The Ready for Polyamory Podcast
A podcast that offers education, humor, and personal stories about ethical non-monogamy and polyamory. Host Laura Boyle provides insights and guidance for those curious about or already practicing polyamory. Each episode blends practical advice with relatable experiences to help listeners navigate multiple loving relationships. The tone is approachable and candid, aiming to demystify consensual non-monogamy.
Episodes
What's in A Name: Polyamorous Jargon
Do you hear words like "compersion" and "metamour" and cringe internally? Or are you someone who is excited to have in-group markers like talking about a Kitchen Table relationship? This episode talks about when these terms are useful, when they're less so, why we use them, and the definitions of some of the most common ones. I maintain the most frequently cited Polyamory Glossary online, at https
Season 8 Episode 5: Post Non-monogamy and Beyond
In a conversation that ranges a little beyond both books, Laura and Andrea Zanin discuss:What is Post-Non-Monogamy?Does it matter whether non-monogamy is an identity? What benefit can we glean from a post-non-monogamous identity?What are some reasons one might be post-non-monogamous?The flexibility of this concept and identityMore than two, second edition, and what parts of it Andrea is most proud
Season 8 Episode 4: More Than Two, Second Edition
Eve Rickert, co-author of both editions of More Than Two, is on the show to discuss the process of creating More Than Two, Second Edition, what about it is different, why a second edition, and more. You can get More Than Two, Second Edition anywhere books are sold, with the official release date Sept 2, but preorder from the links provided by Thornapple Press here to support them: https://thornapp
Season 8 Episode 3: Change is the only Constant
"In Parable of the Sower, Octavia Butler has that affirmation, change is the only constant - and I think that's an important way to look at these life transitions. We can't be trying to stop change from happening, for us or for our kids."Libby Sinback of Making Polyamory Work sits down with Laura in this episode to discuss big life changes this week, and how they affect us, as polyamorous folks -
Season 8 Episode 2: Asexuality in Polyamory
Laura sits down with Evie Lupine to discuss kink, asexuality, and non-monogamy and polyamory and how these intersect for Evie as well as the larger community. Evie shares her experience as an asexual person who finds that a lot of nonmonogamous dating includes "the social dance where people expect the first date to be a nicety they must complete to get to the sex"; and "even folks who express a lo
Season 8 Episode 1: Entwined
Laura sits down with Alex Alberto, author of Entwined to discuss the new memoir, polyamorous media representation, storytelling, and more.Buy Entwined: Essays on Polyamory and Creating Home. Paperback, ebook, and audiobook available.Direct from Alex | Support them!Bookshop.org | Support indie bookstores!Amazon | If you must.Subscribe to Entwined Mag for stories of polyamory, friendship, and family
Season 7 Episode 8: A Polyamory Devotional
Evita Sawyers has been polyamorous for over a decade and is a relationship coach who is well known for creating the instagram series "Today's Polyamory Reminder." Her book "A Polyamory Devotional," out October 20 from Thornapple Press, is 365 daily prompts for thinking through different issues and angles of interpersonal relating, filtered through a lens of nonmonogamy. On today's episode she disc
Season 7 Episode 7: Living in Small Spaces
So much of polyamorous cohabitation advice implies that space is easy to come by - that you just have a guest room, or that it's simple to have silence or an extra floor to go to. But for many polyamorists this isn't the case, logistically. In cities and apartment living especially, space, distance, and existing parallel to your partners' relationships can feel like imaginary concepts that maybe o
Season 7 Episode 6: Polysaturation
Polysaturation is the state of realizing you have enough relationally - that more would be too much. This can be a really beautiful, welcome thing - or a really challenging one. It can make folks feel like they've done something wrong and that's why their internal warning lights about energy or capacity to handle issues with partners are going off. The answer is seldom simple - these are people we
Season 7 Episode 5: Mom Rage
"Matrescence - the process of becoming a mother - is something we only talk about in the most glorified tone culturally, and it is in fact really difficult and isolating and kind of awful - and holding that duality can be enormously challenging and shameful for moms who already lack support.""I talk about non-monogamy in the book both because I’m from the Bay Area and it’s everywhere but also beca
Season 7 Episode 4: Polyamory and D/s
