Rich Queer Aunties
Two queer African lesbian aunties, Christabel and Kachi, host honest conversations at the intersection of culture, queerness, relational healing, and diaspora life. They unpack topics like colonial collectivist conditioning, people-pleasing, religious trauma, and queer love, aiming to practice liberation through real talk. The podcast is a space for those who feel split between obedient and rebellious selves, good daughters and free adults, offering cultural analysis and relational skills for becoming whole.
Episodes
37: None of our friendships are well under capitalism — Part 2
We're back for Part 2 — and this time, we're getting into the practice. What does reciprocity in friendship actually look like when you're not just talking about it, but living it?
Lola tells the story of sensing "a disturbance in the force" and reaching out to Christabel — a micro-rupture that could've gone sideways five years ago but instead became a masterclass in showing up for your people. Ka
36: None of our friendships are well under capitalism — Part 1
Is friendship something that just happens to you, or is it a practice you have to actually learn? This week on Rich Queer Aunties, we sit down with Lola to talk about what it takes to build friendships sturdy enough to survive late-stage capitalism, migration, queerness, and becoming your full self.
We get into it: growing up in high-control religious households and how that shaped our relationshi
35: If Not Us, Who? Stop outsourcing indigeneity to your parents.
In this episode of Rich Queer Aunties, Christabel and Kachi go down the rabbit hole: how far back does Western influence actually go in Igbo land, and what does that mean for the way we talk about “African culture” today?
Christabel went down a research rabbit hole after someone on Instagram told her that Africans must have been beating their children long before colonialism, otherwise why is it s
34: Aftercare, Repair, and Coming Back to Love (Part 2)
We tried to record this episode three times. Between technological difficulties and actual conflict while making a podcast about repair, the irony was not lost on us. We're here now. And we have a lot to say.
This is Part 2 of our conversation on rupture and repair in intimate relationships, the ones you grew up in, the ones you chose, and the ones you're still trying to figure out how to stay in
33: Money Loves Circles: Why You Should Do Business with Your Friends
Episode: Money Loves Circles - Working with Friends ft. Lola
In this groundbreaking first guest episode, Christabel sits down with Oakland-based stylist Lola to challenge one of capitalism's biggest lies: "Don't mix business with friendship."
In This Episode:
Why wealthy people always do business with family and friends
The capitalistic conditioning that keeps marginalized communities poor
How to
32: Navigating conflict as African Lesbians. How childhood trauma shapes our present relationships.
In this deeply vulnerable Part 1 episode, Christabel and Kachi peel back the layers of their origin stories to understand how they learned to navigate conflict, safety, and love.
Coming from two distinct backgrounds, both shaped by the violence of the Biafran genocide survivors and the silence of a strict religious household, we explore the survival strategies that saved us as children but challen
31: Queer, African & Engaged: Grieving family while choosing ourselves
Christabel and Kachi are back. Two queer Igbo aunties, newly engaged, talking honestly about what it means to choose a lesbian life in the shadow of homophobic parents, church aunties, and colonial expectations.
In this episode they unpack what engagement and turning forty have stirred up. Christabel shares what it is to propose after two divorces and a Jehovah’s Witness childhood. Kachi talks abo
30: It’s Not a Mother Wound. It’s Patriarchy.
We keep saying we have mother wounds, but what if the real injury is deeper than our mothers? In this episode, we ask the question no one wants to touch: Who are our mothers, really? Not the role they performed. Not the fears they passed down. But the person underneath all that patriarchal survival.
Christabel and Kachi crack open a deeply personal conversation about rage, abandonment, girlhood, q
29: Love & Rage - What Did You Inherit and What Are You Choosing
Love & Rage — What Did You Inherit and What Are You Choosing?
This is our first video upload. Let us know what you think! Should we do more videos?
How do we honor our rage without becoming who harmed us? In this episode of Rich Queer Aunties, we talk about love and rage, what we inherited, what we’re choosing instead, and how we’re learning to hold both without abandoning ourselves.
We sp
28: Severed Selves, Righteous Rage & the Courage to Reintegrate
In this raw and reflective episode of Rich Queer Aunties, Christabel and Kachi use the hit show Severance as a powerful metaphor for the emotional fragmentation many of us endure, especially queer, Black, immigrant, and formerly religious folks.
Through deeply personal storytelling, they explore themes of reintegration, rage, community, grief, and the courage it takes to reclaim your full self in
27: Building Relational Skills to Defy Empire
In this episode of Rich Queer Aunties, we dive deep into why relational skills are essential for our collective liberation. We explore the tensions between individualism, collectivism, and interdependence, unpacking how capitalism, white supremacy, and patriarchy have shaped the way we relate to one another.
Christabel and Kachi reflect on their personal journeys with repair, conflict resolution,
26: If Your Spirituality Is Isolating You, It’s Not Working: A Critique of How We Practice Indigenous Spirituality
Spirituality should bring us closer to ourselves, to each other, and to the land. But too often, we see people leaving oppressive religious structures only to recreate the same hierarchies, dogma, and isolation in their spiritual journeys.
