Home
Podcasts
Sex Within Marriage Podcast : Exploring Married Sexuality from a Christian Perspective
Sex Within Marriage Podcast : Exploring Married Sexuality from a Christian Perspective
This podcast answers questions about married sexuality and intimacy from a Christian perspective. Hosted by Jay Dee, a marriage educator, it explores topics related to married sexuality. The show aims to help couples deepen their intimacy within the context of their faith.
Episodes
Why does my husband have a lower sex drive than me?
A reader wrote in with a blunt question: when a husband says he is the one who wants sex less, can you legitimately suspect he is covering for a porn habit? Check out the blog post here for the charts, the sources and the full argument.
I have been answering a version of this for years, and I have generally said that a quarter to a third of marriages have the wife as the higher-drive spouse. This
Most Marriage Conflicts Aren’t About Right and Wrong
A couple describes their latest fight. Maybe it's how the dishwasher gets loaded, or what time the kids should be in bed, or whether you deal with a problem the moment it comes up or sleep on it first. The details change, but two things are always true: both of them are frustrated, and both of them are certain they are right. Check out the blog post here for more details and links.
This episode ca
What does Biblical Leadership look like in a Marriage?
I saw a video of a wife listing the things that would immediately end her marriage, and the top item on her list was her husband finding God and joining a patriarchal religion. Not a discussion. An instant divorce. Check out the blog post here for more details and links.
And I wish I could say I was surprised, but headship has earned its bad reputation, usually from Christians who read a verse or
Why Does My Wife Refuse Intimacy Beyond the Basics?
A husband writes in: seventeen years married, two kids, sex about twice a week, and a marriage he describes as "pretty darn good." But his wife will not try anything beyond the basics, and after years of asking he still does not know why she says no. Check out the blog post here for more details and links.
Here is the thing: she did tell him why. Four times. He wrote all four answers down in his o
How to Solve the Mental Load in a Christian Marriage
Scroll social media for five minutes and you will find her: the exhausted wife explaining why she has nothing left for her husband at the end of the day. The world calls it "the mental load," and it is real. But splitting the chores 50/50 does not actually lift it, and this episode is about why. Check out the blog post here for more details and links.
The mental load is not a chore problem, it is
Why Do I Feel So Rejected by My Spouse?
At our last Couple's Night I mentioned something called Rejection Sensitive Dysphoria almost in passing, and afterward one of the guys reached out. He had never heard the term before, and it struck a chord, because he recognized himself in it right away. "I struggle with rejection," he told me, "even when I haven't actually been rejected." Check out the blog post here for more details and links.
R
Why Don’t We Ever Talk About What We Actually Want in Bed?
A deep dive into one of the most consistent findings from our survey of over 1,000 married Christians: couples who can talk openly about sex report dramatically higher satisfaction than those who can't. Check out the show notes here for more details and links.In this episode, we cover:Why so many couples stay silent about what they actually want in bedThe communication gap: satisfaction scores by
SWM 158 – Solo Masturbation – When You Remove the Other Person From Sex
Solo Masturbation - When You Remove the Other Person From Sex. Check out the show notes here for more details and links.
Today we’re continuing with our Sex as Worship series, and in this post, we’re going to be talking about masturbation, which is a highly contested argument in Christianity. Is it okay, is it sinful, it is helpful or harmful?
And before I say anything else, I want to share that I
SWM 157 – Why Sex Gets Derailed Right Before It Starts
Why Sex Gets Derailed Right Before It Starts. Check out the show notes here for more details and links.
From time to time I get questions from our anonymous Have A Question page. I received one a bit ago that I thought would be good to answer in its own post because this is a feeling that’s common to a lot of marriages. I’ve heard this same complaint, with very minor variations, from many husbands
SWM 156 – Pornography, Erotica, and AI Companions – When You Replace the Person with a Fantasy
SWM — Sex as Worship: Pornography, Erotica and AI Companions. Check out the blog post here for more details and links.
