The Ace Couple
Asexual married couple Courtney and Royce discuss all aspects of asexuality. They explore queer culture and history through an Ace lens. The show covers life, love, sex, and relationships from an asexual perspective. Full transcripts and show notes are available at theacecouple.com.
Episodes
How to not be Acephobic
We've discussed these rules before, but due to a series of conversations we've had recently, they're on the top of our mind and we thought an episode dedicated solely to them was warranted.
r/AmITheAsshole? Asexuality Edition #8
Somehow, it's been over a year since we've waded into this subreddit.
A New Book Series with an Ace Protagonist! ft. Sarah Moon
At long last we are joined by Sarah Moon to discuss her personal journey with Asexuality and neurodivergence, Japanese translating, and her debut novel, Secrets of the Yllime: Incorporeal.
What we wish we knew before getting married and buying a house
Don't get scammed, friends!
Asexual Representation in Heartstopper Forever
The Heartstopper TV adaptation ends with a brief movie finale.
Laughing at the offensive PR emails we get: Part 2
From embargoed press releases to scam products to charting on podcast platforms, there's never a dull day in our overly-inflated email inbox.
The Good Place
A masterpiece of television worthy of an Ace reading.
Sex is neither a right nor a need
Although this isn't the end of the conversation, this is the final episode for our Consent Month. We round out the discussion by explaining why all consent models will fall flat until we can properly unpack widespread societal norms that perpetuate rape culture.
Does "Enthusiastic Consent" Serve the Asexual Community?
Week 3 of consent month! We're finally starting the complicated conversation about enthusiastic consent and how this model doesn't do enough for a variety of Aspecs.
Voice Memo Guy
Week 2 of Consent Month, so OF COURSE we have to talk about the voice memo guy discourse.
Obsession
August is officially Consent Month over here in our little podcast corner. We're kicking off week 1 talking about the movie Obsession.
Crazy Ex-Girlfriend
A masterpiece of storytelling! Even though it doesn't specifically include an ace or aro character, it resonates with many aspecs when it defies romance tropes in a way that feels indicative of allo writers making fun of themselves in a humorous and self-aware way.
r/BestofRedditorUpdates: Asexuality Edition #3
Unfortunately, more of you are going to listen to this episode than last week's.
Getting arrested for feeding hungry people- Food Not Bombs
Courtney Vs. One Dozen Cops. A personal story and a broader message.
Asexuality has been criminalized
Although there is a large history of anti-ace sentiment leeching into laws and policy across many countries, Asexuality as an identity has now been outright criminalized for the first time in history, that we know of.
Our Ace Community
A tableau of Ace Joy from our personal experience. An in-person finale for our 3+year-long all-ace D&D campaign.
Ace Moments
Here's a very casual chit chat about some of our funniest asexual moments. May they be relatable or at least funny!
Aromantic, Asexual Representation? Project Hail Mary
Is Ryland Grace AroAce? Either way, let's dig into why this movie resonates so heavily with this community.
The Case for More Pride Emojis (or, Why the Elephant is an Ace Icon)
Due to Unicode's acephobia, Courtney's mom can't send us a proper "Happy Pride Month" text and that's why the elephant should forever be enshrined as an iconic symbol of Ace history.
Beware the acephobia of drunken St. Louis women!
Two nights in St. Louis, two drunk women who said exactly the wrong thing to us. A goofy little story time.
r/Relationships: Asexuality Edition #2
You request more r/Relashionships? We read more r/Relashionships!
US Counterterrorism Strategy targets anti-fascists and people who are "radically pro-transgender"
Welp...the US government thinks we're terrorists now...
We were invited to an interview in LA...then they booked Orion Taraban instead
A podcast about love could have spoken to an us, an Asexual couple going on 12 years of marriage. Instead, they spoke to a red-pilled psychologist who tells women that in order to keep a man, they need to be younger, hotter, and have more "cheap" sex with them.
Human Rights Campaign finds Aces face sharper declines in acceptance than other LGBTQ+ adults
According to the HRC's 2025 Annual LGBTQ+ Community Survey, Asexuals are dealing with sharper declines in acceptance, outness, and visibility than LGBTQ+ adults overall.
Asexual Representation: Heartbreak High Season 3
The 3rd and FINAL season of Ca$h and his mixed-orientation ace/allo relationship.
We tried playing a "Spicy D&D Date Night for Couples"
...And it was TERRIBLE!
Life is Strange is stringing us along...
Life is Strange: Reunion recently dropped! But coming off of Double Exposure, we're left asking...where is Diamond Washington? WHERE is the continued Ace Rep??
Weird Allo Reality Shows 5
For 2026's first round of weird allo reality shows, we're comin in hot with commentary on Age of Attraction! Plus an honorary mention of Building the Band, even though it's not technically a dating show.
r/Relationships: Asexuality Edition
It's been almost a year since we've waded into a new subreddit, so let's gooooo!
