ResponseABLE Parenting
We come to parenting with all the patterns we learned in our own childhood. Together in this podcast, we uncover the roots of our reactivity and grow in education, capacity, awareness, and skills so we will be able to respond vs. react to our strong-willed children. The beauty of this process is as you become a ResponseAble Parent, the "misbehavior" of your children will lessen, the yelling will fall away and a new level of companionship and cooperation will take its place. Welcome to the journey of ResponseAble Parenting. Take a deep breath in, slow exhale out, and let's get to work.
Episodes
149. Rapid Mindset Shifts with Tim Shurr
Tim Shurr specializes in rapid mindset transformation for individuals facing ongoing stress and emotional triggers. Over 36 years, Tim has facilitated more than 16,000 belief transformation sessions, working with Fortune 500 execs and top performers to rewire the unconscious patterns that drive 95% of our behaviors. His One Belief Away Method reliably creates fast, lasting shifts that most expect
148. Empowered in the Dr. Office with OBGYN PA-C, Nikki Sapiro Vinckier
As a clinician, creator, and mother of three, Nikki sees firsthand how parents and kids alike are impacted by systemic chaos. With over a decade as an OB/GYN Physician Assistant, she's helped families navigate everything from adolescence to postpartum and menopause, always focusing on trauma-informed care and honest conversations. These experiences inspired her to launch Take Back Trust and author
147. The Power of Different with Dr. Saltz
Dr. Gail Saltz is a Psychiatrist, psychoanalyst, columnist, television commentator, author of The Power of Different: The Link Between Disorder and Genius, and medical expert for the Physicians for Human Rights, Dr. Saltz specializes in a variety of psychological issues, including those pertaining to emotional wellbeing and mental health/wellness aspects of breaking news stories. She is an Associ
146. ADHD Dopamine Seeking Behavior - How I spotted and addressed this pattern
In this episode I share the real experience of being caught up in a reactive pattern around the relentless asking, negotiating, conflict, etc. I share a 2 day breakdown and get really granular on what was happening for both my son and for me. I share the negative thoughts that were driving my behavior and the real impact that dopamine seeking has on an ADHD kid. I share how we decided to interrup
145. My ADHD son's new skill to tackle the impulse to "take it too far"
My ADHD son struggles with impulse control. A LOT. And there have been a lot of lectures, we've talked about solutions, we've done "everything" to address the challenge. But what I share in the episode is the only thing that has made meaningful change and it's amazing how rooted in neuroscience it is! After you listen to this, make sure you sign up for my free masterclass so you can learn about al
144. Do you have a plan for the next time you're triggered?
In this episode I share a personal story of how I tried to willpower my way through a very triggering day. And how UNSUCCESSFUL I was in doing so. And I talk about how I learned from it. It's not your typical way, in fact, it takes journaling about it to the next level and actually gives us data to analyze in order to know what to do in the future. I'm excited for you to listen to this episode an
143. It's Never Too Late to Be a Great Parent with Catherine Hickem
EVEN THOUGH I am not a parent to an adult child, I was struck by how many things Catherine shared that we can be doing NOW as parents of young children to set us up for an incredible relationship when our kids are older. For over 40 years, Catherine Hickem has helped families navigate emotional complexity with clarity and purpose. A licensed clinical social worker, seasoned psychotherapist, and e
142. 60 Seconds to a Calmer Kid (No Screen Required) | Kira Willey
In this episode you'll hear from Kira Willey, award-winning children's music artist and mindfulness expert who has spent nearly 20 years helping kids feel calm, confident, and connected. Her new book, The Joyful Child, gives parents 75+ one-minute songs and rhythm games that help kids regulate, focus, and release anxiety. We talk all about how to integrate movement and age appropriate play to spa
141. Dr. Cam teaches us to "speak teen"
In this episode I have the privilege of speaking with Dr. Cam Caswell, PhD, Dr. Cam is a nationally recognized adolescent psychologist, parent coach, TEDx speaker, podcast host, and founder of the Parenting Teens Academy. Affectionately known as "The Teen Translator," Dr. Cam helps frustrated but hopeful parents turn power struggles into connection and chaos into calm—without yelling, shaming, or
