
Speaking of Sex with The Pleasure Mechanics
Join The Pleasure Mechanics, Chris and Charlotte, for explicit, honest, and soulful conversations about every facet of human sexuality. Each episode equips you with erotic knowledge and practical know-how to experience more pleasure, joy, and connection. The show explores the complex terrain of sexuality with openness and depth.
Episodes

How To Try New Things In Bed
In this encore episode from our archives, we share a classic Pleasure Mechanics framework that makes it easier to try new things in bed, lowering the stakes and clearing the way to learn new skills, get to know your own desires and develop erotic communication with your partner. Join us as an All Access Member to […]

How To Initiate More Intimacy
Here’s how to initiate more intimacy, affection and erotic connection. Initiating can be vulnerable, scary and intimidating – but it doesn’t have to be. The more you practice, the easier it gets and you can create a culture in your relationship where you can fearlessly initiate, respond authentically and together create more of the kinds […]

Erotic Attitudes Inventory
What Erotic Attitudes do you yearn for? All too often, we focus on acts rather than the attitudes we bring to these acts – and this can leave us deeply unsatisfied or even frustrated. By zooming in on the energies and attitudes that you want to embody and experience, you will be on your way […]

Creating Arcs of Arousal
Tune in and discover a game-changing framework that updates outdated, inaccurate and limiting models of arousal. Creating Arcs of Arousal invites you to allow an open-ended, expansive experience of rolling hills of arousal – rather than pursue one peak with an inevitable let-down as suggested by Masters and Johnson’s classic one-peak model of the Sexual […]

Getting Started with Sensation Play
Sensation Play opens up a vast world of pleasure, if we dare to explore what our sensory bodies are truly capable of. Here’s how to get started with Sensation Play, starting with the every day sensations and sensory experiences of your life! What sensory experiences bring you comfort? What do you deeply enjoy? From this […]

Fingerbang F Yeah
Hands are the most underrated pleasure tool, and this episode is an irreverent ode to the fine art of Fingerbanging. We share why this is one of personal favorite erotic acts and invite you to explore the wide range of fingerbanging pleasures, from serene meditations to intense full body poundings! Ready To Explore More Pleasure? […]

Integrating Toys Into Partnered Play
What pleasure and intimacy could you unlock if you integrated more toys into your partnered play? Many of us have surefire pleasure tools that we use solo and yet don’t bring into the bedroom with our lovers, leaving big parts of our erotic potential behind. In this episode, we invite you to begin integrating toys […]

The Myths and Magic of Masturbation
Join us for a rousing and stimulating conversation about the magic and myths of masturbation! For this episode we are in conversation with psychologist and professor Dr. Candice Nicole Hargons and Danielle Bezalel, host of the podcast SexEdWithDb to talk about The Magic Wand Study. This study confirms what many of us know deep in […]

Your Sexy Staycation
Many people report having the best sexual experiences while on vacation – but you don’t have to wait for an expensive vacation to enjoy all the benefits of Vacation Sex! In this episode, we unpack the essential elements of VacationSex and propose a plan to bring the pleasures home by planning more sexy staycations! From […]

Primal Play
Primal play is a realm many of us crave, but rarely talk about. What does it mean to “go primal” or “become primal” or “play primal” like so many of us say we want? What do we really crave when we talk about primal play? In this episode, we dive into the wild realm of […]

Taboo And You
What is Taboo to You? Where do Taboos come from and how do they function in your erotic imagination? Even the word “taboo” has a fascinating cultural history to explore! Join us on this free podcast episode to explore the thrills of transgressing taboos, discovering what happens when we speak the unspeakable, find connection rather […]

Service Topping
Service Topping is a verb – one we can ALL flex as a way to pleasure and lavish the people we care about! Service Topping is all about giving FOR the pleasure of the recipient, focusing all of the attention and intention on the needs, wants and desires of the recipient. Service Topping can include […]

