hey, wait
Hey, Wait is a podcast about interrupting fawning, people-pleasing, and self-abandonment. Hosted by a somatic coach, it explores the nervous system, conditioning, and body-based patterns that drive how we relate to others. Through solo episodes and candid conversations with people who understand somatics, nervous system regulation, and energy medicine, the show examines what it takes to stop losing yourself around others. It is for sensitive, smart people who understand their patterns but still find themselves stuck.
Episodes
Go Only as Fast as Your Slowest Part with Robyn Posin | Ep # 49
You won't want to miss listening to this remarkable elder's wisdom on slowing down and breaking the rules. Dr. Robyn Posin is an 87-year-old psychologist, artist, and author, who brings deep insight into nervous system healing, inner child work, and undoing a lifetime of self-abandonment. In this episode, you'll hear: ► Why the psychological survival strategies you developed early on usually expir
RE RELEASE - The Healing Power of Being Truly Known with Sarah Peyton
If you've ever struggled to quiet a harsh inner critic or find a voice inside that offers genuine warmth and care, listen in to this transformative conversation. Sarah Peyton is a neuroscience educator, author, and relational neuroscience expert and brings deep insight into how emotional resonance can heal self-criticism, rewiring our brains for connection and self-empathy. In this episode, you'll
Proof that your presence is enough with Rana Awdish | Ep #48
Ever catch yourself smiling and nodding at a doctor while secretly planning to ghost them forever? In this episode, you'll hear Jay and Dr. Rana Awdish unpack the absurd art of exam room people-pleasing—and how to finally take your power back! Dr. Rana Awdish is a pulmonary critical care physician and the Medical Director of Care Experience at Henry Ford Health who brings deep insight into medical
Safety, Belonging & Mattering: What Fawners Can't Feel with Jay Moon Fields | Ep 47
Jay unpacks the hidden reasons why years of therapy might not be enough to break your oldest patterns. In this episode, you'll hear about the 3 core needs every nervous system has, and how to give them to yourself so you can stop tripping yourself up by trying to get them from outside of you. Host Jay Moon Fields is a somatic coach and brings deep insight into the fawn response and how to stop be
How to Stop Being the "Nervous Nice Girl" at Work with Selena Rezvani | EP #46
Do you ever catch yourself going quiet, acquiescing, or somehow shooting yourself in the foot — right in the exact moment you needed to speak up? This week's guest gets it. Jay sits down with leadership expert Selena Rezvani on how to stop people-pleasing, overcome the "Nervous Nice Girl" archetype, and advocate for yourself at work. Selena Rezvani is a leadership speaker, four-time author, and p
ADHD in Women: The Nervous System Cost of Masking with Kate Moryoussef | Ep. 45
Listen in as Jay shares an insightful conversation with ADHD wellbeing coach Kate Moryoussef on how undiagnosed ADHD manifests in women's bodies and nervous systems. Discover how a late-in-life diagnosis can reframe a lifetime of "what's wrong with me?" into a compassionate understanding of how your brain and body actually work. Kate Moryoussef is an ADHD wellbeing coach and EFT practitioner who b
Astrology, Self-Trust, and the Temptation to Outsource Your Life with Rachel Lang | Ep.44
This episode is all about resisting the urge to look outside yourself for all the answers and learning to treat cosmic tools as companions rather than controllers. Guest Rachel Lang is a world-renowned astrologer, intuitive consultant, and elected City Council member who brings deep insight into the powerful relationship between fate, personal agency, and reclaiming your personal power. In thi
RE RELEASE: Becoming Radically & Embarrassingly True to Yourself: with Nancy Dreyfus
You don't need to stand up for yourself. You need a "self". Saying "Hey, Wait" is just the beginning. The real magic? Learning how to actually speak from your own reality. If you've been with us from the start, then you already know how much Nancy Dreyfus means to Jay. She's been Jay's mentor for years, and has shaped so much of the "Hey, Wait" approach you've been hearing about. Think of Nancy as
When You're Not Who You Used to Be with Jay Moon Fields | Ep #43
Listen in as Jay shares a deeply personal update about a recent health diagnosis and how it is requiring she shift everything in her life. If you are an overfunctioning woman exhausted by people-pleasing, hear why confusing a capacity problem with a discipline problem is costing you everything, and how to finally begin listening to your body. Jay Moon Fields is a Somatic coaching expert and the ho
