Evolving Love
Evolving Love is a podcast featuring conversations about non-monogamy, conscious relationships, and sexuality. Hosts Abbey and her husband Liam share their own lived experiences and talk with special guests. The show aims to explore these topics openly and honestly. More information can be found at evolvingloveproject.substack.com.
Episodes
Dangerous Ideas: Reflecting on FODI 2026
Fresh from a huge weekend at Sydney’s Festival of Dangerous Ideas, we take you behind the scenes of the talks, performances and conversations that stayed with us long after leaving Carriageworks. We unpack one particularly confronting moment inside Mark Haslam’s FAKE, which opened up a conversation about groupthink, social pressure, integrity, binary thinking and whether we’re really as willing to
Are You Afraid of Your Partner’s Success?
What does it mean to truly want the person you love to shine?In this episode, we explore compersion beyond sex and the joy that can come from watching your partner create, succeed, receive praise and step fully into who they are.Following Liam’s recent performances, we reflect on creativity, jealousy, attention and the ways our relationships can either nurture our gifts or quietly ask us to make o
Questions To Fall In Love To
In this episode, we share some exciting personal news, including our upcoming appearance at the Festival of Dangerous Ideas, where we’ll be exploring the provocative topic Why Non-Monogamy Makes Us Better Parents. We also talk about Liam’s new creative work, Channels: Artists on Ageing Creatively, and reflect on creativity, ageing, and the importance of making space for the things that bring us al
Would You Rather Discover Your Partner's Affair Or...
What would you choose if there were no perfect answers?In this return of our Would You Rather series, we explore some confronting relationship dilemmas.Would you rather discover your partner had a passionate year-long affair you never knew about, or have them come to you beforehand and ask for permission to pursue the exact same connection openly?Would you choose the greatest romantic and sexual c
Falling in Love With Another...When Open Relationships Expand
In this episode of Evolving Love, we dive into one of the biggest fears people have around non-monogamy: what happens if you fall in love with someone else?We also unpack the difference between infatuation, limerence and lasting love. We share stories about dating separately for the first time, navigating intense emotional connections with other partners, and learning how openness and honesty help
Are Non-Monogamous People Narcissists?
In this episode of the Evolving Love podcast, we dive into one of the most common accusations aimed at non-monogamous people: are we actually narcissists? We unpack the way the word “narcissist” gets thrown around online and in relationship culture, and explore whether non-monogamy is genuinely selfish or whether it can actually require deeper empathy, accountability and communication. Along the w
Is Non-Monogamy For You?
In this episode, we explore one of the biggest questions we hear: is non-monogamy actually right for you?We break it down into three parts, first looking at the reasons you probably shouldn’t open your relationship, signs you might be ready to start exploring, and finally we share what it feels like when you are ready to start exploring non-monogamy.We explore the red flags, the green lights, and
School Principal on Rethinking Family School Relationships - Dr. Sandra Webster.
Today’s conversation is deeply personal for us and one that features a unique, open-minded and compassionate perspective from our guest.We’re joined by Dr. Sandra Webster, an educational leader, former school principal across three different countries, and more recently the author of the book “Creating Family-School Partnerships”.In this conversation, we explore what true inclusion looks like for
The Poly Pile On, Online Trolls & SBS Insight
In this episode, we reflect on what it has been like to take our relationship into the public eye after appearing on SBS’s Insight, where we spoke about jealousy, envy, and compersion. What followed was a flood of online commentary, much of it critical. We unpack what it feels like to have our relationship reduced to a two-minute clip and judged at scale, and we explore why people feel so certain
Beyond the Gender Divide: Rethinking Modern Love
Today’s conversation opens up a wider reflection on modern gender discourse and and whether some narratives unintentionally deepen the divide between men and women rather than bringing them together. We explore what it means to hold space for the realities of inequality while still imagining a future where men and women move forward in partnership rather than opposition. We also discuss Married At
When Abbey Veto'ed Fer - With Fer (Polycurious)
In today’s episode we sit down with Fer from the Polycurious Podcast to unpack a story that began with a first date in New York and unfolded into a powerful lesson about jealousy, veto power, honesty, and growth.We share openly about the moment Abbey felt triggered when Liam and Fer connected, how unspoken feelings led to a quiet veto, and what it took to circle back a year later with truth and re
Perimenopause, HRT & Supportive Partners w/ Shelly Horton
Today we are joined by the “Peri Godmother”, Australian TV Journalist Shelly Horton who has written the book “I’m Your Peri Godmother: A happily ever after guide to kicking perimenopause in the ovaries.”With a 30+ year media career spanning ABC, Channel Seven, Fairfax Media and ET America, Shelly has appeared weekly on Channel Nine’s TODAY and TODAY EXTRA for over a decade and is also the founder
Hotwifing & Hothusbanding - Let's Talk About It!
