Be Real with JoDee
Be Real with JoDee is a podcast for teens who want to overcome self-doubt and build confidence. Hosted by life coach JoDee, the show offers honest conversations, faith-based perspectives, and practical tools for managing anxiety and recognizing self-worth. Each episode aims to help young listeners thrive in a world that often sends conflicting messages. The tone is encouraging and relatable, blending personal insights with actionable advice.
Episodes
why I don’t feel sorry for teenagers today
Send me a message!!Everyone talks about how hard it is to be a teenager today. Social media, anxiety, school pressure, friendships, and a world that feels like it’s falling apart. But what if we’ve been so focused on how hard life is that we’ve forgotten how capable we are of handling it?In this episode, we’re talking about why you were born for this time, how the stories you believe affect what y
when they won’t add you to the group chat…
Send me a message!!What do you do when you’re not invited, added to the group chat, or included in the plans?Instead of spending all your energy trying to get people to choose you, what if you took your power back?Start your own group chat. Make your own plans. Invite someone else. Look around for people who might need a friend. You might meet some of your best friends when you stop chasing the pe
Wait… should I be embarrassed?
Send me a message!!Have you ever had someone say something that made you suddenly question yourself?One comment can send your brain into a spiral: “Was I embarrassing? Did I do something wrong? What do they think of me?”That happened to me recently, and it reminded me of something I teach all the time: someone else’s opinion is not a fact about you.In this episode, I’m sharing what happened, how m
the confidence secret nobody teaches teenagers
Send me a message!!What if confidence isn’t something you’re born with… but something you build?In this episode, JoDee breaks down the surprising connection between confidence, identity, and knowing who you are. She shares research involving hundreds of teenagers that found something fascinating: helping teens connect with their personal values and identity can actually help protect their self-est
done is better than perfect!
Send me a message!!Done Is Better Than PerfectDo you ever get so stuck trying to make something perfect that you end up not doing it at all?Maybe you keep rewriting the assignment, overthinking the text, waiting until you feel ready, or telling yourself you’ll start when you can do it “right.”In this episode, we’re talking about perfectionism and how the need to get everything just right can actua
I am too anxious at school.. what do I do?
Send me a message!!Have you ever been at school and thought, “I literally cannot do this. I need to go home”?If you have, this episode is for you.I’m talking about something I see with teens all the time: the anxiety → escape → relief cycle.You feel anxious. You leave. You feel better.So your brain learns, “Leaving worked!”But then the next time you’re anxious, your brain wants to escape even fast
what if it all works out?
Send me a message!!What if the thing holding you back isn’t that you’re not capable… but that you’ve already decided how it’s going to turn out?In this episode, we’re talking about the difference between optimism and pessimism and why being pessimistic can feel like you’re just being “realistic” or protecting yourself, when sometimes it’s actually keeping you from trying, growing, and staying in t
how to feel more confident THIS week
Send me a message!!Do you ever feel like everyone else is naturally confident except you?In this episode, I’m breaking down one of the biggest myths about confidence: that some people are just born with it. The truth is confidence isn’t a personality trait. It’s a skill you build.We’ll talk about why confident people still feel nervous, why waiting to feel ready keeps you stuck, and how confidence
if you are dreading going to summer camp…
Send me a message!! Dreading camp this summer?Thinking: “It’s going to be boring.” “I won’t know anyone.” “What if I don’t fit in?”In this week’s episode of Be Real with JoDee, I’m sharing simple confidence hacks to help you survive camp, make friends, handle homesickness, and actually enjoy yourself even if you don’t want to go.Because confidence isn’t feeling comfortable.Confidence is being will
social anxiety hack
Send me a message!!Do you ever walk into a room and immediately start thinking:“Say something.”“Don’t be awkward.”“Be more social.”And then suddenly your mind goes blank?In this episode of Be Real with JoDee, we’re talking about why forcing yourself to “be social” actually creates more anxiety and overthinking. I’ll teach you a simple mindset shift that helps calm your nervous system, stop the pre