From Fawning to Freedom: Reclaiming Your Wholeness with Dr. Ingrid Clayton | Episode 42
Have you ever felt like you go missing in your own life to keep others comfortable? Fawning is an unconscious survival mechanism rooted in the nervous system that prioritizes someone else's happiness and demands over your own experience and boundaries. This episode features two fawners in recovery exploring how to break that trance, stop performing helpfulness, and start trusting your own internal
The Missing Link in Sexual Pleasure: Your Nervous System with Lisa West | Episode 41
Have you ever wondered why it can be so hard to stay in your body during moments of intimacy? This episode explores the deep connection between your nervous system, your body, and your capacity for pleasure. Lisa West is a physical therapist, bodyworker, and yoga practitioner of over 30 years and the author of the book Follow the Feeling, A Roadmap to Emotional Freedom. She has worked with client
How to Stop People Pleasing And Emotional Outsourcing with Beatriz Albina | Episode 40
People pleasing, perfectionism and codependence, oh my! Are you exhausted from constantly managing the people around you and performing for safety? If so, this is the episode you need if you want to stop looking outward for validation and actually feel safe being yourself. Beatriz Victoria Albina is a Somatic Experiencing Practitioner, Master Somatic Coach, and the author of the bestselling book E
The Real Reason You Feel Anxious About Money with Rahkim Sabree | Episode 39
I used to think I was just "bad with money." After my divorce at 23, I walked away from everything and gave my ex-husband all my savings out of guilt, stepping into a money story defined by debt, scarcity, and shame. But now I understand that my problem wasn't a lack of financial literacy—it was financial trauma, and if you've ever felt a tightness in your chest when checking your bank account, or
How to Read Your Nervous System Signals with Jay Moon Fields | Episode #38
When life gets overwhelmingly "lifey," your nervous system might be sending you signals of perceived danger and threat. This episode explores the power of pausing to track the physical sensations happening in your body and offers a simple path to reconnect with the quiet, peaceful trust inside you. Jay Moon Fields is a coach and educator specializing in nervous system regulation and somatic awaren
Signs, Strengths + Struggles of Highly Sensitive People with Muriel Kosovsky | Episode #37
You have pyrobably heard it your whole life: "You're too sensitive." If you feel things deeply, get overwhelmed easily, and notice every detail of everything, you might be wondering why you process the world with such extraordinary depth. Today we explore what it actually means to be a Highl Sensitive Person (HSP) and why it is a neurophysiological trait rather than a stress response. Muriel Kosov
From Performing to Presence and Pleasure with Lily Shepard | Episode #36
Lily Shepard walks (and dances) her talk. She's a trauma-informed movement educator and somatic stress relief practitioner who teaches women how to live and lead from their bodies, not just their heads or conditioning. We discuss what happens when you realise you have been taught to perform as a person, and how to transition from performing your life to actually living it. Discover practical tools
Letting Go of Who You Thought You'd Be with Sasha Davies | Episode #35
What happens when the path you've been told to follow starts to feel intolerable? In this episode, we explore the uncomfortable space of not knowing what's next and the courage it takes to choose what actually delights you instead. Jay and Sasha dive into the friction between cultural expectations of consistency and the messy, multifaceted reality of a life lived in alignment with one's curiosity
Why Grief Makes You Question Who You Are with Uma Girish | Episode #34
Today's episode is about grief. Or at least it starts out that way, but the conversation evolves into being about authenticity, purpose and desire. And weirdly, as you listen, you'll find that these topics make sense together. Because for as heavy and all-encompassing as grief feels while you're in it, it's inseparable from some of the most essential questions in life. Who am I? What am I here to
Are you a fawner? with Jay Moon Fields | Episode #33
Have you ever felt like your nervous system is pressing the gas pedal and the brake at the same time? In the first solo episode of Season Two, Jay explores the often-overlooked "Fawn" stress response, a survival strategy that prioritizes connection over authenticity. If you find yourself shape-shifting to please others or losing touch with your own needs to keep the peace, this episode will help y
Answering the Call of Your Own Becoming with Angelo Lazenka | Episode #32
