Your Anxiety Toolkit - Practical Skills for Anxiety, Panic & Depression
Kimberley Quinlan, an anxiety specialist with over 15 years of experience, delivers science-based solutions for anxiety, panic, depression, OCD, social anxiety, health anxiety, and other difficult emotions. The New York Times listed Your Anxiety Toolkit as one of the "6 Podcasts to Soothe An Anxious Mind" in April 2024. The podcast aims to help people thrive in the face of anxiety and other mental health struggles, emphasizing that a beautiful life is possible.
Episodes
503 How to Talk to Strangers When You Have Social Anxiety
In this episode, I walk you through the practical skills I teach my clients with social anxiety when they want to feel more comfortable talking to strangers and connecting with others. Instead of expecting conversation to suddenly feel natural, we start small and build these skills through repetition. We begin with open body language, a gentle smile, and brief eye contact before working our way up
502 Everything You Need to Know If Your Partner Has Relationship OCD (ROCD)
In this episode, I'm sharing a practical toolkit for partners of people with relationship OCD (ROCD), so you can support your loved one's recovery while also protecting your own emotional well-being.
501 Why can't I accept uncertainty?
In this episode, I talk about why uncertainty can feel so unbearable when you struggle with anxiety, OCD, or depression.
500 I Tested AI on OCD. Here Is My Exact Prompt to Make It Safe
In this episode, I share how AI can unintentionally reinforce OCD, and how, with the right prompts and an ERP-focused approach, you can use it as a tool that supports your recovery instead of strengthening your compulsions.
499 I Tested AI on Health Anxiety. Here Is My Exact Prompt to Make It Safe.
In this episode, I explore how people with health anxiety can unintentionally get pulled into a cycle of reassurance-seeking when using AI to search for medical symptoms. I walk through a real-time demonstration showing how an innocent search for common symptoms can quickly escalate into worst-case scenarios, more uncertainty, and even more anxiety. While AI can be an incredible tool, I explain wh
498 When ERP Feels Impossible: How DBT Can Help (with Rebecca DeLeon)
In this episode, I explore how adding DBT skills to ERP can help you tolerate overwhelming emotions, stay engaged in treatment, and move toward lasting OCD recovery with greater confidence and self-compassion.
497 13 Sassy things to say to anxiety (Non Engagement Responses)
Summary: In this episode, I share 13 of my favorite "sassy" responses to anxiety that can help you stop getting pulled into intrusive thoughts, rumination, and compulsive behaviors. When anxiety shows up with a frightening thought or a big "what if," it's so easy to treat it like it's urgent or important. Instead, I introduce a series of playful but powerful non-engagement responses that help you
496 How to Stop Overthinking Every Little Thing (Why Your Brain Will Not Quit and What to Do About It)
In this episode, I share why overthinking isn't actually a thinking problem, but a willingness-to-feel problem, and I teach you a simple, compassionate framework to break free from rumination and reconnect with what truly matters.
495 Stronger After Trauma (What the Research Says and What It Actually Looks Like) with Christina DiChiara
In this episode, I explore the powerful science of post-traumatic growth and share why healing after trauma isn't just about reducing PTSD symptoms, but also about discovering new strength, meaning, and hope.
Bonus Episode: Do I Have OCD? The Signs Most People Miss
Summary: In this episode, I break down six commonly missed signs of OCD and explain why so many people go undiagnosed or receive the wrong treatment. While many people think OCD is only about visible behaviors like checking, cleaning, or being organized, the reality is that OCD often shows up in much more hidden ways. I explain how obsessions can be thoughts, feelings, sensations, urges, or images
494 OCD Has a Strategy. Here's How to Beat It (with Reid Wilson)
In this powerful conversation with Dr. Reid Wilson, I explore why trying to quiet OCD often keeps us trapped and how learning to stop playing defense and start playing offense can transform the recovery journey.
