Inner Bonding
The Inner Bonding Podcast with Dr. Margaret Paul guides listeners through the transformative mind–body–spirit practice of Inner Bonding®, a powerful self-healing process designed to help you build a loving relationship with yourself, take responsibility for your emotional and physical well-being, and connect with your higher guidance. Through practical teaching, real-life application, and compassionate insight, Dr. Margaret explores how Inner Bonding can help heal anxiety, depression, anger, shame, addictions, and recurring relationship patterns. This podcast is an invitation to move beyond self-judgment and disconnection—and into greater clarity, emotional freedom, and inner peace. By learning to access your inner source of love, truth, and wisdom, you’ll discover how true healing begins from within—and how self-love becomes the foundation for lasting change.
Episodes
Managing Painful Feelings.4.18.20
COVID-19 is causing much loneliness, heartbreak, helplessness, fear, and grief. Most people have never learned how to lovingly manage these very painful feelings and release them from your body. Learn how in this episode.
Serenity: Controlling What You Can and Accepting the Rest 5.3.20
We are facing a time of much helplessness, but there are things we can control. Learning to focus on what we can control rather than on what we can’t can help to bring greater inner peace.
Creating Your Inner Family.
Now is a great time to learn how to connect with yourself and your higher guidance. It’s a great time to create your inner family of your soul, your loving adult and your higher guidance, and learn to share love rather than trying to have control over getting love.
Supporting Your Immune System
The best protection against COVID-19 is a strong immune system. If your immune system is functioning well, then even if you do get the virus, it will likely be a mild case or you won’t even have symptoms. What better time than now to learn about how to create a strong immune system?
5. Holding This Vision For The Future
COVID-19 gives up an opportunity to vision a much better future than what we have come to expect as normal. I hope you join me in visualizing and creating a wonderful future.
Why Learning to Love Yourself Can Heal Your Relationships
Discover the key to finding, creating and sustaining a loving relationship.
Why Racism and How to Heal it
Most people are appalled and heartbroken by the horrifying killing of George Floyd and many other black people by police and by others. Dr. Margaret talks about how and why this happens and how we can heal racism.
Learning to Love Yourself Heals Addictions
Addictions to substances and processes are one of the main ways we’ve learned to avoid feeling our painful feelings, but addictions are a major way of abandoning oneself, which leads to inner emptiness and to more addictive behavior. Discover how learning to love yourself fills the emptiness and heals addictions.
What it Means to be Spiritual
Do you confuse spirituality with religion? We can be both religious and spiritual, or religious without being spiritual, or spiritual without being religious. Different people have differing beliefs regarding what it means to be spiritual. In this podcast, I share with you what being spiritual means to me.
Fear of Intimacy
Many people have a fear of intimacy that stems from two underlying fears: fear rejection and a fear of engulfment – a fear of losing the other and a fear of losing themselves. In this podcast, I talk about why we have these fears and how to heal them so you can create a loving relationship.
Projection: What It Is And How To Deal With It
Are you projecting on to others aspects of yourself that you deny, and are others doing this to you? In this podcast, learn what projection is, how you might be getting caught up in it, and what to do about it.
Conflict: The Two Healthy Choices
All relationships have conflict, so you can either avoid it or learn from it. Do you believe there should be no conflict – just easy and smooth sailing? This will never lead to intimacy. Discover the two healthy choices that lead to connection, resolution, and intimacy.
The One Major Cause of Relationship Problems
What if there really is ONE major cause of relationship problems, one issue that if you address, would change everything? The good news and the bad news is - there is! The good news is that it makes it easier to understand why you might be having problems in your relationship. The challenging news is that to resolve the issue takes a deep personal commitment to heal.
Relationships: Are You Emotionally Dependent?
Are you suffering from emotional dependency? Discover what it is, how it affects your relationships, and how you can heal and attain emotional freedom and loving relationships.
No Sex or passion in Your Relationship? Discover Why!