This week's episode feels less like an interview and more like a homecoming. Jay sits down to steep in a conversation with Angelo Lazenka, one of her main mentors who shaped her life and work. Angelo is wilderness rites of passage guide and the former Director and President of the School of Lost Borders. He has worked with thousands of individuals seeking growth and insight in the wilderness and
You're Allowed to do Less with Jay Moon Fields | Episode #31
I have a feeling it would probably land as truth for you if I said to you, Sweetie, you're doing too much. Almost every client I've worked with lately has been struggling with this—the desire to slow down paired with an almost panicky inability to actually do it. I've felt it myself over the past few months, as I've been forced into a much slower pace and lessened capacity due to some unexpected h
Protecting and Replenishing Your Energy with Dr Maria Furlano | Episode #30
If you're a highly sensitive person, you move through life differently than other people. You know what it's like to feel other people's emotions as if they're your own. To struggle to sort out what's your energy and what's someone else's. To walk through the world feeling like your nerves live on the outside of your skin. Today's guest, Dr. Maria Furlano, has spent her entire career helping highl
It's OK to be Angry with Dr. Mitch Abrams | Episode #29
Anger is a powerful and often misunderstood emotion. For many, it's an emotion to be suppressed, a sign of being out of control. But what if anger, when harnessed correctly, could be a force for good in your life? Today's guest, Dr. Mitch Abrams, is an expert in sport, clinical, and forensic psychology, and the author of I'm Not Fucking Angry!!! Adjust the Flames to Get What You Want and Need. He
From Overfunctioning to Nervous System Regulation with Erin Washington | Episode #28
Do you ever feel like you're constantly running at 100 miles an hour, stuck in a state of high-functioning anxiety? You know all the "right" things to do for self-care, but you just can't seem to slow down, feel present, or access that inner wisdom. You might know what to do, but you can't actually do it. That is exactly what today's guest, Erin Washington, has experienced. Erin is the author of F
Transforming After Betrayal with Dr. Debi Silber | Episode #27
Betrayal is a uniquely painful human experience that can shatter your sense of self, your health, and your ability to trust. What if there was a predictable path to move through the devastation and emerge stronger on the other side? Imagine turning your deepest personal pain into a mission to heal others. That is exactly what today's guest, Dr. Debi Silber, did. After experiencing life-altering b
Are You Love Addicted? with Jodi White | Episode #26
Do you ever feel like you're dating the same person in a different body, repeating the same painful relationship patterns over and over? Many of us search for a love that completes us, only to find we've lost ourselves in the process. This cycle of relating is more common than you think, and it has a name: love addiction. That is what today's guest, Jodi White, is here to unpack. Jodi is a license
Composting Capitalism: Lessons from the Land with Megan Leatherman | #25
Is your relationship with work your most unhealthy one? In a culture that prioritizes constant production and consumption, it's easy to feel like you're just a cog in a machine, disconnected from your own vitality and purpose. The pressure to hustle is relentless, and the system can feel impossible to escape. What if the antidote isn't working harder, but divesting from that system altogether? Tha
Living By Your Personal Playbook with Stephanie Szostak | #24
Have you ever felt like an imposter, terrified of being "found out" as unqualified, despite your successes? What if the key to overcoming that fear wasn't to "get it together," but to get radically honest and build your own unique toolkit for mental fitness? You may know Stephanie Szostak from her roles in hit films and shows like The Devil Wears Prada, Iron Man 3, and A Million Little Things. But
Navigating Your Relationship with Work with Kyle Elliott | #23
What happens when your job becomes your entire identity? For many high-achievers, the line between a strong work ethic and a work addiction can become blurry, leading to burnout and a disconnect from what truly matters. Imagine building your identity around being "good at work" since elementary school, only to realize that the success you chased left you feeling empty and anxious. This was the rea
Having Agency Over Your Aging with Ashley Selman | #22
Aging is part of the human experience, but as our bodies change, so must our approach and mindset toward caring for them. Imagine going from being an elite athlete and coach to Olympic track and field athletes, to barely being able to move only a few years later. When you have spent your 20s identifying as strong, physical, and healthy, losing the ability to move freely can feel like a devastating
