Adult Child of Dysfunction
Adult Child of Dysfunction, hosted by Tammy Vincent, explores the lifelong impact of growing up in a chaotic, dysfunctional household marked by addiction, neglect, and abuse. Vincent, herself an adult child of two alcoholic parents, shares personal stories and insights while interviewing experts. The show covers healing through mindfulness, NLP, transformational coaching, and other modalities. It aims to help listeners who have survived childhood trauma move from darkness to confidence and empowerment, whether they are early in their healing journey or further along.
Episodes
E 383: When Loving Your Parents Hurts: Boundaries, Guilt & Going No Contact with Dr. Sharon Martin
What do you do when the relationship you're desperately trying to save is with the very people who hurt you in the first place?Maybe you've tried communicating differently. You've forgiven. You've set boundaries. You've gone to therapy. You've given another chance—and then another.But nothing really changes.And when you finally consider stepping back, limiting contact, or even going no contact wit
E 382: Tammys Takes #51 Is This Really Me—or Who I Learned to Be?
How much of your personality is really you—and how much of it developed because of what your family needed you to be?Maybe you're the responsible one, the helper, the peacekeeper, the high achiever, or the person who never needs anything. Maybe you've always described yourself as independent, easygoing, or a people-pleaser.But have you ever stopped and asked:Is that actually who I am—or is that wh
E 381: The Past Is Still Present: Generational Trauma, Identity & Finding Yourself with Margaret Eastman Smith
How much of who you are is actually you—and how much was handed to you by your family, your culture, your religion, and generations that came before you?In this episode of the Adult Child of Dysfunction Podcast, I sit down with author, historian, and educator Margaret Eastman Smith for a fascinating conversation about generational trauma, family history, identity, belonging, and what happens when
E 380 : Tammys Takes #50 Why Your Emotional Triggers Feel So Intense _ Childhood Trauma & the Nervous System
Have you ever had a relatively small situation create a surprisingly big emotional reaction?Someone doesn’t text you back. Your partner’s tone changes. Someone seems irritated. You feel left out, criticized, or unappreciated—and suddenly your mind is creating an entire story about what it means.If you grew up in a dysfunctional or unpredictable family, there may be a reason those moments feel so i
E 379: Why Adult Children React Instead of Respond | Emotional Sobriety with Meagan DeMatteo
What does emotional sobriety mean for adult children of alcoholics and dysfunctional families? If childhood trauma taught you to stay on guard, people please, expect disappointment, overreact to triggers, or constantly prepare for what might go wrong, you may still be reacting to life through survival patterns you learned years ago.In Part Two of my conversation with Meagan DeMatteo, author of Emo
E 378: Tammys Takes #49: When Your Nervous System Learned That Silence Was Safer
Have you ever walked away from a conversation thinking, Why didn't I say something? I knew exactly what I wanted to say—why couldn't I say it?Maybe someone crossed a boundary and you froze. Maybe you automatically said, “It's fine,” even though it wasn't. Maybe someone asked what you wanted and you immediately said, “I don't care.” Then, 20 minutes later, when you were safely by yourself, all the
E 377: Silence Was My First Language: Breaking the Cycle of Trauma & Addiction with Rich Dunning
What happens when silence becomes your first survival skill?Rich Dunning spent much of his childhood learning that staying quiet could keep him safe. Growing up surrounded by violence, poverty, instability, food insecurity and addiction, Rich learned how to survive long before he ever had the chance to simply be a child.At just seven years old, alcohol entered his life. By 16, Rich was homeless, s
E 376: Tammys Takes #48: Your Brain Keeps Rehearsing a Life That Isn’t Happening
Do you rehearse conversations before they happen, anticipate how someone will react, or find yourself worrying about problems that don't even exist yet?For many adult children of dysfunctional families, overthinking and catastrophizing aren't just bad habits. They can be old survival patterns.In my conversation with Chris Wasco, we talked about what she calls “recycled thoughts”—replaying past exp
E 375: Did Childhood Trauma Teach You to Stop Trusting Yourself? Guest: Chris Wasko
What happens when you grow up learning not to trust what you see, feel, or know?In this episode of the Adult Child of Dysfunction Podcast, I sit down with Chris Wasko, energy healer, spiritual counselor, psychic medium, creator of Spicy Old Souls, and author of An Old Soul's Journey: A Guide to Inner Child Healing and Conscious Evolution.Chris shares her experience growing up with narcissistic and
E 374: Tammys #47: What Is Your Behavior Trying to Protect You From?
