Speaking of Teens
Speaking of Teens is a parenting podcast hosted by Ann Coleman, a former attorney turned expert in the science of adolescence and parenting. Each week she shares up-to-date, science-based information, news, and advice to help parents understand, relate to, and parent their teenagers without conflict. Topics include relationships, social media, academic pressures, and mental health issues, often with occasional expert guests. The goal is to help parents navigate the unique challenges of raising teens and build more peaceful, confident relationships.
Episodes
#249: Teenager Friendship Drama--Help Without Making It Worse
In this episode, I'm breaking down one of the most emotionally charged challenges parents face...teen friendship drama...and sharing exactly what to do (and what not to do) when your teenager comes home in tears over a falling out with their friend group.You'll also learn why social rejection genuinely feels life-threatening to the adolescent brain, how boys and girls navigate friend con
#248: How To Get Your Teenager To Actually Listen To You
In this episode, I'll completely flip your understanding of teen discipline — because if grounding, taking the phone, punishing, and lecturing haven't worked, it's not because you haven't tried hard enough, it's because those approaches are working against your teen's developing brain. Today I'm breaking down exactly why traditional punishment backfires every sin
#247: Getting Your Teen To Stop Or Decrease Their Substance Use
In this episode, I'm sharing some of the most powerful, science-backed strategies you can use to help motivate your teen to change their relationship with substances — without the yelling, punishing, lecturing, or ultimatums that likely haven't been working. Drawing from the highly regarded book Beyond Addiction, I walk you through two of the most effective tools available to parents of
#246 Discovered Your Teen Is Using Drugs Or Drinking? What Now?
Today I’ll explain exactly what to do when you discover your teen is drinking, vaping, or using drugs. You’ll learn how to have a calm, connected conversation with your teen, how to understand why your teen is using substances, how to approach them with empathy instead of confrontation, and practical strategies to keep them safe while maintaining trust. I also review the critical mistakes we paren
#245 – Why Teens Use Substances And How To Help Prevent It
In today's episode I break down the neuroscience behind why teens are so vulnerable to substance use—and explain what you can actually do about it.If you're worried about your teen using alcohol, vaping, or marijuana, this episode is for you.I explain how the adolescent brain's reward system, weak prefrontal cortex, and neuroplasticity create the perfect storm for risky behavior.But
What To Do About Your “Lazy And Unmotivated” Teenager (That Actually Works)
Today I'm going to share why your teenager seems so lazy and unmotivated, and what you can actually do about it that won't backfire. I'll explain what's happening in that unmotivated brain of theirs and why punishment, rewards, and nagging to get them to do their homework or study are only making things worse. Plus, I'll walk you through Dr. Adam Price's (author of &q
#243: Stop Overparenting—You’re Sabotaging Your Teen’s Future
In this episode, I explain how you may be unwittingly overparenting (aka, helicopter parenting) your teen—and why doing too much for or controlling your teenager actually sets them up for failure as a young adult. I'll explain what helicopter parenting really looks like and the psychological damage it causes to our teens, young adults, or college-age kids. You'll also learn practical str
#242: Why Home Drug Testing Your Teen Is A Losing Proposition
It seems reasonable and logical that drug testing your teenager at home could keep them safe or at least keep them accountable.However, the opposite is actually true.Today I discuss the damage we cause when we drug test our teens at home and why drug testing is simply not practical and isn't the solution you may think it is.I'll also explain what you should do instead if you want to decr
#241: How To Connect To Your Teen To Improve Their Behavior
Today is the eighth and final episode in my Fundamentals of Parenting Teens podcast series.If your teen shuts down around you, keeps things from you, has big emotional reactions to everything you say, or is acting out in risky ways, you probably have a connection problem. In today's episode, I explain exactly what connection means, why it's critical for parenting emotional teens, and how
#240 Punishment Creates Teen Rebellion. Do This Instead.
