminine embodiment teacher, retreat leader, and founder of The WildWoman Experience. For more than 20 years, Laura has guided women in reconnecting with their bodies, nervous systems, and authentic selves through embodiment practices, breathwork, nervous system support, and sacred feminine spirituality. She is also the creator of Sacred Body: Retu
Codependency In The Family: Overcoming The Fear of Hurting The People We Love
This week I am talking about the messy and complicated journey of healing codependency inside of our immediate family relationships. Especially our parents! Decades of patterns, trauma, and life experience mold the way we relate to our parents and our familial relationships. Trying to set new boundaries or step into the authenticity of who you are with people who have known you and related to yo
Your New Companion: The Healing Our Relationships Workbook
Season 2 is here! And I am bringing something tangible with it! 📖 Hello Journeyers! I am so excited to open this season with a companion to your journey. Inspired by all of your emails asking for the tools to really transform painful relationship patterns, I have spent the last seven months devoted to creating the Healing Our Relationships From Codependency to Authenticity Workbook. In this ep
Season Two Is Back! Teaser Trailer!
Welcome Back! I'm Marisa, Transformation Guide, Insight Timer Meditation, and a woman who has spent over 18 years walking her own road through addiction, codependency, and soul recovery. This is Season 2 of The Healing Our Relationships: From Codependency to Authenticity. Last season was an invitation to step into compassionate awareness. To ask yourself where codependent patterns show up in you
Embodied Self-Trust: Living From Your Heart Center | Lesson 8
This final lesson is an invitation to continue walking between your inner and outer worlds. Everything you've experienced in this course — your landscape, your guides, the symbols, the sensations, the clarity that rises from within — becomes truly transformative when you nourish it and bring it into your daily life. Integration is not an ending. It is the beginning of living from your heart center
Embodied Self-Trust: Meditatie & Explore Your Great Within | Lesson Seven
In lesson seven you'll move beyond theory and into direct experience. You'll be guided through a deep inner journey designed to attune your body, heart, and energy field to receiving authentic guidance from within. After the journey, you'll be given space for integration through journaling or creative expression. This lesson is a ceremonial doorway — a chance to experience your inner guidance dire
Embodied Self-Trust: Receiving Inner Guidance | Lesson Six
In lesson Six you'll learn how to receive inner guidance in the way it was always meant to be received — through the body, not the mind. You'll explore how visioning invites you to enter a state of somatic receptivity — a shift in your nervous system that opens the door to your inner world. From this place, guidance doesn't need to be forced or figured out. It rises on its own. Visioning works bec
Embodied Self-Trust: Strengthening Intuition | Lesson Five
In lesson five you'll learn how to strengthen self-trust by following the first images, sensations, and impressions that arise in your heart center. Instead of analyzing or searching for meaning, you'll explore how intuitive truth reveals itself through feeling, symbolism, and subtle inner knowing. You'll learn why the first impression is often the clearest, how to stay with what appears instead o
Embodied Self-Trust: Discern Between Your Ego & Your Soul | Lesson Four
In lesson four you'll learn how to discern between the voice of the ego and the voice of the soul by working inside your heart center. Rather than thinking your way into clarity, you'll discover how your inner landscape reveals the energetic difference between fear and truth. You'll explore the qualities of ego and soul as archetypal forces within you, learn how they feel inside your inner realm,
Embodied Self-Trust: A Meditation Journey | Lesson Three
In lesson three you're guided fully into your inner realm — the living landscape within your heart center. You'll prepare your body by lying close to the earth, grounding into your breath, and softening into receptivity. Through breath, visualization, and the spiral of light in your heart, you'll cross the veil into your landscape, explore its elements, and meet a helping spirit animal or guide. T
Embodied Self-Trust: The Symbolic Language of Your Heart | Lesson Two
In lesson two you'll learn how your inner world communicates through symbolic imagery, sensation, energy, and intuitive knowing. We explore elemental landscapes, colors, emotions, animals, guides, and the ways your heart will speak to you. You'll discover how visioning works, why nothing you see is "made up," and how to trust whatever arises — whether vivid, subtle, somatic, or symbolic. This less
Embodied Self-Trust: Into The Heart Center | Lesson One
In the first lesson you'll learn how the heart center serves as the gateway to your inner world — the place where intuition, clarity, and your soul's voice become accessible. We explore why the mind alone can't reveal deeper truth, how the heart communicates through visioning and sensation, and why this inner realm becomes the foundation for healing, self-trust, and spiritual connection throughout
Embodied Self-Trust: An At Your Own Pace Audio Course
