Single, Not Stalled
A podcast for Catholic women navigating single life, whether by choice, vocation, or circumstance. Hosts Monica Hinderer and Katie Hinderer, two sisters with different perspectives on singleness, discuss faith, friendships, professional growth, and finding joy in everyday moments. The show frames this season not as a waiting period but as a time of purpose and grace.
Episodes
Getting Good at Failure
Forget that polished resume you send out to potential employers! Have you thought about making a Failure Resume? This week, Monica and Katie dive into the value of failure, the lessons that can be learned when you bomb at something, and they get vulnerable, sharing some of their greatest failures.
Toxic Empathy and the Anti-Hero
Our empathy today has taken a toxic turn in which we excuse or downplay a person's actions in the name of care for the person. The rise of the anti-hero story and the heartstrings that pull has us misunderstanding true justice and mercy. Don't miss this episode inspired by the Lindsay Clancy trial.
Moving Beyond the Superficial in Our Conversations
Friendship today is challenging, especially since deep conversations are not common anymore. We share some thoughts on how to make these moments more frequent with friends and strangers alike.
Are We the Most Forgotten Demographic in the Church?
Based on a recent editorial Katie read, they dive into how single women are often an overlooked demographic in the Church when it comes to cultivating community and providing formation.
Young Professionals and the Myth of Work/Life Balance
This week Monica and Katie dive into what it means to be a young professional today, the myth of work/life balance and how so many of these so-called boundaries are really setting professionals up to fail in today's workplace environment.
Romanticizing Your Life
This week, we're talking about the little things that make life better, make your place feel more like home, and give you a little happiness in your day. We're discussing ways to romanticize your life.
We're Back from Summer Break!
Catch up with Katie and Monica after their whirlwind summer of international travel, big moves, and interesting life revelations.
Motivation and Burnout
Katie and Monica took the M Code test to determine their motivators and are now diving into the results. Our similarities and differences were fascinating. If you missed last week's episode with Laura, the Motivation Code Coach, be sure to tune in to that.
What Actually Motivates You?
We're veering from our normal content this week, and bringing on a guest - Laura Roland, an M Code coach. Together, she and Katie, discuss what motivates and excites you to accomplish tasks and where burnout is likely to appear. You won't want to miss this one! Learn more about Laura and her coaching here: https://www.laurarolandcoaching.com/
Are We Putting Too Much Faith in Catholic Influencers?
Lately, the role of the Catholic influencer has been called into question. This week, Monica and Katie engage in a lively discussion about faith-based influencers, the reality of our fallen nature, and the importance of not placing all our faith and trust in a human being.
Do You Have Adult Boredom?
Boredom as an adult doesn't look a lot like it did when we were kids. It often manifests itself in busy work or zoning out. This week Monica and Katie talk about boredom and some remedies to conquering this in our professional years.
The Surprising Correlation between Siblings and Happiness Later in Life
The relationships you are born into with your siblings might have a profound impact on your mental state and happiness in the later years. Monica and Katie discuss this finding and what it means for us today.
Can You Hear Him? Tuning Into God's Voice
Following last week's episode on success, we wanted to discuss hearing God's voice. How do we do that? How can we communicate better with Him? Where do we experience Him? Tune in as Katie and Monica share some things that have helped them over the years, including a new exercise Monica has been doing with clients to great success.
What Does Success Look Like For You?
This week we're looking at the idea of success. What is it? How do we define it? And am I being swept up in what others consider successful, as opposed to what true success would mean for me?
Is God's Will Always the Hardest Option?
This week Katie and Monica dive into a conversation about doing hard things. Fresh off Holy Week, and Katie completing a Hyrox, they talk about the value that lies in doing hard things, while also acknowledging that God's will is not always in the hardest option.
Are You To Blame for Still Being Single in your 30s?
Buckle up! This week we're sharing a hot take about those situationally single and looking toward marriage! We dig into whether you are partly responsible for your continued singleness in your 30s. Tune in, and then chime in with your take.
Removing The Masks We Wear
We've got another longer episode this week! Join Katie and Monica in our discussion about the masks we wear, why we wear them, and how to begin showing up more authentically and vulnerably with those around us.
