Sex Ed with DB: smart, science-backed sex education
Sex Ed with DB is a podcast that provides smart, science-backed sex education. Hosted by DB, a sex educator with a Master of Public Health, the show features conversations with top experts on topics like pleasure, orgasms, kinks, and sex toys. The podcast aims to empower listeners with trusted information to improve their sexual experiences and relationships.
Episodes
Am I a bad person for paying for sex?
Today, we're answering a listener question about sex work from the perspective of a client. Is it bad to pay for sex? Why did it make this listener feel awful afterwards? It's time to dispel some myths about sex work and see what the root of this shame might be. ASK AN ANONYMOUS SEX ED QUESTION: Fill out our anonymous form to ask your sex ed question FROM THIS EPISODE: Come to our Bi Flirting Ni
Sex, Dating, and Finding Your Pleasure After Divorce with Dr. Lexx Brown-James
In this episode, DB welcomes back three-time guest Dr. Lexx Brown-James to talk about what she's learned from working with folks in relationships for almost two decades. From gaining confidence to giving yourself the time you need to the dating apps, let's break down some of what post-divorce folks might experience in dating. What is it like getting back into the dating pool after a divorce? In on
How do I balance religion and my sexual desires?
In this episode, DB answers an anonymous question from a listener about how to manage religious beliefs with changing views on sex, desire, and relationships. What does it mean when who we're becoming clashing with who we think we're supposed to be -- and how does that impact our relationships? ASK AN ANONYMOUS SEX ED QUESTION: Fill out our anonymous form to ask your sex ed question. FURTHER LIST
Pleasure as Resistance with Ericka Hart
Welcome to Season 14! We're kicking it off with an incredible conversation with Ericka Hart, author of the new book Nasty Work: Resist Systems, Explore Desire, and Liberate Yourself! DB talks to Ericka about colonization, pleasure, shame, joy, and working in sex ed. ABOUT OUR GUEST: Ericka Hart (pronouns: she/they) is a black queer femme activist, writer, highly acclaimed speaker and award-winning
Start Here: Pleasure, Orgasms, Kink, & Better Sex | Sex Ed with DB
We are coming back with Season 14 on May 20th, 2026! Join us in this new pleasure season of conversations with sex ed experts, answering anonymous questions from real listeners, and takes on the sexual wellness news and media happening right now. Want to have your question answered by DB on an episode? There's still time! ASK AN ANONYMOUS SEX ED QUESTION Fill out our anonymous form to ask your se
Late Bloomer Lesbianism with YouTuber Alayna Joy (Re-Release)
This week, we're re-releasing a favorite episode from the archives. In 2023, DB talked with creator Alayna Joy all about coming out as a lesbian later in life. Let's talk about why it can take people a while to figure out their queerness, how those realizations come about, and what they mean for us. If you like this episode, be sure to listen to our episode from earlier in season 13!: "Baby Gay,
Ask a Sex Educator: Unfiltered Answers On Performance Anxiety, Body Odor and Toys w/ Danielle Bezalel (from Dating Intentionally)
If you like Sex Ed with DB, you're going to love Dating Intentionally! Talia Koren chats with Danielle to explore common misconceptions about sex and why it's time to rethink what counts as sex. We also dive into using sex toys on your own, plus how to bring them up in a relationship. And at the end, Danielle answers all the questions you might be too embarrassed to ask anywhere else about things
Give Mindblowing Blowjobs with Shameless Sex Hosts Amy Baldwin and April Lampert (Re-Release)
Today, we're releasing one of our favorite episodes all about blowjobs (or blobbies?) with Amy and April of Shameless Sex! Be sure to subscribe to their podcast -- if you love Sex Ed with DB, you'll love Shameless Sex too. Content warning This episode discusses coersion around oral sex -- both oral sex that has been coerced, and oral sex as a tool to coerce. To avoid this conversation, skip from m
Viagra for Cramps? (from CRAMPED)
If you like Sex Ed with DB, you're going to love CRAMPED! We know Viagra (sildenafil citrate) as a treatment for...one specific male problem. But a 2013 study showed it could potentially be SHOCKINGLY effective for dysmenorrhea. So what happened in that study? Why would a boner pill work for period pain? and why didn't it go anywhere? CRAMPED episodes are intended for informational and entertainm
