Thoughts From My Thirties
Thoughts From My Thirties is a podcast hosted by Kala Riggins that explores the messy, in-between seasons of life in your thirties. Each episode offers reflections, confessions, and real-time processing of the challenges and growth that come with this decade. The show encourages listeners to embrace imperfection and stay present while becoming who they are meant to be. It's a space for honest conversations without pressure or pretense.
Episodes
Is Pop Culture Robbing Us of the Ability to Think for Ourselves? | A different perspective on Meg The Stallion & Emma Grede
In this episode, we’re unpacking a question that’s been sitting heavy:Are we actually thinking for ourselves anymore… or just repeating what we see online?Social media and pop culture used to be entertainment. Now? It’s shaping how we think, how we date, how we see ourselves — and most of us didn’t even realize when the shift happened.If you’ve been feeling overwhelmed, influenced, or disconnected
Girl, Stop Waiting for a Reason to Look Good
This one is for the woman who wants to feel like herself again…but keeps saving her best self for a “real” reason.In this episode, we get into:Why you’ve been saving your best self for special occasions — and how that’s actually limiting youThe deeper meaning behind personal style (it’s not vanity… it’s identity)The subtle ways people project when they say “you’re doing too much”Why looking good i
Are You Actually Ready for What You’re Asking For? | Thinking It Through
I’m thinking through…wanting more… and wanting it nowGod’s timing vs. my impatiencewhat it really means to be ready for what you’re asking forand the quiet realization that maybe… I’m still being prepared for itJoin my private community:https://kalariggins.substack.com/subscribe?utm_source=menu&simple=true&next=https%3A%2F%2Fkalariggins.substack.com%2FOur Inner Thoughts is a space to keep
You’re Not Getting What You Want Because You’re Not Being Honest About What You Want
This one is for the woman who keeps saying she wants more… but hasn’t been fully honest about what “more” actually is.In this episode, we get into:Why you might not have what you want because you’re not being honest about itThe difference between saying what you want vs. telling the truth about what you wantHow I realized I was hiding my true identity behind more “understandable” titlesWhat succes
I Turned 35 and Here’s What I’m Proud Of | A Birthday Brag Session
Turning 35 made me realize something: you don’t need the traditional milestones to be proud of your life.In this birthday episode, I’m bragging on myself — petty and popping.If you’ve ever felt behind, in-between, or unsure if you’re doing life “right”… this one is for you.This one is for the girl who needs to brag on herself a little more.The thirty-something who’s tired of milestones being used
Believing in Yourself Is a Full-Time Job (Here’s How to Clock Back In)
Believing in Yourself Is a Full-Time JobIf you’ve been trying to “stay positive” but doubt keeps sliding into the room this episode is for you.This is for the girl who clocked out for a minute. The thirty-something who got tired. The millennial who needs to clock back in.In this episode, we get into:-Doubt creeping in and why it made me question my faith-Why I’m rejecting the idea that doubt and f
Your Job is Making You Boring | How to have deeper conversations with anyone.
When Did We All Become So Boring?If you can hold a convo, have a personality, and you have range… but lately every interaction feels like a bore... this episode is for you.In this episode, we get into:- Having a job is making us an absolute snooze fest- How we were trained to build identity around work- How job titles became the first identity we were ever handed- Why we lead with work even though
Everything I’m Not Changing About Myself This Year
Everything I’m Not Changing About Myself This Year. If you’re the kind of millennial who did everything “right” — followed the rules, hit the milestones, played the game by the book — and you’re now looking around in your 30s like… wait a minute, this was a scam?This episode is for you.This is your permission slip to stop “fixing” yourself into someone else… and start honoring who you already are.
