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Coming Out & Beyond Support for Women Questioning Their Sexuality Later in Life

Anne-Marie Zanzal 1ac1f670-c17c-11f0-806a-ef1502adef07 181 episodes Latest May 29, 2026

Coming Out & Beyond is a podcast for women questioning their sexuality later in life. Hosted by Anne-Marie Zanzal, a Yale Divinity School graduate and LGBTQ+ coach who came out in midlife, it offers real conversations and emotional clarity. Topics include late bloomer experiences, being married with kids and questioning, faith deconstruction, divorce, grief, and identity shifts. The podcast provides grounded support for women coming out after 30, 40, 50, and beyond.

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Your Sapphic Dating Dilemmas, Answered with Love (and Zero Filter) Jun 12, 2026 47:17 This month we return to our lesbian dating and relationship conversation, the one we share on the second Friday of every month, and by popular request Tonda is back at the table! Anne-Marie is joined by her wife, Tonda McKay, our longtime out lesbian and resident truth teller, and by Barbara Rowlandson, fellow coach and the woman who helps lead our Authentically Us community. Together we work thro
Grieving the Living: The Estrangement No One Prepares You For Jun 5, 2026 42:29 TW: This episode includes honest discussion about grief, estrangement and suicidal ideation. Listener discretion is advised. There is a kind of loss that arrives without a funeral. No casserole on the doorstep, no card in the mail, no ritual to mark it. It is the loss of people who are still alive, of communities that keep meeting without us, of the versions of ourselves we performed for decades.
Loving Someone Newly Out: Tonda McKay's Story of Falling in Love With a Later in Life Lesbian May 29, 2026 54:54 In this revisited Season 5 favorite, Anne-Marie sits down with photographer Tonda McKay, who also happens to be her wife. Tonda came out at eighteen as a good Southern Baptist girl whose prayer partner became her first love, and she has spent the decades since building a life as a long-out lesbian in the South. She shares what those early years held: the isolation of believing she was the only one
Twice Out, Once Home: Keith Aron on Sexuality, Gender & the Long Way Back to Yourself May 22, 2026 54:21 This week on Coming Out & Beyond, Anne-Marie sits down with Keith Aron (he/they), a trans and queer transformational coach, writer, proudly witchy weirdo, and self-described honorary tree. Keith writes the Substack Big Blue Sky Dragonfly, where he explores the sweet spot between belonging and authenticity — and his story is one Anne-Marie has been wanting to share for a long time.Keith came ou
Hurricane Lessons: Betrayal, Becoming, & Coming Out Later in Life May 15, 2026 45:30 A decade ago, Anne-Marie and Katrina Anne Willis met inside a small Facebook group that no longer exists — a quiet corner of the internet where women who had Googled "late in life lesbian" found each other. They were both raising kids. Both married to men. Both trying to understand a feeling they didn't yet have language for.This week, they finally meet face to face.Katrina is the author of Hurric
The Surprise Truth About Sapphic Sex: What Nobody Tells You Before You Get Here! May 8, 2026 59:10 A woman in our community wrote in and asked: "What if my lesbian sex experience doesn't live up to the hype? Does that make me not gay?"That question deserved more than a one-line answer. So Anne-Marie brought in two of her favorite humans to tell the truth — the kind of truth nobody hands you before you get here.Her wife Tonda McKay has been out for forty years and brings the long view: what the
Clarity Is a Thousand Small Permissions May 1, 2026 42:03 Join the 3-Day Clarity Experience, May 5–7. A live space for women in the long middle who are ready to stop doing it alone — not to get a fix, but to sit with the questions alongside a community of women in exactly the same place. Standard admission is $47, or $87 for VIP, which includes a private 45-minute call with Anne-Marie. https://annemariezanzal.com/3-day-clarity-experience/The fantasy is t
You Can't Know What You Don't Know: DBT, Queer Joy, and Coming Out at Any Age with Dr. Kiki Fehling Apr 24, 2026 53:46 Something in you already knows.Maybe it's been whispering for years. Maybe it got louder recently. Maybe you can't quite name it yet — but you know something is asking to be looked at.If you've been sitting with questions about who you are, who you love, or what this next chapter of your life is actually supposed to look like, the 3-Day Clarity Experience was built for you.Three evenings. One guid
I Had Been Waiting For Something My Whole Life Apr 17, 2026 27:16 In this week's episode of Coming Out & Beyond, Anne-Marie traces the winding, decade-long road that led her from a single paragraph in an Oprah magazine to finally saying the words out loud — and finding the woman who would become her wife along the way.She begins in 2006, when an article about women who had left marriages with men to be with women cracked something open in her — a joy she cou
Red Flags, Love Bombing & Listening to Your Inner Voice Apr 15, 2026 44:00 You're finally dating women — and maybe dating in general for the first time in decades. The apps are confusing, the feelings are big, and it can be hard to know when to trust your gut and when you're overthinking it. In this episode, Anne-Marie sits down with resident dating authority Barbara Rowlandson — therapist, dating coach, and marriage officiant who has literally married hundreds of couple
Too Gay to Fit In, Too New to Feel at Home Apr 3, 2026 40:14 Coming out names something true. But it doesn't hand you a place to land.In this episode of Coming Out & Beyond, Anne-Marie sits down with returning guest Anna Empey — LGBT coach, business development consultant, and community builder — for an honest, tender conversation about what it really takes to find your people after you've found yourself.Anna knows firsthand what it costs to lose the co
In the Nick of Time: Light Bird on Coming Out, Starting Over, and Making Music That Matters Mar 27, 2026 43:04 Five weeks before her wedding, Danni Hoshino was lying in bed next to her fiancée when something shifted. She asked herself a question she had never quite let herself ask — and then she knew.In this episode of Coming Out and Beyond, host Anne-Marie Zanzal sits down with Danni, a singer, songwriter, and guitarist who creates music under the name Light Bird. Her debut album, See Her, is a ten-song c

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