Why do we keep doing things we know aren't helping us?Maybe you drink to relax.Maybe you reach for food when you're not hungry.Maybe you disappear into your phone.Maybe you procrastinate, overwork, people please, isolate, shop, shut down, or stay so busy that you never have to sit with what you're feeling.Then comes the judgment:“Why do I keep doing this?”“Why can't I just stop?”“What is wrong wit
E 373: Binge Drinking, Childhood Pain & the Story Beneath the Behavior: Guest Colleen Clifford
Binge drinking, gray area drinking, childhood pain, shame, and the hidden reasons we reach for alcohol with Life Beyond the Binge author Colleen Clifford.You don't drink every day. You don't drink alone. You can go weeks without alcohol. So you couldn't possibly have a drinking problem... right?In this episode of the Adult Child of Dysfunction Podcast, I sit down with Colleen Clifford, author of L
E 372: Tammys Takes #46: When Did You Stop Trusting Your Own Voice?
Have you ever had something you desperately wanted to say... but stopped yourself?Maybe someone hurt your feelings and you immediately thought:“I'm probably overreacting.”Maybe you wanted to say no, but heard yourself say yes.Maybe you knew something didn't feel right, but talked yourself out of it.Or maybe you've spent so much of your life worrying about what everyone else thinks, feels, wants, a
E 371: You Are More Than Your Diagnosis: BPD, Childhood Trauma & Reclaiming Your Voice with Dene Dubois
What happens when a diagnosis finally gives you an explanation for why you've struggled—but then starts becoming another label you carry?In this jpowerful episode, I sit down with Dene Dubois, for an incredibly open conversation about borderline personality disorder, childhood trauma, abandonment, trust, shame, relationships, and what it means to take your personal power back.Dene shares his exper
E 370: Tammy's Takes #45: What If They Misunderstand You?
Have you ever set a boundary... and then immediately felt the need to explain it?And then explain your explanation?Maybe you soften what you said, send another text, replay the conversation for hours, or start wondering whether you did something wrong.For many adult children of dysfunctional families, being misunderstood doesn’t just feel uncomfortable. It can feel unsafe.In this week’s Tammy’s Ta
E 369: Becoming Trigger Proof/ Guest Nima Rahmany
Why do some relationships feel safe while others leave you anxious, overwhelmed, or constantly questioning yourself? The answer may have less to do with your partner—and far more to do with the attachment patterns your nervous system learned in childhood.In this episode of the Adult Child of Dysfunction Podcast, I sit down with Dr. Nima Rahmany, creator of the Becoming Trigger Proof® methodology,
E 368: Tammy's Takes #44: Did Childhood Trauma Become Your Personality?
Have you ever stopped to wonder if the person you think you are... is actually the person you had to become to survive?In this week's Tammy's Takes, I'm reflecting on one of the most thought-provoking ideas from my conversation with author Megan DeMatteo, and taking it one step further. As adult children, many of us spend years believing that our people-pleasing, perfectionism, anxiety, hypervigil
E 367: Inner Child Healing with Megan DeMatteo
Have you ever wondered why it's so hard to know who you really are after growing up in a dysfunctional family? Why setting boundaries feels uncomfortable, emotions feel overwhelming, or you find yourself living from survival instead of authenticity?In this episode of the Adult Child of Dysfunction Podcast, I sit down with writer and author Megan DeMatteo to explore the healing power of journaling,
E 366: Tammys Takes #43: Healing Isn't A Race
Have you ever listened to a podcast, read a book, or had a conversation that unexpectedly left you feeling anxious, emotional, or overwhelmed? Maybe your first thought was, "Why am I still getting triggered?" or "Shouldn't I be further along by now?"If so, this week's Tammy's Takes is for you.Inspired by my conversation with Rachel, I wanted to remind you of something we often forget: healing isn'
E 365: You Can Heal After Trauma: PTSD, Self-Compassion & Finding Yourself Again with Rachel Buckmaster
What if healing from trauma isn't about becoming the person you were before it happened, but learning to understand and have compassion for the person you are today?In this episode of Adult Child of Dysfunction, I sit down with Rachel Buckmaster for an honest conversation about living with PTSD and what healing has actually looked like for her.Rachel was diagnosed with PTSD at 18 and has spent yea
E 364: Tammys Takes #42: Trauma Isn't the Event—It's the Aftermathaudio
