The Estranged Heart
The Estranged Heart is a podcast offering support and community for parents and adult children navigating the emotional storms of family estrangement. Host Kreed Revere explores the grief, anger, guilt and confusion that often accompany these ruptures, and reflects on what healing can look like. Episodes focus on repairing and transforming relationships in healthy, productive ways, while also acknowledging that distance is sometimes necessary. It serves as a space where listeners feel less alone and find practical guidance for moving forward.
Episodes
EP272: Don't Look At Me Like That!
In this episode of The Estranged Heart podcast, Kreed explores what happens when a seemingly small interaction between a parent and adult child suddenly carries the emotional weight of decades.Using a recent interaction with her own mother as a starting point, Kreed examines why adult children can become intensely reactive around their parents even after years of therapy and healing work and why p
EP271: Why Can't You Just Let It Go?
In this episode of The Estranged Heart podcast, Kreed explores one of the most common and often most painful questions in complicated family relationships: Why can't you just let it go?After a recent conversation about the decades-long history between Kreed and her sibling Kreed examines why remembering and naming relational history isn't necessarily the same thing as holding a grudge.For
EP270: The Grace We Give
In this episode of The Estranged Heart podcast, Kreed shares a deeply moving letter originally published by Dr. Joshua Coleman, written by an estranged mother reflecting on her relationship with the mother who abandoned her and the daughter from whom she is now estranged.At the heart of the letter is a question that reaches far beyond estrangement: Can we tell the full truth about how someone hurt
EP269: Shame - gasoline, not water
In this episode of The Estranged Heart podcast, Kreed explores the dynamics of shame in parent-child relationships, highlighting how shame can hinder genuine understanding and repair. This episode offers insights into recognizing shame-based communication and fostering healthier interactions.TakeawaysShame is often unintentional and can be rooted in fear and terror.The shift from behavior-based fe
EP268: What TikTok Taught Me
In this episode of The Estranged Heart podcast, Kreed explores the complexities of family estrangement, social media's impact on understanding human relationships, and the importance of emotional maturity in reconciliation.Key TopicsThe impact of social media on perceptions of estrangementThe importance of holding multiple human experiences simultaneouslyThe difference between understanding, v
EP267: Invisible
In this episode of The Estranged Heart podcast, Kreed explores the impact of emotional neglect and the importance of curiosity in healing family estrangement. This episode highlights how patterns of disconnection are passed down and how parents and adult children can foster understanding through genuine curiosity.TakeawaysMost family patterns are stored in the nervous system, not consciously remem
EP266: Did They Really Know?
In this episode of The Estranged Heart, Kreed walks through why "knowing better" quietly conflates two different things: awareness that something was missing and access to a practiced alternative and why that gap matters more than intent does. "You knew better. You just didn't do better." It's one of the sharpest sentences an adult child can hand a parent and it sounds
EP265: One Relationship. Two Experiences.
In this episode of The Estranged Heart Podcast, Kreed explores one of the most painful and perplexing questions estranged parents ask: How can my adult child remember our relationship so differently than I do? She introduces a perspective - that there was never just one relationship. There were always two: the relationship the parent experienced and the relationship the child experienced.Rather th
EP264: Hard Truths Require Soft Landings
In this episode of The Estranged Heart podcast, Kreed discusses the difference between measuring a moment and measuring a pattern, why safety and comfort aren't the same thing, what repair actually sounds like, and Kreed's answer to the parents who ask if any of this just amounts to walking on eggshells.A viral claim says adult children who won't tolerate "difficult conversations&
EP263: Fitting In vs Belonging in Families
In this episode of The Estranged Heart podcast, Kreed explores Brené Brown's distinction between fitting in and belonging and how it may help parents understand one of the most painful disconnects in family estrangement. What if the closeness you remember with your adult child was real and your child was also adapting in ways you could not see?Kreed examines how adaptation can be mistaken for
EP262: The Right Words
In this episode of The Estranged Heart podcast, Kreed explores the emotional dynamics behind parental responses to their adult children's expressions of hurt, focusing on trauma responses, emotional safety, and healing practices.Key TopicsTrauma responses in parents and childrenThe importance of emotional safety in repairThe role of curiosity over controlPatterns of defense: denial, deflection
EP261: What Holds Families Together Now?