140. If you have kids connected to devices - this is a must listen!
I have the pleasure of speaking with FOSI (Family Online Safety Institute) and we dive deep into the current risks as well as necessary adaptations that kids are experiencing in the tech world of today. Whether you are just starting your screen journey with your kids or you're facing a daily power struggle over screens, this episode will help you navigate this journey. You can find additional free
139. How to stop taking 2 steps back with your ADHD kid
Does it feel like you're always taking 1 step forward and 2 steps back? Maybe 2 steps is generous and it feels more like 50 steps back. This is that feeling where you've "tried everything" and nothing seems to make any difference. In this week's podcast episode I share how we took a pretty big step backwards and how I am using my 8 step process to re-evaluate and get back on track even stronger t
138. I joined a fight club
I know the number one rule of fight club is to not talk about fight club…but this whole episode is about fight club :) I share some really important mental shifts that I've taken from that class and added a parenting twist to it. I hope that you find the insights valuable and you can start to see these moments as puzzles vs. infractions. 🎉REWIRE with ResponseABLE Parenting🎉 Put an end to the exh
137. Are You Here?
In this episode I have a beautiful conversation with Jenny Robinson Clark, mom of four and wife to Travis Clark, the frontman of We The Kings. Her new children's book, Are You Here? officially launches on March 17th and offers itself as a gentle entryway to conversation with kids about what happens when a loved one passes, how to find connection in the day to day, and the signs that show us love
136. How I'm making big behavior changes with my ADHD son
In this episode I share several systems we've implemented in our home. I share what's working really well, as well as how I'm refining and tweaking a really solid idea, but making sure it fits my ADHD kiddo. So often we want to tackle ALL the behaviors at once, and that's just not possible. With that in mind, I'm sharing this one tweak and sharing how it's working for us :) Also, book a call wit
135. The impact of external influences on our internal state
In this episode, I share a really scary situation that's currently ongoing inside my business on top of all the other run of the mill life triggers when you're the parent of an ADHD kid. I share how that impacts my internal state and what that is doing to my regulation abilities. Additionally I walk myself through my 4 step process as if I were a client myself :) and share a few behind the scnes t
134. Parent Interview: Supporting our kids through challenges
In this episode, I interview Emilee, a mom of 3 navigating how to parent after a whirlwind of chaos that ensued minutes after the birth of her 3rd child. We talk about how to meet our children where they are at emotionally in the face of uncertainty and fear. We talk about how to work with very strong-willed and sensitive kids. And some strategies to support her and her family as they try to sett
133. A Children's book series for ADHD / Dyslexia
This is a beautiful interview with Lynn Greenberg, part of the mother-son writing duo who are on a mission to help neuro complex children see themselves in the story! Lynn and Jonathan Greenberg are the mother–son duo behind the Creative Cab Company® children's book series — Robby the Dyslexic Taxi and the Airport Adventure and Suzy the ADHD Taxi and the Sightseeing Adventure. They've earned prais
132. Parenting amidst America's chaos
It feels impossible to know what to do as an American mother in the early months of 2026. Nothing about this is normal. Nothing. I do not claim to be an expert on politics. I acknowledge that as a white woman, I've inherited a level of privilege that many have not. And I do not pretend to know all the levels deep and the immense complexities others are facing on a daily basis. And, this is a mom
131. I exploded during summer camp registration
In this episode I share 2 very specific moments in my parenting that I saw how external influences changed my internal state. And how when that was triggered, it pushed me right into a predictable pattern of reactivity. This experience showed me once again how important our internal health, sense of safety, and ability to regulate truly is because our emotional state transforms how we interact an
130. You need to change so I feel better
In this episode I share a story from my family of origin and how I discovered a clear and potential pattern in my own parenting. I share how easy it would be for this pattern to be how I engaged my own strong-willed kid and how easy it is to fall into this trap. I also walk you through how we can change the pattern and empower ourselves to a deeper understanding of self, as well as learning how t
129. We miss the ROOT of the problem our RUSH to solve it
I noticed over the break the rush to solve something I didn't like seeing with my kids. A quick conversation after being pulled into another room, a fast directive at the dinner table, etc. However, in that rush, I noticed my dysregulation didn't go away, in fact, it amplified as the guilt of not doing it the way I wanted to the first time started to creep in. In this episode I talk about how my
128. Parenting in the age of AI with AI Literacy Educator, Gerry White
We might have grown up in the era of landlines and call waiting…but our kids are growing up with AI. It's unavoidable and so we need to know how to talk about it. In this episode I interview AI Literacy Educator & Critical Thinking Advocate, Gerry White on all things parenting with AI. We discuss how to use it as a tool, how to put safeguards around the use of AI, and how to empower our kids to
127. Ditch the lectures - try this instead
In this episode I share a technique I tried with my very defensive, strong-willed ADHD son when he was caught crossing a screen boundary. After attempting traditional talking and getting ABSOLUTELY NO WHERE I tried something different. What came out of it was nothing short of remarkable. He opened up and was totally vulnerable. He shared what was really going on and we were able to address the ROO
126. Top 12 Parent Regulation Strategies
In this episode I break down my top 12 physical and breath work exercises that I find to be the absolute most helpful. From a tiny space packed in an airplane with nowhere to go and people screaming all around you, to enough space you could freely move about. And yes, I set this to the holiday song "The 12 Days of Christmas." Don't hate me :) I really did try not to sing! 12 running arms 11 wall
