Do You F*cking Mind?
Mindset hacks for a badass life, hosted by cognitive neuroscientist Alexis Fernandez. On Mondays, episodes combine neuroscience and psychology, covering topics from habit formation and living carefree to friendships and heartbreak. On Fridays, Head Noise episodes answer listener questions. The podcast also promotes her book 'How to Chase Change'.
Episodes
Self Love Mini Series | Day 5 | The importance of independence
Welcome to day 5! the final day of the Self Love Mini Series. In this episode, I will teach you about the importance of independence in cultivating self-love and self-respect. Independence is often misunderstood as being the same as being hyper-independent, but the two are actually quite different. One is a fear response that can lead to an inability to trust oneself and others, whereas
The Modern Dating Survival Guide | with Jake and Ottie from Relatables
In today's ep of the pod, Jake and Otti from the Relatables join me to discuss the Modern Dating Survival Guide. We dive into the world of relationships, sharing their thoughts on what men and women often get wrong in their pursuit of love. We talk about the importance of emotional maturity to the dangers of societal expectations, this episode is a must-listen for anyone navigating the datin
Self Love Mini Series | Day 4 | Self efficacy
WELCOME to day 4 of our self love mini series (hope you are loving it and thriving so far). In today's episode, I talk about the importance of self-efficacy, a crucial component of self-love that lets us to believe in our ability to handle challenges, learn new skills, and bounce back from setbacks. Self-efficacy is not just about feeling good about ourselves, but about taking action and mak
Self Love Mini Series | Day 3 | How to find self love
Bonjour and welcome to day 3 of my self love mini series. How we are going to FIND self love. that is the focus today. In this episode you will learn how to reset your self-worth by leaving behind unhealthy relationships and how to stop beating yourselves up over past mistakes by turning them into valuable lessons. We often seek validation and love from others because we don't giv
Self Love Mini Series | Day 2 | Self Worth
Welcome to day 2 of our Self Love Mini Series. In this ep we explore the importance of self worth when it comes to increasing self love. It's easy to get caught up in the idea that we're enough just as we are, but the truth is, feeling good about ourselves is often tied to the value we provide to ourselves and others. No matter how many times someone tells you you are good enough, if you do not fe
How to know if you should leave a relationship (without feeling you are giving up)
Bonjour and welcome to the ep of today. I am going to give you a (long) pep talk about how to know if you should walk away from a relationship (without feeling as if you are giving up). I cover an array of key points to consider, including how problems are resolved in relationships, how to know if you are being manipulated or if the relationship has run its course, and how to not be so r
Self Love Mini Series Day 1 (E)
Bonjour!!! it is time to bring back the Self Love mini series. This is a much loved series encore from last year.5 days of actionable, practical tools and mindset shifts to start improving how you are feeling about yourself. In the first ep, we talk about the importance of your relationship with yourself and how self worth really plays into self love. I also touch on Neuroplasticity and how
My best friend has turned into an a$$hole | Life Advice
Bonjour and welcome to head noise Friday where I give life advice and we unpack all the crazy things you are going through and try to get as close to a solution or close to making sense as possible. We have three email questions today. We talk about if you really need to chase change when its not something that excites you, and what to do when a great freindship turns one sided and goes
The Neuroscience of Determination - How to harness different brain regions to get the most out of your goals
Determination is a crucial aspect of achieving our goals and living a fulfilling life. But what drives determination, and how can we cultivate it? In this ep we are diving into the neuroscience behind determination, exploring the brain regions and neurochemicals involved in this complex process. Determination is not just about motivation, but about having the staying power to see things through, e
The paradox of plenty - the psychology of making better, stronger decisions
In today's episode, I talk about the concept of decision fatigue and how it affects our daily lives. Being bombarded with choices, from what to wear to what to eat, and it's easy to get caught up in the overwhelm. But what if you could simplify your decision-making process and make choices with confidence? One of the key takeaways from this episode is the importance of automating repetitive choice
The psychology of becoming a luckier person (8 steps)
In this episode, I delve into the psychology of luck and give you some practical tips on how to become a luckier person. I talk about the concept of beginner's luck to reframing failures, this episode is packed with actionable advice to help you shift your mindset and attract more good fortune into your life. I also touch on a study on the psychology of luck, which demonstrates that people who bel
How to help someone out of a coercive controlling relationship
In this head noise episode, I respond to a listeners question around coercive control and I go further in depth, covering the complex and often subtle signs of coercive control in relationships, and offers guidance on how to support loved ones who may be experiencing it. Coercive control is a form of psychological abuse that can be just as damaging as physical violence, and it's essential to recog
Should you have single time in between relationships?