5 Scriptures That Have Been Guiding My Creative Journey | Beneath It All 🤐
This is Beneath It All, a mini version of my podcast (Beneath The Seams) — where I share real-time, real-life reflections in between episodes.In today’s episode, we get into:✨ How faith redefines the creative process✨ Partnering with God instead of performing for the internet✨ The difference between divine timing and delayed obedience✨ Why fear disguised as preparation keeps you stuck✨ Scriptures
What Compatibility Really Means in a Relationship: Dating in Your 30s
What does it really mean to be compatible with someone?I’ve been thinking a lot about this — and honestly, I think intellectual compatibility might be my biggest struggle. Not chemistry, not vibes, not attraction… but finding someone who can actually meet me where my mind is.In this episode, I’m talking about:-Why being “chosen” doesn’t make you more special — God already did that-Why I can’t date
Low-Maintenance Friendships Are Making Us Lonely
If you’ve ever called yourself a “low-maintenance friend” but secretly crave deeper connection… this conversation is for you.We talk about…-Why the “low-maintenance” trend quietly excuses neglect.-Loneliness as an epidemic—and how we’re drifting from community.-Medium-maintenance friendships: presence, checking in, reciprocity.-Healthy effort vs. toxic draining (discernment matters).-Behavior chec
Everything I’m Overthinking About My Creator Journey (And Why I’m Still Showing Up)
If you’ve ever started, stopped, felt sure, then doubted again… this conversation is for you.We talk about…Why your story may include an unusual testimony. Start–stop seasons: and why they still count.How Perfectionist kills momentum.Letting life’s recurring lessons return with a new perspectiveVulnerability as ministry: sharing the heavy parts without self-judgment. Letting your gift serve people
Faith Without the Fluff: Building a Routine That Actually Works
This one is for the millennial who wants to use the rest of 2025 to grow spiritually and strategically. In this episode, I’m talking about how I’ve been using both scripture and structure (with a little help from AI) to rebuild my faith, strengthen my routines, and reimagine what a spirit-led soft life really looks like.We talk about…-Why I believe in "this AND that" spirituality (I love God and I
Your Lack of a Social Life Is Holding You Back
🎙️ Join my private pod community "Seamless" over on Substack.https://kalariggins.substack.com/--This one is for the millennial who misses outside!Social media told us to isolate, grind in silence, and only reappear when we’re fully healed. But what if hiding out is holding us back?In this episode, I’m peeling back the layers on...-What we lose when we stop socializing -How community might be the k
You started...but now it's time to get serious. | Beneath It All 🤐
This is Beneath It All, a mini version of my podcast (Beneath The Seams) where I share real-time, real-life reflections in between episodes.In today’s episode, we get into:The Pain of Not Keeping GoingHow it Seems everyone is a season of starting over: Dealing with the not feeling "Normal" Finding Spiritual Clarity in Not Having a Traditional PathWhat it means to get Serious About Your CallingJoin
The Family Drama We Don’t Discuss & How It Shapes Us | ft. Shawntrise Williams
This one is for the millennial who was raised with a bit of family drama...In this episode, I sit with Life Coach Shawntrise Williams who is also my first cousin as we have a deeply personal conversation about...-The family drama we never talked about—and how it’s still affecting us.-That feeling of being disconnected and wishing we were closer.-How the emotional and physical distance in our famil
I wish I'd Kept Going when I first started. | Beneath It All 🤐
Join my private pod community "Seamless" over on Substack.https://kalariggins.substack.com/Welcome to Beneath It All, a mini version of my Podcast (Beneath The Seams) where I share real time, real life reflections in between episodes. Enjoy this vlog as, we discuss:- An exciting announcement!- The Struggle with Uncertainty and Regret - The Power of Starting Over - The Importance of Self-Forgivenes
Jess Hilarious' Crash Out Re-triggerd My Corporate Trauma
This one is for the millennial who is fed up with corporate culture...Jess Hilarious went viral after her Breakfast Club drama, but for me? It triggered some deep, deep wounds from my own corporate trauma.In this episode, I’m peeling back the layers on...-The performative nature of corporate jobs & why so many of us have to shrink ourselves to survive.-The emotional and psychological toll of w
You can start from scratch and still win! Ft. Jocelyn Perry
This one is for the millennial who is learning to embrace their multifaceted identity, step into their power, and stop living for everyone else.In this episode I chat with my line sister, friend, and client Jocelyn Perry as we discuss…-The struggle of self-discovery after years of prioritizing others-How entrepreneurship challenges personal growth & self-worth-The power of saying NO and setti
The "rules" of dating that I am no longer following.
This one is for the millennial who is done with the silly "rules" of dating and wants to experience things on their own terms. In this episode we discuss...Ditching Dating Rules: Finding Peace and Connection Beyond Social NormsNavigating the Complexities of Modern Dating for MillennialsAuthentic Dating: Embracing Intimacy and Connection Without Rules-Listening to your gut but now overthinking. Let
In my 30s and still figuring out who I want to be when I grow up.