Charlie Kirk & Scott Galloway
The 3 P's and the 3 M's are two sides of the same right wing coin.
Alpine Divorce
Climbers are rightfully discussing the case of a man who left his girlfriend to die on Austria's tallest mountain. Notably missing from this conversation, however, is naming the underlying abuse and ableism inherent to walking ahead of your partner- even in situations that are not as obviously life and death.
What's happening in Kansas right now...
Kansas, you are our home...and we are SO disappointed in you right now.
Asexuality in Manga 5: Aromantic (love) story & And Another Lovely Day
The last manga & webcomic episode in Royce's latest little reading kick! Let us know what else we should cover and maybe we'll get to it in another couple of years...
The Date of the Union 2026: The Great Dating Recession
Nobody wants to date anymore!
Asexuality in Manga 4: My Astilbe, Shades of A, & She Loves to Cook and She Loves to Eat
We're back for another round of Ace Rep in manga and web comics! Today we talk about My Astilbe, Shades of A, and we revisit She Loves to Cook and She Loves to Eat.
The Rise of Platonic Co-Parenting
More people should be aware that is possibility. Aces & Aros have historically already been finding family structures to accommodate this desire, but now? There's an app for that.
Asexuality in Manga 3: I Married My Best Friend to Shut my Parents Up, Dom & Mor, and More!
Today we talk Ace Rep in manga and web comics! For the first time we discuss She Love to Cook and She Loves to Eat, I Married My Best Friend to Shut My Parents Up, Dom & Mor, and Clinic of Horrors. Plus we also give an update on one of Royce's favorites, I Want to be a Wall.
Saving America by Saving the Family (Part 2)
Wouldn't it be great if this were the last time we ever had to pay any attention to the Heritage Foundation?
The Heritage Foundation's latest horrifying report: Saving America by Saving the Family (Part 1)
Who remembers back in 2022 when 83 religious, right-wing organizations condemned the Respect for Marriage Act while warning about the dangers of "platonic marriages"? WE DO. Well, coming off of their Project 2025 successes, here is the natural conclusion of that rhetoric.
Alastor in Hazbin Hotel Season 2: The REAL reason he's problematic Ace Rep
Alastor is problematic asexual representation, not solely because he's evil. He's partially a problem because the rep is not obvious enough in the show itself for viewers who are not already entrenched in the fandom... But the biggest issue of all lies in the historically racist stereotyping that undertones his character.
Alastor in Hazbin Hotel Season 2: Are the TV show and fandom entirely different artistic mediums?
Watching season 2 after a year of reflection following season 1, we have some more thoughts about how to interpret Alastor in terms of Asexual and/or Aromantic representation. But we've got even more points to make next week, so stay tuned!
The MarketplAce for Aro and Ace-owned small businesses
Just a little light housekeeping to close out the year! What is the MarketplAce? And what isn't it? Should you visit it and shop there? (Hint: YES you should!)
r/BestofRedditorUpdates: Asexuality Edition #2
We have an UPDATE on one of our favorite stories from r/AmITheAsshole Asexuality Edition. Plus, several new "best of" stories.
Straight Women are Embarrassed by their Boyfriends.
Are straight women concealing their boyfriends out of embarrassment on social media? According to a Vogue article, it's apparently either do that or feature them heavily in order to go viral and gain social clout, so...pick your poison.
Aromantic & Asexual Representation in Children's Books
Is Aro rep beating out Ace rep in picture books?? Today we talk about the flag-forward type of representation in children's books Under One Rainbow and Grandad's Pride.
"But what if they stop wanting sex!?" The alarmist media coverage of teens taking antidepressants.
Today we discuss a recent article about Post-SSRI Sexual Dysfunction (PSSD) from the New York Times. This is simply one recent example within an increasing wave of backlash against often life-saving medical care that reinforces its point by medicalizing sexuality and demonizing queer people.
Scott Galloway needs to keep the word Asexual out of his mouth
The man who once said that Asexual men are the most dangerous people in the world and claimed that college protests are a result of students not having enough sex is on a press tour, hitting all of the major news outlets and podcasts, calling Asexual males "a new species". But in using this dehumanizing language against our community, he's ignoring one of the three pillars that make up his own fra
GLAAD's 2025 media report ignores the precious few Asexual characters
GLAAD released their 2024-2025 "Where we are on TV" report. They cite only 2 asexual characters on TV this year (a decrease from last), but unfortunately ignore key details about them, making this report underdeveloped and poorly edited at best and inaccurate and dismissive at worst.
Ableist Language (Part 4)
The final installment...for now.
Ableist Language (Part 3)
OK. Phobia story time...
Ableist Language (Part 2)
Royce is trying very hard to keep episodes around or under an hour, so here is episode 2 of...4? Maybe?
Ableist Language (Part 1)
The start of an important, yet contentious conversation. Please be nice! We put these episodes off for literal years, because historically some of you have been EXTREMELY not nice about this topic.