In today's episode (a specialized head noise ep), I go into the importance of having a gap between relationships, the benefits of taking time to heal and focus on personal growth before jumping into a new partnership. Key takeaways from this episode include the importance of recognising patterns in relationships, learning to provide your own happiness, and developing emotional resilien
The neuroscience of intrusive thoughts - How to manage them and what they mean
Intrusive thoughts - those unwanted, distressing, and often disturbing mental images or urges that pop into our minds without warning. They're a common experience for most people, but for some, they can be debilitating and all-consuming. In this episode, I take you through the neuroscience behind intrusive thoughts, exploring what they are, why they happen, and how to deal with them. Intrusive tho
Things to do to 'unrot' your brain
In today's episode, I'm going to take you through 16 actionable tips to help you "unrot" our brains, including doing a daily brain training game, carrying a book or kindle, and setting a time limit on passive social media consumption. These tips are designed to be achievable and accessible, making it easier for us to make positive changes in our lives. If you're feeling stuck or struggling wi
Understanding the Neuroscience of Mental Fatigue - Why You Lack Motivation (it is not 'Lazy')
In this ep I talk about the complex world of cognitive fatigue, going into the neuroscience behind why we feel drained, demotivated, and disconnected from life. We're not just talking about being tired, but a state of being that's often misunderstood. This ep also covers the intricate mechanisms behind our brain's response to stress, inflammation, and disrupted circadian rhythms, the differe
How to Deal With a Partner Who is Weaponising Incompetence + More (Head Noise)
Welcome to your Head Noise Episode where we cover all kinds of questions from YOU. Today I cover 4 questions, topics range from dealing with a partner who is refusing to pull his weight, choosing between your home town that you love or moving away to find love, timing dating someone new and more. To have your questions answered, send your question to info@dyfmpod.com Danke!See omnys
Understanding the Neuroscience of Low Self Esteem and How to Improve it
In this episode, we explore the neural basis of self-esteem and low self-esteem. With a focus on the brain's physical changes that can impact our moods and self-perception, this episode will help you understand the complex relationship between our brains and our sense of self-worth. The episode also covers the importance of affect regulation, pride, and self-talk in building high self-esteem. How
Survivorship Bias - What it Can Teach You About Planning Ahead For Success
In this episode, i talk about the concept of survivorship bias, a logical error that occurs when we focus on successful outcomes and ignore failures, leading to skewed conclusions. This phenomenon is all too common in our daily lives, from the way we perceive success stories to the way we make decisions about our own futures. Something to learn from this episode is the importance of considering th
Ten Ways to Fall in Love With Your Life Again
In this episode, I share 10 ways to fall in love with your life again, from rethinking the first three minutes of your day to becoming an expert in a new topic each month. We are going on a journey to rediscover the joy in everyday moments. One of the key takeaways from this episode is the idea that happiness is not just about achieving big milestones, but also about finding joy in the small, ever
Did I destroy my marriage?, Avoiding Interactions and Hugs (head noise)
Welcome to head noise. (I know I am a day late) In this episode we cover What to do when you leave a marriage and then your partner makes all the changes you wanted them to make while you were together, in order to get back with you. How to deal with narcissistic mother in law and her friends. And how to navigate fears around pregnancy and deciding if it is the path you want to go on.