In this episode, we dive headfirst into the world of hot wifing and hot husbanding, unpacking what these dynamics actually are and why they can feel so electrifying. We talk openly about erotic charge, compersion, possession, and play, exploring how fantasy and power can exist inside consensual, loving relationships without contradicting autonomy or feminist values.We also explore the practical an
Non-Monogamy and Midlife: Will There Be A Crisis?
In today’s episode we talk about entering midlife without the stereotype of a meltdown. We explore grief for past versions of ourselves, tenderness for who we’re becoming, and how aging changes desire, ambition, creativity, and intimacy. We talk about perimenopause, slowing down, recalibrating expectations, and what it means to grow older together without panic or denial.Evolving Love Links:Websit
Pillow-talk On The Bedroom Floor - A Year In Review
In our final episode of the year we discuss 2025 and some of our favourite podcast guests of the year, our plans for the New Year, the ethics of sending old selfies and so much more...Here are links to the episodes mentioned in this episode:Dr. Emma Phillips - Sexy SelfiesEvan Buckley - CultsDr. Rob Brooks - AIEvolving Love Links:Website | Instagram | Substack | YoutubeSee you in 2026!! This is a
#100 - What is Love? with Dr. Christopher Ryan - Author of "Sex at Dawn" & "Civilized to Death"
Evolving Lovers!! 100 episodes of the Evolving Love Podcast!!! To celebrate, we invited back one of our all-time favourite guests: Dr. Chris Ryan, author of Sex at Dawn, Civilized to Death, and host of Tangentially Speaking.In this milestone episode, we dive deep into what it means to love, to be seen, and to navigate desire in a rapidly changing world. Chris discusses why humans are fundamentall
The Silent Load: Navigating Mental Loads in Relationships
In this episode, Liam and I sit down to unpack what we’ve been calling “the silent load”….the unseen, unspoken work that keeps relationships and families running smoothly.We talk about the four types of invisible load that show up in love: the physical, emotional, mental, and relational loads. From who remembers to buy the groceries, to who plans the date nights or initiates the tough conversation
Meet Our Girlfriend, Olivia
What happens when a married, polyamorous couple goes on a first date with artificial intelligence? In this episode we introduce our new “girlfriend” — Olivia, an AI companion built through ChatGPT’s voice mode — and take her on a virtual first date.We talk attraction, jealousy, and boundaries as Olivia flirts, sets limits, and asks tough questions about love, consent, and communication. After the
Lily Allen & Our P**sy Palace
Lily Allen has dropped her new album West End Girl. This record is a brutally honest breakup album about her open marriage with actor David Harbour, and has put non-monogamy back into the cultural Zeitgeist.In this episode, we discuss* Is Lily Allen’s “p*^sy palace” anthem empowering or exploitative?* What are the ethics of writing about your ex?* Why do female rage albums hit so hard?* Does this
Abbey Gets Envious, NRE Music & AI Doomsday
This week, Abbey and Liam unpack the difference between jealousy and envy — and how those feelings show up even in the most secure relationships. What starts as a story about a paddle boarding invitation turns into an honest look at FOMO, friendship, and the desire to keep creating “firsts” together after more than a decade of marriage.Evolving Love Links:Website | Instagram | Substack This is a p
"Shame Dissolves In Safe Spaces" with Dabaco Sunset
Dabaco Sunset is a queer-affirming psychotherapist and embodiment facilitator in Sydney, specializing in Gestalt Therapy, Emotionally Focused Therapy, and Embodied Counselling to help LGBTQ+ individuals and clients with alternative relating styles like ethical non-monogamy.Dabaco practices In the inner-west in Sydney at Sunset Psychotherapy.In this episode Dabaco opens up about growing up bisexual
Are Female Friendships A Threat To Marriage?