your brain is lying to you (and you are believing it)
Send me a message!!What if the reason you feel stuck, unmotivated, or overwhelmed… isn’t because your goal is too hard?In this episode, I’m breaking down something that will change the way you see your brain forever: Your brain doesn’t care what’s true. It believes whatever you repeat.So if you keep thinking “I can’t do this” or “this is too hard,” your brain will accept that as fact and you’ll st
why you don’t feel confident trying something new
Send me a message!!What if the reason you feel stuck isn’t because you lack confidence… but because you’re relying on the wrong kind?In this episode, we break down the difference between confidence and self-confidence and why it matters more than you think.Confidence comes from your past. It’s built by doing something over and over again until you trust you can do it.But self-confidence?That’s som
how confident people have difficult conversations
Send me a message!!In this episode, we’re talking about something that feels SO hard …having difficult conversations.It can feel like you only have two options:stay quiet and people-please… or speak up and risk hurting someone or starting a fight.But what if that’s not actually true?What if the real question isn’t “Do I be nice or do I be honest?”What if the question is: “How can I be kind and hon
how to actually FEEL confident
Send me a message!!I’m taking you inside a real talk I gave to a club volleyball team, where we got into confidence, anxiety, pressure, and what to do with all the thoughts in your head.But here’s the thing this isn’t just about sports.Everything I teach in this talk applies to school, friendships, performance, and just being a teenager trying to figure life out.If you’ve ever felt nervous, not go
you don’t have to be who you were 5 minutes ago
Send me a message!!You are under no obligation to be the same person you were five minutes ago. In this episode, we talk about how the labels you give yourself shape your identity and how you can choose new thoughts, new actions, and become the person you want to be starting today.
why being a “try hard” is actually cool
Send me a message!!In middle school and high school, one of the worst things someone can call you is a “tryhard.”Like somehow caring about school, sports, or your goals is embarrassing.But what if that idea is completely backwards?In this episode of Be Real with JoDee, we talk about why trying hard is actually one of the coolest and bravest things you can do. JoDee shares a story about Victor Wemb
how to stop judging yourself and everyone else
Send me a message!!The way you talk to yourself is the same energy you bring to other people. Let’s learn how self-compassion changes everything.
stop telling yourself you HAVE to do things and try this one question instead
Send me a message!!Ever notice how the second you tell yourself “I should do this” or “I have to do that,” you suddenly feel tired, annoyed, or totally unmotivated?In this episode, we talk about why pressure and guilt actually shut your brain down and why that doesn’t mean you’re lazy or unmotivated. You’ll learn a simple question you can ask yourself that helps your brain calm down and be willing
the lies your brain tells you
Send me a message!!If you’ve ever walked into school feeling like no one likes you or you don’t fit in, this episode is for you. Your brain isn’t telling you the truth. It’s just trying to keep you safe based on what’s happened before.Your brain looks for evidence that matches what you already believe. So if you believe you don’t have friends, it will notice every time someone doesn’t talk to you
this is how you actually change
Send me a message!!What if you didn’t have to hate yourself into becoming better?So many of us think that shaming ourselves, replaying past mistakes, or calling ourselves lazy or a procrastinator will finally motivate us. But it doesn’t. It just keeps us stuck and feeling embarrassed, discouraged. In this episode, we talk about why your past choices don’t define you, why self-criticism doesn’t cr
stop telling yourself you are stressed (especially during finals)
Send me a message!!Finals week hits and suddenly your brain is yelling, “I’m stressed, I’m overwhelmed, I have too much to do!”And then… you don’t actually do anything.In this episode, I break down why telling yourself you’re stressed actually makes finals harder, not easier and what to do instead. You’ll learn how to stop spiraling, calm your nervous system, and still show up and do your best wit
confession and treat them like they like you
Send me a message!!In this episode ai break down what I actually did this week feeling bad about not completing my goals. We also dive into a trick we used this week in coaching for when someone doesn’t like you.
