Finding Yourself in Motherhood
This podcast is hosted by a life coach for mothers. It focuses on supporting mothers who feel overwhelmed while raising challenging children. The show offers guidance on building confidence, finding joy, and setting new goals. It aims to help listeners grow into better versions of themselves.
Episodes
Everything Is Working Out For Your Good
We're wired to label everything that happens to us — good, bad, disaster, blessing — often within seconds. But what if that instinct is exactly what keeps us anxious, reactive, and stuck? In this episode, I share two small stories from my own week. In the first, I left my bag in my husband's car — the one I needed for my pickleball class — and had to swing by his work to grab it, making
Informative emotions
Today I discussed all the emotions I had surrounding sending my sons on missions. I talk about how we often resist the emotions that don't feel great and we don't allow them to teach us and help us grow. We also use our cell phones to avoid an awkward situations that might cause us to feel an uncomfortable emotion. When we learn to embrace all emotions we have a more complete and incredi
The Value of Money
Today I discussed several of the common thoughts we have around money. I talk about how these thoughts can keep us stuck and make it hard to have a good relationship with money. Two examples are "rich people are greedy" and "there is never enough." I gave examples of Dolly Parton and Kurt Warner to debunk the first thought and then show examples of how there is plenty of money
Expectations vs Reality
Today I talk about expectations vs reality. I give two examples of going through something hard with two of my boys. I show how to close the gap between your expectations and reality in order to clean up the dirty pain that is unnecessary. It is also important to allow ourselves to feel the clean pain that comes along with hard times. I end talking about mourning with those who mourn and how we ca
On The Struggle Bus
Today I discuss how hard things happen in life. We often go through great lengths to try to prevent hard things from happening. I tell a story about a surrogate Mom refusing to have an abortion once she found out the baby she was carrying had a serious heart condition called Hypoplastic Left Heart Syndrome. I also talked about how my son was born with this same condition so I understand the comple
Summer Analysis
I'm back after a long summer break! Today I talked about how we often look to the past and judge how we showed up in life. I talked about how I felt like we had wasted a lot of time in July and how that thought just wasn't serving me. Once I changed my thought I was able to be more creative and come up with some ideas on ways we could serve others. I was able to end our summer vacation w
Fixed or Growing: Lessons from Carol Dweck's Mindset
What if the biggest thing standing between you and the life you want isn't your talent, your circumstances, or your past — but the way you think about your own abilities?In this episode, we dive into some of the most powerful ideas from Carol Dweck's groundbreaking book Mindset, and explore how a simple shift in perspective can change the way you work, learn, fail, and love.We cover:The
Mother's Day thoughts
Today's episode focused on some of my thoughts surrounding Mother's Day. I first discuss how Mother's Day can be tricky especially for people who don't feel like they have a good relationship with their own Mom. I give some ideas on some small ways to improve that relationship. Then, I talk about how this day is tricky for some Mom's because they don't believe they ar
Stop Stealing From Your Own Joy
Are you a worrier? Do you find yourself mentally living in a future full of problems that haven't happened yet — and may never happen? In this episode, we're talking about the very important difference between worrying about the future and preparing for it. Preparation empowers you. Worry just steals your joy. I'm sharing a very personal story about my own struggle with worry over
Judging Your Thoughts Isn't Self Awareness — It's Self Sabotage
Have you ever caught yourself in a thought and immediately decided it meant something was wrong with you? In this episode, we're talking about one of the most common ways women misuse the CTFAR model — and it's not what you'd expect. Instead of using it as the awareness tool it's meant to be, we turn it into a weapon against ourselves. We judge the thought, feel worse, and stuf
Miracles and Murmuring
"In the Bible the Israelites witnessed miracle after miracle — and still they complained. Sound familiar? In this episode, we're talking about why we murmur, how it keeps us stuck, and some things you can do to break the habit and start living with more gratitude and peace."