Have you ever caught yourself wondering, "Was my childhood really that bad?" Maybe you've compared your experiences to others and convinced yourself that because someone else had it worse, your struggles today shouldn't matter.But what if that's the wrong question?In this week's Tammy's Takes, I'm reflecting on one of the most powerful moments from my conversation with trauma specialist Stacey Uhr
E 363: You Don't Need "Big Trauma" to Be Traumatized | Stacey Uhrig
What if your childhood trauma didn't look like trauma?Many adult children grow up believing they "didn't have it that bad." Yet they still struggle with anxiety, people-pleasing, perfectionism, low self-worth, and feeling like they have to earn love.In this episode of the Adult Child of Dysfunction Podcast, Tammy Vincent sits down with Certified Trauma Care Practitioner Stacey Uhrig to explore why
E 362: Tammys Takes #41 How Childhood Trauma Keeps Your Nervous System Stuck in Survival Mode
Why do so many adult children of dysfunctional families struggle with anxiety, people-pleasing, overthinking, and feeling like they can never truly relax?In this episode of Tammy's Takes, trauma coach Tammy Vincent explores one of the most powerful lessons from her conversation with Holly Haag: healing begins the day you become your own safe person.Growing up in dysfunction teaches us to survive b
E 361: How Childhood Trauma Became Autoimmune Disease with Holly Haag
What if your body has been carrying your childhood trauma long after your mind tried to forget it?In this powerful episode, Tammy sits down with Holly Haag, holistic health coach and founder of The Healing Haul, whose life was shaped by severe childhood abuse, generational trauma, and multiple autoimmune diagnoses—including Multiple Sclerosis. Through years of research and personal healing, Holly
E 360: Tammys 'Takes #40 Your Body Is Trying To Tell You Something... How About Listening
What if your anxiety, exhaustion, muscle tension, digestive issues, or chronic stress weren't random at all?What if your body has been trying to communicate with you for years—and you simply haven't been taught how to listen?In this Tammy's Take, Tammy Vincent builds on her conversation with trauma integration specialist Hannah Dalby and explores one of the most overlooked parts of healing: the me
E 359: Your Body Never Lies: Guest Hannah Dalby
What if the anxiety, chronic stress, people-pleasing, relationship struggles, and even physical symptoms you've been carrying aren't personality traits at all—but survival patterns your nervous system learned years ago?In this powerful episode, Tammy sits down with Hannah Dalby, founder of The Jungle, trauma integration specialist, former professional athlete, and host of the Into the Jungle Podca
E 356: Tammys' Takes #39 Your Triggers Aren't the Problem—They're the Clues
Have you ever wondered why something seemingly small can create such a big emotional reaction?In this Tammy's Take, Tammy builds on her conversation with author David Deane Haskell and explains why our strongest emotional reactions often have very little to do with what's happening today—and everything to do with what happened years ago.You'll learn why your nervous system isn't overreacting... it
E 357: The Inner Child, Shame and Healing Guest David Deane Haskell
What if your struggles with food, addiction, relationships, or self-worth were never really about those things at all?In this powerful conversation, Tammy sits down with author David Deane Haskell to explore the hidden wounds that shape our adult lives. David shares his deeply personal journey through childhood trauma, addiction, codependency, shame, and the transformational power of inner child h
E 356: Tammy's Takes #38: Healing Doesn't Always Start with Talking
What if healing doesn't begin with talking... but with expressing?In this episode of Tammy's Takes, I build on my conversation with poet and Positive Psychology Coach Michael Teferi and explore one of the most overlooked parts of healing: giving your pain somewhere to go. Whether it's writing, journaling, painting, music, prayer, or simply speaking your truth, expression is often the first step to
E 355: How Poetry, Purpose, and Self-Expression Can Help You Heal | with Michael Teferi
Can writing really help heal emotional wounds?In this episode of Adult Child of Dysfunction, Tammy sits down with poet and Positive Psychology Coach Michael Teferi to discuss growing up with bullying, finding resilience through poetry, and using creative expression as a pathway toward healing and personal growth.Michael shares how painful childhood experiences shaped his compassion instead of his
E 354: Tammy's Takes #37: Why Trauma Hijacks Your Attention (And How to Reclaim It)
Have you ever wondered why your mind won't slow down?Why you replay conversations...Doom scroll...Jump from one task to another...Or constantly worry about what might happen next?What if your attention isn't broken at all?In this week's Tammy's Takes, Tammy Vincent builds on her conversation with Kira Shishkin, CEO of Informed Now, to explore a deeper question:What is your attention trying to prot
