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How To Make Love™

How To Make Love™

laura brewer 123 Episodes Jul 24, 2026

How To Make Love™ explores unconventional recipes for love and liberation. It argues that shared humanity depends on intentionally creating radical, revolutionary, justice-centered love rather than merely finding or falling into it. The show centers voices of historically and culturally marginalized people and challenges listeners to develop their own practices for making more love. Each monthly episode asks listeners to treat justice as a critical ingredient in love.

Episodes

121: Acceptance ≠ Approval
121: Acceptance ≠ Approval Jul 24, 2026 19:30 Adulthood asks us to confront a difficult truth: life rarely unfolds the way we imagined. In this episode, laura explores the difference between acceptance and approval, why acknowledging reality is essential for wise action, and how staying in relationship with what's true can become a profound practice of love, grief, and resilience. Join patreon here. Download the transcript here. Connect with
120: How to Change Your mind
120: How to Change Your mind Apr 13, 2026 22:52 In this episode, we explore why truly living our values—like inclusivity, growth, and liberation—requires more than good intentions. It demands the uncomfortable, ongoing practice of changing our minds. Drawing on neuroscience and real-life examples, laura breaks down an actionable process for recognizing when our thinking is limited, pausing our defensive reactions, and expanding our capacity to
119: How to Love Without Villains
119: How to Love Without Villains Mar 23, 2026 15:58 This episode is about the habit of making someone wrong—-and how quickly that instinct shapes the way we relate to each other. I'm asking what becomes possible if we loosen our grip on blame and instead choose something more curious, and more human. Join patreon here. Download the transcript here. Connect with laura about the episode here.
118: How to Stay Put
118: How to Stay Put Feb 28, 2026 12:46 What happens after you let go of forced hope? No breakthrough. No surge of inspiration. Just life—continuing. In this quiet, honest episode building off of last month, we explore what it means to stay put when nothing feels especially promising. Not grit. Not toxic positivity. Just the radical act of not turning away. If you're tired of pretending things will "work out" and still want to remain in
117: How to Hope
117: How to Hope Jan 16, 2026 17:37 How do you hope when there's no logical reason to? In this episode, we explore what hope really is—and what it isn't. Rather than treating hope as optimism, belief, or confidence about the future, this conversation reframes hope as a present-moment orientation toward life, even when things feel bleak, overwhelming, or hopeless. Join patreon here. Download the transcript here. Connect with laura ab
116: How to Rehumanize
116: How to Rehumanize Sep 26, 2025 14:24 What does it mean to stay human in a world that fuels disconnection, numbness, and productivity? This episode digs into everyday forms of dehumanization—and offers five messy, honest practices to help you rehumanize yourself and the spaces/relationships around you. Download the transcript here. Connect with laura about the episode here.
115: Like the World is Already Free
115: Like the World is Already Free Aug 31, 2025 16:47 laura reflects on the paradox of fighting for liberation while remembering we are already free. Through Buddhist practice, personal story, and practical tools, she invites listeners to live from wholeness now—even in the midst of struggle. Download the transcript here. Connect with laura about the episode here.
114: How to Despair
114: How to Despair Jul 30, 2025 10:01 In this deeply human episode of How to Make Love, laura invites us to practice despair—not as defeat, but as an act of love and honesty. Together, we explore how to face the unbearable truths of our world—genocide, displacement, climate crises, and quiet suffering—without turning away or being swallowed by numbness. This is not an episode of false hope—it is an invitation to stay human in a breaki
113: How to Believe in Others—Especially When You Shouldn't
113: How to Believe in Others—Especially When You Shouldn't Jun 23, 2025 18:44 Let's explore the radical, often uncomfortable practice of believing in others—even when life, systems, and personal history give us every reason not to. This episode challenges our instincts to withdraw trust and explores belief as a choice to see people as unfinished, capable, and still becoming. It's not about ignoring harm—it's about holding complexity with integrity, courage, and care. Downlo
112: How to Let Go
112: How to Let Go May 27, 2025 19:44 Letting go isn't often graceful, it tends to be gutting—and it might also be the truest path to liberation. In this episode, laura explores what it truly means to release relationships, roles, and illusions that no longer serve us—personally, politically, and spiritually. If you've ever struggled to loosen your grip on what once defined you, this conversation is your invitation to choose courage o
111: How to Not Know
111: How to Not Know Apr 14, 2025 10:32 What if certainty is (sometimes) a part of the problem? This episode unpacks how our need to know can prop up domination—and how embracing the skillfullness of not knowing can be a practice of love, liberation, and justice. Download the transcript here. Connect with laura about the episode here. Join laura's private network here to learn more about free, monthly metta meditation / training-an-open
110: How To Fight
110: How To Fight Mar 26, 2025 13:31 To fight or not to fight? And how? And against whom? Or for what? Join laura for a discussion about how to fight on behalf of love and justice differently. Plus a whole lot of reflection questions for your growth and development. Download the transcript here. Connect with laura about the episode here. Join laura's private network here to learn more about free, monthly metta / loving kindness medit

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