The Myth of Having It All
This week Katie and Monica dive into the lie that is often sold to women - you can have it all! You can have an amazing career, exciting social life, robust travel schedule, fit body, healthy life, deep prayer, and on and on. When in reality we can't have it all - at least not at the same time.
Rest - 7 Areas When Discussing How Well We Rest
This week, Monica and Katie share their test results from the RestQuiz.com, which analyzes 7 different aspects of your life to assess how well rested you are. No surprise, they were not well rested. But a lot of the results were really eye-opening.
Living Lent: the letter of the law versus the spirit of the law
As we kick off this penitential season, Monica and Katie discuss what mother Church asks us to do, the example Christ gave us in the desert, and a lot of misconceptions that come with this season. Whether you've picked your lenten practices or not, this is an episode you won't want to miss.
Living the Single Life when Valentine's Day Is Hard
This week we decided to wade into the waters of talking about not having that 'special someone' at Valentine's Day and what that means. For those vocationally and situationally single there will be times when that reality is difficult. But it not about ignoring that reality but diving into it and brining it to our prayer.
Cultivating a Devotion to Mary, Mother of Fairest Love as a Single Woman
As the feast of Mary, Mother of Fairest Love - Feb 14th - quickly approaches, we discuss what exactly this devotion is and how she can be such a great model to women everywhere - single or married.
Incorporating AI into Our Lives, Sanctifying this part of the World
This week Monica and Katie talk about the world of AI, the concerns and the opportunities that exist in that space. Join them as they discuss unique ways they have used it and how they see this shaping the future.
Cultivating Connection: Embracing Singleness with Purpose
Monica and Katie discuss the challenges of feeling alone in a world where many are coupled, stressing that single individuals must actively seek out and nurture their relationships. They encourage listeners to reflect on their narratives about vulnerability and connection, suggesting that true belonging often requires effort and courage.
God's Radical Love for You
Monica and Katie took a theme from last week's episode on their words of the year and decided to dedicate an entire episode to the tangent! We're talking about God's radical love for you and how knowing that changes everything!
2026 Word of the Year
Welcome back to Season 2 of the Single Not Stalled Podcast! We are kicking this second season off with our word of the year to set the stage for 2026!
A Time of Waiting - Advent
In our final episode of the season, we talk about Advent and other seasons of waiting that we experience in life. Together we discuss how this period is meant to be a way to prepare for what is to come not a stagnant time without growth.
Navigating Big Life Shifts
Monica and Katie sit down to discuss how to navigate big life shifts, whether that in personal or professional life!
Creating Margins in Your Day and in Your Life
This week we dive into a topic Katie has been discovering as she continues to work on slowing down this year: margins. We discuss what they are, how to create them in your day and in your life, and why they are so important.
Memento Mori: Halloween, All Souls' Day, and the Last Things
Having just celebrated Halloween, All Saints' Day, and All Souls' Day, we decided to spend this week talking about the four last things: death, judgment, heaven and hell; and how the contemplation of these things can help us know how to live our lives well.
St. Joseph, the antidote to Toxic Masculinity
After last week's discussion on how Our Lady is the perfect example of true femininity, we decided to continue the conversation and look at true masculinity and how St. Joseph truly embodies that.
Our Mother, the antidote to Toxic Femininity
Fair warning... this is a long one! We were on a roll. This week Monica shares her hot take on the phrases toxic masculinity and femininity, we discuss what it truly means to be feminine and how Mary, Our Mother is the perfect antitdote to a culture that does not value the strength and character of women.
Ep 32: Cultivating a Welcoming Home
Have you ever thought about the space you've created in your home or apartment? What message are you sending to family and friends about what you hold dear? This week, we discuss creating welcoming spaces and why that's important.
Ep. 31: Could You Go Alcohol Free?
This week Monica and Katie share some insights they have gleaned from giving up alcohol for a time. Monica did a three-week experiment, while Katie is in the midst of a year without. They discuss the effects alcohol has on sleep and mood, while also discussing the need to look at our thoughts around things like alcohol, caffeine, etc...