Arousal: The Dual Control Model
In this encore episode, we share the Dual Control Model of Arousal, an essential piece of erotic knowledge to understand the complexity of turn-ons, turn-offs, and how to manage your own arousal. Explore more at PleasureMechanics.com/arousal Spotify Playlist of the Best of Speaking Of Sex Episodes Get ready to rethink everything you know about getting […]

How To Have A Threesome Bonus Edition
Considering having a threesome? Tune in here first! On this episode we share what we’ve learned about how to have a threesome from our recent threesome experiences, and share a classic resource from the Pleasure Mechanics archive – click here to download our book How To Have A Threesome, for free! Thanks To Our Episode Sponsor: […]

Bed Chem
What does it mean to have really good bed chem? Is sexual chemistry something that happens to us, or can we learn to be erotic alchemists? What happens when good bed chem fizzles out? Join us in this episode for a provocative and engaging conversation about Bed Chem – and how we can all get […]

Full Body Oral
Full Body Oral is an invitation to start exploring more oral play – on EVERY part of the body! Full Body Oral is a reminder that we can create so many different sensations with our mouths, adding depth of stimulation, unlocking emotions and intimacy, and adding new dynamics to the kinds of play you already […]

Rethinking Refractory Myths
Let’s bust the myths around the refractory period that self-limit so many of our erotic experiences. Join us for this myth-busting episode where we cover the basics and beyond of the refractory period and all the myths about it that get in our way. Learn how: Ejaculation and Orgasm are NOT the same physiological event, […]

Lasting Longer In Bed
Want to last longer in bed so you can keep the pleasure going longer? Want to satisfy your partner and offer the kind of endurance they crave? You are not alone! We get a ton of emails from people wanting to make sex last longer and experience more satisfying intercourse. This Best Of Episode is […]

Building Stamina
Here’s how to last longer, go harder and enjoy MORE of the pleasures you enjoy. Stamina is as much about sustained focus and managing distractions as it is an athletic feat, and the skills of stamina can be built with practice! This episode offers practical strategies for building your stamina for life’s greatest pleasures, in […]

Responsive Giving
How we offer and give our time, gifts and attention matter in all of our relationships. And when we cultivate the skillset of becoming responsive givers of erotic pleasure we are able to offer our lovers more specifically what they want and enjoy and can then offer more sexually satisfying experiences to our lovers. In this […]

Tough and Tender
How do you like it – Tough, or Tender? For many of us, what we truly crave is an exquisite blend of Tough & Tender, Rough & Romantic, Intense & Intimate. Tough & Tender don’t have to be opposite ends of a spectrum or mutually exclusive – we can revel in the delicious combinations of […]

Getting Real About STIs with Dr. Ina Park
Join us in conversation with Dr. Ina Park, author of Strange Bedfellows: Adventures in the Science, History, and Surprising Secrets of STDs In this essential episode we cover how to talk about sexual safety without stigma, the real risks and rewards we navigate as sexually active adults, and how we can all create a healthier, […]

Mindful Kink
In this Best Of Pleasure Mechanics episode, we explore bringing the foundational attitudes of mindfulness into erotic exploration, getting kinky and expanding our sense of sexual self. One of our coaching clients told us that this episode was a game-changer for them, allowing them to approach bringing kink into a relationship after FIFTY years of […]

Safer Sexier Oral Play with Melanie Cristol
Join us to explore how to enjoy safer sexier oral play in this Pleasure Mechanics interview with CEO and founder of Lorals, Melanie Cristol. Ready to uplevel your experience of oral? Join our Oral Mastery Course for an immersive, experiential course in oral pleasure for all bodies! More About Lorals: Lorals has revolutionized oral sex. […]

Compassionate Care With Dr. Nazanin Moali
We all deserve compassionate, culturally relevant care. In this nourishing conversation, we speak with Dr. Nazanin Moali, clinical psychologist & addiction specialist, about how we can all create more empathy and freedom for one another. We talked about how she works with clients from conservative backgrounds to get free from toxic conditioning, without leaving beloved home […]

Advanced Oral Techniques
Techniques are efficient, strategic ways of getting a job done or wanted outcome achieved. Advanced Techniques bring together many skills at once to create extraordinary results – and that’s what happened when we brought our 20 years experience as somatic sex educators to the quest of creating the most comprehensive, powerful curriculum about oral play […]