Becoming Me: Turning Shame into Medicine | #21
Why is it so hard for so many of us… to simply be ourselves? No one becomes a Somatic Healing Coach by accident. Learning to connect with what you feel on the inside doesn't always come easily. For Jay, that realization began after one of the most painful experiences of her young life, separating from her first husband. In this very special and illuminating episode of the Hey, Wait Podcast, Jay si
Improvising Your Life with Amanda Hirsch | #20
The world may try to tell you otherwise, but you have the sovereignty to choose the kind of life you want to live. When we think of improv, we often picture shows like Whose Line Is It Anyway? or Saturday Night Live. While improvisation on TV can be incredibly entertaining, choosing to improvise in life by saying "yes, and…" can move you away from the scripted path others expect and toward a life
Removing the Stigma From Your Food Behaviors with Stephanie Mara Fox | #19
In times of stress, we seek to self-sooth our nervous systems… But it isn't always beneficial in the long run. When we think about eating, it's easy to forget how deeply connected food is to our nervous system, early attachment experiences, and even the ways we relate to ourselves. Eating is not just about nutrients. It's about safety, grounding, and the body's attempt to protect itself. In this
Finding Home and Safety Within Yourself with Craig Walker | #18
When we hold a baby, we naturally cradle the neck and the tailbone. In that moment we are tuned in to something gentle and instinctive, an awareness of subtle energy. It comes so easily to us as parents, and yet it's so often abandoned in our own wellbeing as adults. Many sensitive people, including so many listeners of this podcast, describe feeling as if they "lose themselves" around others. Su
Redefining Badassery with Marta Czajkowska | #17
"Whose story am I serving right now?" Have you struggled with feeling invisible? Shrunk yourself to fit a mold? Before you learn to stand up for yourself, you have to learn how to see yourself. Marta Czajkowska knows this truth better than most—not just from therapy or theory, but from the side of a cliff, 20,000 feet in the air. Growing up in communist Poland, Marta learned to survive by staying
How to Say "Hey, Wait" Without Power Playing | #16
Do you find yourself trying to one-up others? Or maybe you tend to one-down instead? Whichever direction you lean, both have something in common. Contempt. Whether it's contempt for yourself or for the other person, it disconnects you from having a true, grounded experience of yourself. Even if it feels satisfying in the moment. Today, Jay speaks directly with you about what happens in your body w
Stop Negotiating Against Yourself with Kwame Christian | #15
Whether in a boardroom with global business leaders or simply with your family in the comfort of your own living room, we negotiate with other people every single day. Saying "Hey, Wait" is about giving yourself permission to express yourself and own your reality while also acknowledging the reality of the person you're in conflict with. Skillful negotiating works in exactly the same way. Today's
The Healing Power of Being Truly Known w/ Sarah Peyton | #14
If you're someone who feels deeply—and often feels alone, even when around other people—you likely carry a quiet longing for more in your relationships. Other people—even you—might mistake this wanting as wanting more attention, or wanting more time with the other person. But the true, deeper longing is for more connection. For the sense that someone is truly with you. "Resonance" is a term freque
Making Meaning Out of Pain: w/ Jon Macaskill | #13
Accepting your humanity means embracing every part of yourself, including your emotions. The image we often associate with a Navy SEAL is toughness, resilience, and strength. That's what makes today's guest, Jon Macaskill, so compelling. A retired Navy SEAL with 24 years of service, Jon has been through some extraordinary experiences. But instead of using his past as an excuse to close off from hi
Giving Yourself the Gift of Peace: with Erin Diehl | #12
Improv is about saying "Yes, and." It's about listening to others, embracing the moment, and choosing to input your own reality. In that way, improv and "Hey, Wait" are actually very similar. Today's guest Erin Diehl is as authentic as they come. She's a speaker, author, podcast host, "edutainer," "failfluencer," and self-proclaimed professional "Zoombie." Erin fully owns who she is, and yet she s
Break the Pattern. Not the Peace. | #11