“Why do you need a female friend if you’re married?” In this episode, Abbey and Liam unpack the space where friendship, attraction, romantic relationships and trust collide.From jealousy to risk-taking they explore whether cross-gender friendships are threats to marriage, what happens when you forbid them, and how non-monogamous couples navigate these dynamics differently.Do female friendships alw
Husband vs. Wife - Open Marriage Debate
In todays episode we play Devil’s Advocate. Can you argue a position you don’t truly believe in? Does switching sides test our own beliefs and sharpen our perspectives?We go head-to-head on:* Should happy couples risk opening their relationship?* Is non-monogamy a solution for struggling couples?* The infamous One Penis Policy — protection or possession?* Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell vs Kitchen Table Pol
Will AI Kill Intimacy? w. Evolutionary Biologist Dr. Rob Brooks
Abbey and Liam are joined by evolutionary biologist Dr. Rob Brooks to explore the rise of AI companions, sex robots, and whether love with machines can ever be “real.” They discuss jealousy over chatbots, the naturalist fallacy, and the deep question of whether humans are naturally monogamous or non-monogamous.Drawing from Rob’s book Artificial Intimacy, the conversation dives into the future of i
Fantasy vs. Reality - Secrets & Exhibitionism
In this episode of Evolving Love 2.0, Abbey and Liam explore where they sit on the spectrum between swinging and polyamory. From loud neighbours and exhibitionist fantasies to navigating crushes, labels, and compersion, they dive into the playful, messy, and honest realities of non-monogamy after more than a decade together.They also share why “relationship by design” is central to their lives, an
Pickleball, Therapy & Sex Swings
In today’s episode we bounce from pickleball courts to cold plunges, breathwork breakthroughs, and even DIY sex swings. We discuss our experiences with therapy, and Liam’s recent experience in a men’s breathwork circle.🧵 Topics Covered🎾 Pickleball Obsession: Why Liam has pivoted from bouldering to pickleball, and how it's becoming the new social sport for connection (and maybe even pickup).🧊 Cold
When Affairs Go Public - Clinton to Coldplaygate
In today’s episode we dive into the spectacle of public affairs—from the viral Coldplay KissCam scandal to the infamous Clinton-Lewinsky saga. We explore the cultural obsession with infidelity, the ethics of public shaming, and the complex dynamics of relationships under scrutiny.Topics Covered* Coldplaygate: The viral moment that exposed Astronomer CEO Andy Byron and HR head Kristin Cabot on Kiss
Is Liam Controlling? You Decide.
In today’s Evolving Love Podcast we discuss boundaries, limits, and unpack my recent Substack article.Evolving Love Links:Website | Instagram | Substack | Retreat🌿 Upcoming EventWomen's Retreat – October 17–19, 2025 This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit evolvingloveproject.substack.com/subscribe
Protect Your Children - Former Detective Senior Constable Kristi McVee
Today we are having a difficult conversation on Evolving Love. A conversation that puts the safety of our children in the spotlight.To help us navigate this conversation, we have invited on child safety expert - Kristi McVee. Kristy was a Specialist Child Interviewer and Detective Senior Constable for 10 years in the Western Australian Police force.Since leaving the police force, she has worked to
"Ask Me How It Works" with Deepa Paul
Deepa is a Filipina-Indian author living in Amsterdam and her writing explores the balance between being a mother, wife, girlfriend, daughter, adventure, and herself - all at the same time.This release is her first book, but you can also find her writing on Substack at - Letters by DeepaThis conversation is raw and wide ranging and we were so struck by the joy, vulnerability and honesty in this co
Is Monogamy Boring?