Pornography and erotica have become ubiquitous and socially normalized, and AI “companions” are increasingly marketed as hyper-sexual substitutes. These offer the appeal of intimacy without risk—no rejection, responsibility or vulnerability—yet they train desire away from real peo
SWM 155 – Hookup Culture – When You Take Relationship Out of Sex
SWM 155 - Hookup Culture - When You Take Relationship Out of Sex. Check out the blog post here for more details and links.We live in a world that has learned to separate what God never divided.Hookup culture is the next stage of sex stripped of meaning - where bodies meet, but no one truly connects.I’m continuing this series exploring how, when we remove aspects of God’s intent for sex, we end up
SWM 154 – Sex Before Marriage – When You Remove Covenant from Intimacy
SWM 154 - Sex before marriage - when you remove covenant from intimacy. Check out the blog post here for more details and links.In my last episode, I talked about how sex is an act of worship because having sex, the way God intended, gives worth to Him. It honours what He created by using it as He intended.However, our society is doing its best to invert that by taking away elements of God’s plan
SWM 153 – Sex as an Act of Worship
SWM 153 - Sex as an act of worship. Check out the blog post here for more details and links.The other night, after my wife and I had sex, we were lying there in that sweaty, happy pile you end up in when the oxytocin kicks in. As I often do, I asked her what she was thinking about. She’ll tell you I probably ask that too often, because I’m endlessly curious about what’s going on in her head.Her an
SWM 152 – AQ – Unsexy nightclothes, husbands who won’t initiate, scent and partner selection and more
June - August 2025 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page. Check out the show notes here for more details and links.In this episode, we are tackling the subjects:My wife’s nightclothes are killing my attractionIs using a vibrator wrong?How do I get my husband to initiate sex?Need something to spice up our sex lifeHow does scent factor into spouse selectionRecovery after pregnancyIs usin
SWM 151 – AQ – Oral Sex Norms, Fantasy Guilt & Rekindling Passion
AQ - Oral Sex Norms, Fantasy Guilt & Rekindling Passion. Check out the show notes here for more details and links.
We haven’t done a round up of our anonymous questions for a while. These are actually questions going all the way back to January of this year. For those who are new, these questions come in from our anonymous Have A Question page. They have no contact information, and so we only get
SWM 150 – Control, sex and marriage
SWM 150 - Control, sex and marriage. Check out the blog post here for more details and links.Last month, I watched a great video by Gary Thomas and his wife Lisa on how a controlling spirit can harm a marriage. It got me thinking: In Christian circles, we often struggle to define the difference between healthy leadership and damaging control—both in marriage and in our relationship with God.Why is
SWM 149 – My daughter’s speech – Transgenderism is a lie
My daughter's speech - Transgenderism is a lie. Check out the show notes here for more details and links.
Today we're going to do something a little bit different. For those who have been listening for more than a year, you know that my kids are in 4H and every year they have to deliver a speech. For the last few years, my eldest daughter has been delivering speeches about transgenderism based on
SWM 148 – 14 red flags your marriage is drifting towards divorce, affairs or lifelong unhappiness
SWM 148 - 14 red flags your marriage is drifting towards divorce, affairs or lifelong unhappiness. Check out the blog post here for more details and links.Have you noticed how quickly disagreements turn into demonization these days? Whether it’s politics, religion, or even marriage, we’ve gotten stuck in a cycle of contempt—where the ‘other side’ isn’t just wrong, they’re evil. And it’s destroying
SWM 147 – How do you know if you’re sexually compatible
SWM 147 - How do you know if you're sexually compatible? Check out the blog post here for more details and links.The most common argument I hear for premarital sex is, "You need to know if you're sexually compatible before getting married. Otherwise, you might end up stuck in a sexless, unfulfilling relationship."And it sounds like sound reasoning. We test-drive cars before buying them. We have
SWM 146 – Legalistic vs Loving Approach to Marriage – Shifting from Rules to Relationship
SWM 146 - Legalistic vs Loving Approach to Marriage - Shifting from Rules to Relationship. Check out the blog post here for more details and links.In my work as a marriage coach, I often see couples transition from one type of marriage to another. There’s no clear line between these states, no set of rules that definitively places someone in one category or the other. Yet, by observing how they ha
SWM 145 – AQ – Handjobs, sex on a full stomach, routines, sex tapes and more
AQ - Handjobs, sex on a full stomach, routines, sex tapes and more. Check out the show notes here for more details and links.
