Dateable: Your insider's look into modern dating and relationships
Dateable is a podcast that explores modern dating and relationships, hosted by Yue Xu and Julie Krafchick. The show has been featured by the New York Times, HuffPost, and Oprah Daily. Each week, the hosts discuss topics like monogamy, dating apps, attachment styles, and breakups with real daters and experts. The podcast aims to help listeners navigate dating with more compassion and intention.
Episodes
S23E7: When "Protecting Your Peace" Keeps You From Love w/ Amanda White
It's so easy to spit out the Instagram slogans we see everywhere like "Protect Your Peace,” “Set Boundaries,” “Know Your Worth,” “You Don’t Owe Anyone Anything” but what happens when what was meant to be empowering leaves us alone? We're discussing with Amanda White of @therapyforwomen why therapy culture on the internet has done real damage and how we can add the nuance needed to mak
S23E6: From Meet Cute To Relationship: A Real Couple's Story
So you met someone in the most unexpected place IRL, but could it ever turn into a real relationship? We're chatting with Alex & Angelica to hear the story of how they met while on vacation in Hawaii, and how things developed into them dating long-distance and eventually starting a relationship 3 months after meeting. We discuss how their drastically different backgrounds in dating and rel
S23E5: The Power of Human Connection In the World of AI w/ Dr. Melissa Perry
Is AI helping us feel more connected, or making us less willing to deal with the messiness of real human relationships? We’re joined by Dr. Melissa Perry to unpack what happens when we turn to AI to process our dating lives, relationships, and emotions instead of turning to the people around us. We discuss why AI can feel so validating and easy to talk to (and what that means for humans that can&#
S23E4: The Millennial Midlife Crisis Nobody Warned Us About
What happens when the life you imagined in your 20s doesn’t look anything like the life you’re living in your 40s? We're unpacking what millennial midlife really looks like – from being single and dating later in life to navigating marriage, long-term relationships, divorce, and changing expectations around commitment and family. We discuss why our generation is rewriting the rules of adulthoo
S23E3: Moving Cities (And Countries) For A Chance At Love w/ Kristen Such
If you've felt stuck dating, have you ever wondered if it could be the place you live? How much does your city shape your dating life? And what do you do when you have the urge to go somewhere else....for life and love? We're chatting with Kristen Such who shares her story about moving to better align with the types of people she wanted to meet – and how that eventually led her to finding
S23E2: How To Be More Secure In Dating and Relationships w/ Dr. Amir Levine (Author of Attached)
This isn't just another episode about attachment theory. We have THE man, the myth, the legend Dr. Amir Levine, author of the bestselling book Attached, here with us talking about his latest book Secure and how anyone can learn to build more secure connections – even if you are inherently more anxious or avoidant. We discuss why attachment theory has become such a huge part of dating culture,
S23E1: 5 Signs You Probably Won't End Up Alone (Even If You Are Super Single Right Now)
Are you truly going to end up alone or is fear making you believe a story that isn’t true? We're back for Season 23 to unpack one of the biggest anxieties in dating: the fear that love might never happen. We discuss why feeling “behind” is often more about perception than reality, the biggest indicator that shows someone is not ready and the signs that you’re actually on the right path toward
Quickie w/ Julie: Proof You Aren't Bad At Relationships (Even If You've Been Single A Long Time)
We often judge how "good" we are at relationships based on our dating and relationship history, but what if it's the least complete picture? In this episode, Julie explores why romantic relationships often become intertwined with our identity, causing breakups, rejection, or being single to feel like proof that we're "bad at relationships." She helps you look deeper at your
Has Therapy Speak Gone Too Far in Dating?: How Therapy Culture Helps Vs. Gets in the Way of Forming Relationships
What happens when the tools meant to help us heal start getting in the way of how we connect? We're exploring the rise of therapy culture and how “therapy speak” is changing the way we approach dating, conflict, and relationships. We discuss why having the right words doesn’t always mean we’re doing the deeper work, how psychological labels can sometimes become a way to avoid accountability, a
Quickie w/ Yue: Does A Couple Need To Go Through Hardship To Feel Connected?
