For Love We Heal Podcast

E44: Agata's Session #2: Fear of Being a Narcissist, Bad, Evil + Relationship OCD (ROCD) Jun 4, 2026 3413 If you struggle with ROCD + fearing you might be narcissistic or a terrible person, then this episode is for you. Agata returns to the podcast after our session a month ago, where we did some transformational inner work on her ROCD. Today, she brings forward fear and shame that's been coming up for her that she could be a narcissist, which has been arising due to thoughts that she might be be

E43: When nothing has worked for ROCD (What to do) May 28, 2026 2323 If you feel like you've tried everything to break free from Relationship OCD (ROCD), and you are out of options, you're not alone! ROCD is a complex issue that many people do not know how to treat or approach properly. In today's episode, I'm going to give you an understanding of how to approach things differently than you have been. With a high-level understanding of my approa

E42: Grieving the Fantasy of "THE ONE" May 14, 2026 1587 Ever felt like there's a special person out there, and when you find them, you'll just know that they are right for you and that things will just click into place? Someone with whom you have zero doubts. Someone with whom things just move very smoothly and with whom you feel absolutely sure about. Well, today's episode is all about this and why it's important to grieve this fan

E41: Agata's Session: ROCD Healing, Attraction Issues, Statements vs Questions, Brain Fog & More! May 7, 2026 3552 In this session, I help Agata explore her ROCD by using the Internal Family Systems Therapy model. We explored parts of her who demand she leave her relationship, question attraction, and hyperfixate on height differences, block her access to parts, and give her brainfog and eventually heal an inner child who carries the shame that something is wrong with her. It's a session you won't wa

E40: Why Your Feelings Keep Disappearing May 1, 2026 2407 Are your feelings for your partner constantly disappearing, leaving you confused and terrified that it means you are in the wrong relationship? In this episode, I talk about how this is a common phenomenon, especially for folks with Relationship OCD (ROCD) and a Disorganized Attachment style, and one that can be worked with so that you can finally be at peace in your relationship.Join my new Relat

E39: Why Intimacy is Terrifying Apr 16, 2026 3964 Do you struggle with intimacy with your partner? Do you find that when it comes to being intimate, you feel repulsed, scared, avoidant, or just uncomfortable? Those of us with Relationship OCD (ROCD) have real issues with intimacy, and beneath the surface, we are ultimately terrified of it! In this episode, Grace and I explain why and how to go about navigating these fears.Join my new Relationship

E38: Feeling Trapped, Suffocated and Fearing Losing Yourself with Relationship OCD (ROCD) Apr 2, 2026 3772 Do you feel the urge to pull away when your partner gets closer because you feel suffocated, trapped, or fear losing yourself? If so, listen to today's episode where we break down the common reasons why we feel this way, where it comes from, and how to be at peace in the relationship without feeling like you need to escape. Join my new Relationship OCD (ROCD) Course & Community! Only $37

E37: Relationship OCD (ROCD) Partners Guide Mar 26, 2026 2558 Are you the partner of someone struggling with Relationship OCD (ROCD)? If so, this episode is going to help you make sense of what your partner is going through and how you can be of support to them and yourself. While incredibly hard, working through these challenges together can be an incredible gift. This episode will walk you through how to navigate your way forward together in this relations

E36: Lack of Attraction, Disgust & Feeling Repulsed (EXPLAINED): Relationship OCD Mar 19, 2026 3970 Do you struggle with attraction issues in your relationship? Do you ever look at your partner and feel disgusted? Do you worry that this is a sign that you are in the wrong relationship? Or if you were with someone more attractive, you'd be happier? In this episode, Grace and I reveal exactly why you are struggling to find your partner attractive, why you obsess about it, and what to actually

