Shame Piñata
Shame Piñata is an interview podcast hosted by ritual artist Colleen Thomas, a certified meditation and mindfulness teacher. It shares stories about creating ritual and meaning, including honoring deep loss, reinventing oneself, and designing unique wedding ceremonies. Episodes also feature experts in the field of ritual. The podcast is currently on hiatus, but its work continues. Music is by Terry Hughes.
Episodes
S6 E3 Insights Into Grief & Loss
Imagine standing at the crossroads of change, holding the weight of grief in one hand and the hope for healing in the other. Life is full of transitions—some we celebrate, others we endure. How do we mark the moments that shape us? How do we find meaning in the spaces where loss and growth meet? Episode Resources: → Grief & Loss Episode Archive: https://ever-changing.net/grief-loss → Share Your
Welcome to Shame Piñata
Shame Piñata: Creating Rites of Passage for Real-Life Transitions. Stories from people who have used ceremony to create authentic weddings, make it through hard times, honor deep loss, or reinvent themselves. _________________ Browse Previous Episodes by Topic: → Episodes on Rites of Passage: https://ever-changing.net/rites-of-passage → Episodes on Authentic Weddings: https://ever-changing.net/a
Additional Offerings
You're invited to check out an additional offering from the Shame Piñata team for our Ukrainian friends: 10 Minutes for Your Heart, a 10-part limited meditation series for Ukrainians - available in both English and Ukrainian Join us! _________________ Follow 10 Minutes for Your Heart → Show Website: https://10minutesforyourheart.com → Listen on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PL1
S6 E2 Insights Into Authentic Weddings
Weddings are more than just a celebration. They are markers of a profound life transition that affects not only the couple but also their families and community. Today we reflect on the full range of emotions that can accompany this pivotal rite of passage and learn how our guests made room for them in the wedding time. Episode Resources: → Authentic Weddings Episode Archive: https://ever-chang
S6 E1 Insights Into Rites of Passage
Imagine navigating the journey of life with the power of ritual in your hand. From births and weddings to grief and personal growth, each change shapes who we are. Today we reflect on five seasons of conversations with ritual makers and look at how they have used the tool of ritual to heal, grow, and transform. Episode Resources: → Rites of Passage Episode Archive: https://ever-changing.net/rit
S5 E6 The Emergence Ceremony (April Cantor)
How can we honor our youth as they come of age in ways that are strengthened by tradition and also allow their unique spark to shine? What would happen if we let them tell us what they need and co-created ceremony with them? Join us as we hear the story of the Emergence Ceremony that bridged into a powerful transformation for the entire family. Episode Resources: → SoulShine Life with April: htt
S5 E5 Baptism as a Rite of Passage (Tina Torres)
Being part of a religious or spiritual community can be a wonderful support in life. Shared customs and traditions can bring comfort, connection, and a shared experience of the Divine. But what role does ritual play in all of this and how does it help us connect to the Divine? Join us for an exploration of Baptism as a Rite of Passage - from both sides of the pulpit. Episode Transcript: https:
S5 E4 Blooming Amidst the War - Pt 2 (Alina Zievakova)
Imagine being able to attend a bold and beautiful theater performance that gives voice to a path you might know all too well, a path of healing from the impacts of violence or trauma. Imagine what that might feel like in your core, to see someone go on a journey similar to yours and get to the other side of it. (This is part 2 of a 2-part interview with Alina Zievakova.) Episode Resources: → Blo
S5 E3 Blooming Amidst the War - Pt 1 (Alina Zievakova)
Imagine having a silent witness, a partner who is with you all the time, even when you go through the hardest moments of your life. Imagine not being alone but instead being held, accompanied, supported. What might that feel like in your heart, in your body, in your bones? (This is part 1 of a 2-part interview with Alina ZIevakova.) Episode Resources: → Blooming - Watch the Performance (47:49) h