"Both these dynamics - D/s and polyamory - are emotional edgeplay, are like peeling a layer of your skin back, and there’s so much growth and power to be found in continuing to engage there."Writing Spicy registration closes October 5, 2023, and runs October 6 - November 19, 2023 - More information & register at - http://writingspicy.com/On September 19, Laura is teaching Negotiation for Edge
Season 7 Episode 3: Polyamory in Media 2023
"I need to have a word with the people at Netflix about teasing polyamory""Books are just leaps and bounds ahead of tv in representation, so my standards are way higher"In today's episode, Laura and Abbie of PolyAnarchy discuss polyamorous representation in various tv properties and books. Their favorites include the book To Shape a Dragon's Breath and they universally pan what they term "all the
Season 7 Episode 2: Microscripts with Multiamory
"You need the self-awareness and the meta-communication to make using the tools easier for you. It's about waking up to doing it intentionally.""In my romantic relationships and my friendships, I feel so empowered in my communication - we have so many tools we can turn to."The new book from Dedeker, Emily and Jase of Multiamory is a tool kit for communication in relationships of all kinds. In toda
Season 7 Episode 1: PolyWise
Laura speaks with Jessica Fern and David Cooley about their new book, PolyWise, paradigm shifts for folks making changes in non monogamous relationships, and restorative rather than punitive views of conflict.They discuss why the authors included so many different psychological modalities and approaches in their book, the value of different tools for folks encountering big transitions in relations
Season 6 Episode 11: Breakups vs De-escalations
"The relationship they need to feel secure is not always the one you need to deescalate to the 'good parts' of your relationship with them.""It can be really triggering to watch someone greive so outwardly about someone else and their relationship while you're still with them."Leanne Yau of PolyPhiliaBlog guests on this week's episode to discuss her recent breakup and breakups in general, and when
Season 6 Episode 10: The Relationship Anarchy Book
"Start the revolution from your affections is an imperfect translation, but it's as close as we could get to the idea that we don't want freedom from our bonds, we want freedom made by our bonds""Relationship Anarchy is essentially the everyday decision to make visible and question all of the presumptions that underlie all our relationships." If you find discussions of Relationship Anarchy to be d
Season 6 Episode 9: Abuse in Polyamory Part 3 Survivorship in Community
Content Warning: we discuss abusive relationships, and (without details) sexual assault and the process of reporting and discussing such incidents in community and with organizations that were around us at that time. Folks should use their discretion in deciding if this is an episode they can listen to and when they should do so. "A lot of survivors get given the impression they can't be non-mono
Season 6 Episode 8: Abuse in Polyamory Part 2
"The definition I prefer to use is that abuse is a pattern of behavior with the design, intent, or consequence of making someone unable to leave a situation." "We need to expand our conceptions of abuse because so many support systems are using methods of understanding that are heteronormative and based entirely on married people, much less mononormative."CW: this episode speaks about patterns of
Season 6 Episode 7: Abuse in Polyamory Part 1
Content Warning: throughout this episode, we speak frankly of forms of emotional, financial, and physical abuse. There is no particularly graphic content and the episode is "safe for work" in a traditional sense, but it may be triggering to some listeners and begins with a similar audio content warning. Listen at a time and in a place when you have the capacity to care for yourself, especially if
Season 6 Episode 6: Swinging and Polyamory
Non-monogamy is a big umbrella! polyamory isn't the only thing that falls under it. Often, folks can be a little Holier-than-thou (polier-than-thou?) about their nonmonogamy, implying that polyamory is more evolved than other kinds of consensual non-monogamy or being decidedly sex-negative when they learn that folks entered their nonmonogamous journey from opening to swinging or being "monogamish"
Season 6 Episode 5: Non-binary Polyamorous Experience
"It's really just a matter of making sure people really see me, Ebony, and me includes non-binary identity as well as the experience of Black womanhood." "It's been one thing to have issues in dating, but more than wrong pronouns or disrepect from partners, it's been metamours seeing me as a woman because of shared partners." In response to listener questions about non-binary experience in a polya
Season 6 Episode 4: Hierarchy and Change
"My relationship structure now is significantly less hierarchical than it was when my partner and I came back to polyamory with one another." "Dangling possibilities for years is just so much worse than admitting 'this is a thing that I cannot offer."Laura and Amy discuss the practical applications of hierarchy - whether strictly applied or tacitly existing, and ways that it can be both positive a