BEST OF: TRANS SEX
In this Best Of episode, we've compiled some of our favorite conversations all about trans sex. What's different about having sex as a trans person, with a trans person, or as a trans person with another trans person (we see you and love you, t4t folks). With a lot of laughs and a lot of heart, let's dive into the world of trans sex. And check out Elle and Ezra's hilarious viral video, "A Day in t
The Staircase (from The Longest Shortest Time)
This week, we're bringing you an episode from one of our favorite podcasts -- The Longest Shortest Time! From TLST: We're back after a 5-year hiatus! Hillary kicks us off with a story about her anxiety over her daughter's first experience with unwanted male attention — and her subsequent misadventures in trying to get the girl's school to teach consent. Artwork for this episode by Lindsay Striplin
BEST OF: BDSM
Rihanna voice: S S S & M M M! In this Best Of, we're bringing you the Best of BDSM from our archive. If you're curious about getting kinda kinky, this episode might just give you the motivation to start -- and make sure you're being safe and asking the right questions. FULL EPISODES FROM THIS BEST OF The Pleasure of Subbing with Lina Dune What Happens Inside a Consensual Master/Slave BDSM Relat
BEST OF: DESIRE
We're rounding out the end of Season 13 with some best of episodes mixing together some of our favorite clips from our archive! This week, we've got the best of DESIRE, from biology to psychology to culture! FULL EPISODES FROM THIS BEST OF Desire and Pleasure with Whitni Miller Three Secrets to a Thriving Sex Life with Dr. Emily Nagoski Testosterone, Pleasure, and the Libido Myth with Dr. Rebe
13 Lessons for 13 Seasons of Sex Ed with DB
And so ends Season 13! We'll be back soon with more, but for now, here's 13 lessons DB has learned from going 13 seasons strong! Have any topics you'd like us to cover on Season 14? We're planning right now -- so it's a great time to email and let us know at sexedwithdb@gmail.com! TAKE OUR SMUT QUIZFind your page-turning turn-on with our new SMUT QUIZ! In just 5 questions, you'll get right to the
What 1,500 Women Taught Us About Sensuality with Emily Bendell (Bluebella)
This week's episode is about an underrated -- and often misreprensented -- asset for pleasure: lingerie! Lingerie can make you feel powerful, beautiful, and sensual, even if you're not with a cishet male partner, or any partner at all! In this episode, DB speaks with Emily Bendell, founder of Bluebella, one of the greatest lingerie brands DB's found yet! GUEST DETAILSBluebella was born from a simp
Prostate orgasms vs penile orgasms: what's the difference?
Last week, we talked to Luna Matatas about seducing the butt -- but today, we'll go even deeper (wink wink) on the prostate! What is a prostate orgasm? How do you have one and/or give your partner(s) one? How is it different from a penile orgasm? Let's explore this fun part of the body and find even more pleasure! RECOMMENDED LISTENING Season 13, Episode 17: "Seducing the Booty: Tips for Pleasur
Seducing the Booty: Tips for Pleasurable Anal Play with Luna Matatas
This week's episode is all about BUTT STUFF! From penetration to rimming to spanking, there can be so much pleasure found in the butt -- yes, even if you're a straight man, and yes, even if you're a cis woman! DB interviews Luna Matatas, THE expert on all things booty, about how to get the most pleasure out of your (or a consenting partner's) butt! GUEST DETAILSLuna Matatas is a Sex and Pleasure E
Why do some early experiences turn into lifelong fetishes?
Ever look back on a childhood memory and realize it maybe awakened something in you that you're just now finding... very, very interesting? One of our incredible (and very brave, we LOVE you for this) listeners sent in a question about being in this predicament. Do childhood experiences impact our sexual interests, kinks, and/or fetishes? Why? What's going on psychologically? And does anyone have
Hardwired for Connection: Intimacy, Pleasure, and Survival with Dr. Justin Garcia
Are we in an intimacy and loneliness crisis? And if so, what's so bad about that? A lot more than you might think. Dr. Justin Garcia's new book The Intimate Animal: The Science of Sex, Fidelity, and Why We Live and Die for Love details why intimacy is VITAL for survival in the human species. We are social animals, and that's not something the digital age can get around. Join DB for this BRILLIANT
What happens in the brain during an orgasm?