In this episode of The Estranged Heart podcast, Kreed explores how the digital age has transformed family dynamics, shifting the role of information and connection. She discusses the impact of technology on relationships, the changing ecology of family, and how to foster deeper, more meaningful bonds in a digital world.Key TopicsThe impact of technology on family communicationHow the environment h
EP260: Pain - Where Does It Go?
In this episode of The Estranged Heart podcast, Kreed explores the profound emotional and physical impact of estrangement between parents and adult children. She discusses the biological basis of attachment, the importance of proper pain management, and pathways toward healing and reconciliation.TAKEAWAYS- Estrangement causes a unique form of grief.- Reaching out to an estranged child is driven by
EP259: How Power Kills Empathy
In this episode of The Estranged Heart podcast, Kreed explores the impact of power on empathy within hierarchical relationships like families and workplaces. She emphasizes the importance of tenderness and perspective-taking for healing and reconciliation.Key TopicsThe impact of power on empathy and compassionHierarchical systems in families and organizationsThe importance of tenderness in repair
EP258: Beneath The Control - the fear-driven parent
In this episode of The Estranged Heart podcast, Kreed shares a personal and professional exploration of controlling parenting rooted in fear, its impact on estranged relationships, and pathways to healing by understanding underlying fears.Key Topics- Fear as the root of controlling behavior- The cycle of fear, control, and estrangement- Different fears manifesting as control behaviors02:57 Underst
EP257: Reconciliation Grief
In this episode of The Estranged Heart podcast, Kreed shares a personal and professional exploration of grief in reconciliation, emphasizing the invisible and complex nature of grief beyond death, especially in estrangement. The episode offers insights into managing hidden grief, the realities of reconciliation, and practical steps for healing.Key TopicsInvisible losses and hidden grief in reconci
EP256: Labels - "Intimate Terrorist": What Labels Do to Families Already Breaking
In this episode of The Estranged Heart, Kreed explores the harmful use of the term 'intimate terrorist' in family estrangement contexts, emphasizing the importance of nuanced understanding and curiosity over labels that deepen divides. Key TopicsThe impact of language in family estrangementThe difference between control and boundary-settingThe consequences of labeling a partner as a terror
EP255: Who's Holding Your Pain?
In this episode of The Estranged Heart, host Kreed Summary explores the complex emotional landscape of estranged parents, emphasizing the importance of nuanced support and understanding. It challenges simplistic narratives and advocates for compassion, curiosity, and the recognition of complexity in healing relationships.KEY TOPICSThe emotional impact of estrangement and the search for groundingTh
EP254: Self of Mother (Mother's Day)
In this deeply reflective Mother’s Day episode of The Estranged Heart podcast, Kreed explores motherhood not simply as a role, but as an evolving identity - one that changes across the lifespan in ways many women are never emotionally prepared for. From the intensity of early caregiving to the shifting terrain of adolescence, adult independence, estrangement, reconciliation, and everything in betw
EP253: Grieving Lost Potential (for estranged parents)
Estranged parents carry a grief that doesn't fit any of the containers we have for it. It's not the grief of death. It doesn't come with rituals or recognition. And much of the world around them doesn't know how to hold it or quietly questions whether they have a right to it at all.In this episode of The Estranged Heart podcast, Kreed names a specific and often unspoken layer of th
EP252: Grieving Lost Potential (for estranged adult children)
There is a sentence that follows estranged adult children like a slow-moving storm - especially when a parent is aging, ill, or has died: You're going to regret this.It sounds like concern. It lands like a verdict.In this episode of The Estranged Heart podcast, Kreed unpacks the critical difference between regret and grief and why getting that distinction wrong does real harm to estranged adul
EP251: Rethinking Tough Love
In this episode of The Estranged Heart podcast, Kreed explores the impact of tough love parenting, its roots in cultural beliefs, and its effects on attachment and estrangement. She advocates for a presence-based approach that fosters genuine connection and healing.Key TopicsThe origins of tough love in cultural and generational beliefsHow tough love affects attachment and emotional regulationThe
EP250: It's a THEM Problem, Not a ME Problem!
In this episode of The Estranged Heart, Kreed explores the complex emotional landscape of parental estrangement, focusing on the psychological impact of the phrase 'it's a them problem, not a me problem.' The episode offers insights into armor formation, the costs of defensiveness, and pathways toward genuine peace and self-integration.Key TopicsThe psychological impact of the phrase &
EP249: Is Culture To Blame?