In today’s episode we deep dive the provocative question: Is monogamy boring? We discuss our own definitions of what a boring relationship looks like, erotic space and desire, the richness of shared non-monogamous experiences, is boredom a form of safety, our dream debate opponents and so much more.🌿 Upcoming EventWomen's Retreat – October 17–19, 2025Evolving Love Links:Website | Instagram | Subst
Consent Violations in Non-Monogamy
We explore the nuanced topic of consent violations within non-monogamous relationships. From the ethics of sharing intimate photos to the complexities of informed consent in the context of infidelity, this conversation invites Evolving Lovers to consider how trust, transparency, and communication are foundational to ethical non-monogamy.🌿 Upcoming EventWomen's Retreat – October 17–19, 2025Evolving
Who Gets To Be Seen? Sexy Selfies with Dr. Emma Phillips
Today we sit down with photographer and academic Dr. Emma Phillips to explore the cultural, feminist, and personal dimensions of an activity that we hold close to our heart - the sexy selfie.Emma is a photographer and researcher/lecturer in Visual Communication at the University of Canberra.With twelve years of professional photography experience in Australian media, design, and advertising, and e
How We Communicate - Radical Honesty, Conflict & Sleepy Husbands
In today’s episode we dive deep into the art of communication in long-term, non-monogamous relationships. We explore the nuances of radical honesty—when it’s helpful, when it’s too much, and how to balance truth with tact. From navigating attraction to others, to the infamous “chewer vs. spewer” dynamic, we unpack how our differing communication styles have evolved over the years. We share example
Confessions Of A Dominatrix w/ Mistress Fleur Driver
Mistress Fleur Driver is a professional Dominatrix and BDSM practitioner with over thirteen years of experience in the sex work industry. Originally trained in the courtesan tradition by European Madams, her practice is grounded in immersive, intentional experiences that welcomes people from all walks of life. From her private dungeon in Sydney to international settings, Fleur guides her clients t
"Beyond Monogamy" on ABC TV - Reactions, Triggers & Our Experience
In today’s episode we discuss our appearance on the ABC’s Compass program “Beyond Monogamy” which was released on Sunday 27th April 2025. We dissect the process of filming, the feedback we have been receiving, counter-opinions presented in the show and how we are feeling after our highest profile media appearance yet…Watch The DocoEvolving Love Links:Website | Instagram | Substack | Retreat This i
Leaving A Cult: Love, Intimacy & Relationships with Evan Buckley
Evan's story is unlike anything you've heard. Imagine spending your most formative years within the confines of a religious fundamentalist cult. How would this shape your approach to sex, love and relationships?In addition to his vulnerability, honesty and ability to self-reflect, Evan is also a talented songwriter and frontman of his Canberra-based band, The Burley Griffin.In this episode, prepar
The Proposal - A Wedding Anniversary Special
We take the opportunity to celebrate our 10th Wedding Anniversary by reliving the night of the proposal!Evolving Love Links:Website | Instagram | Substack This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit evolvingloveproject.substack.com/subscribe
Policing Language, "Adolescence" & Chris Williamson
In todays episode we discuss Liam being shamed, how we police language, a recent Chris Williamson Instagram caption, an incredible new TV show “Adolescence”, and so much more!Evolving Love Links:Website | Instagram | Substack This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit evolvingloveproject.substack.com/subscribe
The Hardest Conversation Of All
We have a difficult discussion in today’s podcast that relates to child safety and Abbey’s recent Substack article “We Must Be Critical of Non-Monogamy”. We unpack the reception and criticisms around the article, the importance of nuanced conversations around this topic, why no community is immune from having these discussions and so much more.Important Resources:If you feel affected by this episo
Moral Panic & Non-Monogamy w/ Philosopher Dr. Tim Dean
Tim is a philosopher, award-winning writer and teacher. He has a doctorate in philosophy from the University of New South Wales on the evolution of morality and specialises in ethics, critical thinking, the philosophy of science and the philosophy of education.Currently, Tim is the Senior Philosopher at The Ethics Centre (who run the brilliant “Festival of Dangerous Ideas” in Sydney), and is an Ho
My Vasectomy
In today’s episode we unpack Liam’s recent vasectomy procedure. We discuss the procedure, the lead up and the aftermath, delve into the ethics of contraception, the importance of peas and double briefs, semen, myths around vasectomies, manhood and so much more…Evolving Love Links:Website | Instagram | Substack This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get ac
Fake Orgasms, Embodiment & Desire with Georgia Grace
Georgia Grace is a certified sex and relationship practitioner and somatic therapist who is particularly known for her work in somatic sexology, embodied counselling and trauma-informed practices.Her approach to working with sex and relationships is inclusive, sex-positive and shame-free, and supports individuals, couples and groups to overcome common sexual concerns.She is also a co-founder of NO
What If? The Polycule Went Camping
In today’s episode we trial a new format for the show as we play with hypothetical scenarios!Abbey’s lover Caspian leaves his socks everywhere! When is enough enough? How will Abbey confront him?Brenda, Kai, Abbey and Liam embark on a polycule camping trip…. come along for the ride!!Evolving Love Links:Website | Instagram | Substack This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with othe
Do Men's Voices Matter? with James Winestock