This one is for the millennial who doesn't know who they want to be when they grow up.In this episode we discuss...What to do when you don't like what you're doing.Figuring out how to make your dreams come true.Redefining what having your life together means. Learning to ask God for permission and no one else. Let's go Beneath The Seams! Join the waitlist for my private pod community. https://kala
The People, Places, & Perspectives I'm leaving in 2024.
This one is for the millennial who has learned what People, Places, and Perspectives need to be left behind in 2024. In this episode we discuss...Letting go of people who are misaligned with what you want.How surface level relationships aren't working for me in this season.How the community you need in your life changes as you change. Breaking free from meaningless mindsets.The Power of Spiritual
Maybe you are putting too much pressure on yourself. | Ft. Imani Williams
This one is for the millennial who needs to apply less pressure and more patience on the journey to becoming successful. Joined by my friend and soror Imani Williams we discuss...What creative fulfillment really means. Learning to ask for help and accept it. Embracing the fact that you can truly do whatever you want. Embracing creative pivots. Unlearning behavior and mindsets.Overcoming creative f
Can we date or be friends if you don’t vote?
This one is for the millennial who is navigating what compatibility truly looks like in a partner and if social responsibility matters. In this episode we discuss...Can love coexist with differing political viewsThe Role of Civic Engagement in Romantic and Social RelationshipsMixing Politics and Love: Challenges of Diverse Beliefs in RelationshipsEstablishing what compatibility really means to you
Are you and your friends are giving each other bad advice? | Dating, friendship & spiritual advice.
This one is for the millennial who needs to learn to give better advice and understand what advice to take...In this episode...How to give better advice as a friend.The dating advice you shouldn't be taking. Discerning which spiritual advice is aligned. Let's go Beneath The Seams! --------------------------00:00 Advice should be personalized, not generic.05:03 Better advice for relationships and l
I'm back on dating apps...here's what I'm learning about me and men.
This one is for the millennial who is navigating meeting people on dating apps. In this episode I share...what I'm learning about myself from the appshow I think we can have better experiences on the appsthe problem with dating appsmy desire for intention connection the need for masculine energystaying the course and not giving up on companionship Let's go Beneath The Seams! ----------------------
You need to learn to take your own advice.
This one is for the millennial who needs to learn to take their own advice.In this episode I revisit previous episodes and open up about...practice maintaining your heart, spirit, spirituality, and mindfulness how I need to practice taking my own advicefreeing your creativity from expectationshow to translate belief in God into daily actionable stepsmourning my old lifebeing in a weird space in fr
The hardest parts of chasing your dreams after 30 with Char Bogle.
This one is for the millennial who is in pursuit of their passions on the other side of 30...Joined by my friend of 10 years Char Bogle, we discuss...Why its harder to focus on your dreams after 30.Acting on Your PassionsThe impact Corporate America has on your motivation. Healing your inner child. How external influences shape our decisions. Redefining what success looks like. Let's go Beneath Th
Get those ideas out of your head and into the world.
Join My People! : Private Patreon community. https://shorturl.at/NzxMtThis one is for the millennial who has ideas that they need to get out into the world... In this episode we discuss...How implementing ideas is an act of obedienceActing on Your PassionsHow your ideas help other peopleThe Legacy and Impact of releasing your ideasSharing your comments about how the podcast is helping youWhat impl
Every season is YOUR season. | How to embrace life in the midst of it all.
Join My People! : Private Patreon community. https://shorturl.at/NzxMtThis one is for the millennial who is learning to enjoy every season in their life...Learn to absorb pain without it debilitating you or making you numb. The glamorization of "its your season."How to find peace in every season of you life. Embracing prosperity even in tough times. The natural order of seasons and the lessons tha
Everything I LOVE about being in my Thirties | Dating, Confidence, Career Changes
This one is for the millennial who is enjoying exactly where they are in life right now! In this episode I open up about...How Dating is more fun in the 30sWhat friendships and relationships look like in the 30s.Courage to change career paths in the 30s.Getting to know who you really are in the 30s.Being less hard on yourself in the 30s.Growing closer to God in the 30s. Learning to not take myself
Overthinking is ruining your relationships. | with God, Friends, Men & Yourself
This one is for the millennial who overthinks EVERYTHING. In this episode I open up about...How overthinking is effecting key relationships in our lives, with God, Friends, Romantic Partners, and your relationship with self. Understanding why we overthink.Learning to identify the signs of overthinking before spiraling. How overthink hinders execution.The negative effects of overthinking. How I'm l
If you feel like you aren't doing enough in life... consider this.