Stop Feeling Left Out
Have you ever found out about plans you weren't included in and felt that familiar sting? Being left out hurts — but it doesn't have to define you. In this episode, we're breaking down five practical things you can do to feel more included in your relationships and community, and why being intentional about how you show up for others makes all the difference. We also dig into why ex
Neutral Circumstances
Today I talked about a few experiences I've had recently that had me thinking about circumstances. I share how I received a compliment and how it seemed like an automatic reaction to feel happy but when I slowed it down, I realized it was a choice I had to feel happy. Then I shared how when my husband was grouchy, I was struggling to not be grouchy too. Again it felt like an automatic reactio
How To Feel Better, Part Two
I'm back with three more powerful tools to help you feel better from the inside out! First, we'll talk about the impact of the word "should" — why it quietly creates guilt, shame, and resentment, and what happens when you start removing it from your vocabulary. Next, we'll explore the power of setting goals and how having a clear direction gives you purpose, motivation, an
How To Feel Better, Part One
Feeling better isn't just about thinking positive thoughts — it's about learning how to work with your mind instead of against it. In this episode, we dive into three foundational tools to help you improve your emotional well-being and start feeling better from the inside out. We'll explore how becoming more aware of your thoughts — and being intentional about them — can completely
Personality, Unpacked
What if everything you've ever believed about your personality isn't actually a fact — it's just a thought you've never questioned? In this episode, we're diving deep into what personality really is, where it comes from, and why so many of us use it as a reason to stay exactly where we are. We'll talk about personality tests, the labels we put on ourselves as mothers
Wrong Decisions
In this episode I discuss the idea of making wrong decisions. We often argue with reality when we label a decision as the wrong decision and wish we could go back and change the past. Instead we can learn from the decisions we have made and stop labeling them as wrong. They are always great learning experiences. That's the reason we are here on earth anyway, to learn and to grow.
Who Wrote That Manual Anyway?
We all know the relief of cracking open a manual (or going to the YouTube or AI) and finding the fix you need to something that wasn't work correctly — but what happens when we start expecting the people in our lives to come with one too? In this episode, I share how a simple freezer troubleshooting moment got me thinking about the invisible rulebooks we carry around for everyone we know. We&
Are You At War With Yourself?
When someone hurts us deeply, we often think the hardest part is forgiving them. But what if the real struggle is something else entirely? In this episode, we explore the shame-blame cycle that keeps us stuck — and why forgiving yourself might be the very first step toward forgiving anyone else.If you've ever felt like you "should" be over something by now, or if you've judged
Letting Go: The Sheep, the Sliver, and the Grudge
We all know holding grudges hurts us more than anyone else, so why is it so hard to let them go? In this episode, I explore the paradox of grudges through two powerful metaphors: sheep resisting being sheared even though they'll feel so much lighter afterward, and my daughter's fear of having a painful sliver removed. Just like the sheep and my daughter, we often cling to what hurts us b
Agency: Taking Back Your Power
Ready to stop giving your power away? This week I'm reteaching you the CTFAR model—a simple but powerful tool that shows you exactly how you're surrendering your agency and how to reclaim it.Through four relatable scenarios (a mother-in-law who you find judgmental, a child's failing grade, a husband on the couch, and sisters gossiping about your messy house), I'll show you how
Agency-The Gift We Fought For and Give Away Daily
A war was fought in heaven over your agency. People throughout history have died for freedom and choice. Yet we give our agency away every day through grudges and blame. Discover what agency really means, why it's sacred, and how you might be surrendering your power without realizing it.
Confidence through God's Love
In today's episode, I discuss the story in the Book of Mormon about the tree of life and how the fruit of the tree represents the love of God. The scriptures describe it as the "most desirable above all things" and the "most joyous to the soul." I discuss how knowing these things and truly internalizing them brings true confidence. Having confidence helps us show up as our
Permission To Forgive Yourself
Have you ever struggled to believe that Christ's Atonement truly covers your mistakes? While we know intellectually that "infinite means infinite," applying forgiveness to ourselves can feel impossible—especially when our brains convince us that feeling terrible is the only way to prove we've changed.In this episode, we explore why self-forgiveness feels so difficult and how sh
Stop Judging Your Thoughts and Get Curious
Once you understand that your thoughts are optional and create your emotions, it's tempting to think you should just change every thought that causes negative feelings. But when we struggle to change certain thoughts, we often judge ourselves—layering negative emotion on top of negative emotion. In this episode, I share why curiosity, not judgment, is the key to real transformation. You'
The Greatest Gifts: Conversation, Love, and Dignity
Today I discussed different ways that we can serve. I quoted Sharon Eubank when she was interviewed on the All In Podcast. She talks about serving those within our neighborhoods. I talk about the epidemic of loneliness and how having conversations with love and showing dignity to others is one of the greatest gifts we can give.