E35: Am I Wasting My Time? Am I Missing Out? Fear of Regret, Healthy vs Unhealthy Relationships, Relationship OCD (ROCD) Feb 28, 2026 3722 I'm away on vacation, so posting the raw version of this episode without my usual intro or edits. The title says it all, and overall, it was a lovely conversation that I hope you enjoy and find helpful. :)Join my new Course & Community!https://www.rocdcourse-forloveweheal.com/sales-page-6756-8810-8850-8583Want one-to-one support for healing Relationship OCD (ROCD) from the root? Book a Fr

E34: Ideal Parent Figure (IPF) Imagery Protocol (Without Music) for Healing Insecure Attachment Feb 25, 2026 861 In this guided exercise, you’ll be introduced to the Ideal Parent Figure (IPF) imagery protocol, developed by Dr. Dan Brown and used within integrative attachment therapy. This practice is designed to help heal insecure attachment patterns by gently and repeatedly engaging your mind, brain & nervous system in experiences of safety, attunement, and unconditional love.Through guided imagery, you

E33: Ideal Parent Figure (IPF) Imagery Protocol (With Music) for Healing Insecure Attachment Feb 25, 2026 874 In this guided exercise, you’ll be introduced to the Ideal Parent Figure (IPF) imagery protocol, developed by Dr. Dan Brown and used within integrative attachment therapy. This practice is designed to help heal insecure attachment patterns by gently and repeatedly engaging your mind, brain & nervous system in experiences of safety, attunement, and unconditional love.Through guided imagery, you

E32: Paula's Powerful Session: Going Beyond Relationship OCD & the Fear of Making Mistakes Feb 23, 2026 3171 Witness this powerful session I did with Paula, who graciously offered to share her story and be a participant in what I would consider an absolutely beautiful and moving session. Paula shares her journey with Relationship OCD with someone she's been with since she was 15 years old and someone whom she's known almost forever. Paula touches into the core wounds of rejection and badness th

E31: Is This Relationship OCD Or My Intuition?!?! Feb 19, 2026 3167 Are you worried that your doubt, fear, avoidance, and anxiety are signs from your intuition that you have to leave this relationship? Are you worried that none of this is Relationship OCD and that you must just be lying to yourself, and trying to convince yourself that you do want this relationship? If you answered yes to any of these questions, then this episode is for you, and I'm confident

E30: Comprehensive Framework for Healing Relationship OCD (Part 4) Anxious Attachment & Fears of Loss Feb 5, 2026 2353 If you are terrified of losing your partner and that all of your thoughts about leaving are true, then this episode is for you. I break down the root cause of Anxious Attachment and give you practical steps for healing this side of your insecure attachment style!Join my new Freedom from Relationship OCD Course & Community!https://www.rocdcourse-forloveweheal.com/sales-page-6756-8810-8850-8583W

E29: Comprehensive Framework for Healing Relationship OCD (ROCD) (Part 3) - Avoidant Attachment Healing with Grace McQueeny Jan 29, 2026 4041 Wondering why it feels like your truth that you're not in the right relationship? Why you struggle with break-up urges, emotional avoidance, disgust, or "grass is greener" mentality? In part 3 of the comprehensive framework series, we talk about the Avoidant Attachment system, and we cover these topics in detail!Join my new Freedom from Relationship OCD Course & Community!https:

E28: Comprehensive Framework for Healing ROCD (Part 2) - OCD & Shame Healing with Grace Mcqueeny Jan 15, 2026 4031 Part 2 of this series involves understanding the root cause of OCD Obsessions and Compulsions. OCD is an adaptive response to anticipating and avoiding mistakes that will lead to attachment disconnection (abandonment) and being shamed. OCD originates from attachment injuries resulting from a spectrum of parental emotional immaturity to narcissistic abuse. We talk about this in detail and offer a s