493 Why Medical Tests Don't Fix Health Anxiety (And What Actually Does) with Ken Goodman
492 How to Practice Loving‑Kindness for Yourself: A Guided Self‑Compassion Exercise
In this guided loving-kindness meditation, I walk you through a powerful self-compassion practice designed to help you soften self-criticism, support the anxious parts of yourself, and cultivate a kinder relationship with your mind.
491 Scrupulosity & Religious OCD: Coping Strategies for Faith‑Based Fear
In this episode, I sit down with OCD therapist and scrupulosity specialist Justin Hughes to explore how religious OCD can hijack faith, why common attempts to find certainty often make things worse, and what true recovery can look like.
Bonus Episode: How to Recognize Mental Compulsions in OCD: Hidden Rituals You Can't See
In this episode, I explain one of the most overlooked aspects of OCD: mental compulsions. While many people recognize compulsions as visible behaviors like checking, washing, or arranging things, mental compulsions happen internally and can be much harder to identify. These can include rumination, mental reviewing, counting, praying, catastrophizing, or repeatedly trying to figure something out in
490 The Anxiety Trick That's Derailing Your Recovery with Drew Linsalata
In this episode, I sit down with Drew Linsalata to explore the "Exception Clause," the sneaky anxiety trick that convinces us our fears are the one exception to everything we've learned about recovery.
489 The Hidden Way Anxiety Is Running Your Relationships (And What to Do About It)
In this episode, I share the three hidden ways anxiety can quietly take over your relationships, and how CBT, ERP, and ACT can help you build deeper connection without letting anxiety call the shots.
488 Relationship OCD: How to Know If You Have It and What Actually Helps
n this episode, I'm breaking down what Relationship OCD really looks like, why the search for certainty keeps you stuck, and how to stop letting intrusive doubts control your relationship.
Bonus Episode: Signs You are Too Self-critical
Summary: In this episode, I talk about how self-criticism can quietly interfere with recovery and healing. So many people believe being hard on themselves will motivate them to do better, but in reality, constant self-judgment often increases anxiety, lowers confidence, and makes it harder to move forward. I walk through some common signs of self-criticism, including harsh self-talk, perfectionism
487 9 Things I Tell My Patients in Their First Session of OCD Treatment
In this episode, I'm sharing the nine core things I teach every OCD client in their very first therapy session to help them better understand recovery, build confidence in ERP, and begin responding differently to intrusive thoughts.
486 What If I'm Not Enough" Is Not a Confidence Problem (It's an Anxiety Trap) with Paul Gilmartin
In this episode, I sit down with Paul Gilmartin to talk about the hidden fear of "not being enough," how it quietly fuels anxiety and shame, and what actually helps us heal from it.
Bonus Episode: Why Your Brain Won't Let Things Go (And What to Do Instead)
Summary: In this episode, I explain why your brain can get stuck replaying thoughts, searching for answers, and trying to feel certain before it can move on. So often, people think they have an overthinking problem, but the real issue is that the brain has learned that solving equals safety. Every time you analyze, replay, or try to "figure it out" to get relief, your brain learns to keep sending
485 How to Win Against Anxiety (with Reid Willson)
In this episode, I sit down with anxiety expert Reed Wilson to talk about why recovery is not about getting rid of anxiety, but learning how to change your relationship with uncertainty, fear, and resistance.
Bonus Episode: The Two Things Anxious People Do That Makes Everything Worse
Summary: In this episode, I talk about two very common mistakes anxious people make that actually keep anxiety cycles going stronger: responding with urgency and treating every thought, feeling, or sensation as incredibly important. I share a personal story from volunteering at a school bake sale, where I caught myself rushing, overperforming, and reacting as if everything was high stakes, even th
484 Interoceptive Exposure & Panic Attacks: How Facing Physical Sensations Can End the Fear Cycle
In this episode, I walk you through how panic disorder is maintained and teach you a step-by-step, evidence-based approach using interoceptive exposures to help you change your relationship with anxiety and build true freedom.