The Gift of the Present Moment
Today I discussed how this time of year can get so busy and stressful, we don't enjoy it. It can be helpful to intentionally slow down and be in the present moment. Pay attention to each of your five senses and that will allow you to be grateful for things around you.I also discussed how one small change in the way we think about something can completely transform things for us. Small shifts
The Gift Giving Dilemma
As the holiday season approaches, are you feeling the pressure to make sure every gift is perfectly equal? Stressing over spreadsheets to track fairness? Worrying that someone might feel less loved if their gift isn't exactly the same as everyone else's? In this episode, we dive deep into the anxiety and emotional exhaustion that comes from trying to achieve "perfect fairness"
Gratitude In All Things...Especially Yourself
Today I discussed the power of gratitude. As we focus on gratitude this weekend, I hope you can find ways to thank yourself for all the ways you have showed up in the world. This is a powerful tool in improving your sense of self.
What Is A Relationship, Really?
What if everything you thought you knew about relationships was backwards? In this episode, we explore a powerful reframe: a relationship isn't something that exists between two people—it's the culmination of thoughts you have about another person. This shift changes everything. Discover why you can have a meaningful relationship with someone who doesn't even know your name, how you
What are your gifts and talents?
Today I start with an exercise to help you learn what you are good at and what you might not be good at. I discuss how we come up with these lists and what these lists really mean. I also discuss how the people around us influence our thoughts about what gifts and talents we have. We have a huge influence on our children in helping them develop their own gifts. I also share a couple quotes from Pr
Five Empowering Thoughts
What if five simple thoughts could transform the way you experience life? In this podcast, I share five principles that have shaped my perspective and brought more peace, joy, and clarity into my daily life: Gratitude wins.I am responsible for my own happiness...and no one else's.Nothing has gone wrong here.Life is 50/50.Every single person is 100% loveable.These aren't just feel-good m
Confidence: Be The One Who Reaches Out
Today's episode is based off the 2025 October General Conference talk by Elder Gong titled, "No One Sits Alone." In order to be someone who can reach out to others who are lonely, those who are new, those who are different, we need confidence. Today I discussed five ways to help us develop that confidence.1. Know who you are - especially your identity as a child of God 2. Be more Ch
Is Regret Helping You or Hurting You?
Do you carry regret about things from your past? Does it feel heavy, painful, like something you just have to live with? In this episode, I explore a powerful idea: regret is always a choice.We'll talk about what regret actually is, why it feels so terrible, and what actions we tend to take when we're stuck in it. But more importantly, we'll explore what emotions can serve us better
The Tipping Point
Fresh off a two-week adventure in Switzerland, today I reflect on the beautiful paradox of life's 50-50 nature. From breathtaking mountain gondola rides and picturesque countryside drives to flight delays, jet lag struggles, and worrying about kids back home, this trip had it all—the amazing and the challenging in equal measure. In this episode, discover how a sleepless night in Switzerland s
The Mirror Effect: Are You Reflecting Who You Actually Want To Be?