In today’s conversation we discuss whether men deserve a voice, sensitive men, rolemodels, social media and the influence of the manosphere, how to bring men into the conversation, how men can advocate for men’s issues and hold feminist ideals in tandem, the importance of men expressing affection, the role of a competitive nature in masculinity, why every man must own a lamp, how Liam’s masculinit
Naked on Brooklyn Bridge
In today’s episode we discuss one of our favourite New York experiences… a photoshoot that was impossible to forget… on the Brooklyn Bridge with Kenn Lichtenwalter. Kenn Lichtenwalter Links:InstagramBSkyDive Deeper This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit evolvingloveproject.substack.com/subscribe
Cuckolding & Chastity with Shy
Today we're diving headfirst into the taboo world of cuckolding with Shy.We'll be exploring the psychological and emotional complexities of this relationship dynamic through an intimate interview with Shy - a ‘cuckoldress” who is in a 24-7 cuckolding dynamic.Get ready for an honest and insightful conversation that may challenge your understanding of love, sexuality, and the boundaries of relations
Things Are Hard Right Now
In today’s episode we share about what has been happening for us recently. It is a different kind of episode, with a tone that is different to our usual discussions. This conversation covers how we approach conflict, the importance of space, external stresses on the relationship, communication styles and so much more*.*We also manage to pivot the conversation at the end away from the heaviness and
Body Image, Self-Acceptance & Non-Monogamy with Kate Gordon
Today we are joined by Kate Gordon. Kate competed at the Cross Fit Games in 2015 and 2019 and has since become a certified Cross fit trainer and certified nutrition coach. In 2021 she started CFK nutrition and also hosts two podcasts - Gone Rogue which explores her journey in non-monogamy, and the CFK nutrition podcast.In this discussion we discuss the impact of Kate’s Crossfit journey on body ima
Best of 2024
We handpicked some of our 2024 guest highlights to round out a big year for 2024 and Evolving Love.This episode features Andrew Gurza, Chris Ryan , Alex Alberto , Molly Roden Winter , Lina Dune , Multiamory, Dr. Constantine R. Campbell, Casey Calvert, Kyron Kruger & Normalizing Non-Monogamy.Evolving Love Links:Website | Instagram | SubstackGuest Links:Andrew GurzaChris RyanAlex AlbertoMolly Roden
We Are Not Coaches
In today’s episode we discuss why we are not interested in becoming coach, the importance of good therapists and coaches, and we test Gemini AI to see if it could replace the role of a traditional coach.During the episode we refer to three wonderful coaches and therapists:Kathy LabriolaDr Joli HamiltonDr. Marie ThouinLina Dune a.k.a AskASubEvolving Love Links:Website | Instagram | Substack This is
Dear Margaret
Abbey and Liam discuss a podcast listener (Margaret), who has been leaving comments throughout the year on Spotify. We discuss the comments, her critiques, hypothesise a “theory of mind” and so much more.Evolving Love Links:Website | Instagram | Substack This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit evolvingloveproject.substac
Our Recent Getaway
In today’s episode we discuss our recent getaway to Sydney for the Australian Podcast awards, metamour gifts, chance encounters and so much more.Evolving Love Links:Website | Instagram | Substack This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit evolvingloveproject.substack.com/subscribe
When Liam Broke My Trust
In todays episode we respond to a listener question asking us:“Have you ever broken each others trust? How did you navigate it?”Evolving Love Links:Website | Instagram | Substack This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit evolvingloveproject.substack.com/subscribe
Polycule Practicalities with Laura Boyle
Laura Boyle is an educator, podcast host of “Ready for Polyamory” and author of the book “Monogamy in this Economy?” You may have seen this book recently featured in the New York Times Article titled “6 Books About Non-Monogamy, Recommended By Therapists”.In today’s conversation we discuss common polyamorous living arrangements, Conflict resolution tools, blended families, the rental market for po
The Episode We Almost Deleted
Abbey and Liam discuss red flags in non-monogamy, before the episode takes an unexpected turn...Evolving Love Links:Website | Instagram | Substack This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit evolvingloveproject.substack.com/subscribe
Conscious Monogamy with Christina & Andrew
Together for fifteen years and parents to three children, Andrew and Christina’s relationship is a wonderful example of consciously choosing monogamy.In this conversation we cover the role of independence in romantic relationships, exploring compersion in a monogamous context, maintaining the erotic connection over time, what constitutes an infidelity in their relationship, flirting, honesty and t
Our First Play Party
In today’s episode we discuss our first play party experience in New York, eating sushi off naked bodies, human candelabras, play party nerves, etiquette of group play environments and so much more…Evolving Love Links:Website | Instagram | Substack This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit evolvingloveproject.substack.com/
Opening Up: Things We Wish We'd Known
In today’s episode we discuss things we wish we knew before opening up our relationships. We cover managing the misconceptions of others, savoring the first experiences, triggers in solo dating, planning and preparation before opening up, the non-monogamy escalator and so much more.Evolving Love Links:Website | Instagram | Substack This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other
Living An Examined Life with "Normalizing Non-Monogamy"
In today’s episode we chat with Emma and Fin from the “Normalising Non-Monogamy” podcast. We discuss the common denominators in successful non-monogamous relationships, building community and support networks, their opening up journey, exploring the importance of self and the individual, the role of kindness in non-monogamy, mistakes and growth, their OCD and ADHD diagnoses, the importance of livi
Is Dave Grohl Non-Monogamous?