You're not picking a fight. You're picking yourself. Saying "Hey, Wait" might feel like confrontation… But what if it's actually one of the most loving and respectful things you can do? In this solo episode, Jay closes out her three-part series on the "Hey, Wait" method with the final and most tender step: actually saying "Hey, Wait" to another person. Whether you're someone who keeps the peace at
Becoming Radically & Embarrassingly True to Yourself: with Nancy Dreyfus | #10
You don't need to stand up for yourself. You need a "self". Saying "Hey, Wait" is just the beginning. The real magic? Learning how to actually speak from your own reality. If you've been with us from the start, then you already know how much Nancy Dreyfus means to Jay. She's been Jay's mentor for years, and has shaped so much of the "Hey, Wait" approach you've been hearing about. Think of Nancy
Unpacking Your Life (feat. Jane Bond) | #9
Welcome back to the "Hey, Wait" Podcast, hosted by embodiment coach, educator, and author Jay Moon Fields. In each episode she shares stories, insights, interviews, and practical tools to help you shift how you show up in your relationships, and in your life. In today's episode, Jay is joined by Jane Bond. Jane is a powerhouse in luxury real estate (Naples, NYC, Philly), and a fierce advocate for
Softening Into Your True Nature | #8
Welcome back to the "Hey, Wait" Podcast, hosted by embodiment coach, educator, and author Jay Moon Fields. Each episode we'll be sharing stories, insights, interviews, and practical tools to help you shift how you show up in your relationships, and in your life. In today's episode, Jay Moon Fields is joined by Somatic Therapist, Social Worker, and Founder of Somatic Therapy Partners, Maira Holzman
Tuning in to the Cost of Commotion | #7
Welcome back to the "Hey, Wait" Podcast, hosted by embodiment coach, educator, and author Jay Moon Fields. Each episode we'll be sharing stories, insights, interviews, and practical tools to help you shift how you show up in your relationships, and in your life. In today's episode, Jay Moon Fields is joined by Bill Schiffmiller, the founder and CEO of Akoio, a company that specifically addresses a
Your First Questions & Your Second Steps | #6
Welcome back to the "Hey, Wait" Podcast, hosted by embodiment coach, educator, and author Jay Moon Fields. Each episode we'll be sharing stories, insights, interviews, and practical tools to help you shift how you show up in your relationships, and in your life. In today's episode, Jay Moon Fields returns solo to the mic, answering listener questions for the first time as she dives deeper into the
Microdosing Change: with Lisa Wimberger | #5
Welcome back to the "Hey, Wait" Podcast, hosted by embodiment coach, educator, and author Jay Moon Fields. Each episode we'll be sharing stories, insights, interviews, and practical tools to help you shift how you show up in your relationships, and in your life. In today's episode, Jay Moon Fields is joined by author, speaker, and founder of the Neurosculpting Institute, Lisa Wimberger. On her fi
Manage Up Without Shrinking Down with Melody Wilding | #4
Welcome back to the "Hey, Wait" Podcast, hosted by embodiment coach, educator, and author Jay Moon Fields. Each episode we'll be sharing stories, insights, interviews, and practical tools to help you shift how you show up in your relationships, and in your life. In today's episode, Jay Moon Fields is joined by Author, Social Worker, Professor, and Speaker, Melody Wilding. Melody's "Hey, Wait" Mo
Hey, Wait… Alcohol Is Keeping You Small: with Sarah Rusbatch | #3
Welcome back to the "Hey, Wait" Podcast, hosted by embodiment coach, educator, and author Jay Moon Fields. Each episode we'll be sharing stories, insights, interviews, and practical tools to help you shift how you show up in your relationships, and in your life. In today's episode, Jay Moon Fields is joined by Award Winning Author, Wellbeing Coach, and Keynote Speaker, Sarah Rusbatch. Sarah's
How Are You, Really? | #2
Welcome back to the "Hey, Wait" Podcast, hosted by embodiment coach, educator, and author Jay Moon Fields. Each episode we'll be sharing stories, insights, interviews, and practical tools to help you shift how you show up in your relationships, and in your life. In today's episode, we are focusing on the first step in the 3 Step "Hey, Wait" Process… Noticing When You're Having a Bad Experience o
Hey, Wait! Your Reality Matters Too! | #1
Welcome to the Premiere episode of the "Hey, Wait" Podcast, hosted by embodiment coach, educator, and author Jay Moon Fields. In each episode she'll be sharing stories, insights, interviews, and practical tools to help you shift how you show up in your relationships, and in your life. In today's episode, Jay shares her story and the origin of "Hey, Wait"—and explains why it might be one of the m
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