Have you ever noticed how easy it is to match someone else’s energy—especially when that energy is negative? Whether it’s snapping back at your toddler, yelling at your teenager when they act poorly, or getting frustrated with your husband because they are frustrated… we often find ourselves mirroring behavior we don’t actually want to be modeling.In this episode, we explore how the mirror effect
River of misery
Today I talked about emotions and how they fuel every action that we take. It makes sense why we do the things we do when we notice the emotions we are feeling. Sometimes we can generate positive emotions to help us accomplish the things we want to accomplish. Sometimes that doesn't work though and we have to go through a river of misery to accomplish our goals. When we are willing to push th
Sneaky thoughts about motherhood
Today I talked about thoughts we have about motherhood. I mentioned a friend telling me "I am extremely disappointed in myself," when discussing motherhood. I talked about how this thought is painful and not serving her well. It leads her to take actions being fueled by pain. She also told me "I tried to make sure they always knew they were loved." I talk about how this might b
Respect and teenagers
When your teenager breaks a rule or disobeys, what's your first instinct? If you're like most parents, it's probably frustration, anger, or feeling disrespected. But what if that initial reaction is actually making things worse?In this episode, we explore how the thoughts we have about our teenager's behavior directly impact the quality of our relationship with them. When we ap
Everything You Want Is On the Other Side of Hard
In this episode I talk about life's biggest challenges and the growth that comes from facing them head-on. Inspired by coach Monty Williams' powerful insight that "everything you want is on the other side of hard," this podcast explores both the goals we choose to pursue and the unexpected difficulties that shape us as human beings.Whether you're working toward a challengi
Breaking Free From All Or Nothing Thinking
Do you ever catch yourself thinking "I'm the only one who does dishes around here" or "I never get any help with the kids"? If these thoughts sound familiar, you're not alone – and more importantly, you're not stuck with them.In this episode, we're diving deep into all-or-nothing thinking, one of the most common (and painful) thought patterns that plague mot
Taking the credit or the blame?
Today I talked about taking the credit or the blame for our children's actions. I also discussed how are relationship with our children has so much to do with the thoughts we have about them. Sometimes reframing the way we look at their behavior can help us show up better as a parent. We get to think anything we want to think about our children!
Thoughts about Relationships
In the episode, I discuss relationships and where they always begin. I give several examples of using the model to help us understand how our thoughts affect every relationship we have. I talk about how important our relationships are to our quality of life.
What If Patience Isn't About Willpower?
What if patience isn't about willpower, but about the thoughts we choose? In this episode, we explore how truly patient people have learned to think differently about difficult situations - from sleepness nights with babies to frustration while driving to hard trials we have in life. We take a look at how Joseph Smith's experience in Liberty Jail demonstrates the power of intentional thi
Life is always 50/50
Even when on vacation, I was reminded of the concept that life is 50/50. We can get discouraged by that, or understand that it is actually a beautiful part of life. We get to experience the full spectrum of emotions and that creates the best life.
Worry vs. Pre-Pain: When Thinking Becomes Suffering
Ever catch yourself suffering through disasters that haven't even happened yet? You're not alone. In this episode, we explore the phenomenon of "pre-paining" - that human tendency to experience real emotional distress over imaginary future events.We'll dive into the difference between healthy worry (which can actually help us prepare) and pre-paining (which just makes us s
The question that changes everything
What if the key to better relationships isn't changing other people, but changing how we see them? Discover the powerful question that can transform your most challenging relationships and help you find connection even in conflict.
The Fullness of Joy
In this episode of we explore the profound nature of joy and its unexpected relationship with life's hardest moments. What's the difference between happiness and joy? How do our deepest struggles create capacity for our greatest moments of celebration?Using the powerful metaphor of a swing set—where going higher requires pulling back further—this episode offers a fresh perspective on emb
The Resentment Puzzle
That flash of anger when no one notices your clean house. The tears that surprise you when your husband asks "What's for dinner?" while you're sick in bed. The unexplained irritation during family vacations that should be enjoyable. What if these moments aren't random emotional outbursts, but signals pointing to something deeper?In this illuminating episode, we explore the
Mother's Day: How to Make It More Meaningful For You
Is Mother's Day a source of joy or disappointment for you? In this episode, we explore the emotional complexities many mothers face during this celebrated Sunday in May. Drawing from 18+ years of motherhood experience, I offer practical strategies to help you find ways to enjoy this day. Discover three powerful thought shifts that can transform your Mother's Day experience, regardless of
How knowing we will die, teaches us to live
In this thought-provoking episode, I explore how our awareness of mortality can transform the way we live. Drawing inspiration from Michael Singer's "The Untethered Soul," I ask the question: What if today were your last day on earth? How would you spend it, who would you call, and what would suddenly matter most?I share personal stories about confronting mortality, including my exp
What to do when children lie
What should we do when our children lie? In this thoughtful episode, I share a personal story from my junior high softball days that taught me an important lesson about shame, fear, and honesty. Drawing from a recent Instagram discussion about children who lie, I explore why kids sometimes hide the truth and how our reactions as parents can either strengthen connection or reinforce hiding behavior