E27: A Comprehensive Framework for Healing Relationship OCD from the Root with Grace McQueeny (Part 1) Jan 8, 2026 4441 Dive into this 4-part series where we break down our comprehensive framework for healing Relationship OCD (ROCD) from the root. Learn how Internal Family Systems Therapy, The Conscious Relationship Framework, and Attachment Healing can literally rewrite the subconscious programming that drives your obsessions, compulsions, and leave you stuck between that exhausting Fearful-avoidant oscillation be

E26: Karena Got Engaged and Her Relationship OCD is Gone! (Part 2) Jan 7, 2026 2069 In this episode, I follow up with Karena from Episode 24, where a profound piece of IFS work allowed her to heal her wounds of failure, disappointment, and shame, leading to a sustained ending of doubt in her relationship. Karena is now happily engaged, but has felt the impact of things moving quite quickly, which led us into a new piece of healing in which we uncovered more parts asking for atten

E25: Relationship OCD (ROCD), Self-Betrayal, People-Pleasing and the Internal Rebellion - Rory's Session Dec 17, 2025 3953 If you are struggling with an internal pushback against your decision to commit to your relationship, then this episode is for you. In this episode, Rory opens up about her struggles with Relationship OCD (ROCD) and how, in the past, self-betrayal and people-pleasing put her into situations that were painful. We explore the internal rebellion she faces now due to this self-betrayal, and I help her

E24: Healing Relationship Anxiety (ROCD), Disappointment, Failure & Shame with IFS Therapy - Karena's Session Dec 2, 2025 2527 Right before Karena's engagement with her soon-to-be fiancé, we do this transformational session where we explore her fears and obsessions around commitment and potentially making a mistake. Karena's honest recount of her experience with Relationship Anxiety (ROCD) and a piece of deep inner work allow us to find that her fears were rooted in feelings of being a disappointment and a failu

E23: (Part 2) Working with Love Addiction, Limerence, Guilt, Shame & Disorganized Attachment using IFS Therapy & Parts Work - Akiva's Session Nov 20, 2025 3340 Akiva joins me for a follow-up session after our first one, where we talked about her persistent love addiction, limerence, guilt, shame, Disorganized Attachment, & Relationship OCD, which you can find here: https://www.buzzsprout.com/1230701/episodes/18065421In this session, we continue her work with a vulnerable inner child (exile) in which we offer the ideal parent figure she had been longi

E22: Adult Children of Narcissistic Parents, Highly Sensitive People, Co-dependency, Relationship Anxiety & Attachment Issues with Michelle Roehab Nov 13, 2025 3780 In this episode, I speak with trauma-informed coach Michelle Roehab on the impact that narcissistic parents have, particularly on highly sensitive and highly empathic children & adults, and how that shapes we way we navigate our relationships in the present. We speak about how it erodes our sense of self, contributes to guilt, shame, and self-blame, feeling responsible for other people's

E21: The Invisible Trauma of Parentification, Boundaries & Sacred Anger with Grace McQueeny Nov 10, 2025 4891 In this episode, Grace and I candidly discuss our personal journeys with parentification, a hidden trauma and role reversal where children take on inappropriate adult responsibilities. We share how this experience shaped our roles as the family comedian and planner, and the emotional toll it takes, leading to things like people-pleasing, anxiety, depression, self-trust issues, and various other re

E20: Working through Relationship OCD (ROCD), Perfectionism, Co-dependency & Anxious Attachment with IFS Therapy- Erin's Session Nov 10, 2025 2218 In this session, Erin shares her journey of dealing with Relationship OCD (ROCD), attachment insecurities, and the challenges of seeking external validation in her relationships due to co-dependent patterns. She discusses her pattern of anxious attachment, the pursuit of unavailable partners, and the impact of these behaviors on her mental health. Through our session, Erin explores themes of self-