Ep. 30: Differing Opinions, Dialogue, and Charlie Kirk
We're back after a little summer break! Monica and Katie are jumping right in to talk about the death of Charlie Kirk and the great need for dialogue today! We're discussing the need for different opinions, being open to hearing different perspectives, and how to bring the Christian message of LOVE to everyone we encounter.
Ep. 29: Leisure - what it is and what it isn't
This week, just before we take a break for the rest of the summer, Monica and Katie talked about leisure. No, it isn't binge-watching your favorite Netflix drama or doom-scrolling Instagram. Tune in to hear what leisure truly is and how it can be used for your betterment.
Ep. 28: Managing Those Expectations You've Created for Your Life
This week we dive into an area that is holding many people back - expectations! Often we give ourselves unrealistic expectations and they keep us from moving forward and fully flourishing. Monica and Katie are talking about the trouble that these can cause and how to identify ones that may be holding you back.
Ep. 27: Buen Camino - our Camino experience and insights
We got back a week ago from spending 10 days on the Camino. As we walked nearly 200 miles, we learned a lot of lessons on the way! This week we are sharing some of those insights with you.
Ep. 26: Avoid these Common Mistakes When Applying for a Job
Katie just went through a hiring process and as a result has a few things to share about what she saw from the applications she received and how to stand out from the crowd! Whether you are currently looking for a job or not, this conversation is a worthwhile listen!
Ep. 25: Personality Tests and Our Relationship with God.
In part 2 of our series on the enneagram, we discuss how knowing our self better - including our needs and fears - can help strengthen and deepen our prayer life and relationship with God. We discuss how each of us needs a combination of stillness, silence, and solitude to pray well, and how to discover what you need most.
Ep. 24: Personality Tests and Knowing Ourselves
This week as we head off on our Camino adventure, we wanted to discuss personality tests and the benefits they can provide for knowing ourselves and others better. Personally, we like the Enneagram as a way to learn more about our core desires, needs, and fears. For both of us, this test has helped us understand better the way we tick, explain ourselves better to others, and has helped us learn ho
Ep. 23: Openness to Life and the Boss Babe Culture
As single women, how do you combine this boss babe culture we are surrounded by and the call to be open to life? We discuss how even without biological sister we can live in a way that is open to life, and we can pursue career excellence without becoming a slave to our profession or the corporate climb.
Ep. 22: Getting through a Friendship Drought
There are times in our lives when it feels like we are living in a friendship drought. It could be after a move, when our friends get married or start having babies, or other big life events. This week we discuss how to get through these droughts by pouring into our friends and giving them the time we uniquely have as single individuals.
Ep. 21: How to Respond to the new Pope
In a special episode, this week Monica and Katie discuss the new Pope - Pope Leo XIV! As faithful Catholics, what does this mean, and how should we respond? And full transparency, as Chicago natives - we are thrilled that a Chicago boy is the new Roman Pontiff.
Ep. 20: When It's Time to Pivot
Today we talk about what to do when you are at a crossroads in life - maybe it's in your career, in a relationship, in any part of your life - and you need to make a decision of whether to keep on with what you are currently doing or pivot into the new and unknown. Monica and Katie share their thoughts about times they needed to pivot, the advice they received along the way, and even how AI can he
Ep. 19: Special Episode on the Death of Pope Francis
We're taking a break from our usual programming and discussing the death of Pope Francis, the legacy he leaves behind, and the upcoming election of our next Pope. Katie shares some insights from her trip to Rome and her experience being in St. Peter's Square the day he passed away!
Ep. 18: We're Called to be Attractive
Are your facial expressions keeping people from engaging with you? Do you hold yourself in a way that shuts you off from others? Whether we are trying to find a life partner, a new friend, or someone to share the Gospel with, carrying ourselves in a way that attracts others is important. We dive into this discussion based on a recent Diary of a CEO podcast with Vanessa Van Edwards.
Ep. 17: Holy Week and Our Journey After Lent
As Lent comes to an end, what are we to do with all those resolutions and mortifications we've been struggling to live during this season? We talk about how to continue these good habits and what to tweak! Plus don't miss our little side tangent on the beauty of Holy Thursday and the tradition of visiting 7 Churches!