In today’s episode we wade into pop culture to discuss Dave Grohl and his recent public statement….Website | Instagram | SubstackWomen's Retreat - 25th-27th October 2024 This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit evolvingloveproject.substack.com/subscribe
Parenthood Is Not Only For The Monogamous
In today’s episode we discuss our non-monogamy before and after parenthood, feeling protective during pregnancy, maintaining our erotic connection through the early stages of parenthood, the freedom of exploring before parenthood and so much more.Website This is a public episode. If you'd like to discuss this with other subscribers or get access to bonus episodes, visit evolvingloveproject.substac
Negging & Unicorns
This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit evolvingloveproject.substack.comIn today’s Premium episode we discuss “negging” as a form of relating, privacy and dating, the responsibility of vouching for lovers, safety for unicorns, ethics of unicorn hunting, “Dragons”, “Bulls” and so much more!To listen to the full episode and watch the video become a Paid subscriber to access my
Polyamorous for 50 Years: Kathy Labriola
Kathy Labriola is an author, nurse, counsellor, and hypnotherapist. Kathy is author of four books on consensual nonmonogamy: The Jealousy Workbook, Love in Abundance: A Counselor's Advice on Open Relationships, The Polyamory Break-up Book, and Polyamorous Elders: Aging in Open Relationships. She has also provided affordable mental health services to alternative communities for the past 30 years. K
Ep. 51 - Life Modelling, Spicy Texts & The Art of Curiosity
This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit evolvingloveproject.substack.comIn today’s Premium episode, we discuss our recent creative adventures, erotic texting, an evening of life modelling and much more!To listen to the full episode and watch the video become a Paid subscriber to access my complete writing archive, full podcasts and bonus content.
Ep. 50 - Creativity & Non-Monogamy with Multiamory
Today’s episode features Jase, Emily and Dedeker from the renowned Multiamory podcast. With hundreds of episodes, millions of downloads around the world, and a thriving community Multiamory has been featured in numerous publications, including NPR, Vice, Huffington Post, Cosmopolitan, and Elle.In today’s episode we discuss Emily’s recent transition back to non-monogamy from a long term monogamous
Ep. 49 - Evolving Love Live at NFSA
This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit evolvingloveproject.substack.comIn today’s episode we share our debut live show on the 26th July 2024 at the National Film and Sound Archives of Australia. We field questions from the audience and guests Molly Roden Winter, Marie Thouin, Lawrence (Our Secret Spot) & Fernanda (Polycurious Podcast)It was an evening full of vulnerability,
Can Compersion Be Selfish? With Dr. Marie Thouin
Dr. Marie Thouin is a leading expert and scholar on compersion in consensual non-monogamy. She has authored two pioneering research studies, the first-ever encyclopedia entry on compersion, and has recently authored the first-ever scholarly book on compersion “What is Compersion?Wether you are new to the concept of compersion or well versed, this conversation has something for everyone and raises
Ep. 47 - Salsa, Non-Monogamy & Dancer Daddy Doms
This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit evolvingloveproject.substack.comOn this weeks Premium Episode, Abbey reflects on her recent Salsa dancing night, drawing parallels between the world of dance and non-monogamy. Dancer Daddies, power dynamics, vulnerability, a dance with a lover and so much more…Evolving Love Podcast Live Tickets
Ep. 46 - Alex Alberto - "Entwined" & Coming Out At Thanksgiving
Alex Alberto is a queer and polyamorous storyteller and educator. They grew up in Montreal and currently live in upstate New York. Alex is the author of the genre-blending memoir, Entwined: Essays on Polyamory and Creating Home. They co-founded Quilted Press, a collective of independent authors who reshape traditional narratives of love, family, and identity. You can connect with Alex on Instagram
Ep. 45 - Would You Rather...