Discover the underlying causes of a lack of sex or a lack of passion in your relationship – and it’s not about longevity!
Relationships: Keeping Love Alive
Being in love is a wonderful experience, yet all too soon these in-love feelings fade away. Discover the ONE thing that diminishes love and how to keep it alive, no matter how long you’ve been together.
Relationships: Mending Broken Trust
When trust is broken, it need not be the end of a relationship. Much can be learned from staying in a relationship and learning from the challenging situation. Learn how you can mend the broken trust in your relationship.
Defining Your Own Self-Worth
Do you feel a deep inner sense of self-worth, or are you anxiously dependent on others approval and validation for your sense of worth? You CAN heal the anxiety that comes from defining your self-worth externally. It is not as hard as you may think to define your own worth, but most people go about it the wrong way.
Why Some People Experience Empathy and Others Don’t
With all the challenges we have today, being able to experience empathy for ourselves and others is vital. When you are capable of empathy, you can't hurt others, animals or our planet. Discover why some people are empathic and others are not.
What Causes Jealousy And How To Heal It
Are you jealous and fearful that your partner, or others, will find someone he or she finds more attractive, more lovable, more worthy than you? Jealousy is a big problem for many people and I often receive questions regarding this topic. Discover what you are doing that is causing you to feel jealous and how to heal this very challenging issue. You can heal jealousy!
Why You Judge Yourself and How to Stop
Are you aware of your self-judgments? Are you aware of how often you judge yourself as bad, wrong, or inadequate? Are you aware of how you feel as a result of your self-judgments? Do know why do you judge yourself? Self-judgment is a major form of self-abandonment that may be keeping you stuck, anxious and depressed.
Learning From and Managing Your Anger
Are you ignoring your anger or dumping it on others? Do you find yourself getting angry and irritated, no matter how often you try to stay calm and accepting? Discover an underlying source of anger that, when addressed, will move you beyond reactivity.
Healing Your Inner Aloneness and Emptiness
Do you sometimes feel alone and empty inside? Do you believe that others should be filling you up? Do you turn to various addictions to try to fill up externally? Discover the real cause of inner aloneness and emptiness and what you can do to feel full and alive inside.
How to Heal Your Shame
Have you tried unsuccessfully to heal your shame? Have you done a lot of work on yourself and you still often feel that you are not good enough? No matter how badly you currently feel about yourself, you can heal your shame and feel excited about your life. Discover the secret to healing shame.
Resistance to Loving Yourself
Are you resistant to being a loving adult and taking responsibility for your feelings and for supporting your highest good? Is it more important to you to resist being controlled by others, or by your higher guidance, or by your own ego wounded self, than it is to learn how to be loving to yourself and to others? Discover the way out of resistance.
Sharing Your Feelings: Loving or Controlling?
When you share your feelings with a person you are upset with, do they get defensive? Do you sometimes feel trapped when someone is blaming you for his or her feelings? Do you struggle with knowing when to communicate with your partner about a problem and when to disengage? Discover when it is helpful to share your feelings, and when it’s controlling.
Addiction to Over-Talking
Over-talking is often a way to try to connect with others when you feel alone and disconnected from yourself, but it’s likely pushing people away. Are you aware of needing to talk too much, or have you been with people who go on and on? Do you know what to do when you are with an over-talker? Discover how to heal your over-talking and how take loving care of yourself around over-talkers.
What it Means to Love Yourself
Are you being selfish when you do what brings you joy, even if others don't like it? Do you feel trapped, believing you can't really take loving care of yourself without being unloving to others? You might know that you need to be loving to yourself, but do you know what loving yourself actually means?
Creating Loving Relationships
Loving relationships don't just happen. I've heard many of my clients state that, "If I have to work at it, then it's not the right relationship." This is not true, any more than it's true that you don't have to work at good physical health through exercise, eating well and stress reduction. There are some powerful choices you can make that will not only improve your relationship, but can turn a f
What Your Anxiety is Telling You
Anxiety holds within it much important information. Discover some major causes of anxiety, as well as how you may be creating your own anxiety, and what you can do to heal.