Ep. 16: Finding Fulfillment in Yourself, Not Others
For the situationally single, it can be tempting to think you are not complete until you find that special someone. But the truth is, we need to work at being fulfilled and complete in ourselves with the Lord. Today we talk about inner happiness, relational prayer, and more.
Ep. 15: Spring Cleaning and Minimalism
As April begins, we dive into the impact of clutter in our lives. How more material possessions can often mean a more complicated inner life, and why living a little more minimally can help us find God.
Ep. 14: Cultivating Community
This week we're furthering our discussion about the Anti-Social Century and talking about how we can go about creating community and building friendships. Be sure to listen to episode 13 to get an idea of what sparked this conversation, and if you want more on friendship tune into episode 3!
Ep. 13: The Anti-Social Century
This week we were inspired by a recent article in the Atlantic entitled: The Anti-Social Century. Author Derek Thompson shares some shocking statistics about how Americans are now spending more time alone than ever before and the detrimental effects that has on so many aspects of our lives and culture. This will change the way you look at your everyday interactions with strangers and friends alike
Ep. 12: What if God Gave You Everything You Prayed for This Week?
If God granted you everything you prayed for this week, what would you now have? What would have changed in the world? What would He have given your family and friends? This week we dive into this question and the importance of praying without ceasing, asking God for what we need even while knowing that He already knows what we need before we utter a word.
Ep. 11: Living Lent Well
As we dive into this season rich with grace, we discuss the meaning behind our prayer, mortification, fasting and almsgiving of this season! And if you're still trying to decide what to give up, we offer some unique suggestions toward the end of the episode that you won't want to miss.
Ep. 10: Are you a Rushing Woman? Part II
Pick up where Monica and Katie left off last week discussing the Rushing Woman syndrome and how we can find ways to slow down to really focus on the things that matter rather than constantly rushing from one thing to the next.
Ep. 9: Are you a Rushing Woman? Part I
Hurry, hurry, hurry. Do more. Mutli-task. Always be available. Today we often hear these messages and feel the pressure to always be on. While Rushing Woman Syndrome, according to at least one doctor, is a reality for many of us today - it's not how we're supposed to live. Dive into the topic this week with Katie and Monica!
Ep. 8: Valentines and the Single Gal
Happy Valentine's Day! In this episode we talk about navigating this holiday, which can be a difficult time for those situationally single, and how to find the love of our life in God alone. We go deep in this episode, so get ready.
EP. 7: Limiting Beliefs and the Single Life - Part II
We're back with the second part of this conversation about limiting beliefs when it comes to the single life. If you haven't listened to the previous episode you'll want to listen to that before tuning into this week's episode.
Ep 6: Limiting Beliefs and the Single Life - Part I
This week we're launching into a discussion on limiting beliefs that we might have about our state in life and how to reframe them in a way that encourages growth and grace. This is the first part of a two-part discussion on this topic! Have a limiting belief or thought from this episode? Reach out to us on Instagram @singlenotstalled or via email singlenotstalled@gmail.com
Ep 5: Don't Die and the Longevity Movement
This week, we're diving into one of the newest Netflix documentaries - Don't Die - to discuss the longevity movement, our culture's obsession with living forever, and how we're called to sanctify today.
Ep 4: Sanctifying Your Work
We are all called to sanctify the place in life we occupy now. For those of us who are single, that means sanctifying our work (and our studies if we are still a student). So let's dive into what that looks like!
Ep 3: The Importance of Friendship
As social beings by nature, we crave human connection. In your single state you have a unique opportunity to cultivate deep, meaningful, lasting friendships.
Ep 2: The Joy of Singleness
In this episode, we talk about finding deep lasting joy in your single life - a joy that lasts no matter your relationship status because it depends on your relationship with God.
Ep 1: Welcome to Single, Not Stalled
Welcome to Single, Not Stalled - the latest podcast in the Fairest Love arsenal! In this episode you'll meet your hosts - Katie and Monica - and learn more about what we hope to achieve with this podcast.
Single, Not Stalled Trailer
Welcome to the newest podcast in the Fairest Love arsenal!
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