So what ACTUALLY happens in our brains during orgasm to make it feel so good? In this episode, DB breaks down the brain chemistry and neuroscience behind orgasms. Learn about what endorphins actually are (and aren't), the other chemicals in your brain creating other sensations, and how everything comes together ;) A CHANCE TO GIVE US OPINIONS AND WIN $50Want a chance to tell us what you think abou
Baby Gay, Big Pleasure: Coming Out Later in Life with Eva Bloom
Coming out later in life? Welcome to you! Coming out is such a personal process, whether you're coming out to yourself or your loved ones. In this episode, DB talks with queer coach Eva Bloom all about what coming out later in life can look like. GUEST DETAILSEva Bloom (they/them) is a queer & trans late bloomer coach, community facilitator, and inclusive sex-ed speaker. With training in social p
The Sex Educator Business Lab: Apply By 2/1/26!
Ready to Actually Make Money as a Sex Educator? Introducing the Sex Educator Business Lab. Business education for sex educators — finally. APPLY HERE BY 2/1/26! If you've been building content, supporting people, and showing up as a sex educator — but still feel unsure how to turn that work into reliable income — you're not behind. You're just missing information no one ever taught you. Most of us
Testosterone, Pleasure, and the Libido Myth with Dr. Rebecca Levy-Gantt
So, what even is testosterone -- and why do so many menopausal women swear by it? DB and her mom Dr. Rebecca Levy-Gantt dive into a recent New York Times article "I'm on Fire': Testosterone Is Giving Women Back Their Sex Drive — and Then Some" by Susan Dominus. What does testosterone actually do? Who could benefit from taking it? What are the risks? And why are the only people who can easily acce
Birth Control Troubles and Vibrator Triumphs (DB on Longest Shortest Time)
Today, we bring you an episode from one of our favorite pods, The Longest Shortest Time — featuring DB as a guest! As the daughter of an OBGYN, Danielle Bezalel learned all about vaginas — but pleasure wasn't part of the conversation. Now she's on a mission to help people prioritize pleasure. Tune in as she shares the incident that motivated her to become a sex educator, her own struggles with b
Why Heated Rivalry Is SO HOT (it's not just the sex scenes) with Lina Dune
Have you been obsessing over Heated Rivalry? Us too. If this year's New Years Eve coverage with Anderson Cooper and Andy Cohen are anything to go off of, EVERYONE's been crazy about this show -- yes, even the lesbians. So what makes this series SO HOT even for people who aren't gay men? Let's take a look at Heated Rivalry, BL, and yaoi, with Lina Dune! GUEST DETAILSLina Dune is a kink writer, cont
Challenging Consent Narratives with (and of) Mia Schacter
In this very different -- and very difficult -- episode, DB sits down with Mia Schachter of Consent Wizardry to talk all about consent. But what DB gets is not what she expected. Please note that this episode contains difficult and potentially triggering conversations around consent. This episode touches on discussions and experiences of consent violations, as well as a perspective that might trig
From Stuck to Sizzling: Intimacy Rewired (from Shameless Sex)
Can You Imagine Having the Tools to Easily Rewrite Your Relationship with Intimacy and Create a More Fulfilling (and Juicier) Life? Join us on this episode of Shameless Sex, where we dive into the world of Intimacy Rewired. Not only will you learn about this online course that will transform your relationships and life, but you will also walk away with a few life changing tools to apply in your ow
The Pleasure of Subbing with Lina Dune
Let's ask a sub all about subbing! What's the appeal of submission? Can being a submissive be feminist? Can being a sub be empowering? And how can you figure out if you might be a sub too? Plus: DB and guest Lina Dune talk about trad wives. Ladies, is that just a kink? GUEST DETAILSLina Dune is a kink writer, content creator, host of the Ask A Sub podcast and fairy submother to all who seek her ad
How does autism shape someone's experience of sex — from pleasure to overwhelm?
How does autism interact with sex and pleasure? From sensory distractions to overstimulation to routines, DB breaks down how to get the most pleasure out of sex if you're autistic, including scripts for how to talk to your partner(s) -- and how to be a better partner to autistic folks! Check out the Organization for Autism Research's Sex Ed for Self-Advocates guide ABOUT SEASON 13 Season 13 of Se
The Realities of Queer Disabled Sex and Pleasure with Andrew Gurza
People with disabilities can be hot! People with disabilities can be sexy! And people with disabilities DESERVE PLEASURE! In this episode, we breakdown disability and pleasure with the amazing Andrew Gurza -- and their conversation with DB takes some twists and turns that are so real, they're going to strike a chord whether or not you're disabled yourself. And don't forget: anyone can become disab
Does sex actually make the vagina looser?