Today is the seventh episode in my Fundamentals of Parenting Teens podcast series.If you're dealing with a teenager who seems to push back against everything you say, punishment or consequences aren’t the answer and will probably make things worse. In this episode, I'll explain why traditional discipline backfires with teenagers and what actually works instead. You'll learn why puni
#239: Want Your Teen To Actually Calm Down? Do This. (Fundamentals of Parenting Teens Series ep. 6)
Today is the sixth episode in my Fundamentals of Parenting Teens podcast series.Do you feel helpless in the face of your teen's emotional meltdowns?Today, I'll teach you a scientifically proven technique for helping your teen actually calm down. It's called emotion coaching and it will transform how you handle your teenager's big feelings and emotional outbursts.We're goin
#238: Want to improve your teen’s behavior? Improve yours. (Fundamentals of Parenting Teens Series ep. 5)
Today is the fifth episode in my Fundamentals of Parenting Teens podcast series.Want to stop the power struggles with your teen? The secret isn't changing them—it's changing YOU. In this episode, discover how your thoughts, emotions, and reactions directly influence your teenager's behavior.I'll show you how to reappraise situations, manage stress, and create the space you need
#237: Your Teen’s Behavior Isn’t The Problem, It’s Your Approach (Fundamentals of Parenting Teens Series ep. 4)
Today is the fourth episode in my Fundamentals of Parenting Teens podcast series. (Previous episodes in the series: 234, 235, and 236)If you're constantly battling with your teenager and their behavior seems to be getting worse instead of better, the problem might not be your teen—it might be your approach.In today's episode I'll explain why supporting your teen's autonomy is t
#236: Why Your Smart Teen Does Risky Things, And How To Help (Fundamentals of Parenting Teens Series ep. 3)
Today is the third episode in my Fundamentals of Parenting Teens podcast series. (Previous episodes in the series: 234 and 235)Why do teens do such “stupid” things? Why do they take such risks? In this episode I explain the science behind why your teenager does dangerous, stupid, or reckless things—from driving too fast to sneaking out to experimenting with drugs and alcohol.Learn how your teen&ap
#235: Why your teen’s so angry, anxious, moody, and “mean” (Fundamentals of Parenting Teens Series ep. 2)
Today is the second episode in my Fundamentals of Parenting Teens podcast series. (The first episode in the series: 234)If you're struggling with your teen's anger, emotional outbursts, and irrational behavior, this episode will help you understand and manage better.I'll explain the neuroscience behind your teenager's emotionally driven misbehavior...including how your teen&apo
#234: The Thing You Need To Know About Your Teen's Behavior (Fundamentals of Parenting Teens Series ep. 1)
Today is the first episode in my Fundamentals of Parenting Teens podcast series. I'm revisiting this series that I first published back in episodes 130 through 137.I'll be walking you through the basics that we cover in my course, The Field Guide for Teens, that you get inside Parent Camp. This is the framework I formulated over thousands of hours of research , which has helped change th
#233: 5 Parenting Mistakes That Destroy Connection With Our Teens
I made some critical mistakes with our teenage son when we were struggling with his behavior issues. Some of us are so deeply entrenched in certain parenting strategies that we don't even recognize they're not effective (and may actually be making things worse).Life is so busy that we're usually in "reaction" mode and have little time to think in advance or look for a bett
#232: Difficult Teen? Transform Them With This Parent Skill
Are you struggling with difficult teen behavior, constant conflict, and feeling like nothing you do actually works? In today's episode I explain that the secret to better teen behavior isn't administering the right consequences or enforcing stricter rules—it's developing your own emotional regulation skills. Your emotions and your emotional reactions directly impact your teenager&ap
#231: Are Smart Phones and Social Media Really Ruining Teens’ Mental Health (Or Have We Been Here Before)?