Does going through hard times together make a relationship stronger—or is that just the story we've been told? In this episode, Yue explores whether deep connection is built through shared struggle or if love can grow just as profoundly without adversity. She reflects on how survival, sacrifice, and teamwork can forge incredible closeness, but can also create resentment, distance, and even bre
The Rise of AI in Dating: Is It Helping Or Hurting You Find Love?
Is AI making dating easier or disconnecting us even further? We're unpacking how artificial intelligence is reshaping modern dating, from AI-generated profiles and photos to matchmaking tools and dating coaches. We discuss the ways AI can help people feel more confident and make dating easier, while also exploring the risks around authenticity, emotional outsourcing, and losing the human momen
Quickie w/ Julie: You're Not Too Much - You Might Just Be Dating The Wrong People
Have you ever felt like you're "too much" or "too needy" in dating? Bu what if it's simply a sign you're dating the wrong people? In this episode, Julie challenges the belief that you need to be less emotional, less expressive, or less yourself to find love. Instead, she explains why the right relationships make you feel more secure, not more anxious, and how constantly
How To Date Men When You Hate Men: Ways To Open Yourself Up To Connection Even When The Internet Tells You Not To
Can you actually date men when it feels like everyone is telling you not to trust them? We're unpacking how social media, clickbait headlines, and a constant stream of negative dating stories can make distrust feel like the default. We discuss why the loudest relationship narratives often aren't the most common ones, how to separate real red flags from fear-driven assumptions, and why payi
Quickie w/ Yue: Have a Crush!
What if the secret to feeling more alive is going back to the good ol' days of having a crush? In this episode, Yue explores why the excitement, curiosity, and unpredictability of an innocent crush can reconnect us to the very things that make us human. As technology and AI make our lives increasingly efficient and predictable, she argues that it's spontaneous, real-world interactions that
Is The Cost Of Living Killing Your Dating Life?: How the Economy Is Changing Modern Dating
Is the rising cost of everything making you question whether love is still worth pursuing? We're unpacking how inflation, financial stress, and layoffs are impacting modern dating – and why media has declared 'dating has become a "rich person's game.' We discuss how money influences everything from who asks whom out to whether couples should split the bill, why financial anxiet
Quickie w/ Julie: Signs You Can Trust The Person You're Dating (Even Early On)
While it's true that trust takes time to grow, it absolutely starts revealing itself from the very beginning...if you know what to look out for. In this episode, Julie breaks down the subtle early signs of trustworthiness, how you can tell so much based on how someone responds after moments of disconnection, and ways you can show you're the type of person people trust on early dates too.
7 DAYS OF DATING CONFIDENCE: Feeling Confident In Your Body (Day #7)
In the final day of our 7 Days of Dating Confidence, we're talking about one of the deepest sources of self-doubt in dating: our relationship with our bodies.In this episode, Natalie Carey shares how body image struggles can shape our self-esteem, relationships, and what we believe we deserve in love. We discuss moving toward body acceptance, letting go of impossible standards, and learning to
7 DAYS OF DATING CONFIDENCE: Knowing Your Self Worth (Day #6)
In Day 6 of our 7 Days of Dating Confidence, we're talking about the relationship that shapes every other relationship: the one you have with yourself.In this episode, Katie Sturino shares her journey of rebuilding confidence and reclaiming her dating life after years of insecurity and self-doubt. We discuss how past experiences shape our self-worth, why perfection isn't the key to confide
7 DAYS OF DATING CONFIDENCE: Letting Your Quirks Show (Day #5)
In Day 5 of our 7 Days of Dating Confidence, we're talking about the courage it takes to let people see the real you.In this episode, we explore why so many of us hide our quirks and edit ourselves while dating—and how that often keeps us from finding the connections we truly want. Through MK's story, we discuss taking emotional risks, showing your personality sooner, and trusting that the
7 DAYS OF DATING CONFIDENCE: Feeling Desirable (Day #4)