E19: Working with Love Addiction, Limerence, Guilt, Shame & Disorganized Attachment using IFS Therapy & Parts Work - Akiva's Session Oct 23, 2025 4277 In this episode, I help Akiva unpack and do a piece of healing around her persistent love addiction, limerence, guilt, shame, Disorganized Attachment & Relationship OCD using the Internal Family Systems Therapy Model. Watch Akiva go from a shut down, dissociated state to being able to access her parts and do a piece of healing, leading her to feel a lot better at the end.Upcoming workshop &quo

E18: Profound Change from Avoidant Attachment to Openness with IFS Therapy - Kleo's Session & Exploring Relationship OCD (ROCD), Disorganized Attachment, Avoidant Attachment, Inner Resistance & more! Oct 16, 2025 3046 In this episode, Kleo shares her journey of navigating Relationship OCD (ROCD) and Disorganized Attachment. During our session, we worked on helping Kleo connect with her avoidant parts, something she had long resisted due to the intense overwhelm these parts often triggered. In the past, their activation would lead to spirals of anxiety, helplessness, and eventually depression.By gently reassurin

E17: Chronic Anxiety, ROCD, Disorganized Attachment & Abandonment Healing - Andriy's Session Oct 8, 2025 2155 In this episode, I help Andriy explore a chronic anxiety that he's been experiencing for most of his life, in addition to Relationship OCD and Disorganized Attachment. By focusing on this anxiety, Andriy was able to connect with a one and a half year old inner child that was abandoned by his mother due to her own mental health issues. Through Andriy bringing compassion and presence to this pa

E15: Relationship OCD (ROCD), Infatuation, Limerence & Disgust - Grace's Session Oct 1, 2025 4124 In this powerful episode, I sit down with Grace, who courageously shares her journey of living with and healing from Relationship OCD (ROCD). Grace captures the wild oscillation between fantasy, infatuation, and limerence and intense disgust, anxiety, and obsessive thinking, which has gotten considerably better with all the healing work she has been doing over the years.If you've ever experie

E16: Relationship OCD (ROCD) and the Shame that Fuels it - Emily's Session Sep 29, 2025 3296 In this session, Emily shares her struggles with ROCD that began in her early years. We explored themes of guilt, shame, and the fear of making mistakes, which are deeply rooted in her past experiences, including family dynamics and personal relationships. Through our conversation, we discussed how these feelings impact her current relationship and how shame is really at the root of her obsessions

E14: "Two Weeks in, She Became Hideous," ROCD, Disorganized Attachment - Devin's Story Sep 22, 2025 5287 In this episode, Devin discusses his experiences with Relationship Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder (ROCD), which often manifests as feelings of disgust or lack of attraction towards his partners. He describes how these feelings can be sudden and intense, leading to confusion and anxiety about the relationship. Devin shares that these emotions are not necessarily reflective of the partner or the rela

E13: Working Through Relationship OCD, Attraction and Intelligence Themes - Molly's Session Sep 4, 2025 3268 In this conversation, Molly shares her journey with Relationship OCD (ROCD) and how it has impacted her relationships, particularly with her husband. She discusses the patterns of infatuation and fear of commitment, the role of attachment, and the challenges of vulnerability in her marriage. The conversation delves into childhood influences on her attachment style and the healing process she is un

E12: Fearful Avoidant Attachment, Numbness & Disconnection - Christine's Session Sep 1, 2025 3955 In this episode of the For Love We Heal podcast, Christine shares her journey with Fearful Avoidant attachment. She discusses the complexities of emotional connection, the impact of trauma, and the role of intuition and spirituality in her healing process. The conversation delves into the cycles of numbness and disconnection that arise in relationships, the importance of self-discovery through the

E11: Harmony's Journey with Relationship OCD Aug 14, 2025 3936 In this conversation, Harmony and I discuss her personal journey with relationship OCD, exploring the impact of her past relationships, self-sacrifice, the importance of self-advocacy, and the challenges faced in her current relationship. We delve into coping strategies, particularly in the context of Harmie's skating career, and how she navigates feelings of loneliness and fear of abandonmen