Welcome to the new year. I took a bit of a hiatus in December due to travel, sickness, holidays and, honestly, just feeling a bit burnt out. But we’re getting back on our schedules, and I thought we’d kick it off with catching up on our Anonymous Questions. These are questi
SWM 144 – Why wives have a complicated relationship with sex and what to do about it
SWM 144 - Why wives have a complicated relationship with sex and what to do about it. Check out the blog post here for more details and links.One of our supporters posted a question in our forum which led to a bit of a discussion on what men perceive as sexy, and it shook the questioner a bit, because it was radically different from what she had been led to believe her whole life.This led into a l
SWM 143 – Redefining sex – How to have a thriving sex life despite sexual dysfunction
Redefining sex - How to have a thriving sex life despite sexual dysfunction. Check out the show notes here for more details and links.
I feel like I have some explaining to do. A couple of weeks ago, I shared that lately, Christina and I have started having sex a lot more than usual. We had more sexual encounters last month than there were days in the month. We’re at about 30 for this month alread
SWM 142 – AQ – September 2024 – Exhibitionism, no sex in 4 months, rough sex and more
AQ - September 2024 - Exhibitionism, no sex in 4 months, rough sex and more. Check out the show notes here for more details and links.
We’re catching up today on our anonymous questions with those submitted in September of this year. As always, these questions come from our anonymous Have A Question page with no contact information and only the context provided in the question. From that, we kick
SWM 141 – AQ August 2024 – Transactional sex, no sex due to birth, lube recommendations and more
AQ August 2024 - Transactional sex, no sex due to birth, lube recommendations and more. Check out the show notes here for more details and links.
Today, we’re tackling questions from our anonymous Have A Question page. These are questions that people had and didn’t know where else to ask, and they were too shy to send an email. As such, I don’t have any way to respond to them other than through th
SWM 140 – AQ – July 2024 – A wife can’t decide if she loves him, someone calls me a Pharisee, positions, outdoor sex and more
July 2024 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page. Check out the show notes here for more details and links.In this episode, we are tackling the subjects:Wife’s love dependent on moodWhy don’t you direct people to God?Can’t seem to manage other positionsWife rejects exploration and being seenNervous about sex outdoorsCrossdressing rehashHere are the links I mentioned during the podcast:
SWM 139 – Why won’t my spouse do x – I would do it for them
SWM 139 - Why won't my spouse do x? I would do it for them. Check out the blog post here for more details and links.Recently, I’ve noticed a question popping up all over the place. It’s come up in our supporter forum, coaching sessions, emails, comments in our latest survey, and more. This question points to a fundamental tension in many marriages - at the root of it is a self-centric desire. Th
BDSM Survey Results
SWM 138 - BDSM Survey Results. Check out the blog post here for more details and links.During July and a bit of August, we ran a survey about people’s BDSM experiences. Depending on who you ask, it was either extensive or just dipping our toes into the topic. In the end, we received over 1,000 complete responses from a wide range of couples, some for whom BDSM is part of their daily life, others w
SWM 137 – Why we don’t spank our children
SWM 137 - Why we don't spank our children. Check out the blog post here for more details and links.Last week, Gary Thomas posted an article on his substack on the topic of discipline vs. punishment—not taking a stance but rather offering it up as a controversial conversation starter. Reading it made me curious about something—does your view of hell change your parenting approach? After all, if God
SWM 136 – AQ – Wife is mean to kids, another can’t decide if she loves him, and careful who you let teach
June 2024 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page. Check out the show notes here for more details and links.In this episode, we are tackling the subjects:Wife thinks she has to be mean to our childrenGolden showers (again)Wife can’t decide if she loves me or notJust because you’re experienced, doesn’t mean you’re qualifiedHere are the links I mentioned during the podcast:SWM 029 - Fanta
SWM 135 – It’s good to try new things
SWM 135 - It's good to try new things. Check out the blog post here for more details and links.Most kids, when growing up, enter a picky stage at some point. Some when they’re toddlers, some when they’re young children, some when they become teenagers. When our 3rd or 4th kid entered this phase, everyone knew the response when they didn’t want to eat something new that we’d made. “It’s good to
SWM 134 – AQ – Piercings, how not to start a fight, nude photos, nude beaches and more
AQ - Piercings, how not to start a fight, nude photos, nude beaches and more. Check out the show notes here for more details and links.