In Day 4 of our 7 Days of Dating Confidence, we're talking about what it really means to feel desirable—and why confidence and attraction start from within.In this episode, certified sexologist Shan Boodram shares why flirting is simply intentional communication, how chemistry develops, and why embracing your sexuality and desires can make dating feel more empowering. We discuss how to stop pe
7 DAYS OF DATING CONFIDENCE: Reframing Setbacks (Day #3)
In Day 3 of our 7 Days of Dating Confidence, we're focusing on one of the biggest confidence killers in dating: taking every disappointment personally.In this episode, we're joined by Case Kenny to discuss how to stop letting rejection, ghosting, and almost-relationships define your worth. We explore why being single can actually be a superpower, how to separate other people's choices
7 DAYS OF DATING CONFIDENCE: Discovering Your Core Gifts (Day #2)
In Day 2 of our 7 Days of Dating Confidence, we're talking about the confidence that comes from embracing who you are instead of trying to become someone you're not.In this episode, we're joined by psychotherapist and Deeper Dating author Ken Page, who helps us see that the qualities we often try to hide—our sensitivity, depth, passion, or quirks—may actually be the very things that le
7 DAYS OF DATING CONFIDENCE: Becoming Single & Happy (Day #1)
To kick off the summer, we're bringing back some of our favorite episodes that restore our hope and confidence in dating—and remind us that being single doesn't mean putting your happiness on hold. In this episode, we're joined by Dr. Jenny Taitz to stop treating singlehood as a waiting room for love so you can enjoy your life as it is today. If you've been feeling discouraged or w
Why We Thought We Had to Choose Between Passion and Stability: What We Learned The Hard Way (So You Don't Have To)
What if the secret to lasting love isn't choosing between passion and stability, but learning how to create space for both? In this episode, we're exploring why so many of us feel pressured to pick between chemistry and security in early dating – and how that belief can leave us wondering if we're settling when the relationship feels calm or chasing relationships that feel exciting but
S22E21: How To Have An Intentional Fling: In Between Relationships, After a Divorce / Breakup, or While Recovering From Dating Burnout
When is the last time you felt that intoxicating rush of chemistry while dating? We're all about intentional dating to find a relationship....but we've forgotten about the excitement that comes from more casual dating sometimes. Whether you're in a season of life where you genuinely don't want commitment or you're burnt out from dating with an end goal in mind, we're discus
Why You're Picker Isn't Broken + How To Choose Better Partners: What We Learned The Hard Way (So You Don't Have To)
What if the issue isn’t that you’re “bad at choosing,” but that your sense of what you want is still evolving? In this episode, we're exploring the idea of your “picker” and how our past experiences don’t disqualify us from finding love but actually refine our ability to choose better over time (if we let them) We discuss the difference between actively choosing a partner versus passively acce
S22E20: Love Hard On Purpose w/ John Kim
We're getting real today...because building the type of connection that's real and honest takes us looking at love differently. We're joined by John Kim aka The Angry Therapist who challenges the traditional, views of loves, arguing for a more grounded approach that's more realistic. We're discussing the reasons his definition of a healthy relationship has changed over the year
Why They May Be Ready for Love (But Not A Relationship): What We Learned The Hard Way (So You Don't Have To)
Why might someone feel ready for love, but still not be ready for a relationship? Today we're discussing the often confusing gap between emotional availability and relational readiness. Just because someone can feel love, connection, or attraction doesn’t always mean they have the capacity, consistency, or alignment needed to build a real relationship. We discuss how it’s possible to genuinely
S22E19: Transitioning Through The Different Seasons Of A Relationship
What if the healthiest relationships aren’t the ones that stay the same forever, but the ones that learn how to evolve through every season? We’re joined by Lauren who shares how her relationship has changed over the years – from casual dating to marriage, periods of deep closeness to phases of independence, and living together and apart. We’re discussing what it actually takes to sustain a long-t
What Your Anxiety Means When Dating: What We Learned The Hard Way (So You Don't Have To)