E 353: How Trauma, Brain Injury & Media Hijack Your Attention with Guest: Kira Shishkin
What if the most valuable thing you own isn't your time... but your attention?In this powerful conversation, Tammy welcomes Kira Shishkin, CEO of informed.now and Forbes 30 Under 30 entrepreneur, whose life changed forever after surviving a devastating childhood car accident that left him in a coma with severe brain injuries and amnesia.Kira shares his remarkable story of rebuilding his life from
E 352: Tammy's Takes #36: Your Triggers Are Trying To Tell You Something
Have you ever found yourself thinking..."Why did I react like that?"Maybe someone didn't text you back.Maybe your boss gave you feedback.Maybe your partner used the wrong tone of voice.Logically, you know it shouldn't have affected you that much...Yet emotionally, it felt overwhelming.In this week's Tammy's Takes, we're building on my powerful conversation with David Dean Haskell, author of Wounde
E351: Why Your Childhood Still Controls Your Reactions | David Deane Haskell
Have you ever wondered why something seemingly small can trigger such a huge emotional reaction?Why does being left out, criticized, or rejected sometimes feel far bigger than the moment itself?The answer may not be in your present—it may be in your childhood.In this powerful episode, I sit down with David Deane Haskell, author of Wounded Angels and Inner Child Unleashed, to explore the life-chang
E 350: Tammys Takes #35: Why You Still Feel Invisible (Even as an Adult)
Have you ever walked into a room and immediately tried to make yourself smaller?Do you apologize when you've done nothing wrong?Stay quiet even when you have something valuable to say?Feel like everyone else's needs matter more than your own?If so, you may still be living from a survival pattern that began in childhood.In this episode of Tammy's Takes, we're building on my recent conversation with
E349: From Childhood Trauma to Hope: Chris Milson on Suicide, Boundaries & Healing Your Mental Health
What happens when you spend your entire childhood feeling invisible?For many adult children of dysfunction, the deepest wounds aren't always physical—they're emotional. Feeling unseen. Feeling unheard. Believing you don't matter.In this incredibly honest conversation, I sit down with Chris Milson, host of the Mental Health Movement Podcast: Voice for the Voiceless, to talk about what it's really l
E 348: Tammy's Take #34: The Childhood Voice That's Still Running Your Life
Have you ever caught yourself thinking..."I'm not good enough.""I always mess things up.""Why can't I get anything right?"What if those thoughts aren't actually yours?In this week's Tammy's Takes, Tammy builds on a powerful insight from her conversation with transformational guide Isabelle Chiara and explores how the voices we heard growing up often become the voice we hear inside our own heads.If
E 346: Tammy's Take #33: 5 Signs Your Nervous System May Still Feel Unsafe
What if you're not actually healed...What if you've simply become really good at surviving?In this episode of Tammy's Takes, trauma-informed coach Tammy Vincent explores one of the most powerful lessons from her recent conversation with bestselling author Janice Erlbaum.Although Janice's story of leaving home at just fifteen years old is extraordinary, the way her nervous system adapted isn't unco
E 345: From Teenage Homelessness to Healing: The Story Behind Girlbomb: Guest Janice Erlbaum
What does it take to survive an abusive childhood—and what does it really take to heal?In this deeply moving episode of Adult Child of Dysfunction, Tammy Vincent sits down with bestselling memoirist Janice Erlbaum, author of Girlbomb: A Halfway Homeless Memoir, to explore the lasting impact of childhood trauma, domestic violence, homelessness, and the remarkable resilience of the human spirit.At j
E 344: Tammy's Take #32: How To Change the Story Your Mind is Telling You
What if the biggest thing holding you back isn't your past...It's the story your past taught you to believe?In this episode of Tammy's Takes, trauma-informed coach Tammy Vincent explores one of the most powerful concepts from her recent conversation with therapist Aaron Gilbert: your default story.Many adult children of dysfunctional families unknowingly carry childhood beliefs into adulthood—beli
E 343: Why You Keep Repeating the Same Unhealthy Patterns: Guest: Aaron Gilbert
What if the biggest thing holding you back isn't your past...It's the story your past taught you to believe?In this powerful episode of Adult Child of Dysfunction, Tammy Vincent sits down with licensed therapist Aaron Gilbert, founder of Boston Evening Therapy Associates, to explore one of the most important concepts in healing from childhood trauma: your default story.From the moment we're born,