We’ve had a rough month around here. We lost a bunch of chickens to illness, we had a horse run away, then lost a horse to a trailering accident, and then had to put down another horse due to old age. Then my wife and kids left to go camping for a week and a half,
SWM 133 – Loving your spouse where they are
SWM 133 - Loving your spouse where they are. Check out the blog post here for more details and links.I often give beginner homework to my coaching clients. A few of them will likely read this and think, “He was talking about me.” You’re not wrong, but you’re also not alone.I give it out frequently because it helps combat some fundamental problems I see in many marriages: resentment, unmet expectat
SWM 132 – Breast implants and body image issues
SWM 132 - Breast implants and body image issues. Check out the blog post here for more details and links.This episode I'm answer a question I received back in February that I forgot to answer. Here's the question:Hi! To start, I just wanted to say thank you so much for what you do! Your podcast has been immensely eye-opening and helpful! Now, to my question.I am in my 30s, and my husband and I ha
SWM 131 – Tips to fight more effectively
SWM 131 - Tips to fight more effectively in your marriage. Check out the blog post here for more details and links.Last week, I shared a list of ideas our Couple’s Night group had that helped build a resilient marriage. At the end of the call, we still had some time and started discussing fighting more effectively. Again, the group came up with some excellent ideas I want to share today.Because fi
SWM 130 – Building resiliency in marriage
Building resiliency in marriage. Check out the show notes here for more details and links.
On the first Tuesday of every month, Chris from TheLionWithin.us and I co-host "Couple's Night." Couples from our communities get together to talk about marriage. We discuss struggles, share ideas, tips, and a lot of funny stories. It's an absolute blast.
This Tuesday, we got together and talked about resili
SWM 129 – AQ – Swingers, chastity devices, sex headaches, uncomfortable conversations, flavoured lubes and more
AQ - Swingers, chastity devices, sex headaches, uncomfortable conversations, flavoured lubes and more. Check out the show notes here for more details and links.
It's a new month, and that means more anonymous questions. For new readers and listeners, we have an anonymous Have A Question page where you can ask all the questions you want to know the answers to but are too embarrassed to ask. Once a
SWM 128 – Relationships require recalibration
SWM 128 - Marriages require recalibration. Check out the blog post here for more details and links.There’s an old quip about how men get married expecting their wives to stay the same, and women get married expecting to be able to change their men, and neither gets what they want. It’s funny because often, there’s an element of truth to this, which frustrates both spouses.Of course, it doesn’t app
SWM 127 – AQ – Not interested in sex, are men infatuated with ejaculate and many more questions
March 2024 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page. Check out the show notes here for more details and links.In this episode, we are tackling the subjects:Why am I not interested in sexy any more after having a baby?How do I get my wife to rest without guilt?Why does my wife dismiss my advice when she asks for it?How do I get my wife engaged in sexual growth?Are men infatuated with thei
SWM 126 – Unspoken Nuances of Understanding
SWM 126 - Unspoken nuances of understanding. Check out the blog post here for more details and links.Marriage is a cosmic tapestry, a constellation of souls woven into the fabric of time, where vows echo in the heart's language, shaping a journey of shared whispers and laughter. It's a dance of compromise and compassion, a symphony where individual melodies blend into a shared harmony, with time s
SWM 125 – Rethinking “Duty Sex”
SWM 125 - Rethinking Duty Sex. Check out the blog post here for more details and links.I've had a lot of conversations with couples as well as husbands and wives individually lately about what often gets called "duty sex" or "pity sex." For those who don't know, duty/pity sex is when one spouse gives in to sex, not because they desire it themselves, but because their spouse does. They might have s