125. TOP Travel Regulators for Kids!
In this episode I share POWERFUL physical regulators for your kids that will help you dump out dysregulation during holiday travel days. Feel free to take a screenshot of this list so you remember while traveling. I will also have a reel breaking them down so make sure to keep an eye out! Pushing hands Spinning Hanging Balancing Swinging Bouncing Bear crawls Games: freeze tag,
124. Power Struggle Strategies with Dr. Bethany Bilodeau
Dr. Bethany Bilodeau, behaviorist, sensory specialist, and author of Ease the Pain in the Classroom joins us for an incredible conversation around nervous-system regulation, sensory-informed strategies, body-language awareness and more. All of what she shares empowers parents, especially those raising children who are strong-willed, emotionally intense, or neurodivergent. I am thrilled for you to
123. Transforming Toddlerhood with Devon Kuntzman
In this episode I get the pleasure of speaking with the OG Instagram Toddler Expert and founder of Transforming Toddlerhood, Devon Kuntzman. Devon debunks toddler myths, hello "terrible 2s," shares a shift on how we discipline and how to start working WITH your toddler vs. managing their every move. You can find Devon at https://www.transformingtoddlerhood.com/ 🎉REWIRE with ResponseABLE Parentin
122. My S.H.!.T. List
This episode is for the parents of very impulsive kiddos. Who tends to be the common denominator when injuries or broken items happen. I share how I'm leaning into the risky / not allowed word "shit" to activate my son's brain and help him through a safety checklist before acting. This isn't a complete solution for impulsivity! But it's helping my son grow his situational awareness and the more re
121. My strategy for a regulated holiday
In this episode I share how to approach the holidays from a nervous system perspective. When there is prediction there is less friction. So we are not leaving the days up to chance. We are creating focused blocks of time that engage our children in activities they like and want to do. We are prioritizing what they want to have happen and we are creating a little mystery with some special time bloc
120. Relational Aggression at School
In this episode I have the pleasure of interviewing Julie Rainer on the topic of relational aggression in schools. Julie is a school counselor and founder of IMPACT Kids Coach. Julie helps children and parents navigate tricky friendships, relational aggression, and the hidden side of bullying. She's spent years working with kids from early childhood through high school, and has developed a practic
119. Positive consequences
In this episode I share my DECK OF CARDS idea that has gone viral on Instagram. I am using this deck of cards to help my son learn "in the moment" how to behave inside our family values vs. having yet another challenging conversation. These cards are customizable and a huge asset to any parent who wants to bring positive consequences to the table! 🎉REWIRE with ResponseABLE Parenting🎉 Put an end to
118. The big plate vs. the small plate
In this episode I break down a common triggering moment we experience in parenting. You give your child something routine like breakfast. And you're blindsided by a huge reaction and demand for something different. I dive into the reaction cycle and how to get out of it. If this resonates with you, and you want my eyes on your trigger loops, grab the training in the show notes and book your free
117. Calming the Storm - Interview with Braxton Storm
This is a special episode with Licensed Clinical Social worker and Founder of Calm The Storm, Braxton Storm. We have a beautiful conversation of how connection based parenting leads to far greater outcomes in challenging situations. You can find Braxton at braxtonstorm.com and on Instagram at: @braxton_storm 🎉REWIRE with ResponseABLE Parenting🎉 Put an end to the exhausting patterns you find your
116. The Ambitious Dads Movement - Interview with Jeff Hittner
Meet Jeff Hittner. He's the founder of the Ambitious Dads Project and has interviewed over 200 dads to learn more about the gaps in fatherhood that challenge the connection many are seeking with their kids. In Jeff's own words, Fatherhood cracked me open in ways I never expected — and showed me how unprepared most of us are for the emotional work it demands. After learning I couldn't be a biologi