Are smartphones and social media really destroying teen mental health, or are we panicking as we have many times in the past?From novels, radio, and comic books, to TV violence, and violent video games...they've all been blamed for corrupting teenage minds and harming their mental health. Listen to today's episode to understand why the current research on teen mental health, smart phones
#230: How To Reduce Chaos In Your Home To Improve Teen Mental Health
A calm, structured, predictable home life is as important for teens and tweens as it is for children. Scientific research shows that the opposite will have a negative effect on adolescent's mental health and overall wellbeing and could lead to behavioral issues.In today's episode I talk about 5 ways you can interject more calm into your home with teens to help alleviate their stress (and
#229: What's Behind Your Teen's School Refusal, And How Do You Get Them There?
Struggling to get your teen or tween to school? You're not alone. If your teen is refusing to get out of bed for school, constantly leaving early, or complaining of physical symptoms like headaches and stomach aches when it's time for school, this isn't laziness or defiance—it's likely school refusal, a real emotional and physical response that affects up to 25% of teens aged 1
#228: Understanding Your Thoughts And Emotions Will Help You Parent Your Teen
Thoughts lead to emotions, which lead to actions. If we don't take time to examine our thinking, we can become stuck in some very unproductive cycles in parenting our teenagers (and in other relationships).Just because we think something doesn't make it true or correct. And if our thoughts are untrue, what does that mean for our emotions and behavior?Today I talk about how cognitive bias
#227: Why Is Your Teen Always So Angry and Emotionally Dysregulated?
Neurotypical teens, teens without any mental health disorders at all, experience emotional dysregulation from time to time (some more than others). This is simply a byproduct of their changing brain and an oversensitive threat detector (the brain's amygdala).But teens with ADHD, certain mood disorders, and personality disorders are much more likely to experience intense mood swings and even m
#226: Is Your Anxiety About Your Teenager’s Behavior Causing Rebellion?
I talked about parenting out of fear in the very first episode of this podcast. Because my own fear is what led me down such a long hard path with my son, I wanted to make sure you were aware of the issues it causes. Now that I've been able to work for a couple of years on refining this message, I'm back to share again why we must not let our anxious thoughts derail our parenting.This is
#225: Being Bullied Sucks. What You Can Do When Your Teen Is Bullied At School
When someone hurts your child, physically or emotionally, no matter if they're 10 or 25, you want it to stop immediately. And bullying is one of those things you may not even be aware of. You won't see it and you won't likely even know about it unless your teen or tween tells you.In this episode, I'll tell you what to watch out for, how to talk to your teen about their bullyin
#224: Trying to Make Sure Your Teen Never Messes Up, Is Setting Them Up For Failure
Your teen's autonomy, the level to which they are allowed to make their own decisions, their ability to handle mistakes and the natural consequences from those mistakes - all of this has a huge impact on their later independence, and ability to cope as an emerging adult.Today I’m going to talk to you about how, despite your best intentions to protect your child from all the bad stuff, keep th
#223: Your Thoughts And Emotions Impact Your Teen’s Behavior More Than You Know
Most of us sail on through life without ever stopping to examine our own thoughts, emotions and behavior...without doing some deep introspection to discover why we think and feel the way we do about things.But if you want to change, you want to bring more calm into your life, you have to truly know yourself. You need to know the why behind your behavior (which lies in your thoughts and emotions!)W
#222: Is Your Teen or Tween Constantly Lying To You? Here’s How To Manage It.