SWM 124 – My daughter’s speech – A vaccine against the epidemic of transgenderism
SWM 124 - My daughter's speech - A vaccine against the epidemic of transgenderism. Check out the blog post here for more details and links.Today I've got something a bit different than the usual fare. Last year, for our 100th episode, I had my eldest daughter present her 4H speech as I felt it fit the scope of this blog. This year, she wrote a part 2. She won at her local club, and placed secon
SWM 123 – AQ – Enjoying anal sex, periods and vacation, aging and orgasms, fantasizing, and condoms for handjobs
January and February 2023 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page. Check out the show notes here for more details and links.In this episode, we are tackling the subjects:The monthly masturbation challengeHow do I make anal sex enjoyable for her?Periods and vacations and sexAging and orgasm strugglesHow do I know if I’m in right?Does fantasizing about my husband make it a shared experien
SWM 122 – How to make your spouse more attractive to you
SWM 122 - How to make your spouse more attractive to you. Check out the blog post here for more details and links.If you look online, you can find tons of videos, articles, podcasts, products and more about how to make yourself more attractive to your spouse or potential partners. I mean, it's everywhere. You can also find resources to help you make your spouse more attractive by changing them. Wh
SWM 121 – Why marriage should be hard work
SWM 121 - Why marriage should be hard work. Check out the blog post here for more details and links.I made a post on social media some time ago saying, “Marriage is hard, divorce is hard, choose your hard,” and someone asked me if I then disagreed with some other bloggers and podcasters who say that marriage is and should be easy. This post expands on what I wrote in response to that question.The
SWM 120 – How you may be making your birth control methods ineffective
SWM 120 - How you may be making your birth control methods ineffective. Check out the blog post here for more details and links.A few years ago, I was talking to a client during a coaching call, and we got off on a bit of a tangent about condom use. I explained a few ways that people tend to lower the protection of condoms when they use them. He was, well, shocked because he'd done many of them an
SWM 119 – Vibrators & dildos, roleplay, talking to your kids about sex, and more
November and December 2023 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page. Check out the show notes here for more details and links.In this episode, we are tackling the subjects:How do you use a vibrator?Is roleplaying marriage a sin?Will a dildo make me unsatisfied with my husband?Wife makes excuses about everythingWhen to start talking to your kids about sex?Wife caught me watching pornIs ma
SWM 118 – In sickness and in health
In sickness and in health. Check out the show notes here for more details and links.
The traditional wedding vows go something like "I take you to be my wife/husband, and I do promise and covenant, before God and these witnesses, to be your loving and faithful husband/wife in plenty and in want, in joy and in sorrow, in sickness and in health, as long as we both shall live."
Unfortunately, I don't
SWM 117 – Why do I want sex when I’m sick?
SWM 117 - Why do I want sex when I'm sick? Check out the blog post here for more details and links.Well, it’s winter here, which means cold and flu season. So, of course, the last couple of weeks, it’s been rolling through our family of 7. Christina and I were the last to get it, and it seemed I got it worse than her. She complained about being sick but still working out multiple times daily (p
SWM 116 – Why do I always have to tell my husband how to help?
SWM 116 - Why do I always have to tell my husband how to help? Check out the blog post here for more details and links.Lately, I've noticed a trend on social media where famous creator couples make videos of the wife telling the husband that visitors are coming over and they need to prepare. In response, the husband goes and starts cleaning out the attic and crawlspace, going through keepsakes, an
SWM 115 – Strapons, Exes and Foreskins
Strapons, Exes and Foreskins. Check out the show notes here for more details and links.