115. Who invited Perimenopause?
In this episode I share the nitty gritty of my perimenopausal journey and what I've learned is the absolute number one support for this 10 year journey. When you find yourself at the intersection of hormonal fluctuation and your kid's meltdown…it's not a pretty picture. Let's dive into how we can ACTUALLY support ourselves to a different outcome in the midst of our brains changing, yet again! 🎉R
114. How to be the MOST powerful in a Power Struggle
We've all been invited into yet another power struggle with our kids. It's exhausting, annoying, and honestly, it can make us really resent being a parent. In this episode I share how to work WITH your nervous system to be the MOST powerful in a power struggle. I share 4 essential things you need to know about your nervous system inside a power struggle so you can get off the hamster wheel and a
113. I can't believe a mom said this to me…
At a low moment in a grocery store I snapped at my kids. I had been trying all the things and still I couldn't stay calm and I snapped. A woman came up to me and gave me an ear full about how bad of a mother I was and how I handled the moment in a terrible way. In this episode I share how I moved through that moment and I give you some additional resources for when you too find yourself in a mome
112. Tricky Transitions and how to make them easier for all
Transitions are a hotbed for fights. In this episode I share with you 3 ways to make it easier for both you and your kids. 🎉REWIRE with ResponseABLE Parenting is HERE!!!🎉 You will never need to frantically reach for another script, tool, or strategy again! With REWIRE you will have the exact steps you need in order to: Understand why you get so triggered What to do for yourself and your child
111. The 8 parenting lessons I learned from my dad (eulogy)
In this podcast episode, I'm sharing the eulogy I gave at my father's funeral this past weekend. It was 8 lessons I learned from him over the years that I want to anchor my parenting as I move through this world without him. 🎉REWIRE with ResponseABLE Parenting is HERE!!!🎉 You will never need to frantically reach for another script, tool, or strategy again! With REWIRE you will have the exact st
110. The sneaky primal emotion that could get you out of a power struggle
How many times do you hear a sassy response from your kid and it launches you into full reaction mode? After you think "why couldn't I have done that differently?" And the next thought is "But HOW do I do that differently?" This is the episode for you. I walk you through a new way of using a primal emotion to your benefit so that you can actually engage in better communication and find a smoother
109. What to do when your kid refuses to do what they said they would!
I don't need to tell you how aggravating this moment in parenting is. You've made the agreement, your kid got a win, all you're asking for is for them to follow through and now they're NOT🤬 We've all been there and usually that creates quite a power struggle. In this episode I'm breaking it ALLLLLL down. I'm giving you not only telling you how to set yourself up for success but I'm also giving you
108. The Wild Robot wisdom we didn't expect but need to hear!
I know this movie is from last year but I will watch it over and over again. It's so good! If you haven't seen it, The Wild Robot will validate all of your parenting feelings! :) In this week's episode I break down a scene where the main robot shares how she's reprogrammed herself in order to show up for the child she needs to care for. It's an incredible validation that we are globally stepping
107. Shift Happens when we look for the "try"
It is so easy to correct our kids over and over. Especially when it's the same repetitive behavior that is beyond annoying. However this is RESULTS focused correction. And when we don't get the results we want, we get angry, we get annoyed, and OUR default pattern of reaction comes pouring out. *And lets be honest, probably with greater intensity than it deserves because of our emotional trigger.