We've got a great listener question this week: does having sex often -- and/or with many different partners -- actually make your vagina looser? Let's break into the science and bust some myths. Don't let purity culture get you down! And remember, you can email DB with your questions at sexedwithdb@gmail.com, and yours might be chosen for a future episode too! ABOUT SEASON 13 Season 13 of Sex Ed w
Secrets of a Sex Cult: When Pleasure Gets Weaponized with Ellen Huet
This week, we're talking about how sexuality can be used to coerce people in cultlike settings, through the lens of Ellen Huet's new book EMPIRE OF ORGASM: Sex, Power, and the Downfall of a Wellness Cult. Ellen joins DB to talk about OneTaste, a for-profit wellness company that was hit with allegations of coercion, forced labor, and other abusive practices. Listen in for the story of how Ellen do
Is it normal to always feel sore after sex?
What's a normal amount of pain to feel after sex? Is everyone else sore after sex and not talking about it? How can you make sex less painful and more pleasurable? Today, learn from DB about what is and is not normal about pain during and after sex, when you should be worried, and when maybe you could just use some more lube. (Hint: Uberlube reigns supreme!) RESOURCES FROM THIS EPISODE Mayo Clin
Cutting Edge Pleasure Research for Queer Black Women with Dr. Shemeka Thorpe
Black folks are often left out of research studies. Queer people are often left out of research studies. Women are often left out of research studies. So if you're a Black queer woman, there's hardly any research about your specific needs, struggles, and pleasure -- and that's where our guest, Dr. Shemeka Thorpe, comes in! We're kicking off our second Pleasure season by diving into #HotGirlScience
SEX ED WITH DB SEASON 13 TRAILER: EVEN MORE PLEASURE!
You all loved Season 12 so much, we're running it back -- and bringing you EVEN MORE PLEASURE! This season we're covering everything you want to know about pleasure, orgasms, sex cults, BDSM, and so much more. I'm talking to some of the top experts in the field, and answering your most pressing questions about sex, intimacy, and pleasure. Season 13 of Sex Ed with DB starts November 5th, 2025 and e
BEST OF: MASTURBATION
This best-of episode is all about MASTURBATION! Taken from our backlog to bring back our best advice, histories, and myth-busting all about self-pleasure to wrap up our first pleasure season! How do you know if you're masturbating too much? What's the deal with the history of vibrators? And WHAT came from WHAT in mythology? Dive into this episode for some wild stories and affirming advice. Don't b
BEST OF: PLEASURE
This best-of episode is all about PLEASURE! Taken from some of our favorite episodes in Season 12, our first season all about pleasure, you'll get tips and ruminations on how to get the most pleasure out of your life. Listen in for talks on multiple orgasms, different types of orgasms, and how to initiate intimacy with confidence! Episodes featured: How can I have multiple orgasms? 20 Types of O
Give Mindblowing Blowjobs with Shameless Sex Hosts Amy Baldwin and April Lampert
In this episode, DB talks with Amy and April from the FANTASTIC podcast Shameless Sex! It's the final episode of Season 12 all about pleasure, and we're talking all about blowjobs (or blowies -- or blobbies?)! Let's dispel some myths and talk all about how blowjobs can be pleasurable for everyone involved. Content warning This episode discusses coersion around oral sex -- both oral sex that has be
Inside the Bedroom of a REAL Long-Term Couple (Between Us)
In this episode, DB talks to a real couple living in long-term monogamy and still getting so much pleasure and chemistry from each other. This couple's story is so sweet and fascinating, with some interesting twists and turns, culminating in a sensual routine that helps them stay connected. Looking to get that spark back with your partner? This couple's solutions may be less "spiced up" than you'd
Keeping Pleasure Alive in Long-term Monogamy with with Dr. Lexx Brown-James
In this episode, DB talks with Dr. Lexx about SO many different kinds of pleasure and how to keep pleasure centered in a long-term monogamous relationship. It isn't always just about sex -- pleasure can come from so many different parts of our lives, our senses, and our relationships with others. Let's learn about all the different types of pleasure we can embrace right here right now. As Dr. Lexx
How do I handle jealousy in a monogamous OR ENM relationship?