Miserable People - How to stop making negativity your personality
In this episode, I delve into the world of miserable people and how they can be a drain on our lives. We've all met that someone who seems to thrive on negativity, always finding fault in others and themselves, and making us feel like we're stuck in a never-ending cycle of misery. But what drives these people to be so consumed by negativity, and how can we deal with them? I talk about the concept
What you wear influences your behaviour and mood - psychology of enclothed cognition
Enclothed Cognition: In today's episode, I delve into the fascinating concept of enclothed cognition, which shows us how the clothes we wear can significantly influence our minds, moods, and behaviours. This idea is rooted in a study by Adam and Glinsky, published in the Journal of Experimental Social Psychology, which explores the relationship between clothing and psychological processes. Th
The Neuroscience of Positive Self talk and the the changes that occur in the brain
BONJOUR! IT IS TIME to unlock the power of positive self-talk Have you ever found yourself stuck in a rut, replaying negative thoughts and emotions that hold you back from living the life you want? You're not alone. In this episode, I go into the neuroscience of positive self-talk and how it can transform your brain, outlook, and interactions with the world. We explore the concept of self-talk, ho
Bad friend or just busy? Cheating after 7 years + Friendship Icks
Bonjour and welcome to a listener advice episode (Head Noise) Today we talk about Friendship icks, dealing with friends who always cancel, how to move on after being cheated on (even when you are doing all the right things), and dealing with your boyfriend liking provocative photos of their friends online. Danke for tuning in! See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
The Power of Showing Up for Your Happiness, Relationships and Success
The Power of Showing Up In this episode, I talk about importance of showing up for others and ourselves and how this concept can lead to stronger relationships, increased self-esteem, and a greater sense of purpose. I talk about the benefits of showing up for others, including releasing neurochemicals that boost our mood and sense of purpose. And the importance of being consistent in our relations
Ten things to let go of to become happier, calmer and more free
In today's episode, I talk about the importance of letting go of certain habits that can hold us back from living life in a cool calm and collected way. We're talking about the things that keep us stuck, anxious, and unhappy, and how releasing them can lead to a more fulfilling and peaceful existence. I go into TEN things to let go of in order to feel happier. So remind yourself of these things of
The Neuroscience of Social Anxiety Disorder and tools to treat it
In this episode, I delve into social anxiety disorder (SAD). I go into the differences between social anxiety and shyness, and the neuroscience behind social anxiety, including the role of the amygdala and the impact of serotonin and dopamine on our behavior. The episode covers the DSM-5 definition of social anxiety disorder, and I share practical advice on how to manage social anxiety, including
5 things to accept in your life to become happier and more in control (E)
Bonjour! This is a crowd fave so thought I would bring it back in all its glory. (also got a heap of interest about the MSG science fact!) This ep will challenge your perspective on life and help you cultivate a more mindful approach to the ups and downs that come our way. by accepting these five simple things today you will notice a weight drop off your shoulders, you will feel lighter, and
The Neuroscience of a Regulated Nervous System - and how to create one for yourself
In this episode,I delve into the concept of a regulated nervous system and how it can be achieved. We're not talking about being a calm and serene person all the time, but instead, learning to navigate our emotions and respond to situations in an appropriate way. This ep explains what a regulated nervous system is and how it differs from an unregulated one, and how a regulated nervous system
When is it time to stop being the family fixer? + How to know if you should fight for someone or let them go.
In this episode, I answer three listener questions. From the impact of artificial intelligence on future generations to navigating toxic relationships and setting boundaries with family members, this episode covers it all. I talk about how to find hope in a world where technology is rapidly changing the way we live and work and how important it is to teach children to be adaptable and independent.