Is the anxiety you’re feeling a signal of real connection – or something happening within you that’s worth understanding? We're unpacking the complex relationship between anxiety and dating, and how anxiety can often be mistaken for chemistry when it may actually reflect deeper uncertainty or unresolved emotional triggers. We discuss the importance of recognizing your personal anxiety patterns
S22E18: How To Actually Connect With People You Meet IRL...At Social Activities, Sports, Clubs, Events, and Beyond
What if the reason meeting people feels so hard right now isn’t because you’re doing something wrong, but because the entire social landscape has changed? We’re unpacking what it actually looks like to meet people beyond dating apps in a world where community and connection don’t come as naturally built into everyday life anymore. We discuss why simply showing up doesn't actually lead to meani
Why Texting In Dating Doesn't Matter As Much As We Think: What We Learned The Hard Way (So You Don't Have To)
We’re constantly told that texting is the key to building connection—but what if constant communication is actually creating a false sense of intimacy? In this episode, we’re unpacking the role texting plays in modern dating, and how being in touch all the time can blur the line between real connection and just constant contact. We’re also talking about the pressure texting creates in relationship
S22E17: What Everyone Gets Wrong About Being Single (From Someone Who Has Been Single Her Entire Life) w/ Dr. Bella DePaulo
What if you actually love living alone and are sick of the pitying looks from those who couldn't imagine happiness outside of coupledom? We're joined by Dr. Bella DePaulo who describes herself as 'Single at Heart' and shares why she's happy as a clam (even well into her 70s!) and feels anything but lonely being single even in a partnered world. We're discussing how to know
How To Not Abandon Yourself In Dating & Relationships: What We Learned The Hard Way (So You Don't Have To)
We often think being a good partner means putting someone else first—but what happens when you lose yourself in the process? In this episode, we’re unpacking self-abandonment in relationships and the subtle ways people sacrifice their needs, boundaries, and identity for the sake of keeping a connection. We’re also talking about the difference between healthy compromise and losing yourself complete
S22E16: How To Navigate Uncertainty (In Dating) w/ Simone Stolzoff
If one things for certain, there's a lot of uncertainty in dating, relationships, and the world right now. We're joined by journalist and author Simone Stolzoff to talk about why people struggle so much with uncertainty and how this shows up in our romantic relationships. We're discussing the three traps that make us believe there's certainty even when there isn't, ways to buil
The Difference Between Bad Timing & Readiness: What We Learned The Hard Way (So You Don't Have To)
We often hear the idea of “right person, wrong time”—but what if that’s not really what’s happening? In this episode, we’re unpacking how timing and readiness often get confused in relationships, and why someone not showing up fully usually says more about their willingness to prioritize you than the timing itself. We’re also talking about the way we romanticize almost-relationships, and how that
S22E15: The Dating Funnel That Will Get You From The First Date To A Real Relationship w/ Amy Chan
Could you really be one to two shifts away from having the type of healthy relationship you've always wanted? Our guest today, Amy Chan, believes so as she talks about the dating experiment that changed her life (that you all can do too) and how to look at dating like a sale funnel to identify which part is tripping you up. We discuss the 5 stages of dating, why we often want to slide through
The Right Time To Have Sex: What We Learned The Hard Way (So You Don't Have To)
We often get the question—when is the right time to have sex? In this episode we're digging into what we wish we knew when it came to sex, timing and the intimacy / expectations that come from it. We're discussing the challenge that comes from outdated rules like having sex on the third date, why its less about timing and more about the connection you've built, and how to feel more emo
S22E14: Bringing The Magic Back To Dating
We've gotten so good at being intentional about dating, but in the process we've lost the magic. Today we're discussing how dating isn’t just about waiting for sparks or optimizing every move –it’s about finding the balance between the two. We dive into the tension between chasing serendipity and over-strategizing your love life, why leaning too far in either direction can leave you fe
The Biggest Mistake In Dating: What We Learned The Hard Way (So You Don't Have To)
