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Unconsciously Competent Pod 12 Episodes Sep 2, 2026

Unconsciously Competent is a podcast hosted by Kash and Tahoe about personal growth, awareness, and mastery. Inspired by the four phases of competence, each episode explores the journey from not knowing what you don't know to making growth instinctive. The show applies this framework to real-life situations involving relationships, parenting, career, money, identity, power, pleasure, and personal development. It also features a signature debate-style segment called Pick We.

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Ep. 12 - Nonverbal, But I Heard Everything Part 1 Sep 2, 2026 3430 NONVERBAL, BUT I HEARD EVERYTHING | What a Formerly Nonverbal Autistic Woman Wants YOU to UnderstandWhat if a child isn’t speaking… but is hearing, processing and understanding far more than the people around them realize?For Episode 12, Part 1 of Unconsciously Competent, Kash & Tahoe sit down with Imara Allura Jade, an autistic and ADHD woman who shares that she was formerly nonverbal until a

Ep 11. Where Has The Softness Gone Aug 12, 2026 8079 IT’S SEASON 2 COMPETENT SQUAD! And we are back to continue th growth. And the topic is…. Do You Have Honey on Your Tongue? | Where Has the Softness Gone? Everybody keeps asking where the “soft women” went…but Kash & Tahoe have a different question: What happened that made softness feel unsafe in the first place?In this episode of Unconsciously Competent, Kash brings the philosophy behind her b

Ep. 10 - My Brain Has Too Many Tabs Open May 27, 2026 4108 🧠🎙️ EPISODE DESCRIPTION: What happens when the people labeled “too much,” “too emotional,” “too distracted,” or “too difficult” realize they were never broken… just wired differently?In this episode of Unconsciously Competent, Kash @Au_Natural38 and Tahoe @Tahoe_TV dive deep into neurodivergence, relationships, entrepreneurship, and parenting while unpacking the realities of living with ADHD, rais

Ep. 9 - Are You Protecting The Vibe Pt. 2 Apr 23, 2026 2193 Are You Protecting the Vibe? (Part 2)On this episode of Unconsciously Competent, hosts Kash and Tahoe dive into a real and necessary conversation about intimacy, energy, and what it actually takes to maintain connection in relationships as life evolves.What starts as a simple question, “Are you protecting the vibe?” unfolds into a deeper discussion around low libido, hormonal shifts, and the many

Ep. 8 - Are You Protecting The Vibe PT. 1 Apr 16, 2026 5467 Are You Protecting the Vibe? (Part 1)On this episode of Unconsciously Competent, hosts Kash and Tahoe dive into a real and necessary conversation about intimacy, energy, and what it actually takes to maintain connection in relationships as life evolves.What starts as a simple question, “Are you protecting the vibe?” unfolds into a deeper discussion around low libido, hormonal shifts, and the many

Ep. 7 - The Table Has Changed Mar 19, 2026 5341 🎙️ Unconsciously Competent Podcast – Episode 7 Title: The Table Has Changed On this episode of Unconsciously Competent, permanent hosts Kash and Tahoe are joined by guest co-host Chris for a timely and necessary conversation about the financial reality of relationships and households in 2026. Using recent employment trends, cost of living pressures, and lived experiences as context, the discussion

Ep. 6 - Let Her Cook: Effort Is The Real Love Language Pt. 2 Feb 26, 2026 3601 On this episode of Unconsciously Competent, the conversation shifts from theory to real-life love fast… and somewhere along the way, Kash starts cooking. We dive into love languages, not just what they are, but how they actually function in real relationships. Loving someone isn’t about memorizing categories, it’s about learning how to love in the ways you’re capable while stretching toward the wa

Ep. 5 - Let Her Cook: Effort Is the Real Love Language Pt. 1 Feb 23, 2026 4373 On this episode of Unconsciously Competent, the conversation shifts from theory to real-life love fast… and somewhere along the way, Kash starts cooking. We dive into love languages, not just what they are, but how they actually function in real relationships. Loving someone isn’t about memorizing categories, it’s about learning how to love in the ways you’re capable while stretching toward the wa

Ep. 4 - Did I Trigger You? Feb 4, 2026 6448 In this episode of Unconsciously Competent, Kash, Tahoe, and Chris explore how tone, delivery, and emotional dismissiveness can undermine even the most valid messages. Using real panel clips as a case study, they break down the difference between intention and impact, and why people shut down when feedback feels harsh, threatening, or dismissive.The conversation dives into the psychology and brain

Ep. 3 - The Listening Gap Feb 4, 2026 5401 Are we actually listening to each other, or just waiting for our turn to speak? In this episode of Unconsciously Competent, Kash and Tahoe dive into one of the most misunderstood parts of connection: the difference between hearing someone and truly understanding how a situation affects them. From relationships and accountability to co-parenting and emotional expression, this conversation breaks do

Ep. 2- Im Gay But Its Complicated Feat @Billy.TheBadGuy Jan 19, 2026 7060 In this honest, hilarious, and heartfelt episode, Kash, Tahoe, and special guest Billy get into the complexities of identity, sexuality, and self-expression with humor leading the way. Billy shares what it means to call himself a “homophobic gay man,” using comedy to navigate his connection to the LGBTQ+ community while also critiquing its extremes. He shared his childhood experience of being SA’d

Ep. 1 - Pick WE! (Pilot) Jan 12, 2026 4127 Welcome to the true birth of Unconsciously Competent Podcast! In this pilot episode, Kash and Tahoe unpack accountability, dating transitions, vulnerability in men, discernment in relationships, and the patience required to grow something real, whether that’s love, self-mastery, or a goal you refuse to quit on. The topics may feel familiar at times but the perspectives we share will shift you! Our

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