S5 E2 Techno Cosmic Wedding (Pt 2 - The Event)
So it's the big day. The day of the Techno Cosmic Wedding. With your virtual invitation in hand, you walk into the venue. Prayer flags hang from the ceiling above you. A set of handmade neon signs rests neatly in the window ledge, spelling out "Marry Me Colleen" The neon question mark at the end is no longer working, but that's okay because she said yes. Episode Resources: → Techno Cosmic Weddin
S5 E1 Techno Cosmic Wedding (Pt 1 - The Plan)
What would you think if you received an invitation to attend to something called a Techno Cosmic Wedding? Would you be curious? Avoidant? Undecided? What if it was framed as a post-modern, rave-inspired event where your whole self was welcome. How would you feel then? Episode Resources: → Techno Cosmic Wedding (Pt 2 - The Event): https://ever-changing.net/episodes/s5-e2-techno-cosmic-wedding-2 →
Introducing 10 Minutes for Your Heart
Join us on YouTube for a new audio mediation series! "10 Minutes for Your Heart" is a trauma-sensitive meditation series specifically designed for Ukrainian listeners. The series, hosted by a Certified Meditation and Mindfulness teacher, offers 10-minute sessions to explore power, passion, and essential life-force. The meditations focus on connecting with breath, body, and personal power, providin
S4 E9 Embracing Shame (Sheila Rubin)
Episode Summary: What happens when shame stops us in our tracks? When we find ourselves in freeze mode and realize that it's actually shame that's holding us there? How do we break the spell and move through that paralysis - and what if there is a way to release that shame back to wherever it came from? Episode Resources: → Sheila Rubin: https://www.sheilarubin.com/ → The Center for Healing Sha
S4 E8 How Long Does Grief Take? (Irisanya Moon)
Episode Title: S4 E8 How Long Does Grief Take? (Irisanya Moon) Episode Summary: A significant loss can come in many shapes and sizes and has the power to change us at a fundamental level. That rebirthing we go through after a big loss is so important and can also be so painful. Two questions that can often come to mind are: "How long will this take?" and "Can I make it through?" Episode Resour
S4 E7 Discomfort As Ally (Irisanya Moon)
Episode Summary: We love to be in control. We love to know what's going to happen, how long it will last, and what effects it will have on us. But what if, like a tree in the wind, flexibility and surrender are our greatest tools? What if discomfort can be our friend? Episode Resources: → Irisanya Moon: https://www.irisanyamoon.com → New Book: https://www.irisanyamoon.com/store/p19/norns-weave
S4 E6 Surviving the First Year
Episode Summary: The first year after a significant loss can be so hard. As the wheel turns and the light changes, visceral memories can arise of this time last year when things were different. How do we create space for our hearts as we go through a year of firsts? Episode Transcript: https://ever-changing.net/episodes/s4-e6-surviving-the-first-year _________________ Libsyn Promo Code: Get up
S4 E5 Entrepreneurship as a Rite of Passage (Molly Mandelberg)
Episode Summary: Finding our right work can be a journey. In our life, we may have had many jobs, explored many paths. What might it feel like to live your passion, to bring your full self to your work? If you listen very carefully, is your heart actually telling you which way to go? Episode Resources: → Wise Hearts Rise Up: https://wildheartsriseup.com Episode Transcript: https://ever-changi
S4 E4 The Power of Tears (Ryan Kluttz)
Episode Summary: When someone passes away, the loss can bring us to our knees metaphorically - and sometimes literally. When it's literal, that's the body talking, echoing the heart. Crying can be like that too. Today we look at intention, death, and tears. Episode Transcript: https://ever-changing.net/episodes/s4-e4-the-power-of-tears _________________ Libsyn Promo Code: Get up to 2 months of
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S4 E3 There Must Be Something Wrong (Sheryl Paul) [Remastered]
Episode Summary: Today we revisit one of our most popular episodes, an early interview with Sheryl Paul, author of "The Conscious Bride". Sheryl's work allows us to reflect on how the pain, grief, discomfort, and vulnerability that can arise throughout the wedding process can actually be doorways into joy if we are willing to let them in. Episode Resources: → Sheryl Paul: https://conscious-tran