What if one of the biggest mistakes in dating is also one of the most common—and hardest to admit? If you’re hoping someone will change or dating someone for their potential instead of who they are right now, you may already be setting the relationship up to fail. In this episode, we explore why we so often expect partners to change for love, how this usually leads to disappointment, and what it m
S22E13: From Dating Struggles To Finding Your Person: Real Stories From Dateable Listeners
What if we were to tell you in 6 years your love life would like entirely different in the best way possible? We're so excited to bring you this episode where we check in with some of the members of the Dateable community – many that we got to know super well over the pandemic from our Sounding Board Community + Programs – to see what has changed in their love lives and the biggest shifts they
The Trait To Look Out For When Dating: What We Learned The Hard Way (So You Don't Have To)
What if we told you there is one trait that predicts if a relationship will work out (or not)? And this absolutely should be something you're looking for when dating. If someone you're seeing doesn't demonstrate these qualities – don't just walk away but run! In this episode, we dig into what we wish we knew to look for in a partner earlier, that eventually we realized through our
S22E12: The Science of Intimacy, Sex, and Love w/ Dr. Justin Garcia
At our core, we’re not just wired for sex—we’re wired for deep connection with another human being. In this episode, we’re joined by Dr. Justin Garcia, leading sex researcher, evolutionary biologist, and Executive Director of the Kinsey Institute, who shares the science behind why humans are driven to bond, love, and seek intimacy. We explore how modern dating both supports and disrupts our natura
What's More Important Than Being Chosen: What We Learned The Hard Way (So You Don't Have To)
Why do we place so much weight on being chosen and what does it actually get us? In this episode, we dig into how we’ve confused attention with real investment and chased validation instead of asking whether we felt genuinely valued. We reflect on the subtle ways performative dating shows up and how societal pressure keeps us focused on being picked and why the relationships worth having are built
S22E11: Rewiring Your Attachment Style w/ Thais Gibson
We all know our attachment styles greatly impact how we show up in dating and relationships, but what do we do if we have anxious or avoidant tendencies? We’re joined by attachment expert Thais Gibson, who shares how we can rewire our brains and nervous system to feel more secure. We discuss the ways that our childhood wounds directly correlate to our attachment styles, how to reprogram the subco
How To Tell It’s The Right Relationship: What We Learned The Hard Way (So You Don't Have To)
If you’ve ever questioned whether a relationship is “right” you’re not alone. In this episode, we unpack how our understanding of healthy relationships has evolved over time, and why the ones that actually last often feel steady and grounding rather than dramatic or intense. We reflect on past experiences where chemistry and excitement were mistaken for compatibility, and how that mindset kept us
S22E10: Regaining Self-Trust In Dating
In a world full of opinions, algorithms, and endless advice, learning to trust yourself has never been harder—or more important. In this episode, we unpack how modern dating and decision-making have become clouded by external noise, from social media to AI, and why reconnecting with your intuition is key to clarity and confidence in dating. We discuss the risks of crowdsourcing every decision, how
How Not To Choose The Wrong Partner: What We Learned The Hard Way (So You Don't Have To)
If you’re like 46% of our audience, you may be afraid of choosing the wrong partner—and that fear can keep you stuck overthinking every decision or holding onto something that doesn’t feel right. In this episode, we share why the real mistake isn’t picking the wrong person—it’s staying too long when it’s not working. We discuss what we wish we could tell our younger selves to relinquish this fear
S22E9: How To Spot A Narcissist (And Not Give Them Your Time & Attention) w/ Dr. Alina Kastner
Whether you’ve questioned if someone in your life might be a narcissist or just want to better understand toxic relationship patterns, we’re breaking down what narcissism really looks like and how to protect yourself. We’re joined by Dr. Alina Kastner, who shares why these relationships are so detrimental and how to recognize the warning signs to gtfo of these unhealthy dynamics. We're discuss
Mixed Signals: What We Learned The Hard Way (So You Don't Have To)