In this episode of The Estranged Heart Podcast, Kreed discusses the dangerous oversimplification of family estrangement as solely caused by cultural programming, emphasizing the importance of understanding individual experiences and fostering genuine curiosity to heal relationships.Key Topics- Cultural programming and family estrangement- The importance of understanding individual experiences- The
EP248: Worry Feels Productive. It Isn't.
In this episode of The Estranged Heart, Kreed explores the emotional and physiological impacts of rumination and fear in the context of estrangement, offering practical insights on how to recognize, understand, and gently shift these patterns to foster healing.Key TopicsRumination vs ReflectionThe nervous system's role in fear and stressPatterns of mental looping in estrangementThe physiologic
EP247: The Wave Has Parts - sadness in estrangement
Most estranged mothers are moving through their pain as one undifferentiated wave of awful - with no map, no language, and no way to name what's actually inside it. In this episode of The Estranged Heart podcast, Kreed breaks the wave apart. She walks through nine distinct layers that live inside estrangement pain and makes the case that naming each layer isn't wallowing. It's excavati
EP246: Is It Really A Double Standard?
Show NotesWhen a therapist posted about the "engagement asymmetry" in estrangement content - noting that posts about what parents did wrong go viral while content about adult children's responsibility goes quiet - it sparked a conversation worth having carefully. In this episode of The Estranged Heart podcast, Kreed unpacks why that asymmetry exists, what it's actually telling us
EP245: What Estrangement & Easter Have In Common - a non-religious Easter message
In this episode of The Estranged Heart podcast, Kreed explores the meaning of resurrection in the context of estrangement, this episode offers profound insights on transformation, healing, and the power of inner change beyond reconciliation.Key Topics- Difference between restoration and resurrection- The death and transformation process in estrangement- The role of honesty and vulnerability in hea
EP244: Her Story, Her Words, Her Healing - Part 3B
In this episode of The Estranged Heart, the final installment of a four-part series, Kreed concludes 5her discussion with an estranged adult daughter. Jen shares her profound journey through estrangement and healing. Discover how she navigated complex family dynamics, set boundaries, and found peace through therapy and self-work.00:00 Navigating Estrangement: A Personal Journey00:27 The Impact of
EP243: (The Bridge) Her Story, Her Words, Her Healing - part 3A
Content note: This episode contains discussions of sexual assault, suicide, pregnancy loss, and emotional neglect. Please take care of yourself first.This bridge episode of The Estranged Heart exists to correct an editorial error. Portions of Jen's story that were edited out of earlier episodes are restored here exactly as they were meant to be heard. Kreed opens with a direct public acknowled
EP242: Her Story, Her Words, Her Healing - part II of III
In this episode of The Estranged Heart podcast, Kreed interviews an estranged adult child. This interview (part two of a three part series) explores the journey of healing from family estrangement, the impact of childhood trauma, and the transformative power of self-awareness and intentional parenting. The guest shares personal stories and insights on breaking patterns, fostering peace, and creati
EP241: Her Story, Her Words, Her Healing - part I of III
On this episode of The Estranged Heart podcast, Kreed interviews an estranged adult daughter. This interview explores the journey of healing from family estrangement, the impact of childhood trauma, and the transformative power of self-awareness and intentional parenting. The guest shares personal stories and insights on breaking patterns, fostering peace, and creating ripple effects of love and u
EP240: Dignity, Distance & the Myth of the Perfect Return
In this conversation on The Estranged Heart, Kreed explores the complex dynamics of estrangement and reconciliation between parents and their adult children. She emphasizes the importance of self-respect and emotional growth for parents who often find themselves in a cycle of chasing their estranged children. The discussion highlights the need for parents to stop pursuing their children out of des
EP239: Obedience As Safety
In this Sacred Sunday reflection of The Estranged Heart, Kreed explores how many of us learned early that obedience meant safety. Kreed gently examines the difference between obedience and integrity, and how the nervous system can equate assertion with danger. If you struggle to identify your own preferences, over-explain, apologize prematurely, or say yes while feeling resentment later, this conv
EP238: Oprah, Estrangement, and the Questions No One Asked
When Oprah Winfrey released her podcast episode “When Families Cut Ties” on Thanksgiving, it ignited intense reactions across estranged parents, estranged adult children, therapists, and social media communities. Some felt validated. Others felt blamed, minimized, or misunderstood.In this episode of The Estranged Heart Podcast, estrangement coach and relational mediator Kreed Revere takes a though