This week, DB reflects on last week's fantastic conversation with Certified Sex Therapist Claire Perelman. Let's take a moment to really unpack jealousy and envy, no matter if you're ENM or monogamous. What does jealousy say about us -- and what does it not? There's a sense of shame around jealousy that we can move past using our emotional honesty and by naming what we're feeling. Plus: a vocab
Ethical Non-Monogamy: How Pleasure Expands in ENM with Claire Perelman
In this episode, DB talks with Claire Perelman all about the pleasure of non-monogamy! ENM, polyamory, swingers, monogam-ish -- there's so many ways to be non-monogamous, and so many reasons living a life outside of monogamy can be a tremendous joy. Non-monogamous listeners, we see you! Monogamous listeners, this is a great moment to learn about what makes ENM so appealing to so many. Guest Detail
What Happens Inside a Consensual Master/Slave BDSM Relationship? (Between Us)
In this episode, DB talks with TammyJo Eckhart, a BDSM activist who's here to dispel some myths about M/s, or Master/slave, relationships -- in the long-term! Don't let the title fool you; just like all BDSM discussed here at Sex Ed with DB, TammyJo talks about how not only can M/s relationships be consensual, but also caring, freeing, and therepeutic for everyone inolved. Between Us is a new epis
Feminine Domination and Power Play with Midori
In this episode, DB talks with Midori, a sex eduator and artist who focuses on domination and power play for anyone who identifies as a woman. What does femme domination look like -- and why can it be so intimidating to tap into? Learn to tap into your domme side with tips from Midori on how to get there, and why domming is often so much simpler and sweeter than people might think. Guest Details M
What is sex after gender affirming surgery like? (Between Us)
In this episode, DB talks with her friend Beatrice (aka Triss) about sex after gender affirming surgery. If you think you know what "bottom surgery" means, you might have more to learn than you think! Hear from Triss about her choice to get an orchiectomy, how the surgery and recovery went for her, and the changes she's experienced since -- plus, her ritual for the wet specimen she took home with
Trans Pleasure, Explained: Trans Sex 101 with Jamie Joy
In this episode, DB talks with Jamie Joy, a trans sex educator, to talk all things trans sex. Trans listeners, tune in for some fascinating conversations on things like hormones and finding what feels right for you. Cis listeners, there's tips for you too -- not just on how to give pleasure to your trans partner regardless of their anatomy, but how you might find more joy in yourself as well! This
Queering Consent with Dr. Avgi Saketopoulou (from Lez Hang Out)
Have you ever had an experience that you did not consent to but that was enjoyable, transformational, or even pleasurable? This week Leigh (@lshfoster) and Ellie (@elliebrigida) hang out with Dr. Avgi Saketopoulou (@avgolis98), queer psychoanalyst and author of Sexuality Beyond Consent: Risk, Race, Traumatophilia, to discuss queering consent. As part of our discussion, Avgi shares stories of t
Cultivating pleasure during baby-making sex (DB's Download)
Why are we not talking more about baby-making sex and how stressful it can be?? I spoke to new moms and experts you'll recognize from Sex Ed with DB to figure out what's going on and how we could be doing it better. DB's Download is a new episode format! Inspired by our newsletter, which ends with a sum up of what I've been reading/watching/etc. each week, this format gives me some room to tell yo
Can weed make sex better?
Can weed actually make sex better? And what does the science have to say about it? This week, DB breaks down what the research really says about cannabis, desire, arousal, and orgasms. We're talking sexy highs, not-so-sexy side effects, and how to use weed to enhance pleasure. Mentioned in this episode: Ketamine, Couples Therapy, and Psychedelic Pleasure with Dr. Genesee Herzberg ABOUT SEASON 12
Ketamine, Couples Therapy, and Psychedelic Pleasure with Dr. Genesee Herzberg
In this episode, DB sits down with Dr. Genesee Herzberg to talk about ketamine, couples therapy, and psychedelic pleasure. They get into common myths, what actually happens in a session, how ketamine can help couples break old patterns, and why novelty can reignite connection and desire. Plus: how touch and consent can be part of healing. Guest DetailsDr. Genesee Herzberg is a clinical psychologis
What do I need to know about my hormones?