"The Ick"
Yet another type of romantic and/or sexual feeling that we will simply never understand...
Ketamine Part 2: Health insurance adding insult to injury
Ketamine can be a life-saving treatment... It can also be prohibitively expensive. And only fellow chronically ill Americans will believe the audacity of our health insurance company revealed in a series of phone calls we've had this month.
Ketamine
A life-saving drug.
Bicentennial Man and humanizing characters through sex
Analyzing a 25 year old robot movie that bombed in order to make a point about sexuality, humanity, and asexual media representation because we simultaneously love and hate it.
Asexual Representation on Broadway: Maybe Happy Ending
Imagine a year where the Tony award winning best play and musical were both asexual??? Maybe Happy Ending might not be as elegant or explicit as Purpose in that regard, but honestly....please just let me have this?
r/AmITheAsshole? Asexuality Edition #7
Wow somehow we haven't done an AITA yet in 2025..let's fix that!
Yet another healthcare rant...
Courtney is fighting doctors again.
Making fun of famous quotes about marriage, family, & home life
Reviewing and adding our Asexual commentary on quotes about Marriage, Family, & Home Life from the book Oxymoronica: paradoxical wit and wisdom from history’s greatest wordsmiths.
Asexual Representation on Broadway: Purpose Review
2025 Tony award winning play, Purpose, is a triumph of the stage which prominently features asexuality as one of its core themes.
Making fun of famous quotes about sex, love, and romance
Reviewing and adding our Asexual commentary on quotes about Sex, Love, and Romance from the book Oxymoronica: paradoxical wit and wisdom from history's greatest wordsmiths.
The conspiracy theorist dating app advertising "unvaxxed sperm"
Courtney went undercover on the anti-vax dating site, Unjected...
Courtney, the ordained minister
Courtney is now an ordained minister of the Church of Gnome and she is ready to officiate your Ace wedding (or other important life event)!
Weird Allo Reality Shows 4
TWO weird allo show episodes in one year?? Oh, how we spoil you! Today we talk about Pop the Balloon, Million Dollar Secret, and Sneaky Links: Dating After Dark.
Living with someone with EDS
July is disability pride month. We've already talked about Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome from Courtney's perspective a lot, so here's Royce's perspective as an EDS spouse.
The history of Cake in the Asexual community
Cake has been the most consistent symbol for Ace Pride over the last 20 years- let's explore why!
AI is a TERF
(...and also a Nazi)
Asexual Representation: Selah and the Spades
Selah and the Spades is a movie that brings us Ace rep that's rare in a number of ways...but it's also complicated.
Pride & Politics in 2025
Not sure if you've noticed, but politics lately are uh....not good
Pride, Protests, & Personal Protections in 2025
Pride feels a little different this year with the state of our politics.
Asexual Representation: In Stars and Time
Enough of you listeners requested that we play this game...so we did!
r/BestofRedditorUpdates: Asexuality Edtition
We're diving into another new subreddit because it's easy to do and a lot of you like it.
The pronatalists should scare the hell out of you.
Pronatalists like JD Vance, Elon Musk, and Simone & Malcom Collins have very dangerous ideas for society that everyone should be raising alarm bells about. Unfortunately, they have tremendous wealth and power and they're infiltrating every level of our federal government, so we need to take them very seriously.
Asexual Representation: Greta Moreno in Generation
HBO's Genera+ion held so much promise for a sapphic, mixed-orientation allo-ace relationship. It is pretty obvious that Greta is an Asexual teenager whose only just beginning to understand herself and probably doesn't have the language for it yet, however, the show got cancelled, so we unfortunately won't get to see more of her character development.
Trevor Noah Podcast says Asexual males are the "most dangerous people in the world"
What Now? with Trevor Noah recently platformed Scott Galloway. In the past, Scott has asserted that pro-Palestinian protests are the antisemitic result of college students not having enough sex. Now, he says Asexual men are a danger to society.
Love on the Spectrum
We recorded this episode before RFK Jr's latest autism registry bullshit.
The Acephobia to Transphobia Pipeline
It's time to dive into the deep, dark depths of the Acephobia-Transphobia pipeline. A phenomenon which has been self-reported by TERFs and witnessed by the Asexual community for years. If you're new here because J.K. Rowling's hate tweets attacking International Asexuality Day surprised you, then welcome! We've got SO MUCH to catch you up on...
J.K. Rowling (very predictably) Hates Asexual People
On International Asexuality Day, JK Rowling wished us a "Happy International Fake Oppression Day to everyone who wants complete strangers to know they don't fancy a shag". Large swaths of the internet were surprised and concluded that her bigotry is growing...but any Aces paying attention already predicted this would happen YEARS ago, because transphobia and acephobia go hand in hand.
r/DnD & RPG Horror Stories: Asexuality Edition #3
TTRPGs are a source of great joy in our life...except, of course, when we dive into these subreddits.