Have you ever wasted time trying to decode people who are giving mixed signals? If you've spent hours re-reading messages, overanalyzing tone and holding onto potential, this one is for you. Or if you're just starting to date in your 20s and want to avoid all this time wasted, this something you need to hear right now. We're sharing what we learned the hard way so you don't have to
S22E8: Dating Again After You Thought You Found 'The One'
Have you ever had a relationship where you thought "this is it" only for it to crumble right before your eyes? Add in if there was any infidelity or other betrayals and ooph – no wonder it's hard to get back into dating and trust again. We're talking to Greg about what he's discovered 3 years post-divorce about dating again, navigating the apps, and healing through it all. We d
Quickie w/ Julie: Dating Skills vs. Relating Skills
If you find yourself getting dates but they never turn into relationships, you may be over-indexiing "dating skills" and undervaluing "relating" ones. In this episode, Julie breaks down the difference between dating skills (the spark) and relating skills (the glue), and why most people obsess over chemistry but ignore the skills that actually build connection. If you’re cycling thr
S22E7: Secrets From A Modern Matchmaker w/ Jaydi Kuba Samuels
Whether you've tried matchmaking yourself or just learned about it from TV, we're giving you a behind the scenes look into the art of the setup and what it truly means to have success when using a matchmaker. We're chatting with Jaydi Samuels Kuba, a Hollywood matchmaker, about all the challenges and benefits of matchmaking – and how to make it work for you. We discuss what she's l
Quickie w/ Yue: The True Villain In A Situationship
Situationships always have a villain—but it might not be who you think. In this episode, Yue challenges the narrative that the non-committal partner is the bad guy, especially if they have been honest about what they can offer. Inspired by the short film Making Space, she explores how we often ignore clear signals, cling to potential, and hope ambiguity will turn into commitment. Yue unpacks the d
S22E6: The Psychology of Relationships
Why do some relationships thrive while others seem to fall apart? The answer isn't luck; it's psychology. Join us as we dive into the next phase of long-term committed relationships and the 6 pillars we believe are truly the foundation of a partnership. We're discussing how to navigate the recurring cycles of a relationship fueled by both of your individual patterns and histories, why
Quickie w/ Julie: The #1 Skill You Can Have In Dating
In this episode, Julie is breaking down the biggest change she made when dating the last time around before meeting her now-husband: seeking clarity. If you’ve ever overanalyzed a text, questioned where you stand, or stayed because “maybe it’ll become clear,” this conversation will shift how you approach dating. Julie breaks down why directly asking for what you need isn’t aggressive — it’s self-r
S22E5: Why You Think You're Single vs. What Your Friends Really Think (From the Perspective of 2 Male BFFs)
Have you ever thought you knew why dating was so hard only for your best friend to have a completely different perspective of what's keeping you single? We're joined by two lifelong besties Sean & Ned to hear Sean's challenges of dating in a highly ambitious city like San Francisco where the ratios skew more men to women. And of course the perspective of Ned from his experiences wi
Quickie w/ Yue: Love Isn't Blind (And Not For The Reasons You Think)
Emotional connection is powerful—but is it enough? In this episode, Yue questions the idea that love can truly be “blind" but beyond just being physically attracted, and more about the general ease and connection you share in a physical space. Drawing from the TV show Love Is Blind (which she has gotten hooked this season), a recent experience with a friend of hers, and her own time in a"v
S22E4: Dating, Relationships & Having Kids In Midlife w/ Claire & James Davis
Whether you're approaching 40 or have cleared this milestone, you may be feeling anxious about what's to come. We're talking to James & Claire Davis, better known as the Midlife Mentors, who are shedding some light on the evolving definition of midlife and how we can move from fearing this next chapter to recognizing its opportunity. We're discussing the hormonal and health cha
Quickie w/ Julie: It's Not Settling If You Have These 3 Things
What if the real risk isn’t settling… it’s misunderstanding what makes love last? In this episode, Julie challenges the way we think about choosing a partner. She explores a very simple but powerful statement that was made about the three things you need to find in a partner that will ensure you never settle that has truly changed how she thinks about relationships. If you’ve ever worried about pi
