How to Be a Hot Guy
How to Be a Hot Guy is a podcast that delves into masculinity through the lens of the body, relationships, and societal values placed on men. Host Aneliza Carmen Ruíz guides listeners through conversations with diverse men from various racial, ethnic, socioeconomic, sexual, educational, and regional backgrounds. Each episode explores the same set of questions, offering insights into modern masculinity and the experiences of men from all walks of life.
Episodes
"Stick Out" with Sebastian
So for this, the last episode of season one of How to Be a Hot Guy, I am so honored and grateful to share my interview with one of my close friends, Sebastian. Sebas is truly one of my girls. He is caring and thoughtful, and inspires me with the way he lives, so committed to living such a full and rich life. Sebas is brilliant and creative. They bring light and laughter into any space they enter.
"Let's chill" with Ryan
So if you are someone who spends a good amount of time on TikTok, Ryan’s voice and story might sound familiar to you. A couple of years ago now, Ryan, who is on TikTok as @ matcha.mix, went very viral after posting a pretty vulnerable video. Looking straight into the camera, he explained that he had been dumped for the second time in a row by girls who said they weren’t attracted to him. Recognizi
How Can Men Find Joy? with Aneliza
Slight change of plan this week! Instead of an interview, I’m sharing some thoughts and reflections as we near the end of the first season of How to Be a Hot Guy. Listen to hear my three main takeaways and the questions I’m still looking to get answered. Come back next week for our next full interview. Full transcripts of each episode are available on Substack: hotguypod.substack.com Want to be in
"Let's get coffee and find hotness in the journey" with Chris and Greg
When I first went to Oaklife Church, where Chris and Greg were co-pastors, there was a lot that was new to me. Oaklife is a queer-affirming church that makes time for folks to chat about and respond to the messages every week. But definitely what was most striking was the fact that Chris and Greg were unlike any other church leaders I had seen before.Chris and Greg wore their regular clothes to pr
"Hone a Skill" with Kyle
Let me tell you how I met Kyle. I was tabling at SF zine fest, which is a huge event with maybe more than 200 vendors and surely close to 1000 patrons shuffling in and out of a conference hall in one of the more crowded neighborhoods of San Francisco. On my table, somewhat hidden by my zines on display, I put a small flyer with a call for participants for this podcast. Lots of people looked at it,
"Wake up at 6 AM" with Jude
I have to confess that Jude is my friend, so it’s impossible for me to have an unbiased opinion about him. But even before we were friends, I could tell that Jude was super smart, thoughtful, and caring. As I’ve gotten to know him, I’ve been so touched by his generosity and vulnerability, and so it gives me great pleasure to share some of that with you. As Jude explains in our conversation, beauty
"Accept Who You Are" with Gene
Listener, can I be honest with you? I was nervous to meet Gene. Gene is 50, a lawyer, very smart and accomplished. The kind of person I am easily intimidated by and want to impress. But once Gene and I got talking, I was put at ease by his soothing voice and struck by how sensitive and earnest he was. He told me about his fluctuating confidence, how he wanted to be in a relationship, and how he’s
"Spend Time with Yourself" with Francisco
The most important thing you need to know about Francisco is that he is a professor and academic. That means he has a particular approach to looking at, experiencing, and thinking about life. It seems like, since he was little, Francisco has always been observant and curious. As you’ll hear him tell stories about his family, relationships, career, and even his style, you’ll notice how he is examin
"Come Back to Softness" with Alfredo
I was excited to talk with Alfredo for a lot of reasons. He’s Mexican like me, from a neighborhood that’s similar to mine, and most importantly, he seemed like someone who could add nuance to our perception of the Latinx experience. The emotional lives of Latinos are rarely ever represented as having depth and dimension, and so we’re rarely represented as whole, complex people. My conversation wit
"Look in the Mirror" with Aiden
"Look in the Mirror" with AidenAiden fits what you might already imagine a hot guy to be. He’s handsome and well-dressed. He’s charismatic. He’s funny and confident. But Aiden hasn’t always felt this way. In our conversation, we talked about growing up in LA, navigating challenging family dynamics, and what ultimately led him to make a change and live his life authentically as a queer ma
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Welcome to How to Be a Hot Guy! New episodes drop every Monday :) See you next week, Hottie <3
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