Did you know that 98% of teens lie about at least one issue or another? And guess what? The general consensus among researchers and mental health professionals is that this is not only normal, but it would be a little worrisome if they didn’t lie a bit.The good news is, this is not a character flaw or a sign that they’re going to grow up to be a liar. By the time people reach adulthood, about thre
#221: How You Can Manage Your Teen's Snarky, Rude, Disrespectful Attitude (Without Losing It)
If you're like every other parent of a teen or tween, you've dealt with your share of attitude, disrespect, snarky comments, and maybe even a hefty does of mean digs.Why do teens and tweens act this way and how can you manage it without causing even more conflict between you?Join me today to discover just how to approach your teen's smarty pants comments and help them learn to turn
#220: Your Teen or Tween Isn’t Broken: Demystifying Typical Teen Behavior
Teen and tween behavior can be maddening, frustrating, and confusing for parents. Those feelings can consume you and cause you to miscommunicate, scold, lecture, and punish. Understanding why your teenager behaves the way they do, will not only help you manage your feelings about it but will help you respond to them more appropriately. Join me today as I explain some of the most common teenage beh
#219: ADHD and Teens: Lesser Known Symptoms Parents Should Understand
ADHD in teens and tweens is much more complicated than you may understand. Yes, it can have a major impact on your teenager’s ability to focus and do their schoolwork, but the social and emotional fallout can be even more problematic.Today I’ll talk about how ADHD is not only a skills-based issue, but one that causes additional stress in your teenager’s daily life, affects their ability to regulat
#218 How To Get Your Teen To Listen And Do What You Need Them To Do
Getting your teen to do what they're supposed to do (or not do what they're not supposed to do) is a sticking point for so many parents. You probably feel like a broken record most days and then still can't get the cooperation you want (and many times end up in arguments and power struggles).Well, in this episode I review a) the basics that you need to understand even before you try
#217: Strategies And Tools Parents Can Use To Help Their Anxious Teens (Third Episode—Teen Anxiety Series)
Today's episode is the 3rd and final installment of my 3-part Teen Anxiety Series.In episode 215, I talked about the signs and symptoms of Teen Anxiety. In episode 216, I talked about the diagnosis and treatment for Teen Anxiety. And today, I'm discussing a variety of strategies and tools parents can use to help their anxious teens and tweens (alongside therapy).Helping your teen manage
#216: Obtaining A Proper Diagnosis And The Best Treatment For Teen Anxiety Symptoms (Second Episode—Teen Anxiety Series)
How do you know if your teen is experiencing normal, everyday anxiety or their symptoms indicate an anxiety disorder?And, as the parent of an anxious teen, who do you reach out to for help? Which professionals do what and how does it all work? Today I'll explain everything you need to know about having your teen or tween evaluated and treated for an anxiety disorder, including the roles of va
#215: How Anxiety Develops And What It Looks Like In Teens and Tweens (First Episode—Teen Anxiety Series)
Anxiety in our teens and tweens is far too commonplace. Understanding how it happens and being able to spot the signs and symptoms is extremely important for parents.Parents often mistake anxiety symptoms for typical teen misbehavior. If you treat your teen's anxiety as something to be "disciplined" out of them, you will make their anxiety, your relationship, and their behavior so m
#214: 3 Ways To Win Your Teenager’s Trust And Maintain Influence In Their Life
In today's episode I talk about the things I find myself repeating most in live sessions with parents of teens. These are changes you can make that will make an enormous difference in much influence you can maintain in their life. I'll talk to you about: a) remembering that your teen doesn’t think like you do, b) staying calm when you engage with them, and c) discussing issues with them
#213: How To Help Your Teen or Tween With Friendship Issues Without Stepping Over the Line
Today's episode was first published at the beginning of this school year and is worth a second listen if you've already heard it. At the time I recorded it, I had just coached a parent who needed help talking to her teenager about her friendship issues, without getting too involved in the drama and causing disconnection with her teen.What do you do or say when your teen shares with you t
#212 How Do You Discipline A Teenager When Nothing Seems To Work?
We parents have been led to believe that for our teens and tweens to learn to behave appropriately, we must instill a little fear in them. At the very least, we have to "show them we mean business" when they fail to meet our expectations or do something wrong.But discipline, it turns out, is not about retribution or fear or punishment (especially when it comes to parenting teenagers). If
#211: 5 Core Concepts That Will Decrease Arguments With Your Teen And Improve Their Behavior
Parenting a teenager means dealing with new and often complicated issues on a daily basis. There are constant requests to do something they've never done before and requests to change the current house rules, breaking the rules, their inability to live up to certain expectations, and on and on. This is all part of parenting a teen or tween--but it's exhausting and often produces more arg
#210: Want To Avoid Arguments With Your teen? Ditch The Constant Corrections.