S22E3: Decentering Men & Dating (Without Giving Up On Finding Love) w/ Allison Goldberg
Have you ever felt so burnt out on dating you wanted to give up? This may sound counterintuitive but we're talking about how decentering men and dating could be the key to removing this dating exhaustion – and ultimately finding your person. We're talking with comedian Allison Goldberg about how she shifted her dating strategy to staying open to meeting someone but not making her whole lif
Quickie w/ Yue: Hard Maybe On Kids
Ever feel pressured to choose a side on big life decisions? Yue explores the freedom of living in the gray area, especially when it comes to having kids. At 45, she shares why a "hard maybe" is empowering, not indecisive. She talks about why she doesn't need to be defined by any decisions (that may change in the future) and how to separate your own wants and desires from those of frien
S22E2: What We've Gotten Wrong About Attraction, Choosing The Right Partners & Long-Term Connection (According To Science) w/ Paul Eastwick
We're back with one of our most popular guests Dr. Paul Eastwick to debunk some of the biggest myths – from the outdated "dating market" mindset to gender stereotypes – that hold us back from finding great partners and realizing we have the attributes that make us a good partner as well. We break down the real science behind the importance of the qualities we think make someone attract
Quickie w/ Julie: Why Dating Has Gotten Harder In The Last 10 Years (And It’s Not What You Think)
Dating may feel harder, but has it truly gotten harder in the last 10 years? Julie is breaking down her hypothesis that what we do know is that it sure has gotten a heck of a lot noisier! Between social media, AI, and well-meaning friends, she discusses how this has causes an influx of overthinking in dating instead of leading with connection. She talks about what we can do to reclaim our intuitio
S22E1: 10 Years Of Dateable: What's Changed From 2016 to 2026 (In Dating)
SEASON 22 IS OFFICIALLY HERE! And it's also our 10 year anniversary special from when our first episode went live back in Feb 2016. We're to taking a trip back memory lane to when we first started the podcast – what was going on in our lives and what made us decide to start a dating podcast to begin with! We're also talking about the big shifts that have happened in the last few years
Quickie w/ Yue: The Secret To Changing Your Beliefs On Finding Love, Aging, and All The Big Stuff
Ever been told to "believe in yourself" and thought, "How?" Yue explores why belief isn't about commands but proof. Inspired by Nir Eyal, she reveals how your brain demands evidence, not motivation. Discover how to shift beliefs by collecting proof from past wins and admired relationships. Yue shares practical steps to turn daily routines into evidence-collecting rituals, helpi
Yue Interviews Julie: Coming Out Of The Post-Wedding Blues & Entering The Next Stage Of Her Relationship
This week we're turning the tables and Yue is interviewing Julie now! Julie shares her experiences (and surprises!) about married life, including the unexpected emotional aftermath of the wedding. She reflects on her personal growth over the past decade, the importance of stability in relationships, and also how her anxieties have now manifested in different forms. We discuss the big 'What
Quickie w/ Julie: The 5 Questions To Ask To See If They Have The Capacity For A Relationship
It's easy to get wrapped up in the chemistry and connection with someone without actually being objective if they have the capacity of a relationship (or the type of relationship you want!) right now. As someone who learned the hard way spending years with people who weren't ready, Julie takes you through 5 questions she'd ask today to get a better feel of where someone was at (many of
Julie Interviews Yue: From Breakups To Makeups and Stepping Into Alignment in 2026
We're back with a crowd favorite of when we interview each other! This week, Julie interviews Yue, starting with her reflections on 2025 and how she learned to not shrink herself and embrace the freedom to be her true self. She also drops something so surprising (she even had Julie in shock!) related to her current relationship and how she's been able to work through the challenges of unde
Quickie w/Yue: What I Learned When I Stopped Being Proud of Being Intimidating