S4 E2 From Pandemic to Endemic (Megan Sheldon)
Episode Summary: As we continue to move out of the pandemic and begin to vision what we want our new lives to look like, what do you see for yourself? What are you creating? Are you anxious to get back to everything at once or perhaps are you seeking a slower, more intention way of living. What might that look like? Episode Resources: → Be Ceremonial: http://www.beceremonial.com → Be Ceremonial
S4 E1 The World's First Ceremony Creation Platform (Megan Sheldon)
Episode Summary: In those significant life changing moments, like becoming a parent or losing a parent, it's easy to feel lost, ungrounded. We might think to ourselves, "Yeah, ceremony could maybe be a useful thing right now, but where do I start?" Well, there's an app for that and it's beautiful! Episode Resources: → Be Ceremonial: http://www.beceremonial.com → Be Ceremonial App in the App Stor
Season 4 Trailer
Episode Summary: Season 4 of Shame Piñata launches in February! Join us as we continue to explore the rites of passage we've missed and how we can creating new ones. Find the show on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Radio Public, or your favorite player. Episode Transcript: https://ever-changing.net/episodes/season-4-trailer _________________ Libsyn Promo Code: Get up to 2 months of free podcasting serv
S3 E5 Surviving a Recent Loss
Episode Summary: What do we do when the unthinkable happens and we lose someone we love? How do we create space for our heart, our pain and our love which is now expressed as an overwhelming grief? How do we do that while simultaneously putting one foot in front of the other each day? Episode Resources: → National Suicide Prevention Lifeline: 988 Episode Transcript: https://ever-changing.net/e
Bonus - The Materials of Ritual (Material Feels Podcast)
Episode Summary: Ritual can help begin things, end things, bridge over from one thing to the next. What differentiates one kind of ceremony from another often comes down to intention. But what are the materials of ritual and how can we use them to design ceremonies to support us in doing "the thing"? Episode Transcript: https://ever-changing.net/episodes/bonus-the-materials-of-ritual __________
S3 E4 Nothing Can Prepare You for Motherhood (Grace Chon)
Episode Summary: Sometimes the cultural limits we grow up with can become our norms. Like the water we swim in, we forget to question them. What happens when we notice them and push back? Today Grace Chon shares her story of what happened when she dedicated a few moments a day to creative expression as a new mom and the photo series that went viral. Episode Resources: → Grace Chon: http://www.
S3 E3 Coming Out as a Rite of Passage
Episode Summary: It can take great bravery to come out of the closet, to let the people we know the best know us on that deep, real level - especially if knowing the true us might be hard for them. There isn't a commonly held rite of passage for coming out as queer, but that doesn't mean we can't create one. Episode Resources: → Queer Spirit Podcast: https://queerhealingjourneys.com/podcast/ →
S3 E2 Blood Magic (Erica Sodos)
Episode Summary: Several years after self-publishing the popular Zine "Moonflow", Magician and Menstrual Educator Erica Sodos join us for a discussion on the sacred blood rites of menarche and menopause.. We explore the idea that rites of passage - such as a first-menstruation ceremony or a "Croning" ceremony for menopause - can be created or even revisited retroactively to heal past experiences a
S3 E1 The Mother Son Dance (Jeanne & Astro)
Episode Summary: She saw him as a free spirit who was never going to get married. She didn't know how to let go of him because maybe there would never be a wedding and a dance. How one mother and son completely transformed their relationship with a ceremony in the middle of a lake. Episode Resources: → HealStory Podcast: https://www.healstory.com Episode Transcript: https://ever-changing.net/
Season 3 Trailer