the thought that changed everything
Send me a message!!What if you’re only one thought away from feeling confident today? In this episode I tell you a story about a client that chose a thought intentionally and watched her whole school life change!
it’s not reality, it’s your filter
Send me a message!!Your brain believes what you teach it. Let’s train it to see your strength, your potential, and who you’re becoming — not just your fears.
when your coach doesn’t give you compliments
Send me a message!!In this episode of Be Real with JoDee, we talk about what to do when you’re not getting the validation you want from your coach, your teammates, or anyone else.If you’ve ever walked off the field wishing someone would say “good job” — and instead heard only what you did wrong — this episode is for you. JoDee shares a story from a recent coaching session with a teen athlete who w
you are NOT your thoughts
Send me a message!!How to feel better without changing anyone!!!
why do hard things?
Send me a message!!Fall break sounds awesome until you are sitting sound brain rotting in your phone and feeling bad about your life. In this episode we break down what is actually going on in your brain and how you can feel better!
easy hack for motivation
Send me a message!!How can you finally get motivated to clean your room or finish your paper or anything else in your life? Starting is the hardest part and I’m going to give you the best back to get started!
failing ahead of time
Send me a message!!We spend so much time preparing for the worst and what ends up happening it we make it even more likely the worst will happen! Listen today to find out how optimism could change your entire life!
when someone doesn’t want to be your friend anymore
Send me a message!!Fighting with friends is the worst but what if you don’t have to match the negative defensive energy? Find out how to feel calm no matter what your friends are doing.
what to do when you worry
Send me a message!!It’s hard because you know you shouldn’t worry but you cant help it! In this episode we give you real tips to use in the moment you are worrying!
easy tricks to make friends with anyone
Send me a message!!Do you wish you could be friends with people but don’t think they accept you? If so you are in the right place because that’s exactly what we are diving into in this episode!
what confidence and $12 have in common
Send me a message!!growth is expensive just like the movies but instead of paying $12… you pay with discomfort.
you aren’t dumb, you just haven’t learned it yet
Send me a message!!School isn’t about being smart or dumb, it’s about knowing how you learn best. In this episode of Be Real with JoDee, we’re breaking the myth that some people are just naturally good at school and others aren’t. You’ll learn how to figure out your learning style, use simple brain-coaching tools to crush negative thoughts, and find strategies that make studying actually work for
permission to believe in yourself
Send me a message!!People tell you all the time “you have to believe in yourself!” If you are like me you are thinking “ya I want to but HOW do I do it?” We are going to go through the HOW in this episode and you are going to change your whole life once you learn that belief is a decision you can just make. Spoiler alert…. You even get a permission slip!
let anxiety ride in the back seat
Send me a message!!In this episode, I share a real coaching moment with a teen gymnast who felt overwhelmed by anxiety during her events. Instead of trying to shove anxiety away, we gave it a name, Barb! She has a new role: riding in the backseat, not driving the car. If your anxiety is bossing you around, this episode will help you see it differently, take back the wheel, and show up with confide
how to make more friends
Send me a message!!Want more friends but not sure how to make it happen? You’re not alone. In this episode of Be Real with JoDee, we’ll talk about a game-changing mindset: what if you started looking for what’s cool about every person you meet? When you learn to genuinely like people, something surprising happens—they start liking you back. You’ll discover how to stop overthinking, connect more ea
when you don’t fit in
Send me a message!!Fitting in is hard and it’s also a made up thing. In this episode we find out how we can we can start being ourselves everywhere we go instead of trying to be someone we are not.
what to say to yourself when life feels hard
Send me a message!!You don’t need to cheerlead yourself out of pain. Sometimes just saying “yeah, this is hard” is exactly what your brain needs to hear.Check out this episode where we stop feeling bad for feeling bad and give ourself a minute to feel however we do. Then we will learn a powerful question that will empower us to move forward instead of staying stuck!
negative thoughts and what to DO with them
Send me a message!!Stop telling yourself to be more positive or grateful or whatever…. Feeling negative is normal and you aren’t bad for having these thoughts. In this episode you will find out what to do instead of shaming yourself that will actually unlock some real leverage over your thoughts and help you create the life you want!
when people leave you out
Send me a message!!There is no worse feeling than when you feel left out but what if there is a way you could feel better without anyone else changing? In this episode we will break down how you can break free from that feeling and not leave yourself out even more by feeling bad about yourself. Real tools to help you in the moment! Check it out!