Ending Relationships Gracefully
The problem of ending relationships gracefully arises because many people see it as a reflection of their worth when someone doesn't want to be with them. In this podcast, I address both what you might need to do to heal a disconnected relationship, and when it might be time to leave. Most unhappy couples think they know what the problem is, but rarely do they understand what the REAL problem is.
What Depression is Telling You
Dealing with depression often requires a multi-dimensional approach. Depression is not caused by a lack of drugs, nor do drugs heal the underlying causes. Discover the underlying causes of depression, as well as of the 'dark night of the soul', and what to do about them.
What Guilt is Telling You
Are you plagued with guilt? Do you feel guilty and responsible when others are hurting? Do you try to fix their pain rather than take care of yourself? Sometimes guilt is appropriate and often it isn't. Discover what causes guilt, the big difference between healthy and unhealthy, toxic guilt, and how to heal toxic guilt.
What Does Having Sex Mean to You?
Sex means different things to different people, and what it means to you might be very different than what it means to your partner. This might be having a negative impact on your relationship, or on creating a loving relationship.
What Fear is Telling You
Fear is an important feeling. It can have much information for us or it can lead us down a negative spiral that feeds upon itself. Discover the two different kinds of fear and what each kind is telling you, and how to heal much of your fear.
How to Heal Procrastination
Are you a procrastinator? Do you find yourself procrastinating when you have hard or boring stuff to do, or even with things you want to do? Do you tell yourself that you will do the things you need to do, and then find yourself not doing them? Do you then judge yourself for procrastinating? Do you believe if you read enough self-help books and take enough seminars you will find the answer? Are yo
Why You Are Attracted to Unavailable People
Do you keep attracting unavailable people or are you stuck in a relationship with an emotionally or sexually unavailable person? Are you addicted to trying to get love from unavailable, unloving people? Discover the cause of this and how to attract an available partner.
How to Know if You’re With the Right Partner
How can you know if this is the right person with whom to spend your life? How long into a relationship does it take to discover if this person is right or not right for you? Learn about both red flags and promising signs, and why soul-mate relationships are not always the easiest relationships.
Healing Trauma
Will you always be struggling with the effects of an abusive childhood or other childhood or adult trauma or PTSD? You CAN heal from childhood abuse and other trauma. With Inner Bonding, other supportive trauma techniques, and the loving support of others, even PTSD can be healed.
How to Stop Being Controlling
Are you aware of how you might be trying to control others' feelings or behavior? What limiting beliefs about controlling others are controlling your life? How are you limiting yourself to limit your partner? Are you aware of the feelings you cause yourself when you attempt to control others rather than love yourself? It is often tempting to tell others what to do, especially when it is obvious th
The Importance of Being True to Your Word - With Yourself and Others
Are you often angry and frustrated when people let you down by not doing what they say they are going to do? But, are you reliable and trustworthy with yourself and others? Not trusting others is often a reflection of being untrustworthy and unreliable with yourself. Most of us like to think we are honest people, people with integrity who speak the truth and are true to our word, but how often do
Healing Social Phobia
Do you suffer from social phobia or social anxiety? Do you suffer from anxiety and even panic attacks regarding social situations? Have you tried many things that have not worked? You don't need to stay isolated or go your whole life suffering from this debilitating anxiety. There is a way to heal!