EP237: When Certainty Stops Working
In this Sacred Sunday conversation of The Estranged Heart podcast, Kreed explores the subtle yet profound experience of disorientation that arises when previously held beliefs and certainties begin to feel inadequate. She emphasizes the importance of recognizing this transition as a natural part of growth, rather than a collapse. Kreed encourages listeners to witness their feelings of unease and t
EP236: I Did Nothing Wrong
In this episode of The Estranged Heart, Kreed explores one of the most common and most misunderstood narratives in parent–adult child estrangement: blaming an in-law. When a parent says, “My child was always close to me until they married,” it often reflects not denial or malice, but a nervous system trying to survive unbearable loss. Kreed gently unpacks why certainty feels safer than curiosity i
EP234: Part II - Estrangement Is Trauma for Parents
In this episode of the Estranged Heart podcast, Kreed delves into the complex emotional landscape of estrangement, particularly focusing on the trauma experienced by parents, especially mothers. The conversation explores how estrangement can trigger old wounds and feelings of confusion, panic, and helplessness. Kreed emphasizes the importance of understanding these feelings without assigning blame
EP233: Estrangement Is Trauma For Parents
In this episode of The Estranged Heart, Kreed addresses what the estrangement conversation has been avoiding: the traumatic impact of estrangement on parents at a nervous system level. This isn't about excusing harm or pressuring reconciliation. It's about understanding why telling parents to "just get it" has failed. There's extensive talk about adult children's experien
EP232: When Obedience Felt Like Love
In this Heart Scripture episode of The Estranged Heart podcast, Kreed examines the profound connection between obedience and love, exploring how compliance often served as a survival strategy in childhood and the complex grief that emerges when we begin to question whether love should have required obedience at all.Obedience as Relational StrategyHow following rules became a map for preserving clo
EP231: When Pain Needs Care Not A Villian
In this powerful episode, of The Estranged Heart podcast, marking the 10-year anniversary of her own estrangement, Kreed explores why parents' feelings deserve care, but cannot be resolved by rewriting their adult children as villains. Drawing from her unique perspective as both a former estranged parent and adult child who achieved reconciliation, she examines the protective function of villa
EP230: When Certainty Once Kept Us Safe and No Longer Does
In this inaugural episode of Heart Scriptures, Kreed offers profound compassion for those navigating the collapse of certainty - exploring the grief that emerges when the structures that once provided safety, meaning, and belonging begin to constrict rather than shelter us. This episode offers sacred permission to grieve the collapse of certainty without pathologizing the process. It reminds us th
EP229: Curiosity Is Respect & More
In this episode of The Estranged Heart, Kreed explores the profound impact of curiosity in relationships, particularly in the context of estrangement and reconciliation. She emphasizes that curiosity is not merely a communication skill but a fundamental respect for another's experience. Through personal anecdotes, she illustrates how the absence of curiosity can lead to feelings of erasure and
EP228: Myth of the Perfect Parent
In this episode of the Estranged Heart podcast, Kreed discusses the damaging myth that adult children expect perfection from their parents. She emphasizes that what they truly seek is behavioral change and accountability. The conversation explores the emotional complexities surrounding estrangement, the importance of repair in relationships, and how discomfort is often misinterpreted as abuse. Kre
EP227: Best Gift To Give Self & Others
In this episode of The Estrange Heart Podcast, Kreed discusses the often misunderstood concept of 'owning your shit.' She emphasizes that this is not merely a moral virtue but rather a matter of emotional and relational capacity. Kreed explores the dynamics of accountability, identity threat, and shame, particularly in parent-child relationships. She highlights the importance of understand
EP226: I Am CONFLICT. I Am LOVE. & a Solstice Blessing
In this episode of The Estranged Heart podcast, Kreed explores the dual forces of conflict and love within estranged parent-adult child relationships. Speaking from the perspectives of both conflict and love, Kreed emphasizes the importance of acknowledging conflict without trying to fix it, and the necessity of allowing love to coexist with it. The conversation encourages listeners to embrace th
EP225: Why Repair Feels Impossible — And What Actually Helps
In this episode of The Estranged Heart podcast, Kreed discusses the importance of mediation in family dynamics, particularly for estranged parents and adult children. She emphasizes the need for emotional regulation, accountability, and the willingness to engage in the mediation process to foster healing and connection. Through various insights and professional experiences, Kreed highlights how me
EP224: Information or Verdict?