E 342: Tammy's Takes #31: Why Adult Children Struggle to Trust Themselves
Have you ever noticed how quickly you ask everyone else what they think before asking yourself?If you grew up in a dysfunctional home, that isn't because you're indecisive—it's because you learned to survive by paying attention to everyone else's needs before your own.In this week's Tammy's Takes, I expand on one of the biggest takeaways from my conversation with therapist and author Shari Foos: l
E 341: What If Healing Isn't About Fixing Yourself… But Finding Yourself Again? : Guest Shari Foos
n this heartfelt episode of Adult Child of Dysfunction, I sit down with therapist, author, and founder of The Narrative Method, Shari Foos, to explore how writing can become one of the most powerful tools for healing childhood trauma.Many adult children of dysfunctional families learned early in life to stay quiet, suppress their emotions, and become whoever they needed to be just to survive. Over
E 340: Tammy's Take #30;The 5 Reasons Your Nervous System Won't Let You Rest
Have you ever been completely exhausted... but the moment your head hits the pillow, your mind comes alive?Maybe you replay conversations from the day. Maybe you worry about tomorrow. Maybe you wake up at 2:00 or 3:00 in the morning and can't get back to sleep.What if the problem isn't that you can't sleep?What if your nervous system simply doesn't feel safe enough to rest?In this episode of Tammy
E 339: Can't Sleep? The Natural Breathwork Method That's Helping Thousands Sleep Better/ Guest Tim Thomasaudio1930963873
Sleep isn't a luxury.It's the foundation of your mental health, emotional resilience, physical healing, and nervous system regulation.In this powerful episode, Tammy sits down with Tim Thomas, creator of the Breathwork in Bed app and a former military veteran who transformed his own struggle with chronic insomnia into a mission to help others sleep naturally.After losing six years of his life to p
E 338: Tammy's Take #29 Notice, Name, Next Step: A Simple Tool for When You Feel Triggered
What if your thoughts are not always telling you the truth?For many adult children of dysfunction, anxious thoughts do not just feel like thoughts. They feel like warnings. They feel like facts. They feel like instructions we have to follow in order to stay safe.“They are mad at me.”“I am going to mess this up.”“I need to fix this.”“I should stay quiet.”“I am too much.”“I am not enough.”In this Ta
E 337:You Don’t Have to Fix Your Thoughts to Heal: The Power of Psychological Flexibility Guest Elisabeth Morray
What if healing is not about getting rid of painful thoughts, fixing every feeling, or becoming a completely different person?In this powerful episode of Adult Child of Dysfunction, Tammy Vincent sits down with Dr. Elisabeth Morray, licensed psychologist, acceptance and commitment therapy expert, and VP of Clinical at Alma.Dr. Morray introduces the concept of psychological flexibility—the ability
E 336: Tammy's Take #28: The Trigger-to-Truth Method: Why Your Past Is Still Running Your Present
Why does a simple text message, a difficult conversation, or a little bit of criticism sometimes feel so overwhelming?The answer may surprise you.In this episode of Tammy's Takes, Tammy introduces her powerful Trigger-to-Truth Method—a simple but transformative tool designed to help you identify emotional triggers, uncover the fears hiding beneath them, and recognize when your past is influencing
E 335: You Have Permission to Save Your Life, Guest: Sarah Hanson
What happens when the survival skills that protected you as a child begin holding you back as an adult?In this powerful episode of Adult Child of Dysfunction, Tammy sits down with author, poet, and memoirist Sarah Hanson to discuss growing up in a dysfunctional family, the hidden impact of emotional abuse, and the lifelong journey of reclaiming your authentic self.Sarah shares her experience of be
E 334: Tammy's Take #28: What Your Body Is Trying to Tell You (And Why You're Missing It)
What if anxiety isn't the problem?What if people-pleasing isn't the problem?What if overthinking isn't the problem?What if they're all messengers?In this powerful Tammy's Takes episode, Tammy explores one of the most important lessons from her conversation with voice coach Barbara McAfee: the emotions, needs, and experiences we suppress don't simply disappear—they often find another way to be hear
E 333: The Hidden Cost of Staying Quiet: Guest Barbara McAfee
What happens when it isn't safe to speak?For many adult children of dysfunction, silence became a survival strategy long before they ever realized it. Whether it was fear, criticism, neglect, abuse, or simply growing up in a home where emotions weren't welcome, many learned to suppress their voice in order to stay safe.In this powerful conversation, Tammy sits down with voice coach, author, speake