What's the deal with hormones, anyway? DB breaks down how they impact your sex life, mood, energy, and overall health. Learn what's normal, what's not, and how to better understand what your body's telling you. Mentioned in this episode: Rediscovering Desire: Sex, Hormones, and Libido through Middle Age and Beyond with Dr. Rebecca Levy-Gantt ABOUT SEASON 12 Season 12 of Sex Ed with DB is ALL ABO
Rediscovering Desire: Sex, Hormones, and Libido through Middle Age and Beyond with Dr. Rebecca Levy-Gantt
Sex gets better with age...if we let it! In this episode, DB sits down with her mom, badass OBGYN Dr. Rebecca Levy-Gantt, to talk all about sex and aging, They get into responsive desire, menopause, hormones, vaginal estrogen (gamechanger!), and why more women than ever are asking for what they want in the bedroom. Plus: how to talk to your doctor about your pleasure! GUEST DETAILSDr. Rebecca Lev
How can I have multiple orgasms?
Can you really come again… and again… and again? Hell yes you can! DB is here to break down the science of multiple orgasms and what actually helps make it happen (hint: it's not just willpower). Mentioned in this ep: The Orgasm Gap with Laurie Mintz Three Secrets to a Thriving Sex Life with Dr. Emily Nagoski Toy recs to get you there again and again and again: The Womanizer Premium Lela En
20 Types of Orgasms with Goody Howard
DB sits down with sexologist and educator Goody Howard, MSW, MPH to shake up everything you thought you knew about orgasms. From 20+ ways to come (yes, 20!) to the cultural myths that shut us down, they're talking about how to reconnect with your body, tune into sensuality outside the bedroom, and try to achieve at least one of the 20 different orgasm types. Consider this your official invite to g
What do I do if my partner and I have mismatched libidos?
Coping with mismatched libidos in your partnership? You are sooo not alone! DB breaks down why desire isn't just a switch you can flip, how stress and hormones play a role, and offers some evidence-based advice about what to do when you and your partner aren't in sync. Mentioned in this episode: Initiating Sex with Confidence with Whitni Miller ABOUT SEASON 12 Season 12 of Sex Ed with DB is ALL
Initiating Sex with Confidence with Whitni Miller
Initiating sex can feel vulnerable, awkward, or even downright scary—especially if you were socialized to anticipate everyone else's needs before your own. This week, DB is joined by the one and only Whitni Miller (aka BDE Moves), queer couples intimacy coach, to break down what gets in the way, how to build confidence, and why getting turned down doesn't have to be a bad thing. We're talking perf
How do I talk to my partner about using sex toys together?
DB breaks down how to talk to your partner about bringing sex toys into the bedroom to get more pleasure. She shares stats on who's using sex toys, why queer couples are ahead of the game, and easy ways to start the convo with your partner. Plus: top sex toy recs and a playful challenge to try at home. Studies mentioned in this episode: Do Sex Toys Make Me Satisfied? The Use of Sex Toys in Denm
1,000 people masturbated for science with Dr. Candice Nicole Hargons
Season 12 is all about PLEASURE and we're kicking things off with a juicy one! This week, DB is joined by Dr. Candice Nicole Hargons—licensed psychologist, sex researcher, and pleasure activist—to talk about what happened when 1,000 people masturbate for science! The Magic Wand Wellness Study is the first study of its kind to look at how daily masturbation impacts things like sleep, stress, focus
What Are the On-The-Ground Impacts of the Cuts to Foreign Assistance? (from rePROs Fight Back)
Within hours of the new administration's return-to-office, disorder took over. A foreign aid freeze, a stop-work order, and the dismantling of key foreign aid institutions commenced almost immediately. Gayatri Patel, Senior Fellow with rePROs Fight Back, sits down to talk with us about glimmers of hope for protecting this foreign assistance funding and relevant agencies, as well as how we can prep
Sex Ed with DB Season 12 is here: ALL ABOUT PLEASURE!