106. Defend Young Minds - A very important conversation about pornography
This was an incredible conversation with Kristen Jenson - author of the best selling book GOOD PICTURES BAD PICTURES. Please check out more info on Kristen and her books below. I learned so much about our children's accessibility and vulnerability to images that can have a huge impact on their brain development. I also had no idea it could start so young. Even if your children are in Kindergarten
105. Why is it easier to be compassionate to others?
Have you noticed it's so much easier to be there for someone else than it is to show up for yourself? There's a reason for that! In this week's episode I give you a challenge. I want you to explore your own patterns and programming and see if you can track it to the unmet need that's screaming out to you! When you find it shoot me a DM on Instagram @responseableparenting and tell me what you uncov
104. Threats on a road trip
On a 5 hour road trip my boys started fighting over the most benign thing…a book. I share the annoying details, the default patterns we fell into when we hit our breaking point, and ultimately what I did to recover the moment. It highlighted for me just how important it is to have regulation practices built into the day. How they cannot be back burner, "if I can get to it today" actions. These mo
103. The reason it's not working
In this episode I share more about that really frustrating cycle of trying something to break a negative cycle, it not going well, and then how we can often compare our journey to others - which creates more shame, self judgement, and tends to further solidify the negative pattern we're trying to get rid of in the first place. But don't worry, I don't leave you in that :) I also share how to chan
102. Hardest Part of Parenting
In this episode I share a negative parenting pattern I discovered about myself while going through Fast Way To Regulate. As I was tracking my triggers and getting clear about why things were upsetting me the way they were I realized this one pattern was happening all the time and I hadn't even noticed it. This is the power of this challenge. It takes the hard parts that are hiding in the shadows,
101. Why is it hard to hold a boundary?
In this episode I tackle 3 sneaky reasons why it might be hard for you to hold a boundary. On top of that, I share a boundary protocol routine. In this protocol I share how to set a value based boundary system, engage your children in the process, and have a clear protocol for when the boundary is crossed. Don't forget to join the Fast Way To Regulate challenge with the dozens of other amazing pa
100. Celebrating the Milestone of 100 Episodes!!
This podcast has been a wonderful journey and I am just beyond touched that you've been with me through 100 freaking episodes!!! In this celebration episode I share things I've learned, how my parenting has shifted, the fundamentals I teach and practice and so much more. Thank you again for being here for 100 episodes! It truly means the world to me! GET REGULATED! Inside the 30 Day Challenge FA
99. Punishments vs. Consequences vs. Boundaries - WHICH ONE WORKS?!
There is SO much talk about what constitutes a punishment or a consequence - what works, when do boundaries come into play etc. I share a real time story of what we did, how I distinguish punishments from consequences and more! I hope this is a helpful episode! There were so many interruptions from dogs barking to visitors, deliveries and more. My hope is that the message is clear and helpful!! G
98. Is your child "over reacting" or just doing what you taught them?
I saw a dad at the baseball field tell their child to stop crying because they were overreacting that their push pop had fallen on the floor. It hit me like a gut punch. And that moment got me thinking hard about "over reacting." Was that little boy over reacting? I can't wait to hear what you think about this discussion! GET REGULATED! Inside the 30 Day Challenge FAST WAY TO REGULATE you will unc
97. SHIFT HAPPENS when we change what we do when we're bored
Oh I am so excited to share this with you! SHIFT HAPPENS was a little baby of mine for a minute. I listen to so much personal growth content and I'm constantly writing down short bits of it that inspire me and shift my perspective. In SHIFT HAPPENS I took what I heard and put it through the lens of parenting. This is one of those episodes. Enjoy!! GET REGULATED! Inside the 30 Day Challenge FAST WA
96. Shake up Sibling Rivalry
This episode I share a new strategy I've been using when the boys are stuck in fight mode. The past week our kids have been extra super spicy and with the extra spice, my go-to strategies just weren't cutting it. I share what I did instead and how that shifted everything for both kids!! JOIN S.T.U.C.K. to S.T.R.O.N.G. For years our ADHD kids need us to be their "external world" until their interna
95. Can we REALLY enjoy Mother's Day?
I don't know about you, but Mother's Day can feel like a bust. I don't know if I've truly ever had a Mother's Day that WOWed me. *Sorry Charlie* But honestly, I've also never spoken up about what my expectations are and what specific needs I want met. In this episode I share my hot take on revamping Mother's Day for next year! FREE GUIDES! Discover how PLAY can rapidly transform unwanted behavior
94. Why can't we get UNSTUCK from these patterns?
I'm not sure why it took me so long to think of parenting like this 😂but when I was in my workout class today it struck me. We have such a positive association with the pain and growth of a workout, but we have such a negative association with the pain and growth in parenting. Why? Well a huge part of that is the neural programming around each area. And I talk all about that in this week's episode