P*rn addiction and what it is doing to your relationship - when to stay and when to leave
A Marriage on the Brink: Navigating Porn Addiction and Relationship Dynamics Episode 503 In this episode, I delve into a deeply personal question from a listener who's struggling to cope with her husband's porn addiction. I talk about the devastating impact of this addiction on relationships, and the importance of prioritising your own own well-being. This ep covers the complexities of porn addict
The psychology behind the slower, softer life, and why we are seeing more people return to this
In a world where social media reigns supreme, it's easy to get caught up in the endless scroll and lose sight of what truly matters. But what if you could break free from the cycle of comparison and distraction, and find a sense of calm and clarity in a world that's increasingly chaotic? This episode is all about the psychology of the slow life, where we're talking about moving away from addictive
How to not let people use your insecurities against you, and finally become comfortable in your own skin
Ahhhh Insecurities. I feel like they are used against us in all areas of life. Advertising, social media, internet trolls, trends, unhealthy relationships and even well meaning friends and family! this ep uncovers what insecurities actually are, the common behaviors to look out for in yourself, and how to learn to live with, embrace or change (in a healthy way) the things that you are i
At what point do I walk away? + An abrupt edning to a relationship, how do I heal?
Head Noise today! Episode 500!I have your voice note listener questions (love them and your voices SAAAAAAAA much). The questions and titles are perfection and I hope to give you some food for thought to get you closer to your answer. 1. At what point do I walk away?2. Abrupt ending to a relationship3. Attachment Style (How to stop protectively detaching?)We talk all things break up
Family Narcissist Bingo. How many did you tick off?
Bonjour beans, and welcome to the episode today. - Episode 499.We go into a sort of 'bingo' of things that may be said by a narcissistic family member. I gathered a lot of this information thanks to you guys, my audience and what you have written in in response to my questions around dealing with difficult family members. I also do a pharmacology fact (Quaaludes) and a listener question at th
This is your sign to let go of that thing (and HOW to do it)
Bonjour and welcome to the episode of today! Given that I am on the brink of losing my voice I thought I would bring back a crowd favourite with this episode I released a while back. In this episode I have my brain fact of the Swimmers Body Illusion, and then I go into why it is so hard to let someone / something go and ways to feel more empowered to do that thing. Danke and enjoy&n
The Neuroscience of Emotional Intelligence
My beans you voted for this episode and I am so pumped to bring it to you! I have put the poll up on Spotify and we will post stories on our socials today! Follow @doyoufkingmind on IG Follow @dyfmpodcast on TT Join the DYFM Fa
Navigating the end of a 2 year situationship and rebuilding myself even though it wasn't a breakup(Headnoise)
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Is therapy talk an excuse for being a sh!t friend?
The episode I mentioned on How to Make Friends in your 20s, 30's and beyond here: https://open.spotify.com/episode/6iY0XkqmrtIuCHfJ95UUAD?si=zqjCSkW8QB-FOTM4rj38ew Join the DYFM Facebook Group Follow @doyoufkingmind on IG Follow @dyfmpodcast
How to Trust Again When You Have Been Burnt (Headnoise)
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The Neuroscience of Breaking a Habit and sticking to it
Part 2 of the neuroscience of making and breaking habits. Here I delve into the best and most effective ways to break a habit, and I give options to try depending on what kind of habit you want to stop. Take notes, write it all down and see if it helps you. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.