Beyond Obligatory Oral
Has oral become a chore? Do you offer dutiful or obligatory oral, but struggle to enjoy it? What happens when we go beyond the scripts and shoulds and start getting curious about what else is possible? Grab our FREE Recipe for the Best. Oral. Ever. here! or jump into our brand new course and master […]

Eroticize Your Mouth
Here’s how to wake up your mouth as a site of erotic pleasure, power and expression. In this episode we share the first step of oral eroticization – becoming aware of your mouth as a place of enjoyment, on your own terms, and doubling down on the pleasure you experience from your own mouth. Want […]

Open Wide: Your Invitation To Oral Mastery
Our brand new course is ready for you to devour! Join us for guided immersive exploration of oral pleasure for ALL bodies! You can explore the self-paced online course or join us for the group coaching cohort – be one of the Lucky 69 participants to join us as we come together to dive deep […]

Stop Dick Shaming
It’s time to stop dick shaming in all of its forms – from small dick jokes to cruel comments to the hypersexualization of some men and emasculation of others, it is time to call an end to a culture that normalizes dick shaming. Thanks to Hims.com/Pleasure for sponsoring this episode. If you want to start […]

Dealing with Drop
After peak life experiences, there is often Drop: a physical and emotional experience of let-down, depletion and weariness. Knowing about Drop we can better plan for it and tend to it – so we can get ready for our next peak experience! Tune into this episode to learn about Drop, how we can prepare for […]

Shame Slayers Unite!
Shame Slayers, Unite! For the all-new 25 minute video teaching on how to effectively slay the shame and reclaim fearless belonging, please join us for free in the Pleasure Pod! Shame is one of the most common sexual struggles. Shame is a social experience of feeling unworthy, unlovable, not belonging or lesser than. Shame tells […]

Map Your Peak Erotic Experiences
Mapping your Peak Erotic Experiences is a powerful practice to mine your personal history for clues to creating a better sex life for your future! The Peak Erotic Experiences Practice comes to us from the late great Dr. Jack Morin, author of The Erotic Mind, who suggests that we use our own Peak Erotic Experiences, […]

Erotic Touch Activation
Erotic Touch Activation is our Pleasure Mechanics process to awaken your touch, activate your hands as erotic tools and sensitize your sense of touch. Erotic Touch Activation allows us to shift out of “working hands mode” where we use our hands for functional touch and into using our hands as erotic tools of sensing, feeling, […]

Erotic First Aid
The Five As of Erotic First Aid : What To Do When Good Things Go Wrong As Chris recovers from a recent sex injury, we share the five steps of offering Erotic First Aid. From broken bed frames to thrusting gone askew, we share stories of sex injuries and accidents and offer a reliable framework […]

Praise Kink
Praise can feel like loving strokes that go right to our soul’s sweet spots, giving us the affirmation, acceptance and encouragement that so many of us crave – but can also cause embarrassment, discomfort or even humiliation! Some people love being praised for their physical appearance, and others find this distracting. In this podcast episode, […]

Paths To Lust : Map Your Emotional Floorplan with Emily Nagoski
Emily Nagoski shares the game-changing tool from her new book, Come Together: The Science (and Art!) of Creating Lasting Sexual Connections. The Core Emotional Floorplan is a framework that allows all of us to more clearly see and share their own unique emotional experience, and find pathways back home towards Care, Play and Lust. Join […]

The Surprising Science of Lasting Sexual Connection: An Interview with Emily Nagoski
In this intimate interview, Emily Nagoski shares her insights from authoring her new book Come Together: The Science (and Art!) of Creating Lasting Sexual Connections. We dive into the common misconceptions about long term erotic relationships, and what really works when it comes to creating a sex life worth wanting. For a bonus interview and […]

Touch To Feel
When we Touch To Feel, we unlock boundless potential for sensual, emotional and relational pleasures. Touching To Feel is a lifetime practice of waking up our bodies to FEEL more, feeling the true depth and range of our own emotions, expressing ourselves through touch and touching with purpose and intention to create a wide range […]