93. GUILT: Is it good for parents?
In this episode I share the $h!t storm that was my spring break. Not to excuse the behavior that resulted, but to share that you are absolutely not alone in the challenge that comes with parenting a strong-willed ADHD child. Today we talk about guilt and how guilt can keep us stuck in a never ending loop of self deprecation, loathing, disappointment, and reactivity. AND how we can move away from
92. This ONE thing will improve your 1:1 time with your SWK
In this episode I specifically address the challenges that PLAY can bring to parents of strong-willed kids (SWK) or our neurodivergent kids. I share the differences I experience with my children and a "hack" that is allowing me to dial in and be more strategic with my ADHD / strong-willed kid. This has been helping us so much and I really hope you use it too! Don't forget to grab my PLAY WEBINAR (
91. Are you setting yourself up for failure or success with your kid?
Unconsciously we are setting ourselves up for failure over and over again with our kids. We head into each and every interaction with stored emotions in our bodies telling us whether or not we should be guarded or open. In this episode I share the foundational step to shift this pattern in our bodies. How you can instantly increase your tolerance level and support yourself to a better outcome. A
90. Is Empathy Weakness?
In this episode I address whether or not I believe empathy is a sign of weakness. Or "weak parenting." Elon Musk has been in the news saying "the fundamental weakness of western civilization is Empathy." However I think it's one of the biggest strengths for humanity. When we can SEE each other, when we can seek to understand each other we are in fact stronger. Both personally and as a nation. I
89. 5 Reasons Why Gentle Parenting ISN'T Working For You
In this episode I share the 5 reasons I see that gentle parenting isn't working for you. These are what I'm seeing across comments, questions I get asked weekly, my client's perspectives and community members. And I want to acknowledge that it's hard to transition from one parenting style to another. Especially one that forces us to look at our own stuff vs. focus on our children's behavior. I h
88. Understanding your child's brain-based differences
This episode is a wonderful conversation discussing how we as parents can shift our focus, our reactivity and the lens in which we view our children with brain-based differences. You get to hear from expert Eileen Devine on how she approaches parenting frustrating behaviors from a skill deficiency lens vs an intentional defiant lens. I hope you enjoy this conversation and feel hopeful in how we ca
87. IG Question - My Toddler is Using His Weight Against Me!
This episode answers a question I got over on Instagram. If you don't follow me there please connect at @ ResponseABLEparenting This parent was really struggling with their toddler falling on the ground and using their weight against them in the middle of a tantrum. We've all been there, when we say no to something and our toddler all the sudden goes completely dead weight and falls to the ground
86. Listening the first time. Is that even possible?
In this episode I share the 3D's to ensure your best possible outcome for your child to listen to you! Listening (or lack there of) can be one of the most triggering scenarios for us as parents. This episode will help you see the big picture and give you some tools to help develop the skill of listening. Also don't miss out on my FREE Webinar where I teach you how to use PLAY to solve recurring ba
85. Parenting with Grief
This is a very special episode! I am taking part in the Podcasthon Non-Profit Initiative where over 1500 podcasters are bringing awareness to a charity and organization that means something to them. I am honoring the Madd Ox Foundation. It's a foundation to bring awareness to stillbirths as well as provide resources to families (especially mothers) who have recently experienced a stillbirth. htt
84. When things don't go according to plan
Ever been there when things are going pretty smoothly and then one thing derails you and all the sudden you find yourself reacting as if all hell broke loose? Do you beat yourself up over your reaction? Spend the rest of the day ruminating on how you failed and why you can't seem to just stay calm? I've been there. I really have. So so many times. In this episode I share some tools to really supp
83. Realistically what this work looks like
It's easy to think that everyone else has it figured out as a parent. That you are the only one failing and have totally messed up your kid. That every time you yell or threaten you have to go back to the drawing board and start completely over. In this episode I share a rough moment with my son. I share how I fell back into old patterns and how I totally forgot to use every skill at my fingertip
82. Stop looking to your kids to validate your parenting
In this week's episode I share a subtle thing I've noticed across all the parents I work with. A little hiccup that keeps us stuck, that keeps us in a frustrated power loop and draws us back into conflict with our kids. It's this longing and almost expectation that our kids are going to validate our hard work as parents. We've done so much work, we're putting in a tremendous amount of effort and
81. How curiosity builds respect
I get a lot of haters in my comments. And while that comes with the territory and seems to be the cultural norm these days, I have to believe we can speak to each other differently. And while I'm not a saint, and clap back at times, I do try to practice what I preach. And that is to get curious as to why the person is saying what they're saying. You'll see me write "I'm curious…" to start many of
80. Mama Trauma
First off, shout out to you mama for tackling cycle breaking and doing the work. This is NOT easy stuff and I am here to cheer you on. I think it's very easy to point the finger to our parents (especially our moms) and say "because of the way she modeled things I am 'x'" or "the way she did this messed me up." YES all of that is your experience and 100% valid. I am not taking that away from you.