Season 6 Episode 3: Polyamory on TV
"It's just been wild to see the explosion of representation of polyamory on tv the last few years.""When I started my polyamory in media series there were like 2 movies and me digging for 30 year old comics and 60 year old books, and now there is so much available." Laura and Abbie sit down to talk about recent tv series portraying polyamory (and other nonmonogamy and how the two get conflated in
Season 6 Episode 2: Asking for Wants and Needs
“I find that minimizing other relationships doesn’t do what people think it will- you have to move through discomfort anyway.”“If you can’t talk about a kind of sex or a relationship style with the people you want it with, you may not be ready to have it.”On today's podcast, Laura sits down with Yana Tallon-Hicks, LMFT, to discuss the comforts and complications of polyam relationship networks when
Season 6 Episode 1: High Standards and Low Expectations
"We don't automatically or invisibly put expectations on each other - that leads to resentment and conflict." "To heck with the hyper independent BS - community and the autonomous individual existing together is where it's at."Laura and Michelle Hy of Polyamorous While Asian chat about solopolyamorous dating, creating symbolism in your relationships, and the cocreation of expectations within a rel
Season 5 Episode 10: Polyamory and Parenting (Part 2)
"Sometimes a particular adult's involvement ebbs and flows but there isn't the kind of sudden disappearance or 'revolving door' that serial monogamists imagine with polyamorous dating because we've built a lot of community.""We were really anxious about coming out to the kids, and did, and asked if they had questions, and one of them, very in character for him, said 'Yes - can I have another hambu
Season 5 Episode 9: Compersion & Jealousy
"Acknowledging compersion isn't denying our jealousy. You can have a lot of different emotional 'foods' on your 'plate' at once.""We shouldn't beat ourselves up if we don't feel compersion the first day, just like we don't beat up our gardens for not sprouting the day we first plant and water the seeds." Laura and Dr. Liz Powell talk about how to interpret your jealousy, use it as information to k
Season 5 Episode 8: De-escalations
"I really think we could de-escalate the use of de-escalation as a term. Let's talk about transitions and changes maybe instead. It's more accurate.""De-escalating literally implies stepping down, a level lower, that something is less or worse, but often what is happening is a re-calibration so that relationships suit the needs of the people rather than preferencing a label over the humans using i
Season 5 Episode 7: Polyamorous Pride
"The purpose of a pride flag is unification and visibility for the represented group - and the current polyamory flag does neither." "If you say polyamory or kink or leather can't be at pride 'for the kids,' then it's your choice where to bring them, not our responsibility to celebrate differently for your comfort."In today's episode, Laura talks to Kristian of Polyamproud, the not-for-profit tryi
Season 5 Episode 6: Solo Polyamorous Living
"Solopolyamory flies in the face of this idea that if you love someone you'll want to be with them 24/7. It's just not true. We're here in defiance of it.""it's about this extreme representation of maintaining your personhood within relationships and re-inforcing that with your lifestyle choices."Today, the podcast discusses solo polyamory - what is it? How do solopolyam people live? What are some
Season 5 Episode 5: Mono Plus Polyam Relationships
"In this structure now, I have been able to figure out who I am and what I want. That isn't to say I haven't gone on dates - I've tried it - but my polysaturation point really is 1, and this way I have time for myself.""A lot of the time, people don't know what they will want yet - and they say and ask for what makes them feel safe. So it can make sense to not want to date a monogamous person if y
Season 5 Episode 4: Polyamory and Kink
Today's episode contains frank discussion of sexuality and kink dynamics, listener be aware. "I feel like no one really talks about the ins and outs of intimacy that involves marks and BDSM dynamics, and it's worth talking about."Laura sits down with Annie Undone to talk about kink dynamics, polyamory from both sides of the slash, the pros and cons of kitchen table and parallel polyam dynamics whe
Season 5 Episode 3: Change and Balance in your CNM Ecosystem
"Nothing I do ever goes viral, but one of my posts that did pretty well recently said 'I want my polyamory to be less about compersion and more about compassion,' and I think that applies here."The only certainty in any relationship is that there will absolutely be change. Laura's guests this week are polyamorous event coordinators and educators who recognize that from their own experience as well