Codependency is often the habit of leaving yourself to stay connected to someone else. It can look like over-functioning, people-pleasing, hypervigilance, controlling, fixing, rescuing—anything to create safety through the external world. But healing codependency isn't just changing behavior. It's rebuilding the inner relationship that was interrupted: self-trust, nervous system safety, and the ab
Lily Allen's West End Girl: A Mirror for Healing Our Relationship to Self
Our final episode of Season One is inspired by Lily Allen's West End Girl. This is not a pop-psych analysis or an attempt to interpret the artist's life or relationship. I'm bringing this album into our space as a mirror for the work we have been doing here. As I listened to West End Girl, I noticed how much it stirred in my own healing work. The linear and direct way she shares her experience fee
Don Jose Ruiz: A Conversation on Love Without Conditions
Today I have someone incredibly special with me. Not just a renowned Toltec Master of Transformation, not just a teacher or an author, but a dear friend to me and to everyone he meets. don José Ruiz is a Toltec Master, a storyteller, the author of The Fifth Agreement, Ripples of Wisdom, and My Good Friend the Rattlesnake. He's a speaker, a devoted vegan, a coffee lover, and someone who has dedicat
The Problem With "You Deserve Better, Go Find It" And Why Leaving Isn't the Answer Social Media Says It Is
Yes — there are many people in this world you could be in a relationship with. There is no shortage of potential partners. But when you are struggling inside your relationship, when there is fear, insecurity, reactivity, shutting down, chasing, or any kind of trauma response, the idea that there's "someone better out there" doesn't empower you. It actually pulls you further away from yourself. It
Cord Cutting Meditation For Relationship Anger & Resentment
Release resentment in this transformative 5-minute spiritual based practice. Let go of giving someone or something your energy and power. Through a powerful practice of cord cutting, sever the ties that bind you to the other. Step away from the ego's grip on resentment and step into the energy of your soul. Step into your courage and let go of giving someone or something yoru energy, your power a
The Bridge Between Codependency And Authenticity
Welcome back to Healing Our Relationships. This episode dives into the space between who you have been and who you are becoming. The bridge is the place where awareness meets embodiment, where intent becomes practice and where the real transformation happens. On one side of that bridge is the familiar self, the one who moves from the patterns of codependency that keep them "safe" to avoid pain, t
From Codependency To Co-Creation: A Special Interview With Linda Star Wolf
This week on the Healing Our Relationships Podcast I have a very special guest. She is the author of 13 books, the Founder of Venus Rising Association for Transformation and creator of Shamanic Breathwork. She has been a shamanic visionary teacher and guide to thousands of people over the last four decades, dedicating her life to assisting soul seekers to transform and embrace their lives. Star Wo
How to Find Freedom in Being Seen, Judged & Misunderstood
In order to be authentic we have to have the courage to be seen, judged and misunderstood. So much of our fear of authenticity comes from making assumptions and projection — seeing others not as they are, but through the lens of our own unhealed stories. Whether we are the projectors or being projected upon, in this episode of Healing Our Relationships, we explore how projections keep us afraid to
You Are Enough: A Meditation For Inner Peace
This month I am on an ancestral pilgrimage to Italy with my father so I am getting creative to bring you something every week. A couple weeks ago my offering for you was a free 7 Day Morning Practice at your own pace video course, last week I offered you a prayer for moments of relationship fear, obsession or disastermind. This week I offer you a guided meditation. In this meditation you will emba
A Spiritual Prayer For Relationship Obsessive Thoughts
This month I am on an ancestral pilgrimage to Italy with my father so I am getting creative in order to bring you something every week. Last week my offering for you was a free 7 Day Morning Practice at your own pace video course. Give it a listen for the free promo code. This week I am offering you a prayer for moments when you are experiencing obsession and fear inside of your relationships. Wh
From Head To Heart: When The Healing Becomes Embodied
This week I have something special for you. We can only go so long on our healing journeys with concepts and conversation. We need rhythm. We need practice. We need to move from head to heart to truly begin to embody the work we are doing. We need tools that helps us feel connected to ourselves in a real and powerful ways. In this bonus episode, I'm offering you just that. A way to root deeper i
Healing Codependent Patterns: A Clear Path Towards Authenticity
Codependency can be so confusing. Where does true caring end and self-abandonment begin? How do we know when we've shifted from showing up with love into people-pleasing, controlling, or living for someone else's approval? In this episode of Healing Our Relationships, I share one of the most direct tools that helped me begin to sort this out: the framework of "Codependency and Recovery — The Diffe
Don Miguel Ruiz Jr. on Love, Fear, and Healing Our Relationships
In this special conversation, I sit down with Don Miguel Ruiz Jr. — A Toltec Master, author, speaker, teacher, and the son of Don Miguel Ruiz, author of The Four Agreements. Together, we explore the Toltec path and how its wisdom can help us navigate the fears and patterns that shape our relationships. Miguel shares powerful insights from his new book, The Poisoned Arrow: The Toltec Guide to Over