E 332: Tammys Takes #27: 5 Signs You're Grieving Something You Haven't Identified Yet
What if you're not stuck?What if you're grieving?In this powerful follow-up to my conversation with John Kammer of Guardian AIngels, we're diving into a truth that many people never consider: grief doesn't only happen when someone dies.We grieve lost relationships, lost opportunities, lost dreams, lost health, childhoods we never had, and versions of ourselves we thought we'd become.The problem is
E331: How AI Is Changing Grief Support: Finding Healing Without Letting Go | John Kammer
What if healing from grief didn't mean letting go?In this powerful episode, Tammy sits down with John Kammer, founder of Guardian AIngels, an innovative AI-powered grief support platform designed to help people process loss through guided reflection, journaling, and meaningful conversations.After losing three of his closest friends, including one to suicide, John found himself carrying years of un
E 330: Tammy's Take #28: Why You Keep Repeating The Same Patterns
Why do we keep doing things we know aren't good for us?Why do we keep overreacting, people pleasing, overthinking, numbing out, procrastinating, or sabotaging our own success—even when we know better?In this Tammy's Takes episode, Tammy builds on her recent conversation with Kathryn Eipl, founder of EIPL Healing and creator of the Neuro Resonance Method, to explore one of the biggest misconception
E 329: Self-Sabotage, Stress, and Nervous System Healing with Kathryn Eipl
What if the struggles you're experiencing aren't character flaws—but nervous system patterns that were created long before you knew they existed?In this powerful episode of Adult Child of Dysfunction, Tammy sits down with Kathryn Eipl, founder of EIPL Healing and creator of the Neuro-Resonance Method, to explore the connection between emotional patterns, nervous system regulation, self-sabotage, a
E 328: Tammy's Take #27: How To Have The Hard Conversations
In this episode of Tammy's Takes, Tammy explores one of the most important lessons from her recent conversation with Kaylin Peete of the Family Online Safety Institute: the real issue isn't technology—it's connection.As parents, caregivers, educators, and mentors, many of us worry about social media, screen time, AI, and online safety. But beneath those concerns lies a deeper question:Do our child
E 327: Are We Losing Our Kids to Their Screens? Guest Kaylin Peete
How do we keep kids safe online without creating fear, shame, or disconnection?In this important conversation, Tammy sits down with Kaylin Peete, Program Specialist at the Family Online Safety Institute (FOSI) and former educator, to discuss the growing challenges families face in today's digital world.From social media and online gaming to AI chatbots and screen time, technology is shaping how ch
E 326: Tammy's Take #26: Why You're Still Triggered, and What Your Body Is Trying to Tell You
In this episode of Tammy's Takes, Tammy explores one of the most powerful lessons from her recent conversation with women's health expert Kirsten Karchmer:What if your symptoms aren't the problem?What if they're the message?Too often we treat anxiety, overwhelm, emotional reactions, self-doubt, and chronic stress as things to eliminate. But what if your body is actually trying to communicate somet
E 324: Tammy Takes #25: 5 Things to Do when you feel stuck , overwhelmed or lost
Feeling stuck, overwhelmed, anxious, or emotionally exhausted?In this episode of Tammy’s Takes, Tammy pulls powerful lessons from her conversation with Kym Coco and shares five practical ways to start moving forward when life feels heavy, uncertain, or completely overwhelming.Whether you’re navigating grief, anxiety, burnout, childhood trauma, nervous system dysregulation, life transitions, or jus
E 325: The Hidden Fertility Factors Doctors Miss with Kirsten Karchmer
What if infertility isn't simply a hormone problem?In this eye-opening episode of Adult Child of Dysfunction, Tammy sits down with fertility expert, healthcare innovator, and Conceivable founder Kirsten Karchmer to explore the hidden factors that impact fertility, reproductive health, and overall wellness.After helping more than 10,000 women in clinical practice, Kirsten discovered that many women
E 323: The Mind-Body Connection to Healing, Confidence & Resilience with Kym Coco
How do you rebuild yourself after loss, grief, anxiety, or a major life transition?In this deeply meaningful episode of Adult Child of Dysfunction, Tammy sits down with author, speaker, yoga teacher, and founder of Swagtail Yoga, Kym Coco, to explore how movement, mindfulness, breathwork, and nervous system regulation can help us heal.After experiencing profound loss following her husband’s illnes