Tend The Tender
Tend The Tender is a phrase that invites us all to bring more loving attention to our most tender places, and to allow others to care for us when we are feeling a bit raw. To be tender is to be human, and yet many of us struggle to ask for care when we need […]

Whose Panties Are These?
What happens after your lover discloses their fetish- or you discover a fetish or kink and need to talk about it? In this episode we discuss how to bring more compassion and curiosity to conversations about newly disclosed kinks and fetishes. Want more guidance into kink? Join us here. This call was inspired by a […]

Meet Scarleteen: Sex Ed For The Real World
Get Equipped With These Generous Offers From Our Podcast Sponsors: Did you get all the information, support and kindness you deserved as a teenager emerging into your sexuality? Far from it, right? So many of us missed out on years of pleasurable exploration because we didn’t have accurate information about our bodies. So many of […]

Sensitive, But Not Delicate
Erotic Touch Mastery, Stroke by Stroke. Get started tonight. Our bodies are sensitive, but not delicate. This phrase is something Chris has been teaching for twenty years, since the early days of the Sexological Bodywork training, in response to a pattern they noticed after teaching erotic touch for hundreds of hours. Many people are hesitant […]

Love Every Day with Dr. Alexandra Solomon
Dr. Alexandra Solomon joins us to explore the power of daily incremental practice in the realms of love, connection and pleasure. In this free podcast episode we explore how we can all practice Love Every Day, while being patient with change, working with even the most reluctant of partners, and respecting the process of incremental […]

Making Good Vibrations
Here’s how to create more sensation and arousal with the pleasure of vibrations! In this podcast episode, we explore how you can create exquisite sensations of vibrations for yourself or a lover, and enjoy the wide range of feeling that vibrations can evoke for us – using just your hands and mouth! We also explore […]

The Erotics of Fear
Why do we humans enjoy being afraid? Why does it feel so good to be just the right kind of scared? This spook season, we explore the erotics of fear – what it means to want to be afraid, how we all have different appetites and preferences for fear, and how we can choose to […]

Relaxed Receiving
Relaxing into pleasurable touch is one of the most nourishing erotic experiences – but how do we stay relaxed while also being present with our partner, communicating our needs and expressing our pleasure to create a positive feedback loop that you’ll both enjoy? This episode was inspired by a recent personal coaching session. If you […]

Vanilla, With Toppings
Vanilla can be so delicious on it’s own, but with permission to enjoy a wide range of toppings, the possibilities for pleasure become boundless. Maybe it is the whipped cream of extra romance, the sprinkles of sensation play or the spicy popcorn of adding in new toys, you can add so many toppings to your […]

Savoring Vanilla Sex
Vanilla is absolutely delicious, but only if we choose to savor it. Vanilla sex is not “plain” or boring in any way – vanilla can be luxurious, decadent and indulgent. In this episode we sing the praises of vanilla sex, and share strategies and tools for deepening our enjoyment of the many pleasures of vanilla. […]

Shame Free Sexual Self Care
How worried do I need to be about STIs? How often should I get tested? What does a complete STI panel mean? Do I need to get tested every time I have a new partner? I have erectile struggles but only sometimes, and especially on new dates, why? Should I try ED medication? What is […]

Superfreaks: Kink, Pleasure & The Pursuit of Happiness
Superfreaks Unite! What would happen if we all let our inner Superfreak flag fly? What joy and bliss awaits us on the other side of courageous kinky exploration? Join us in conversation with Arielle Greenberg, author of Superfreaks: Kink, Pleasure & The Pursuit of Happiness (Beacon Press, 2023) Explore more of Arielle’s work here. We […]

Managing Mismatched Kinks
Mismatched Libido is one of the most common reasons couples seek therapy, but we don’t hear a lot about Mismatched Kink. It doesn’t have to be a dealbreaker if your kinks don’t align perfectly, if you have very different kinks or even if only one of you is kinky! Join us in this podcast episode […]