3 hacks for your best summer ever
Send me a message!!Real tools to help you take back your power and have the best summer ever!
when you feel stuck and sorry for yourself
Send me a message!!If you feel sorry for yourself welcome to being a human! You are normal. It’s also exacting and can make you feel stuck. If you want to feel better without changing anyone check out this episode where we give you a life changing tool that can help you take back your power!
how parents can help teens with anxiety
Send me a message!!Do you try your best to help your teens with anxiety and sometimes make it worse? I totally get it! In this episode you will learn how to help yourself and your teens!
feeling fear and doing it anyway
Send me a message!!Is fear holding you back? Are there things you want to do or try but you tell yourself you are just too scared to do it? If so that is NORMAL!! There is nothing wrong with you but what if you could learn some tools to move through the fear and take action on the things you want to do? In this episode you will learn what to do when you get that feeling and how to go accomplis
thinking bad about yourself isn’t humble
Send me a message!!You might think you’re being humble when you put yourself down but what if that’s actually just ego in disguise? In this episode, we’re talking about the difference between humility and insecurity, and why constantly thinking negative thoughts about yourself isn’t a sign of being humble. It’s a sign your are always thinking about you. We will learn real tools on how to break fr
i have no friends…. now what?
Send me a message!!In this episode of Be Real with JoDee, we’re diving into one of the most painful thoughts a teen (or anyone!) can have: “I have no friends.” If you’ve ever felt left out, invisible, or convinced that you don’t belong, you’re not alone—and this episode is for you.
how to not let other people make you in a bad mood
Send me a message!!Ever wish people would just act the way you want? In this episode, we’re talking about why trying to control others never works—and how letting go of that need actually makes you feel better. You’ll learn about “The Manual” (a sneaky little guide your brain writes for other people) and how dropping it can bring more peace, confidence, and freedom. Take your power back—without ne
when your friends change… can you still be friends?
Send me a message!!What do you do when your friends start doing things you know aren’t right—like vaping, drinking, cussing, or making other choices that don’t match your values? In this episode, we talk about how to still be kind and loving without following their lead. You’ll learn how to be the kind of friend who lifts others up, how to choose friends who help you stay true to yourself, and why
making the RIGHT decision
Send me a message!!It’s so hard to know what the right decision is especially when everyone has their own opinion of what “right” is. Check out this podcast today and let’s help you figure out what the right decision is for YOU today!
stop ghosting yourself
Send me a message!!If you have a hard time following through with your goals and doing what you say you are going to do ….this episode is for you!!We are going to teach you some tools to make your goals achievable and help you increase your confidence in yourself exponentially!
worth vs. worthiness
Send me a message!!Worth and worthiness sound the same but mean completely different things. In this episode we break it down in understandable parts so we can actually know the difference. Great news!! You can’t take credit for your worth and you can’t lose it. Let me know what you think in the reviews and share with a friend!