In this episode, we ask: Are we truly decolonizing our spirituality, or are we just replicating the same patterns with different language?
We explore:
✨ How ind
25: Healing Beyond the Master’s Tools: Therapy, Queerness, and Rediscovering Indigenous Wisdom
Healing Beyond the Master’s Tools: Therapy, Queerness, and Rediscovering Indigenous Wisdom
In this deeply reflective episode, Christabel and Kachi dive into the layered complexities of healing as queer African immigrant women navigating Western therapeutic tools, cultural inheritance, and the longing for ancestral wisdom.
They explore questions like:
• Are the tools we’re using to heal truly lib
24: 2024 Reflections: What we’re leaving behind & what we’re carrying forward
In this heartfelt end-of-year episode, Christabel and Kachi sit down to reflect on 2024, its challenges, triumphs, and transformative lessons. From navigating healing journeys and embracing authenticity to setting bold intentions for the year ahead, this conversation dives deep into vulnerability, creativity, and the power of showing up fully in our lives.
Join us as we share personal stories, hon
23: Choosing Between an Anti-Black Country and a Homophobic One: Building a Youth Empowerment Center in Ghana
In this deeply personal episode of Rich Queer Aunties, we confront a difficult and often unspoken question: What do you choose when both anti-Blackness and homophobia are constant realities? As queer African women navigating these harsh truths, we share our stories of living between worlds - Christabel a nurse, and writer who immigrated to the U.S. from Ghana, and Kachi, a healer and Nigerian arti
22: Dear Queer Babies, Your Healing Matters: Lessons from Our Stories
Show Notes:In this episode of Rich Queer Aunties, we bring it all together - how our personal journeys of healing and self-discovery are deeply connected to yours. After sharing our own vulnerable stories in the last two episodes, today we reflect on what it all means for you, our dear queer babies, and why your healing matters.Christabel and Kachi discuss the importance of storytelling in the hea
21: Percent Better by 80 - A Conversation on Rage with Christabel
In this episode of Rich Queer Aunties, Christabel's partner, Kachi, returns to the podcast to interview Christabel. They delve into Christabel's journey of healing through therapy, navigating complex PTSD, and embracing her authentic self.Christabel shares personal stories about her struggles with anger and emotional outbursts, her challenging experiences growing up in an abusive household, and he
20: Coming Home to Self: A Conversation with Kachi
In this episode of Rich Queer Aunties, Christabel welcomes a special guest, their partner Kachi, who shares their personal journey of self-discovery and healing. Kachi, an Igbo-American Nigerian artist and recovering engineer, delves into their transition from conforming to societal expectations to embracing their full, authentic self.They discuss the influence of culture, family, and identity on
19: Boundaries in Context: A Guide for Those of Diasporic Origin
Welcome back to RichQueerAunties, I'm Christabel, your host - nurse leader, writer, and African auntie. Today's episode explores boundaries within the unique context of diasporic origins.Boundaries are often discussed but not in ways that fit our lived experiences. For many of us from the global South or with parents from there, boundaries are intricate. We grew up valuing community and family ove
18: Is a Lack of Authenticity Keeping You Stuck?
Is a Lack of Authenticity Keeping You Stuck?Raise your hand if you're tired of feeling disconnected despite your success.You might think the problem is just about needing a break or figuring out your personal style or whatever else that has you feeling disconnected. But what if it's deeper?You've been told that these parts of your life are separate—your style, your career moves, how you should han
17: Showing Up as Your Authentic Self.
Hello, wonderful listeners!I’m excited to announce that the Rich Queer Aunties podcast is back! After a year-long hiatus, I’m returning with fresh insights and a renewed focus on empowering Black queer women to embrace their most authentic selves.In this episode, I reflect on my personal journey and the challenges I’ve faced, including my high ACE (Adverse Childhood Experiences) score and how it’s
16: Navigating Religious Trauma, Self-Discovery, and Family Estrangement: A Journey of Healing and Growth. A conversation with Dan.
This episode is sponsored by Rich Queer Aunties. Visit Rich Queer Aunties for all your fly RQA merch.In this episode of Rich Queer Aunties podcast, host Christabel invites guest Dan to share their journey from being raised as Jehovah's Witnesses and their spiritual journey afterwards.Dan, a multi-dimensional being who is an organizer, spiritualist, sorcerer, and abstract visual artist. Dan also us
15: Coming Out as Gay: My Journey of Overcoming the Fear of Rejection as a Jehovah’s Witness
Join me for a candid conversation on overcoming the fear of rejection and achieving self-actualization as a former Jehovah’s witness who came out as gay. Learn how embracing authenticity can lead to true fulfillment in life.