In this episode of The Estranged Heart podcast, Kreed delves into the complexities of estrangement between parents and adult children, exploring the emotional and psychological impacts on both parties. It highlights how past traumas can influence current perceptions and reactions, particularly in the context of communication and responses from adult children. The discussion emphasizes the importan
EP223: Both And for the Holidays
In this episode of The Estranged Heart podcast, Kreed explores the emotional turmoil faced by parents dealing with estrangement, particularly during family gatherings like Thanksgiving. She emphasizes the importance of acknowledging and embracing one's feelings rather than pretending everything is fine. Kreed provides insights into coping strategies and the journey towards finding joy amidst g
EP222: Coded Family Communication
In this episode of The Estranged Heart Podcast, Kreed explores the concept of coded family communication, where socially acceptable phrases mask deeper emotional discomfort. He discusses how this coded language can lead to emotional gatekeeping, impacting relationships and emotional expression. The conversation emphasizes the importance of recognizing and decoding these phrases to foster emotional
EP221: Dear Estranged Heart - When Will It Stop Hurting?
In this episode of The Estranged Heart, Kreed addresses the emotional turmoil and exhaustion experienced by parents dealing with estrangement from their adult children. The discussion emphasizes the importance of acknowledging pain, understanding the complexities of grief, and the necessity of acceptance in the healing process. Kreed encourages listeners to transform their pain into wisdom and to
EP220: When The Holidays Aren't Normal
In this episode of the Estranged Heart podcast, Kreed discusses the emotional challenges faced by those experiencing estrangement during the holiday season. Through personal anecdotes and reflections, she explores themes of grief, exclusion, and the loss of traditional roles within families. The episode emphasizes the importance of acknowledging pain, finding new ways to celebrate, and practicing
EP219: 4 Year Anniversary with The Estranged Heart
In this reflective episode, Kreed honors four years of the Estranged Heart podcast, exploring themes of healing, personal growth, and the evolution of estrangement. She shares her journey from victimhood to healing, the challenges of navigating fractures in relationships, and the importance of humility and reverence in the process. The conversation emphasizes the beauty of embracing the messy midd
EP218: Dear Estranged Heart - Does Our Once Happy Family No Longer Matter?
In this episode of The Estranged Heart, Kreed explores the painful reality of estrangement from a parent's perspective. She emphasizes that estrangement is often not about the child's character but rather about the emotional experiences within the family. Kreed discusses the complexity of love, the importance of understanding emotional safety, and the need for curiosity in navigating these
EP217: Hardened Heart - Mapping a Heart's Armor
In this episode, Kreed explores the concept of 'hardened hearts'—the emotional armor we build to protect ourselves from pain and the impact it has on our relationships. Through personal anecdotes and insights, she discusses how this protective mechanism can lead to estrangement and disconnection, while also emphasizing the importance of vulnerability and the courage it takes to open our he
EP216: Dear Estranged Heart - How Do I REALLY Apologize?
In this conversation of The Estranged Heart, Kreed explores the complexities of apologizing, particularly in the context of parent-adult child relationships. She emphasizes the importance of sincerity, understanding the impact of one's actions, and the need for time in the healing process. A true apology is characterized by humility, accountability, and a recognition of the other person's
EP215: Labels in Estrangement - Help or Harm?
In this episode, Kreed explores the complex role of labels in estranged relationships, discussing how they can both help and hinder personal growth and understanding. The conversation emphasizes the importance of using labels responsibly, recognizing their potential to trap individuals in fixed identities, and encouraging listeners to reflect on their own use of labels in relationships. Kreed prov
EP214: Dear Estranged Heart - How Do I REALLY Apologize?