E 322: Tammys Take #24: Why You Still Don’t Trust Yourself After Growing Up in Dysfunction
Why do so many adult children of dysfunction struggle to trust themselves?In this episode of Tammy’s Takes, Tammy pulls from her powerful conversation with therapist Kara Lissy to unpack one of the biggest hidden wounds of growing up in dysfunction: losing trust in yourself.If you grew up around addiction, emotional neglect, criticism, unpredictability, narcissism, or chaos, you may have learned t
E 321: Growing Up in Dysfunction: Healing Shame, Trauma & People Pleasing Guest Kara Lissy
What happens when childhood dysfunction follows you into adulthood?In this deeply healing episode of Adult Child of Dysfunction, Tammy sits down with licensed therapist and ACOA specialist Kara Lissy to unpack the lasting effects of growing up in an alcoholic or dysfunctional home.Together, they explore childhood trauma, nervous system dysregulation, people pleasing, grief, shame, perfectionism, e
E 320: Tammys takes #23: Emotional Numbness, Childhood Trauma & Nervous System Healing
Are you functioning but not really feeling?If you grew up in dysfunction, emotional neglect, addiction, chaos, criticism, or unpredictability, emotional numbness may have become a survival response.In this episode of Tammy’s Takes, Tammy Vincent follows up on her conversation with Megan Margherio to explore why adult children of dysfunction often feel disconnected from themselves, struggle with ne
E 319: How Childhood Trauma Creates Emotional Numbness + How to Heal | Megan Margherio
What happens after survival?If you grew up in dysfunction, emotional neglect, abuse, addiction, or chaos, chances are you learned how to survive. But what happens when survival mode becomes emotional numbness? What happens when you no longer feel the pain… but you also can’t fully feel the joy?In this deeply powerful and validating conversation, Tammy sits down with trauma-informed embodiment coac
E 318: Tammys Takes #22: Your Child Isn't The Trigger.. Your Nervous System Is
In this powerful Tammy’s Takes episode of Adult Child of Dysfunction, Tammy Vincent expands on her conversation with Irin Rubin, founder of Mama Zen, to explore a difficult but important truth:Your child may not actually be the trigger… your nervous system is.If you’ve ever found yourself snapping, yelling, shutting down, feeling overstimulated, or wondering:“Why am I reacting this strongly?”This
E 317: Breaking Generational Cycles: How to Stop Reacting and Parent with Calm | Irin Rubin
In this powerful episode of Adult Child of Dysfunction, Tammy Vincent sits down with Irin Rubin, Founder and CEO of Mama Zen, a global mental wellness platform helping parents regulate anxiety, emotional overwhelm, and parenting triggers through nervous system support and emotional regulation tools. Inspired by her own motherhood struggles, Erin created Mama Zen as a practical solution that is now
E 316: Tammys take #21 3 Steps To Making Your Body Feel Safe
In this powerful Tammy’s Takes episode of Adult Child of Dysfunction, Tammy Vincent expands on her conversation with Lori Montre and explores one of the biggest frustrations in healing: Why do we keep repeating the same patterns even when we know where they come from?If you’ve ever thought:“I know why I do this… so why can’t I stop?”This episode is for you.Tammy dives into why awareness alone does
E315: You Are Not the Problem: Healing Childhood Trauma, Nervous System Regulation & Breaking Survival Patterns with Lori Montry
In this deeply healing episode of Adult Child of Dysfunction, Tammy sits down with Lori Montre, trauma-informed coach, former corporate lawyer, and author of You’re Not the Problem, for a powerful conversation about childhood trauma, nervous system regulation, emotional eating, people-pleasing, hypervigilance, and healing the patterns that keep us stuck.Lori shares her personal story of surviving
E 314: Tammy's Take #20: You Don't Need Perfect Parents: You Need One Safe Person
In this heartfelt Tammy’s Takes episode of Adult Child of Dysfunction, Tammy expands on a powerful concept from her conversation with child advocate and trauma-informed clinician Paula Yost: sometimes healing doesn’t begin with perfect circumstances—it begins with one safe person.Tammy explores how childhood dysfunction shapes the nervous system and why so many adults struggle with anxiety, people
E313: Foster Care, Trauma & Hope: What Every Child Really Needs | Paula Yost
In this powerful episode of Adult Child of Dysfunction, Tammy Vincent sits down with attorney, licensed mental health clinician, child advocate, and author Paula Yost to explore the complex intersection of trauma, foster care, mental health, and advocacy. Paula shares her unique perspective as both a legal professional and trauma-informed clinician, bringing deep compassion and real-world insight