Right Person Wrong Time and Good Relationship Wrong Life (Headnoise)
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The Neuroscience of Making a Habit and keeping it
We are HERE!!! with another Neuroscience episode. I tried to pack it all into one, but alas, I have to split it into two eps. Part one is all about how to make a habit. I talk about what brain areas and what neurochemicals are involved in creating and strengthening a habit. How to harness the times of day, locations and neurotransmitters to give yourself the best chance of succeeding How to st
The Neuroscience of Saunas and the Incredible Benefits For Your Brain and Longevity
BONJOUR. And welcome to one of my most important episodes for your brain health. This episode was originally released a few years ago (episode 88) and would have to be top 5 of my all time favourite episodes due to how much you will learn about how good saunas can be for your brain health, your stress levels, sleep and overall physical health. How many times per week, how long etc will all be co
491. Fading Friendships, navigating affairs and am I being limerant? (Headnoise)
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490. Ten questions to ask yourself if you are unsure about having kids
This is the episode you have been asking for and waiting for and we are finally here! How do you really know if you want children? Can you ever truly be ready for it? And what kind of questions do you need to ask yourself AND your partner before embarking on starting a family, or choosing to not. While I cannot give you black and white answers, I really hope this episode helps you get deeper i
489. The Neuroscience of Focus, Attention and Distraction (& harnessing neurochemicals to improve focus)
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488. How to train yourself to lose feelings for someone and more (Headnoise)
It's Headnoise Friday! I answer your questions you sent in! The questions I received were Can you lose feelings with someone?, One sided sibling relationships and My friend has dropped the ball. If you would like to send in a question email please email: info@dyfmpod.com or if you would like to send in a Voice Message go to dyfmpod.com Join the
487. What to know when entering your 30's Part 2
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486. Should I mix friendship with career and toxic mother what will she do next?! (Headnoise)
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485. Parents struggling to accept me coming out and how many chances should I give my best friend. Headnoise
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484. Entering your 30s with the right mindset
Today's episode is one of my most requested topics, entering your 30's! Join the DYFM Facebook Group Follow @doyoufkingmind on IG Follow @dyfmpodcast on TT Follow @alexisfernandezpreiksa on IG Fo
483. Being alone vs staying in a group that doesn't align and my partner gives me the silent treatment and I can't handle it anymore (Headnoise)
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482. Moving past retroactive jealousy, and how to come to terms with leaving my home country for good?
Bonjour! Welcome to Head Noise day. Today I cover 2 different questions, one about really trusting your partner when you know they have cheated in the past (not on you, but with you), and how to come to terms with permananty leaving your home country, and having kids away from your family. I did aim to do 3 questions as usual, but the background noise was off the HHOOOOKKKK today so two questi
481. The Neuroscience of Self Control
Why do we have incredible self-control in some areas of life… and absolutely none in others? In this neuroscience episode, we break down what self-control actually is in the brain, and why it can disappear the moment stress, distraction, or emotional conflict enters the picture. We start with a quick brain fact explaining the difference between adrenaline and noradrenaline (also known as epinephri
480. My sister is overbearing, and how do I know for sure I have chosen the right path?
Bonjour! On this headnoise episode I answer three of your questions. I cover: How to deal with an overbearing sister who tries to act like a second parent and belittle constantly. How to know for sure if you are on the right path after quitting uni for a different life. How to know if you should move back with your ex, the father of your children, when your relationship is great but you are no
479. What does it really take to know someone? Important questions to ask yourself
What does it ACTUALLY take to know someone? Can you ever know a person outside of the role they play in your relationship with them? If someone deceives you, does that mean you never really knew them in the first place? And why does chemistry so often convince us we understand someone far more deeply than we actually do? In this episode, I talk about the illusion of knowing and why familiarity, at
478. Is it a red flag, should I pivot and why am I such a people pleaser (Headnoise)