The conversations your teen or tween initiates are an opportunity to connect. But you often you miss that opportunity because of your own agenda to turn everything into a teachable moment.Your need to constantly correct how your teenager thinks, feels, and acts, interferes with your ability to connect with them on a deeper emotional level.You're inadvertently creating arguments and power stru
#209: Your Teen’s Emotional Dysregulation Could Be Caused By Ultra-Processed Foods
What's the scientific truth about ultra-processed foods? Kids and teens often survive on foods that would easily fall into this category. Additives such as preservatives, artificial sweeteners, and food dyes can negatively impact a teenager's, a tween's, or a child's mental health and emotional regulation and behavior. Listen and learn how substances in foods and beverages your
#208: Are All Those Emails From School Harming Your Relationship With Your Teen?
You know all those emails, texts (or even calls) you receive from your teen or tween's school about their assignments or grades? How do they make you feel? How do they influence your parenting?Join me today as I advise you on how to avoid the issues these communications can cause between you and your teen.And you'll want to read today's Substack post where I talk about the mistakes
#207: Is Your Idea Of A “Successful Life” Steering Your Teen Away From Theirs?
I have a special mini-episode today based on my time away in the mountains of Virginia this weekend with my stepdaughter and her boyfriend. My stepchildren are so very similar in intellect and temperament but their personalities and lifestyles couldn't be more different. This weekend's experience left me pondering (once again) the way we teach our teens the meaning of success or having a
#206: Does Your Teen or Tween Really Need Residential Treatment, Wilderness, etc.?
Having talked to Casie Fariello (Other Parents Like Me) on the podcast last week about her son’s mental health struggle and their experience with his inpatient treatment, followed by a Substack post about getting insurance to pay for residential treatment—I realized I still had more to say on this topic.So, on today’s episode, I explain that sending your teen away from home for treatment for their
#205: A Mom’s Struggle With Her Teen = Support For Other Parents Like You (with Casie Fariello)
In today's episode I'm speaking with Casie Fariello of the parenting support platform, Other Parents Like Me.All three of Casie's teens struggled with their mental health but it was her middle child that required a residential treatment center and a therapeutic boarding school. Her experience navigating these issues led her to launch her company to help support other parents like he
#204: The Pervasive Impact Of Emotional Dysregulation For Teens With ADHD
Parenting a teenager can be difficult--full stop. But parenting a teen or tween with ADHD often presents next-level issues that we often don't associate with ADHD. These issues have more to do with an inability to manage their emotions than focus on schoolwork. Emotional dysregulation is an often overlooked symptom of ADHD that can wreak havoc in adolescents' (and parents') lives.To
#203: Your Teen’s Behavior Isn’t Your Fault, But You Play A Role And Have Control
Human behavior is complicated and depends on many factors including our own thoughts and emotions (which are impacted by the behavior of those around us).Adolescent behavior is further complicated by neurobiological changes. Their thoughts and emotions are not at all like ours and they don’t have the self-control that we have. So, while we’re not necessarily at fault when our teen misbehaves, we d
#202: Parenting Mistakes That Cause Conflict and Behavior Issues With Your Teen
If you just knew what to do to avoid all those arguments, power struggles and temper tantrums with your teen, right?!Well, that's what I'm hear to tell you about today. As parents of teens and tweens there are a handful of really big mistakes most of us make that cause us so much grief and we don't even realize it.Listen in and learn how to avoid so much of the conflict, the temper
#201: Decrease Conflict With Your Teen While Improving Your Relationship And Their Behavior
In today's 201st episode of Speaking of Teens, I'm sharing the framework I teach inside Parent Camp, how I developed that framework, and why Parent Camp may just be the answer you've been looking for.If you've been listening to the podcast but you're still trying to figure out how to implement some of the strategies I discuss, you just might need the extra help you'll
#200: The More You Punish Your Teen, The Worse Their Behavior Will Become
There's no world in which, after punishing, lecturing, or yelling at your teen for their misdeeds, they will say: "Thank you for that. I now understand the error of my ways and I will henceforth endeavor to adhere to your behavioral standards." Not gonna' happen.In this 200th episode of Speaking of Teens, let me help you understand why authoritarian, obedience-first, behavior-f
#199: How To Change Your Teen’s Behavior When Nothing Else Has Worked
If you're at the end of your rope with your teen, feeling lost, anxious, wondering where you've gone wrong--this episode's for you.Maybe your teen's using substances, not listening, angry all the time, getting in trouble, or really struggling with their mental health. It's easy to become overwhelmed, anxious, angry, or to feel completely lost.I know exactly how you feel be
#198: Why Doesn’t Your Teen Confide In You (When You’ve Told Them They Can)?