Bonus Episode: What Is Anticipatory Anxiety (And Why It's Often Worse Than the Thing Itself)
In this episode, I talk about anticipatory anxiety, the intense fear or dread that shows up before something even happens. So often, the waiting, imagining, and "what if" spiral can feel worse than the actual event itself. I explain how this happens and why your brain reacts so strongly, even when there isn't a real threat in front of you.
Daily Self‑Compassion Routine: 10 Minutes to Reduce Anxiety & Improve Resilience
In this episode, I walk you through a simple, 10-minute daily self-compassion practice that can help you change your relationship with anxiety and gently support your recovery.
Bonus Episode: Sleep Anxiety: The 1 Thing Everyone Gets Wrong About Sleep Hygiene
In this episode, I talk about why so many people struggle with sleep anxiety even when they're doing everything "right." You might be following all the sleep hygiene rules, no screens, consistent bedtime, calming routines, and still lying awake, wondering what's wrong. The truth is, for anxious brains, trying too hard to sleep can actually make it harder. Sleep is one of the few biological process
482 Why My ERP Isn't Working: 5 Common Mistakes & What to Fix
In this episode, I walk you through the five most common mistakes people make with ERP and share practical, compassionate strategies to help you break free from the OCD cycle and make your recovery work more effective.
Bonus Episode: 5 Self‑Compassion Exercises That Support ERP & OCD Recovery
In this episode, I talk about something that doesn't replace ERP, but actually makes it more effective: self-compassion. So many people worry that being kind to themselves will weaken recovery, let them off the hook, or make OCD worse. But the truth is that self-criticism often increases anxiety, reinforces the obsession cycle, and leads to more burnout and exhaustion.
481 Harm OCD Explained: What It Is, Why It Happens & How to Manage It
In this heartfelt episode, Kimberley Quinlan and therapist Lacey Yukelson unpack what harm OCD really is, why it feels so terrifying, and how recovery becomes possible when you stop fighting the thoughts and start changing your response.
Bonus Episode: What to Say When Your Brain Freezes in Conversation: Social Anxiety Rescue Script
In this episode, I talk about what to do when your brain freezes in conversation and social anxiety suddenly takes over. So many people experience that moment where their mind goes blank and they immediately assume they've failed, but I want to help you understand that this is a freeze response, not a personal failure. When anxious brains feel pressure, freezing is a very common response.
480 People Pleasers and the Shame They Hide (with Maggie Nick)
In this heartfelt episode, I sit down with Maggie Nick to explore why so many "good kids" grow into adults carrying deep shame, people-pleasing patterns, and fear of disappointing others—and how healing begins with compassion and understanding.
Bonus Episode: The 3 Hidden Causes of Your UNEXPECTED Panic Attacks (And How to Fix Them)
In this episode, I talk about why panic attacks so often feel like they come out of nowhere when, in reality, there are usually hidden triggers building beneath the surface.
479 Why the Most Responsible People Struggle in Silence (with Dr Margaret Rutherford)
In this episode, we explore how perfectly hidden depression can live beneath strength and success, and how learning to gently open up can begin to set you free.
Bonus Episode: Cognitive Defusion: 4 Techniques to Detach from Intrusive Thoughts (Mental Compulsion Tool)
n this episode, I teach you a simple but powerful shift called cognitive defusion, a way to create space between you and your intrusive thoughts. So often, thoughts can feel urgent, dangerous, or completely true, like warnings you have to act on. But just because a thought feels real doesn't mean it is.
478 OCD Core Fears with Michelle Massi
If you find yourself compulsively Googling symptoms and feeling more anxious than reassured, this episode offers a compassionate, evidence-based 3-step plan to help you break free from cyberchondria and health anxiety.
Bonus Episode: OCD Subtypes Explained: Which ONE Is Holding You Hostage?