With the throwback to 2016 trend, Yue reflected back to what she was like during that time when dating. As someone who was often told she was "intimidating", she shares how she used to view this as a badge of honor and as a way to attract men, but now realizes it was code for being emotionally unavailable and attracting all the wrong types of people. She shares why this actually held her b
Are You Ready For Love in 2026? 10 Questions To Ask Yourself Now
We often ask "Are they ready for a relationship?" but the more important questions is "Are you ready?" We're revealing 10 questions you need to ask yourself now to see how you relate to others, know when to stay vs walk away, and trust yourself in the process of finding love. We're also doing a final segment with Dr Serena Sterling, the founder of the new dating app Satya,
Quickie w/ Julie: What Relational Intelligence Looks Like In Early Dating
We talk about the need for emotional intelligence all the time, but what about relational intelligence? In many ways, it's as important or if not more! In today's episode, Julie's taking about the 5 stages of Relational Intelligence and how to put them into motion when applied to the common dating scenario of someone you're into not texting or setting up plans as quickly as you'
What's in Store For Your Dating Archetype In The Year Of The Horse
As we approach the year of the horse – a year full of movement, momentum, courage and moving forward – we wanted to dive into how 2026 will look for each dating archetype. If you're new here, definitely take our quiz (https://howtobedateable.com/) or it's in our book 'How to Be Dateable'! We discuss the superpowers each dating archetype brings, the boost you need for 2026, and what
Quickie w/ Yue: Why We Need To Be A Bit Delulu When It Comes To Love
We're all so rational when it comes to dating and trying to find our person. But what if we need to be a bit more delusional? And what's missing is that level of delulu that helps us envision what we truly want and actually believe it's possible. Yue shares why she's going to be embrace being delusional this year and how we all can get some of that magic back into dating, relations
Manifesting Better Dating Experiences & Relationships for 2026
Happy 2026 all! We're back bringing that new year energy and sharing why 2026 – the year of the horse – will be better for your love life. We kick off this episode with a special segment with Dr Serena Sterling, the founder of the new dating app Satya, about what she's doing to change dating app culture (which includes keeping people in purgatory for bad dating behaviors!). We also discuss
Quickie w/ Julie: How to Prepare for Peak Dating Season (Dating Sunday and Beyond)
Dating Sunday (the first Sunday in January) is the busiest day for online dating, seeing huge spikes in activity. So how do you maximize this peak dating season that runs through February? We're back with a quickie where Julie shares seven essential tips for maximizing success on dating apps during the peak season, starting with Dating Sunday. • How To Refresh your dating profile for the new y
8 DAYS OF DATING OPTIMISM: Finding Love At Any Age (Day #8)
As we approach the new year, we're bringing you a special series: the 8 days of dating optimism, where we air the top episodes that restored our hope and confidence in finding our person.And to conclude our series: we’re celebrating the beauty of finding love later in life—and why timing that once felt “off” can end up being perfect in hindsight. We’re joined by former CNN journalist May Lee,
8 DAYS OF DATING OPTIMISM: Following Your Intuition (Day #7)
As we approach the new year, we're bringing you a special series: the 8 days of dating optimism, where we air the top episodes that restored our hope and confidence in finding our person.We're back for Day #7 with one of our favorite past guests, author & intuitive Nikki Novo, who breaks down how to tap into your intuition so you can build trust, courage, and clarity as you date. We ge
8 DAYS OF DATING OPTIMISM: The Boyfriend Manual (Day #6)
As we approach the new year, we're bringing you a special series: the 8 days of dating optimism, where we air the top episodes that restored our hope and confidence in finding our person.Today is a reminder that GOOD GUYS EXIST! We’re joined by Vasanth, who breaks down the everyday things that help you become a better partner. He has this grounded, thoughtful way of talking about relationships
8 DAYS OF DATING OPTIMISM: Meeting Your Half Orange (Day #5)
As we approach the new year, we're bringing you a special series: the 8 days of dating optimism, where we air the top episodes that restored our hope and confidence in finding our person.Here we are back with day #5: Talking about how to become naturally more magnetic, knowing that it’s not a matter of if you’ll find your person but rather when. We’re joined by Amy Spencer, author of Meeting Y