"Why doesn't my teenager share anything with me? They just won't talk to me."It's a common refrain among many parents of teens and tweens. Why is it that it often seems like your teen would rather do almost anything than give you any information about themselves or come to you as their confidant?There are two major reasons: adolescent development and your behavior. Listen
#197: When You and Your Spouse Can’t Agree About How To Parent Your Teen
One of the toughest issues about parenting a teen may just be trying to agree on how to parent said teen, with your spouse.If you're having a hard time agreeing on teen parenting issues with your spouse, this episode's for you.Today, I’ll explain how to have a few key conversations with your spouse that will help you get on the same page and present a united front to your teen and decrea
#196: Things Parents Do That Make Their Teens' Behavior Much Worse-Part 4
For many generations, parents in Western world have focused on the very short-sighted goal of stopping unacceptable behavior in their kids and teenagers. This has generally been accomplished through harsh parenting tactics such as punishment.Additionally, when parents become afraid or nervous about the behavior their teen or tween is exhibiting, they tend to employ similar harsh parenting tactics.
#195: Things Parents Do That Make Their Teens' Behavior Much Worse-Part 3
Today I'm re-publishing an episode from about 6 months ago that has been extremely popular (and apparently very helpful).As the parent of a teen or tween we often feel frustrated (or even worried) about our kid's behavior. If they would just do what they're supposed to do - if they'd just listen - we wouldn't have any issues.It's hard to imagine any of their behavior
#194: Things Parents Do That Make Their Teens' Behavior Much Worse-Part 2
Today I'm re-publishing an episode from about 6 months ago that has been extremely popular (and apparently very helpful).As the parent of a teen or tween we often feel frustrated (or even worried) about our kid's behavior. If they would just do what they're supposed to do - if they'd just listen - we wouldn't have any issues.It's hard to imagine any of their behavior
#193: Things Parents Do That Make Their Teens' Behavior Much Worse-Part 1
Today I'm re-publishing an episode from about 6 months ago that has been extremely popular (and apparently very helpful).As parents of a teen or tween we're often frustrated, concerned, or even downright anxious about their behavior. We just want them to listen to us and do what they're supposed to do. Is that really too much to ask? Well, it turns out, it just might be. A lot our t
#192: Does Your Innocent Teasing Feel Like Bullying To Your Teen or Tween?
Teasing is a big part of many parents' communication toolbox. But when it comes to teasing teens and tweens, it's easy to accidentally overstep.Teenagers are notorious for misinterpreting parents. Their brains often don't hear what we think we say. You may mean to tease them in a playful manner but they may hear it as criticism. Listen today as I explain the difference between playf
#191: What You Should Know About Parental Controls, Screentime, And Teens
Are you stressed out about your teen’s or tween’s online life? Have recent discussions of banning social media until age 16 making you feel like a horrible parent? Are you constantly fighting over screentime with them?Parenting is 1,000 times more stressful today than it was for our parents thanks to smart phones and social media. And it certainly doesn’t help when there seems to be a new study or
#190: Are You Worried About Your Teen’s Angry, Rude, Entitled, Disrespectful Behavior?