It's Voice Message headnoise day! I answer 3 of your Voice Messages you sent in! If you would like to send in a question email please email: info@dyfmpod.com or if you would like to send in a Voice Message go to dyfmpod.com Join the DYFM Facebook Group Follow @doyoufkingmind on
477. I'm dating a man 17 years older, how do I get my family to accept? + I'm terrified to lose my best friend to a relationship - Head Noise
Head Noise: I’m Losing My Best Friend & My Partner Is 17 Years Older Than Me In this Head Noise episode, we talk about two situations that can quietly reshape your relationships — friendship change and family judgement. First, how do you deal with the fear of losing your best friend when they enter a new relationship? We explore: Why the friendship changing doesn’t mean the love is gone Ho
476. How to keep the spark alive in a relationship (or create one from scratch)
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475. My friends fiancé crossed a line, can I let go of resentment and I am a delayed gratification addict (Headnoise)
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474. My Partner Trauma Dumps And I Don't Know If I Can Stay, I Feel Like a Fraud at Work, and I Freeze in Conflict - Head Noise
Head Noise: My Partner Trauma Dumps, I Feel Like a Fraud at Work, and I Freeze in Conflict In this Head Noise episode, we unpack three listener dilemmas that all come down to boundaries, self-perception, and finding your voice when things feel overwhelming. We talk about: Whether to stay with a partner who constantly trauma dumps — and how to figure out if the relationship is actually sustainabl
473. Going Back to the Person Who Ghosted Me, Sister in Law Drama, and Wanting Out of a “Good” Relationship - Head Noise
In this Head Noise episode, we’re unpacking three very different dilemmas that all come down to trust, discomfort, and self-honesty. We talk about: What to do when you get back with someone who previously ghosted you, and the trust issues won’t go away How to build a relationship with your sister-in-law when you fundamentally don’t see eye to eye Why you might want to leave a “lovely” boyfri
472. Going Back to a Cheating Ex, How to Get Over Being Ghosted and Moving Cities in a Search For Love
In this Head Noise episode, I answer three listener questions that sit right at the intersection of hope, attachment, and self-betrayal the kind of decisions that feel impossible when you’re emotionally involved. We talk about: Whether you should leave a life you love to move cities in the hope of finding a partner What to do when your cheating ex wants you back, is in therapy, and swears they
471. The Psychology of Power - How to Reclaim Your Power Without Controlling Others
How to Reclaim Your Power Without Controlling Anyone In this episode, I break down the psychology behind control. Why we try to manage other people’s behaviour, emotions, and choices, and how that quietly drains our power, peace, and sense of self. We talk about: Why trying to control others makes you feel more powerless, not less How victim mentality keeps you dependent on other people’s ene
470. How to End Comparison and Competition for Good - Psychology tools that work
Why do you keep comparing yourself to everyone else, even people you love? Why does competition creep into friendships, relationships, work, and social media… even when you know it’s making you feel worse? In this episode, I break down the psychology of comparison and competition. Why your brain gets stuck in it, why some situations trigger you more than others, and how to end the comparison cycle
469. Silent treatment trauma, identity crisis from stepping back and please break my dating curse! Head Noise
BONJOUR! Head Noise today! So many questions coming through so we are ramping up these Head Noise episodes. Today we cover dating curses and how to break out of them, issues with friends who have given you the silent treatment, how to advance at work and stop being a soggy lemon and what to do when you take a step back for the sake of your mental health but it causes your mental health to conti
468. I suck at choosing the right partner, my mum is a negative drain and I’ve cut my friend out and do not miss her. (Headnoise)
On this HN episode, I get to answer your questions and they are GOOD. We get to the bottom of: Why you may be so bad at picking the right partner, how to change something within you to make better choices moving forward. Why you do not have to feel guilty for cutting a friend off even if they have zero friends (ahem, accountability) How to deal with a painfully negative mother (whom you a
467. Why Rejection Feels So Painful (Psychology of Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria)
If rejection (or even perceived rejection) feels physically painful, overwhelming, or impossible to shake, this episode is for you. In this episode, we explore the psychology behind Rejection Sensitivity Dysphoria (RSD) a widely recognized experience (though not a formal diagnosis) that’s especially common in people with ADHD, and anyone who struggles with intense emotional reactions to rejection,