Episode Summary: Season 3 of Shame Piñata launches in February! Join us as we continue to explore the rites of passage we've missed and how we're creating new ones to mark how we're changing today. Find the show on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, Radio Public, or your favorite player. Episode Transcript: https://ever-changing.net/episodes/season-3-trailer _________________ Episodes by Topic: → Episo
S2 E11 The Last Drive (Alicia Connor)
Episode Summary: Initiations come in all shapes and sizes, from graduating with a formal degree, to becoming a parent, to losing a parent. We can't control what experience the universe sends us, but we can meet each change with our full, honest selves. Alicia Connor inspires us with a story of taking a change and flowing with it on her own terms. Episode Resources: → Alicia Connor: https://www.a
S2 E10 Finding Your Own Magic (Erica Sodos)
Episode Summary: Remember what it felt like the first time you saw something truly amazing, something that blew your mind? Like the first time you saw a movie in the theater as a kid or someone showed you the constellations? Magician and mentalist Erica Sodos helps us learn to rediscover that sense of wonder, awe, and amazement. Episode Resources: → Erica Sodos: http://ericasodos.com/ → Erica's
S2 E9 Do You Need A Ceremony? (Pt 3, The Deep Dive)
Episode Summary: Sometimes we feel a call to deepen, to learn, to grow and while there are many amazing teachers in the world, one of the greatest resources we have is our own intuition and our unique connection to Spirit. But in day to day life, it can be difficult to tap into these sources of wisdom. How can we create an intentional space to hear their voices? Other Episodes in This Series: →
S2 E8 Continuing to Make Sense of COVID Time
Episode Summary: Even with all of the progress we have made through COVID, somehow, time is still a spiral. Join us for a look back at the 1-year anniversary of the lockdown where we explore the concept of time and how it helps us make sense of life. Episode Transcript: https://ever-changing.net/episodes/s2e8-continuing-to-make-sense-of-covid-time _________________ Episodes by Topic: → Episo
S2 E7 A Brunch to Acknowledge Heartbreak (Catherine Monahon)
Episode Summary: Catherine Monahon (producer of the wonderful Material Feels Podcast) shares their journey from breakup to new home. At the start of the journey was heartbreak. At the end was a celebration of the love that had supported Catherine all along the way. Episode Transcript: https://ever-changing.net/episodes/s2e7-a-brunch-to-acknowledge-heartbreak _________________ Episodes by Topi
S2 E6 Do You Need A Ceremony? (Pt 2, Reinventing Ourselves)
Episode Summary: Ch-ch-ch-changes! In part-two we step off the beaten path and into the unknown. Maybe by choice, maybe not. Either way, we have all we need to reinvent ourselves. We just need to get creative. Other Episodes in This Series: → Do You Need A Ceremony? (Pt 1, Significant Moments): https://ever-changing.net/episodes/s2e4-do-you-need-a-ceremony-pt-1 → Do You Need A Ceremony? (Pt 3,
Bonus - Ritual, Initiation and Change (The Queer Spirit Podcast)
Episode Summary: In the words of Nick Venegoni, "Initiation is a moment when you can step into the next level of power." Nick compares initiation to leveling up, like in gaming. You gain a new power. What if this is true? What if we can reframe the challenges in our lives as initiations that not only help us get through the hard moments but also help us to level up? Episode Resources: → The Qu
S2 E5 The UnBaby Shower (Tristy Taylor)
Episode Summary: When Reverend Tristy Taylor and her husband decided to stop trying to have a baby, she honored that loss with a special ceremony. During her time sitting shiva, "grief first" was her mantra. Then a dream inspired her to create a celebration of her decision to not become a mother. Episode Resources: → Tristy Taylor: http://www.createwithspirit.com → The UnBaby Shower Blog Post
S2 E4 Do You Need A Ceremony? (Pt 1, Significant Moments)
Episode Summary: As we go through life, we inevitably come upon moments that are difficult. Some might be incredibly personal ones that it feels like few other people could understand. We have some options in those moments. We can ask for help, of course. And we might also create a ritual that is uniquely perfect to address our own needs. Other Episodes in This Series: → Do You Need A Ceremony?