You could be misinterpreting your tween or teen's unpleasant attitude, their emotional meltdowns, their angry tirades, or their rude, entitled, and disrespectful behavior (or you may be at least interpreting it from an uninformed point of view).And the way you think about and interpret your teen or tween's behavior impacts how you feel about it and how you parent them. So, if you don&apo
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#189: Is It Super Difficult To Parent Your Teen? Your Mindsets Could Be The Key
Our mindsets--the way we think about things--impact the way we feel and behave. And there are some particular ways of thinking that make it especially hard to parent teens and tweens.Becoming more aware of a handful of these mindsets can help you change them (and therefore, change your feelings and your parenting behavior). Simple changes can make all the difference in your family dynamic.Join me
#188: Teens, Tweens, Missing Assignments And That Dang Parent Portal!
I'll bet you're like most other parents of tweens and teens and keep a keen eye on their school's parent portal. You're looking for missed assignments, late projects, etc. so you can help them stay on top of things, right? Well, today I'm going to challenge your thinking and your methodology. Is this strategy really helpful? Does it teach your teen or tween to do their wo
#187: Manage Expectations To De-Stress The Holidays With Teens And Tweens
The holidays are incredibly stressful for most of us. And much of this stress is self-imposed. We expect too much of ourselves and we often expect too much of our teens (and we don't even realize it until the disappointment sets in). Join me today as I discuss how to manage your expectations and modify your mindset about your teens so things can be much more relaxed and enjoyable for you and
#186: Understanding And Supporting Your “Troubled Teen” To Help Them Thrive
In today's episode I talk to co-founder of Not Therapy Coaching, Hayley Caddes (you may recall episodes 168 and 169 that I spoke to her co-founder, Colin MacDonald)Hayley, like Colin, is a former "troubled teen" and together they coach teens and young adults through the same trials and struggles they had as teens.Hear Hayley talk about what it's like as a teenager coming out of
#185: A Mom’s Struggle With Emotional Dysregulation Over Her Teen’s Distress (How to Manage Our Own Big Emotions)
Some of us are just less aware of our emotions and less able to manage them well. I'm raising my own hand here!In this episode I "coach" a mom through her emotional dysregulation and try to bring more awareness to where it's coming from so she can manage it better.Show Notes for other resources and sourcesTranscriptFind our FREE Parenting Guides Here"I just wanted to let y
#184: Positive Reinforcement, Negative Consequences, And Teen Substance Use
Today's episode wraps up the series on teen substance use and is a continuation from last week's episode on the methods discussed in the book, Beyond Addiction: How Science and Kindness Help People Change.If your teen or tween is using substances and you want to know how to best motivate them to change their behavior, this episode and last week's episode 183 is for you. Today I&apos
#183: How To Motivate Your Teen To Change Their Relationship With Substances
Today's episode is all about the methods discussed in the book, Beyond Addiction: How Science and Kindness Help People Change. If you're teen is using substances and you want to know how to best motivate them to change their behavior, this is the episode for you. I talk about motivational interviewing and the Community Reinforcement and Family Training (CRAFT) method of communicating wit
#182: “Gas Station Weed”, Delta-8, THCA-Your Teen Can Get High Legally
What the heck is going on down at the convenience store or corner vape shop? They're selling something that looks a whole lot like marijuana, cannabis, or weed. And this stuff (otherwise known as "gas station weed") can get people even higher than the marijuana sold at the legal dispensaries that contain the high-producing, delta-9 THC.Even worse, this stuff is being sold legally to
#181: Does Your Teen Have A Substance Use Disorder, And If So, What To Do
It's such a frightening thought; "Does my teen or tween have a substance use disorder? Is this more than occasional use or experimentation?"How are you supposed to know when your teenager has crossed that line? Who can help you determine if their substance use rises to the level of an "addiction"?Today I'll clarify some terminology, tell you how to figure these things
#180: An Update On Opioids, Fentanyl, And Teens and Tweens In The U.S.