E10: Navigating Cheating OCD, Guilt & Shame - Annuziata's Session Aug 13, 2025 4124 In this episode, Annuziata shares her personal journey with Relationship OCD, detailing her experiences from a young age and the impact it has had on her relationships. She discusses the feelings of guilt and self-doubt that arise, particularly in the context of her current relationship. The conversation explores the healing process, the importance of understanding one's inner child, and the

E9: Healing the Shamed, Confused and Embarrassed Child - Colleen's Story Aug 5, 2025 2784 The main themes in the conversation with Colleen Herman revolve around her journey with relationship OCD (ROCD) and attachment issues. Colleen shares her experiences of anxiety and self-doubt in relationships, often feeling torn between staying in or leaving a relationship due to obsessive thoughts about making the right choice. She discusses her struggle with trusting herself and the impact of he

"My mind bullied me to leave my relationship" - Lekha's Story Jul 29, 2025 3767 In this episode of the For Love We Heal podcast, Alex Bishop and Chandralekha delve into the complexities of relationship OCD, attachment issues, and the impact that anxiety and shame have had on her relationships. Chandralekha shares her journey of self-discovery, revealing how her mind often bullied her into avoiding connection. The conversation explores the importance of self-compassion, the h

Nondual IFS, Love & Awakening with Dr. Laura Patryas Jul 16, 2025 3320 In this episode, I sit down with Dr. Laura Patryas, an IFS therapist, ordained spiritual minister, and author of Awaken to Love, for a deeply moving and wide-ranging conversation. We talk about spirituality, non-dualism, Internal Family Systems (IFS), romantic love versus unconditional love, and what it really means to “come home” to ourselves.Laura shares her concept of “duonity,” the experience

Befriending Dissociation with IFS Therapy - Sidney's Story Jul 14, 2025 4198 In this session, we spent the majority of the time working with one of Sidney's dissociative parts, a very common part to run into when doing work in more complex systems. I hope you enjoy!

Working with Limerence, ROCD and Healing a Shame Wound - Allison's Story Jul 10, 2025 4432 In this episode, I help Allison work on a part of her that falls into limerence, which is common for folks with Relationship OCD. We end up finding and healing a piece of shame and loneliness that is at the root of both the limerence and her ROCD.If you want support like Allison then book a free discovery call here: https://forloveweheal.com/relationshipocd-therapy/

Working with Preverbal Trauma, Anxiety & Relationship OCD with IFS - Bree's Story Jul 3, 2025 3382

Healing Relationship OCD, Fearful-avoidant Attachment, and Wounds of Inadequacy and Parentification using IFS - Mia's Story Jul 3, 2025 4599 In this session, I guide Mia inward to connect with a part of her that carries the pain of feeling not good enough for her partner. She often finds herself stuck in obsessive loops, wondering if he finds her attractive enough or interesting enough. As someone with situationally disorganized (fearful-avoidant) attachment, Mia’s anxious side gets activated when her partner leans avoidant. In those m

Healing Disorganized Attachment & Adoption Trauma with IFS – Eric’s Story Jun 19, 2025 4068 In this powerful and heartfelt episode of the For Love We Heal podcast, host Alex Bishop welcomes Eric, who shares a deeply personal journey through Relationship OCD, disorganized attachment, and the lifelong impact of early trauma, particularly his experience as an adoptee.Eric opens up about the emotional shutdown he feels in his relationships and the years of emotional turmoil.The turning point

E1: How To Heal Anxious Attachment With Valerie Rubin Jun 20, 2024 3664 In this episode, I talk to Anxious Attachment Specialist Valerie Rubin about attachment wounding, anxious attachment, avoidant attachment, conscious relationships, healing, and more! You can learn more about Valerie and her work at the links below:Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/healwithval/Podcast: https://open.spotify.com/show/1UZDfyhUZgAGIdlEv5VP85?si=69fb75f9b76444b7As I said in today&apo

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