The Reset You Actually Need - Day 10. Choosing Peace is the Power Move
Episode 10 – Choosing Peace Is the Power Move (How Stability, Clarity, and Balance Actually Give You Everything You Want)The Reset You Actually Need For a long time, hustle culture convinced us that being busy meant we were getting somewhere. In Episode 10 — the final episode of The Reset You Actually Need , we explore why choosing peace isn’t giving up on ambition, but refining it into something
The Reset You Actually Need - Day 9. Less proving, More Choosing
Day 9. Less Proving, More Choosing The Reset You Actually Need So much exhaustion comes from trying to prove your worth. In Day 9 of The Reset You Actually Need, we explore what happens when you stop performing for validation and start making decisions from clarity, self-trust, and alignment instead. This episode breaks down: The difference between proving and choosing and why it matters Why p
The Reset You Actually Need - Day 8. Until you learn to rest, you will not get ahead
Day 8 – Until You Learn to Rest, You Will Not Get Ahead The Reset You Actually Need So many people think they’re resting but they’re actually avoiding. In Day 8 of The Reset You Actually Need, we explore why confusing rest with avoidance keeps you feeling overwhelmed, emotionally drained, and stuck in the same place, even when you’re “taking breaks.” This episode covers: The difference between r
The Reset You Actually Need - Day 7. More self trust - stop negotiating with your own excuses
Self-trust doesn’t disappear because you fail. It erodes because you keep negotiating with yourself and breaking the deal. In Day 7 of The Reset You Actually Need, we talk about why so many people struggle to trust themselves, even when they’re capable, intelligent, and motivated, and how constant internal negotiation quietly destroys confidence. This mini episode explores: Why every excuse soun
The Reset You Actually Need - Day 6. How to stop feeling disappointed and regain control over your life
The Reset You Actually Need Feeling constantly disappointed in people, in situations, or in yourself is exhausting. In this episode of The Reset You Actually Need, we unpack why disappointment is rarely about bad luck, and more often about repeating the same patterns, ignoring behaviour, and abandoning your own boundaries often without realising it. This episode explores: Why disappointment is o
The Reset You Actually Need - Day 5. Stop waiting to feel ready: Why action changes identity
Episode 5 – Stop Waiting to Feel Ready: Why Action Changes Identity The Reset You Actually Need – Day 5 So many people believe confidence, clarity, or motivation comes before they act. In Day 5 of The Reset You Actually Need, we unpack why waiting to feel ready is one of the most common (and invisible) ways people stay stuck, and how identity is shaped by action, not intention. This episode explor
The Reset You Actually Need - Day 4. Discipline the body and the mind will follow
The Reset You Actually Need – Day 4 We’re often told to fix our mindset first, to think more positively, feel more motivated, or “get our head right.” In Day 4 of The Reset You Actually Need, we flip that idea on its head and explore why disciplining the body is often the fastest way to change the mind. This episode breaks down: Why changing your physical state contributes to motivation and con
The Reset You Actually Need - Day 3. The personality traits you are romanticising that are ruining your progress
The Reset You Actually Need – Day 3 So many people believe their struggles are just “part of who they are.” In Day 3 of The Reset You Actually Need, we unpack the personality traits people often romanticise - like being chaotic, overly self-sacrificing, emotionally intense, or the crazy party animal, and how these traits quietly sabotage growth, consistency, and self-trust. This episode explores:
The Reset You Actually Need - Day 2. You Don't Need a New Life, You Need New Standards
The Reset You Actually Need – Day 2 Feeling like you need to change everything to finally feel better? In Day 2 of The Reset You Actually Need, we explore why most people don’t actually need a dramatic reinvention they need higher standards for what they allow, tolerate, and repeatedly recover from. This episode breaks down: Why dissatisfaction is often a standards issue, not a life problem Ho
The Reset You Actually Need - Day 1. How to stop feeling stuck by changing your state
Bonjour 2026! Its that time again where we hit the ground running with a January mini series. For the next 10 days (week days that is) I will be releasing a slightly shorter episode daily to get you into a healthier and more balanced headspace to feel like yourself and on the right path for the year and for any other time. Today I discuss why it is that you can feel so stuck and how that impac
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