Fentanyl is still a danger to teens and tweens and now there are even other chemicals being thrown in the mix of counterfeit pills that could be even deadlier. However, some expert are saying that it appears there may be less fentanyl in the supply chain in recent months.Additionally, although overall illicit drug use among teens has been decreasing for years, opioid use disorder among adolescents
#179: Your Teen Is Hanging Out With A Crowd Who Uses Substances? Now What?
There's no doubt that teens do risky things around their peers.But just how much influence do those peers have over your teen's use of substances?Can you do anything about the bad influences your teen is hanging out with?What factors do you need to consider?What about your influence? Can you counteract the influence your teen's peers have on them?💯See the list of other episodes and
#178 What To Do When You Find Out Your Teen’s Using Drugs Or Drinking
As a parent, perhaps you've been confronted with this issue: you've found evidence that your teen or tween is vaping, drinking alcohol, smoking marijuana, or using other substances and you have no idea what to do next.You can't think. You're upset, angry, anxious, confused, disappointed, etc. Do you give consequences? Do you call a therapist? What do you even say?I'll tell
#177: Monitoring and Watching Out For Signs Of Substance Use With Your Teens
Research tells us that teens whose parents employ effective monitoring are less likely to engage in risky behaviors like having sex at an early age, smoking, drinking, using drugs, skipping school or being physically injured – they’re also more likely to have better mental health.So "monitoring" works but what does it even mean and how do you do it "effectively"? I'll brea
#176: Do You Know The Risk Factors For Teen Substance Use or Substance Disorder?
This is the second episode in our series on teens, tweens and substance use. Today I want to make sure you understand the risk factors for teen and tween substance use and substance disorders.Familiarizing yourself with the risk factors gives you the opportunity to empower your teen or tween to be proactive in avoiding substances, provide supports systems for them if they need it, and to stay vigi
#175: What Parents Need To Know About Why Teens Use Substances (plus, ways to prevent substance use)
This episode kicks off a series on teens, tweens and substance use that will continue each Tuesday and Friday until I've exhausted issues to talk about! Today, I'll talk to you about the adolescent brain, why it's so prone to risky behaviors like using substances, why it's so much easier to become dependent on those substances, and many of the reasons teens use substances like
#174: Does Your Teen or Tween Need a Mental Health Day Off From School?
What do you think about allowing your teen or tween a mental health day off from school when they ask for it? How do you decide? What should they do with that day off?I'll answer these questions and more in today's episode.Show Notes and TranscriptFind our FREE Parenting Guides Here"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for your podcast! ...I'm so happy I disc
#173: Communicating With Teens and Tweens About Their Friendship Struggles
This episode was prompted by a recent conversation with a parent. This parent needed help validating her teen's feelings about friendship issues, without inserting herself and causing problems in the connection with her teen.What do you do or say when your teen shares with you that a friend has done something horrible to them? How do you acknowledge their feelings about the situation without
#172: Emotional Wounds May Be Keeping You From Being The Parent You Want To Be (with Stacey Uhrig)
None of us come to parenting without our own mindsets, core beliefs, and past emotional experiences. All of this informs us as parents and shapes our thoughts, emotions and behavior related to our kids and teenagers.But too many of us fail to recognize this side of parenting, even when we're desperate to change the dynamic in our home. Very often, parents must address their own emotional woun
#171: Teens, Devices, Beds, and Sleep. Plus, Vaping Stats for U.S. Teens Looking Up
Today I'm sharing the findings from a recent study out of New Zealand, and a report on a new survey out of the U.S. The study sheds light on teens' use of devices before bed and in the bed. And the survey finally gives us some good news about vaping and teenagers. Show Notes and TranscriptFind our FREE Parenting Guides Here"I just wanted to let you know that I'm so thankful for
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