In this conversation of The Estranged Heart, Kreed Revere addresses the complexities of parental estrangement, focusing on the emotional turmoil that parents experience when they feel distanced from their children. She emphasizes the importance of recognizing and understanding one's feelings of anger and grief, exploring the underlying beliefs that contribute to these emotions. Kreed encourage
EP213: Green Beans & Echo Chambers
In this episode of the Estranged Heart Podcast, Kreed explores the concept of echo chambers through the lens of personal experiences, particularly during a Thanksgiving gathering. He discusses how fear and familiarity can trap individuals in unproductive patterns, preventing growth and change. The conversation emphasizes the importance of curiosity as a means to break free from these echo chambers
EP212 - Dear Estranged Heart: Why Did My Child Cut Me Off?
In this conversation, Kreed explores the complex emotional landscape of estrangement between parents and adult children. She emphasizes that estrangement is often not the result of a single event but rather a culmination of unmet emotional needs and communication patterns. She encourages parents to shift their perspective from self-blame to compassionate curiosity, fostering understanding and heal
EP211: Radical Responsibility
SummaryIn this conversation, Kreed explores the concepts of radical acceptance and radical responsibility, particularly in the context of estrangement and healing. She critiques the notion of radical acceptance as potentially dismissive and emphasizes the importance of taking radical responsibility for one's healing and personal growth. Through personal anecdotes and practical advice, she guid
EP210: Dear Estranged Heart - How, When & Why Did You Start This Podcast?
In this conversation, Kreed shares the journey of starting her podcast, 'The Estranged Heart,' which aims to support families experiencing estrangement. She discusses her motivations, the importance of authenticity in her storytelling, and how her personal growth reflects in the evolution of the podcast. Kreed emphasizes the significance of creating a genuine connection with her audience a
EP209: When You Name It You Stop Being Ruled By It
In this episode, Kreed discusses the complexities of estrangement between mothers and their adult children. She emphasizes the importance of naming the issues at hand to reclaim personal power and foster healing. Through a pathway of curiosity, awareness, and acceptance, mothers can confront uncomfortable truths about their parenting and relationships. The conversation highlights that acknowledgin
EP208: Dear Estranged Heart - You’ve Changed. Your Support Feels Shaming of Mothers Now
In this conversation, Kreed reflects on the evolution of her podcast and community, emphasizing the importance of personal growth and healing in the context of estrangement. She discusses her journey from a place of pain to a more empathetic understanding of both estranged parents and adult children. Kreed highlights the ongoing nature of healing, the significance of community support, and the nee
EP207: The Lost Art of Curiosity
In this episode, Kreed delves into the generational shifts in curiosity and parenting, exploring how past conditioning impacts present relationships. Kreed shares insights on how older generations, often taught to suppress curiosity, can embrace it to heal and connect with their children. Through personal stories and professional experiences, we uncover the power of curiosity in breaking cycles of
EP206: Dear Estranged Heart - DEH - It's Hard Not To Think They Aren't PUNISHING Me!
In this conversation, Kreed Revere addresses the emotional turmoil experienced by estranged parents, emphasizing the distinction between punishment and protection in parent-child relationships. He explores the complexities of healing, boundaries, and the importance of mutual consent in relationships. Revere encourages parents to reframe their understanding of their children's behaviors and to
EP205: The Illusion of Control - reclaim your peace
In this episode, Kreed Revere discusses the illusion of control in relationships, particularly between estranged parents and their adult children. The conversation emphasizes the importance of understanding the difference between control and care, and how surrendering to the unpredictability of relationships can lead to personal growth and healing. Kreed offers practical advice for listeners on ho
EP204: The Relational Dangers of 'Othering'
In this episode, host Kreed Revere discusses the phenomenon of 'othering' in relationships, particularly within parent-adult child relationships. She emphasizes the importance of understanding the underlying emotions and wounds that drive behaviors, rather than making others the villain. The conversation explores how public criticism can damage connections and highlights the ripple effects
EP203: Generational Conditioning & Emotional Needs
In this episode, Kreed Revere discusses the complexities of estrangement, focusing on the collision between generational conditioning and the emotional needs of children. The conversation explores how different generations perceive emotional safety and vulnerability, the impact of parenting styles on relationships, and the importance of understanding and compassion in navigating these dynamics. Kr
EP202: The Mirror Effect: When We See Our Own Wounds in Our Children
In this episode of The Estranged Heart podcast, host, Kreed delves into the impact of unhealed wounds on relationships, particularly the mirror effect where parents may react negatively to traits in their children that trigger their own insecurities. Kreed emphasizes the importance of self-awareness and understanding in breaking these patterns, encouraging listeners to celebrate their children'
EP201: When Pain Becomes Poison
In this episode of the Estranged Heart podcast, Kreed discusses the complexities of estrangement between parents and adult children. She emphasizes the pain that often underlies anger and resentment, and the importance of leading with love to break the cycle of estrangement. Through personal anecdotes and insights, Kreed encourages listeners to reflect on their own experiences and consider how the
EP200: When Estranged Parents Ask Adult Children 'Why Did You Stay If It Was So Bad?'