Relationship Gremlins: Takers and Caretakers
Do you believe that you or others are being selfish if they take loving care of themselves instead of taking care of you? Are you sometimes giving and caring to another and then wonder why your caring isn't appreciated? Are you a taker or a caretaker? Discover how the caretaker-taker relationship system is often the underlying cause of relationship problems, and what you can do to heal both yourse
The Fear of Getting Hurt
Are you afraid to open your heart to love, for fear of getting hurt? Are you putting off opening to another relationship for fear of getting hurt again? Do you isolate yourself out of a fear of rejection? Loving holds within it the greatest joy and the greatest pain in life. Without love, life is empty, yet do you find yourself being afraid of intimacy? Do you sometimes feel stuck with hurt and yo
Unmasking the Ego Wounded Self
Do you believe that your programmed ego wounded self is who you are? This is what your wounded self wants you to believe, but nothing could be further from the truth. Learn about who you are when you are operating from your wounded self, and how tricky the wounded self is. Much healing comes from unmasking the wounded self.
The Poison of Resentment
Are you stuck in blame and resentment toward someone? Resentment and blame are poisons to the soul - far more harmful to you than to anyone else, Are you confused between the difference between condoning and forgiving? Have you tried to forgive others, only to discover that you are still angry and resentful toward them? Discover how heal anger, blame and resentment.
Everything is About Frequency
Have you been frustrated in not being able to easily access your Guidance? Your ability to connect with your higher guidance is about your vibrational frequency. A high frequency is necessary to feel joy and to manifest your dreams. Discover what raises or lowers your frequency and what you need to do to keep it high.
How to Feel Both Open and Safe
We all want to feel safe, but which do you believe keeps you safer - your wounded self or your spiritual guidance? While you might believe that keeping your heart closed is the only way to feel safe from being hurt by others, there is a far better way of feeling safe. Discover what actually creates both a true inner sense of safety, and a deep level of safety and connection with others.
The Challenge of High Sensitivity
Do you believe there is something wrong with you because you have been told that you are "too sensitive?" Do you often feel out of place and like an alien in some groups? Do you feel guilty and responsible when others are hurting? If you are a highly sensitive person, or if you are partnered with a highly sensitive person, it's vitally important to understand this essence gift, and this podcast ma
Whose Voice is in Your Head?
Are you aware of the voice of your ego wounded self that may be judging you non-stop in the background of your mind? Are you aware of who were the role models for this voice? Learn to shift out of being guided by your wounded voice and into the loving and truthful the voice of your guidance. Learn about the backlash of your wounded self when you are doing well, and how to take that toxic voice wit
How to Open Your Heart to Love
Do you believe that others or circumstances are responsible for whether you keep your heart open? Loving is about learning to keep your heart open. Do you cultivate your open heart enough to have love to share with others? Discover the secrets to keeping your heart open, and to discerning whether another person has an open or closed heart.
Allowing and Trusting Your Feelings
Are you conscious of your own feelings? Do you find it challenging to be present in your body with your feelings? Do you judge yourself for your feelings instead of trusting them and taking loving action for yourself based on them? Is it hard for you to feel deep joy? Discover that keeping a lid on your pain also prevents you from experiencing your joy.
Owning Your Essential Goodness
Walk with me through this podcast so that you can begin to see, value and love the goodness that you are. Embracing your essential goodness can move you out of fear and into joy and the sharing of love. When you learn to own your goodness, you can then experience the goodness and comfort of spirit that is always here for all of us.
When to Leave a Relationship
Are you struggling with whether or not to stay in a relationship? If you are in a challenging relationship, do you believe it’s easier to start over with someone new? Discover the surprising statistics about second and third marriages, and why they have such a poor success rate. Before leaving your relationship, you might want to heal your end of your relationship system and see what happens.
The Power of Accepting Helplessness Over Others and Outcomes
Are you attaching your happiness and self-worth to others and outcomes, and then try to control what you can’t control? What do you do when you feel helpless over another's choices? We create relationship problems when we don’t accept our helplessness over other's feelings and actions, and we create anxiety, depression or shame when we don’t accept our helplessness over events and situations.
To Feel or Not to Feel: The Challenge of Being Present
How often are you able to stay mindfully present in your body with your feelings, and take responsibility for them? Most of us are not taught how to take emotional responsibility. For most people, it takes practice to be willing to be fully present in your body, feeling your painful feelings, and even more practice to learn how to take loving care of your emotions.