79. How do I "fix" this?!
You are right to notice that there are a million scary things flying at you at all times right now. And you are right to want to fix these immediately in order to not feel so uncomfortable and in order to keep you and your family safe. But we cannot be effective if we are reacting every minute to fear. In this episode I share how we can create a safe place internally so we can be effective exter
78. The OTHER "F" Word…Friends
This episode explores friendships. My son had a run in with his "best friend" and he was essentially told "you're not my friend." So wounded and so confused he felt blindsided by this. He admires this kid so much and truthfully this kid is awesome. I totally get why my son wants to be his bestie. But this kid already has a bestie who loves all the same things he loves, is lock step with this kid a
77. Parenting with External Stress
This is possibly the most important episode I've ever made. After experiencing the unrelenting stress of fires, arsonists, hurricane force winds + fire was almost too much for the human body to bear witness too. Most everyone in LA right now is walking around as a zombie. We are in "low power mode" and from what I've heard from almost everyone, "we're just putting one foot in front of the other."
76. My son's passing - and the lessons I continue to learn
Trigger Warning. This episode is about my son who was stillborn in 2019. I share a few moments that I experienced in the hospital. If you have lost a child, experienced a stillbirth or miscarriage, please be gentle in your listening. My hope is that you find comfort in my story, that you are not alone. And that we can continue to heal together. My son Jackson would have been 6 years old this year.
75. What I learned from my son knocking out his teeth
In this episode, I share a personal story about my four-year-old son's traumatic accident during a holiday recital rehearsal, where he severely injured several teeth. I reflect on his resilience, the lessons we've learned, and the importance of connection, asking for help, grounding tools, and letting go of control as a parent. Let's talk about navigating trauma, finding joy in adversity, and resp
74. The Stories We Tell Ourselves
In this week's episode I share why it's so easy for us to hop back into our "roles" inside our families when we see each other for the holidays. Even if we've done SO MUCH WORK we still find ourselves falling back into these roles. We do the same thing in our immediate families when we get stuck in the same loops and patterns. I hope to bring some insights, some new perspectives and some skills
73. The Secret to Calming Down
This is a fun and juicy episode! I am going to share with you a huge self discovery. A way that I have managed to CALM down in really high pressure moments. And its a secret that's been hiding in plain sight this whole time. I cannot wait for you to take a listen and I hope that this serves you well during this holiday season and into the new year. FREE GUIDES!Make sure you grab my Free Guide t
72. One of THE hardest cycles to break
I didn't think I'd share this personal story from my Thanksgiving break but I felt like it really hit home for me on my journey of parenting as well as self discovery. So I invite you to take a listen, and possibly see yourself in my story. We are so deeply intertwined with all of our "shoulds" that we've lost a large part of ourselves. My goal in everything I do as a coach is to help us figure o
71. Were You Allowed to be Messy?
You're catching me days after the Thanksgiving break here in the states. And not even 24 hours after my youngest fell and busted out most if not all of his front teeth. I'm a little shell shocked but learning a big lesson. The lesson being, I was never allowed to be messy. And so that's why parenting feels so hard because IT'S ONLY MESS! This is a heart felt, loving, accepting message to all the
70. Go From Surviving the Holidays to THRIVING in the Holidays
I love the holidays, but let's be honest, they are filled with challenges. Tricky family dynamics, expectations not being met, routines being off, more sugar, alcohol, etc. It can leave us feeling drained, resentful and frustrated. In this episode you'll get a 4 step framework from Marshall Rosenberg, the father of Non-Violent Communication. It's THE MOST effective strategy for those tricky situa