E 312: Tammy's Take #19: Awareness Isn’t Healing: Why You Still Feel Stuck
Why do you keep repeating the same patterns… even when you know exactly where they come from?In this powerful Tammy’s Take, Tammy Vincent breaks down one of the most misunderstood parts of healing: awareness.Because awareness is not just understanding your childhood or knowing why you react the way you do. Real healing begins when you can catch the pattern while it’s happening.If you’ve ever thoug
Ep 311: The Truth About Trauma: Healing, Patterns, and Your Story | Scott Stolarick
In this episode of Adult Child of Dysfunction, Tammy Vincent sits down with trauma-informed therapist Scott Stolarick to explore the true complexity of trauma—and how it impacts both victims and those who cause harm.With over 30 years of clinical experience, Scott brings a rare and powerful perspective, having worked on both sides of trauma in the correctional system and private practice. Together
E 310: Tammys Takes #18: What Happened to You Shaped You… But It Doesn’t Define You
What if the patterns you struggle with today… aren’t who you are?In this episode of Tammy’s Takes, Tammy builds on her powerful conversation with David Latour to explore how growing up in dysfunction shapes your behaviors, beliefs, and identity—but doesn’t have to define your future.If you’ve ever found yourself saying, “this is just who I am,” whether it’s anxiety, reactivity, overthinking, or di
E 309: Soda: Growing Up in Addiction, Trauma, and Survival with David La Torre
In this powerful episode of Adult Child of Dysfunction, Tammy Vincent sits down with David La Torre, author of the upcoming memoir Soda, to explore what it was really like growing up in a household shaped by addiction, secrecy, and survival.David shares raw and deeply personal stories from his childhood in suburban America, where cocaine use and chaos hid behind what looked like a “normal” life. F
E 308: Tammys Takes #17: Should I Stay or Go? When The Relationship Feels OFF
In this Tammy’s Takes follow-up to her conversation with relationship coach Karen Spetz, Tammy Vincent dives deeper into one of the most confusing emotional spaces in relationships — feeling “not unhappy… but not happy either.”This episode explores why so many women find themselves stuck in relationships that feel calm but disconnected, and how nervous system patterns from childhood can keep us ch
E 307: Stay or Leave? The Truth About Relationships No One Talks About: Guest Karyn Spetz
In this episode of Adult Child of Dysfunction, Tammy Vincent sits down with relationship coach Karen Spetz to explore one of the most emotionally complex questions many women face: “Should I stay or should I go?”Karen specializes in helping women navigate this crossroads, especially during seasons of personal growth, identity shifts, and midlife transitions. Together, Tammy and Karen unpack why th
E 306: You Don't Need More Discipline- You Need This Instead
What if the reason you keep falling back into the same patterns… isn’t a lack of discipline?In this episode of Tammy’s Takes, Tammy breaks down one of the biggest misconceptions in personal growth—and why trying to “just be more disciplined” is actually keeping you stuck.Building off her conversation with therapist Jennifer Schrappe, Tammy explains how behaviors like emotional eating, overthinking
E305: Understanding Emotional Eating, Shame & Food Addiction Recovery: Guest Jennifer Schrappe
What if success isn’t the answer… but part of what’s keeping you stuck?In this powerful episode of the Adult Child of Dysfunction Podcast, I sit down with therapist and Chrysalis Enterprises founder Jennifer Schrappe to explore the hidden connection between external success, food addiction, and unresolved emotional pain.From the outside, Jennifer had everything together—but behind the scenes, she
E304: Tammy Takes #15 You’re Not Self-Sabotaging… You’re Protecting Yourself
What if you’re not actually self-sabotaging?In this episode of Tammy’s Takes, we break down one of the most misunderstood patterns in personal growth—and it might completely change the way you see yourself.Building off this week’s conversation with hypnotherapist Peter McLaughlin, Tammy dives into the truth about self-sabotage and why it’s not a sign that something is wrong with you… but a sign th
E 303: Healing Through Hypnosis: Peter McLaughlin's Transformative Experience
What if your biggest struggles aren’t something to “fix”… but something to understand?In this powerful episode of the Adult Child of Dysfunction Podcast, I sit down with certified hypnotherapist and life coach Peter McLaughlin to explore the deep connection between trauma, the subconscious mind, and the patterns that quietly run your life.After being diagnosed with both Lyme disease and leukemia i
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