Life lessons from Singer, Carnegie, and Eger
In this episode, I share my recent experience pushing outside my comfort zone by traveling solo to a life coaching conference - from waking up at 3 AM to navigating California traffic and even getting coached in front of others! I then dive into powerful insights from three transformative books I've been reading: "The Untethered Soul" by Michael A. Singer, "How to Win Friends a
Hope, Gratitude, and Hard Things
In this episode, I share my personal journey of choosing discomfort as a pathway to growth. Learn how I challenged myself to present to a coaching group despite self-doubt, and discover the powerful combination of hope and gratitude that helped me navigate my son's health crisis. I explain why deliberately stepping outside your comfort zone each week can transform your life. Whether it's
Choose Your Results: Transforming How You Experience Life's Challenges
In this episode, we explore the powerful relationship between our circumstances and results. While we can't always choose our circumstances, we can choose how we experience them through our thoughts, feelings, and actions. As an example, I tell the story of the miracle we experienced with my son's health. Whether you're facing health challenges, relationship difficulties, or any oth
Creating a Life of Gratitude and Excitement
Today we explored ways to focus more on gratitude in your life. I offered a couple strategies that have worked for me. On Amber Smith's podcast she asks the questions, "Do you wake up expecting something amazing to happen today?" As we ask this question we can live in a way that creates amazing things and also be filled with gratitude.
When we feel judged
In this thought-provoking episode, we tackle the complex relationship mothers have with judgment—both from others and ourselves. Discover why some judgment is necessary and protective, while other forms can trap us in cycles of self-doubt and insecurity. Through personal stories and practical strategies, learn how to distinguish between helpful discernment and harmful criticism, and how to break f
Embracing the Full Spectrum of Emotions
In this episode, I dive deeper into my journey of preparing to send my son on his mission. After initially focusing on gratitude to overcome disappointment about his mission call, I discovered that other emotions—sadness and worry—were still lingering beneath the surface.I explore the important distinction between "clean pain" (natural sadness that honors our relationships) and "dir
Your Thoughts, Your Reality
Unlock the power of your mind and transform your daily experience! In this episode, discover how your morning thoughts can shape your entire day. Learn the game-changing skill of redirecting your brain's focus from negativity to gratitude. Through a personal story about my son's mission call, I show how intentional thinking can turn disappointment into profound appreciation. Whether you&
The Shame/Blame Trap: Five 'F' Questions to Break Free
In this powerful episode, we explore how to escape the destructive cycle of blaming others or shaming ourselves for the results in our lives. Using the life coaching model (C-T-F-A-R), we examine how our thoughts and feelings about circumstances lead to actions that create our results—whether in parenting, finances, or personal goals.Through vulnerable personal stories about parenting mishaps and
Stop Blaming, Start Living
Strong people don't need others to change to be happy—they learn to take responsibility for their own happiness. Through my own experience and coaching insights from Brooke Castillo, I explore how moving from "emotional childhood" to "emotional adulthood" transforms our relationships and overall happiness. Whether you're struggling with unmet expectations in your rela
The Real Reason You're Not Keeping Your Commitments (Hint: It's Not Time)
Ever wonder why you keep putting off that workout routine, organizing that closet, or finding time to study your scriptures even though you really want to do it? In this episode, we dive into the real reason behind our struggle to follow through on commitments. Learn how your primitive brain might be sabotaging your best intentions and discover practical strategies to overcome these ancient instin
Navigating Life's Big Transitions as a Mother
Today I explored the emotional journey of motherhood transitions, from first-time parenthood to empty nesting. Through personal stories and practical wisdom, I discuss why these changes feel so challenging and share five powerful strategies to navigate them with grace. Whether you're a new mom or seeing your children off to college, this episode offers comfort, understanding, and actionable s
Understanding Emotions
In this episode, we dive deep into understanding our emotional experiences and the powerful distinction between clean pain and dirty pain. Learn why trying to avoid negative emotions through buffering behaviors only creates more challenges, and discover why some painful feelings are actually healthy and important to process. Through a personal story about my son's heart condition, I illustrat
Self talk
In this episode of Finding Yourself in Motherhood, we explore why we sometimes leave social gatherings feeling discouraged, even when nothing negative happened. Through relatable examples of comparing our homes, parenting, and life circumstances to others, we uncover how our subtle, unnoticed thoughts create these feelings of "not enough." Learn four practical steps to manage these thoug
Just the story of my life
Explore how reframing the phrase "story of my life" can transform our perspective on daily events. In this episode, we discuss the powerful thought "Things are always working out in my favor" and how it applies even in life's most challenging moments - from natural disasters to deep personal struggles. Learn how this mindset can help you notice tender mercies, deepen relat
The magic of optimism
In this episode of Finding Yourself in Motherhood, we explore how optimism shapes our daily experiences as mothers. Through personal stories about sleepless nights with babies and navigating marriage during the busy season of raising young children, we discover how shifting from "this will never change" to "I can figure this out" transforms our present moments. Learn practical
People pleasing around the Holidays (or after!)