In this episode, I walk you through the many ways OCD can show up, because it's not just about germs or checking. OCD can attach itself to anything that matters to you, like relationships, health, morality, identity, or past experiences. If you've ever felt confused or alone in your thoughts, I want you to know there's a reason your OCD looks the way it does, and you're not alone in this.
477 When Your OCD Brain Tricks You
This week's episode is a heartfelt and practical conversation about how OCD can change shape over time, the ways it tricks the brain, and the grounding tools that can help you move through fear with more courage and self-compassion.
Bonus Ep: How to FORGIVE Yourself for Intrusive Thoughts: Self-Compassion for OCD Shame & Guilt
In this episode, we talk about one of the most painful parts of OCD and anxiety: the shame that comes from intrusive thoughts. Many people experience sudden thoughts that are violent, sexual, blasphemous, or completely against their values—and when they do, they often assume it must mean something terrible about them.
How to SILENCE Your Inner Critic: 3 Self-Compassion Skills To Use IMMEDIATELY 476
In this episode, I walk you through how to retrain your inner critic using science-backed self-compassion skills so you can reduce anxiety, increase resilience, and build a healthier relationship with your own mind.
475 Social Anxiety TRICK: Focus on THIS ONE THING to Instantly Feel More Confident in Groups
In this episode, I share a powerful mindset shift that helps you stop performing in social situations and start connecting, even when anxiety comes along for the ride. If social situations leave you replaying conversations for hours afterward, this episode is going to give you a completely different way to respond.
474 ERP at Home: How to Build an Exposure Plan Without a Therapist
In this episode, I walk you step-by-step through how to build your own exposure and response prevention (ERP) plan so you can start breaking the OCD and anxiety cycle with clarity, courage, and compassion.
473 Mindfulness vs. Distraction: Which is Better for Anxiety & Panic? (A Therapist Explains)
In this episode, I break down the difference between mindfulness and distraction for anxiety so you can stop second-guessing yourself and start responding in ways that actually support long-term recovery.
472 How to make Exposures FUN(ish) with Kimberly Leonte
If you find yourself compulsively Googling symptoms and feeling more anxious than reassured, this episode offers a compassionate, evidence-based 3-step plan to help you break free from cyberchondria and health anxiety.
471 STOP Googling Symptoms: The 3-Step Plan to End Cyberchondria & Health Anxiety
If you find yourself compulsively Googling symptoms and feeling more anxious than reassured, this episode offers a compassionate, evidence-based 3-step plan to help you break free from cyberchondria and health anxiety.
470 5 Things to ask yourself when you have anxiety
In this episode, I share five simple, science-based questions you can ask in moments of anxiety to help you respond skillfully—without feeding rumination, avoidance, or fear.
469 How to Stop Overthinking EVERYTHING (Even If You Can't Control It)
In this episode of Your Anxiety Toolkit, Kimberley Quinlan breaks down why overthinking feels so necessary—and shares practical, compassionate tools to help you stop ruminating and get back to living your life.
468 Mindfulness Exercise for OCD
In this episode, I share the one mindfulness skill I teach every OCD client to help you respond to intrusive thoughts without getting stuck in rumination, urgency, or compulsions—especially when you're feeling overwhelmed.
467 How to Calm Your Mind Before Bed: Anxiety Relief for Sleep‑Trouble Nights
In this episode, Kimberley Quinlan shares a gentle, science-backed approach to calming nighttime anxiety by shifting away from forcing sleep and toward helping your nervous system truly rest.
466 5 Mental Health Priorities for a Calmer, Stronger 2026
In this episode of Your Anxiety Toolkit, Kimberley Quinlan shares five science-backed mental health priorities to help you build a calmer, stronger, and more compassionate relationship with anxiety in 2026.
465 How to stop OCD Mental Compulsions (with Lauren Rosen)
In this episode, Kimberley Quinlan and OCD specialist Lauren Rosen break down exactly how mental compulsions work—and teach a practical, step-by-step way to stop engaging with them so you can get your time, presence, and joy back.