Well, it’s November, so it's time to get into the questions we received in October from our anonymous Have A Question page. As these are anonymous questions, all we get is what they submit. I post them in our supporters’ forum, we discuss them, and then I write up my responses on a blog post and release them as
SWM 114 – Understanding and Navigating Sexual Obligations in a Christian Marriage
SWM 114 - Understanding and Navigating Sexual Obligations in a Christian Marriage. Check out the blog post here for more details and links.I had a wife ask, Sex should be a gift given freely, and if I don’t have veto power, am I really giving freely? This is my response in light of 1 Corinthians 7:4-5 and the role model Jesus was for us dying on the cross.If you have a different opinion than I do,
SWM 113 – Orgasms and age, calling your spouse daddy, guilt from initiating
September 2023 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page. Check out the show notes here for more details and links.In this episode, we are tackling the subjects:A husband's changing orgasmsCan widowers masturbateHusband won't stop masturbation habitCalling husband "daddy"Feeling guilty about initiating sexHere are the links I mentioned during the podcast:Guide to edgingIs it sinful for wi
SWM 112 – Do men have it harder when it comes to sexual expectations?
SWM 112 - Do men have it harder when it comes to sexual expectations? Check out the blog post here for more details and links.This podcast episode is answering this question I received from our anonymous Have A Question page:Hi Jay, I've noticed a dichotomy when it comes to expectations for male and female sex drives and what's considered desirable sexual performance. As a man, I feel like there's
SWM 111 – Sex in heaven, oral sex positions, recovering from affairs, wanting to be a mom
Sex in heaven, oral sex positions, recovering from affairs, wanting to be a mom. Check out the show notes here for more details and links.
Welcome to another set of questions from our anonymous Have A Question page. These are 4 of the questions that came in during August. I pulled two of them out to tackle separately in longer posts and hope to get to them in the next few weeks.
So, let’s see what
SWM 110 – Noticing other women, forgotten anniversary, disconnecting during foreplay and more
July 2023 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page. Check out the show notes here for more details and links.In this episode, we are tackling the subjects:My wife feels disrespected because I notice other womenWife is hurt but not healing after yearsWife disconnects during foreplayWhat can we do during fertile daysOral sex questionsHusband doesn't know our anniversary dateShould I be wor
SWM 109 – Crossdressing, reframing duty sex, wife gets sex when she wants, but he doesn’t
June 2023 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page. Check out the show notes here for more details and links.In this episode, we are tackling the subjects:CrossdressingReframing "duty" sexWife gets sex when she wants, but he doesn'tAfraid to have more childrenHere are the links I mentioned during the podcast:Is it wrong for Christians to Crossdress?Book a coaching callSWM 093 - Question
SWM 108 – What does the Bible say about hell?
SWM 108 - What does the Bible say about hell? Check out the show notes here for more details and links.This podcast episode is a Bible study about the topic of hell.One of the most confusing subjects in Christianity is the topic of hell. I think it's so confusing because most base their beliefs on a handful of passages and then a heavy dose of pop culture.And the popular view is that hell is a pla
SWM 107 – Wife wants too much sex, repeat unproductive fights, boundaries during dating and sexy underwear for men
May 2023 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page. Check out the show notes here for more details and links.In this episode, we are tackling the subjects:Wife wants too much sexCouple needs counsellingKeep having the same unproductive fightMake boundaries before you start datingSexy underwear for menHere are the links I mentioned during the podcast:Book a coaching callLately our Art of E
SWM 106 – Nude pictures, sex toys, asexual wife, wife not in love with me, wish my wife had a bigger butt
April 2023 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page. Check out the show notes here for more details and links.In this episode, we are tackling the subjects:Is it okay to take nude pictures and videos of each other?Limon by Minna discountAsexual wife?Wife loves me, but isn’t in love with meWife isn’t interested in improving our sex lifeWish I married a bigger buttSecretly feed her ejacula
SWM 105 – Threesome temptation, aversion to manual and oral, penis size, falling asleep during sex
March 2023 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page. Check out the show notes here for more details and links.In this episode, we are tackling the subjects:Threesome tempationsAversion to receiving manual and oral sexPenis sizeFalling asleep during sexy timeHere are the links I mentioned during the podcast:Melt - Couples Massage Course (course)Intimacy Ignited (book)Spice Jar game (print
SWM 104 – Do women control men, beauty vs lusting, playlist for sex, and are men polygamous by nature?