Season 5 Episode 2: Polyamory Advice Is Relationship Advice
"I'm relationship style agnostic - I don't think there's one right way to do relationships, but gosh are there a lot of really crappy ways to do relationships."On today's episode, Laura and Dr. Joli Hamilton, a certified sex educator and jealousy researcher whose writing focuses on couples for whom nonmonogamy works for some phases of their lives but not all phases, discuss what lessons nonmonogam
Season 5 Episode 1: Polyamory & Parenting (Part 1)
"You have to take the space to take care of yourself and notice if you haven't made space for yourself outside of parenthood in a long time - because making space for your non-parent identity is important." "Why would we stop doing the things that make us happy and make us better as humans if we're trying to raise good people, a task that means we need to show up as our best selves?"To open season
Season 4 Episode 9: Polyamory in Fiction
Laura and her friend Abbie K. (Tiktok's @Polyanarchy) talk about a variety of fiction they've read that contains CNM &polyamorous relationships, trends they see in polyamorous literature, and favorite books with polyam relationships. When Abbie (she/they) isn't writing, reading or creating content for TikTok(@Polyanarchy), she hangs out with her polycule and her two crazy dogs or helps with di
Season 4 Episode 8: Polyamorous Cohabitation
"Once or twice a year hotels are an adventure... more than that it just becomes an expense"Laura and her friend Corwin met because they both were cohabiting polyamorous people who went to a meetup for polyam families. They have a conversation about the various pros, cons and considerations of polyamorous cohabitation. The literal book on polyam cohabitation is "the polyamorous home" by Jess Mahler
Season 4 Episode 7: Unicorn Hunters
"There's a great series on TikTok by Claire of PolyPages comparing unicorn hunter bios to tech startup ads and I think that says a lot." In today's episode, Laura disambiguates the terms "unicorn" and "Unicorn Hunters" and talks about the differences between unicorn hunting and simply dating in a triad dynamic. She talks about challenges of the triad dynamic, how power imbalances exist and can be
Season 4 Episode 6: Kitchen Table and Parallel Polyamory
Assuming that, broadly speaking, polyamory is what you want out of a consensually non-monogamous relationship - that you want multiple, loving relationships - there is still so much ground to cover in terms of how to do that. In the days of old, (ok, that’s enough dramatic old lady voice for me - until the last year or two) we only talked about Kitchen Table and Parallel Polyamory. These are still
Season 4 Episode 5: Couple's Privilege
In this episode, Laura examines the cultural reality of couple's privilege - the ways in which pair-bonding is encouraged and rewarded in our mono-normative culture - and the ways that folks sometimes unthinkingly or out of additional cultural conditioning work to uphold that privilege by enforcing hierarchies and prioritizing relationships over the needs of individuals. This episode looks at whic
Season 4 Episode 4: Religion and Polyamory Part 2
In this examination of various ways religion and spirituality may impact people's practice of polyamory, Laura discusses the topic with guests from several different backgrounds to see how the processes of coming out as polyamorous, unpacking mono-normativity and purity culture, partner selection, and inhabiting the normative culture vary based on their early and ongoing religious experiences. In
Season 4 Episode 3: Religion & Polyamory Part 1
In this two-episode examination of various ways religion and spirituality may impact people's practice of polyamory, Laura discusses the topic with guests from several different backgrounds to see how the processes of coming out as polyamorous, unpacking mono-normativity and purity culture, partner selection, and inhabiting the normative culture vary based on their early and ongoing religious expe
Season 4 Episode 2: Codependence
What does it mean to be codependent? Does the pop culture usage and the polyamorous culture usage match, and should we throw the term around? Laura analyzes the way the term gets used in general vs the medicalized and popular history and suggests an alternative lens to view relationships often vilified as 'codependent.'A blog post about the type of relationship for which this term gets used in po
Season 4 Episode 1: Guarding Yes and Saying No
Today's episode is a discussion of when saying "no" is healthier for us as people, especially in interpersonal relationships, and why we generally are conditioned to say "yes" anyway. We cover: Reasons it's hard to say no.Signs we may need to be saying 'yes' less often in particular relationshipsHow this applies to polyamory in particularHow this applies to relationships and sexual situationsHow t
Season 3 Episode 10: Podcastiversary