S2 E3 A Queer Pagan Handfasting (Nick Venegoni)
Episode Summary: Nick & Thom were married in a big, open field in Oakland California. This was right after same-sex marriage was legalized in the US and it was a huge celebration. Join us for a glimpse of their special day. Episode Resources: → Queer Spirit Podcast: http://queerhealingjourneys.com/podcast/ Episode Transcript: https://ever-changing.net/episodes/s2e3-a-queer-pagan-handfasting _
S2 E2 Making Sense of COVID Time
Episode Summary: Time is a spiral - right now and always. And COVID time is a ride all its own. Whatever your experience of time has been in the past year, join us for a look at what time gives us and the benefits of letting go. We'll also explore our own personal connection to space and time so we're not so thrown by the world around us. Episode Transcript: https://ever-changing.net/episodes
S2 E1 Welcome to Womanhood (Susan Burgess-Lent/Nikole Lent)
Episode Summary: Being a woman in this world brings challenges. Susan wanted to prepare her daughter Nikole for those challenges in the best way possible. So she invited several of her closest friends to a non-religious ceremony and asked them to present Nikole with some of the things that had supported them in their own lives. Episode Resources: → Susan Burgess-Lent: http://www.susanburgesslent
Season 2 Trailer
Episode Summary: On Season 2 of Shame Piñata, we'll dive into what it looks like to create rituals for the important moments in our lives. Episode Transcript: https://ever-changing.net/episodes/s2-mini-trailer _________________ Episodes by Topic: → Episodes on Rites of Passage: https://ever-changing.net/rites-of-passage → Episodes on Authentic Weddings: https://ever-changing.net/authentic-weddi
S1 E17 Dancing in Liminality
Episode Summary: What if I told you that it's possible to find grace and flow in the middle of chaos? What if I said you could learn how to dance in liminal space and be a rock star, a liminal kind of rockstar. It's all about releasing expectation and connecting to the things that matter the most. Episode Resources: → OK Go - Upside Down & Inside Out: https://youtu.be/LWGJA9i18Co → OK Go - Upsid
S1 E16 Inviting Grief to the Wedding (Tria Wen)
Episode Summary: It's the big day and there's a lot going on. Relationships are being redefined. Power dynamics are actively shifting and yet, in the words of wedding planner Tria Wen, "It's taboo to acknowledge or to express anything but joy." What would it look like to make room for some of the more complex emotions? To let everyone acknowledge the effect a wedding has on their unique relationsh
S1 E15 Deep Rest
Episode Summary: What does your body need in order to rest fully? What does your heart need to soften a bit? What would it feel like to rest - not with one ear out for the next crisis - but actually fully rest? Basic Steps of a Ritual for Deep Rest 1. Set aside concerns 2. Nest building 3. Set an intention 4. Invite guides/guardians/Ancestors 5. Rest in the space 6. Listen in the space 7. Return s
S1 E14 The Programming Language of the Soul (Betty Ray)
Episode Summary: The transitions in our lives can bring up difficult feelings. It's easy to see the lay of the land when we're walking a straight path, but when the sidewalk ends, all kinds of confusion can come up. We may lose track of where we're going and even start to question our values. How can ceremony help us through the transformations in our lives? Episode Resources: → Betty Ray: http
S1 E13 Being in a Body
Episode Summary: Even if it's not our natural disaster, even if no one we know has COVID, all of the chaos of this moment is affecting us. It's affecting our body. What can we do to begin to work with these strong feelings, these strong events, fears, moments, dynamics? How can we let our body help us find a way through? Episode Resources: → When Loss Hurts: 6 Physical Effects of Grief: https://
S1 E12 Why Weddings Push Our Buttons (Jocelyn Charnas)
Episode Summary: Transitions are our friends. Transitions bring us new things. Transitions can also bring discomfort, but that discomfort offers us a chance to grow - if we are willing to let it have a seat at the table. What would happen if we embraced the discomfort, embraced the difficulty, embraced the challenge? What would it be like if all parts of us were offered a place at the table? Ep
S1 E11 How To Be Strong
Episode Summary: How do we keep moving forward in a world that doesn't feel like ours anymore? We need grit to stay strong and we need resilience to stay flexible. Join us for a simple ceremony to do both. Episode Transcript: https://ever-changing.net/episodes/s1e11-how-to-be-strong _________________ Episodes by Topic: → Episodes on Rites of Passage: https://ever-changing.net/rites-of-passage →
S1 E10 My Self Marriage Story