Ready to have better sex? Start here. This season on Sex Ed with DB, we're diving into what your high school health class definitely didn't teach you: how to get more pleasure. Whether you're trying to orgasm with a partner, explore your kinks, or just feel more confident in your body—this is the season for you. Hit play to hear what we're covering: solo pleasure, partnered sex, sex toys, porn, fa
Death Cramps: Is This Normal? (from CRAMPED)
One nerd's quest to find out why we know next to nothing about period pain. Tired of suffering from "death cramps" with no diagnosis for 20 years, Kate Downey has to look for her own answers. What she finds will change how you think about your own body and the medical system. Because having a microphone gets you more answers than having a uterus. https://www.katehelendowney.com/cramped CONNECT WIT
What 25 Rom-Coms Taught Me About Sex, Love, and Relationships: Rom-Com Vom Recap
That's a wrap on Rom-Com Vom! We made it through a whole season of dissecting the cringiest lessons the rom-coms that raised us tried to teach. In this final episode, DB reflects on what she's learned through making the show—and what these movies still reveal about love, culture, and ourselves. CONNECT WITH US Instagram: @sexedwithdbpodcast TikTok: @sexedwithdbTwitter: @sexedwithdb Threads: @sexed
No Strings Attached with Kate Helen Downey: Rom-Com Vom
It's the final Rom-Com Vom—and we're going out with a true vom. DB is joined by the brilliant Kate from CRAMPED to dissect No Strings Attached, a film so bafflingly bad it makes you double-check that yes, it really did come out in 2011. They unpack the film's deeply weird messages about women, work, and love, from its rare-but-still-weird period scene to its tired idea that ambitious women just ne
DB's TV Review: Dying For Sex (DB's Download)
In this week's bonus ep: DB reviews Dying for Sex, a show about what happens when a terminal diagnosis blows your whole life open, and catalyzes a chaotic late-stage sexual awakening. She breaks down what the show gets right about trauma and autonomy, and how it captures the weird and tender reality of female friendship. Mentioned in this episode: 13 Going on 13 with Paul Caiola: Rom-Com Vom Si
13 Going on 30 with Paul Caiola: Rom-Com Vom
This week, we are thrilled (wink wink) to review 13 Going on 30! DB and Paul talk about the ethics of age-gap romance when time travel is involved, and why 2000s films were so obsessed with pitting women against each other. Plus: dollhouses, dream jobs, and whether Matty is actually too good for Jenna. GUEST DETAILS Since 2019, Paul has been one-half of the creative team behind That Aged Well, a
How do I get out of the friend zone?
Inspired by this week's Rom Com Vom episode on the disastrous Just Friends, DB answers a listener's question about getting out of the friend zone... Mentioned in this episode: Just Friends with Lauren Passell and Holly Brown CONNECT WITH US Instagram: @sexedwithdbpodcast TikTok: @sexedwithdbTwitter: @sexedwithdb Threads: @sexedwithdbpodcast YouTube: Sex Ed with DB ROM-COM VOM SEASON 11 SPONSORS:
Just Friends with Lauren Passell and Holly Brown: Rom-Com Vom
Buckle up, it's Just Friends week on Rom Com Vom! DB is joined by Holly Brown and Lauren Passell of Tink Media to break down reformed fuckboys, friend zone mythology, and why this movie still kind of slaps, even when it sincerely shouldn't. GUEST DETAILS Lauren Passell is the founder of Tink Media, a podcast growth and strategy company, and the editor of Podcast the Newsletter. She teaches podcast
Taming the Busy Brain with Dr. Romie (from Be Well, Sis)
Today we're sharing an episode from one of our wellness podcast faves: Be Well, Sis. Hosted by Dr. Cassandre Dunbar, the show is dedicated to providing resources for Black millennial women to be their best selves physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. You'll hear an excerpt from the episode Taming the Busy Brain with Dr. Romie: Strategies for Stress, Success, and Self-Care. In this ep
BEST OF: ORGASMS (Re-release)
DB is on her honeymoon, so we're bringing you the BEST orgasm tips from the archives of Sex Ed with DB! DB and Mariah from Sex Ed Files share their go-to techniques for reaching the big O. Then, stick around as DB tackles a listener's question on how to make orgasms even more intense. Hear the full episodes: Curious Sex Ed: Orgasms More Sex Ed: How can I have a stronger orgasm? CONNECT WITH US
Pleasure Beyond Orgasm with Sexuality Doula Ev'Yan Whitney (Re-release)
Pleasure is so much more than orgasm. Don't believe us? In this re-release, DB dives into all things sensuality with Sexuality Doula Ev'Yan Whitney, author of Sensual Self. They unpack the grip of purity culture, talk body reconnection, and offer real-world tips for bringing more pleasure into your life—yes, even outside the bedroom. Still untangling your sexuality from the grip of the patriarchy?