"Pear...Fruit...technology...devices!"There were some live video technical difficulties during this livestreamed episode (in video! too!) so I'm releasing the audio now and fixing the video up after some more coffee (it's too early Saturday morning) so there was a little bit of my very android partner cursing all my fruit based technology but not wanting to get me in trouble with one of the bigges
Season 3 Episode 9: Practical Solutions for Jealousy and FOMO
Jealousy is presented as the mind-killer in polyamory a lot of the time, but it's a presentation of all kinds of other emotions and dealing in a practical way with some of those underlying causes is going to be the best way to get through or past it. While everyone's individual expressions of jealousy will be unique and include their own personal blend of different issues that need to be explored,
Season 3 Episode 8: Labels
"You're nesting- like little birds!"Laura this week examines labels for relationships (rather than labels for self-identity) and how they reflect our narratives of relationship and self, and what those have to do with how we identify our polyamorous relationships in particular versus monogamous relationships and relationship escalator style relating. What does it mean to be a partner? What terms d
Season 3 Episode 7: Early Relationship Agreements
"I don't remember exactly what I was scared of, but I'm pretty sure it was younger, blonder, and prettier than me, at least." In today's episode, Laura tells the story of two of her earliest non-monogamous relationships as a frame for explaining ways to make relationship agreements (and some really good examples of ways not to). You can get out some popcorn and enjoy the spectacle of her insecure
Season 3 Episode 6: Polyamorous Breakups
"So, you know, I have to watch out for standard bad coping mechanisms like drinking too much and getting under someone to get over someone, AND poly dominoes."This week, Laura discusses the ways polyamorous breakups share traits with and differ from monogamous ones, both from her own perspective and using the framework laid out by Kathy Labriola in The Polyamory Breakup Book: Causes, Prevention, a
Season 3 Episode 5: FWB and Play Partners
"You know, flowers and... I don't know, what's like a flower? Rose colored glasses?"As an expansion of last week's podcast, Laura discusses how to apply the ideas of consensual non-monogamy, polyamory, and relationship anarchist theory to friends with benefits and play partner relationships - and the ways each differ and combining them complicate one another. The idea that these relationships can
Season 3 Episode 4: Relationship Anarchy
"I feel like you're telling me a true story here-"Laura and David answer the important questions about application and theory of Relationship Anarchy in this week's episode. So what is Relationship Anarchy? In the most basic and technical sense it’s the application of political anarchy theory to relationships. It’s anti-hierarchy, anti-government intervention in relationships, pro-autonomy, pro-co
Season 3 Episode 3: Emotional Processing
"Externally, I haven't changed much - I'm always going to be a possum in goth makeup - but internally I'm very different than just a few years ago and learning these coping skills is a lot of it." This week, Laura and Orphne sit down and discuss how people process difficult emotions and conflicts, and talk particularly about processing through externalizing problems and working through them with o
Season 3 Episode 2: Attachment Theory
"I just want to note, after giving so many lectures the past few months and being asked a lot about being a 'good poly person' - there isn't one - the points don't matter." This week, Laura sits down with Jessica Fern, author of Polysecure , to discuss attachment theory, trauma, and secure relating in polyamorous networks. Their conversation roams across the book and the topic. If you aren't at al
Season 3 Episode 1: Polyamory, Disability & Accessibility
"No, no, no - I really like orgasms. We need to bring those back."To kick of Season 3 of the podcast, Rachael Rose of [Hedonish](hedonish.com) is here to talk about sex education, event planning, disability, accessibility, and how her polyamorous journey has been shaped by the conjunction of all of these. We discuss the ways the pandemic has impacted everyday accessibility of certain spaces and a
Season 2 Episode 12: Insecurity and Polyamory
This week, in the last episode of season 2, I talked with Seva about different ways that polyamory can serve as a format to work through personal insecurities. Obviously, this is a subject everyone approaches in their own way, and we primarily speak through the lens of personal experiences and a little bit through theory in this episode. We focus on:-the concept of security vs insecurity in genera
Season 2 Episode 11: Legal Hypotheticals