This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit evolvingloveproject.substack.comIn todays episode we answer your “Would You Rather” questions that were submitted on Instagram.* “Be monogamous for the rest of your life or have to eat a bowl of worms every morning?”* “You never date someone again…. or Liam never date someone again?”* “Date someone with a hot body or a great personality
Ep. 44 - Casey Calvert - Adult Industry Star Gets Personal About Non-Monogamy
Casey Calvert is an award-winning Adult director, writer, performer, and content creator. An eleven-year veteran of the industry, she won Director of the Year and Best Screenplay at the 2023 XBiz Awards - the "Golden Globes" of porn.In today’s wide ranging conversation we discuss Casey’s own journey in non-monogamy and polyamory, porn stars’ approaches to monogamy, parasocial relationships, datin
Ep. 43 - Bouldering Babes, Hillsong & Fantasy Scripts
This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit evolvingloveproject.substack.comIn todays Premium “Ask Us Anything” episode we answer your questions and discuss Hillsong, “The Idea of You” and so much more.Questions include:* “Does it ever get tiring making the ENM thing your whole world?”* “Do you actively look for people to connect with, or does it happen organically?”* “How do you
Ep. 42 - The Love Languages Test
This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit evolvingloveproject.substack.comIn todays episode we take the Love Languages Test LIVE on the podcast and discuss the questions and our answers in real time…To Unlock the Full Video episode, become a Premium subscriber!Show Links:Take The Love Languages Test!Evolving Love Podcast Live Tickets
Ep. 41 - Chloe Caldwell On Her Acclaimed Novella "WOMEN"
To celebrate the re-release of her cult classic Queer novel, “WOMEN”, we are overjoyed to be joined by writer Chloe Caldwell.Named one of Cosmopolitan UK's Best Erotic Novels of All Time, WOMEN intimately explores one young writer’s whirlwind and whiplash affair as she falls deeply in love with a woman for the first time.In WOMEN, Caldwell lays bare the fierce obsession of addictive love, and asks
Ep. 40 - "Are The Kids Ok?" - Dr. Eli Sheff on Polyamorous Families & Parenting
Dr. Eli Sheff is one of a handful of global academic experts on polyamory, and the foremost academic expert on children in polyamorous families. Specializing in diversity and underserved populations, Sheff is an expert witness, relationship consultant, public speaker, and author.Her first book, The Polyamorists Next Door: Inside Multiple-Partner Relationships and Families was released in 2014 and
Ep. 39 - Cheating & Infidelities in Non-Monogamy
This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit evolvingloveproject.substack.comOn today’s Premium Video episode, Abbey and Liam reflect on Ashley Madison, the ethics of cheating, what constitutes infidelity in a non-monogamous relationship & more.Premium Episodes are now Video Episodes!!!To Unlock the Full Video episode, become a Premium subscriber!
Ep. 38 - Stewart & Molly Roden Winter - The World's Most Famous Polyamorous Couple?
To celebrate the Australian release of her New York Time’s Best Selling Memoir “More”, we are joined once again by Molly Roden Winter. With her today, we also have the fortune of being able to speak with her husband Stewart!Since Molly joined us on Episode 23 of the Evolving Love podcast, she has quickly become a leading voice in non-monogamous discourse. “More” and Molly have appeared everywhere
Ep. 37 - Filling The Cup
This is a free preview of a paid episode. To hear more, visit evolvingloveproject.substack.comOn today’s Premium Video episode Abbey and Liam reflect on New Relationship Energy, Erotica, relationship gratitude and so much more.To Unlock the Full Video episode, become a Premium subscriber!
Ep. 36 - Lina Dune "Ask A Sub" on Fake Doms, Unicorn Hunting & The Ethics of Kink
Lina Dune is a 24/7 collared submissive, kink writer, podcast host and a fairy sub-mother to all who seek her advice.She is the voice, writer, and Meme-Queen behind the wildly popular “Ask A Sub” - an online platform and community that explores mindful and consensual kink.In this conversation we talk about her journey into Kink, Subspace, fake doms, red flags, unicorn hunting, couples privilege, t