BEST OF: SEX TOYS
Sex toys are the best toys. In this Best Of episode, we're revisiting two fan-favorite minis all about finding your toy—the one that gets you there every time. If your browser has 25 tabs open full of a different vibes that buzz, suck, swirl, or pulse and you still don't know where to start, this one's for you. Mentioned in this episode: DB's Magic Wand Experiment How do I buy the right sex toy
Curious Sex Ed: Porn Addiction (Re-release)
Is porn addiction real? Or just another shame spiral? In this Curious Sex Ed re-release, DB and Mariah Caudillo of Sex Ed Files talk first encounters, how porn shapes our sexuality, and what a healthy relationship with porn actually looks like. If you've ever wondered "am I watching too much?", this one's for you! CONNECT WITH US Instagram: @sexedwithdbpodcast TikTok: @sexedwithdbTwitter: @sexed
BEST OF: PORN
You've got porn questions—we've got answers! In this Best Of episode we're revisiting two essential minisodes on your most asked-about topic. Let's get into it! Mentioned in this episode: What Kind of Porn Is Everyone Watching? Is It Normal to Watch Gay Porn If I'm Straight? CONNECT WITH US Instagram: @sexedwithdbpodcast TikTok: @sexedwithdbTwitter: @sexedwithdb Threads: @sexedwithdbpodcast
What should my vagina smell like?
What should a vagina smell like? Hint: not a bouquet of roses. In this week's bonus episode, DB tackles one of the most Googled (and least talked about) questions in sexual health. From the history of floral-scented shame to what's actually normal down there, we break down myths, signs of infection, and why your vagina's natural scent isn't a problem to fix! Mentioned in this episode: The Wedding
The Wedding Singer with Hari Kondabolu: Rom-Com Vom
This week on Rom Com Vom, comedian and cultural critic Hari Kondabolu joins us to dig into The Wedding Singer—one of DB's childhood favorites! We talk emotional manipulation, passive female leads, and why so many rom-coms treat marriage like a finish line. Julia deserves better! Plus, softboy meltdown karaoke, marriage as the ultimate female achievement, and The Not Like Other Girls Olympics. GUES
Should I have sex with my ex?
In It's Complicated, Meryl Streep's character finds herself tangled back up with her slimy ex—familiar, messy, but kind of irresistible. In this week's bonus ep, DB dives into the real-life version of this quandary and answers a listener's question about sleeping with their ex. Why are we drawn back to people we've already left? Can it ever actually work? Mentioned in this episode: It's Complic
It's Complicated with Nicoletta Heidegger, LMFT: Rom-Com Vom
In It's Complicated, Meryl Streep is a thriving divorcée caught between her sleazy ex-husband and a soft-spoken architect. What starts as a steamy rekindling quickly turns into a chaotic spiral of questionable decision making. This week, we're unpacking what It's Complicated gets right about midlife sex, healing, and regret — and what it leaves out when it comes to agency and growth. Plus: how
MUNCH: Everything You Need to Know About Eating Pussy (from Shameless Sex)
We're dropping a clip from one of our all-time fave podcasts: Shameless Sex! If you've ever wondered how to level up your pussy-eating game, this episode's for you. Pleasure educator Tyomi Morgan walks us through techniques, tools, and tips for giving oral that actually hits. Mouths, hands, toys—it's all on the table (or bed, or floor, etc.). We LOVE what Amy and April are doing on Shameless Sex—i
Sweet Home Alabama with Becca Rea-Tucker: Rom-Com Vom
This week, we're joined by Becca Rea-Tucker—aka The Sweet Feminist—to break down Sweet Home Alabama, the rom-com that wants you to root for a gaslighting ex with a glassblowing hobby. DB and Becca dig into the movie's deep-fried nostalgia, messy relationship dynamics, and the way rom-coms love to dress up coercion as fate. They unpack emotional manipulation in a southern accent, the myth of "the o
Abortion Policy Updates You NEED To Know
DB is here with a critical update on the state of abortion in the U.S.—and it's a mixed bag. From attacks on medication abortion and emergency care to the pardoning of anti-abortion extremists, Trump's agenda is already reshaping access. But there's good news too: Arizona just delivered a major win, and organizing continues to pay off across the country. Also in this ep: the criminalization of p
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