Inner Bonding Podcast: How to Stop Worrying and Ruminating
Worriers unconsciously operate under the false belief that worry will stop bad things from happening - that they can control the outcome with worry. Are you ready to move beyond obsessive ruminating and worrying? Are you ready to move beyond the fear, anxiety and depression that results from worrying and ruminating? Life is much more peaceful when you let of the illusion of control that you think
Inner Bonding Podcast: Healing From Childhood Abuse
People often ask me if they will always be struggling with the effects of an abusive childhood. You CAN heal from childhood abuse. While it is very important to be working with a knowledgeable therapist or facilitator when experiencing abuse memories, there are many things you can also learn to do to help yourself. Inner Bonding is a powerful process that enables you to remember repressed memorie
Inner Bonding Podcast: Healer Help, Healer Harm
I’ve worked with many people who have been harmed rather than helped by healers, therapists, facilitators, coaches, doctors, or other helping practitioners. Discover what to look for in a practitioner so that you make sure you are helped rather than harmed, and so that you don’t needlessly spend money in ways that don’t support your physical, emotional, and spiritual health and healing.
Inner Bonding Podcast: How Expectations Can Ruin Relationships
How often to you feel disappointed and rejected when someone close to you doesn’t meet your expectations? How often are you stressed and frazzled in trying to meet others' expectations? Discover what your expectations are, how you try to get others to meet them, what the result is regarding ruining relationships, and what else to do instead.
Dating: Red Flags, Promising Signs, and Helpful Tips: The Inner Bonding Podcast
How long into a relationship does it take you to discover that this person is not right for you? Have your past relationships left you relationship-phobic due to fears of losing yourself or getting rejected? Have you had sex with someone you thought was partner material, only to have the relationship disappear right after having sex? Dating provides many opportunities to learn and grow.
Relationships: Becoming Aware of When You are Controlling - The Inner Bonding Podcast
Do you wonder why you often have the same conflicts over and over? The wounded self is quite sneaky when it comes to controlling behavior, so it’s important to discover what you do that perpetuates conflict. Our wounded self comes up with endless ways of trying to avoid and control, so we all have many ways of trying to control that you might not be aware of. Discovering and healing these levels o
Why You Might Be the Scapegoat in Your Family
Scapegoating goes on in many families. Were you the scapegoat in your family when you were growing up? Are you still being scapegoated as an adult in your family of origin, by your in-laws, or at work? Discover why you might be scapegoated and what to do about this.
An Inspiring Example of Self-Love
Life changes completely when you learn how to love yourself rather than continue to abandon yourself. Today I want to share an example of a young woman who dramatically changed her life in learning to love herself physically, emotionally, financially, spiritually, organizationally and relationally.
How to Stop Being a Needy Energy Vampire: The Inner Bonding Podcast
Do you suck the life out of others, trying to get the love you need, or do you allow others to suck the life out of you? Do you often feel empty inside? Do you believe that others should be filling you up with their love and attention? Discover the real cause of inner emptiness and what to do about it, and how to distinguish between legitimate needs and neediness.
What Actually Makes You Feel Safe
Are you still doing the things you learned as a child to try to feel safe? Our wounded self is a survival mechanism, designed to keep us safe, but the ways that our wounded self goes about trying to create safety generally have the opposite result. Instead of keeping us safe, it creates fear and anxiety. Which do you believe keeps you safer - your wounded self or your spiritual guidance?
Throwing a Lifeline to Your Loved One
When a loved one gets stuck in the state of feeling like a victim, and may be angry or raging, you might be able to be a lifeline for them. It can bring you great joy to learn to be a channel of love for them when they are in the rabbit hole of the darkness, fear and despair of their wounded self.