Today I talked about the difference between people pleasing and service. We serve out of love and gratitude, but we are people pleasing when we do it with resentment and obligation. I gave three examples of ways that people can easily start people pleasing around Christmas time. I talk about why we do it and how we are the only people we can control so we get to decide how we want to show up and c
Can gratitude change your past?
Today I talk about a quote I read on Dave Butler's Instagram feed. He quoted someone from church that said, "Gratitude can change your past." He didn't really understand it even though he liked it. I discuss ways I believe gratitude can change our memories and help us feel better about hard things that have happened. I gave a couple examples from my past and how I have worked t
Right or wrong decisions
Is it hard for you to make decisions? Do you struggle because you want to make the "right" decision? Today I discuss "right" and "wrong" decisions and how to make decisions from confidence instead of fear.
Gratitude
Today I share an experience of going through something really hard for me and finding gratitude in that experience. If you want to feel better, start with feeling gratitude for something.
Reviewing "The Woman Who Could Not Be Silenced" by Kate Moore
Recently I read the book, "The Woman Who Could Not Be Silenced." Ever since reading it, I have had a lot of thoughts about it and today I discussed how Elizabeth Packard can be inspiration to us all. She does not allow anyone to tell her what to think, she is a deep thinker who uses her brain to create so much good in the world. She also is an inspiration because of how she persevered th
Exploring your sense of self
This episode focuses on developing a good sense of self. I talk about four things to help you in the process of developing a good self esteem. First we need to understand our self worth. Second we need to pay attention to the thoughts we think about ourselves. Third, we can set big goals to help us develop and learn and grow. And last, we need to remember that life is 50/50. All of us are good and
Our brains like to be right!
In this episode I talked about an experience hiking with my daughter and watching her brain work. I also talked about how our brain works like the Ctrl F function on our computer. Our thoughts tell our brain what to look for and it will then search for evidence to make our thought true. Our brain likes to be right even at our own expense. One way to retrain our brains is through a simple 5 minute
The model, CTFAR
Today I taught about the model (CTFAR) organized by Brooke Castillo. When applying it to our own lives we can learn more about ourselves and who we are. We can learn to love ourselves and appreciate the things we do. It can be used to improve every area of our lives.
The secret to happiness
Today I explored where happiness comes from and how we can find true happiness in life. Sometimes we need to take time to get truly present in our lives and appreciate all the goodness around us. More than anything we need to nurture our relationships with others. The is the greatest indicator of happiness by an 80 year study out of Harvard.
Nothing has gone wrong here
Many times when something really difficult happens, we have a lot of thoughts about why that thing should not have happened. These thoughts are painful and often keep us stuck in a lot of very difficult emotions. We get in a cycle of blaming others. When we can get curious and explore the thought, "nothing has gone wrong here," we can open our minds to the tender mercies and miracles tha
Understanding Feelings
In this episode I discuss what feelings are and how they affect everything we do in life. I discuss the best feeling of all which is love. I also mention that life is 50/50 and that is a great part of being alive.
Exploring our thoughts
Our thoughts determine everything we do and yet our thoughts are always a choice. I discuss five places we get a lot of the thoughts we think. First from those we associate with, second from our past, third from social media, fourth from books we read, and last but not least, from the Holy Ghost.
Circumstances
In this episode I talk about three different types of circumstances. Circumstances we cannot change, circumstances we can change and want to change, and circumstances we want to create.
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