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14: My Journey of Balancing Collectivism and Individuality: Personal Stories and Cultural Reflections
Please don’t forget to RATE, REVIEW and SHARE this little podcast of mine. It truly makes all the difference.Welcome to the latest episode of Rich Queer Aunties, where I'll be exploring the complex relationship between collectivism and individuality. Through personal anecdotes and cultural observations, I'll delve into how collectivism can both bind and liberate us. Join the conversation on this f
13: Unconvering Authenticity- A Solo Episode on Love Loss and Learning to Heal
Uncovering Authenticity: A Solo Episode on Love, Loss, and Learning to Heal Please remember to rate and write a review. It goes a long way to producing a successful podcast and we want nothing but success for my baby.•Don’t forget to visit www.richqueeraunties.com/shop for exclusive RQA merch and original art from Ghana. •follow us on IG: https://www.instagram.com/ Welcome back to the podcast, whe
12: Is meme repost culture gaslighting you into thinking you’re doing the work? Doing the work irl and finding your people.
Is meme repost culture gaslighting you into thinking you’re doing the work? Doing the work irl and finding your people. In this episode, I talk about:Examining our beliefsDoing the work to figure out what’s yours and what’s not. Showing up fully in all our messiness to find our people instead of faking it till we make itReposting mental health memes alone does not the work make.Listen, share, and
11: Capitalism vs. pay me for my work
Capitalism and pay me for my work: My struggle with the nuances therein.> How I broke my ankle> Feeling less alone by listening to the stories of others> How much I make as a nurse> I started a Patreon https://www.patreon.com/Christabelmintahgalloway. Become a patron if you’ll like to support me monetarily. > Why I priced/tiered my Patreon the way I did and why I need to keep my 9-5
10: Relationships as my biggest teacher.
I’ve had many relationships over the years all with trials but none has been as impactful as my current one with my partner and that with my mom over our lifetime. I believe that our relationships can be outstanding teachers if we are in the right space to be a student. Otherwise, it becomes about blame game. Focusing on the other person’s shortcomings or how they’re toxic or and anything else tha
9: Back Like I never Left
Back Like I never LeftHere’s a quick update on what I’ve been up do in the last three months. To include: COVID- 19 emergency relief work in southern TexasI turned 35 during first hurricane ever! In Mexico!!Not being sure of who you want to be when you grow upDealing with self-doubt, a different brain and a world that demands productivityHealing from religious indoctrination in order to find my vo
8: Q&A : Coming out, skin care, organized religion, and more.
Q&A : Coming out, skin care, organized religion, and more.In my first Q&A, I tackle questions asked on IG about how I came out, what my skin care routine is, what I think of organized religion after being an active participant in one for two decades.I loved all the questions that came through! I do think I missed a couple that we’re sent in my DMs because I couldn’t find it but there’ll be
7: Black joy, white fragility, and everything in between
Aberrant Behavior - Black joy, white fragility, and everything in betweenAn episode where I just ramble about a few things weighing on my mind to include:New white activists, I need an explanation on why you never saw racism until now. In fact, don’t answer that, it’s rhetorical. I believe you’ve always known, you just didn’t want to sacrifice that promotion by speaking up. While it’s great for th
6: Not Racist? Not Enough! - How to become anti-racist.
Not Racist? Not Enough! - How to become anti-racist.This is from my perspective as an African who wasn’t always anti-racist. Being Black wasn’t enough for me, I had to become actively anti-racist. Many Black activist resist the idea of teaching anti-racism to white people and NBPOC because they are tired. I still have some energy so let’s go!Not being racist is the bare minimum, you don’t get cook
5: Liberation from Subconscious Conditioning
Aberrant Behavior Episode 5 - Liberation from Subconscious Conditioning In this episode, I talk about how most of our behaviors and what we consider our personalities are as a result of subconscious conditioning. As always, I draw from my experience. When I wanted to change behavior patterns that were no longer serving me, I thought it was a matter of willpower but after that failed me time and ti
4: Spankings and Slavery
Aberrant Behavior Episode 4 - Spankings and SlaveryIn this episode, I talk specifically to black parents, guardians and caregivers. I wanted to facilitate a conversation about the devastating effects of spankings within the black family.I talk from my perspective as a kid who received many spankings growing up and how that affected me detrimentally. I was only able to identify said detrimental eff
3: Religion and Internalized Homophobia
Aberrant Behavior - Religion and Internalized HomophobiaIn this episode, I delve into my long and complex relationship with religion and why I had to let it go if I was ever to love myself deeply. I have nothing against religion as a whole because I recognize it’s role in providing comfort and hope to many people as it did for me. Plus, faith and belief is a deeply personal thing that I don’t real
2: My Healing Journey
*Trigger warning: Domestic Violence, Self harm, suicidal ideation and other traumas*In my most vulnerable share to date, I talk about how an abusive childhood and a tumultuous teen years and early adulthood led me to seek help. The pitfalls along the way and how I came to have a deep understanding of my innate goodness and worth.
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1: My Why
In this episode, I tell you my "why", why did I decide to start a podcast in a world with a million podcasts?
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