The Art of Manifestation
Have you been trying hard to think positively and visualize what you want, yet manifestation is eluding you and you’re staying stuck in your life? Are you getting frustrated that nothing you try is working to manifest what you want? Discover what might be in the way and learn about the deeper level that is essential for manifesting your dreams.man
Connection: Our Deepest Desire
Are you longing for connection? Do you want to experience intimacy and connection with others, and the joy and aliveness that this offers? We all deeply desire connection with others, but what is necessary for us to have this? Discover what you need to do to create loving connection with another.
Self-Abandonment and Addiction to Connection
Do you sometimes keep trying to connect with someone who is unavailable? Do you believe that you need to be connected with others in order to feel validated and connected with yourself? Do you have a connection addiction? Connection with others is vital for all of us, but when we disconnect from ourselves to avoid pain, we lose the possibility of connecting with others.
Sustaining Love: The Inner Bonding Podcast
Have you lost the wonderful feelings of love and intimacy you had at the beginning of your relationship? It's never too late to reclaim them, but first you need to understand why they are gone. Emotional intimacy is essential for sustaining love in a committed relationship, but do you have trouble giving and receiving love? Discover what fears might be in the way of this for you.
Coming into Your Right Mind - The Inner Bonding Podcast
It’s more important than ever to learn how to access our right mind – our right brain spiritually connected loving adult. But once we get triggered into our lower left-brain fear-based programmed wounded self, it can be a challenge to get back in our right mind. It’s vitally important to know the pathway back because personal and planetary healing can happen only when we operate from our right min
How Honest Are You in Your Relationships?
Most of us like to think we are honest people, yet how often do you deny or withhold your truth to get approval or avoid conflict? Wouldn’t you rather know the truth, even if it's very painful, rather than be lied to? Isn't it even more painful to be lied to? Part of authentic love is being willing to tell the truth and receive the truth.
Fears and False Beliefs About Loving Yourself: The Inner Bonding Podcast
Do you believe that if you learn to love yourself and you become happy and whole, will you end up alone? Will a partner want you if you are not needy? Were you brought up to believe that taking care of yourself is selfish, and that to be a good person you need to be self-sacrificing? Discover what might be stopping you from learning to love yourself and take loving actions on your own behalf.
How to Stop Blaming: The Inner Bonding Podcast
Do you sometimes find yourself angry and blaming in your relationships and you have no idea why you are behaving this way? Find out what is behind the need to blame. Discover the physical and emotional issues that your anger, blame and judgment are causing you, and what you can do to heal an addiction to blame.
It Takes Courage to Love: The Inner Bonding Podcast
Do you have the courage to love both yourself and others, or is the pseudo-safety of control more important to you? Discover why it takes great courage to learn to love, and why it's so important to make love your highest priority. Loving holds within it the greatest joy and the greatest pain in life, but without it, life is empty. If you feel some inner emptiness, it’s likely because you are allo
Why Do You Want to Communicate?
Is a lack of communication one of the complaints you have in your relationship? Does the communication between you and your partner often get confusing? Many couples claim that their problems stem from a lack of communication, and that they can’t resolve their problems. Discover the good reasons for this, what to do about it, and which forms of communication cause problems and which work to resolv
How You Might Be Ruining Your Relationships
Most of us want loving relationships, but many people are doing the opposite of what they need to do to create loving relationships. Discover what you might be doing that’s ruining your relationships and what else you can do.
How to be a Loving Adult
Discover why you can’t heal without a spiritually connected loving adult, and what to do when you get triggered into your ego wounded self. Becoming a trustworthy loving adult is essential for healing yourself and your relationships, and you become trustworthy as you learn to love yourself and share your love with others.
The Courage to Listen to Your Higher Guidance
Who do you trust the most - other people, your wounded self, or your Guidance? Do you believe that your Guidance is controlling - that if you open to your Guidance, you will be told to do things you don't want to do? Or are you afraid to open to your Guidance for fear that is nothing there? Learn how to shift out of being guided by your wounded self and into trusting your guidance.
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