Do women control men, beauty vs lusting, playlist for sex, and are men polygamous by nature?. Check out the show notes here for more details and links.
Today we're tackling another group of questions from our anonymous Have A Question page.
We have another Couple's Night on June 8th. It's usually the first Thursday of the month, but we had a conflict this month. You get free access if you are a $5
SWM 103 – Phone sex, oral sex to completion, are pictures okay, increasing female libido, toxic wife and more
January 2023 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page. Check out the show notes here for more details and links.In this episode, we are tackling the subjects:Phone sexOral sex to completionForgiveness and trust after betrayalAre pictures and videos a problem?Increasing female libido naturallyWhat is our duty?Toxic wifeAbusive employerHere are the links I mentioned during the podcast:Our
SWM 102 – Wife conflicted, orgasming during sex, BDSM, wife doesn’t like clitoral stimulation and holding your spouse accountable
December 2022 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page. Check out the show notes here for more details and links.In this episode, we are tackling the subjects:Does my wife know what I'm doing to her?I want to share orgasms with my husbandWhat are your thoughts on BDSM?Is bondage a problem for me?Wife doesn't like direct clitoral stimulationHow do I hold my wife accountable?Here are the l
SWM 101 – Why does my spouse always push for more during sex?
SWM 101 - Why does my spouse always push for more during sex? Check out the show notes here for more details and links.Today I'm answer this question I received in my inbox: Jay, I enjoyed the book (Introduction to Talking Dirty) that my hubby put on my iPad. The thing is, no matter what I do in my comfort zone, it isn't enough. I do many, I mean many, of the examples you use, even the F WORD. How
SWM 100 – My daughter’s speech – The crisis of my generation – transgenderism
My daughter's speech - The crisis of my generation - transgenderism. Check out the show notes here for more details and links.
This is episode 100, and I wanted to do something a little different for our one-hundredth episode, and I was struggling to figure out what that should be. Then an opportunity presented itself. You see, my children are in 4H, and if you don’t know what 4H is, many people d
SWM 099 – Spouse fell asleep, revealing clothes, public sex, dreams and encouraging your spouse to be healthier
November 2022 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page. Check out the show notes here for more details and links.In this episode, we are tackling the subjects:Spouse falls asleep during romantic getawayHusband wants her to wear revealing clothesPublic sexAre we responsible for our dreams?How to encourage your spouse to be healthierHere are the links I mentioned during the podcast:Becomin
SWM 098 – Energy, mutual masturbation, orgasm struggles, desire type quiz and meeting other couples
October 2022 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page. Check out the show notes here for more details and links.In this episode, we are tackling the subjects:Where does the energy come from?Mutual masturbationSharing fantasies and machinesMasturbation due to struggles with orgasmingSpontaneous / Responsive desire quizWhy do married men masturbate?How do you meet other people?Can I use se
SWM 097 – Location, bruises, God’s role vs my role, how to stop faking orgasms, where do I get my “garbage theology”
September 2022 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page. Check out the show notes here for more details and links.In this episode, we are tackling the subjects:Where are you?How to hide bruisesWhat role do I have in God changing my heart?Mother of 3 young kids isn't as interested in sex as husbandHow to recover from faking orgasms?Husband wants to be pursuedWhere do you get your garbage
SWM 096 – Why men being submissive is problematic
Why men being submissive is problematic. Check out the show notes here for more details and links.A reader posed the following question:Hi. I wanted to know if there is any reason that the man can't be the submissive part sometimes during sex. Because I feel like I want to be submissive from time to time, but I don't want to ask my wife because it's an awkward topic.Here are the links I mentioned
SWM 095 – Faking orgasms, diapers, wet and messy/humiliation fetishes, does oral sex equal love, pre-orgasmic wife and more
August 2022 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page. Check out the show notes here for more details and links.In this episode, we are tackling the subjects:Coming clean about faking orgasmsWanting wife to wear a diaperWet and messy / humiliation fetishIs oral sex a measure of love?Married and lonelyChastity playSex outdoorsPre-orgasmic wifeLast chance to jump in on our Intimacy Advent C
SWM 094 – Who is more righteous?