Boundaries And The Path Toward Self-Trust
Boundaries are one of the most misunderstood aspects of healing and recovery. For some of us, being "boundariless" looks like saying yes when we mean no, letting others decide for us, and living in fear of rejection or disapproval. For others, it looks like building walls, controlling outcomes, or cutting people off entirely as a way to feel safe. Both are forms of disconnection — from ourselves,
Relearning & Reclaiming Self-Acceptance And Self-Worth
You can't just flip a switch and love yourself after a lifetime of feeling disconnected. For many of us, self-worth was never modeled it was something we had to earn through approval, performance, or meeting someone else's expectations. Over time, our nervous systems adapted to live in survival mode, we lost sense of who we really are and But this is not who you are. Beneath the roles you've play
Healing I'm broken, I can't trust anyone, If I don't get close I can't get hurt and I'm not worthy of love
Welcome back to Healing Our Relationships. I'm Marisa, Healer & Transformation Guide. Love avoidance often gets mistaken for independence, but in truth, it's another face of codependency — a strategy to control connection and protect ourselves from pain. In this episode, I'm unpacking three core beliefs that keep love-avoidant patterns alive: I can't trust anyone, If I don't get close, I can't get
Healing Fear of Rejection, Fear of Disappointing Others, Feeling Responsible for Their Emotions & Fear They'll Leave and Be Better for Someone Else
What a title! We are packing a lot in today. In this episode of Healing Our Relationships, we explore the deep-rooted beliefs that quietly shape compliance patterns—the part of us that abandons our truth to stay safe, to be liked and to avoid loss. These patterns aren't weakness. They're survival strategies we learned in environments where our voice didn't feel welcome. But they cost us. They cost
Healing I Am Not Enough, I Am Not Worthy, I Can't Trust Myself & It Isn't Safe to Be Me
Welcome back to Healing Our Relationships. I'm Marisa, Healer & Transformation Guide. In this episode, I'm diving deep into the low self-esteem patterns that so many carry—patterns that whisper, "I'm not enough," "I'm not worthy," "I can't trust myself," and "If I show up fully, I'll be rejected." These beliefs aren't the truth of who you are. They're stories you learned to survive. And if you're
Should I Stay Or Should I Go?
This is a bonus episode — one I felt called to share because I know how torturous it can feel to be caught in that anxious loop of "Should I stay or should I go?" And there is a good chance if you are on this journey with me. You may be in a relationship that doesn't feel good. When you're unsure what's yours and what belongs to someone else… the confusion can feel unbearable. The mind obsesses, t
Your Authentic Self: The Remembering, Discovering & Unfolding
Welcome back to Healing Our Relationships. I'm Marisa, Healer & Transformation Guide. So many of us live trapped inside stories we inherited long ago — stories about who we're supposed to be, what makes us worthy, and how love must be earned. In this episode of Healing Our Relationships, I explore how these old stories block us from our authentic, divine unfolding — and how remembering who we trul
The Costs of Self-Abandonment: Why Choosing Yourself Is Worth It
Welcome back to Healing Our Relationships. I'm Marisa, Healer & Transformation Guide, In this episode, I want to go deeper than just naming patterns of codependency. Because self-abandonment comes at a cost — and until we see that cost clearly, we stay trapped in cycles of survival instead of living the life we're here to live. Today, I'm exploring the hidden toll that self-abandonment takes on
Codependency vs. True Caring: How to Know the Difference
Welcome back to Healing Our Relationships. I'm Marisa, Healer and Transformation Guide. One of the biggest questions I hear from people on the journey of codependency recovery is this: "How do I know if I'm being loving… or if I'm being codependent?" Because when you're healing from codependency, it can feel confusing to tell the difference between true caring and patterns of people-pleasing, se
How Trauma Responses Shape Codependency
Welcome back to Healing Our Relationships. I'm Marisa, Healer and Transformation Guide. In our first episode, we talked about noticing the ways we abandon ourselves to feel loved, safe, or chosen. But awareness alone can leave us wondering… Why do I keep doing this, even when I know better? In this episode, I want to help you understand why codependency runs so deep. We'll explore how these patte
What Is Codependency, Really?
Welcome to the first episode of Healing Our Relationships. I'm Marisa, Healer and Transformation Guide. If you've ever felt like you're losing yourself in relationships… like you're constantly saying yes when you mean no, staying silent to avoid conflict, or feeling invisible even with the people you love most… you're not alone. Today, I want to help you begin to understand what codependency real
From Codependency to Authenticity: Begin Your Journey Here
Welcome to Healing Our Relationships. I'm Marisa. I'm a Healer and Transformation Guide, and someone who's spent years untangling my own patterns of addictions and codependency — and helping others do the same. Join me each week on Healing Our Relationships as I guide you through understanding codependency, reconnecting with your authentic self, and creating relationships rooted in truth. Codepend