Your Erotic Journey Awaits
What awaits on YOUR erotic journey? What discoveries, adventures, lessons and transformations are just ahead on your path? Join us to sink into the idea that your erotic life can be a journey – rich with excitement, meaning and purpose. Unroll your map of possibilities and gaze at the expansive horizons with us, and get […]

Break The Golden Rule
The Golden Rule is a recipe for erotic disaster – doing unto others what you would have them do unto you is NOT good advice, it turns out, in or out of the bedroom. It’s time we started breaking the golden rule – and started exploring the true meaning of reciprocity, mutuality and generosity. Thanks […]

Touch Hunger
Touch is not a luxury nor a pleasure to be earned at the end of a work day. Touch is an essential human need, at all stages of human life. Most of us experience some level of touch hunger or touch starvation, and the impact on our lives can be dire. The good news? Touch […]

Make Love As Art
What would it feel like to Make Love As Art? What would it look like to bring more artistry, playfulness and creativity to your love life? If eroticism is a creative expression, what wants to be expressed through you? What kind of erotic artist are you ready to become? In this episode we bask in […]

I Want More
What are your deepest yearnings? What horizons do you achingly long for? What do you want to experience in this one precious life? Recently inspired by Ariel in the new The Little Mermaid, this episode is an anthem to the power of desire. We all have deep desires that we hide away from those we […]

Embracing Erotic Eras
We all experience seasons within our sexuality. At times seasons stack together to create sexual eras within our lives. We explore how embracing erotic eras can be a useful and liberatory framework to use as we reflect on our erotic lives. This podcast is a continuation of the ideas we shared in podcast #297: Surviving […]

MiniKink : Bite Sized Scenes To Explore Kinky Sex
If you are ready to start exploring kink but feel overwhelmed by where to begin, we invite you to try MiniKink! And if you are already kinky and expanding into new dynamics or activities, MiniKink gives us the chance to efficiently and safely explore what more is possible. MiniKink invites you to create very short, […]

Getting Intimate While Bleeding
Riding the red wave, surfing the red tide, earning your red beard… there are as many euphemisms for period sex as there are opinions about it, and in this episode we dive right into the charged and tender conversation of getting intimate while bleeding. Thanks to our episode sponsors for being part of our global […]

Navigating Depression In Intimate Relationships
JoEllen Notte, author of In It Together : Navigating Depression with Partners, Friends, and Family joins us to discuss how we can all show up more fully for the people in our lives who are living with depression. We ALL know someone who struggles with depression, and in this podcast episode we explore how we […]

Cockwarming, Docking & Engulfment
Cockwarming, Docking & Engulfment are all names for different applications of a similar erotic move, where we hold an intimate part of the body inside our holes, bodies or crevices. This warm, wet, intimate embrace is an erotic technique that we can all explore in our own way, and this episode explores this move in […]

Responsive Kink
On the other side of curiosity there is a boundless playground of pleasure, intimacy and connection. When we listen to what other people find pleasurable about their kinks and turn-ons, we can start noticing the responsive desire that stirs within, and find our own Responsive Kinks! In this episode we invite you into the practice […]

Stretching Into Pleasure
What would it feel like to stretch a little more? How much release, relaxation, relief and pleasure are just a stretch away? In this episode we invite you into stretching into more pleasure – with both the physical practice of stretching whenever and however it feels good to you and the emotional practice of stretching […]

Getting Naked Together
Getting naked brings up emotions for all of us – from fear and shame to bliss and exultation and just about every emotional experience in between, getting naked exposes us and reveals so much about our cultural and personal histories. How do we find more comfort, safety and freedom in our skins? How do we […]

Prioritize Your Pleasure
Since 2006, we’ve been The Pleasure Mechanics, dedicated full time to exploring the power of pleasure, intimacy, joy and connection. It’s been our mission to remember the role of pleasure in our human experience and the creative, generative, healing force of eroticism. One of our anthems since the very early days has been : Prioritize […]