Who is more righteous? Check out the show notes here for more details and links.A reader posed the following question:There are two people. The first person participates in the modern Sexual Marketplace by dating around, having a series of mid-to-long-term relationships that involve sex, and having a few hookups, but ends up in a stable marriage and has children by his mid-to-late twenties. The se
SWM 093 – Crossdressing, counseling not working, should I share fantasies, facial hair, Viagra for women and many more
May and June 2022 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page. Check out the show notes here for more details and links.In this episode, we are tackling the subjects:CrossdressingCounseling not fixing her sex driveShould I keep fantasies to myself?Husband addicted to pornWife has no sex driveFaceTime sexSpouse's facial and body hairDoes Viagra work for women?How do I stop her from seeing me
SWM 092 – How do you know if you’ve had an orgasm
How do you know if you've had an orgasm? Check out the show notes here for more details and links.If the number of women who reach orgasm from penetrative sex is as low as the surveys that you mention say it is, how would a couple know if the woman is one of those that doesn't orgasm with penetration? For context, I have been married to my wife for 13 years and we have 5 children...I would say our
SWM 091 – Explaining romance and foreplay, should both spouses enjoy sex, is my wife faking, nipple orgasms and more
April 2022 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page. Check out the show notes here for more details and links.In this episode, we are tackling the subjects:Is it okay to masturbate as a widow?Explaining romance and foreplayIs it unreasonable to expect both spouses to enjoy sex?Is my wife really having an orgasm?Is it wrong to want to be more adventurous?Wife got upset when asked for more
SWM 090 – Vaginismus, defensiveness about porn, sexual temptation in a low-frequency marriage, and pregnancy
March 2022 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page. Check out the show notes here for more details and links.In this episode, we are tackling the subjects:Husband who gets defensive about possible porn useDid I change my mind about anal sex?How to I tell my wife that more sex helps with temptation?Is mutual masturbation okay if you're separated due to work?Haven't been able to have sex
SWM 089 – When she is more mom than wife, duty sex, oxytocin and bonding, and vasectomies
February 2022 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page. Check out the show notes here for more details and links.In this episode, we are tackling the subjects:Fix the alcohol abuse before trying to fix your sex lifeWife who has hourly mood swings and is disrespectfulWife who engages in sex, but isn't sexualOxytocin and porn and masturbationWife wants husband to get a vasectomyClone-a-wil
SWM 088 – My Vasectomy Experience
My Vasectomy Experience. Check out the show notes here for more details and links.Last month someone emailed me telling me just how amazing they were doing after going through our Sexploration List. I posted some of their testimonial on social media (with permission). You may have seen it.During their email, they also asked some questions, which I wanted to pick up here. Here’s the continuation
SWM 087 – Low testosterone and Cialis, a wife who will not say what she likes, and what counts as sex
January 2022 Questions from our anonymous Have A Question page. Check out the show notes here for more details and links.In this episode, we are tackling the subjects:Low Drive / Low T HusbandWife won't talk about sexNot attracted to my husbandWife against spicing up sexIs there a difference between having sex and making love?Last month, our most popular resource was Our Sexploration List - a gre
SWM 086 – Sex with a well endowed husband
Sex with a well endowed husband. Check out the show notes here for more details and links.
Today we’re going to answer a question about having sex with a well-endowed husband. This question came in a while ago, and since I hadn’t answered it before and I felt there was a lot of information to share, I thought I’d split it off into its own post. So, let’s talk about the struggles of having a larger
Recommended
SLOW ENGLISH PODCAST (A1-A2) With Subtitles | Daily Videos | English With Us Podcast
Breaking News from Pod Save America
The Young and Called Podcast .
Jubal Phone Pranks from The Jubal Show
TopMusic Piano Podcast
CBS Evening News
The Daily
World News Tonight with David Muir
The Joe Rogan Experience
TED Talks Daily
English Vocabulary Help
Talk About Talk - Executive & Leadership Communication Skills