In this episode of The Estranged Heart podcast, host Kreed Revere reflects on the journey of estrangement, exploring the complexities of parent-child relationships and the impact of trauma. The conversation delves into a harmful question posed by an estranged parent to their estranged adult child, examining the underlying issues of shame and misunderstanding. Kreed emphasizes the importance of rec
EP199: When Their Version of You Hurts
In this episode of the Estranged Heart podcast, Kreed discusses the complexities of estrangement, particularly focusing on the narratives that estranged adult children create about their parents. The conversation delves into the emotional pain that arises from feeling misrepresented and the challenges parents face when their children share skewed versions of their stories with others. Kreed emphas
EP198: Dear Estranged Heart - Should We Cut Our Kid Out of Our Will?
In this conversation, Kreed addresses the complex emotional and ethical considerations surrounding the decision of whether to exclude an estranged child from a will. Through a series of reflective questions and insights, Kreed emphasizes the importance of love, legacy, and the potential impact of such decisions on family dynamics and future generations. The discussion encourages parents to approac
EP197: How Do I Love The Adult Child I Do Not Like?
In this episode of the Estranged Heart podcast, host Kreed Revere explores the complex dynamics of estrangement between parents and adult children. Through a series of reflections and insights, Kreed addresses the pain of disconnection, the impact of childhood trauma on parenting, and the importance of self-awareness in healing relationships. The conversation emphasizes the need for compassion, un
EP196: Dear Estranged Heart - What IS Healing? And How Will I Know When I Have Arrived?
In this episode of Dear Estranged Heart, Kreed responds to the question, “What does healing even look like?” by describing healing as a quiet, inner transformation rather than a single, dramatic event. Drawing from her work as an estrangement coach & reconciled mom, Kreed shares personal signs of healing: less reactivity, greater emotional curiosity, a preference for peace over defensiveness,
EP195: Why Parent-Adult Child Relationships Are Not Equal — And Why That Matters
In this episode of the Estranged Heart podcast, Kreed discusses the complexities of parent-child relationships, emphasizing that they are inherently unequal. The conversation explores the power dynamics at play, common myths about parent-child relationships, and the lasting impact of childhood experiences on adulthood. Kreed encourages parents to lead with love and take responsibility for their he
EP194: Dear Estranged Heart - I Want Desperately To Send A Birthday Card/Gift. Should I?
This episode of "Dear Estranged Heart" the host, Kreed Revere, addresses the emotional complexities faced by estranged parents, particularly around significant events like birthdays. Kreed advises parents on handling the desire to reach out to estranged children on their birthdays, suggesting self-reflection and restraint as acts of love and self-respect.www.TheEstrangedHeart.comEmail: h
EP193: Tunnel Vision: How Stress Distorts Our Perception in Parent & Adult Child Estrangement
In this episode of the Estranged Heart Podcast, Kreed delves into the concept of tunnel vision and its impact on estranged relationships, particularly between parents and adult children. Kreed explains how tunnel vision can lead to a narrowed perspective, preventing individuals from seeing the full context of their estrangement. The discussion emphasizes the importance of recognizing this phenomen
EP192: Dear Estranged Heart - They Sent An Obligatory Text. What Do I Do With That?
In this episode of Dear Estranged Heart, Kreed talks about what to do when your adult child sends a message that feels more like an echo than a connection.www.TheEstrangedHeart.comEmail: hello@TheEstrangedHeart.comWork with Kreed: https://theestrangedheart.com/services(private coaching, mediation, support groups, webinars, etc.)The Heart Collective: https://theestrangedheart.com/membershipFacebook