Open To Receiving
Get discounts on pleasure tools and toys from all of our podcast sponsors here There are so many reasons why receiving sexual pleasure can be challenging for so many of us. Receiving sexual pleasure is a specific skill set that is necessary to complete the circuit of pleasure when we are making love. We can […]

Preventing Premature Penetration
Penetration of all kinds can be an intimate and orgasmic part of the erotic experience – but only if everyone involved is ripe and ready for this physical, emotional and relational event. Far too often, lovers rush towards penetration and end up under-stimulated and unsatisfied. In this episode, we explore how to prioritize readiness when […]

How To Build A Sex Room On Any Budget
The Netflix series How To Build A Sex Room has a lot of us asking questions about how we can create a more conducive space for our sex life, yet few of us have the time, budget and square footage for a dedicated sex room. But we ALL can cultivate our erotic context with small […]

The Neuroscience of Pleasure with Dr. Nan Wise
Dr. Nan Wise joins us to discuss the emerging neuroscience of pleasure, orgasm and emotions. Get discounts on pleasure tools and toys from all of our podcast sponsors here Nan Wise, Ph.D. is the author of Why Good Sex Matters: Understanding the Neuroscience of Pleasure for a Smarter, Happier and More Purpose Filled Life. She […]

Trust Your Yes
It makes sense that many of us have fear, suspicion and doubt around our deepest desires – there are generations of erotic mistrust that we have inherited! So how can you begin to Trust Your Yes, affirm your desires, and go after what you want, in and out of the bedroom? Get discounts on pleasure […]

Rough Sex
If you crave rougher sex, but don’t know how to ask for it or suggest it to your partner, this is the podcast episode for you. And if you already love rough play as part of your erotic life, tune in to gather strategies to take your rough sex to the next level. Explore sensation […]

Intensifying Sensation Play
Electrify your erotic life by exploring sensation play, intentionally intensifying sensations that you already enjoy and boldly exploring new ranges of sensations. From soft and silky to rough and scratchy, there is a huge range of sensations to explore and experiment with. In this free podcast episode we guide you in getting specific about the […]

Erotic Roleplaying For Everybody
Tune into this episode to discover how we ALL can tap into the energies and pleasures of erotic roleplaying – even if you never want to put on a sexy costume. Get discounts on LoveHoney, Uberlube and our other sponsors here When many people think about kinky sex, one of the first images to come […]

Butt Stuff, Pleasure Mechanics Style
Curious about butt stuff but don’t know how to get started? Love butt stuff and want to level up your knowledge and know-how? Tune in for a wholesome, friendly conversation on butt stuff for all bodies – and how to keep it pleasurable, pain-free and safe. Get discounts on pleasure tools and toys from our […]

Getting The Touch You Want
Get discounts on Uberlube and pleasure tools and toys from our sponsors here Getting the touch you want doesn’t have to be a matter of luck – we can all learn how to ask for the touch that we want, give feedback that gets us more of the specific kind of touch we most like, […]

Questions For Better Sex
Get discounts on pleasure tools and toys from our sponsors here Asking great questions is an essential skill for better sex, deeper intimacy and embracing growth in all arenas of life. But there aren’t a lot of places we learn to ask great questions for better sex – so tune in to discover how to […]

D/s Dynamics For All : Exploring Erotic Domination & Submission
Get discounts on pleasure tools and toys from our sponsors here Erotic Dominance and submission can be a potent source of arousal, thrill and connection for us all, if we dare to explore with curiosity and honesty. In this episode we discuss how we can all tap into the fuel of erotic dominance and submission, […]

Opening Up To More Connection with The Open Nesters Podcast
Tune in to hear Pleasure Mechanics Chris and Charlotte share intimate details about opening up their marriage to new erotic connections. This episode is shared from our friends at The Open Nesters Podcast – tune in for more great conversations about opening up long term relationships. Check out all of the generous offers from our […]

The Us In Uterus
An invitation into a more complex and compassionate conversation about pregnancy – wanted and unwanted, viable and unviable, aborted and miscarried, carried to term and lost mid way – and the tremendous emotional charge and disenfranchised grief so many of us carry. We are ALL connected in this conversation and can begin tending to one […]
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