"I'm definitely not a lawyer, but even if I were, you'd give better legal advice than me" - a line I edited out, but Ken did say. Just so you all know. Even his ego has limits. He's only a fake doctor. In today's episode, we examine real legal progress made by polyamorous people and relationships in the USA, and how hypothetical additional progress might work out. Content Warning: There's a little
Season 2 Episode 10: Polyamory and Power Exchange
"This episode might have different Venn diagram of listeners than my class usually does." Content warning for allusions to BDSM and sexual interaction, but there is not explicit sexual content in this episode. Laura gives a personal account plus theory discussion of boundary setting and considerations folks might want to take when engaging in power exchange relationships and polyamory at the same
Season 2 Episode 9: Love and Apology Languages
Why We Fight and How We Make Up"What if your partner made you a bouquet of spoons?"This week on the Ready for Polyamory Podcast, Laura talks with Orphne Sicarius, an awesome person who keeps their internet presence pseudonymous because their in-person work as coordinator and clinician for a county-wide Forensic Nurse Examiner Program for living victims of violent sexual trauma requires a certain a
Season 2 Episode 8: Coming Out Part 2
"Isn't that cat toes?" Today, in the second half of their conversation, our heroes from last week continue on their epic Quest For Answers About Coming Out....Wait, wrong genre. They do have a nice conversation including a bunch of strategies for how to handle situations where folks have negative or shocked reactions to information on polyamory, as well as some funny stories about people getting t
Season 2 Episode 7: Coming Out
"Did we really need to know this? We knew you were weird."On today's episode, the first half of a really great roundtable discussion on coming out between my metamour Daniel GreenWolf and a group of my friends, Seva, Corwin, Jami, and Brian, moderated by your stalwart host. We try to show a variety of experiences with the process of coming out as polyamorous, altered by sexual orientation, family
Season 2 Episode 6: Boundaries
"When you step in dog shit, you don't throw your shoes out, you clean the shit off."Laura and guests, Gina, Sarah, Corwin, and Ken (all friends of the Ready for Polyamory blog, some previous guests of the podcast) discuss the importance of being aware of your own personal boundaries and the multitude of shapes those can take in this week's episode. All of our relationships are shaped by the interp
Season 2 Episode 5: Polyamory: Married and Dating
"Remind me not to go to any of YOUR soirées."In today's episode Laura and Corwin tear apart the tropes and stereotypes in the second half of season 1 of Showtime's Polyamory: Married and Dating. If you'd like to watch along, anywhere you can stream showtime shows, be it an individual app or adding the channel to Amazon or Hulu accounts, will get you access. We're discussing episodes 4-7 today; you
Season 2 Episode 4: Off Escalator Relationships
"I mean, really I just want to scream it from the rooftops that I love these humans - that's my important thing."The Relationship Escalator (https://www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/the-relationship-escalator) is a strong cultural imperative even beyond monogamous culture to make sure your relationship keeps "going somewhere"- that you go through all the steps of dating, "getting serious," getting e
Season 2 Episode 3: Love in the Time of Covid
"PS: I FOUND THE GUY!"2020 has been defined, in large part, by the COVID-19 pandemic and precautions the population at large has taken to prevent its spread. How have these affected polyamorous relationships and networks? Have there been greater numbers of breakups? Have lockdown orders strengthened some relationships and weakened others? Our guest this week is a polyamorous event organizer in his
Season 2 Episode 2: Hierarchy
"Look, let's use an example that has nothing to do with polyamory - Let's talk about TERFs." Laura talks with Dr. Liz Powell (despite the best efforts of the local cable internet monopoly to make it impossible to do so) about hierarchies in polyamorous networks. They touch on reasons people often enter their polyamorous journies with prescriptive hierarchies in place, and what the distinction of u
Season 2 Begins: Polyamory as a Catch-all for Ethical Non-monogamy
"One of those is your boyfriend, one of those is your husband, one is your best friend, and one has been your lover for the last 15 years" Kimota Tigerlily and Laura discuss different forms of ethical non-monogamy, how polyamory has become a catch-all term for all of them, the ways this is good and bad for polyamorous visibility, and how our guest could have four relationships all called best frie
Episode 11: Polyamory in the Media
You all may remember that Laura wrote a bit of a screed against polyamorous representation in media on the blog on April 20 called "Advertising Polyamory" because she was getting annoyed at white FFM triads getting all the press. You may recently have read Ken's post about positive news media on polyamory this week, ["In the News: How the media Perception of Polyamory is good, actually." ](www.rea