best friend YOURSELF
Send me a message!!If I locked you in room with a bully for a year how would you feel about it? How would you feel after a whole year hanging out with that bully nonstop? Terrible right?! We would never choose to do that in our lives but the truth is we do that everyday in our minds. We bully ourselves with the negative thoughts we hear all day every day. In this episode we learn how to break
how to be happy when life is hard
Send me a message!!It’s easy to be happy when life is going your way. What are you supposed to do when everything seems hard? How can you feel happy then? The truth is we aren’t always suppose to be happy. It’s totally fine to be sad or mad or upswept. If you are like me though sometimes you get sick of feeling sorry for yourself and feeling sad and you want to feel better. I have good news
how to NOT believe everything you think
Send me a message!!Your thoughts FEEL TRUE. It’s seems like the thoughts you have about yourself and your life are just observations of what is real. But what if that’s not true at all? What if your thoughts are your brain trying to keep you safe and also small. In this episode we break down what to do when those negative thoughts come into your brain. How to choose your thoughts intentionally
how to have fun AND win (even after failing)
Send me a message!!Sometimes we think if we are really hard on ourselves and tell ourselves this is a really big deal we will play or perform better. The truth is sometimes it works but eventually the pressure builds up so much we end up crumbling mentally and are not able to play or perform at the level we want. In this episode we break down how to deal with losing or performing badly and give
turning mess-ups into level-ups
Send me a message!!It’s normal to feel defensive when you make a mistake. We could name tons of reasons we are justified in our behavior and it’s not our fault. The problem is when we blame other people for our mistakes we are left powerless. We also have this little voice in our head that tells us “maybe it is all your fault!” “Maybe you just aren’t good enough.” In this episode we talk about
GOD is faster than satan
Send me a message!!Stop trying not to have negative thoughts. Stop being mad that you have them and start EXPECTING THEM. Satan is NOT original. He will tell you the same things he tells everyone… You aren’t enough. You don’t belong. You don’t fit in. No one likes you. In this episode we learn how to expect these negative thoughts and then choose on purpose what we WANT to believe. Let ag
wherever you go, you take your brain with you
Send me a message!!Why a new life won’t fix an old mindset. Learn how to choose on purpose to feel good now instead of thinking “I’ll be happy when”
your relationship with YOU
Send me a message!!We would never set up a meeting with a friend and then not show up but we do this all the time to ourselves. In this episode we take a closer look at how we can strengthen our relationship with ourselves by following through with what we say we will do no matter how we feel. Teenagers and young adults who learn this skill will watch their confidence sky rocket! Let’s go!
the power of your thoughts
Send me a message!!Do you want to feel better? Be happier? Feel more confident? This episode will teach you the tools to do it. Here is a spoiler… your feelings come from what you are thinking! You have the power to create any feeling that you want by choosing a BELIEVABLE thought.
what to DO when you are worried…
Send me a message!!In this episode we dive into some actual tools of what to do when you are worried. If you fear the future or get caught ruminating in your thoughts you are not alone. There is nothing wrong with you. We are going to make a plan for you so you can move forward in your life without worry holding you back!
anxiety driving you crazy??
Send me a message!!Anxiety is such a buzz word! We hear it everywhere we go. It can feel so heavy and it can hold you back, especially if you don’t have the right tools to deal with it. In this episode we take a deep dive into how to actually deal with it and it doesn’t involve just thinking positive. Let me know if you need more help with this! You can DM me at jodee.ensman.coaching on Insta
when people ignore you..
Send me a message!!It’s normal to feel sad or negative about yourself when people ignore you but what if that was optional? This episode of Be Real with JoDee will teach you REAL tools of what to do if that happens!
how can I stop comparing myself to others?
Send me a message!!Comparing yourself to others is normal and NOT productive. In this episode we will talk about ways to shift your focus from things outside your control and start living the life you want to live!
what if I don’t feel good enough?
Send me a message!!Not feeling good enough is very normal and also optional. I’m this podcast we will learn where your worth really comes from and that you can’t earn or lose your worth. This is the basis for real confidence.
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Send me a message!!"Be Real with JoDee" is the ultimate hangout spot for teens who want to ditch doubt, embrace self-worth, and step into their most confident selves. Hosted by life coach JoDee, each episode is packed with real talk, faith-based insights, and life tools to help you crush anxiety, own your worth, and thrive in a world that tries to tell you otherwise. Ready to glow up and
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