Episode Summary: What if you could find the most amazing partner in the world, someone who loves you unconditionally, who respects you, admires you, and has your back through thick and thin? What if that person was you? Episode Transcript: https://ever-changing.net/episodes/s1e10-my-self-marriage-story _________________ Episodes by Topic: → Episodes on Rites of Passage: https://ever-changing.net
S1 E9 A Ritual for Flow
Episode Summary: In these less than normal times, when the world is crying out for change, it can be difficult to tell which way is up, let alone make decisions on how to move forward. But liminality offers us the opportunity to slow down and look within. What if we could find a way to flow with the chaos? What if, inside, we actually know what we need to do next? Here are some steps to create a r
S1 E8 A Whole Other Layer of Self-Love (Jennie Taylor)
Episode Summary: We hear all the time that we should love ourselves more, but what does that actually look like in real life? Can self-love be more than buying ourselves flowers? Jennie Taylor shares the tools in her self-love playbook and speaks honestly about loving herself through a deeply personal surrender. Episode Resources: → Jennie Taylor: https://expand-coaching.com/ → The Self-Love Pla
S1 E7 Releasing Overwhelm
Episode Summary: With so many things happening at once, it's easy for the nervous system to become overwhelmed. When this happens, it's hard to think, it's hard to function. We have the power to gain a bit of distance from what is coming at us by doing a simple ceremony to release overwhelm. Episode Resources: → Bessel van der Kolk: https://www.besselvanderkolk.com/ Episode Transcript: https
S1 E6 There Must Be Something Wrong (Sheryl Paul)
Episode Summary: The pain, grief, discomfort, and vulnerability that can arise throughout the wedding process can actually be doorways into joy if we are willing to let them in. Sheryl Paul speaks about her book "The Conscious Bride" which addresses the MANY feelings that can arise around a wedding for everyone involved. Episode Resources: → Sheryl Paul: https://conscious-transitions.com → The C
S1 E5 A Ritual for Balance
Episode Summary: Here's a simple ceremony that can help you find your center again. Basic Steps of a Ritual for Balance 1. Breathe 2. Center 3. Connect with something bigger 4. Presence & release fear (shake, yell, cry) 5. Connect with strength 6. Create a touchstone (art, writing, music) 7. Close in gratitude 8. Eat 9. Be gentle for the next few hours Episode Transcript: https://ever-changin
S1 E4 I Want to Have a Ceremony with You (Betsy Weiss)
Episode Summary: Betsy and Brandon didn't want to get married. But when Betsy's mother was nearing the end of her life, they decided to honor their love in a ceremony called A Celebration of Love and Family. Episode Resources: → The Things She Left Me: http://thethingssheleftme.com Episode Transcript: https://ever-changing.net/episodes/s1e4-i-want-to-have-a-ceremony-with-you ________________
S1 E3 Wedding Therapy, Is That a Thing? (Landis Bejar)
Episode Summary: Landis Bejar has a job you may not have ever heard of before. She is a wedding therapist. In her room, individuals and couples plan for the big day by setting goals and processing the experience of the transition. Her blog offers tips on wedding therapy themes such as defending something you never meant to defend. Episode Resources: → Landis Bejar: https://www.aisle-talk.com →
S1 E2 San Francisco as My Witness (Betty Ray)
Episode Summary: Betty Ray walked to the top of Bernal Hill at the turn of the millennium. She brought three things with her: a candle, her checkbook, and a ring. Episode Resources: → Betty Ray: https://www.bettyray.net/ Episode Transcript: https://ever-changing.net/episodes/s1e2-san-francisco-as-my-witness _________________ Episodes by Topic: → Episodes on Rites of Passage: https://ever-chan
S1 E1 We're Together (Tria Wen)
Episode Summary: Tria Wen knows a thing or two about letting go of expectations. She used to be a wedding planner who loved her job. The only hard part was the divorce. Her divorce.Now Tria is getting remarried. She and her fiancé want to create a unique wedding ceremony that is not only different from her first wedding, but also one that won't give her any flashbacks to the many weddings she has
S1 Trailer: The Big Day
Episode Summary: On this trailer for the first season of Shame Piñata, we hear from people who pressed beyond the limitations of traditional weddings and commitment ceremonies to create unique gatherings that allowed them and their partners to truly shine. Episode Transcript: https://ever-changing.net/episodes/s1-trailer-the-big-day Episodes by Topic: → Episodes on Rites of Passage: https://ev
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