464 Anxiety vs. ADHD: Are You Misdiagnosing Yourself? (with Kati Morton)
If you've been wondering whether your "anxiety" might actually be ADHD (or both), this episode helps you sort through the overlap by focusing on the driver behind your symptoms—so you can get clarity, support, and the right tools.
463 My OCD Subtype Keeps SHIFTING: 3 Steps to GENERALIZE Your ERP Skills
In this episode, Kimberley breaks down why OCD themes shift so quickly and teaches you how to generalize your ERP skills so you can respond effectively—no matter what obsession shows up.
462 Your Holiday Anxiety Isn't About the Holidays
In this episode, Kimberley breaks down why holiday anxiety feels so overwhelming and teaches you compassionate, practical strategies to help you move through the season with more ease, clarity, and self-kindness.
461 How OCD Affects Relationships (And What Partners Need to Know)
This episode breaks down how OCD can quietly strain relationships and teaches partners practical, compassionate strategies to communicate better, set healthy boundaries, and reconnect as a team.
460 Stop White Knuckling Your Anxiety (Do This Instead)
In this episode, we share how to stop "white-knuckling" your anxiety and instead use compassion, mindfulness, and gentle allowing to find lasting calm and confidence.
459 Navigating OCD During Pregnancy: A Compassionate Guide (with Erin Jones)
This episode unpacks how OCD shows up from conception through postpartum—and shares compassionate, evidence-based tools (especially ERP) to help you move from fear to values-based parenting.
458 How to Handle Anxiety When You're Around Toxic People
In this episode, Kimberley Quinlan shares compassionate, practical tools to help you manage anxiety around "toxic" or triggering people—without losing your peace, your confidence, or your values.
457 The Secret to Calming Climate Anxiety (Even When the News Feels Like Doom) with Sarah Jaquette Ray
This episode turns climate anxiety from paralyzing doom into doable, feel-good action by blending nervous-system care, compassionate mindset shifts, and practical, community-centered steps.
456 The 3 Lies Depression Tells You Every Day
Kimberley Quinlan exposes the three lies depression tells (hopelessness, helplessness, worthlessness) and shares simple, science-backed steps—thought witnessing, compassionate reframes, and opposite action—to break the cycle and rebuild momentum.
455 Pregnant and Scared by the Headlines? What to Know About Tylenol, SSRIs, and Autism Risk
454 Suicidal OCD vs. Real Suicidal Thoughts: How to Tell the Difference (with Taboo Tracie)
This episode dives into the crucial differences between suicidal OCD and suicidal ideation—how to spot them, how to respond, and how to support yourself or a loved one with skill, compassion, and evidence-based care.
453 BDD vs Body Image vs OCD (with Chris Tronsden)
Kimberley Quinlan and Chris Trondsen break down how to tell BDD apart from body image concerns, OCD, eating disorders, gender dysphoria, BFRBs, and more—plus the right treatment moves for each.
452 Body Dysmorphic Disorder: What Actually Helps (and What Makes It Worse) with Chris Trondsen Two Courses: Your BDD Toolkit and The Clinician's BDD Toolkit
BDD expert Chris Tronsden joins Kimberley to unpack how distorted perception and compulsive rituals drive Body Dysmorphic Disorder—and the evidence-based skills (perceptual retraining, BDD-specific ERP, CBT/ACT, and thoughtful medication) that actually help people reclaim connection and quality of life.
451 What Successful OCD Treatment Looks Like for Children (with Dr. Aureen Wagner)
This episode breaks down what effective, child-friendly OCD treatment looks like—showing parents and clinicians how to build bravery, reduce accommodation, and tailor ERP to a child's developmental stage.
450 Why Your Brain Focuses on the Worst-Case Scenario (and What to Do About It)
Learn why your brain fixates on the worst-case—and the simple, science-backed practices that help you rebalance attention, reduce compulsions, and live from your values instead of fear.