Episode 10: Kitchen Table and Parallel Polyamory
Today's guests are my metamours Daniel Greenwolf and Vanessa/Bella Greenwolf, discussing the relationship spectrum of parallel to kitchen table polyamory, how relationship definitions get slippery, why they think that makes them kind of useless for most people, and why the semantics are, in my opinion, kind of important anyway, because both agreeing you're "kitchen table polyamorous" and meaning t
Episode 9: Community and Finding Your People
This episode was meant to be centered on finding local community, meeting people near you, integrating into new polyamorous social circles, and so on - and went rather off the rails because I invited a very old friend to do it with me. Talya recently re-relocated (she was kind of migratory for a while) to Mexico City, and is exploring polyamory in that cultural context in a more serious way for th
Episode 8: Relationships With Metamours
Laura and Seva discuss the good, the bad, and the meh, as regards relationships with metamours. Mostly an interview of Seva and discussion of the past.The ladies largely agree that 80-90% of metamour relationships are good to "meh", and bad relationships are few and farther between, as well as often being initiated by partners or "partner problems, rather than meta problems." Small content warning
Episode 7: Ambiamory
Laura and her friend Olivia discuss Ambiamory, the ability to go between polyamory and monogamy as a matter of choice rather than orientation. (Giving full credit where credit is due, the term seems to have been coined by Page Turner of Poly.Land)Olivia is not out in all aspects of her life and all her projects as ambiamorous and pansexual, and so she isn't sharing her project links, but would lo
Episode 6: Polyamory- Married and Dating
Warning: discussion of some adult situations as portrayed on an explicit television show. If frank discussion of human sexuality or its misuse by a television network for cheap entertainment offends you, do not listen to this episode. Corwin and Laura take apart all the ways the 2012 Season 1 Episodes 1-3 of Polyamory: Married and Dating portray polyamory negatively, or as a stereotyped joke, whil
Episode 5: Compersion
Compersion is typically defined in the polyamorous community as happiness at the happiness of one's partner with their other partner(s). Some people go so far as to use the phrase "the opposite of jealousy." Laura discusses the concept, the possibility of broadening this definition to "positive empathy for one's partner" and whether that waters down the concept too far (and if so, if we need the c
Episode 4:Jealousy
Jealousy is a very human emoition, and one that doesn't go away just because you decide that you're polyamorous. This week, we examine it, reasons one might feel it, and ways to cope with it, in two conversations with an old friend and a metamour of mine, both polyamorous for between 6 and 7 years. On the [blog](www.readyforpolyamory.com), you can find resources on jealousy under the "Jealousy" po
Episode 3: Triads, Why They're Hard, and Why People Want Them Anyway
Polyamorous triads are an occasionally contentious topic within the community because they're many people's entry point in but often also challenging - and, as people's entry point, much like high school sweethearts, it often doesn't work out, but for a select few it does. Today's guest is one of those select few. Daniel GreenWolf joins Laura Boyle for a discussion of triad relationships, their ch
Episode 2: Relationship Agreements
Today Laura gets to have a lovely conversation about relationship agreements, the basis of ethical non-monogamy, and somehow, today, the basis for giving her a lot of shit. This may be because our guest is her boyfriend.Ken Briodagh is a storyteller, writer and editor. He's been my partner for more than 4 years and polyamorous for some years more than that. He is the creator of StoryPhoenix, which
Episode 1: Polyamory 101
Today's episode is the only one this season without specific guests in conversation with our charming host. Basic information on polyamory can be found under the "Start Here" posts tag on the blog, and the February 24 post "What is Polyamory, Anyway?" covers most of this territory at: www.readyforpolyamory.com/post/what-is-polyamory-anyway; the immediately following post, A Brief History of Polyam
Episode 0: Episode 0: The Introduction
Introduction of format for Ready for Polyamory podcast, hosted by Laura Boyle, discussing ethical non-monogamy and polyamorous relationships as an extension of the blog at www.readyforpolyamory.com. Episodes will include many guests, content both extremely serious and extremely humorous, depending on the week. Season 1 will run weekly with 12 episodes; season 2 is in the works but no promises on r
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