This one is for the millennial who feels like you aren't doing enough in life. In this episode I open up about...Feeling like I wasn't doing enough. Realizing I wasn't doing the right things.Redefining what enough really means.Knowing the signs of feeling discontent in life. Being intentional about working towards things that are aligned with the life you desire. Going trough a personal resurrecti
Tough times don't make you stronger...they make you softer.
This one is for the millennial who is going through a tough time. In this episode I open up about...How I'm navigating a really tough season in life.The hidden strength is softness. Embracing vulnerability during hard times. How going through a tough time is making me softer. Owning truths about who I am and who I am becoming.Let's go Beneath The Seams! --------------------------Let's stay connect
Are you in denial about who you really want to be?
This one is for the millennial who is doing the work to become the person you truly desire to be. In this episode I open up about...Being in denial about the amount of success I desireLearning that it's okay to focus on more than one thingFully submitting to what I want out of lifeFreeing myself from limiting beliefsHaving enough and learning to be okay with wanting moreUnlearning traditional thou
I'm 33 and I'm okay with never being somebody's wife or mother.
This one is for the millennial who is unsure if you desire marriage and motherhood. In this episode I open up about...My realization that a family may not be in my futureThe prayers that God seems to not answerNot designing my life around the "what ifs" and "when this happens"Being intentionally about enjoying my life in the presentWhy motherhood is a turn off Let's go Beneath The Seams! ---------
Growth is scary, but we have to get over it!
This one is for the millennial who is going through extreme growing pains. In this episode I open up about... How I'm getting over the fact that growth is inevitable Navigating the painful parts of growing spiritually and mentallyRedefining what a good, fulfilled, and impactful life meansAuthentically being myself in all areas of life Living freely without being bogged down by unrealistic expectat
Small talk is ruining our lives. | Why you should say what you're really thinking.
This one is for the millennial who is over small talk and is craving a deeper connection with God, self and everybody else. In this episode I open up about... Trying to date and the pains of getting to know someone My realization that I was treating God as if he's humanHow eliminating small talk improves all relationshipsHow small talk with yourself can limit your life's visionWhy you should alway
Your confidence offends them. | How to find your confidence again at every phase of life.
This one is for the millennial who is redefining what it means to have, lose, and rediscover their confidence In this episode I open up about... Realizing that my confidence is offense to peoplePhysical Confidence when you don't meet the "standard" of beautySpiritual confidence and having more faith in GodMental confidence to navigate life's obstaclesLet's go Beneath The Seams! -------------------
Confessions of a strong friend. | How to navigate adult friendships.
This one is for the millennial who is wondering, when it finally be my turn? In this episode I open up about... The truth and challenges of being labeled the strong friendLetting go of unfulfilling relationshipsHaving tough conversations Felling safe and seen in friendships Learning to ask for supportLet's go Beneath The Seams! --------------------------Let's stay connected https://www.instagram.c
God, when is it going to be my turn? | Why comparison isn't always negative.
This one is for the millennial who is wondering, when it finally be my turn? In this episode I go Beneath The Seams about... Being weary while waiting for it to be my turnWhy comparison can be healthy Navigating emotional breakdowns What it means to be truly happySeeking God to seek yourself Let's go Beneath The Seams! --------------------------Let's stay connected https://www.instagram.com/kalari
Everything they told us about the 30s is a lie. | Oprah was 32.
This one is for the millennial who didn't turn out exactly how you thought things would be. I open up about... What the 30s are really aboutChallenging and unlearning beliefs instilled from a young ageEmbracing the courage and having faith to act on your callingContradictions and misconceptions about the 30s Seeking God for direction in specific life areasLet's go Beneath The Seams! --------------
Refocusing after abandoning your dreams. | Bleeding From The Outside In
This one is for the millennial who is trying to re-focus after abandoning their dreams. I open up about...The Importance of following inner callingsCreative freedom versus financial responsibilitiesSuperficial success versus genuine fulfillmentStruggle with creative and emotional rutsReevaluation of personal priorities and successAuthentic self-expressionLet's go Beneath The Seams! ---------------
Welcome To Beneath The Seams!
Life can be so complex, and we spend so much time trying to figure it out, all while hiding who we truly are. Millennials are at the point in adulthood where we are starting to understand more about what life is, but still we avoid vulnerability and tough conversations. Never going Beneath The Seams limits us from experiencing an unfiltered life filled with genuine connections. We owe it to ourse
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