449 Discover 12 science-backed statements to stop self-blame, ease anxiety, and build self-compassion for lasting recovery.
Discover 12 science-backed statements to stop self-blame, ease anxiety, and build self-compassion for lasting recovery.
448 How to Become a Master of Uncertainty (with Rich Diviney)
Former Navy SEAL Rich Diviney joins Kimberley Quinlan to share practical tools for managing anxiety, reducing fear, and thriving in uncertainty. What You'll Learn in This Episode: The simple equation that explains fear—and how to break it down How to use the "moving horizons" technique to stay focused in chaos Practical ways to lower anxiety and get your decision-making brain back online Why stre
447 Can You Recover from OCD WITHOUT Therapy? Let's Talk Truth (with Nathan Peterson)
OCD can feel overwhelming, especially when therapy feels inaccessible—whether due to cost, availability, or burnout. The question remains: is it possible to recover from OCD without professional therapy? Kimberley Quinlan and OCD specialist Nathan Peterson dive deep into this very question, offering hope, insights, and strategies to help you move forward in your recovery journey.
446 Why Depression Is on the Rise (& Powerful Skills to Help Manage)
In this episode, Kimberley Quinlan dives into the rising rates of depression, its underlying causes, and shares practical, evidence-based strategies to help you feel like yourself again.
445 Stop Believing Everything You Think
In this episode of Your Anxiety Toolkit, Kimberley Quinlan shares powerful tools to help you stop treating every thought and feeling like a fact—so you can break free from anxiety's grip and start living in alignment with your values.
444 ARFID or OCD? Understanding the Difference When Food Feels Scary
In this episode, Kimberley Quinlan breaks down the subtle but crucial differences between OCD, ARFID, orthorexia, and eating disorders—and how understanding these distinctions can lead to more effective, compassionate treatment. What you'll learn in this episode: Why the function behind food-related anxiety matters more than the behavior itself How OCD, ARFID, and orthorexia can look similar—but
443 The Dark Side of High-Functioning Anxiety (It's Not What You Think)
In this episode, Kimberley Quinlan explores the hidden emotional, physical, and psychological costs of high functioning anxiety—and offers powerful, practical tools to help you break free from the pressure to constantly perform.
442 What 99% of People Get WRONG About Intrusive Thoughts
In this episode, Kimberley Quinlan breaks down the most common misconceptions about intrusive thoughts and shares powerful, compassionate strategies to help you respond in a way that reduces anxiety and stops the OCD cycle.
441 The 6 Ways Social Anxiety Keeps You Stuck (And How to Break Free)
Struggling with social anxiety? In this episode, Kimberley Quinlan shares the six sneaky ways it keeps you stuck — and the powerful mindset shifts that will help you break free.
440 How to Stop Hating Anxiety
In this episode of Your Anxiety Toolkit, Kimberley Quinlan explores how shifting from hating anxiety to gently befriending it can radically reduce your suffering and help you live more in alignment with your values. What you'll learn in this episode: Why resisting anxiety may be keeping you stuck in a cycle of fear How to respond to anxiety without fueling it or making it worse A simple shift fr
439 Afraid to Fly? This Is What I Tell My Clients Before Every Flight
In this episode of Your Anxiety Toolkit, Kimberley Quinlan breaks down the real reasons behind flying anxiety and offers practical, compassionate tools to help you board that plane with more confidence and calm.
438 This 3-Minute Script Can Shift How You Face Your Anxiety Today
In this episode, Kimberley Quinlan shares a compassionate 3-minute morning script designed to help you gently shift your mindset, speak to yourself with kindness, and take brave steps forward—even when anxiety feels overwhelming.
437 An OCD Success Story (with Lydia Davies)
In this inspiring episode, Lydia Davies shares her powerful OCD recovery story—including how she faced fears around somatic OCD, scrupulosity, and intrusive thoughts with bravery, self-compassion, and evidence-based strategies.
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